Safi Khan – Soul Food For College Students Dear Beloved Son Class 11

Safi Khan
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The importance of praying for the Prophet's words and praying for forgiveness is emphasized in a weekly soul food session and monthly special program. Prayer for forgiveness is emphasized, along with the emotional impact of praying for Isha in a row and the importance of taking care of one's parents. The conversation covers tips for improving a relationship, including setting more alarms, practicing missed calls, and finding love in marriage. It ends with a discussion of forgiveness and the importance of not giving up on one's behavior.
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All righty, Inshallah.

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We're gonna go ahead and begin.

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All right, Bismillah walhamdulillah, as-salatu was-salamu

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ala rasulillah wa ala alihi wa as'habihi

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ajma'in, salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

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Inshallah, everyone is doing well.

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So, inshallah, we're going to continue on with

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our weekly soul food session, inshallah ta'ala.

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We have a really cool weekend coming up

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for our college community.

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We have our monthly special program, our Fireside

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Session, tomorrow night, inshallah, after Maghrib, and that's

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going to be a good time.

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But inshallah, tonight we'll carry on with our

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series that we're doing, Ayyuhal Walad, My Dear

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Beloved Son, My Dear Beloved Student.

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So, this particular session is titled Dhikr, it's

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titled The Remembrance of Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala, and I'll tell you exactly why it's

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titled that.

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So, in this particular session, Imam al-Ghazali

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rahimallah, he actually basically talks about a couple

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of different ways where the remembrance of Allah

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subhanahu wa ta'ala will benefit the individual,

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okay?

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And dhikr, by the way, is a profound

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form of worship.

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I think a lot of people tend to

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overlook how powerful dhikr actually can be.

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The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, one time

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he said, كلمتان حبيبتان الى الرحمن He said

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that there are two phrases that are extremely

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beloved to ar-Rahman, Allah subhanahu wa ta

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'ala.

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And then he said, خفيفتان على اللسان والثقيلتان

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في الميزان So, he basically said that these

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two phrases are light upon the tongue.

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خفيفة على اللسان, they're very light upon the

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tongue.

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But, ثقيلتان في الميزان, they're extremely heavy, ثقلة,

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they have a lot of weight on the

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scales on the day of judgment.

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And then he proceeded to say, سبحان الله

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وبحمده وسبحان الله العظيم He said these two

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phrases.

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It's so easy to say these two phrases,

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but most people, they don't realize how weighty

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they are.

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Sometimes we think to ourselves that the longer

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the essay, the better it's going to be.

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The more time I spend on something, the

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better it's going to be.

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That's not necessarily true.

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We don't believe that in Islam.

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In Islam, we don't think about the quantity

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constantly, we think about the quality.

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A person can be standing in Salah for

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like 2-3 hours, but their intention can

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be completely skewed.

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And because of that intention being skewed, there's

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no sort of actual quality and that reward

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from Allah.

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Verses, a person who may stand for 5

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-10 minutes in their Salah, they might not

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have too much time that they spend in

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their Salah.

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But, it was extremely weighty.

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Why?

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Because they really concentrated on Allah.

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So when it comes to the Deen, we

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don't talk more about always what, we talk

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about how.

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That how question is so important.

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Because when a person answers the how, they

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usually understand the yield that they receive back

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from an action.

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If I tell somebody, yeah, I gave like

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$1,000.

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To an average person, $1,000 might seem

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like a lot of money.

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But that $1,000 of giving may not

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have any impact on the softness of the

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heart of that person.

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Why?

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Because they gave that $1,000 out of

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arrogance.

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But when a person may give $10, $15,

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$20, it doesn't seem like too much in

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the grander scope of things.

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That $20 given for the sake of Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala was done in such

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a profoundly sincere way that it really impacted

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them for the rest of their life, the

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rest of their year, the rest of their

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month.

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So we really focus on these things.

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And so, the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam, he

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talks about dhikr in this particular regard.

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So the first thing that Imam Al-Ghazali,

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he says in this chapter, is that he

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quotes a couple of verses in the Qur

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'an when it comes to dhikr.

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He says, Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala mentions,

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وَمِنَ اللَّيْلِ فَتَهَجَّدْ بِهِ He says, and in

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the evening, wake up and commit to your

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tahajjud.

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Pray tahajjud bihi, within it.

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Now, he says about this, أَمْرٌ That this

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is a command from Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta

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'ala.

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To wake up in the night and pray

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a little bit is a commandment from Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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Now, one of the most beautiful things about

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this is that there's a hadith that was

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actually in Sahih Muslim where the Prophet Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam, he said, that the most beloved

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prayer to me, the most beloved prayer to

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me, after my five prayers, is قِيَامُ اللَّيْلِ

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The prayer in the middle of the evening.

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Tahajjud.

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Why?

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Anybody know why?

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Why was tahajjud so beloved to the Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam?

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Anybody want to take a shot or a

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guess at this?

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What do you think?

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Why would tahajjud be so beloved to the

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Prophet?

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Why was qiyam so beloved to the Prophet?

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Anybody want to share?

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What do you think?

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Why is tahajjud important to you?

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What's tahajjud?

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Yes, in the back.

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Okay, it's extra.

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It's not like your, it's not your expected

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amount, right?

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It's not your fault, it's not your obligatory,

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so you're going above and beyond.

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Very good.

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Anybody else?

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Anybody else have any idea why tahajjud was

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so beloved to the Prophet?

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Provides comfort.

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Very, very good.

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Tahajjud, subhanallah, you know, tahajjud to the Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam was actually made a command

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upon him.

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Allah told him to basically separate yourself from

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the average person by praying tahajjud.

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Not everybody will pray.

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If you want another level of relationship with

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me, you're going to spend time with me

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in the evening, while everybody else is asleep.

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When you think about this in relation to

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your friends, I want you guys to think

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about this in terms of social life.

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When everybody does the group hangout, it's all

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fine, right?

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Alhamdulillah, everybody has a good time.

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You guys go out, everyone chills and has

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fun and laughs and jokes and everything like

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that.

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But then that friend that gets a phone

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call on the way home after the hangout,

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y'all know that's like a next level

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friendship, right?

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So how do you think that went?

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Like, you're like, what did I do to

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earn this special honor, right?

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Like, we were all just together, like, 7,

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8, 9, 10 of us, but that one

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person you hit up after everybody else is

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gone, right?

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This is like the equivalence of tahajjud for

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a believer when it comes to their salah.

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Their fajr, dhuhr, asr, maghrib, isha' all beautiful.

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These are all elements and ways of getting

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close to Allah out of your obligations.

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But the one who wants the next level

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of relationship with Allah is the one who

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commits to Allah when nobody else does.

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That's always going to be the recipe to

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connect to Allah.

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Think about this.

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Connect to Allah via a mode in which

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other people usually don't think about, right?

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So when a person makes their worship, time

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with their family, the average person, they look

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at time with their family as just like

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corporal punishment, right?

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Like, I have to sit with my mom.

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Yeah, I got to talk to my dad

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about like the 8th hurricane that hit Florida

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this year, right?

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Everybody thinks about these things as like just

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obligations.

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I know Abrar's shaking his head because his

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heart is deeply impacted as a Floridian.

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But, you know, subhanAllah, you think about the

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time that people put in just as obligations.

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I'm doing this because I have to do

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it.

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Now think about the difference when a person

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says, I'm doing this because I want to

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do it.

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I'm not taking care of you because I

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have to take care of you.

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I'm taking care of you because I want

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to take care of you.

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I'm spending time with you not because I

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have to.

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I'm spending time with you because I want

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to.

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This is the difference.

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This is why tahajjud is so unique.

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You don't have to pray tahajjud.

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It's not an obligation on you.

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You can go to sleep every night and

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not wake up until fajr.

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But, a person who says, no, no, no,

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no.

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I don't want to be like everybody else.

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I want to wake up.

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By the way, tahajjud another kind of element

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of tahajjud that's so amazing, tahajjud is a

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salah that the scholars, they say, is a

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prayer that you wake up for.

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So tahajjud is not something that you can

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just kind of pray after isha just, you

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know, continue on with your night.

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Tahajjud, why is it unique?

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It's because tahajjud you wake yourself up from

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your sleep before fajr.

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Tahajjud is the most beautiful in the last

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part of the night.

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Okay?

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There's a lot of symbolism in that, by

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the way.

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Why is it recommended by the scholars to

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wake up for tahajjud?

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Because you're proving to yourself as-salatu khayrun

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minannawm that prayer is better than sleep.

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Prayer is better than sleep.

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In fact, the only reason I sleep is

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so I can pray.

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You know that hadith about eating one-third,

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one-third, one-third?

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A lot of people have been taught that

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hadith growing up, right?

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That the Prophet used to say, you know,

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one-third for food one-third for water,

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one-third for air.

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A lot of times what people forget is

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that hadith was only taught because the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam said that you only eat

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enough that you can stand straight in your

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prayer.

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It all goes back to Allah.

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Everything you do goes back to Allah.

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You're eating, you're sleeping, everything goes back to

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Allah.

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So you think about it.

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He says that So in the evening, wake

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up and pray tahajjud in it.

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It's going to change your life.

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Okay?

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Then Imam al-Ghazali, he says He says,

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and in the last part of the night,

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in the hours of the early dawn, these

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same people, they were found doing what?

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What does just taqfirun mean?

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They were found asking Allah for forgiveness.

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The same people.

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It's so interesting, don't you think?

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People that are waking up in the middle

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of the night, those same people are spending

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the wee early hours asking Allah for forgiveness.

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Now, this question was asked to the Prophet

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sallallahu alayhi wasallam constantly.

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Ya Rasulullah, you're so beloved to Allah.

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You're so saved from so much punishment that

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the rest of the humanity would be punished

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with, right?

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Why are you getting up?

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Why are you making dua?

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Why are you asking Allah for forgiveness?

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And what did the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam,

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he said?

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What did he say?

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He says Should I not be a grateful

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servant?

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What does this prove?

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Sometimes the people that make istighfar are the

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people that seemingly don't even need it.

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They're the people that everyone looks at and

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they're like, wow, these people are so close

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to God already.

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Why are they making istighfar?

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Those are the people that are locked in

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with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala on a

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whole other level, subhanAllah.

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Can you imagine?

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This person, they prayed tahajjud already but they

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spend the last bit of their tahajjud yastaghfiroon

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asking Allah for forgiveness.

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You want to know why this is so

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beautiful?

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Because the fuqaha, they say that the people

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that pray tahajjud and then later on ask

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Allah for forgiveness, what are they asking Allah

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for forgiveness for?

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They're asking Allah for forgiveness if they worshipped

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him in any way other than the best

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way while they were praying tahajjud.

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I'm going to give you guys an example.

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Have you guys ever met somebody who says

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sorry even though there's nothing to say sorry

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for?

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Like a friend, they came and brought you

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lunch one day and you're crying, ugly crying

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like you're thinking about me, oh my god

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and the friend's like, I'm so sorry I

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ran out of time so I couldn't get

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you the thing that you wanted but I

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had to get you something else and you're

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like, why are you apologizing?

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Nobody buys me lunch this is the best

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thing that anyone's done for me for this

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entire month but I'm sorry, I wanted to

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get you something better that person is so

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ihsani they are striving for excellence to the

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highest degree where when they do something even

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if it is a little bit less than

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perfect, they're like, ya Allah I'm so sorry

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for that the average person will not ask

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Allah for forgiveness until they've messed up completely

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they've done something terrible that's when they will

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ask Allah oh Allah, I'm sorry oh Allah,

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I messed up who Imam Al Ghazali is

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describing here is a person who is so

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in tune with Allah that they ask Allah

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for forgiveness when other people would say about

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them, why are you even doing that?

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there's nothing that you can ask Allah for

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in terms of forgiveness but here's the thing

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about a true believer they understand that no

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matter how perfect I may seem to the

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average person around me I know how imperfect

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I truly am within my heart right a

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true believer understands that although other people around

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me they see somewhat of like a put

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together person I try my hardest I tried

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my hardest to be good but I know

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deep down inside all of my vices all

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of my mistakes I want everyone to pause

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for a second right now I want you

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to think sometimes the human ego accompanied by

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shaytan we start gassing ourselves up a little

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bit yeah you know made it to masjid

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four or five times this week actually a

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little bit of a masjidi person myself they

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feel good about themselves and by the way

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this is the danger of a person who

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claims to be religious I remember somebody said

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something very powerful to me one time they

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said don't ever call yourself religious unless you

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can wake up for fajr without an alarm

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really interesting quote I always used to think

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about that I was like why does he

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say that why does he say don't call

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yourself religious until you can wake up for

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fajr without an alarm because when you can

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wake up for fajr without an alarm that

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means it's a part of your biological clock

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you will never oversleep fajr because it's so

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ingrained within you that your body your soul,

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your mind, your heart cannot even continue sleeping

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when it's time for fajr so he told

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me until you reach that stage don't call

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yourself religious we're not religious man we're trying

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our heart is to be good we're nowhere

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near religious and if a person truly believes

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that about themselves then they will know no

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matter how many times I come to the

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masjid no matter how many times I pray

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in the middle of the evening I do

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these things because I need them I do

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these things because I need them the person

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who wakes up in the middle of the

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evening to pray they do that because they

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know how badly they need that like I'm

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praying this evening because I know how many

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sins I've committed in my life trust me

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I need this my uncle one time subhanallah

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it was so strange I remember this conversation

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he was known to be a very generous

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person very generous person I remember growing up

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I used to always know him to be

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the first guy that raises his hand at

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every single fundraiser always the first person and

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he used to always encourage other people he

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would always donate his time, his energy, his

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efforts everything like that and one time when

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I was like 11, 12 I was like

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the snarky little pre-team one time I

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asked him why why are you the first

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person why do you lead the charge in

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that regard he goes you have no idea

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how badly I need the rewards for this

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because you have no idea how badly I

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need the reward for the sadaqah that I

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give subhanallah you see the difference of perspective

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I'm thinking of him as like wow subhanallah

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you're such a pious person you're such a

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righteous person you're giving so much money wow

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you pray so much you go to the

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masjid so much you do this and that

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the human being when they see that they

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get impressed by piety but the true pious

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person who's engaging in those actions they think

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of themselves as extremely faulty like wow I

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need this you think of me as pious

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no no no I'm an extremely sinful person

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I'm doing all of this because I need

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Allah's mercy and his reward so he says

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he says he says that this is an

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example of gratitude when a person wakes up

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and they make tahajjud they pray tahajjud and

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then they spend the last few moments of

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the late evening early morning doing istighfar it's

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out of shukr to Allah should I not

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be a grateful servant think about how many

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things in your life that you have to

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thank Allah for right now think about that

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weird kind of missed blessing in your life

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that goes ignored or neglected it could be

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just like as simple as water it could

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be as simple as eating a meal before

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I left the home today to come to

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roots to partake in soul food I was

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sitting with my wife and my daughter and

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my wife was asking me what do you

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want to eat tomorrow for dinner and I

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remember telling her yeah I don't care whatever

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you feel like I'm good with it and

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she goes it's so difficult to think about

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what to make for dinner and I paused

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for a second I said the difficulty for

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us is to think about what to choose

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to eat for dinner you know those phrases

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you say that if you say it enough

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it sounds weird like that word that sounds

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weird if you say it over and over

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again it's difficult for us to choose what

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we want for dinner that's such a strange

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statement there's certain people in the dunya right

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now as we exist in the same planet

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that are mixing together water and like wheat

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to put together something that resembles bread that's

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like hard and it's hurting the teeth and

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the mouth but they have no choice and

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sometimes we're over here and we're like chicken

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or beef you know shrimp or chicken we're

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thinking of so many things and so many

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options and we don't realize to ourselves that

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these are not normal things these are not

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normal things we have normalized things that are

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extremely luxurious y'all and Allah Subhanahu wa

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ta'ala is not telling us to like

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take that away from yourselves no no no

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be hungry, be thirsty be in misery, no

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no no Allah is not saying any of

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that Allah is just saying whatever you engage

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in just acknowledge it as a blessing in

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your life don't ever lie to yourself and

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tell yourself that wow this is so normal

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no no no it's not normal it's not

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normal so he says shukran and then he

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says finally an ayah of the Quran and

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these same people they pray for forgiveness in

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the early hours of the morning just merely

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out of the remembrance of Allah Subhanahu wa

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ta'ala they don't even know what they're

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asking Allah for forgiveness for they're just sitting

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and saying Allah have you guys ever done

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that before you don't really know what to

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say you're just kind of sitting there doing

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dhikr Subhanallah Astaghfirullah Astaghfirullah Allahu Akbar by

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the way sometimes we forget it's because of

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the inshallah becoming a synonym for maybe Alhamdulillah

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becoming a synonym for great we've synonymized a

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lot of things in terms of our Arabic

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but the reality is we forget that Allahu

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Akbar doesn't just mean something random Allahu Akbar

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is actually a form of dua right Astaghfirullah

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is a form of dua Audhu Billah is

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a form of dua you are asking Allah

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for certain things when you say Astaghfirullah you're

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literally saying to Allah I seek forgiveness within

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you all forgiveness is from you Audhu Billah

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oh Allah I ask you to protect me

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those aren't just random phrases you're asking at

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that moment so what Allah is describing here

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as dhikr is a person who is saying

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the same things that a person who is

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asking for forgiveness for but they are so

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in love with Allah that they just want

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to mention his name they want to keep

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Allah's name within their heart upon the tongue

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they can't live a day without mentioning Allah

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it's something to behold actually how many times

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in our days do we mention Allah's name

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do we go a full day without saying

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the name Allah do we go a full

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day without saying the phrase Allahu Akbar do

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we go a full day without saying the

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phrase Audhu Billah Astaghfirullah Subhanallah Walhamdulillah do we

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allow ourselves to do that or are we

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people who sincerely we are so so we

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are so beloved and we love Allah subhanahu

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wa ta'ala so much that we can't

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think it's like waking up and I'm sure

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everybody in here in their phone they have

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that one friend that they have that iMessage

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streak with like one day does not go

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by without us communicating on some level it's

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like the snap streak it's like a thing

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in like Jeddah like all these people Snapchat

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but it's like think about this it's like

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literally like an iMessage streak right like you

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have like a streak of days where you're

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constantly in communication with this one person and

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if that one friend y'all ever get

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like weird panicky if that one friend doesn't

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text you for like a full day you're

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like are they dead should I check on

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them like are they okay like are they

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passed out did they not get their chicken

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nuggets last night like should I do something

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what's their location right like we panic we

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panic now imagine if we do not have

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that same feeling when it comes to our

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creator we don't panic when we don't say

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Allah's name in one full day we don't

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panic when we don't say Allahu Akbar one

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full day may Allah protect us from that

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everyone say Ameen so then Imam Al Ghazali

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he then continues on he says something beautiful

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he says for the Prophet he said ثلاثة

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أصوات يحبها الله يحبها الله there are three

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voices three voices three noises that are beloved

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to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala ready for

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this this is beautiful he says the first

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one is the voice of the rooster that

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wakes up people in the morning very beautiful

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statement by the way if you think about

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it you're like what are the most beloved

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voices to Allah they're like oh yeah somebody

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who like does dhikr somebody who prays the

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first thing the Prophet says the voice of

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the rooster the voice of the chicken that

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wakes somebody up in the morning you're like

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wait what why in fact there's actually a

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Bukhari hadith I want everyone to look this

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up inshallah when you have time tonight look

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up a hadith in Sahih Bukhari that talks

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about the virtues of a rooster very random

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by the way you're like wait what a

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rooster is annoying makes loud sounds why would

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that be virtuous they actually say this is

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not they this is the Prophet the Prophet

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he said that when a rooster crows especially

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in the evening is because they've seen an

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angel in their presence they've seen an angel

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in their presence this animal is beloved to

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Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala why because it

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senses purity around it and also the scholars

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they also elaborate and they say this animal

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is beloved to Allah because this animal actually

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is so biologically programmed by Allah that they

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begin their mornings by proclaiming something that signifies

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the start of their day it's not like

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you you wake up in the morning and

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you're wiping off the Dorito crumbs from last

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night away from your face you fell asleep

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with your phone on your face so now

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you have this imprint of a 5 by

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2.5 screen you wake up and you

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go to the bathroom and you're like oh

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my god what happened to my hair overnight

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I don't even think this is possible who

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is that person in the mirror we look

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like messes in the morning anybody not a

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morning person in here definitely not morning people

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so you wake up in the morning and

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you look like when you look in the

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mirror you're like you ask Allah for protection

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from whatever that is so this animal is

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beloved to Allah because they wake up with

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the remembrance of Allah that it is a

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blessing from Allah that we're able to start

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this new day subhanallah and then he says

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the second most beloved noise to Allah is

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the noise or the voice of a person

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who recites the Quran anyone know the rewards

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of those who recite Quran can you imagine

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this by the way I think a lot

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of times we do a huge disservice whenever

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we recite Quran and we think to ourselves

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that I'm just reading a book you're actually

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reading the same words that were stated by

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Jibreel to the Prophet 1600 years ago I

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just want you guys to imagine this when

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you're reading the Quran it is not just

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Arabic words when you recite you are reciting

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things that Allah told Jibreel to tell the

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Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam these are the words

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of God and when a person the Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam says when a person struggles

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with it they get Ajran two rewards, why?

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because sometimes Shaitan comes to a person they

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say wow you're so bad at this you

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should just leave it anybody ever felt that

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before?

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you're like I just can't you hear the

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Hafith next to you doing the back and

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forth movement you're like oh gosh you're nowhere

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near that level for you Lahum Ajran just

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know that Allah has reserved twice the amount

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of reward for you if you struggle there's

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a beautiful reward for people that struggle in

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this Deen guys Allah does not want you

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to be perfect Allah wants you just to

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try just to try that's all it is

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and Allah will reward you according to how

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much you try if you care and you

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try Allah will take care of you care

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for Allah and Allah will take care of

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you that's the second the third Imam Al

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Ghazali he says the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam

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says the voice of a person who asks

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Allah for forgiveness the voice of a person

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who asks Allah for forgiveness they're not shy

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in asking Allah for what they need then

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Imam Al Ghazali he continues and he says

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there's a famous famous scholar by the name

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of Sufyan Al Thawri he says Allah the

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exalted has created a wind a breeze a

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breeze Allah has created a breeze that blows

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in the early hours of the morning it

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blows in the early parts of the morning

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y'all know that early have you ever

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walked in the morning before by the way

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go walk in the morning now it's like

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amazing y'all know like that Jahannam weather

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back in like July when you used to

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wake up at like 8am and it was

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still 98 degrees outside like why did I

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open this oven door right now mashallah when

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you go outside and walk what is it

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it's like 65 now in the mornings right

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it's amazing by the way I encourage everyone

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to do this sometimes you feel that slight

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breeze I know I'm going to sound a

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little dramatic here but doesn't that breeze in

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the fall in the morning feel a little

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bit heavenly it does it really does like

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it's not it's not frigid it's not like

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the February breeze that like hits you like

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a sharp knife that breeze in October when

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it hits you in the morning it's like

00:28:38 --> 00:28:40

oh my gosh like how do I bottle

00:28:40 --> 00:28:42

that just carry it around with me it's

00:28:42 --> 00:28:46

like air conditioning right so Sufiana Thoudy he

00:28:46 --> 00:28:48

says that Allah sends a specific breeze in

00:28:48 --> 00:28:51

the morning and this breeze is filled with

00:28:51 --> 00:28:54

so much rahma so much mercy and he

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says that this breeze it carries the dhikr

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of the one who makes istighfar to Allah

00:29:03 --> 00:29:07

subhanahu wa ta'ala the reason why that

00:29:07 --> 00:29:09

breeze feels so good is because it is

00:29:09 --> 00:29:12

taking your dhikr of Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:29:12 --> 00:29:14

'ala to him now obviously we don't take

00:29:14 --> 00:29:17

this like literally right because your dhikr your

00:29:17 --> 00:29:21

Quran cannot be carried literally physically but Sufiana

00:29:21 --> 00:29:22

Thoudy is trying to get you to kind

00:29:22 --> 00:29:25

of appreciate things like the beauty of that

00:29:25 --> 00:29:28

breeze there's meaning to it how many of

00:29:28 --> 00:29:29

y'all have ever seen something in nature

00:29:29 --> 00:29:32

and you began to just remember Allah you

00:29:32 --> 00:29:35

ever saw like the ocean you saw mountains

00:29:35 --> 00:29:38

you saw like rolling hills you've seen like

00:29:38 --> 00:29:42

beautiful waterfalls you've seen like you know extremely

00:29:42 --> 00:29:45

amazing scenery in your life and you can't

00:29:45 --> 00:29:46

help but think about Allah you're like wow

00:29:46 --> 00:29:49

this is incredible anybody ever in here get

00:29:49 --> 00:29:50

frustrated about trying to take a picture of

00:29:50 --> 00:29:52

something that looks so cool in person but

00:29:52 --> 00:29:53

when you take a picture of it it

00:29:53 --> 00:29:56

looks like absolute filth particularly like the moon

00:29:56 --> 00:29:59

right I know for a fact that y

00:29:59 --> 00:30:00

'all been driving late at night sometimes and

00:30:00 --> 00:30:03

you're like the moon subhanallah it's beautiful it's

00:30:03 --> 00:30:06

like bigger than the entire earth and then

00:30:06 --> 00:30:07

you take your iPhone out and it looks

00:30:07 --> 00:30:10

like this you're like wait am I looking

00:30:10 --> 00:30:11

at two different things like what's going on

00:30:11 --> 00:30:12

with me like am I going through an

00:30:12 --> 00:30:16

episode no you're not there are certain things

00:30:16 --> 00:30:18

in the dunya that you're actually just supposed

00:30:18 --> 00:30:19

to appreciate with your own eyes that were

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given to you just put the camera away

00:30:22 --> 00:30:26

put the camera away appreciate Allah for what

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he is and try to appreciate his blessings

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with your eyes think about a place where

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you've gone to that has smelled incredible you

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know Medina anyone been to Medina before or

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even Mecca and you've done sajdah on that

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carpet dude you can't describe it I've tried

00:30:43 --> 00:30:45

by the way I've tried I've tried to

00:30:45 --> 00:30:46

capture it in bottles and like taking it

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with me from some random Arab guy that

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tried to sell it to me from like

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the Hilton next door and I'm just like

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it doesn't smell the same there's something special

00:30:53 --> 00:30:54

about it you know what one of my

00:30:54 --> 00:30:56

teachers told me by the way he said

00:30:56 --> 00:30:57

you'll never be able to capture the smell

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of the carpets of Medina because the carpets

00:31:00 --> 00:31:02

of Medina are also scented by the foreheads

00:31:02 --> 00:31:07

of the Muslims that pray there yeah they

00:31:07 --> 00:31:08

spray their perfume on there on the carpets

00:31:08 --> 00:31:10

to make it smell good but you can't

00:31:10 --> 00:31:12

replicate the smell of millions of people who

00:31:12 --> 00:31:14

pray and they say subhanAllah on those carpets

00:31:14 --> 00:31:18

you can't capture that there are certain things

00:31:18 --> 00:31:20

you can't capture how do you how do

00:31:20 --> 00:31:22

you how do you bottle up like a

00:31:22 --> 00:31:24

sound that you heard right you know like

00:31:24 --> 00:31:26

people have like there's like apps nowadays like

00:31:26 --> 00:31:28

you know like Spotify has like playlists about

00:31:28 --> 00:31:31

like peaceful noises you study right like birds

00:31:31 --> 00:31:33

chirping and like waves crashing on rocks and

00:31:33 --> 00:31:35

all these different things and you're like yeah

00:31:35 --> 00:31:38

it's cool but like I heard it live

00:31:38 --> 00:31:42

right I remember what that sounded like I

00:31:42 --> 00:31:45

remember what that river sounded like you can't

00:31:45 --> 00:31:49

replicate that so Sufiyana Thoudi he's saying that

00:31:49 --> 00:31:51

this breeze from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala

00:31:51 --> 00:31:52

it carries up to Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:31:52 --> 00:31:57

'ala your dhikr okay and then subhanAllah very

00:31:57 --> 00:32:02

beautifully it also says he also said in

00:32:02 --> 00:32:05

the early hours of the night a caller

00:32:05 --> 00:32:11

from under the throne okay in the early

00:32:11 --> 00:32:15

part of the evening okay a caller from

00:32:15 --> 00:32:19

under the throne calls out they say let

00:32:19 --> 00:32:23

the worshippers rise and the worshippers the true

00:32:23 --> 00:32:25

worshippers of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala they

00:32:25 --> 00:32:33

will get up they will get up and

00:32:33 --> 00:32:35

they will pray to Allah subhanahu wa ta

00:32:35 --> 00:32:38

'ala by the way can I tell you

00:32:38 --> 00:32:40

guys something scary subhanAllah this is a really

00:32:40 --> 00:32:45

crazy like spirituality check how do we feel

00:32:45 --> 00:32:49

when we hear the call to prayer within

00:32:49 --> 00:32:52

our hearts you know like when we're busy

00:32:52 --> 00:32:54

busy in the day doing things and we

00:32:54 --> 00:32:58

hear the adhan how do we feel how

00:32:58 --> 00:33:02

do we feel do we feel like I'm

00:33:02 --> 00:33:03

gonna stop what I'm doing now and like

00:33:03 --> 00:33:06

pray or when we hear the adhan we're

00:33:06 --> 00:33:09

like yes I can take a break from

00:33:09 --> 00:33:11

what I'm doing to pray those are two

00:33:11 --> 00:33:13

very different reactions by the way y'all

00:33:13 --> 00:33:17

feel me like one person is like yes

00:33:17 --> 00:33:18

I'm excited I told you guys a story

00:33:18 --> 00:33:20

like months ago about the store owner when

00:33:20 --> 00:33:22

I was in Medina as soon as the

00:33:22 --> 00:33:24

adhan went off him and his Dunkin Donuts

00:33:24 --> 00:33:28

were done he like he put that chain

00:33:28 --> 00:33:30

fence in front of his door like before

00:33:30 --> 00:33:32

the adhan could even get to its second

00:33:32 --> 00:33:35

like phrase like the mu'adhin said Allahu

00:33:35 --> 00:33:37

Akbar didn't even say the second Allahu Akbar

00:33:37 --> 00:33:37

the guy was like alright I'm done here

00:33:39 --> 00:33:41

but we are like no no no man

00:33:41 --> 00:33:45

like one more episode like one more episode

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

I can just do one more episode before

00:33:47 --> 00:33:49

I pray no no no I can do

00:33:49 --> 00:33:51

like 10 minutes more of like this phone

00:33:51 --> 00:33:55

call before I hang up and pray dude

00:33:55 --> 00:34:00

there are volumes written about people and how

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

they react to the call of Allah subhanahu

00:34:02 --> 00:34:06

wa ta'ala when Allah's name is mentioned

00:34:06 --> 00:34:10

Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar do we just get

00:34:10 --> 00:34:14

uncomfortable and get annoyed and get irritated or

00:34:14 --> 00:34:18

are we people who say Alhamdulillah that Allah

00:34:18 --> 00:34:21

subhanahu wa ta'ala is allowing me to

00:34:21 --> 00:34:23

take a break from my day to pray

00:34:23 --> 00:34:26

to him so he says when these people

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

are called they will get up and they

00:34:28 --> 00:34:32

will immediately run to their salah okay and

00:34:32 --> 00:34:35

then at that point a caller will call

00:34:35 --> 00:34:38

let those who pray for forgiveness arise and

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

they will get up and they will seek

00:34:40 --> 00:34:42

for forgiveness they will seek forgiveness of Allah

00:34:42 --> 00:34:44

subhanahu wa ta'ala these people will get

00:34:44 --> 00:34:47

up is there anybody who is going to

00:34:47 --> 00:34:49

ask me for forgiveness those people will stand

00:34:49 --> 00:34:50

up and they will answer the call of

00:34:50 --> 00:34:52

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala but they will

00:34:52 --> 00:34:53

say I don't want to ever miss Allah's

00:34:53 --> 00:34:57

call then check this out the last group

00:34:57 --> 00:35:04

of people okay the last a person at

00:35:04 --> 00:35:09

dawn will call and they will say oh

00:35:09 --> 00:35:18

people who are heedless wake up those who

00:35:18 --> 00:35:21

are heedless get up get up those who

00:35:21 --> 00:35:32

are forgetful get up wow

00:35:32 --> 00:35:35

that's a powerful line that he said and

00:35:35 --> 00:35:37

they will get up from their beds as

00:35:37 --> 00:35:43

the dead are resurrected from their graves meaning

00:35:43 --> 00:35:46

that these people will not get up like

00:35:46 --> 00:35:51

everybody else they will love their sleep they

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

will love their comfort they will love their

00:35:53 --> 00:35:55

luxury and their leisure and they'll get up

00:35:55 --> 00:35:58

last after everybody you know those people who

00:35:58 --> 00:35:59

are like late to a sale y'all

00:35:59 --> 00:36:00

ever been to late to a sale before

00:36:00 --> 00:36:03

at a store everybody else has that pre

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

-order in right my wife just told me

00:36:05 --> 00:36:07

that she's super late to like the vela

00:36:07 --> 00:36:09

watercolor hijab fad and she's like is there

00:36:09 --> 00:36:10

any left I'm like I don't know I've

00:36:10 --> 00:36:12

heard people talking about this for like months

00:36:12 --> 00:36:14

I have no idea and she was like

00:36:14 --> 00:36:15

oh my god I think I missed it

00:36:15 --> 00:36:17

I think they all had to stop and

00:36:17 --> 00:36:20

I'm like man subhanallah like you know when

00:36:20 --> 00:36:22

it comes to so many things in our

00:36:22 --> 00:36:23

lives we're like the first people to put

00:36:23 --> 00:36:25

our email addresses in like get me the

00:36:25 --> 00:36:27

notification when something comes out how many of

00:36:27 --> 00:36:29

us done that right you like done that

00:36:29 --> 00:36:30

with like flights and like other things in

00:36:30 --> 00:36:31

your life like if there's like a ticket

00:36:31 --> 00:36:34

that's on sale it's on pre-sale like

00:36:34 --> 00:36:35

you let me know when it's up and

00:36:35 --> 00:36:37

going so I get a notification before anybody

00:36:37 --> 00:36:39

else so I can buy it guys think

00:36:39 --> 00:36:40

about how people go insane when like a

00:36:40 --> 00:36:43

new iPhone is dropped right I've seen people

00:36:43 --> 00:36:49

literally like they'll refresh refresh refresh refresh so

00:36:49 --> 00:36:52

they don't lose out on buying something they're

00:36:52 --> 00:36:56

constantly refreshing but when it comes to like

00:36:56 --> 00:36:59

stuff they're like yeah I'm okay just kind

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

of like being the last in line to

00:37:01 --> 00:37:04

get in I actually you know saw this

00:37:04 --> 00:37:05

in person can I tell you guys a

00:37:05 --> 00:37:08

story it's actually fascinating I always have this

00:37:08 --> 00:37:10

core memory alhamdulillah and it actually happened this

00:37:10 --> 00:37:14

past year for me this core memory of

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

Umrah alhamdulillah rabbil alameen I don't take this

00:37:16 --> 00:37:19

for granted any day of my life Allah

00:37:19 --> 00:37:21

has allowed me to do Umrah almost every

00:37:21 --> 00:37:23

year of my life since 2018 alhamdulillah rabbil

00:37:23 --> 00:37:30

alameen this past year this past year Ustaz

00:37:30 --> 00:37:33

Abdurrahman and I we went together and we

00:37:33 --> 00:37:36

were leading our group with Qalam if anybody's

00:37:36 --> 00:37:37

interested by the way we're going in winter

00:37:37 --> 00:37:40

inshallah together so if you're down and one

00:37:40 --> 00:37:43

evening he texted me and he said hey

00:37:43 --> 00:37:44

do you want to like give it a

00:37:44 --> 00:37:46

shot for like Rawdah anyone know like Rawdah

00:37:46 --> 00:37:49

Rawdah basically is the original Masjid of the

00:37:49 --> 00:37:52

Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam where he used to

00:37:52 --> 00:37:53

pray and lead Salah and everything like that

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

it's a very small area of Masjid al

00:37:55 --> 00:37:57

-Nabawi today it's a very large complex now

00:37:57 --> 00:38:00

mashallah but Rawdah is like the original place

00:38:00 --> 00:38:02

where the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam used to

00:38:02 --> 00:38:04

pray along with his companions alright and it's

00:38:04 --> 00:38:05

actually like color-coded in a different color

00:38:05 --> 00:38:07

than the rest of the Masjid the pillars

00:38:07 --> 00:38:09

they look different the carpeting looks different it's

00:38:09 --> 00:38:11

very very different very unique and it's like

00:38:11 --> 00:38:14

a signature of that Masjid the only catch

00:38:14 --> 00:38:16

is if you want to pray in the

00:38:16 --> 00:38:19

Rawdah nowadays you have to basically like sign

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

in through like an app you have to

00:38:21 --> 00:38:26

like apply okay and basically you you apply

00:38:26 --> 00:38:29

and they tell you that like okay you

00:38:29 --> 00:38:33

are confirmed to stand in line for Rawdah

00:38:33 --> 00:38:36

at this time of the day okay so

00:38:36 --> 00:38:37

me and Asadur Rahman were like you know

00:38:37 --> 00:38:38

let's give it a shot let's try it

00:38:38 --> 00:38:41

inshallah okay so we stood in line and

00:38:41 --> 00:38:44

I remember just being in the back of

00:38:44 --> 00:38:46

the line that night it was after Salat

00:38:46 --> 00:38:51

al Maghrib and we got in line and

00:38:51 --> 00:38:54

we were like so far behind and there's

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

certain people who like came up to the

00:38:56 --> 00:38:59

officer who was like letting people in into

00:38:59 --> 00:39:01

like the waiting area and like the QR

00:39:01 --> 00:39:02

code that they had was messed up and

00:39:02 --> 00:39:04

so they were like turning certain people away

00:39:05 --> 00:39:06

so me and Asadur Rahman got up there

00:39:06 --> 00:39:08

we were sharing one QR code which you

00:39:08 --> 00:39:11

should never do but we shared one QR

00:39:11 --> 00:39:12

code together and we just kind of screenshotted

00:39:12 --> 00:39:16

it and we basically like after like 10

00:39:16 --> 00:39:18

minutes 15 minutes 20 minutes we finally made

00:39:18 --> 00:39:20

it up to like the front part of

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

the line and at that moment like Asadur

00:39:22 --> 00:39:24

Rahman he got in so he got in

00:39:24 --> 00:39:27

pretty fast and then I was the second

00:39:27 --> 00:39:30

one up and the guard like shot daggers

00:39:30 --> 00:39:31

at me I was like what is this

00:39:31 --> 00:39:33

guy looking at me like this for right

00:39:33 --> 00:39:35

he looked down up at me and then

00:39:35 --> 00:39:38

he was like okay by the way like

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

all the guards in like Saudia like they

00:39:40 --> 00:39:41

act like they hate you okay I'm like

00:39:41 --> 00:39:43

I'm sorry that I'm praying in the Prophet's

00:39:43 --> 00:39:45

mosque if this inconveniences you in any way

00:39:45 --> 00:39:47

so I got so Asadur Rahman got in

00:39:47 --> 00:39:50

then Alhamdulillah I got in and they took

00:39:50 --> 00:39:51

us to like this kind of like waiting

00:39:51 --> 00:39:54

area like outside of the Rawdah in like

00:39:54 --> 00:39:57

the main courtyard of the masjid and everybody

00:39:57 --> 00:39:59

was sitting there and everybody was like going

00:39:59 --> 00:40:01

back and forth like doing dhikr of Allah

00:40:01 --> 00:40:02

subhanahu wa ta'ala they were doing their

00:40:02 --> 00:40:05

sunnah before Asadur Rahman etc etc and me

00:40:05 --> 00:40:06

and Abdurrahman were there and we're just like

00:40:07 --> 00:40:09

let's just let's just see what happens here

00:40:09 --> 00:40:10

I don't know I don't know if we're

00:40:10 --> 00:40:11

gonna get in and by the way if

00:40:11 --> 00:40:15

you get into the Rawdah it they might

00:40:15 --> 00:40:17

give you like 7 to 10 minutes maximum

00:40:17 --> 00:40:20

nothing more and not only that you'll be

00:40:20 --> 00:40:22

dragged by this random like Saudia guard and

00:40:22 --> 00:40:23

be like hey get out you're done right

00:40:23 --> 00:40:24

it's like a very it's like the most

00:40:24 --> 00:40:26

spiritually unspiritual experience of all time it's very

00:40:26 --> 00:40:31

weird and so all of a sudden like

00:40:31 --> 00:40:34

the line they let in by rows so

00:40:34 --> 00:40:36

there's like a giant courtyard of like 6,

00:40:36 --> 00:40:38

7, 8 rows and then they let one

00:40:38 --> 00:40:40

row in 10 minutes then they leave other

00:40:40 --> 00:40:42

row in leave 10 minutes so we were

00:40:42 --> 00:40:45

like the 5th or 6th row wallahi I

00:40:45 --> 00:40:49

kid you not as soon as they called

00:40:49 --> 00:40:51

the Adhan for Salatul Isha we were the

00:40:51 --> 00:40:53

row that was about to get in okay

00:40:55 --> 00:40:57

and I remember I was like I looked

00:40:57 --> 00:40:59

at next to me to him and I

00:40:59 --> 00:41:02

said are we gonna be able to like

00:41:02 --> 00:41:03

go in and pray Isha there?

00:41:03 --> 00:41:05

He's like I don't know man I don't

00:41:05 --> 00:41:07

know let's just keep trying and so at

00:41:07 --> 00:41:11

the very end it was our turn to

00:41:11 --> 00:41:13

go in and the Adhan was called but

00:41:13 --> 00:41:16

then obviously there is the Iqamah right and

00:41:16 --> 00:41:18

the Iqamah means that it's actually the time

00:41:18 --> 00:41:21

for the congregational prayer so the Adhan gets

00:41:21 --> 00:41:24

called and Alhamdulillah like we get in okay

00:41:24 --> 00:41:26

so we get in we get a spot

00:41:26 --> 00:41:31

in the rowdah we're making insane dua that

00:41:31 --> 00:41:33

we don't have to leave before the Iqamah

00:41:33 --> 00:41:34

is called because what happens if the Iqamah

00:41:34 --> 00:41:35

is called?

00:41:35 --> 00:41:37

You're there for Isha you're gonna pray Isha

00:41:37 --> 00:41:39

in the rowdah okay so I'm just like

00:41:39 --> 00:41:40

alright man we've been here for like 3

00:41:40 --> 00:41:41

minutes 4 minutes man where the heck is

00:41:41 --> 00:41:44

this Iqamah guy right like where's the Iqamah

00:41:44 --> 00:41:44

guy?

00:41:45 --> 00:41:47

Tell him to give the Iqamah fast and

00:41:47 --> 00:41:52

so Alhamdulillah on our like 8th minute like

00:41:52 --> 00:41:53

a minute before they were about to ask

00:41:53 --> 00:41:55

us to leave so the other group can

00:41:55 --> 00:41:57

come in the Mu'adhin gets up and

00:41:57 --> 00:42:02

he goes Allahu Akbar Allahu Akbar I kid

00:42:02 --> 00:42:08

you guys not Alhamdulillah you know when a

00:42:08 --> 00:42:10

person goes to Umrah several times sometimes your

00:42:10 --> 00:42:12

reaction when you go to Umrah is different

00:42:12 --> 00:42:13

like the first time you cry the second

00:42:13 --> 00:42:16

time you're happy that you're there the third

00:42:16 --> 00:42:19

time you're happy that you're there this time

00:42:19 --> 00:42:23

I could not help but absolutely break down

00:42:23 --> 00:42:27

into tears because I didn't even think that

00:42:27 --> 00:42:29

I was going to pray in the Prophet's

00:42:29 --> 00:42:31

rowdah that evening and not only was I

00:42:31 --> 00:42:33

able to but I stayed in there for

00:42:33 --> 00:42:36

about 25 minutes almost half an hour and

00:42:36 --> 00:42:39

we got to pray Isha in there and

00:42:39 --> 00:42:42

I'm telling you guys I would not have

00:42:42 --> 00:42:45

done that if Abdurrahman did not text me

00:42:45 --> 00:42:47

earlier that day and say hey do you

00:42:47 --> 00:42:49

want to try rowdah tonight between Maghrib and

00:42:49 --> 00:42:51

Isha we'll just try it how many times

00:42:51 --> 00:42:54

how many times do we get those opportunities

00:42:54 --> 00:42:56

and again that's like a bigger picture more

00:42:56 --> 00:42:58

grandiose kind of example but how many times

00:42:58 --> 00:43:01

do we get these smaller opportunities and we

00:43:01 --> 00:43:03

turn them down like a friend will hit

00:43:03 --> 00:43:04

you up and be like hey do you

00:43:04 --> 00:43:04

want to go to Roots tonight and you're

00:43:04 --> 00:43:08

like I don't know man like you know

00:43:08 --> 00:43:12

I'm tired I didn't eat today I don't

00:43:12 --> 00:43:15

know if I feel like it what if

00:43:16 --> 00:43:19

that Monday night heart work or that Wednesday

00:43:19 --> 00:43:22

night or that Thursday night soul food what

00:43:22 --> 00:43:25

if that was your final time stepping in

00:43:25 --> 00:43:29

here what if think about this and this

00:43:29 --> 00:43:31

is kind of an emotional point here but

00:43:31 --> 00:43:33

imagine like your mother texts you one night

00:43:33 --> 00:43:34

and she's like hey do you want to

00:43:34 --> 00:43:37

have dinner with me tonight how do you

00:43:37 --> 00:43:39

know that that was not the final text

00:43:39 --> 00:43:40

message that your mother would ever send you

00:43:41 --> 00:43:43

and we're like no I don't feel like

00:43:43 --> 00:43:44

it man I'm just going to kind of

00:43:44 --> 00:43:46

hang out by myself how many times do

00:43:46 --> 00:43:49

we pass up on these opportunities where we

00:43:49 --> 00:43:52

are called by goodness but we pass it

00:43:52 --> 00:43:56

up because we think that we're busier or

00:43:56 --> 00:43:58

we have better things to do or we

00:43:58 --> 00:44:00

just don't have enough energy I'm telling you

00:44:00 --> 00:44:03

guys there's a time to sleep and there's

00:44:03 --> 00:44:05

a time to take advantage of these opportunities

00:44:06 --> 00:44:10

when something good comes up the prophet would

00:44:10 --> 00:44:15

never give up an opportunity to do some

00:44:15 --> 00:44:18

sort of khair even if it's small even

00:44:18 --> 00:44:21

if it's small the call to adhan comes

00:44:21 --> 00:44:24

in don't ever flee from that place you

00:44:24 --> 00:44:26

never know when you're going to hear another

00:44:26 --> 00:44:30

adhan again in your life when somebody's reciting

00:44:31 --> 00:44:34

don't just walk away like it's nothing stop

00:44:34 --> 00:44:37

and listen for even just a few seconds

00:44:38 --> 00:44:39

you don't know if you're going to hear

00:44:39 --> 00:44:42

the Quran after that moment you get that

00:44:42 --> 00:44:44

phone call from your mom pick up that

00:44:44 --> 00:44:46

phone call I'm telling you pick up that

00:44:46 --> 00:44:50

phone call you do not know if that

00:44:50 --> 00:44:54

phone call will ever come in again I

00:44:54 --> 00:44:56

was hearing this story from one of my

00:44:56 --> 00:44:59

teachers yesterday where he was talking about the

00:44:59 --> 00:45:02

crunch for time and how human beings are

00:45:02 --> 00:45:04

always at a loss for time he said

00:45:04 --> 00:45:07

that a person called him like frantically calling

00:45:07 --> 00:45:08

him and he was like no no I'm

00:45:08 --> 00:45:10

actually so caught up in other things that

00:45:10 --> 00:45:12

I couldn't make his call and then subhanAllah

00:45:12 --> 00:45:15

check this he said when I called that

00:45:15 --> 00:45:17

person back later that day they actually said

00:45:18 --> 00:45:21

what I needed you for is actually over

00:45:21 --> 00:45:22

now what was that need that you needed

00:45:22 --> 00:45:26

he said my father was in the hospital

00:45:26 --> 00:45:28

and he was in a serious life death

00:45:28 --> 00:45:31

situation and I needed to know your opinion

00:45:31 --> 00:45:36

about something but he actually passed away and

00:45:36 --> 00:45:38

my teacher he said I've never felt that

00:45:38 --> 00:45:40

pit in my stomach in my life like

00:45:40 --> 00:45:44

that we think to ourselves that yeah this

00:45:44 --> 00:45:45

opportunity is going to come around again at

00:45:45 --> 00:45:48

some point we don't know that guys we

00:45:48 --> 00:45:49

have no idea that that's going to happen

00:45:50 --> 00:45:54

continue to inshaAllah take advantage of every opportunity

00:45:54 --> 00:45:56

that you're given rise when Allah subhanahu wa

00:45:56 --> 00:45:59

ta'ala calls you answer the call when

00:45:59 --> 00:46:01

somebody of goodness calls you be there inshaAllah

00:46:01 --> 00:46:03

so that you don't regret later on you

00:46:03 --> 00:46:05

don't want to have that in Arabic it's

00:46:05 --> 00:46:08

called hasr sadness, regret, remorse you don't want

00:46:08 --> 00:46:09

to have that remorse at the end of

00:46:09 --> 00:46:12

your life you want to have that happiness

00:46:12 --> 00:46:14

that you answered whenever it was time for

00:46:14 --> 00:46:16

you to answer it so inshaAllah we'll wrap

00:46:16 --> 00:46:18

up with that we ask Allah subhanahu wa

00:46:18 --> 00:46:20

ta'ala to bless us inshaAllah and allow

00:46:20 --> 00:46:22

us to benefit from these sessions and we

00:46:22 --> 00:46:23

ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make

00:46:23 --> 00:46:27

us of the people who are answering the

00:46:27 --> 00:46:28

call of Allah ta'ala and we ask

00:46:28 --> 00:46:29

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make us

00:46:29 --> 00:46:31

of the people who follow the sunnah of

00:46:31 --> 00:46:34

the Prophet I'm going to go ahead and

00:46:34 --> 00:46:35

put a QR code up on the screen

00:46:35 --> 00:46:38

for you guys inshaAllah and we're going to

00:46:38 --> 00:46:40

do about 10 to 12 minutes of Q

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

&A inshaAllah before we break for Salatul Isha

00:46:42 --> 00:46:43

so I want everyone to get out their

00:46:43 --> 00:46:47

phones inshaAllah you can hover your phone over

00:46:47 --> 00:46:50

the QR code inshaAllah ta'ala and then

00:46:50 --> 00:46:52

we'll hopefully be able to do some really

00:46:52 --> 00:46:56

cool Q&A together oh wait for me?

00:47:01 --> 00:47:03

who's like screaming in the background over there?

00:47:03 --> 00:47:05

let me just check on that person, they're

00:47:05 --> 00:47:09

okay oh is that what it is?

00:47:09 --> 00:47:11

okay alright so the QR code is inshaAllah

00:47:11 --> 00:47:13

on the screen if you guys inshaAllah hover

00:47:13 --> 00:47:19

your phone cameras over the the QR code

00:47:19 --> 00:47:21

then inshaAllah you'll be able to ask the

00:47:21 --> 00:47:33

questions I'll

00:47:33 --> 00:47:34

give everyone like a minute to kind of

00:47:34 --> 00:47:37

submit their questions inshaAllah and then we'll start

00:47:37 --> 00:47:50

answering some of the questions together okay alright

00:48:00 --> 00:48:02

so I'll go ahead inshaAllah and start answering

00:48:02 --> 00:48:07

some of these questions real quick somebody asked

00:48:10 --> 00:48:11

yeah let me go ahead and actually approve

00:48:11 --> 00:48:13

these so that you guys can kind of

00:48:13 --> 00:48:17

see it in the larger questions and then

00:48:17 --> 00:48:18

you can like thumbs them up inshaAllah if

00:48:18 --> 00:48:22

you want to okay so somebody said how

00:48:22 --> 00:48:23

can I make the most of the time

00:48:23 --> 00:48:30

I have left with my father plus my

00:48:30 --> 00:48:33

own health issues are here too I'm having

00:48:33 --> 00:48:36

to take one the role of care and

00:48:36 --> 00:48:41

provider first and foremost may Allah subhanahu wa

00:48:41 --> 00:48:44

ta'ala reward you for taking care of

00:48:44 --> 00:48:46

your parents in such a sincere manner and

00:48:46 --> 00:48:48

may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala relieve your

00:48:48 --> 00:48:51

parents, your father particularly of any sort of

00:48:51 --> 00:48:53

illness that he's going through and Allah give

00:48:53 --> 00:48:58

him shifa everyone say ameen and how do

00:48:58 --> 00:49:01

you balance that one thing that I will

00:49:01 --> 00:49:03

kind of passionately say is that I don't

00:49:03 --> 00:49:05

think anyone at the end of their life

00:49:05 --> 00:49:07

has ever regretted taking care of their parents

00:49:07 --> 00:49:14

you know in the moment that situation may

00:49:14 --> 00:49:16

be extremely testing and trying but when it's

00:49:16 --> 00:49:20

all said and done I think anyone would

00:49:20 --> 00:49:23

say that I am so happy that I

00:49:23 --> 00:49:25

was able to do what I could while

00:49:25 --> 00:49:28

Allah gave me that opportunity because you know

00:49:28 --> 00:49:30

the reality is and this is just kind

00:49:30 --> 00:49:34

of the situation at hand is your parents

00:49:34 --> 00:49:35

you will have to say goodbye to them

00:49:35 --> 00:49:38

at some point in your life right and

00:49:38 --> 00:49:40

there's never a person who usually says that

00:49:40 --> 00:49:42

I did everything correctly with my parents you

00:49:42 --> 00:49:46

always have regrets with your parents right but

00:49:47 --> 00:49:49

what I will say is don't look at

00:49:49 --> 00:49:52

taking care of your father as something that

00:49:52 --> 00:49:56

sacrifices like who you are because whatever you

00:49:56 --> 00:49:58

are doing for your father Allah subhanahu wa

00:49:58 --> 00:50:01

ta'ala may be taking whatever gaps that

00:50:01 --> 00:50:03

you feel like are present in your life

00:50:03 --> 00:50:05

and whatever opportunities you feel you are missing

00:50:05 --> 00:50:08

in your life and Allah will elevate you

00:50:08 --> 00:50:10

to an extent that you will have no

00:50:10 --> 00:50:14

idea subhanAllah like how high Allah has taken

00:50:14 --> 00:50:17

you right when it comes to like your

00:50:17 --> 00:50:20

own like challenges right your own health issues

00:50:20 --> 00:50:22

you know one thing that I will say

00:50:22 --> 00:50:27

is you know make the intention that you

00:50:27 --> 00:50:29

want to take care of your father but

00:50:29 --> 00:50:31

at the same time ask Allah constantly make

00:50:31 --> 00:50:33

dua that Allah relieves him from whatever he's

00:50:33 --> 00:50:35

going through right but what I would just

00:50:35 --> 00:50:38

say is don't everybody in this life by

00:50:38 --> 00:50:40

the way is given a purpose everyone's purpose

00:50:40 --> 00:50:42

is to get to Jannah and to please

00:50:42 --> 00:50:44

Allah now the route to doing that is

00:50:44 --> 00:50:46

going to be different for each and every

00:50:46 --> 00:50:48

single one of you for some of you

00:50:48 --> 00:50:49

is going to be like raising a good

00:50:49 --> 00:50:52

family and raising really amazing children for some

00:50:52 --> 00:50:53

of you it will be taking care of

00:50:53 --> 00:50:55

your parents for some of you it will

00:50:55 --> 00:50:58

just be doing the honor of living a

00:50:58 --> 00:51:00

good life for some of you it may

00:51:00 --> 00:51:03

be fulfilling a certain career a certain passion

00:51:03 --> 00:51:05

that you have that again goes back to

00:51:05 --> 00:51:07

you know being good with Allah subhanahu wa

00:51:07 --> 00:51:09

ta'ala everybody has a different route to

00:51:09 --> 00:51:12

Allah right so whatever route that Allah has

00:51:12 --> 00:51:14

given you one thing that I would share

00:51:14 --> 00:51:17

with you is embrace it embrace that role

00:51:17 --> 00:51:19

that you've been given as much of a

00:51:19 --> 00:51:21

difficulty it may be at some times in

00:51:21 --> 00:51:23

your life and you feel like you're sacrificing

00:51:23 --> 00:51:26

a lot know that everything one day will

00:51:26 --> 00:51:31

pass including this moment and so take advantage

00:51:31 --> 00:51:32

of the moments where Allah gave you time

00:51:32 --> 00:51:34

to take care of the people that you

00:51:34 --> 00:51:37

take care of somebody said how can I

00:51:37 --> 00:51:41

stop just praying out of only habit and

00:51:41 --> 00:51:46

not out of love very good question if

00:51:46 --> 00:51:49

somebody wants to begin to pray out of

00:51:49 --> 00:51:52

habit sorry pray out of love and not

00:51:52 --> 00:51:56

just out of habit one thing that I

00:51:56 --> 00:52:00

would suggest is begin to shift your idea

00:52:00 --> 00:52:02

of what prayer is in the first place

00:52:03 --> 00:52:06

you treat things like habits and chores when

00:52:06 --> 00:52:09

you look at things like chores right so

00:52:09 --> 00:52:11

for example I know this stage of life

00:52:11 --> 00:52:13

that I'm in I know a lot of

00:52:13 --> 00:52:15

dads who like look at like babysitting their

00:52:15 --> 00:52:18

kid as like babysitting their kid so they'll

00:52:18 --> 00:52:20

like avoid like hanging out with their kid

00:52:20 --> 00:52:22

because they're like I'd rather do other things

00:52:22 --> 00:52:27

like sincerely Wallahi honestly every day I look

00:52:27 --> 00:52:30

at my daughter Aya I think to myself

00:52:30 --> 00:52:32

I'm never going to see her at this

00:52:32 --> 00:52:35

stage again but there will be one day

00:52:35 --> 00:52:37

where she's three and the next time she'll

00:52:37 --> 00:52:38

be five the next time she'll be eight

00:52:38 --> 00:52:40

the next time she'll be thirteen I'm never

00:52:40 --> 00:52:41

going to get back two and a half

00:52:41 --> 00:52:43

year old Aya ever again in my life

00:52:44 --> 00:52:48

if I view that as a chore I

00:52:48 --> 00:52:50

will never enjoy that experience ever in my

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

life even through the tantrums even through the

00:52:52 --> 00:52:55

tantrums like I cannot look at this situation

00:52:55 --> 00:52:57

as just a chore in my life redefine

00:52:57 --> 00:52:59

it find out how to make it not

00:52:59 --> 00:53:01

a chore for you find out a way

00:53:01 --> 00:53:03

to make it something that you sincerely love

00:53:03 --> 00:53:05

and that might be your own flavor by

00:53:05 --> 00:53:07

the way that might be your own flavor

00:53:07 --> 00:53:09

that might be your own take on Salah

00:53:09 --> 00:53:11

that your Salah is something that you sincerely

00:53:11 --> 00:53:14

connect with Allah about certain particular things and

00:53:14 --> 00:53:15

that's how you get yourself out of the

00:53:15 --> 00:53:16

funk of thinking of it as like a

00:53:16 --> 00:53:19

task and something that's habitual rather than something

00:53:19 --> 00:53:22

that you love okay very very good there's

00:53:22 --> 00:53:26

a guy who's literally fundraising behind here such

00:53:26 --> 00:53:29

an insane alright how you forgive yourself and

00:53:29 --> 00:53:32

trust Allah no can somebody close that door

00:53:32 --> 00:53:35

Hamza just close it I can't hear a

00:53:35 --> 00:53:36

person yelling at the top of their lungs

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

anymore about who's going to get 5,000

00:53:38 --> 00:53:41

I feel like I've been traumatized by that

00:53:41 --> 00:53:42

statement in my life growing up so I

00:53:42 --> 00:53:46

need to stop it alright so somebody says

00:53:46 --> 00:53:48

how do you forgive yourself and trust Allah

00:53:48 --> 00:53:53

know this Hamza please for the love of

00:53:53 --> 00:53:57

God it's done can you close it again

00:53:57 --> 00:54:01

I think somebody opened it Abdullah please can

00:54:01 --> 00:54:12

you handle Abdullah is the

00:54:12 --> 00:54:15

door closed there's no way that door is

00:54:15 --> 00:54:22

closed I feel like he's going to jump

00:54:22 --> 00:54:24

through the ceiling and ask you guys for

00:54:24 --> 00:54:27

5,000 next I'm actually trying to protect

00:54:27 --> 00:54:31

you all sincerely okay so how do you

00:54:31 --> 00:54:37

forgive yourself and trust Allah know that Allah

00:54:38 --> 00:54:41

may have already forgiven you for something that

00:54:41 --> 00:54:43

you haven't forgiven yourself for just know that

00:54:44 --> 00:54:46

you know the feelings that you have for

00:54:46 --> 00:54:49

yourself and sometimes it's like self hate self

00:54:49 --> 00:54:53

you know disappointment you know self pity whatever

00:54:53 --> 00:54:56

it may be know that Allah does not

00:54:56 --> 00:55:00

hold these feelings for you right so I'm

00:55:00 --> 00:55:02

going to be very honest with you you

00:55:02 --> 00:55:04

can be upset with yourself all you want

00:55:04 --> 00:55:07

to but don't project that sadness on Allah

00:55:07 --> 00:55:10

Allah could have already forgiven you for something

00:55:10 --> 00:55:13

that you still hold yourself accountable for okay

00:55:13 --> 00:55:16

so just be able to differentiate the feelings

00:55:16 --> 00:55:18

that you have for yourself and the feelings

00:55:18 --> 00:55:23

that Allah has for you okay okay the

00:55:23 --> 00:55:26

next question is how can I make okay

00:55:26 --> 00:55:30

so I answered that already I'm struggling to

00:55:30 --> 00:55:31

wake up for Fajr on time even with

00:55:31 --> 00:55:33

alarms what should I do set more alarms

00:55:36 --> 00:55:39

seriously though if this person is asking like

00:55:39 --> 00:55:41

in a sense that like they have trouble

00:55:41 --> 00:55:42

waking up for Fajr on time even with

00:55:42 --> 00:55:44

all the alarms like you sleep through it

00:55:44 --> 00:55:46

then take the next level of precaution and

00:55:46 --> 00:55:47

like ask somebody in your house like wake

00:55:47 --> 00:55:51

you up dude or if you don't want

00:55:51 --> 00:55:53

to do that set your alarm and throw

00:55:53 --> 00:55:54

your phone across the room before you go

00:55:54 --> 00:55:57

to sleep I'm telling you it's crazy it

00:55:57 --> 00:56:03

works miracles okay also another pro tip set

00:56:03 --> 00:56:05

your alarm for like 30 minutes before Fajr

00:56:06 --> 00:56:11

I'm telling you it'll help it'll help how

00:56:11 --> 00:56:12

many times like do we set our alarm

00:56:12 --> 00:56:15

for like 30 minutes before class starts you

00:56:15 --> 00:56:16

get up and you like rush and you're

00:56:16 --> 00:56:19

like in this crazy manic state you're like

00:56:19 --> 00:56:20

trying to figure things out in your life

00:56:20 --> 00:56:23

if I just gotten up like 30 minutes

00:56:23 --> 00:56:24

before that I would have actually been more

00:56:24 --> 00:56:27

ready I would have been prepared right so

00:56:27 --> 00:56:28

set your alarm for like 30 minutes before

00:56:28 --> 00:56:39

Fajr right very very good okay somebody asks

00:56:39 --> 00:56:42

okay I'm going to prove all of these

00:56:42 --> 00:56:43

real quick inshallah so we can answer them

00:56:43 --> 00:56:49

one by one can I pray tahajjud if

00:56:49 --> 00:56:50

I didn't pray all five prayers no no

00:56:50 --> 00:56:52

you should pray your five prayers first you

00:56:52 --> 00:56:54

should pray your five prayers before you engage

00:56:54 --> 00:56:57

in tahajjud inshallah because tahajjud is something that's

00:56:57 --> 00:56:59

called your nafl your nawafil right it's voluntary

00:56:59 --> 00:57:03

it's purgatory you will be asked about your

00:57:03 --> 00:57:06

obligatory first so always pray your obligatory before

00:57:06 --> 00:57:09

you pray your nawafil very good question okay

00:57:09 --> 00:57:11

how do you stop beating yourself up forever

00:57:11 --> 00:57:13

overthinking and any hurtful thing you might have

00:57:13 --> 00:57:16

done to others and forgetting your own needs

00:57:17 --> 00:57:20

this is where I'll be honest with you

00:57:20 --> 00:57:22

guys you have to have tough conversations with

00:57:22 --> 00:57:26

people around you if you feel bad about

00:57:27 --> 00:57:29

overthinking any hurtful things you might have done

00:57:29 --> 00:57:31

to others then you should get into a

00:57:31 --> 00:57:34

very daily or weekly kind of cadence of

00:57:34 --> 00:57:36

just saying to people hey if I ever

00:57:36 --> 00:57:37

if I did something that maybe have been

00:57:37 --> 00:57:41

hurtful please forgive me clear your conscience honestly

00:57:41 --> 00:57:43

ask people for forgiveness as much as you

00:57:43 --> 00:57:46

can okay don't get into the habit of

00:57:46 --> 00:57:48

like yeah you know they'll be fine if

00:57:48 --> 00:57:50

you're truly worried about something that you may

00:57:50 --> 00:57:53

have done then do a daily weekly monthly

00:57:53 --> 00:57:55

whatever it may be and say like you

00:57:55 --> 00:57:56

know if I ever said something to you

00:57:56 --> 00:57:58

we talk a lot but if I ever

00:57:58 --> 00:57:59

said something to you I have a good

00:57:59 --> 00:58:00

friend in my life by the way that

00:58:00 --> 00:58:01

does this all the time they message me

00:58:01 --> 00:58:03

like once every like week and a half

00:58:03 --> 00:58:04

and they're like hey if I said something

00:58:04 --> 00:58:05

to you this week that was like taken

00:58:05 --> 00:58:07

you know in a bad way or in

00:58:07 --> 00:58:09

a hurtful manner I sincerely I'm sorry and

00:58:09 --> 00:58:11

I apologize for that and majority of the

00:58:11 --> 00:58:12

times I'm like yeah there's nothing they have

00:58:12 --> 00:58:14

to apologize for but they do it all

00:58:14 --> 00:58:15

the time because they feel the sense of

00:58:15 --> 00:58:19

responsibility right so inshallah if that's something that

00:58:19 --> 00:58:20

you feel is relevant then inshallah do that

00:58:22 --> 00:58:25

okay as a father of a daughter yourself

00:58:25 --> 00:58:27

is Islam a valid reason for a father

00:58:27 --> 00:58:29

to stop showing affection after their daughter reaches

00:58:29 --> 00:58:34

the age of puberty no no the prophet

00:58:34 --> 00:58:40

would show immense amount of affection for Fatima

00:58:40 --> 00:58:43

his daughter long after she actually hit the

00:58:43 --> 00:58:46

age of puberty when she was married to

00:58:46 --> 00:58:50

Ali he would constantly constantly like show affection

00:58:50 --> 00:58:53

for her kiss her hold her hand walk

00:58:53 --> 00:58:55

her while holding her hand he would basically

00:58:55 --> 00:58:57

walk her to where he would sit and

00:58:57 --> 00:58:59

sit her down in his seat like if

00:58:59 --> 00:59:01

you want to talk about like public displays

00:59:01 --> 00:59:04

of affection the prophet would literally show all

00:59:04 --> 00:59:08

of that to his daughter Fatima okay this

00:59:08 --> 00:59:10

is just something that he used to do

00:59:10 --> 00:59:12

that he used to love I think we

00:59:12 --> 00:59:14

have to really really start differentiating culture from

00:59:14 --> 00:59:17

Islam guys you really have to and if

00:59:17 --> 00:59:19

you're unsure whether something is culture or Islam

00:59:19 --> 00:59:21

you need to ask somebody who has studied

00:59:21 --> 00:59:23

Islam because they'll be able to tell you

00:59:23 --> 00:59:25

and a very wise scholar will tell you

00:59:25 --> 00:59:28

that there is absolutely a difference between the

00:59:28 --> 00:59:31

two can sometimes culture like coincide with Islam

00:59:31 --> 00:59:32

once in a while yes but are they

00:59:32 --> 00:59:33

two separate things at the end of the

00:59:33 --> 00:59:37

day yes yes this has traumatized a lot

00:59:37 --> 00:59:39

of people throughout their life you know the

00:59:39 --> 00:59:41

lack of love in my home and my

00:59:41 --> 00:59:44

family and my parents and even spouses subhanallah

00:59:44 --> 00:59:46

you know like I've had people that it's

00:59:46 --> 00:59:48

really sad I've had people come up to

00:59:48 --> 00:59:49

me and saying like my husband doesn't want

00:59:49 --> 00:59:51

to like hold my hand in public because

00:59:51 --> 00:59:52

he thinks that it's actually un-Islamic I

00:59:52 --> 00:59:56

mean what a tragedy dude what a tragedy

00:59:57 --> 00:59:58

I know some people are laughing but it's

00:59:58 --> 01:00:00

a tragedy man you're talking about the same

01:00:00 --> 01:00:02

religion in which the Prophet raised his wife

01:00:02 --> 01:00:05

Aisha up and down the deserts of Medina

01:00:07 --> 01:00:09

you're talking about the Prophet who actually like

01:00:09 --> 01:00:11

held Aisha on his back she was like

01:00:11 --> 01:00:13

holding onto him and putting her chin on

01:00:13 --> 01:00:15

his shoulder as she was watching Abyssinian dancers

01:00:17 --> 01:00:18

this is the same religion that you're talking

01:00:18 --> 01:00:20

about that you know you can't hold your

01:00:20 --> 01:00:25

spouse's hand in public obviously there's limits you

01:00:25 --> 01:00:26

know you shouldn't be that weird high school

01:00:26 --> 01:00:28

couple that has their foreheads together waiting in

01:00:28 --> 01:00:29

line for that ride like y'all don't

01:00:29 --> 01:00:31

think I'm that tapped into you, you guys

01:00:31 --> 01:00:35

are crazy I'm locked into the internet that

01:00:35 --> 01:00:40

weird couple but at the same time at

01:00:40 --> 01:00:43

the same time this is Islam, Islam allows

01:00:43 --> 01:00:46

for whatever the Prophet used to do right

01:00:46 --> 01:00:51

very very good um why do so many

01:00:51 --> 01:00:52

people feel like they aren't going to ever

01:00:52 --> 01:00:56

find love and feel under deserving and unworthy

01:00:56 --> 01:00:57

can I tell you something?

01:00:57 --> 01:01:01

dunya man, dunya is the worst dunya will

01:01:01 --> 01:01:03

tell you that like by the way let

01:01:03 --> 01:01:06

me tell you something in order for a

01:01:06 --> 01:01:10

person to find confidence in a loving marriage

01:01:11 --> 01:01:14

they must have confidence in who they are

01:01:14 --> 01:01:17

as a person because if not you are

01:01:17 --> 01:01:20

going to bring all your insecurities into that

01:01:20 --> 01:01:22

marriage and it's going to be very challenging

01:01:23 --> 01:01:26

you're going to start thinking about realities that

01:01:26 --> 01:01:29

are actually the farthest thing from reality you're

01:01:29 --> 01:01:30

going to start making up scenarios in your

01:01:30 --> 01:01:34

head that are not near truth right, what

01:01:34 --> 01:01:36

I would say is get away from the

01:01:36 --> 01:01:40

dunya standards and expectations man start going towards

01:01:40 --> 01:01:44

things like being content in terms of who

01:01:44 --> 01:01:46

you are and what you expect from somebody

01:01:47 --> 01:01:51

have candid conversations, the issue is that people

01:01:51 --> 01:01:55

overstep the stage of having good conversations about

01:01:55 --> 01:01:57

a future marriage and they go to all

01:01:57 --> 01:01:59

the fun stuff and like all the lovey

01:01:59 --> 01:02:01

-dovey stuff and they take the baraka straight

01:02:01 --> 01:02:04

out of that relationship right, like the 2am

01:02:04 --> 01:02:07

text messages like hey are you watching rings

01:02:07 --> 01:02:07

of power?

01:02:08 --> 01:02:10

I don't need to know that like, have

01:02:10 --> 01:02:13

good conversations about like, you know, aspirations and

01:02:13 --> 01:02:15

goals and standards and morals like those are

01:02:15 --> 01:02:17

things that you should talk about pre-marriage

01:02:17 --> 01:02:19

right so, think about that a little bit

01:02:19 --> 01:02:24

inshallah, okay next question how do I start

01:02:24 --> 01:02:27

being more private and stop having the urge

01:02:27 --> 01:02:30

to tell everyone my sins or situations, good

01:02:30 --> 01:02:33

question know that a person who hides their

01:02:33 --> 01:02:36

sins at the end of the day actually

01:02:36 --> 01:02:40

are more they're more shameful and they have

01:02:40 --> 01:02:42

more hayat at least they know what they're

01:02:42 --> 01:02:45

doing is wrong right, no one will ever

01:02:45 --> 01:02:47

be able to be sinless, it's impossible, but

01:02:47 --> 01:02:49

a person who hides their sins they hide

01:02:49 --> 01:02:52

and they don't promote it that person has

01:02:52 --> 01:02:55

a level of taqwa, even if they're not

01:02:55 --> 01:02:57

like a perfect person, they understand that I

01:02:57 --> 01:02:59

can't do this publicly, they understand that I

01:02:59 --> 01:03:01

have shame about it whenever I engage in

01:03:01 --> 01:03:02

it it's not something that I'm proud of,

01:03:02 --> 01:03:05

right how do you go about concealing your

01:03:05 --> 01:03:08

sins just be mindful be a person who's

01:03:08 --> 01:03:15

not like an absolute haywan honestly there's a

01:03:15 --> 01:03:18

reason why the prophet used to contrast animals

01:03:18 --> 01:03:19

and human beings a lot you never want

01:03:19 --> 01:03:22

to have animalistic personality traits and characteristics right,

01:03:22 --> 01:03:25

inshallah we learned to avoid that, somebody asked

01:03:25 --> 01:03:30

how do you handle childhood mistakes childhood mistakes

01:03:30 --> 01:03:32

are tough right, because I mean you know

01:03:32 --> 01:03:34

unfortunately we have memory and some of our

01:03:34 --> 01:03:41

memories are very very strong, understand that Allah

01:03:41 --> 01:03:42

has allowed a person to see the next

01:03:42 --> 01:03:45

day because of a very particular reason if

01:03:45 --> 01:03:47

Allah allowed you to see the next day

01:03:47 --> 01:03:48

and continue on with your life there's a

01:03:48 --> 01:03:51

reason behind that continuation it's because Allah wants

01:03:51 --> 01:03:53

you to turn a new leaf if you've

01:03:53 --> 01:03:55

made a mistake as a child obviously if

01:03:55 --> 01:03:57

you're literally a child understand that Islam is

01:03:57 --> 01:03:59

merciful enough to know that a child who

01:03:59 --> 01:04:01

makes a certain mistake they can't be held

01:04:01 --> 01:04:03

accountable for it like an adult would right,

01:04:03 --> 01:04:06

and number two is to know that every

01:04:06 --> 01:04:08

hour, every day that Allah allows you to

01:04:08 --> 01:04:10

live is a moment where you can turn

01:04:10 --> 01:04:14

inshallah a new leaf okay, I often find

01:04:14 --> 01:04:17

myself questioning my sincerity I find that I'm

01:04:17 --> 01:04:19

not sure if I truly mean it, how

01:04:19 --> 01:04:22

can I work on this re-establish your

01:04:22 --> 01:04:26

niyyah multiple times through an action, re-establish

01:04:26 --> 01:04:27

your niyyah multiple times through an action if

01:04:27 --> 01:04:29

it means at the beginning, middle and at

01:04:29 --> 01:04:31

the end so be it, re-establish that

01:04:31 --> 01:04:33

niyyah three times, don't just make a niyyah

01:04:33 --> 01:04:35

once and call it a day, make a

01:04:35 --> 01:04:38

niyyah once twice and thrice convince yourself that

01:04:38 --> 01:04:40

nope this is not why I'm doing this,

01:04:40 --> 01:04:42

I'm doing this for Allah, I'm doing this

01:04:42 --> 01:04:47

for goodness okay let's see do I have

01:04:47 --> 01:04:49

the right to advise someone on something that

01:04:49 --> 01:04:52

I'm also actively trying to work on yes

01:04:53 --> 01:04:58

but be aware right like if I am

01:04:58 --> 01:05:03

like constantly backbiting, I shouldn't be like bismillah

01:05:03 --> 01:05:05

walhamdulillah as-salatu was-salam ala rasulillah like

01:05:05 --> 01:05:08

I shouldn't be giving khutbahs about backbiting but

01:05:08 --> 01:05:10

you can say to that person, by the

01:05:10 --> 01:05:12

way this is something that I'm also sincerely

01:05:12 --> 01:05:14

struggling with so I actually feel that this

01:05:14 --> 01:05:16

advice would be relevant for you and me,

01:05:16 --> 01:05:17

you know that whole tagline of somebody who

01:05:17 --> 01:05:19

says that this is a reminder for myself

01:05:19 --> 01:05:21

before anybody else, that's actually a very good

01:05:21 --> 01:05:23

tagline, because you're proving to yourself that you're

01:05:23 --> 01:05:24

not obsessed with your own ego and your

01:05:24 --> 01:05:27

own arrogance, you're saying I'm giving this advice

01:05:27 --> 01:05:29

because I need this advice more than anybody,

01:05:29 --> 01:05:31

and I've been given this advice by other

01:05:31 --> 01:05:34

people, right, so give advice but be honest

01:05:34 --> 01:05:35

about the things that you're struggling with as

01:05:35 --> 01:05:38

well inshallah, okay last couple questions, we're gonna

01:05:38 --> 01:05:42

quickly kind of finish this off why would

01:05:42 --> 01:05:44

a practicing Muslim avoid conflict or mending situations,

01:05:44 --> 01:05:46

why would someone avoid forgiveness for months honestly

01:05:46 --> 01:05:48

guys, can I tell you something, be merciful

01:05:48 --> 01:05:50

on people, we have no idea what people

01:05:50 --> 01:05:52

are struggling with, I know that for some

01:05:52 --> 01:05:53

people it's easy to go have those hard

01:05:53 --> 01:05:56

conversations but it's not easy for everybody, how

01:05:56 --> 01:05:57

many of you guys feel like you're okay,

01:05:57 --> 01:06:00

like, being conflict like, you know, you're okay

01:06:00 --> 01:06:02

with conflict, like you're okay having those tough

01:06:02 --> 01:06:04

conversations anybody, raise your hands oh my gosh

01:06:04 --> 01:06:07

subhanallah, we have all these attachment avoiding people

01:06:07 --> 01:06:09

in here, okay so how many of you

01:06:09 --> 01:06:11

guys feel that conflict is something that's very

01:06:11 --> 01:06:12

very hard for you to kind of approach,

01:06:12 --> 01:06:14

anybody raise your hands, the rest of you

01:06:14 --> 01:06:16

guys are also complicit because even raising your

01:06:16 --> 01:06:18

hand is challenging for you, so I already

01:06:18 --> 01:06:21

know this okay, so be merciful upon people,

01:06:21 --> 01:06:24

don't judge people that may be, you know

01:06:24 --> 01:06:26

taking their time to having a tough conversation

01:06:26 --> 01:06:28

they may be thinking of a lot of

01:06:28 --> 01:06:30

things and, you know, if you find it

01:06:30 --> 01:06:32

to be easy, a person who's asking this

01:06:32 --> 01:06:33

question, you find it to be easy to

01:06:33 --> 01:06:35

approach conflict, make it easy on the people

01:06:35 --> 01:06:37

around you, don't make it difficult for them,

01:06:37 --> 01:06:39

okay how do I stop feeling my deeds

01:06:39 --> 01:06:41

are not going to get counted even if

01:06:41 --> 01:06:45

my intentions are pure you have to have

01:06:45 --> 01:06:47

confidence in Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala sometimes

01:06:47 --> 01:06:49

we are our own worst enemies guys and

01:06:49 --> 01:06:51

we can't allow ourselves to do that okay,

01:06:51 --> 01:06:53

inshallah, we'll wrap up with that, we ask

01:06:53 --> 01:06:56

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to make our

01:06:56 --> 01:06:58

intentions pure, we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta

01:06:58 --> 01:07:00

'ala to allow us to be people of

01:07:00 --> 01:07:04

sincerity, of ihsan, of excellence, and we ask

01:07:04 --> 01:07:05

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to allow us

01:07:05 --> 01:07:08

to be people who constantly engage in istighfar

01:07:08 --> 01:07:10

and tawbah, we ask Allah subhanahu wa ta

01:07:10 --> 01:07:11

'ala to allow us to be people who

01:07:11 --> 01:07:13

try our hardest in every step and every

01:07:13 --> 01:07:15

chance that we get, we ask Allah subhanahu

01:07:15 --> 01:07:16

wa ta'ala that whatever opportunities that he

01:07:16 --> 01:07:18

presents to us, we ask Allah subhanahu wa

01:07:18 --> 01:07:20

ta'ala to allow us to engage in

01:07:20 --> 01:07:22

those opportunities for good, and we ask Allah

01:07:22 --> 01:07:23

subhanahu wa ta'ala to forgive us for

01:07:23 --> 01:07:25

all of our sins and our shortcomings ameen,

01:07:25 --> 01:07:27

rabbana ameen, subhanakallah wa bihamdik wa nashadu wa

01:07:27 --> 01:07:29

la ilaha illa anta wa astaghfirullah wa kanatuhu

01:07:29 --> 01:07:32

wa raik, inshallah tomorrow is our bonfire, so

01:07:32 --> 01:07:33

just letting everybody know our fireside session tomorrow

01:07:33 --> 01:07:36

evening it's gonna be from 7 to 8

01:07:36 --> 01:07:38

.30 so come inshallah, pray maghrib here we're

01:07:38 --> 01:07:40

gonna have like snacks and all that good

01:07:40 --> 01:07:43

stuff inshallah that'll be tomorrow here at Roots

01:07:43 --> 01:07:44

at 7pm, we'll see you guys then inshallah

01:07:44 --> 01:07:47

and there's no RSVPs necessary, just come inshallah,

01:07:47 --> 01:07:48

bring a friend, love to have you guys

01:07:48 --> 01:07:49

assalamualaikum y'all

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