Safi Khan – Soul Food For College Students Dear Beloved Son 11 – 11 October 2024

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The importance of praying for the Prophet's words and praying for forgiveness is emphasized in a weekly soul food session and monthly special program. Prayer for forgiveness is emphasized, along with the emotional impact of praying for Isha in a row and the importance of taking care of one's parents. The conversation covers tips for improving a relationship, including setting more alarms, practicing missed calls, and finding love in marriage. It ends with a discussion of forgiveness and the importance of not giving up on one's behavior.

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			All righty, Inshallah.
		
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			We're gonna go ahead and begin.
		
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			All right, Bismillah walhamdulillah, as-salatu was-salamu
		
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			ala rasulillah wa ala alihi wa as'habihi
		
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			ajma'in, salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.
		
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			Inshallah, everyone is doing well.
		
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			So, inshallah, we're going to continue on with
		
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			our weekly soul food session, inshallah ta'ala.
		
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			We have a really cool weekend coming up
		
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			for our college community.
		
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			We have our monthly special program, our Fireside
		
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			Session, tomorrow night, inshallah, after Maghrib, and that's
		
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			going to be a good time.
		
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			But inshallah, tonight we'll carry on with our
		
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			series that we're doing, Ayyuhal Walad, My Dear
		
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			Beloved Son, My Dear Beloved Student.
		
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			So, this particular session is titled Dhikr, it's
		
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			titled The Remembrance of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala, and I'll tell you exactly why it's
		
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			titled that.
		
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			So, in this particular session, Imam al-Ghazali
		
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			rahimallah, he actually basically talks about a couple
		
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			of different ways where the remembrance of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala will benefit the individual,
		
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			okay?
		
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			And dhikr, by the way, is a profound
		
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			form of worship.
		
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			I think a lot of people tend to
		
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			overlook how powerful dhikr actually can be.
		
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			The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, one time
		
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			he said, كلمتان حبيبتان الى الرحمن He said
		
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			that there are two phrases that are extremely
		
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			beloved to ar-Rahman, Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala.
		
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			And then he said, خفيفتان على اللسان والثقيلتان
		
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			في الميزان So, he basically said that these
		
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			two phrases are light upon the tongue.
		
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			خفيفة على اللسان, they're very light upon the
		
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			tongue.
		
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			But, ثقيلتان في الميزان, they're extremely heavy, ثقلة,
		
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			they have a lot of weight on the
		
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			scales on the day of judgment.
		
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			And then he proceeded to say, سبحان الله
		
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			وبحمده وسبحان الله العظيم He said these two
		
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			phrases.
		
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			It's so easy to say these two phrases,
		
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			but most people, they don't realize how weighty
		
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			they are.
		
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			Sometimes we think to ourselves that the longer
		
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			the essay, the better it's going to be.
		
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			The more time I spend on something, the
		
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			better it's going to be.
		
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			That's not necessarily true.
		
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			We don't believe that in Islam.
		
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			In Islam, we don't think about the quantity
		
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			constantly, we think about the quality.
		
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			A person can be standing in Salah for
		
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			like 2-3 hours, but their intention can
		
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			be completely skewed.
		
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			And because of that intention being skewed, there's
		
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			no sort of actual quality and that reward
		
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			from Allah.
		
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			Verses, a person who may stand for 5
		
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			-10 minutes in their Salah, they might not
		
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			have too much time that they spend in
		
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			their Salah.
		
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			But, it was extremely weighty.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because they really concentrated on Allah.
		
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			So when it comes to the Deen, we
		
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			don't talk more about always what, we talk
		
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			about how.
		
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			That how question is so important.
		
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			Because when a person answers the how, they
		
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			usually understand the yield that they receive back
		
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			from an action.
		
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			If I tell somebody, yeah, I gave like
		
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			$1,000.
		
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			To an average person, $1,000 might seem
		
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			like a lot of money.
		
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			But that $1,000 of giving may not
		
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			have any impact on the softness of the
		
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			heart of that person.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Because they gave that $1,000 out of
		
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			arrogance.
		
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			But when a person may give $10, $15,
		
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			$20, it doesn't seem like too much in
		
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			the grander scope of things.
		
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			That $20 given for the sake of Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala was done in such
		
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			a profoundly sincere way that it really impacted
		
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			them for the rest of their life, the
		
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			rest of their year, the rest of their
		
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			month.
		
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			So we really focus on these things.
		
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			And so, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he
		
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			talks about dhikr in this particular regard.
		
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			So the first thing that Imam Al-Ghazali,
		
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			he says in this chapter, is that he
		
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			quotes a couple of verses in the Qur
		
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			'an when it comes to dhikr.
		
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			He says, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala mentions,
		
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			وَمِنَ اللَّيْلِ فَتَهَجَّدْ بِهِ He says, and in
		
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			the evening, wake up and commit to your
		
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			tahajjud.
		
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			Pray tahajjud bihi, within it.
		
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			Now, he says about this, أَمْرٌ That this
		
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			is a command from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta
		
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			'ala.
		
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			To wake up in the night and pray
		
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			a little bit is a commandment from Allah
		
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			Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			Now, one of the most beautiful things about
		
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			this is that there's a hadith that was
		
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			actually in Sahih Muslim where the Prophet Sallallahu
		
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			Alaihi Wasallam, he said, that the most beloved
		
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			prayer to me, the most beloved prayer to
		
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			me, after my five prayers, is قِيَامُ اللَّيْلِ
		
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			The prayer in the middle of the evening.
		
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			Tahajjud.
		
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			Why?
		
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			Anybody know why?
		
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			Why was tahajjud so beloved to the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam?
		
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			Anybody want to take a shot or a
		
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			guess at this?
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			Why would tahajjud be so beloved to the
		
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			Prophet?
		
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			Why was qiyam so beloved to the Prophet?
		
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			Anybody want to share?
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			Why is tahajjud important to you?
		
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			What's tahajjud?
		
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			Yes, in the back.
		
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			Okay, it's extra.
		
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			It's not like your, it's not your expected
		
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			amount, right?
		
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			It's not your fault, it's not your obligatory,
		
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			so you're going above and beyond.
		
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			Very good.
		
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			Anybody else?
		
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			Anybody else have any idea why tahajjud was
		
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			so beloved to the Prophet?
		
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			Provides comfort.
		
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			Very, very good.
		
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			Tahajjud, subhanallah, you know, tahajjud to the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was actually made a command
		
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			upon him.
		
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			Allah told him to basically separate yourself from
		
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			the average person by praying tahajjud.
		
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			Not everybody will pray.
		
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			If you want another level of relationship with
		
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			me, you're going to spend time with me
		
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			in the evening, while everybody else is asleep.
		
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			When you think about this in relation to
		
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			your friends, I want you guys to think
		
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			about this in terms of social life.
		
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			When everybody does the group hangout, it's all
		
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			fine, right?
		
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			Alhamdulillah, everybody has a good time.
		
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			You guys go out, everyone chills and has
		
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			fun and laughs and jokes and everything like
		
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			that.
		
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			But then that friend that gets a phone
		
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			call on the way home after the hangout,
		
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			y'all know that's like a next level
		
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			friendship, right?
		
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			So how do you think that went?
		
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			Like, you're like, what did I do to
		
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			earn this special honor, right?
		
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			Like, we were all just together, like, 7,
		
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			8, 9, 10 of us, but that one
		
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			person you hit up after everybody else is
		
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			gone, right?
		
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			This is like the equivalence of tahajjud for
		
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			a believer when it comes to their salah.
		
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			Their fajr, dhuhr, asr, maghrib, isha' all beautiful.
		
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			These are all elements and ways of getting
		
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			close to Allah out of your obligations.
		
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			But the one who wants the next level
		
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			of relationship with Allah is the one who
		
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			commits to Allah when nobody else does.
		
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			That's always going to be the recipe to
		
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			connect to Allah.
		
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			Think about this.
		
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			Connect to Allah via a mode in which
		
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			other people usually don't think about, right?
		
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			So when a person makes their worship, time
		
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			with their family, the average person, they look
		
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			at time with their family as just like
		
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			corporal punishment, right?
		
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			Like, I have to sit with my mom.
		
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			Yeah, I got to talk to my dad
		
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			about like the 8th hurricane that hit Florida
		
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			this year, right?
		
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			Everybody thinks about these things as like just
		
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			obligations.
		
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			I know Abrar's shaking his head because his
		
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			heart is deeply impacted as a Floridian.
		
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			But, you know, subhanAllah, you think about the
		
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			time that people put in just as obligations.
		
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			I'm doing this because I have to do
		
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			it.
		
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			Now think about the difference when a person
		
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			says, I'm doing this because I want to
		
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			do it.
		
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			I'm not taking care of you because I
		
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			have to take care of you.
		
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			I'm taking care of you because I want
		
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			to take care of you.
		
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			I'm spending time with you not because I
		
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			have to.
		
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			I'm spending time with you because I want
		
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			to.
		
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			This is the difference.
		
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			This is why tahajjud is so unique.
		
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			You don't have to pray tahajjud.
		
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			It's not an obligation on you.
		
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			You can go to sleep every night and
		
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			not wake up until fajr.
		
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			But, a person who says, no, no, no,
		
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			no.
		
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			I don't want to be like everybody else.
		
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			I want to wake up.
		
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			By the way, tahajjud another kind of element
		
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			of tahajjud that's so amazing, tahajjud is a
		
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			salah that the scholars, they say, is a
		
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			prayer that you wake up for.
		
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			So tahajjud is not something that you can
		
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			just kind of pray after isha just, you
		
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			know, continue on with your night.
		
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			Tahajjud, why is it unique?
		
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			It's because tahajjud you wake yourself up from
		
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			your sleep before fajr.
		
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			Tahajjud is the most beautiful in the last
		
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			part of the night.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			There's a lot of symbolism in that, by
		
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			the way.
		
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			Why is it recommended by the scholars to
		
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			wake up for tahajjud?
		
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			Because you're proving to yourself as-salatu khayrun
		
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			minannawm that prayer is better than sleep.
		
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			Prayer is better than sleep.
		
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			In fact, the only reason I sleep is
		
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			so I can pray.
		
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			You know that hadith about eating one-third,
		
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			one-third, one-third?
		
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			A lot of people have been taught that
		
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			hadith growing up, right?
		
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			That the Prophet used to say, you know,
		
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			one-third for food one-third for water,
		
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			one-third for air.
		
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			A lot of times what people forget is
		
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			that hadith was only taught because the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that you only eat
		
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			enough that you can stand straight in your
		
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			prayer.
		
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			It all goes back to Allah.
		
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			Everything you do goes back to Allah.
		
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			You're eating, you're sleeping, everything goes back to
		
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			Allah.
		
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			So you think about it.
		
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			He says that So in the evening, wake
		
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			up and pray tahajjud in it.
		
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			It's going to change your life.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Then Imam al-Ghazali, he says He says,
		
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			and in the last part of the night,
		
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			in the hours of the early dawn, these
		
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			same people, they were found doing what?
		
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			What does just taqfirun mean?
		
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			They were found asking Allah for forgiveness.
		
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			The same people.
		
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			It's so interesting, don't you think?
		
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			People that are waking up in the middle
		
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			of the night, those same people are spending
		
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			the wee early hours asking Allah for forgiveness.
		
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			Now, this question was asked to the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alayhi wasallam constantly.
		
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			Ya Rasulullah, you're so beloved to Allah.
		
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			You're so saved from so much punishment that
		
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			the rest of the humanity would be punished
		
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			with, right?
		
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			Why are you getting up?
		
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			Why are you making dua?
		
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			Why are you asking Allah for forgiveness?
		
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			And what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam,
		
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			he said?
		
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			What did he say?
		
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			He says Should I not be a grateful
		
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			servant?
		
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			What does this prove?
		
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			Sometimes the people that make istighfar are the
		
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			people that seemingly don't even need it.
		
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			They're the people that everyone looks at and
		
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			they're like, wow, these people are so close
		
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			to God already.
		
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			Why are they making istighfar?
		
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			Those are the people that are locked in
		
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			with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala on a
		
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			whole other level, subhanAllah.
		
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			Can you imagine?
		
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			This person, they prayed tahajjud already but they
		
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			spend the last bit of their tahajjud yastaghfiroon
		
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			asking Allah for forgiveness.
		
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			You want to know why this is so
		
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			beautiful?
		
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			Because the fuqaha, they say that the people
		
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			that pray tahajjud and then later on ask
		
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			Allah for forgiveness, what are they asking Allah
		
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			for forgiveness for?
		
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			They're asking Allah for forgiveness if they worshipped
		
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			him in any way other than the best
		
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			way while they were praying tahajjud.
		
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			I'm going to give you guys an example.
		
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			Have you guys ever met somebody who says
		
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			sorry even though there's nothing to say sorry
		
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			for?
		
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			Like a friend, they came and brought you
		
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			lunch one day and you're crying, ugly crying
		
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			like you're thinking about me, oh my god
		
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			and the friend's like, I'm so sorry I
		
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			ran out of time so I couldn't get
		
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			you the thing that you wanted but I
		
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			had to get you something else and you're
		
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			like, why are you apologizing?
		
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			Nobody buys me lunch this is the best
		
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			thing that anyone's done for me for this
		
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			entire month but I'm sorry, I wanted to
		
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			get you something better that person is so
		
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			ihsani they are striving for excellence to the
		
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			highest degree where when they do something even
		
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			if it is a little bit less than
		
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			perfect, they're like, ya Allah I'm so sorry
		
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			for that the average person will not ask
		
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			Allah for forgiveness until they've messed up completely
		
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			they've done something terrible that's when they will
		
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			ask Allah oh Allah, I'm sorry oh Allah,
		
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			I messed up who Imam Al Ghazali is
		
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			describing here is a person who is so
		
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			in tune with Allah that they ask Allah
		
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			for forgiveness when other people would say about
		
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			them, why are you even doing that?
		
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			there's nothing that you can ask Allah for
		
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			in terms of forgiveness but here's the thing
		
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			about a true believer they understand that no
		
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			matter how perfect I may seem to the
		
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			average person around me I know how imperfect
		
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			I truly am within my heart right a
		
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			true believer understands that although other people around
		
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			me they see somewhat of like a put
		
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			together person I try my hardest I tried
		
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			my hardest to be good but I know
		
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			deep down inside all of my vices all
		
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			of my mistakes I want everyone to pause
		
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			for a second right now I want you
		
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			to think sometimes the human ego accompanied by
		
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			shaytan we start gassing ourselves up a little
		
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			bit yeah you know made it to masjid
		
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			four or five times this week actually a
		
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			little bit of a masjidi person myself they
		
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			feel good about themselves and by the way
		
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			this is the danger of a person who
		
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			claims to be religious I remember somebody said
		
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			something very powerful to me one time they
		
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			said don't ever call yourself religious unless you
		
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			can wake up for fajr without an alarm
		
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			really interesting quote I always used to think
		
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			about that I was like why does he
		
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			say that why does he say don't call
		
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			yourself religious until you can wake up for
		
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			fajr without an alarm because when you can
		
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			wake up for fajr without an alarm that
		
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			means it's a part of your biological clock
		
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			you will never oversleep fajr because it's so
		
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			ingrained within you that your body your soul,
		
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			your mind, your heart cannot even continue sleeping
		
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			when it's time for fajr so he told
		
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			me until you reach that stage don't call
		
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			yourself religious we're not religious man we're trying
		
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			our heart is to be good we're nowhere
		
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			near religious and if a person truly believes
		
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			that about themselves then they will know no
		
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			matter how many times I come to the
		
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			masjid no matter how many times I pray
		
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			in the middle of the evening I do
		
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			these things because I need them I do
		
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			these things because I need them the person
		
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			who wakes up in the middle of the
		
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			evening to pray they do that because they
		
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			know how badly they need that like I'm
		
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			praying this evening because I know how many
		
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			sins I've committed in my life trust me
		
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			I need this my uncle one time subhanallah
		
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			it was so strange I remember this conversation
		
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			he was known to be a very generous
		
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			person very generous person I remember growing up
		
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			I used to always know him to be
		
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			the first guy that raises his hand at
		
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			every single fundraiser always the first person and
		
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			he used to always encourage other people he
		
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			would always donate his time, his energy, his
		
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			efforts everything like that and one time when
		
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			I was like 11, 12 I was like
		
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			the snarky little pre-team one time I
		
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			asked him why why are you the first
		
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			person why do you lead the charge in
		
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			that regard he goes you have no idea
		
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			how badly I need the rewards for this
		
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			because you have no idea how badly I
		
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			need the reward for the sadaqah that I
		
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			give subhanallah you see the difference of perspective
		
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			I'm thinking of him as like wow subhanallah
		
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			you're such a pious person you're such a
		
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			righteous person you're giving so much money wow
		
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			you pray so much you go to the
		
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			masjid so much you do this and that
		
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			the human being when they see that they
		
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			get impressed by piety but the true pious
		
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			person who's engaging in those actions they think
		
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			of themselves as extremely faulty like wow I
		
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			need this you think of me as pious
		
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			no no no I'm an extremely sinful person
		
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			I'm doing all of this because I need
		
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			Allah's mercy and his reward so he says
		
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			he says he says that this is an
		
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			example of gratitude when a person wakes up
		
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			and they make tahajjud they pray tahajjud and
		
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			then they spend the last few moments of
		
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			the late evening early morning doing istighfar it's
		
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			out of shukr to Allah should I not
		
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			be a grateful servant think about how many
		
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			things in your life that you have to
		
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			thank Allah for right now think about that
		
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			weird kind of missed blessing in your life
		
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			that goes ignored or neglected it could be
		
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			just like as simple as water it could
		
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			be as simple as eating a meal before
		
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			I left the home today to come to
		
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			roots to partake in soul food I was
		
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			sitting with my wife and my daughter and
		
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			my wife was asking me what do you
		
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			want to eat tomorrow for dinner and I
		
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			remember telling her yeah I don't care whatever
		
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			you feel like I'm good with it and
		
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			she goes it's so difficult to think about
		
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			what to make for dinner and I paused
		
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			for a second I said the difficulty for
		
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			us is to think about what to choose
		
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			to eat for dinner you know those phrases
		
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			you say that if you say it enough
		
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			it sounds weird like that word that sounds
		
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			weird if you say it over and over
		
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			again it's difficult for us to choose what
		
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			we want for dinner that's such a strange
		
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			statement there's certain people in the dunya right
		
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			now as we exist in the same planet
		
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			that are mixing together water and like wheat
		
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			to put together something that resembles bread that's
		
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			like hard and it's hurting the teeth and
		
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			the mouth but they have no choice and
		
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			sometimes we're over here and we're like chicken
		
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			or beef you know shrimp or chicken we're
		
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			thinking of so many things and so many
		
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			options and we don't realize to ourselves that
		
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			these are not normal things these are not
		
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			normal things we have normalized things that are
		
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			extremely luxurious y'all and Allah Subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala is not telling us to like
		
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			take that away from yourselves no no no
		
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			be hungry, be thirsty be in misery, no
		
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			no no Allah is not saying any of
		
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			that Allah is just saying whatever you engage
		
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			in just acknowledge it as a blessing in
		
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			your life don't ever lie to yourself and
		
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			tell yourself that wow this is so normal
		
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			no no no it's not normal it's not
		
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			normal so he says shukran and then he
		
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			says finally an ayah of the Quran and
		
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			these same people they pray for forgiveness in
		
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			the early hours of the morning just merely
		
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			out of the remembrance of Allah Subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala they don't even know what they're
		
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			asking Allah for forgiveness for they're just sitting
		
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			and saying Allah have you guys ever done
		
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			that before you don't really know what to
		
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			say you're just kind of sitting there doing
		
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			dhikr Subhanallah Astaghfirullah Astaghfirullah Allahu Akbar by
		
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			the way sometimes we forget it's because of
		
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			the inshallah becoming a synonym for maybe Alhamdulillah
		
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			becoming a synonym for great we've synonymized a
		
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			lot of things in terms of our Arabic
		
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			but the reality is we forget that Allahu
		
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			Akbar doesn't just mean something random Allahu Akbar
		
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			is actually a form of dua right Astaghfirullah
		
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			is a form of dua Audhu Billah is
		
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			a form of dua you are asking Allah
		
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			for certain things when you say Astaghfirullah you're
		
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			literally saying to Allah I seek forgiveness within
		
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			you all forgiveness is from you Audhu Billah
		
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			oh Allah I ask you to protect me
		
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			those aren't just random phrases you're asking at
		
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			that moment so what Allah is describing here
		
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			as dhikr is a person who is saying
		
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			the same things that a person who is
		
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			asking for forgiveness for but they are so
		
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			in love with Allah that they just want
		
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			to mention his name they want to keep
		
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			Allah's name within their heart upon the tongue
		
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			they can't live a day without mentioning Allah
		
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			it's something to behold actually how many times
		
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			in our days do we mention Allah's name
		
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			do we go a full day without saying
		
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			the name Allah do we go a full
		
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			day without saying the phrase Allahu Akbar do
		
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			we go a full day without saying the
		
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			phrase Audhu Billah Astaghfirullah Subhanallah Walhamdulillah do we
		
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			allow ourselves to do that or are we
		
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			people who sincerely we are so so we
		
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			are so beloved and we love Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala so much that we can't
		
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			think it's like waking up and I'm sure
		
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			everybody in here in their phone they have
		
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			that one friend that they have that iMessage
		
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			streak with like one day does not go
		
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			by without us communicating on some level it's
		
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			like the snap streak it's like a thing
		
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			in like Jeddah like all these people Snapchat
		
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			but it's like think about this it's like
		
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			literally like an iMessage streak right like you
		
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			have like a streak of days where you're
		
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			constantly in communication with this one person and
		
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			if that one friend y'all ever get
		
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			like weird panicky if that one friend doesn't
		
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			text you for like a full day you're
		
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			like are they dead should I check on
		
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			them like are they okay like are they
		
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			passed out did they not get their chicken
		
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			nuggets last night like should I do something
		
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			what's their location right like we panic we
		
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			panic now imagine if we do not have
		
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			that same feeling when it comes to our
		
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			creator we don't panic when we don't say
		
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			Allah's name in one full day we don't
		
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			panic when we don't say Allahu Akbar one
		
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			full day may Allah protect us from that
		
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			everyone say Ameen so then Imam Al Ghazali
		
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			he then continues on he says something beautiful
		
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			he says for the Prophet he said ثلاثة
		
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			أصوات يحبها الله يحبها الله there are three
		
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			voices three voices three noises that are beloved
		
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			to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ready for
		
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			this this is beautiful he says the first
		
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			one is the voice of the rooster that
		
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			wakes up people in the morning very beautiful
		
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			statement by the way if you think about
		
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			it you're like what are the most beloved
		
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			voices to Allah they're like oh yeah somebody
		
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			who like does dhikr somebody who prays the
		
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			first thing the Prophet says the voice of
		
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			the rooster the voice of the chicken that
		
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			wakes somebody up in the morning you're like
		
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			wait what why in fact there's actually a
		
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			Bukhari hadith I want everyone to look this
		
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			up inshallah when you have time tonight look
		
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			up a hadith in Sahih Bukhari that talks
		
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			about the virtues of a rooster very random
		
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			by the way you're like wait what a
		
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			rooster is annoying makes loud sounds why would
		
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			that be virtuous they actually say this is
		
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			not they this is the Prophet the Prophet
		
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			he said that when a rooster crows especially
		
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			in the evening is because they've seen an
		
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			angel in their presence they've seen an angel
		
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			in their presence this animal is beloved to
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala why because it
		
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			senses purity around it and also the scholars
		
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			they also elaborate and they say this animal
		
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			is beloved to Allah because this animal actually
		
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			is so biologically programmed by Allah that they
		
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			begin their mornings by proclaiming something that signifies
		
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			the start of their day it's not like
		
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			you you wake up in the morning and
		
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			you're wiping off the Dorito crumbs from last
		
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			night away from your face you fell asleep
		
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			with your phone on your face so now
		
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			you have this imprint of a 5 by
		
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			2.5 screen you wake up and you
		
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			go to the bathroom and you're like oh
		
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			my god what happened to my hair overnight
		
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			I don't even think this is possible who
		
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			is that person in the mirror we look
		
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			like messes in the morning anybody not a
		
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			morning person in here definitely not morning people
		
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			so you wake up in the morning and
		
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			you look like when you look in the
		
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			mirror you're like you ask Allah for protection
		
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			from whatever that is so this animal is
		
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			beloved to Allah because they wake up with
		
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			the remembrance of Allah that it is a
		
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			blessing from Allah that we're able to start
		
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			this new day subhanallah and then he says
		
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			the second most beloved noise to Allah is
		
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			the noise or the voice of a person
		
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			who recites the Quran anyone know the rewards
		
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			of those who recite Quran can you imagine
		
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			this by the way I think a lot
		
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			of times we do a huge disservice whenever
		
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			we recite Quran and we think to ourselves
		
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			that I'm just reading a book you're actually
		
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			reading the same words that were stated by
		
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			Jibreel to the Prophet 1600 years ago I
		
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			just want you guys to imagine this when
		
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			you're reading the Quran it is not just
		
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			Arabic words when you recite you are reciting
		
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			things that Allah told Jibreel to tell the
		
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			Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam these are the words
		
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			of God and when a person the Prophet
		
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			Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says when a person struggles
		
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			with it they get Ajran two rewards, why?
		
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			because sometimes Shaitan comes to a person they
		
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			say wow you're so bad at this you
		
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			should just leave it anybody ever felt that
		
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			before?
		
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			you're like I just can't you hear the
		
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			Hafith next to you doing the back and
		
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			forth movement you're like oh gosh you're nowhere
		
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			near that level for you Lahum Ajran just
		
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			know that Allah has reserved twice the amount
		
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			of reward for you if you struggle there's
		
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			a beautiful reward for people that struggle in
		
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			this Deen guys Allah does not want you
		
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			to be perfect Allah wants you just to
		
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			try just to try that's all it is
		
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			and Allah will reward you according to how
		
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			much you try if you care and you
		
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			try Allah will take care of you care
		
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			for Allah and Allah will take care of
		
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			you that's the second the third Imam Al
		
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			Ghazali he says the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam
		
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			says the voice of a person who asks
		
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			Allah for forgiveness the voice of a person
		
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			who asks Allah for forgiveness they're not shy
		
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			in asking Allah for what they need then
		
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			Imam Al Ghazali he continues and he says
		
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			there's a famous famous scholar by the name
		
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			of Sufyan Al Thawri he says Allah the
		
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			exalted has created a wind a breeze a
		
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			breeze Allah has created a breeze that blows
		
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			in the early hours of the morning it
		
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			blows in the early parts of the morning
		
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			y'all know that early have you ever
		
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			walked in the morning before by the way
		
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			go walk in the morning now it's like
		
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			amazing y'all know like that Jahannam weather
		
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			back in like July when you used to
		
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			wake up at like 8am and it was
		
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			still 98 degrees outside like why did I
		
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			open this oven door right now mashallah when
		
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			you go outside and walk what is it
		
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			it's like 65 now in the mornings right
		
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			it's amazing by the way I encourage everyone
		
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			to do this sometimes you feel that slight
		
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			breeze I know I'm going to sound a
		
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			little dramatic here but doesn't that breeze in
		
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			the fall in the morning feel a little
		
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			bit heavenly it does it really does like
		
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			it's not it's not frigid it's not like
		
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			the February breeze that like hits you like
		
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			a sharp knife that breeze in October when
		
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			it hits you in the morning it's like
		
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			oh my gosh like how do I bottle
		
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			that just carry it around with me it's
		
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			like air conditioning right so Sufiana Thoudy he
		
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			says that Allah sends a specific breeze in
		
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			the morning and this breeze is filled with
		
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			so much rahma so much mercy and he
		
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			says that this breeze it carries the dhikr
		
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			of the one who makes istighfar to Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala the reason why that
		
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			breeze feels so good is because it is
		
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			taking your dhikr of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala to him now obviously we don't take
		
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			this like literally right because your dhikr your
		
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			Quran cannot be carried literally physically but Sufiana
		
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			Thoudy is trying to get you to kind
		
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			of appreciate things like the beauty of that
		
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			breeze there's meaning to it how many of
		
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			y'all have ever seen something in nature
		
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			and you began to just remember Allah you
		
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			ever saw like the ocean you saw mountains
		
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			you saw like rolling hills you've seen like
		
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			beautiful waterfalls you've seen like you know extremely
		
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			amazing scenery in your life and you can't
		
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			help but think about Allah you're like wow
		
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			this is incredible anybody ever in here get
		
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			frustrated about trying to take a picture of
		
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			something that looks so cool in person but
		
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			when you take a picture of it it
		
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			looks like absolute filth particularly like the moon
		
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			right I know for a fact that y
		
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			'all been driving late at night sometimes and
		
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			you're like the moon subhanallah it's beautiful it's
		
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			like bigger than the entire earth and then
		
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			you take your iPhone out and it looks
		
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			like this you're like wait am I looking
		
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			at two different things like what's going on
		
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			with me like am I going through an
		
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			episode no you're not there are certain things
		
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			in the dunya that you're actually just supposed
		
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			to appreciate with your own eyes that were
		
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			given to you just put the camera away
		
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			put the camera away appreciate Allah for what
		
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			he is and try to appreciate his blessings
		
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			with your eyes think about a place where
		
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			you've gone to that has smelled incredible you
		
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			know Medina anyone been to Medina before or
		
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			even Mecca and you've done sajdah on that
		
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			carpet dude you can't describe it I've tried
		
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			by the way I've tried I've tried to
		
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			capture it in bottles and like taking it
		
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			with me from some random Arab guy that
		
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			tried to sell it to me from like
		
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			the Hilton next door and I'm just like
		
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			it doesn't smell the same there's something special
		
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			about it you know what one of my
		
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			teachers told me by the way he said
		
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			you'll never be able to capture the smell
		
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			of the carpets of Medina because the carpets
		
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			of Medina are also scented by the foreheads
		
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			of the Muslims that pray there yeah they
		
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			spray their perfume on there on the carpets
		
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			to make it smell good but you can't
		
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			replicate the smell of millions of people who
		
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			pray and they say subhanAllah on those carpets
		
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			you can't capture that there are certain things
		
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			you can't capture how do you how do
		
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			you how do you bottle up like a
		
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			sound that you heard right you know like
		
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			people have like there's like apps nowadays like
		
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			you know like Spotify has like playlists about
		
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			like peaceful noises you study right like birds
		
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			chirping and like waves crashing on rocks and
		
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			all these different things and you're like yeah
		
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			it's cool but like I heard it live
		
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			right I remember what that sounded like I
		
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			remember what that river sounded like you can't
		
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			replicate that so Sufiyana Thoudi he's saying that
		
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			this breeze from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			it carries up to Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala your dhikr okay and then subhanAllah very
		
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			beautifully it also says he also said in
		
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			the early hours of the night a caller
		
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			from under the throne okay in the early
		
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			part of the evening okay a caller from
		
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			under the throne calls out they say let
		
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			the worshippers rise and the worshippers the true
		
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			worshippers of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala they
		
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			will get up they will get up and
		
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			they will pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala by the way can I tell you
		
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			guys something scary subhanAllah this is a really
		
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			crazy like spirituality check how do we feel
		
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			when we hear the call to prayer within
		
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			our hearts you know like when we're busy
		
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			busy in the day doing things and we
		
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			hear the adhan how do we feel how
		
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			do we feel do we feel like I'm
		
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			gonna stop what I'm doing now and like
		
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			pray or when we hear the adhan we're
		
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			like yes I can take a break from
		
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			what I'm doing to pray those are two
		
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			very different reactions by the way y'all
		
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			feel me like one person is like yes
		
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			I'm excited I told you guys a story
		
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			like months ago about the store owner when
		
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			I was in Medina as soon as the
		
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			adhan went off him and his Dunkin Donuts
		
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			were done he like he put that chain
		
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			fence in front of his door like before
		
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			the adhan could even get to its second
		
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			like phrase like the mu'adhin said Allahu
		
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			Akbar didn't even say the second Allahu Akbar
		
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			the guy was like alright I'm done here
		
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			but we are like no no no man
		
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			like one more episode like one more episode
		
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			I can just do one more episode before
		
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			I pray no no no I can do
		
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			like 10 minutes more of like this phone
		
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			call before I hang up and pray dude
		
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			there are volumes written about people and how
		
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			they react to the call of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala when Allah's name is mentioned
		
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			Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar do we just get
		
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			uncomfortable and get annoyed and get irritated or
		
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			are we people who say Alhamdulillah that Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala is allowing me to
		
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			take a break from my day to pray
		
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			to him so he says when these people
		
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			are called they will get up and they
		
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			will immediately run to their salah okay and
		
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			then at that point a caller will call
		
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			let those who pray for forgiveness arise and
		
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			they will get up and they will seek
		
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			for forgiveness they will seek forgiveness of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala these people will get
		
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			up is there anybody who is going to
		
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			ask me for forgiveness those people will stand
		
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			up and they will answer the call of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but they will
		
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			say I don't want to ever miss Allah's
		
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			call then check this out the last group
		
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			of people okay the last a person at
		
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			dawn will call and they will say oh
		
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			people who are heedless wake up those who
		
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			are heedless get up get up those who
		
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			are forgetful get up wow
		
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			that's a powerful line that he said and
		
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			they will get up from their beds as
		
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			the dead are resurrected from their graves meaning
		
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			that these people will not get up like
		
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			everybody else they will love their sleep they
		
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			will love their comfort they will love their
		
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			luxury and their leisure and they'll get up
		
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			last after everybody you know those people who
		
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			are like late to a sale y'all
		
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			ever been to late to a sale before
		
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			at a store everybody else has that pre
		
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			-order in right my wife just told me
		
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			that she's super late to like the vela
		
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			watercolor hijab fad and she's like is there
		
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			any left I'm like I don't know I've
		
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			heard people talking about this for like months
		
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			I have no idea and she was like
		
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			oh my god I think I missed it
		
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			I think they all had to stop and
		
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			I'm like man subhanallah like you know when
		
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			it comes to so many things in our
		
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			lives we're like the first people to put
		
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			our email addresses in like get me the
		
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			notification when something comes out how many of
		
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			us done that right you like done that
		
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			with like flights and like other things in
		
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			your life like if there's like a ticket
		
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			that's on sale it's on pre-sale like
		
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			you let me know when it's up and
		
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			going so I get a notification before anybody
		
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			else so I can buy it guys think
		
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			about how people go insane when like a
		
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			new iPhone is dropped right I've seen people
		
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			literally like they'll refresh refresh refresh refresh so
		
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			they don't lose out on buying something they're
		
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			constantly refreshing but when it comes to like
		
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			stuff they're like yeah I'm okay just kind
		
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			of like being the last in line to
		
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			get in I actually you know saw this
		
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			in person can I tell you guys a
		
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			story it's actually fascinating I always have this
		
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			core memory alhamdulillah and it actually happened this
		
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			past year for me this core memory of
		
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			Umrah alhamdulillah rabbil alameen I don't take this
		
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			for granted any day of my life Allah
		
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			has allowed me to do Umrah almost every
		
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			year of my life since 2018 alhamdulillah rabbil
		
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			alameen this past year this past year Ustaz
		
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			Abdurrahman and I we went together and we
		
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			were leading our group with Qalam if anybody's
		
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			interested by the way we're going in winter
		
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			inshallah together so if you're down and one
		
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			evening he texted me and he said hey
		
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			do you want to like give it a
		
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			shot for like Rawdah anyone know like Rawdah
		
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			Rawdah basically is the original Masjid of the
		
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			Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam where he used to
		
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			pray and lead Salah and everything like that
		
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			it's a very small area of Masjid al
		
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			-Nabawi today it's a very large complex now
		
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			mashallah but Rawdah is like the original place
		
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			where the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to
		
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			pray along with his companions alright and it's
		
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			actually like color-coded in a different color
		
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			than the rest of the Masjid the pillars
		
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			they look different the carpeting looks different it's
		
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			very very different very unique and it's like
		
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			a signature of that Masjid the only catch
		
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			is if you want to pray in the
		
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			Rawdah nowadays you have to basically like sign
		
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			in through like an app you have to
		
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			like apply okay and basically you you apply
		
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			and they tell you that like okay you
		
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			are confirmed to stand in line for Rawdah
		
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			at this time of the day okay so
		
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			me and Asadur Rahman were like you know
		
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			let's give it a shot let's try it
		
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			inshallah okay so we stood in line and
		
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			I remember just being in the back of
		
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			the line that night it was after Salat
		
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			al Maghrib and we got in line and
		
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			we were like so far behind and there's
		
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			certain people who like came up to the
		
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			officer who was like letting people in into
		
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			like the waiting area and like the QR
		
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			code that they had was messed up and
		
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			so they were like turning certain people away
		
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			so me and Asadur Rahman got up there
		
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			we were sharing one QR code which you
		
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			should never do but we shared one QR
		
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			code together and we just kind of screenshotted
		
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			it and we basically like after like 10
		
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			minutes 15 minutes 20 minutes we finally made
		
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			it up to like the front part of
		
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			the line and at that moment like Asadur
		
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			Rahman he got in so he got in
		
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			pretty fast and then I was the second
		
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			one up and the guard like shot daggers
		
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			at me I was like what is this
		
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			guy looking at me like this for right
		
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			he looked down up at me and then
		
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			he was like okay by the way like
		
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			all the guards in like Saudia like they
		
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			act like they hate you okay I'm like
		
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			I'm sorry that I'm praying in the Prophet's
		
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			mosque if this inconveniences you in any way
		
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			so I got so Asadur Rahman got in
		
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			then Alhamdulillah I got in and they took
		
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			us to like this kind of like waiting
		
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			area like outside of the Rawdah in like
		
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			the main courtyard of the masjid and everybody
		
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			was sitting there and everybody was like going
		
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			back and forth like doing dhikr of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala they were doing their
		
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			sunnah before Asadur Rahman etc etc and me
		
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			and Abdurrahman were there and we're just like
		
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			let's just let's just see what happens here
		
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			I don't know I don't know if we're
		
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			gonna get in and by the way if
		
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			you get into the Rawdah it they might
		
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			give you like 7 to 10 minutes maximum
		
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			nothing more and not only that you'll be
		
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			dragged by this random like Saudia guard and
		
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			be like hey get out you're done right
		
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			it's like a very it's like the most
		
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			spiritually unspiritual experience of all time it's very
		
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			weird and so all of a sudden like
		
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			the line they let in by rows so
		
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			there's like a giant courtyard of like 6,
		
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			7, 8 rows and then they let one
		
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			row in 10 minutes then they leave other
		
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			row in leave 10 minutes so we were
		
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			like the 5th or 6th row wallahi I
		
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			kid you not as soon as they called
		
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			the Adhan for Salatul Isha we were the
		
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			row that was about to get in okay
		
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			and I remember I was like I looked
		
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			at next to me to him and I
		
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			said are we gonna be able to like
		
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			go in and pray Isha there?
		
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			He's like I don't know man I don't
		
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			know let's just keep trying and so at
		
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			the very end it was our turn to
		
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			go in and the Adhan was called but
		
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			then obviously there is the Iqamah right and
		
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			the Iqamah means that it's actually the time
		
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			for the congregational prayer so the Adhan gets
		
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			called and Alhamdulillah like we get in okay
		
00:41:24 --> 00:41:26
			so we get in we get a spot
		
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			in the rowdah we're making insane dua that
		
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			we don't have to leave before the Iqamah
		
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			is called because what happens if the Iqamah
		
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			is called?
		
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			You're there for Isha you're gonna pray Isha
		
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			in the rowdah okay so I'm just like
		
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			alright man we've been here for like 3
		
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			minutes 4 minutes man where the heck is
		
00:41:41 --> 00:41:44
			this Iqamah guy right like where's the Iqamah
		
00:41:44 --> 00:41:44
			guy?
		
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			Tell him to give the Iqamah fast and
		
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			so Alhamdulillah on our like 8th minute like
		
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			a minute before they were about to ask
		
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			us to leave so the other group can
		
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			come in the Mu'adhin gets up and
		
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			he goes Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar I kid
		
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			you guys not Alhamdulillah you know when a
		
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			person goes to Umrah several times sometimes your
		
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			reaction when you go to Umrah is different
		
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			like the first time you cry the second
		
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			time you're happy that you're there the third
		
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			time you're happy that you're there this time
		
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			I could not help but absolutely break down
		
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			into tears because I didn't even think that
		
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			I was going to pray in the Prophet's
		
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			rowdah that evening and not only was I
		
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			able to but I stayed in there for
		
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			about 25 minutes almost half an hour and
		
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			we got to pray Isha in there and
		
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			I'm telling you guys I would not have
		
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			done that if Abdurrahman did not text me
		
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			earlier that day and say hey do you
		
00:42:47 --> 00:42:49
			want to try rowdah tonight between Maghrib and
		
00:42:49 --> 00:42:51
			Isha we'll just try it how many times
		
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			how many times do we get those opportunities
		
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			and again that's like a bigger picture more
		
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			grandiose kind of example but how many times
		
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			do we get these smaller opportunities and we
		
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			turn them down like a friend will hit
		
00:43:03 --> 00:43:04
			you up and be like hey do you
		
00:43:04 --> 00:43:04
			want to go to Roots tonight and you're
		
00:43:04 --> 00:43:08
			like I don't know man like you know
		
00:43:08 --> 00:43:12
			I'm tired I didn't eat today I don't
		
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			know if I feel like it what if
		
00:43:16 --> 00:43:19
			that Monday night heart work or that Wednesday
		
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			night or that Thursday night soul food what
		
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			if that was your final time stepping in
		
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			here what if think about this and this
		
00:43:29 --> 00:43:31
			is kind of an emotional point here but
		
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			imagine like your mother texts you one night
		
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			and she's like hey do you want to
		
00:43:34 --> 00:43:37
			have dinner with me tonight how do you
		
00:43:37 --> 00:43:39
			know that that was not the final text
		
00:43:39 --> 00:43:40
			message that your mother would ever send you
		
00:43:41 --> 00:43:43
			and we're like no I don't feel like
		
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			it man I'm just going to kind of
		
00:43:44 --> 00:43:46
			hang out by myself how many times do
		
00:43:46 --> 00:43:49
			we pass up on these opportunities where we
		
00:43:49 --> 00:43:52
			are called by goodness but we pass it
		
00:43:52 --> 00:43:56
			up because we think that we're busier or
		
00:43:56 --> 00:43:58
			we have better things to do or we
		
00:43:58 --> 00:44:00
			just don't have enough energy I'm telling you
		
00:44:00 --> 00:44:03
			guys there's a time to sleep and there's
		
00:44:03 --> 00:44:05
			a time to take advantage of these opportunities
		
00:44:06 --> 00:44:10
			when something good comes up the prophet would
		
00:44:10 --> 00:44:15
			never give up an opportunity to do some
		
00:44:15 --> 00:44:18
			sort of khair even if it's small even
		
00:44:18 --> 00:44:21
			if it's small the call to adhan comes
		
00:44:21 --> 00:44:24
			in don't ever flee from that place you
		
00:44:24 --> 00:44:26
			never know when you're going to hear another
		
00:44:26 --> 00:44:30
			adhan again in your life when somebody's reciting
		
00:44:31 --> 00:44:34
			don't just walk away like it's nothing stop
		
00:44:34 --> 00:44:37
			and listen for even just a few seconds
		
00:44:38 --> 00:44:39
			you don't know if you're going to hear
		
00:44:39 --> 00:44:42
			the Quran after that moment you get that
		
00:44:42 --> 00:44:44
			phone call from your mom pick up that
		
00:44:44 --> 00:44:46
			phone call I'm telling you pick up that
		
00:44:46 --> 00:44:50
			phone call you do not know if that
		
00:44:50 --> 00:44:54
			phone call will ever come in again I
		
00:44:54 --> 00:44:56
			was hearing this story from one of my
		
00:44:56 --> 00:44:59
			teachers yesterday where he was talking about the
		
00:44:59 --> 00:45:02
			crunch for time and how human beings are
		
00:45:02 --> 00:45:04
			always at a loss for time he said
		
00:45:04 --> 00:45:07
			that a person called him like frantically calling
		
00:45:07 --> 00:45:08
			him and he was like no no I'm
		
00:45:08 --> 00:45:10
			actually so caught up in other things that
		
00:45:10 --> 00:45:12
			I couldn't make his call and then subhanAllah
		
00:45:12 --> 00:45:15
			check this he said when I called that
		
00:45:15 --> 00:45:17
			person back later that day they actually said
		
00:45:18 --> 00:45:21
			what I needed you for is actually over
		
00:45:21 --> 00:45:22
			now what was that need that you needed
		
00:45:22 --> 00:45:26
			he said my father was in the hospital
		
00:45:26 --> 00:45:28
			and he was in a serious life death
		
00:45:28 --> 00:45:31
			situation and I needed to know your opinion
		
00:45:31 --> 00:45:36
			about something but he actually passed away and
		
00:45:36 --> 00:45:38
			my teacher he said I've never felt that
		
00:45:38 --> 00:45:40
			pit in my stomach in my life like
		
00:45:40 --> 00:45:44
			that we think to ourselves that yeah this
		
00:45:44 --> 00:45:45
			opportunity is going to come around again at
		
00:45:45 --> 00:45:48
			some point we don't know that guys we
		
00:45:48 --> 00:45:49
			have no idea that that's going to happen
		
00:45:50 --> 00:45:54
			continue to inshaAllah take advantage of every opportunity
		
00:45:54 --> 00:45:56
			that you're given rise when Allah subhanahu wa
		
00:45:56 --> 00:45:59
			ta'ala calls you answer the call when
		
00:45:59 --> 00:46:01
			somebody of goodness calls you be there inshaAllah
		
00:46:01 --> 00:46:03
			so that you don't regret later on you
		
00:46:03 --> 00:46:05
			don't want to have that in Arabic it's
		
00:46:05 --> 00:46:08
			called hasr sadness, regret, remorse you don't want
		
00:46:08 --> 00:46:09
			to have that remorse at the end of
		
00:46:09 --> 00:46:12
			your life you want to have that happiness
		
00:46:12 --> 00:46:14
			that you answered whenever it was time for
		
00:46:14 --> 00:46:16
			you to answer it so inshaAllah we'll wrap
		
00:46:16 --> 00:46:18
			up with that we ask Allah subhanahu wa
		
00:46:18 --> 00:46:20
			ta'ala to bless us inshaAllah and allow
		
00:46:20 --> 00:46:22
			us to benefit from these sessions and we
		
00:46:22 --> 00:46:23
			ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make
		
00:46:23 --> 00:46:27
			us of the people who are answering the
		
00:46:27 --> 00:46:28
			call of Allah ta'ala and we ask
		
00:46:28 --> 00:46:29
			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make us
		
00:46:29 --> 00:46:31
			of the people who follow the sunnah of
		
00:46:31 --> 00:46:34
			the Prophet I'm going to go ahead and
		
00:46:34 --> 00:46:35
			put a QR code up on the screen
		
00:46:35 --> 00:46:38
			for you guys inshaAllah and we're going to
		
00:46:38 --> 00:46:40
			do about 10 to 12 minutes of Q
		
00:46:40 --> 00:46:42
			&A inshaAllah before we break for Salatul Isha
		
00:46:42 --> 00:46:43
			so I want everyone to get out their
		
00:46:43 --> 00:46:47
			phones inshaAllah you can hover your phone over
		
00:46:47 --> 00:46:50
			the QR code inshaAllah ta'ala and then
		
00:46:50 --> 00:46:52
			we'll hopefully be able to do some really
		
00:46:52 --> 00:46:56
			cool Q&A together oh wait for me?
		
00:47:01 --> 00:47:03
			who's like screaming in the background over there?
		
00:47:03 --> 00:47:05
			let me just check on that person, they're
		
00:47:05 --> 00:47:09
			okay oh is that what it is?
		
00:47:09 --> 00:47:11
			okay alright so the QR code is inshaAllah
		
00:47:11 --> 00:47:13
			on the screen if you guys inshaAllah hover
		
00:47:13 --> 00:47:19
			your phone cameras over the the QR code
		
00:47:19 --> 00:47:21
			then inshaAllah you'll be able to ask the
		
00:47:21 --> 00:47:33
			questions I'll
		
00:47:33 --> 00:47:34
			give everyone like a minute to kind of
		
00:47:34 --> 00:47:37
			submit their questions inshaAllah and then we'll start
		
00:47:37 --> 00:47:50
			answering some of the questions together okay alright
		
00:48:00 --> 00:48:02
			so I'll go ahead inshaAllah and start answering
		
00:48:02 --> 00:48:07
			some of these questions real quick somebody asked
		
00:48:10 --> 00:48:11
			yeah let me go ahead and actually approve
		
00:48:11 --> 00:48:13
			these so that you guys can kind of
		
00:48:13 --> 00:48:17
			see it in the larger questions and then
		
00:48:17 --> 00:48:18
			you can like thumbs them up inshaAllah if
		
00:48:18 --> 00:48:22
			you want to okay so somebody said how
		
00:48:22 --> 00:48:23
			can I make the most of the time
		
00:48:23 --> 00:48:30
			I have left with my father plus my
		
00:48:30 --> 00:48:33
			own health issues are here too I'm having
		
00:48:33 --> 00:48:36
			to take one the role of care and
		
00:48:36 --> 00:48:41
			provider first and foremost may Allah subhanahu wa
		
00:48:41 --> 00:48:44
			ta'ala reward you for taking care of
		
00:48:44 --> 00:48:46
			your parents in such a sincere manner and
		
00:48:46 --> 00:48:48
			may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala relieve your
		
00:48:48 --> 00:48:51
			parents, your father particularly of any sort of
		
00:48:51 --> 00:48:53
			illness that he's going through and Allah give
		
00:48:53 --> 00:48:58
			him shifa everyone say ameen and how do
		
00:48:58 --> 00:49:01
			you balance that one thing that I will
		
00:49:01 --> 00:49:03
			kind of passionately say is that I don't
		
00:49:03 --> 00:49:05
			think anyone at the end of their life
		
00:49:05 --> 00:49:07
			has ever regretted taking care of their parents
		
00:49:07 --> 00:49:14
			you know in the moment that situation may
		
00:49:14 --> 00:49:16
			be extremely testing and trying but when it's
		
00:49:16 --> 00:49:20
			all said and done I think anyone would
		
00:49:20 --> 00:49:23
			say that I am so happy that I
		
00:49:23 --> 00:49:25
			was able to do what I could while
		
00:49:25 --> 00:49:28
			Allah gave me that opportunity because you know
		
00:49:28 --> 00:49:30
			the reality is and this is just kind
		
00:49:30 --> 00:49:34
			of the situation at hand is your parents
		
00:49:34 --> 00:49:35
			you will have to say goodbye to them
		
00:49:35 --> 00:49:38
			at some point in your life right and
		
00:49:38 --> 00:49:40
			there's never a person who usually says that
		
00:49:40 --> 00:49:42
			I did everything correctly with my parents you
		
00:49:42 --> 00:49:46
			always have regrets with your parents right but
		
00:49:47 --> 00:49:49
			what I will say is don't look at
		
00:49:49 --> 00:49:52
			taking care of your father as something that
		
00:49:52 --> 00:49:56
			sacrifices like who you are because whatever you
		
00:49:56 --> 00:49:58
			are doing for your father Allah subhanahu wa
		
00:49:58 --> 00:50:01
			ta'ala may be taking whatever gaps that
		
00:50:01 --> 00:50:03
			you feel like are present in your life
		
00:50:03 --> 00:50:05
			and whatever opportunities you feel you are missing
		
00:50:05 --> 00:50:08
			in your life and Allah will elevate you
		
00:50:08 --> 00:50:10
			to an extent that you will have no
		
00:50:10 --> 00:50:14
			idea subhanAllah like how high Allah has taken
		
00:50:14 --> 00:50:17
			you right when it comes to like your
		
00:50:17 --> 00:50:20
			own like challenges right your own health issues
		
00:50:20 --> 00:50:22
			you know one thing that I will say
		
00:50:22 --> 00:50:27
			is you know make the intention that you
		
00:50:27 --> 00:50:29
			want to take care of your father but
		
00:50:29 --> 00:50:31
			at the same time ask Allah constantly make
		
00:50:31 --> 00:50:33
			dua that Allah relieves him from whatever he's
		
00:50:33 --> 00:50:35
			going through right but what I would just
		
00:50:35 --> 00:50:38
			say is don't everybody in this life by
		
00:50:38 --> 00:50:40
			the way is given a purpose everyone's purpose
		
00:50:40 --> 00:50:42
			is to get to Jannah and to please
		
00:50:42 --> 00:50:44
			Allah now the route to doing that is
		
00:50:44 --> 00:50:46
			going to be different for each and every
		
00:50:46 --> 00:50:48
			single one of you for some of you
		
00:50:48 --> 00:50:49
			is going to be like raising a good
		
00:50:49 --> 00:50:52
			family and raising really amazing children for some
		
00:50:52 --> 00:50:53
			of you it will be taking care of
		
00:50:53 --> 00:50:55
			your parents for some of you it will
		
00:50:55 --> 00:50:58
			just be doing the honor of living a
		
00:50:58 --> 00:51:00
			good life for some of you it may
		
00:51:00 --> 00:51:03
			be fulfilling a certain career a certain passion
		
00:51:03 --> 00:51:05
			that you have that again goes back to
		
00:51:05 --> 00:51:07
			you know being good with Allah subhanahu wa
		
00:51:07 --> 00:51:09
			ta'ala everybody has a different route to
		
00:51:09 --> 00:51:12
			Allah right so whatever route that Allah has
		
00:51:12 --> 00:51:14
			given you one thing that I would share
		
00:51:14 --> 00:51:17
			with you is embrace it embrace that role
		
00:51:17 --> 00:51:19
			that you've been given as much of a
		
00:51:19 --> 00:51:21
			difficulty it may be at some times in
		
00:51:21 --> 00:51:23
			your life and you feel like you're sacrificing
		
00:51:23 --> 00:51:26
			a lot know that everything one day will
		
00:51:26 --> 00:51:31
			pass including this moment and so take advantage
		
00:51:31 --> 00:51:32
			of the moments where Allah gave you time
		
00:51:32 --> 00:51:34
			to take care of the people that you
		
00:51:34 --> 00:51:37
			take care of somebody said how can I
		
00:51:37 --> 00:51:41
			stop just praying out of only habit and
		
00:51:41 --> 00:51:46
			not out of love very good question if
		
00:51:46 --> 00:51:49
			somebody wants to begin to pray out of
		
00:51:49 --> 00:51:52
			habit sorry pray out of love and not
		
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			just out of habit one thing that I
		
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			would suggest is begin to shift your idea
		
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			of what prayer is in the first place
		
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			you treat things like habits and chores when
		
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			you look at things like chores right so
		
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			for example I know this stage of life
		
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			that I'm in I know a lot of
		
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			dads who like look at like babysitting their
		
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			kid as like babysitting their kid so they'll
		
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			like avoid like hanging out with their kid
		
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			because they're like I'd rather do other things
		
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			like sincerely Wallahi honestly every day I look
		
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			at my daughter Aya I think to myself
		
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			I'm never going to see her at this
		
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			stage again but there will be one day
		
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			where she's three and the next time she'll
		
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			be five the next time she'll be eight
		
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			the next time she'll be thirteen I'm never
		
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			going to get back two and a half
		
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			year old Aya ever again in my life
		
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			if I view that as a chore I
		
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			will never enjoy that experience ever in my
		
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			life even through the tantrums even through the
		
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			tantrums like I cannot look at this situation
		
00:52:55 --> 00:52:57
			as just a chore in my life redefine
		
00:52:57 --> 00:52:59
			it find out how to make it not
		
00:52:59 --> 00:53:01
			a chore for you find out a way
		
00:53:01 --> 00:53:03
			to make it something that you sincerely love
		
00:53:03 --> 00:53:05
			and that might be your own flavor by
		
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			the way that might be your own flavor
		
00:53:07 --> 00:53:09
			that might be your own take on Salah
		
00:53:09 --> 00:53:11
			that your Salah is something that you sincerely
		
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			connect with Allah about certain particular things and
		
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			that's how you get yourself out of the
		
00:53:15 --> 00:53:16
			funk of thinking of it as like a
		
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			task and something that's habitual rather than something
		
00:53:19 --> 00:53:22
			that you love okay very very good there's
		
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			a guy who's literally fundraising behind here such
		
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			an insane alright how you forgive yourself and
		
00:53:29 --> 00:53:32
			trust Allah no can somebody close that door
		
00:53:32 --> 00:53:35
			Hamza just close it I can't hear a
		
00:53:35 --> 00:53:36
			person yelling at the top of their lungs
		
00:53:36 --> 00:53:38
			anymore about who's going to get 5,000
		
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			I feel like I've been traumatized by that
		
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			statement in my life growing up so I
		
00:53:42 --> 00:53:46
			need to stop it alright so somebody says
		
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			how do you forgive yourself and trust Allah
		
00:53:48 --> 00:53:53
			know this Hamza please for the love of
		
00:53:53 --> 00:53:57
			God it's done can you close it again
		
00:53:57 --> 00:54:01
			I think somebody opened it Abdullah please can
		
00:54:01 --> 00:54:12
			you handle Abdullah is the
		
00:54:12 --> 00:54:15
			door closed there's no way that door is
		
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			closed I feel like he's going to jump
		
00:54:22 --> 00:54:24
			through the ceiling and ask you guys for
		
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			5,000 next I'm actually trying to protect
		
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			you all sincerely okay so how do you
		
00:54:31 --> 00:54:37
			forgive yourself and trust Allah know that Allah
		
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			may have already forgiven you for something that
		
00:54:41 --> 00:54:43
			you haven't forgiven yourself for just know that
		
00:54:44 --> 00:54:46
			you know the feelings that you have for
		
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			yourself and sometimes it's like self hate self
		
00:54:49 --> 00:54:53
			you know disappointment you know self pity whatever
		
00:54:53 --> 00:54:56
			it may be know that Allah does not
		
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			hold these feelings for you right so I'm
		
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			going to be very honest with you you
		
00:55:02 --> 00:55:04
			can be upset with yourself all you want
		
00:55:04 --> 00:55:07
			to but don't project that sadness on Allah
		
00:55:07 --> 00:55:10
			Allah could have already forgiven you for something
		
00:55:10 --> 00:55:13
			that you still hold yourself accountable for okay
		
00:55:13 --> 00:55:16
			so just be able to differentiate the feelings
		
00:55:16 --> 00:55:18
			that you have for yourself and the feelings
		
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			that Allah has for you okay okay the
		
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			next question is how can I make okay
		
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			so I answered that already I'm struggling to
		
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			wake up for Fajr on time even with
		
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			alarms what should I do set more alarms
		
00:55:36 --> 00:55:39
			seriously though if this person is asking like
		
00:55:39 --> 00:55:41
			in a sense that like they have trouble
		
00:55:41 --> 00:55:42
			waking up for Fajr on time even with
		
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			all the alarms like you sleep through it
		
00:55:44 --> 00:55:46
			then take the next level of precaution and
		
00:55:46 --> 00:55:47
			like ask somebody in your house like wake
		
00:55:47 --> 00:55:51
			you up dude or if you don't want
		
00:55:51 --> 00:55:53
			to do that set your alarm and throw
		
00:55:53 --> 00:55:54
			your phone across the room before you go
		
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			to sleep I'm telling you it's crazy it
		
00:55:57 --> 00:56:03
			works miracles okay also another pro tip set
		
00:56:03 --> 00:56:05
			your alarm for like 30 minutes before Fajr
		
00:56:06 --> 00:56:11
			I'm telling you it'll help it'll help how
		
00:56:11 --> 00:56:12
			many times like do we set our alarm
		
00:56:12 --> 00:56:15
			for like 30 minutes before class starts you
		
00:56:15 --> 00:56:16
			get up and you like rush and you're
		
00:56:16 --> 00:56:19
			like in this crazy manic state you're like
		
00:56:19 --> 00:56:20
			trying to figure things out in your life
		
00:56:20 --> 00:56:23
			if I just gotten up like 30 minutes
		
00:56:23 --> 00:56:24
			before that I would have actually been more
		
00:56:24 --> 00:56:27
			ready I would have been prepared right so
		
00:56:27 --> 00:56:28
			set your alarm for like 30 minutes before
		
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			Fajr right very very good okay somebody asks
		
00:56:39 --> 00:56:42
			okay I'm going to prove all of these
		
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			real quick inshallah so we can answer them
		
00:56:43 --> 00:56:49
			one by one can I pray tahajjud if
		
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			I didn't pray all five prayers no no
		
00:56:50 --> 00:56:52
			you should pray your five prayers first you
		
00:56:52 --> 00:56:54
			should pray your five prayers before you engage
		
00:56:54 --> 00:56:57
			in tahajjud inshallah because tahajjud is something that's
		
00:56:57 --> 00:56:59
			called your nafl your nawafil right it's voluntary
		
00:56:59 --> 00:57:03
			it's purgatory you will be asked about your
		
00:57:03 --> 00:57:06
			obligatory first so always pray your obligatory before
		
00:57:06 --> 00:57:09
			you pray your nawafil very good question okay
		
00:57:09 --> 00:57:11
			how do you stop beating yourself up forever
		
00:57:11 --> 00:57:13
			overthinking and any hurtful thing you might have
		
00:57:13 --> 00:57:16
			done to others and forgetting your own needs
		
00:57:17 --> 00:57:20
			this is where I'll be honest with you
		
00:57:20 --> 00:57:22
			guys you have to have tough conversations with
		
00:57:22 --> 00:57:26
			people around you if you feel bad about
		
00:57:27 --> 00:57:29
			overthinking any hurtful things you might have done
		
00:57:29 --> 00:57:31
			to others then you should get into a
		
00:57:31 --> 00:57:34
			very daily or weekly kind of cadence of
		
00:57:34 --> 00:57:36
			just saying to people hey if I ever
		
00:57:36 --> 00:57:37
			if I did something that maybe have been
		
00:57:37 --> 00:57:41
			hurtful please forgive me clear your conscience honestly
		
00:57:41 --> 00:57:43
			ask people for forgiveness as much as you
		
00:57:43 --> 00:57:46
			can okay don't get into the habit of
		
00:57:46 --> 00:57:48
			like yeah you know they'll be fine if
		
00:57:48 --> 00:57:50
			you're truly worried about something that you may
		
00:57:50 --> 00:57:53
			have done then do a daily weekly monthly
		
00:57:53 --> 00:57:55
			whatever it may be and say like you
		
00:57:55 --> 00:57:56
			know if I ever said something to you
		
00:57:56 --> 00:57:58
			we talk a lot but if I ever
		
00:57:58 --> 00:57:59
			said something to you I have a good
		
00:57:59 --> 00:58:00
			friend in my life by the way that
		
00:58:00 --> 00:58:01
			does this all the time they message me
		
00:58:01 --> 00:58:03
			like once every like week and a half
		
00:58:03 --> 00:58:04
			and they're like hey if I said something
		
00:58:04 --> 00:58:05
			to you this week that was like taken
		
00:58:05 --> 00:58:07
			you know in a bad way or in
		
00:58:07 --> 00:58:09
			a hurtful manner I sincerely I'm sorry and
		
00:58:09 --> 00:58:11
			I apologize for that and majority of the
		
00:58:11 --> 00:58:12
			times I'm like yeah there's nothing they have
		
00:58:12 --> 00:58:14
			to apologize for but they do it all
		
00:58:14 --> 00:58:15
			the time because they feel the sense of
		
00:58:15 --> 00:58:19
			responsibility right so inshallah if that's something that
		
00:58:19 --> 00:58:20
			you feel is relevant then inshallah do that
		
00:58:22 --> 00:58:25
			okay as a father of a daughter yourself
		
00:58:25 --> 00:58:27
			is Islam a valid reason for a father
		
00:58:27 --> 00:58:29
			to stop showing affection after their daughter reaches
		
00:58:29 --> 00:58:34
			the age of puberty no no the prophet
		
00:58:34 --> 00:58:40
			would show immense amount of affection for Fatima
		
00:58:40 --> 00:58:43
			his daughter long after she actually hit the
		
00:58:43 --> 00:58:46
			age of puberty when she was married to
		
00:58:46 --> 00:58:50
			Ali he would constantly constantly like show affection
		
00:58:50 --> 00:58:53
			for her kiss her hold her hand walk
		
00:58:53 --> 00:58:55
			her while holding her hand he would basically
		
00:58:55 --> 00:58:57
			walk her to where he would sit and
		
00:58:57 --> 00:58:59
			sit her down in his seat like if
		
00:58:59 --> 00:59:01
			you want to talk about like public displays
		
00:59:01 --> 00:59:04
			of affection the prophet would literally show all
		
00:59:04 --> 00:59:08
			of that to his daughter Fatima okay this
		
00:59:08 --> 00:59:10
			is just something that he used to do
		
00:59:10 --> 00:59:12
			that he used to love I think we
		
00:59:12 --> 00:59:14
			have to really really start differentiating culture from
		
00:59:14 --> 00:59:17
			Islam guys you really have to and if
		
00:59:17 --> 00:59:19
			you're unsure whether something is culture or Islam
		
00:59:19 --> 00:59:21
			you need to ask somebody who has studied
		
00:59:21 --> 00:59:23
			Islam because they'll be able to tell you
		
00:59:23 --> 00:59:25
			and a very wise scholar will tell you
		
00:59:25 --> 00:59:28
			that there is absolutely a difference between the
		
00:59:28 --> 00:59:31
			two can sometimes culture like coincide with Islam
		
00:59:31 --> 00:59:32
			once in a while yes but are they
		
00:59:32 --> 00:59:33
			two separate things at the end of the
		
00:59:33 --> 00:59:37
			day yes yes this has traumatized a lot
		
00:59:37 --> 00:59:39
			of people throughout their life you know the
		
00:59:39 --> 00:59:41
			lack of love in my home and my
		
00:59:41 --> 00:59:44
			family and my parents and even spouses subhanallah
		
00:59:44 --> 00:59:46
			you know like I've had people that it's
		
00:59:46 --> 00:59:48
			really sad I've had people come up to
		
00:59:48 --> 00:59:49
			me and saying like my husband doesn't want
		
00:59:49 --> 00:59:51
			to like hold my hand in public because
		
00:59:51 --> 00:59:52
			he thinks that it's actually un-Islamic I
		
00:59:52 --> 00:59:56
			mean what a tragedy dude what a tragedy
		
00:59:57 --> 00:59:58
			I know some people are laughing but it's
		
00:59:58 --> 01:00:00
			a tragedy man you're talking about the same
		
01:00:00 --> 01:00:02
			religion in which the Prophet raised his wife
		
01:00:02 --> 01:00:05
			Aisha up and down the deserts of Medina
		
01:00:07 --> 01:00:09
			you're talking about the Prophet who actually like
		
01:00:09 --> 01:00:11
			held Aisha on his back she was like
		
01:00:11 --> 01:00:13
			holding onto him and putting her chin on
		
01:00:13 --> 01:00:15
			his shoulder as she was watching Abyssinian dancers
		
01:00:17 --> 01:00:18
			this is the same religion that you're talking
		
01:00:18 --> 01:00:20
			about that you know you can't hold your
		
01:00:20 --> 01:00:25
			spouse's hand in public obviously there's limits you
		
01:00:25 --> 01:00:26
			know you shouldn't be that weird high school
		
01:00:26 --> 01:00:28
			couple that has their foreheads together waiting in
		
01:00:28 --> 01:00:29
			line for that ride like y'all don't
		
01:00:29 --> 01:00:31
			think I'm that tapped into you, you guys
		
01:00:31 --> 01:00:35
			are crazy I'm locked into the internet that
		
01:00:35 --> 01:00:40
			weird couple but at the same time at
		
01:00:40 --> 01:00:43
			the same time this is Islam, Islam allows
		
01:00:43 --> 01:00:46
			for whatever the Prophet used to do right
		
01:00:46 --> 01:00:51
			very very good um why do so many
		
01:00:51 --> 01:00:52
			people feel like they aren't going to ever
		
01:00:52 --> 01:00:56
			find love and feel under deserving and unworthy
		
01:00:56 --> 01:00:57
			can I tell you something?
		
01:00:57 --> 01:01:01
			dunya man, dunya is the worst dunya will
		
01:01:01 --> 01:01:03
			tell you that like by the way let
		
01:01:03 --> 01:01:06
			me tell you something in order for a
		
01:01:06 --> 01:01:10
			person to find confidence in a loving marriage
		
01:01:11 --> 01:01:14
			they must have confidence in who they are
		
01:01:14 --> 01:01:17
			as a person because if not you are
		
01:01:17 --> 01:01:20
			going to bring all your insecurities into that
		
01:01:20 --> 01:01:22
			marriage and it's going to be very challenging
		
01:01:23 --> 01:01:26
			you're going to start thinking about realities that
		
01:01:26 --> 01:01:29
			are actually the farthest thing from reality you're
		
01:01:29 --> 01:01:30
			going to start making up scenarios in your
		
01:01:30 --> 01:01:34
			head that are not near truth right, what
		
01:01:34 --> 01:01:36
			I would say is get away from the
		
01:01:36 --> 01:01:40
			dunya standards and expectations man start going towards
		
01:01:40 --> 01:01:44
			things like being content in terms of who
		
01:01:44 --> 01:01:46
			you are and what you expect from somebody
		
01:01:47 --> 01:01:51
			have candid conversations, the issue is that people
		
01:01:51 --> 01:01:55
			overstep the stage of having good conversations about
		
01:01:55 --> 01:01:57
			a future marriage and they go to all
		
01:01:57 --> 01:01:59
			the fun stuff and like all the lovey
		
01:01:59 --> 01:02:01
			-dovey stuff and they take the baraka straight
		
01:02:01 --> 01:02:04
			out of that relationship right, like the 2am
		
01:02:04 --> 01:02:07
			text messages like hey are you watching rings
		
01:02:07 --> 01:02:07
			of power?
		
01:02:08 --> 01:02:10
			I don't need to know that like, have
		
01:02:10 --> 01:02:13
			good conversations about like, you know, aspirations and
		
01:02:13 --> 01:02:15
			goals and standards and morals like those are
		
01:02:15 --> 01:02:17
			things that you should talk about pre-marriage
		
01:02:17 --> 01:02:19
			right so, think about that a little bit
		
01:02:19 --> 01:02:24
			inshallah, okay next question how do I start
		
01:02:24 --> 01:02:27
			being more private and stop having the urge
		
01:02:27 --> 01:02:30
			to tell everyone my sins or situations, good
		
01:02:30 --> 01:02:33
			question know that a person who hides their
		
01:02:33 --> 01:02:36
			sins at the end of the day actually
		
01:02:36 --> 01:02:40
			are more they're more shameful and they have
		
01:02:40 --> 01:02:42
			more hayat at least they know what they're
		
01:02:42 --> 01:02:45
			doing is wrong right, no one will ever
		
01:02:45 --> 01:02:47
			be able to be sinless, it's impossible, but
		
01:02:47 --> 01:02:49
			a person who hides their sins they hide
		
01:02:49 --> 01:02:52
			and they don't promote it that person has
		
01:02:52 --> 01:02:55
			a level of taqwa, even if they're not
		
01:02:55 --> 01:02:57
			like a perfect person, they understand that I
		
01:02:57 --> 01:02:59
			can't do this publicly, they understand that I
		
01:02:59 --> 01:03:01
			have shame about it whenever I engage in
		
01:03:01 --> 01:03:02
			it it's not something that I'm proud of,
		
01:03:02 --> 01:03:05
			right how do you go about concealing your
		
01:03:05 --> 01:03:08
			sins just be mindful be a person who's
		
01:03:08 --> 01:03:15
			not like an absolute haywan honestly there's a
		
01:03:15 --> 01:03:18
			reason why the prophet used to contrast animals
		
01:03:18 --> 01:03:19
			and human beings a lot you never want
		
01:03:19 --> 01:03:22
			to have animalistic personality traits and characteristics right,
		
01:03:22 --> 01:03:25
			inshallah we learned to avoid that, somebody asked
		
01:03:25 --> 01:03:30
			how do you handle childhood mistakes childhood mistakes
		
01:03:30 --> 01:03:32
			are tough right, because I mean you know
		
01:03:32 --> 01:03:34
			unfortunately we have memory and some of our
		
01:03:34 --> 01:03:41
			memories are very very strong, understand that Allah
		
01:03:41 --> 01:03:42
			has allowed a person to see the next
		
01:03:42 --> 01:03:45
			day because of a very particular reason if
		
01:03:45 --> 01:03:47
			Allah allowed you to see the next day
		
01:03:47 --> 01:03:48
			and continue on with your life there's a
		
01:03:48 --> 01:03:51
			reason behind that continuation it's because Allah wants
		
01:03:51 --> 01:03:53
			you to turn a new leaf if you've
		
01:03:53 --> 01:03:55
			made a mistake as a child obviously if
		
01:03:55 --> 01:03:57
			you're literally a child understand that Islam is
		
01:03:57 --> 01:03:59
			merciful enough to know that a child who
		
01:03:59 --> 01:04:01
			makes a certain mistake they can't be held
		
01:04:01 --> 01:04:03
			accountable for it like an adult would right,
		
01:04:03 --> 01:04:06
			and number two is to know that every
		
01:04:06 --> 01:04:08
			hour, every day that Allah allows you to
		
01:04:08 --> 01:04:10
			live is a moment where you can turn
		
01:04:10 --> 01:04:14
			inshallah a new leaf okay, I often find
		
01:04:14 --> 01:04:17
			myself questioning my sincerity I find that I'm
		
01:04:17 --> 01:04:19
			not sure if I truly mean it, how
		
01:04:19 --> 01:04:22
			can I work on this re-establish your
		
01:04:22 --> 01:04:26
			niyyah multiple times through an action, re-establish
		
01:04:26 --> 01:04:27
			your niyyah multiple times through an action if
		
01:04:27 --> 01:04:29
			it means at the beginning, middle and at
		
01:04:29 --> 01:04:31
			the end so be it, re-establish that
		
01:04:31 --> 01:04:33
			niyyah three times, don't just make a niyyah
		
01:04:33 --> 01:04:35
			once and call it a day, make a
		
01:04:35 --> 01:04:38
			niyyah once twice and thrice convince yourself that
		
01:04:38 --> 01:04:40
			nope this is not why I'm doing this,
		
01:04:40 --> 01:04:42
			I'm doing this for Allah, I'm doing this
		
01:04:42 --> 01:04:47
			for goodness okay let's see do I have
		
01:04:47 --> 01:04:49
			the right to advise someone on something that
		
01:04:49 --> 01:04:52
			I'm also actively trying to work on yes
		
01:04:53 --> 01:04:58
			but be aware right like if I am
		
01:04:58 --> 01:05:03
			like constantly backbiting, I shouldn't be like bismillah
		
01:05:03 --> 01:05:05
			walhamdulillah as-salatu was-salam ala rasulillah like
		
01:05:05 --> 01:05:08
			I shouldn't be giving khutbahs about backbiting but
		
01:05:08 --> 01:05:10
			you can say to that person, by the
		
01:05:10 --> 01:05:12
			way this is something that I'm also sincerely
		
01:05:12 --> 01:05:14
			struggling with so I actually feel that this
		
01:05:14 --> 01:05:16
			advice would be relevant for you and me,
		
01:05:16 --> 01:05:17
			you know that whole tagline of somebody who
		
01:05:17 --> 01:05:19
			says that this is a reminder for myself
		
01:05:19 --> 01:05:21
			before anybody else, that's actually a very good
		
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			tagline, because you're proving to yourself that you're
		
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			not obsessed with your own ego and your
		
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			own arrogance, you're saying I'm giving this advice
		
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			because I need this advice more than anybody,
		
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			and I've been given this advice by other
		
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			people, right, so give advice but be honest
		
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			about the things that you're struggling with as
		
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			well inshallah, okay last couple questions, we're gonna
		
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			quickly kind of finish this off why would
		
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			a practicing Muslim avoid conflict or mending situations,
		
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			why would someone avoid forgiveness for months honestly
		
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			guys, can I tell you something, be merciful
		
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			on people, we have no idea what people
		
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			are struggling with, I know that for some
		
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			people it's easy to go have those hard
		
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			conversations but it's not easy for everybody, how
		
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			many of you guys feel like you're okay,
		
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			like, being conflict like, you know, you're okay
		
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			with conflict, like you're okay having those tough
		
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			conversations anybody, raise your hands oh my gosh
		
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			subhanallah, we have all these attachment avoiding people
		
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			in here, okay so how many of you
		
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			guys feel that conflict is something that's very
		
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			very hard for you to kind of approach,
		
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			anybody raise your hands, the rest of you
		
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			guys are also complicit because even raising your
		
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			hand is challenging for you, so I already
		
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			know this okay, so be merciful upon people,
		
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			don't judge people that may be, you know
		
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			taking their time to having a tough conversation
		
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			they may be thinking of a lot of
		
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			things and, you know, if you find it
		
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			to be easy, a person who's asking this
		
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			question, you find it to be easy to
		
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			approach conflict, make it easy on the people
		
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			around you, don't make it difficult for them,
		
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			okay how do I stop feeling my deeds
		
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			are not going to get counted even if
		
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			my intentions are pure you have to have
		
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			confidence in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sometimes
		
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			we are our own worst enemies guys and
		
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			we can't allow ourselves to do that okay,
		
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			inshallah, we'll wrap up with that, we ask
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make our
		
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			intentions pure, we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala to allow us to be people of
		
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			sincerity, of ihsan, of excellence, and we ask
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to allow us
		
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			to be people who constantly engage in istighfar
		
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			and tawbah, we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala to allow us to be people who
		
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			try our hardest in every step and every
		
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			chance that we get, we ask Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala that whatever opportunities that he
		
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			presents to us, we ask Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to allow us to engage in
		
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			those opportunities for good, and we ask Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala to forgive us for
		
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			all of our sins and our shortcomings ameen,
		
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			rabbana ameen, subhanakallah wa bihamdik wa nashadu wa
		
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			la ilaha illa anta wa astaghfirullah wa kanatuhu
		
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			wa raik, inshallah tomorrow is our bonfire, so
		
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			just letting everybody know our fireside session tomorrow
		
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			evening it's gonna be from 7 to 8
		
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			.30 so come inshallah, pray maghrib here we're
		
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			gonna have like snacks and all that good
		
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			stuff inshallah that'll be tomorrow here at Roots
		
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			at 7pm, we'll see you guys then inshallah
		
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			and there's no RSVPs necessary, just come inshallah,
		
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			bring a friend, love to have you guys
		
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			assalamualaikum y'all