Safi Khan – Soul Food for College Students The Du’a Series Class 3
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All righty in sha Allah we're gonna go ahead and get started
with Mila who will hamdulillah salatu salam ala Rasulillah while
early he was heavy he Ultramarines and I'm welcome everybody.
How's everyone doing? hamdulillah everyone doing okay. could always
be worse. Alright, hungry Allah. How many of y'all have
been obviously very aware of all the campus activities this past
week, week and a half right
Hamdulillah you know Hanalei? You know I was talking to some
colleagues about stuff earlier and
Allah make it easy you know Allah make it easy Allah make everyone's
efforts fruitful, right? Anything that you know anyone is trying to
do in the direction of good May Allah subhana wa Tada. Put higher,
put baraka and whatever we are doing.
One thing I'd like to say Inshallah, before we get started,
you know, our Ummah humbly loves a very beautiful, beautiful on my
right arm of the prophets of Allah Salam. And everybody, masha Allah
has, you know, really good intentions and everybody has, you
know, insha, Allah Insha Allah, everybody has sincere, sincere
intentions, whenever they do anything.
What we need to stop doing is putting people down, right?
Everyone needs to start encouraging each other, right? The
way to cultivate a really healthy OMA is by encouraging the people
around you, right? If we learned anything from the example of the
Prophet sallallahu Sallam is that the way he touched people's hearts
is that he continued to lift them up, right, he did not tear them
down. Is there moments of criticism? Of course there is. Is
there moments? Or are there moments of giving feedback and
being a little bit tough and a little bit more rigid? About your
your, your your feedback of people sometimes? Yeah, sure. But you
know, I think we need to begin to cultivate this overall general
idea of positivity, you know, around the OMA. I mean, this is
the way that the Prophet SAW Selim, he used to teach us and so,
sha Allah, may Allah subhana wa Tada, bless everybody in their
efforts. How many people were present yesterday UTD. Anybody
here? President UTD? Okay. Hamdulillah I wanted to actually
begin the session today, by allowing you all to share some
reflections that you guys had, from your experience there if you
were there. What did you see? What did you witness? What are certain
things that you took away?
You know, obviously, the the encampment the login is a little
bit different than the protests that you saw downtown a few months
ago. Each thing has its own purpose and its own very, you
know, signature efforts and culture behind it. So whoever was
there, anybody want to share anything that they kind of
experienced? While they were there anything they'd like to kind of,
you know, give any thoughts about, to the general public around in
sha Allah, anybody want to share? What's something you noticed? Go
ahead.
Something that was really cool about yesterday was it brought
attention to a lot of like, a lot of people they wouldn't like
really notice it. Like a lot of people they go to their classes
and even if there's a protest going on, they're just like, Oh,
it's just a protest, but with like, I know, like, it was really
bad with like, just how much like police presence there was, but it
did bring a lot of attention, in my opinion, because even the
people who don't really care about him were very intrigued and
curious about what's going on. And like, at least they got like a
message or like educated themselves on like, what Yeah,
yeah, exactly.
Your reality is not everyone's reality, right? Certain people
just genuinely just do not know. Okay, and and sometimes,
ignorance, obviously, you know, we see ignorance in certain people,
but ignorance is not always it's not unfixable, right? With a
little bit of awareness, people will inshallah learn from the
people around them depending upon the way that we teach them. Right.
Very good. Very, very good. Anybody else? Anyone else that was
there yesterday, have any sort of reflections to Allah?
Seeing fatherless homes, brothers and sisters come together.
Just
before this
hamdulillah
Hamdulillah
100 Allah very good very very good Masha Allah yeah these are the
moments that you definitely Charla you live to tell your kids about
right?
A lot of times we read these moments and like history books
right college lockdowns, right you these moments of, of social
justice and you know, societal rights, key moments we learn about
these things in literally history books, right? And Hamdulillah,
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada has given certain people opportunities to,
to be a part of it to be on the right side of history, right.
You know, when we look back at the life of the prophet sallallahu
alayhi wa salam, one thing that we oftentimes look back and really
just are fascinated by is how, how does a man who lived mashallah 63
years? How did he always land on the right side of history? If
somebody were to write our biography, after we're set and
done in this dunya, I wonder what our legacy would be once that
we're gone, right? Where are we people that were known to always
be on the right side of an issue, where we people who always
displayed the best part of us when it was the most important, you
know, these are some really serious questions to ask
ourselves, right legacy, what is your legacy? Right? What do you
want to leave behind?
And, you know, being the spokesperson for people who have
had their voices taken away from them, is an incredible honor.
Right? To be those people to carry the voices of the voiceless. I
mean, these are, these are not very, very small titles, these are
not small responsibilities. Right. And so Hamdulillah, Hamdulillah.
Anybody else? Anybody else that was there that would like to share
any sort of yes or no?
Yes,
yeah. Yeah, absolutely. And they're, and they're always is
right for the past eight months. For the past seven to eight months
since October 7. How many of us raise of hands? How many of us
have felt a level of hopeless at some point, a hopelessness at some
point? Yeah, very good. Very good. And one thing that I'll share with
everybody is that you are actually supposed to feel hopeless to a
certain degree, because if you don't feel hopeless to a certain
degree, your heart's not being tested. Right?
Not Not every battle you write into is going to be a victory
right away. I want you guys to think about that. Right? I mean,
what when, when MK literally, just excommunicated the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he was gone from his hometown for a
number of years. I mean, it was, you know, I know that it felt
hopeless to him to a certain degree, but he was building
something. He was building something as long as you're
continuing to build, right? Even through those moments of
hopelessness or what may seem hopeless, it's really not a loss,
right? And how many times if man, if there's one thing that we've
learned from this entire situation for the past half year is, you
cannot break Muslims, you just can't, you know, you can, you can
run them off of a campus, you can arrest 19 of them and take them to
McKinney and put them in jail. You know, you can do whatever you try
to do. But at the end of the day, you cannot break the willpower of
a person who does not believe that this dunya is their final goal,
right? At the end of the day, the reason why we're fighting for
Philistine is for the hereafter. Well, why we are, we're fighting
for the hereafter we're fighting for, you know, one of the one of
the clips that went super viral from like, the roots platform was
when brother Sammy Handy was here. And he made that extremely
beautiful point in which you said that, you know, if you're a true
person who represents Philistine, your representative Hudson, you
represent the cause the the body of Muslims, then you accept that
your ultimate goal is actually going to be to benefit the
situation long after you're gone. You don't seek that immediate
gratification while you're still here. Right? You don't want to see
the best parts or the fruits of your work while you're still
alive. You hope and pray that the best of what you have done or the
best reward of what you have done is coming in sha Allah after
you're gone from this dunya right. And this is so this is so symbolic
of just Islam in general right the prophets Eliza LEM never ever saw
Islam in the West. The prophets Eliza Lim never saw Islam in China
and
You know, in Russia or in Europe, he never saw Islam in these areas.
What does that mean? Does that mean that the Prophet SAW Islam
was, you know, he had he took losses while he was alive?
Absolutely not. The reality is that we acknowledge that these
things happen after you're gone. And sometimes Allah subhanaw taala
tests the heart of a Muslim to see how sincere they are, how filled
with a class they are dependent upon if they are okay with doing
the legwork here and accepting that the reward of it might not be
seen. As soon as they do the work right? There may be a period of
time that they have to endure through which it seems like
there's nothing happening. But if you do it right, you have the
right state of intention. Allah subhanho wa Taala will allow you
to see it long after you're gone bitten later Allah may Allah
subhanho wa Taala reward everybody. So Inshallah, what
we're going to do today is we're going to do our session in sha
Allah. And at the very end, I'm actually going to break at exactly
I'm gonna check sunset time today, is that a 10. So I'm going to
break around 755 with 15 minutes left in sha Allah, to do a little
bit of off air off camera q&a with everybody in sha Allah. Okay, and
what's the q&a going to be about an you know, you can, it's going
to be anonymous is going to be through a slideshow, platform
online.
It can be related to the theme, the series that we're going
through, which is the series of Duaa, it can also be about things
that you have thought about that you've kind of like been, you
know, just reflecting over and thinking over for a long time and
you would like some clarity on it, whatever it may be in sha Allah,
we're going to try to try to address them at around 855 Or
sorry, 755 In sha Allah before the session ends, okay, so today's
conversation is going to be about the preconditions of do okay, what
are the ways that we can set ourselves up for a beautiful
accepted dua? Now, one thing that I want to preface before we even
begin, dua is such a, an incredible form of worship, that a
person can be doing everything right. They on paper can be
checking off every box on their task list. But Allah will still
maybe refrained from giving them something because ultimately, it's
not what is best for them. And there are the opposites that also
exists, which is that somebody, for example, could do everything
incorrectly. And Allah will give them something because it is a
lesson for that person or that being that requested it. For
example, I'll give you guys an easy example. For a beam that did
everything wrong. Shaitan we talked about this last week.
Shaitan did everything wrong. When it came to his situation with Adam
it his setup, he did everything incorrectly. He was arrogant. He
was foolhardy. He was ignorant. He was short tempered, he was all of
the wrong things. But when he asked Allah subhana wa Tada, oh,
Allah, give me an extended long life, so that I may, you know, try
to test these people that you love so much. And if you think about it
on paper, why would Allah Subhana Allah Allah grant him what he
asked for it? Because shaitan is shaitan he's the devil. Why would
Allah subhanaw taala give him something that is, so clearly,
it's coming from a being that is absolutely the opposite of pious,
right? He's the opposite of pious, but Allah gave it to him because
Allah wanted him to learn a lesson. So dua really the answers
to a lot of doors are just lessons from ALLAH, if you did everything
correctly, and we'll talk about the preconditions of dua, and how
to make them beautiful. If you did all of these things, and you still
didn't get exactly what you wanted, perhaps there's a deep
lesson within it. And if a person may not have been in the right
state of making dua properly, but Allah granted them something,
perhaps there's a lesson within that as well. So inshallah we'll
kind of tackle all of these today. So the first thing I wanted to
share here that you see is that in this book, it will claim Rahim
Allah is his he's quoted. And he mentions here he says that DUA and
the seeking of protection from Allah are like weapons, but the
sharpness of a weapon is not sufficient for it to cause effect.
For the person that handles it also plays a role. Right? So what
he's saying here is that dua is not just like this, this this item
that you have, and if you possess it, then you're good to go. And he
almost you know, gives the analogy of like a weapon. And Imam
utilizzati Rahim Allah He talks about this in a very beautiful
book that he wrote called a yo Hawala, well, it was actually a
series of letters that he wrote one of his students, but it was
compiled into this very, you know, beautiful, short manual, and then
one of the chapters he actually writes that what good, what good
is a warrior who is in the middle of like this dangerous jungle or
this dangerous kind of area?
And they face in front of them, this very, very fierce animal,
this fierce lion are a beast. And they have all of these amazing
swords 10 of them, you know, they have multiple swords at their
disposal, but they have no idea how to use it. Those swords, those
weapons will be of no use to the person why? Because they don't
have the knowledge of how to wield them. And so I'm gonna claim here
he says that dua cannot just be this tool, it also depends on the
one that's using that tool in order for it to be effective.
Okay, so whenever the weapon is a perfect one, having no blemish
within it, and the forearm is strong, the person who's wielding
it is strong. And obviously this is all metaphorical, right? The
person who's using the DUA is strong, and they're using that dua
well, and there are no preventing factors, then it will cause an
effect on the enemy meaning then it will lend, then it will be
effective towards whatever cause that you want it to be in the way
of, but if any of these three factors are missing, then the
effects will also be lesson. So if dua in and of itself is not
correct, or the person making the DUA has not combined between his
heart and tongue in the DUA, or if there's a preventing factor, then
the desire effect will not occur, it will not be something that is
effective. And so think about this very carefully, right? A lot of us
continue to ask ourselves, well, I asked for the right things, right?
I asked for all the right things. I asked Allah subhanaw taala to
give me this and to give me that and to guide me and to allow my
heart to become closer and all these different things. But the
reality is, well, what was the state of the person who was making
it? What was the state of the person who was using that item?
Were you in the right state? Did you say it in the proper way? Were
you in the proper place? Did you do the things before and after
that Allah subhanaw taala is pleased with that will beautify
the quality of your supplication? All of these questions come into
play, right. So today Inshallah, we're going to break down 10 of
these to reflect over in sha Allah together. The first of which
is said that the first precondition of the DUA, is the
realization that only Allah Subhana Allah to Allah response to
the DUA. Okay, that only Allah subhanaw taala responds to the
DUA. Okay, Allah Allah Tada, he says, the only a soldier biller
can
call upon me, I will answer you. Allah didn't say, you will be
answered. Right? Because the statement you will be answered
kind of means that Yeah, I mean, you're gonna get you will be
answered you will be dealt with, right? So if I tell you, hey, you
know, why don't you go ahead and go to the sofa, Coffee Corner and
you'll be served, right?
That just means that any one person over there will take care
of you. But if I tell you to go over there, and sister Hyah, or
brother severe or sister Samia will take care of you. That means
that a specific person will take care of you. And there is
specificity in that relationship, right? Because I have confidence
that one of these people that I know extremely well will take care
of you. And there is specificity in that relationship. It's not
general, it's not random. So Allah saying that when you make dua to
me understand that I am the one who responds to you. Don't ever
get it twisted. Don't ever allow yourself as a Muslim to think that
if you make dua, your DUA will come from other ways notice even
those other ways are just indirect ways that Allah answers your DUA
y'all ever witnessed this in your life before your you made this
sincere dua Oh Allah give me some better friends, right? Allah allow
me to be in good company, right? I want to make meaningful
relationships in my life. And all of a sudden some random person
you've never met in your life comes your way and they just start
hitting it and get they hit it off with you. They're talking to you
and now mashallah they're good friends with you. Now, there's
other opposite extremes like oh my god, well, this person is not
Allah. How can they answer my nerdo? Allah will answer your DUA
through people sometimes, but within the heart, the believer
understands that this is Allah subhanaw taala, working through
different faculties of the dunya. This is why by the way, there's a
very powerful, powerful statement of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam
that I want you guys to be very, very keen on. One time the Prophet
was on he said that when a person has a good friend, a good friend,
how do they know they found a good friend is one whose appearance
reminds them of Allah.
What does that mean? Like no, no, of course I owe the biller. We're
not like insinuating Schoodic here. But what we're saying here
is that when you see the person who is a good friend of yours,
when you see them in front of you, their presence reminds you
Have things that would please God, right? Like, they're not going to
take you further away from salad, they're going to bring you closer
to prayer, they're not going to take you further away from the
truth, they're going to pull you closer to it, right? They're not
going to push you towards sins, but they're going to actually pull
you away from them. So when you see this person, their presence
reminds you of Allah. Right? We and we all know those friends is a
very tough conversation, right? Nobody likes to have it. Like,
which of our friends when we're around them, like, we're better
Muslims. Like, have that conversation. It's uncomfortable
sometimes. Right? Like, I'm not saying to go home from like, soul
food tonight, and I hit up like 30 people be like, alright, so man,
you don't remind me of Allah at all. I gotta, I gotta be level, I
gotta level what you want. 100 right, I cannot talk to you
anymore. No, no, don't be like that. But what I'm saying is,
treat the people who bring you closer to Allah with a little bit
of special nature. You know, that's a beautiful relationship.
Subhanallah What a beautiful relationship like that friend that
even though like you're in the middle of like, you know, going
out to eat or watching a movie or binge watching a TV show, whatever
it may be like that one friend is like, hey, like, the whole time,
like, we're gonna catch it real quick, right? This person, I'll
tell you something to really honestly, guys, this person cares
about your agenda. Be real with you. This person cares about your
agenda. And a person who cares about your agenda is worth keeping
around you for the rest of you for the remainder of your life. Right?
The friends who you say, oh, yeah, they're my friends, but like, they
allow me to like Miss prayer, and they allow me to like backbite and
gossip and talk badly about people behind their back. I mean, people
who allow that, I mean, man Subhanallah I'm not trying to like
character assess somebody from one situation. But you know, it's
concerning. You know, that this person doesn't ever ever lift a
finger to say that, yeah, maybe this isn't the right thing to do.
Right? And vice versa. Think about it for yourself, right? Am I a
person who draws people closer to Allah? Or am I a person who pulls
people away from him right? May Allah subhana wa Tada make us have
good friends. So that's the first the first objective of the
preconditions of dua, the second is sincerity, when you make that
dua, right, when you make a DUA, am I sincere in that dua? Right?
Am I sincere within it? Am I a person who has the cleanliness of
intention and he mentions a verse in the Quran here particularly he
says that Allah Tala mentions well under massage Delila he fell to
the rule to filter the rumor Allahu Ahad And Verily the mosques
are for Allah alone, so do not call upon anyone besides Him. So
this right here talks a little bit about sincerity right? There's a
verse in Surah Al bayyinah, where Allah subhanho wa Taala he talks
about this as well. He says meclizine Allahu Diem, right, WA
O'Meara Illallah Abdullah McClay Sina Allahu Deen, that when it
comes to the dunya, you will have a lot of variety of your
intentions, right? Some, some people may go to college because
they want to revive some dead social life. Some people may, you
know, get a certain degree because they want to make their parents
happy, right? It may not necessarily be like their greatest
passion in what they want to do, but it makes their parents happy.
Some people may go to work because they're literally just trying to
make a living to put food on the table of their family. At the end
of the day, they have no care in the world what they do, right? I
mean, intention is very right. Some people may make friends with
people out of because they sincerely love them. But also
think about it, the friend lives close by or you know, they happen
to have similar family connections and networking and all that stuff.
And that's okay, that's dunya II stuff dunya all the stuff is fine.
People can have, you know, plurality in their dunya
intentions. But what Allah is saying here is that when it comes
to making dua, calling to him very, very personally, you cannot
have a plurality in your intentions. It has to be for him
and him alone. Right? I make dua, because I know that Allah subhanaw
taala, will be the one that answers it. And I know that Allah
subhanaw taala is the only one that I can make dua to I cannot
share this gift with anybody else, right? I do not make dua to
anybody else. I do not ask anyone else for anything that I asked
Allah subhanaw taala for because ultimately, he is the one that
will give me whatever is best for me. And there is a very, you know,
interesting, you know, verse that was mentioned in a hook by once
that I was listening to were specifically talking about the
husband situation, right? What is one of the things that gives us so
much solace in the hearts whenever we see such difficult images on
our phones and our TVs and laptops? Like what when we see all
these atrocities taking place, right? Families being ripped apart
homes being taken away from people cities demolished, I mean, a
person who does not believe in anything? I don't, I'm not
surprised that they lose their minds in the dunya. I'm not
surprised. A person who has no belief system when they see
certain things in the dunya that are extremely difficult for any
human being to see. I'm not shocked that it makes you lose
your mind. What may
As a Muslim continue to stick with it. What makes a Muslim Can you
continue to stick with their Deen? Because we believe that the same
one who gave this difficulty or allowed this difficulty will be
the same one that will lift it off the shoulders of those who are
being burdened. Right? We believe this is a fundamental part of our
creed. But you believe that ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada. He allowed
certain difficult situations to surpass. I mean, we all accept
this, that Allah subhana wa Tada is the one who allowed certain
difficulty to surpass the prophets lesson on Lost Children, the
prophesy sudden lost family members, and close up people in
Gaza or losing family members. Allah subhanaw You don't think
this is within Allah's knowledge? It's all within Allah's knowledge.
But what gives the human being the Muslim, the solace that they so
desperately seek is the knowledge that Allah is the same one that
will remove this, Allah is the same one that will remove this
anybody ever like broken something in their house or like anything
that they had? Like you accidentally broke it or you
misplace it? Or whatever it is. It's a whole different thing,
asking somebody random to come fix it for you. Versus like, you
actually like going back and fixing yourself. There's merit to
that, by the way, because you know exactly what happened. You know
exactly how it was broken. You know, exactly where and what realm
it was misplaced in. The person who is in charge of something is
the best person to fix something when it goes awry, when it's
broken, right. So this idea of Allah subhanho wa Taala being
sincere to him is a very, very beautiful part of our faith. And
then he also mentions here he says in Alladhina, Yoda Runa min dunya
Allah He riba do, he says, revalue? And third will look when
he says, I'm Thala locum. He, he says, I'm 31 He says, those whom
you call upon besides Allah are slaves just like you are. Like how
how foolish is that of a person to put their faith in something that
is just like done. People who used to like worship other things,
idols, the sun, the moon, I mean, all these things have limitations.
How can someone worship things that are limited? How can I
worship something like Money, Money comes and goes, How many of
y'all have seen money leave your bank account today?
You went and bought like one drink from Kroger and you're like, Wow,
that was $9. That's ridiculous, right? I mean, how is that
possible? Right? How am I going broke so fast? You know, I tell
people, it's one of the greatest examples of the the temporary, the
temporality of this of this dunya is money. It's money. Like, I
mean, money comes in money, because I know you guys are
stressing out because you're like in college and trying to figure
out your life right now. But let me tell you something, as an older
brother, who's gone through things, money is one of the
greatest things that teaches you nothing stays, nothing stays. You
can like you can make the most money in your life. And you'll see
it go right away. It'll be gone. It'll be it'll be gone. But again,
you know, one of my teachers he taught me he said, that is the
purpose of money. That is the purpose of money. You're supposed
to spend it, spend it on good things, give to charity, spend it
don't just hoard it. People who hoard money. By the way, I'll tell
you guys something. People who hoard money will lie I'm telling
you, they lose. They lose it when it comes to like getting rid of
it. They worry about it. Everyone worries about that rainy day. Oh,
that rainy day and they realize that rainy day never came and now
I'm just stuck with a bunch of money. You know, one of the
greatest Sunon of the profits of the NBA I didn't miss them is that
they never actually saved money. That is something they just didn't
do. Allah talks about in the Quran. Right? What Allah talks
about though, who then said a man who are a father and a son, there
were both prophets. It says that SOTA Eman he inherited from doet
said in the Quran. But Allah, he talks about this and the scholars
they come and they say he didn't inherit money from him, he
inherited something way more valuable, which is his
prophethood.
Because the prophets didn't concern themselves about giving
money to people, like in terms of just like inheritance, and like,
you know, like, you know, savings and stuff like that. In fact, the
prophets was when he said that the prophets, they never gave their
money in inheritance to people, but whatever they gave to people
was out of sadaqa it was out of charity. It was not things that
were calculated inheritance, right. So this is something that's
extremely, extremely beautiful to think about, okay. The third
precondition of dua, is something that I have to explain a little
bit the author, he says, to perform toa swill properly now
tawassul is something interesting. I wanted to kind of explain it to
people because it can be often mistranslated. So Walsall, like he
says, is the seeking Allah's help and response through the
performance of certain actions? Okay, I'll give you an example of
this is a very beautiful, tangible example I can share with you guys
there
was a story one time of the Prophet sallallahu Sallam who was
essentially teaching his companions about sincerity of loss
through the example of three travelers who were stuck inside of
a cave that was blocked by the by a boulder that was basically
making it impossible for them to exit out of that cave. And so what
they did to actually get themselves out of that cave, is
that they made dua to Allah Subhan Allah to Allah and they brought up
moments of sincerity that they had with Allah so for example, let's
say like you're in a dirty you're a little tough spot in your life.
Like say for example, you're you're you're failing a class or
your your degrees in question, whatever it may be, you make dua
to Allah and you say Ya Allah, I have tried to pray in my fajr on
time every day for this past month, yeah, Allah, please allow
this difficulty to be relieved of from me, right? That is something
we call tawassul. That you are making dua with a call to a
specific action. Okay. Like you you are saying to Allah, and by
the way, you don't think Allah knows about this stuff, right?
Like, Allah knows that you're trying to wake up Professor every
day for this past month on time, right? Allah knows that you did
that one thing that you're bringing up, it's not like Allah
say, Wow, really? That's cool, right to know about that? No, no,
I always have Allah Allah knows exactly what you've done in your
life. But the bringing it up is something that the scholars say,
proves that a person wants the reward of ALLAH SubhanA wa, tada.
They're not seeking the reward of it in dunya. Right. I could go and
tell my parents, Billy, Hey, Mom, Dad, I look up for failure every
day on time. And you're like, just standing there in front of your
dad here. It does, like what do you want? Right? Like, never
improve? That guy's never impressed. So but you don't rely
on your father to be impressed with you. You actually rely on
Allah subhana wa Tada to be impressed with you. That's what
really matters, right? You know, I think a lot of misplaced seeking
of attention. I say this to a lot of people when I speak to them one
on one, I say, you know, don't seek it from people around you.
And Antonia, don't seek that attention from around you from
people in the dunya you'll be disappointed, right? You ever go
into your parents and you're like, expecting to get praise from like
something like yeah, I finally graduated, right? It took me five
and a half years, right? But I did it. I am officially a med student.
Right? And your dad's like, yeah, should have been done in three and
a half. You're like, God dang it, like can never make this person
happy. You're never, ever happy with any my accomplishments. But
guess what, when you speak to Allah, that line of communication
is always going to be something where Allah Subhana Allah, tada
will be pleased with you, because you expect that pleasure from him.
You expect him to be pleased. And so having that expectation of
Allah subhanaw taala is something that is far more beautiful than
expecting it from the people around you. Right? Oh, my friends,
right? Like, they're not there for me when I need them to be right.
All my friends, my friends, but the reality is, I mean, I'm not
saying that to not have standards for your companions, but don't
expect the world of the people around you. Right? I mean, these
are human beings at the end of the day, Allah subhanaw taala is the
one that we expect from Okay, so that's number three. Number four,
this is powerful. Number four is the scholars they mentioned is
lack of hastiness. Now, I'm going to go through this, this is very
important to talk about lack of hastiness. What does that mean? It
means, literally explained by the prophets, less than them himself,
he says, the dua of any worshipper will continue to be responded to,
as long as he or she does not ask for a sin, or the breaking the
ties of kinship. And as long as they are not hasty, they're not
impatient. They're not rushing in their mannerisms, when it comes to
that dua. So you know, this hadith is powerful because it talks to
you about three things that really kind of makes a dua low and
quality number one, which is asking for a sin, you cannot ask
ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada for something that is sinful, that's
impermissible. Number two is asking him to break off a tie of
kinship. And I know a lot of people have a curiosity when it
comes to this particular point, which is about like, you know,
what if we have like toxic family members, and what if we have
people in our lives that are, you know, coincidentally family
members that are extremely harmful and not they're not good people
and we don't want to stay with them. We'd want to stay near them.
There's a happy medium of you, just saying salam to them, and no
more. But you do not make dua that Allah Allah cut you off from this
person. Why? Because men perhaps, Allahu Allah, perhaps Allah
subhanaw taala will show them guidance through you. Maybe you're
the person they need. Well, like, you know, you maybe you're the
person that they need. I know that sometimes like, we want to break
off from people because like, yeah, they're not good. But hey,
guess what, for family members specifically, maybe you're the
person that they need in order to grow closer to Allah subhana wa
Tada. So don't ask Allah to cut them off from right. Don't
deliberately asked to be cut off from certain ties of kinship,
okay. And then the last thing obviously, which is the focal
point of this point is don't be impatient. Now. impatient. I want
to define it in a couple of ways, right? In Pink.
Patience is not saying Oh Allah, give me this or give me that. And
if it can be done quickly Allah I would love it, I would appreciate
it because literally here I want to actually show you guys here
that the prophets I send them right here check this line out
right here he says this does not mean, however, that a person
should not pray that his dua be answered quickly, for it has been
authentically narrated that the prophesy salaam prayed for rain
and he said quickly and not delayed. When the Prophet says I'm
used to make dua for rain. It's a very, very beautiful dog sometimes
actually, I know that, you know, she asked for Justin Valley Ranch,
he did it this past, you know, a year ago in the summer, it's
something that's actually pretty frequent. And in Dallas, you know,
it doesn't make sense that anybody that's like north of us are like,
Yeah, we pray for rain in our massager. They're like why? I'm
like, because it hasn't rained in 45 days, right? Like it's
desperation mode right here. But the one of the dogs the prophets,
when he prayed for rain, he would actually pray for it with a little
bit of haste. Okay, what does it mean to be hasty? This is what it
means right here. What it means to be hasty. Is that a person built
by him, he describes them, one of the diseases that afflicts DUA and
prevents its response is that a person is hasty and expecting
response. And the response is delayed, so they give up on it.
That's the definition of hastiness. hastiness, is You're so
impatient, that you give up.
You're so impatient, that you leave it, tuck, you leave it, you
abandon it, okay? And this is where he says, the example is like
that of a person who plants a seed, or a seedling, and then they
guard it, and they take care of it, and they water it, but when it
when it when it does, when it's delayed, and giving fruit and
reaching perfection, they completely abandon it, and they
don't take care of it anymore.
The goal of dua is don't just make it and if you don't see a
response, you stop making it.
The goal of dua is make it ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada for when you
would like it, and continue to ask for it. Continue to ask for it
soon is very subjective. Y'all know that word soon? Right soon.
Oh, Allah give me good friends soon. All right. And you're like
man soon has been for like, three years now. But what if soon was
three and a half years but you abandon that door at three years
in one month?
What if you asked Allah for dua for us, you made dua to Allah
subhana wa Tada for like a good job for like, two years. But that
do I was about to be answered at two and a half, but you abandoned
it right at the cusp of two years of making it.
It's like that entire example that, you know, a lot of people
they give about, you know, the you know what, when a person's mining
for gold, they're mining, they're digging, they're digging, they're
digging, they're digging, and they get so tired of digging, they're
like, oh, you know, I'm gonna put my my tools I'm gonna give them
and climb back out of here. But if they just kept on digging for
like, two more feet, they would have struggled, right? If a person
just did it just enough, they're running in a race, right? They're
running in a race and they're like, when's this race gonna be
over? Right? I'm gonna give up only if they knew to turn that
last corner the finish line was right there. But we became so
impatient that we didn't allow ourselves to reach that that curve
that last turn we gave up. We stopped Allah was just testing us
to see if we can just get around that last corner look at your dos
for Uzza look at your dos for has a you know I've had an anon be
very honest with you is very It's very sad for me to have to say
this, but I've had conversations with people who say like I've
given up on da
Yeah, well I know it sounds really scary. I've literally verbatim
heard that I'm giving up on my dua I don't trust this I don't I don't
I don't believe in that anymore.
I don't believe that anymore. I said * no. And of course I love
Allah what Allah subhana wa Tada was just touching if you can make
dua for one year straight What if on October 6 or 720 24? We see
relief
can you hold on to it? Can you hold on to the rope of Allah
Subhanallah Tata Can you not abandon ship? Five months in six
months in seven months in
to ask Allah for relief soon. I mean, look, what we're doing it
everyday for has Oh Allah and the occupation.
Allah and the the difficulties and the burdens of the people of
Philistine Allah and it now we've said those words literally, I know
I have. Does that mean? I'm hasty? No, no, that doesn't mean I'm
hasty. I'm I'm asking Allah for urgency. But I will never stop
saying those words. Even if I don't get it right away.
Allah and the occupation, Allah and the occupation, oh, Allah
allowed the people of Gaza to be liberated to be free. I will
continue to make that dua even if it's 10 years from now.
That's your test. That's your test. Can you not abandon it?
Okay. And then he mentions a couple of things in Sharla. We're
gonna kind of speed through this and then head towards the q&a. He
says number five, you ask ALLAH SubhanA
What's not a precondition is do offer things that are good. Do
offer things that are good you do not ask ALLAH SubhanA wa Tada for
things that are bad and you know like a pro tip to this by the way,
a pro tip to this condition is at the end of whatever you ask ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada for at the end you always kind of put like a gift
wrap on it and say Oh ALLAH for whatever is best.
Right? Because you could say oh Allah give me this job as like a
you know a product manager at this particular you know, company, but
that may not be the best job for you. But you've like made dua you
made the or you made the offer or you continue to ask for it. But at
the end of that dua you say, Allah, I know I asked for this and
this is what I want for myself, but Allah you know, for whatever
is best for me.
So that is the definition of asking Allah for things that are
good. Because hey, it is something that is subjective. Does Allah say
that in the Quran that perhaps you like something that is bad for
you? And perhaps you hate something that's actually good for
you? Right, so it's all about Clara. Okay, so that's point
number five. Point number six is to have good intentions. We talked
about that a little bit. Inshallah, you know, already and,
you know, he talks about this, but, you know, a good intention.
Also, by the way, there's a very beautiful statement here is that,
you know, it's interesting, so you read this hadith right here. So
the Prophet salallahu Salam, he says, and this was Narrated by Abu
Lebanon, literally Allah, Allah and he says that when a person
comes to visit the sick, then let him say, Oh Allah, you speak like
cure this person or Allah cure you cure your servant, so and so
Fulani were Falana for he or she then will afflict a wound on an
enemy or a walk for your sake to the prayer. So this is kind of
like more, you know, a little bit more kind of, you know, in terms
of the context of that time in terms of like their, their battles
that they used to go into and stuff like that. But think about
what he's saying, Oh Allah cure so and so so that they can walk for
your sake to the prayer. So you say to Allah, Oh Allah give me
this so I can be better at serving you Yala. Think about it. Right?
How many people they ask for a job, but they don't say Oh Allah,
allow me to get this job so I can give more sadaqa
think about it. Oh, Allah allow me to go to this school. Because I
know that there's a really amazing Muslim body of the school, I can
be a part of a good group of people. Oh, Allah, Allah, allow me
to live at that place. Because the message is like, 10 minutes away.
Yeah, you can like the house Hamdulillah you can like the
apartment. You know, the school can have a killer like, you know,
pre med program or like an engineering program or like a,
like a like a like a business program. But something that
pleases Allah that proves that your goal is also to please Allah
is Allah allow me to have X, Y, and Z, because it will allow me to
be a better servant of you, Ya Allah. That's what it means to
have good intentions, okay. And at the very end, he mentioned a
couple of things I think are important, the presence of an
attentive heart.
I mean, this is something that goes without saying that a person
who wants to make quality dua,
to have dua be of serious quality is a person who is locked in when
they're making that
they cannot be distracted, they cannot be distracted. You all ever
heard of those stories of the Sahaba who used to pray and make
dua, and a scorpion would bite them and they wouldn't move a
muscle. There was a story of a Sahabi who was literally in Salah
and somebody shot an arrow at him and he was struck with an arrow
and he completed his Soloff
not saying that this is the standard for like the IOM okay,
like, like not all right, so somebody like beat you up in the
middle your prayer, like stay in that subdomain, like don't abandon
it? And I don't know what I'm saying is that the mentality
there? The mentality there, perhaps an arrow to the back for
us is like, you know, our phone like ringing in the middle of our
dua right? I'm not trying to like less than our standards here but
the reality is like, you know, cultural norms and standards. I
mean, you you see like, and like you'll
Allah is that the answer to my dua?
You stop right? Oh, God, I gotta get through it. Right. Crazy,
right? The story of Imam Abu Hanifa literally, somebody came up
to him and said, Yeah, Imam, I lost all my money. I forgot where
I buried it. And the Imam he says, Abu Hanifa RocknRolla he says, You
know what, go and pray to raka out of knuffel Salah and Allah will
help you remember where you buried your money. And he goes, alright,
I'm going to do it. So he goes and he starts to pray to the gods of
knuffel Salah and in his salah. All of a sudden he remembered
where his money was. And all of a sudden he breaks his salah, and he
goes and he digs in this exact same spot. And he uncovers his
money he finds these are all hamdulillah amazing. He goes back
to Imam Abu Hanifa RocknRolla you'll see Asha how'd you know?
How'd you know? How do you know how'd you know that the answer to
like finding my treasure was that I pray to God knuffel And Imam Abu
Hanifa Did you finish it?
Because you finished your prayer? And he goes no no, because I was
so afraid.
I thought I would forget again if I finish my prayer you know, and
he says in my mind if it goes shaitan hates Salah so much that
he even caused you to remember where your money was if he got you
to abandon it
Subhanallah
right so like don't allow your heart to be absent all your your
your making dua I mean how how backwards would it be to be
negligent of the one that we are asking from when engaging in the
thing that only relates to him?
Allah I'm asking you because you're the only one that can
answer this but at the same time I'm thinking about like tomorrow
scheduled
at the same time I'm thinking about what I'm going to eat like
kabobs to go for lunch next day should I order that a Jimmy's are
like well I don't know which one like you know while I'm mid dua,
what am I thinking you know, when Allah is with us, Son untroubled
Allah Nicotero who for inlanta Contura HuFa in Who yuroke That
you worship Allah as though you can see him lock in with ALLAH
SubhanA wa Tada
and even though you know that you cannot see him for him know who
you are rock know that Allah subhana wa Tada can see you okay,
and in the last two Inshallah, purity of one sustenance, this is
really important Inshallah, maybe we'll actually, perhaps we will,
yeah, we're going to continue on with this next week. We'll start
with purity of one sustenance next week in sha Allah because purity,
one sustenance, it talks about how a person who makes dua to Allah
subhanho wa Taala also has to make sure that the other elements of
their life are also permissible, right? Like, if I make sincere dua
to Allah, I have to also make sure that like, my money is like
pleasing to Allah. My food is pleasing to Allah, my mannerisms
with my surroundings are pleasing to Allah subhana wa Tada I'm
praying my five daily solo ads, right? Like I gotta make sure that
the other things that I'm doing are also in line with the
sincerity of my dua as well. Okay, so Inshallah, we will pause there
for the class Inshallah, what I'm going to do now for you guys is
I'm going to open up the
the q&a portal Oh, no, what happened here? That's weird. Okay,
so what y'all can do in sha Allah is go through this right here. So
if you go to slido.com, and you can inshallah
put in the little code up on the screen, you guys should be able to
do that pretty quickly.
And
then I will answer Inshallah, a couple of questions as we go, I'm
gonna turn off the livestream really quickly, just because I
don't want this to be streamed live. Otherwise, somebody canceled
on
right.
So y'all can go ahead and submit your questions, and inshallah
we'll start answering questions in just another minute. So I'm gonna
go ahead and mean from my iPad
okay
all right.
Let's see what actually why is the internet not working
we're gonna pull up a QR code for you guys actually might just be
easier.
Let's see.
Here we go.
There we go. Perfect. Okay, cool. So I was gonna have you guys just
scan the QR code.
Alright, so there's a couple of questions, inshallah they're
already submitted. So I'm gonna start answering them one by one.
And then Inshallah, just because it's not working, and then I'm
going to
get to the other ones as well in sha Allah. Okay. So a person says,
What if that person you want to cut off is not family, but someone
who you know, enables haram in your life, such as a bad friend or
a haram relationship? That's a very, very good question. So like
I said, you know, cutting off, right, is a very, very strong
word. Because what we're doing here because cutting somebody off
is almost like a vow. Okay? It's like a vow, like, I'm never going
to go back to this person ever again. And something that is as
close as family, it is not of the other job of us to actually just
like break off ties with family because there's a level of axon
that a person really kind of gets from that relationship. They don't
get it from any other relationship. I'll give you an
example of this, right? By the way. Today, one of my one of my
teachers and I, we were sitting in class, and we were thinking to
ourselves, what are the actual like legal rights that children
have over their mother's legal?
Anybody think of any so
is a little bit of a trick question. There are actually not
many at all, if any,
like, literally, like, every right that a child has over a mother is
more like sad stuff. Like it's good if she does this, right? She
doesn't have to, like taking care of them, obviously. But taking
care of is like a broad spectrum. Right? Like, yeah, taking care of
them, you know, nourishing them emotionally. These things are
things that are yes, they're good. They're they're excellent for a
mother to do for her children. But legally, there's very little,
because what you're saying is that if she doesn't do something
legally, then she's not a mother anymore. Right? So for family, the
challenge is that, yes. Are there certain family members that are
extremely toxic to the point where they actually promote haram in
your life? Yes, there may be, but there's a way to actually ignore a
person without saying I want to cut them off, like Allah cut them
off for me. Like I can avoid them without saying, oh, Allah cut them
off for me. Because it's more of like an ehsani point. Like, Allah
does not want you to say that about a family member, even if
that's what you want to do.
And imagine, I mean, subhanAllah a lot of the narrations in the Quran
and Hadith about like the rewards of a person who's good to their
family. It's like beyond logical reasoning. Well, why do they need
Santa? To Be good to your parents? What if your parents are really
really like traumatic and their relationship towards you?
Being decent to them, even at that level? That may be the reason that
you enter Paradise, you know, I'm saying, which is not true in a lot
of other relationships in your life. Right? So this is the answer
to that question.
Does do I change your color, your destiny? What is written for you?
And how is it different than a little clutter? So yes, we're
actually gonna inshallah talk about that at some point in the
series about how dua is the one thing that can actually change
your brother, brother, by the way, and just kind of give you guys a
little bit of a preview to that answer. God that is of different
forms. So there's clutter that is called like Asakura, or Cobra,
like kodra. Solterra is like the code that is written for a person
like like every year for them. And the other Cobra, the big one, the
color that's written for a person for their entire life is something
that ALLAH SubhanA wa, tada, has known and has always known the
other that is, for every year, the decisions that are made every
year, that's something that can be changed, depending upon a person's
dua. Okay, but we'll talk a little bit more about that insha Allah
and in the sessions coming when looking at, you know, the Israeli
Palestinian situation.
Isn't Allah the Creator of those evil people? How do we approach
this very good question. The answer to this question is very
simple, yet it takes a little bit of nuance to understand it. Allah
subhanaw taala creates evil in this world for me