Safi Khan – Soul Food for College Students- Dear Beloved Son #19
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The importance of du decades and du sofas in praying and finding permanent protection from harm is emphasized, along with the need for du decades to be sincere and that du decades are transformative in terms of emotions and relationships. The speakers stress the importance of praying for the Prophet's salall Drive and finding blessings in completion, finding a friend in a difficult situation, and avoiding conflict with family. Pr anecdote stories and advice to parents stress the importance of trusting parents, getting married and marriage, and giving back to others.
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All righty, inshallah.
We're gonna go ahead and begin.
All right.
Bismillah walhamdulillah, salatu wassalamu ala rasoolillah, wa ala
alihi wa ashabihi ajma'in, assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi
wabarakatuhu, everybody.
Inshallah, you guys are all doing well.
Alhamdulillah, ready to end your week, right?
Inshallah.
How many people in here have like exams,
exam season right now?
So that's yesterday.
MashaAllah, that's why there's such a glow on
your face.
There's a nur on your face right now.
I can see it's just, mashaAllah, mashaAllah.
Anybody graduating this year?
Anyone?
MashaAllah, some people, okay.
Alhamdulillah, very, very good.
How many people just started this year?
MashaAllah, the rest of you guys are just
in the thicket, huh?
Yes, inshallah, inshallah, that's awesome.
Alhamdulillah, enjoy it.
Enjoy every experience, right?
I always, you know, my teachers used to
always tell me that don't ever dread any
particular situation in your life because you might
go back and look at it and see
a lot of the reasons why who you
are today is because of the reasons and
the situations that you were in before.
So, alhamdulillah, everything has a particular purpose.
So, alhamdulillah, we are basically now diving into
our final chapter of the Advices of Imam
al-Ghazali series.
Inshallah, we're going to basically start the final
chapter today and we're going to finish the
final chapter next week.
Next week, inshallah, Sheikh Nouman Hussain who, mashaAllah,
is one of our instructors here, he joined
us a few, I believe like a month
or so ago.
Sheikh Nouman, inshallah, will be with us, inshallah,
next week to close out our session.
We'll do a dual session together, inshallah ta
'ala.
So, this particular chapter and Imam al-Ghazali,
alhamdulillah, he ends his book with a beautiful,
beautiful chapter with concluding du'as, okay?
One of the things that I want everyone
to kind of think about is that du
'a is the way that you begin and
end everything, okay?
When you begin anything in your life, you
begin with a du'a to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, right?
Allahumma salli ala Sayyidina Muhammad, right?
You begin with a praise of the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
You begin with praising Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
Alhamdulillah, Rabbil Alameen, right?
As-salatu was-salam ala Rasool Allah.
There's always ways you begin every endeavor that
you undertake, right?
This is one of the ways to incur
blessings in your life, right?
Whenever somebody begins with the name of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala, you will realize that
there are unspoken blessings in that particular action
that you're about to engage in that you
cannot describe, right?
And subhanAllah, some of us, and there's truth
to this, right?
The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam, he mentions
even the idea of eating, of partaking and
eating food.
He says that a person who begins eating
food without saying the basmala, without saying Bismillah
ar-Rahman ar-Rahim, literally shaytan will take
a seat next to them.
And he will start eating with this person
until that person remembers Bismillah.
And then as soon as that person remembers
Bismillah, shaytan will basically regurgitate all the food
that he ate at that moment because he
can't stand to be in a sitting, in
a situation where the name of Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala is being mentioned, right?
So you think about all the different things
you do in your life, the way you
begin anything begins with the name of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala.
Why?
Because it brings so much barakah in anything
that you do.
You walk into your home, you say Bismillah.
You walk out of your home, you begin
with a dua, right?
So the beginning and then the conclusion as
well, right?
When you finish something, you also end with
a dua because that dua puts such a
beautiful gift wrap around whatever you just did.
And I'll give you the greatest example of
this.
This is actually the example of Prophet Ibrahim
alayhi salam.
When Prophet Ibrahim alayhi salam, he built the
Kaaba with his son, right?
This is the greatest structure that has existed
throughout the history of humanity, right?
And after he built the Kaaba, Ibrahim alayhi
salam, he makes a famous dua.
He says, رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّا إِنَّكَ أَنْتَ السَّمِيعُ
عَلِيمٌ He says to Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala, Oh our Lord, رَبَّنَا تَقَبَّلْ مِنَّا Accept
this offering, accept this action from me.
Accept this offering, accept this action from us.
Why?
Couldn't someone just say, well, I mean the
Kaaba is so clearly religious, right?
It's so clearly spiritually oriented.
Why does somebody need to like ask Allah
to accept it?
Well, because the whole reason as to why
you did it could have changed throughout the
course of the action.
How many times do we ever start something
with a particular intention, and by the end
of that action, the intention is completely different,
right?
Especially if the action is a little bit
more long-winded, right?
You begin a semester of college in a
certain way, and then you end it in
a completely different way.
You begin a certain friendship in one way,
and throughout its course, it changes, right?
So in order to make that action super
holistic, you ask Allah whenever you end something
with a du'a, right?
You ask Allah to accept it.
You ask Allah to put a blessing in
it.
This is a part of why you do
what you do.
So always remember du'a is the beginning
and the end, okay?
And just to kind of structure in our
minds what du'a is, just to reiterate
it, we did an entire series about du
'a literally half a year ago, right?
And subhanAllah, it was so interesting.
We did a roots retreat this past weekend.
Alhamdulillah, I think I see some familiar faces
from there.
And one of the attendees that came to
the retreat, they were telling me, they said,
you know, the du'a series that you
did was like, he's like, you know, I
used to listen to it on my car
ride to work every single day, which makes
me feel really awkward being a part of
someone's speaker experience as they go to work.
But alhamdulillah, they were like, yeah, the du
'a series was so cool.
And I realized it's actually, of course, nothing
to do with me whatsoever.
It is the fact that du'a in
and of itself is just such a quality
topic, right?
Du'a is something that's transformative.
It has no prerequisites.
Du'a is something that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala listens to more than whatever you
ask for, right?
But that's the key to du'a.
Du'a is something that has to be
felt from the heart.
Sometimes the most effective du'as can be
the ones in which you don't find the
right words to say.
And your heart speaks louder than your tongue
might.
And your heart is able to speak for
you when maybe your physical faculties cannot express
the words, right, in a cohesive way.
That's what du'a is.
All that du'a has in terms of
its prerequisite is that du'a just has
to be extremely sincere.
That's all there is to it.
If your call to Allah is sincere, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala will answer to you,
right?
But it has to come from a place
of sincerity.
That's the only prerequisite to du'a.
So Imam Ghazali, he opens up this chapter
and he says, Oh my son, ayyuhal walad,
he says that I have addressed the things
you asked for in this conversation that you
and I have had.
And you have to carry them out, okay?
He goes, you have to do them.
And then he says, after that, he says,
and do not forget me in this.
Meaning that I've written 22 letters to you,
23 letters to you.
So do not forget me as you're reading
all of this, right?
How many of us have ever sent text
messages to our friends and we're like, hey,
just like remember me, right?
And they're like, why are you being so
morbid?
And you're like, I'm not, just remember me,
right?
That remembrance is such a beautiful thing.
How many of you guys have ever gotten
text messages?
By the way, if you want like a
crazy life hack of like beautiful friendships in
your life, just send text messages like with
like random moments and experiences and just send
somebody be like, hey, I'm thinking about you.
It means so much more than like that,
like fake long essay that you write.
Just send them like, you know, if you're
going somewhere, right?
SubhanAllah, I had a good buddy of mine.
He's an imam now in New Jersey.
He sent me, mashallah, he went to Umrah
and he FaceTimed me from Umrah.
And he goes, he goes, I'm just thinking
about you while I'm here.
And subhanAllah, you know, that in and of
itself is so much more meaningful than anything
else that he could have said.
Just thinking about you, right?
That means that a person literally like whenever
they're going through an experience, your kind of,
you know, essence comes to the top of
their mind, right?
So Imam Ghazali, here he says, you know,
when you're going through all of these advices
that I gave you, do not forget me
in this.
Do not forget me in this.
And then he says, make sure that you
remember me and also mention me in your
dua.
He says, تذكرني في صالح دعائك.
Make mention of me in your most sincerest
duas.
How many of you guys have ever asked
people to make dua for you, right?
You ask people to make dua for you.
Why?
Because you're like, you know what?
Like you're going somewhere that's special.
You're going to be in a state that's
extremely special.
You're going to be in a situation that's
very special, spiritually special.
Please remember me in your duas, okay?
You know, subhanAllah, of course, there are two
sides to this story.
Get used to asking people to make dua
for you, right?
If you hear about somebody going somewhere, tell
them to make dua for you.
This is a very humbling kind of, you
know, situation for a believer.
Don't ever allow a situation to pass by
you if somebody is going somewhere or doing
something pious.
Please remember me in your duas.
And then number two, when you're on the
inverse side of this, make sure that you
remember people in your duas when you're doing
something, right?
And I'll tell you guys something subhanAllah very
powerful here, is that one of the signs
of true muhabba, true love, is when you
make dua for a person.
Really it is.
Because dua does not have a price tag
on it.
It doesn't have like a certain kind of
monetary number that's associated with it.
You don't have to be a certain like
kind of wealth class to go and like
get this person the best dua.
Dua is sincerely a sign of how much
you love somebody.
Because it's literally a testimony of how much
you think about them in front of Allah.
It's very very like, subhanAllah, if you think
about it, it's super super synonymous with probably
what the situation of the Day of Judgment
is going to be like.
Like when you're in front of Allah on
the Day of Judgment, you're going to be
thinking about yourself and only yourself.
But there are going to be moments where
you're possibly going to be kind of thinking
about, and the Prophet shallallahu alaihi wa sallam
himself will be thinking about you.
He'll be thinking about where you are, how
you're doing.
So please, please, take this seriously.
If you love somebody, make dua for them.
Take 10 minutes, take 5 minutes and just
remember them in your dua.
You don't even have to say anything.
Just think about them as you're saying Allahu
Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
Whenever you're telling Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
faghfir li, Allahumma faghfir li, Allah forgive me.
Also think about that person that also would
benefit from that forgiveness, okay?
And one of the greatest kind of, you
know, I guess one of the greatest forms
of sincerity is when you make dua for
somebody so often that they don't even know
that you're making dua for them.
Like think about your own family.
Think about how many duas your mom threw
up for you, right?
She lobbed you duas when you were a
kid.
There are a lot of the rizq that
you have today, that you're healthy, that you're
able to like function as an adult on
your own, may be an answer to the
dua of your own mother or your own
father.
And you never even knew about it, right?
And they didn't even care that you knew
about it.
They didn't even care that you didn't see
them making dua for you, you know, late
in the evening when you were like studying
for like, you know, your calc exam, right,
in 11th grade.
And your mom was making more dua for
you than you were making for yourself.
You were like knee deep in your study
guide, and your mother could have spent an
hour with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala asking
Allah for the passing of your grade or
the passing of that class, right?
And the most beautiful thing, subhanAllah, of all
of this is even though you didn't know
about it, you didn't know about that dua
that was made for you, the Prophet salallahu
alayhi wa sallam, he says that when a
person makes dua in the absence of their
brother or sister, who are the ones saying
Ameen for them?
It's the angels.
The angels are the ones that are saying
Ameen for you.
If you're making dua by yourself, away from
your friends, for your friends, the ones who
will be saying Ameen are the mala'ika
that are hearing your dua.
They'll say Ameen, Ya Rabb.
And for you as well, right?
So if you want to get married, just
make dua for your friends.
I'm just kidding.
So, you know, just think about that, right?
Think about how deep that kind of spiritual
connection is, right?
Those who make dua for other people, Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala usually keeps them together,
right?
There's a sincerity in that relationship that cannot
be found in a lot of other relationships.
And so then Imam al-Ghazali, he says
that after you mentioned me in your duas,
ask for the prayer which you requested from
me.
His student asked him, you know, what are
the best duas to make?
How many of you guys have ever asked
that question?
What's the best dua to make?
Shaykh, what's the best dua to make?
You're like, is there a dua for my
exam?
Is there a dua for my personal life?
Is there a dua for my family life?
Is there a dua for my future?
Is there a dua for my job, right?
Of all of these kind of requests that
a person asks, what's the dua for this,
what's the dua for that?
Imam al-Ghazali, he says, as for the
prayer which you requested from me, look for
it amongst the supplications and the collections of
the authentic traditions of the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wa sallam.
He said that the best duas that you
can make are the duas that the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam already made.
You can add your own kind of flavor
to it, but the best duas you can
make are the ones that were made by
the most beautiful and the most favored creation
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
If you think about it, right?
I mean, he made duas that were accepted
by Allah.
There was not one dua of the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wa sallam that Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala did not respond to in a
way that was beneficial for him, okay?
Even the duas that the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wa sallam made that unfortunately may not have
been brought into fruition.
The Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam made dua
for even his own uncle Abu Talib becoming
a Muslim, and Allah did not give that
to him.
Perhaps there was wisdom in that.
Allah guided, instead of his own uncle Abu
Talib, Allah guided Umar ibn al-Khattab.
So you think about this.
I mean, it's an unbelievable realization that sometimes
you make dua for something that you really
want, and Allah gives you something else that
you didn't even ask for, but that thing
that he gave you was better than the
original thing that you asked for.
And you're like, I didn't even think about
that, right?
Growing up, especially after the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wa sallam received revelation, when he looked at
a person like Umar ibn al-Khattab, he
would say to himself, yeah, I don't ever
see this guy being my friend.
This guy actually wants to hurt me.
He wants to harm me.
How can I ever imagine that this guy
is going to be an ally of mine?
Allah said, hold on a second.
Let me guide Umar ibn al-Khattab to
Islam, and let you see what that can
do for your community.
And Umar ibn al-Khattab radiallahu anhu became
one of the most influential friends of the
Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
It is because of Umar ibn al-Khattab
radiallahu anhu, by the way, hint hint, coming
up in Ramadan, you guys are going to
be praying taraweeh in the masjid.
Because the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam used
to pray taraweeh at home.
Umar ibn al-Khattab is the one that
actually started the tradition of praying it inside
the masallah, right?
If it wasn't for him, there would be
so many things that we would have missed
out on.
And the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam never
even realized that Umar ibn al-Khattab was
going to become such a beautiful friend of
his, right?
So du'a is quite a literal translation
of the qadr of Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala, the divine decree of Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
But he says, if you want to know
the best of du'as, I can teach
you the du'as of the Prophet salallahu
alayhi wa sallam.
What you do, and I'm going to teach
you guys how to kind of harmonize your
own du'as with the du'as that
the Prophet salallahu alayhi wa sallam used to
make.
Start off every du'a that you make
with some du'a that was uttered by
a Prophet.
Because it's a way to kind of like
jumpstart your du'a, right?
It gives you like the initial boost that
you need.
And then whatever du'a you're going to
say, you're going to make it after you
mention whatever du'a that the Prophet made,
okay?
And so he says, go back to the
authentic traditions and recite this prayer during all
the moments that you have.
In particular, he says, in particular, after you
have done your fard.
He says, after you've done salawatika.
After you've done your actual prayers.
So another beautiful hint here, I'll share with
you guys, is don't think that du'a
is a substitution for the obligations that you
have.
Some people, subhanallah, they'll make du'a, but
they'll forget to pray to Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
They'll make du'a, but they won't do
the things that Allah had ordered them to
do.
So your du'a is only going to
be as beautiful as your obeying of Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala, right?
And this is why they say the most
beautiful du'as are the ones that you
do after your salawat.
After you're done praying, sit, think, contemplate about
your life.
After you're in a state of spirituality, after
completing one of your obligations, then offer your
du'a.
Why?
It's like basically when you ask somebody for
a favor, right?
It's like when you ask somebody for a
favor after you do something that you know
that they love, right?
You know that, let's say for example, your
friend, they love a certain type of food,
right?
Not saying that you should only ask for
things after you do things for people, but
giving an example.
If a friend of yours likes a certain
type of food, you go and buy them
that food, and then you ask them, Hey,
if you have some time, I'd like to
talk to you for like five minutes, right?
But if you constantly request and request and
request and request, the beauty and the quality
of your request will diminish because you don't
actually love that person.
You only talk to them when you want
to and when you need to.
Talk to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala after
you know that you've done things that He
loves.
Don't only talk to Him when you absolutely
need to.
Talk to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when
He wants to talk to you, right?
Don't be that friend who only picks up
that phone when you need something from somebody.
Nobody likes that one friend.
Be that friend that sends that text message
when you have nothing to ask them.
Just be like, Hey Salams, just wanted to
kind of catch up with you.
How are you?
We haven't talked in a few weeks.
You know, what's going on?
Thought you and me should just catch up
a little bit.
Be that friend, right?
And so Imam Ghazali, he says, make these
duas more meaningful, especially after your formal prostrations
to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And then he begins by sharing.
And today inshallah, we're going to be going
through two particular duas, okay?
Alright, these are the two duas that we're
going to go over inshallah together.
And I'll kind of help us understand exactly
what these duas mean.
These duas are all from the books of
the hadith of the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam.
So the first dua he teaches to his
student, and it's the first paragraph.
He says, اللهم إني أسألك من نعمتي تمامها
He says, Oh Allah, I ask you, I
beg you.
By the way, اللهم إني أسألك أسألك translates
out to like, I'm asking you, right?
But أسألك means more so, Oh Allah, when
it comes to Allah, I'm begging you, Ya
Allah.
I'm begging you.
I'm not just asking, I'm pleading.
I'm desperate for this, right?
Because if you approach Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala without need and desperation, Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala is going to say, Well, the
servant of mine is not really in need
of me.
They think that they can function without me.
And even if you say أسألك, which means
that you can ask, but in your heart
you have to beg.
In your heart you have to plead.
Because without that pleading in your heart, that
sincerity behind that du'a is not going
to be felt.
That sincerity behind that du'a is not
going to be sincerely felt within the heart.
So when you begin by saying اللهم إني
أسألك You're saying, Oh Allah, I beg from
you.
I'm pleading you, right?
He says, من نعمتي تمامها For grace in
its completion.
نعمتي تمامها نعمة تمام It means blessings that
are in full measure.
Okay?
SubhanAllah You know, this is, you know, a
lot of people sometimes they ask the question
like, Oh, I feel bad asking for like
things that are too much, right?
Like, am I being selfish?
Am I being selfish in what I'm asking?
Like if I ask Allah for like a
4.0 GPA and like a full ride
and like a good job after I graduate,
like is that too much?
And what I tell people is, think about
the one who you're asking.
Think about the one you are asking.
You're not asking like a random human being.
Yes, if you're to go up to a
person and be like, Yeah, so I need
you to wake me up at like 6am
for Fajr.
And then after Fajr, I need you to
go and get me like that halal bacon
cheeseburger.
And then after breakfast, I need you to
take me to my classes.
Then after my classes, we should go to
lunch together.
And at lunch, I need you to pay
for me.
Then after we're done eating lunch together, I
need you to drop me back off for
my afternoon classes.
And then after that, you need to give
me a ride home.
And after home, I'm going to hit you
up in about like an hour so we
can go out again.
Like that is going to drive a person
insane.
Why?
Because they're human beings.
And with that humanity comes limitations.
And one of those limitations is impatience, right?
How many of y'all have ever been
on the receiving end of this, right?
A friend who sometimes asks you for too
much.
And you're like, Listen, I love you, but
I don't love you that much.
You're pushing it at this point, okay?
I've given you like four rides this week.
Like I might as well just give you
my car at this point.
I've bought you boba like five times.
Like you have a boba addiction issue.
Like there's a problem that you have in
your life, right?
Like there's limitations.
Why?
Because human beings have limits.
Human beings have limits.
Patience, money, you know, time, energy.
All of these things are limitations of a
human being.
But when you ask Allah, ask Allah in
fullness.
I ask you for blessings in completion.
Don't shy away from asking Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala for the best.
Because Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is the
only one who's capable of giving you the
best.
Even your parents.
I want to pull a little bit of
like, you know, your heart strings here.
Even your parents.
No matter how hard they try.
They try to give you the best.
But the best is not possible for human
beings.
There are moments where they'll fall short, right?
I'm sure everyone in here has tried hard.
Everyone in here has tried hard.
You've tried hard in your relationships.
You've tried hard in your studies.
You've tried hard in just generally your worship,
your duas, your prayers, your devotion to Allah.
You've tried hard.
But you've fallen short.
And that's fine.
Because that's what you're made to do.
You're made to have limits.
But ask Allah for things that you may
even think are impossible.
Allah, please, I know that like, I'm only
like a, I only have 25 credits underneath
my belt.
But yeah, Allah, please allow me to graduate
on time.
And you're like, yeah, well, what's the point
of making that dua?
But guess what?
Hasn't Allah allowed the most miraculous things to
happen to people?
Of course.
So ask for it.
Don't shy away from that.
Okay, then he says, He says, and in
regard to protection in permanence, Oh Allah, I
ask you for permanent protection.
I ask you for protection from harm and
evil permanently.
And subhanAllah, sometimes like you'll think to yourself,
well, like I've gone through harm.
So what's the point of asking Allah for
permanent protection from difficulties in life?
Well, subhanAllah, I'll rewire everyone's brain for a
second.
When you make dua for permanent protection in
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you will start
to see the trials that you go through
as not bad for you anymore.
Because true harm cannot afflict a person so
long as they think that the harm that
they're going through is actually not harmful.
Yeah, sure.
Even if I failed a class.
Yeah, I thought that was harmful.
But me failing that class may have been
necessary.
It was necessary.
Now don't tell your parents that.
Like going up to like your mom, you're
like, I thought you're gonna be a doctor
by 25.
And you're like, no, no, no, it was
necessary that I'm 26 and I still didn't
graduate.
But like this idea, man, subhanAllah, when you
enact this idea, you will avoid any sort
of frustration with your spiritual qadr.
You will never complain about where you are
in life.
You may look at it and be like,
you know what, I need to do something
about it.
But you'll never wallow in its sorrow.
You will never be grief stricken by what
Allah has given you.
So protection that has a permanent nature.
And then he says, وَمِنَ الرَّحْمَةِ شُمُولَهَا He
says, and regarding your mercy in its totality.
Your mercy in its totality.
Oh Allah, don't hold your mercy back from
me.
If anyone's asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
for his mercy, they should ask Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala for his mercy in absolute
totality.
Overlook every sin that I've committed.
Don't ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
nitpick.
You know, sometimes when you have like teachers
in your student life, you have certain teachers
who look at an exam, they're like, you
get the gist of it.
I'm not going to nitpick small little things
that you missed.
And then you have certain teachers that are
like, oh yeah, this person did great.
But there's that one mistake that they made,
and they'll magnify that mistake.
And this happens, by the way, in social
life.
You've done everything right.
You may have made one small mistake, and
certain people magnify that one small mistake that
you make.
And they make you feel bad.
Even though you did 99% of things
in your life you did correctly.
But that 1% of time that you
messed up, certain people will hold you accountable
for that 1%.
And it makes you feel really deflated.
So when you ask Allah for his rahmah,
ask for his rahmah shumoolaha.
Ask for it in its totality.
And this is why you make a dua.
If anybody wants to kind of make a
powerful dua, I'll share a dua on top
of this one.
When you make dua to Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala, you say, Which
basically means, O Allah, hold us to account
with an easy account.
Don't judge me too difficultly.
Don't judge me too critically.
Don't judge me too harshly, O Allah.
Overlook my mistakes.
Just like a person would like to not
have every small thing that they've done held
against them, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala takes
no pleasure in nitpicking the small mistakes that
you've made in your life.
So ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for
his mercy in totality.
And then he says, He says, And in
regards to well-being, attaining it.
Attaining well-being.
Okay?
Your aafia husoolaha.
It's attainment.
Okay?
So you want well-being in your life
and you want to be able to attain
that well-being in your life.
Well-being.
What is well-being, guys?
What's aafia?
Anybody know what aafia is?
Aafia is an all-encompassing word talking about
being well.
Mental health.
Physical health.
Financial health.
Social health.
All of these fall under the idea of
aafia.
When you ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
for aafia, you're asking him for well-being,
for health.
And we know that health is not just
physical.
Health is mental.
How many people, subhanAllah, have been in states
of physical health that were good, but in
our mentality we were suffering?
Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for goodness
in your mental health as well.
Mental health is a huge, huge, you know,
a huge element in Islam.
The Prophet sallAllahu alayhi wa sallam would make
dua for the right states of people's minds.
Because if your mind is not in this
right state, the rest of your body will
suffer.
It doesn't matter how healthy you are on
the outside.
Internally, you also have to be healthy, right?
And then he says, وَمِنَ الْعِيشِ أَرْغَدَهُ He
says, then, in regards to your livelihood, make
it plentiful.
Make it plentiful.
You know, how many of you guys have
heard the word holistic before?
Making something wholesome, right?
When you have livelihood, you want it to
be wholesome, right?
Everything that you do, you want it to
be wholesome in your life.
You don't want it to be missing things,
right?
You're like, well, I have a family, but
I don't feel whole.
I have friends, but I don't feel happy.
I have this, but I don't feel content.
This idea of wholesomeness and holistic nature is
that whatever you have, you feel whole with
it.
Even if you have one friend, that one
friend could be the quality of ten.
Even if you have ten dollars in your
bank account, it's true for a lot of
you, okay?
That ten dollars feels like you have a
hundred.
Why?
Because there's barakah in everything that you have,
right?
A person could have a million dollars and
have the barakah of a hundred dollars.
So whatever you have in your life, ask
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to stretch it
for you.
That wholesome nature in your life is something
that we yearn for.
You wanna go home to a happy home?
How many people in here have like had
like a glimpse into the future?
And you're thinking to yourself, you lived a
life now as like a child, as like
a son or a daughter.
Now how many of you guys have like
had a glimpse into the future about what
you want your adult life to look like
with your own family?
Like I wonder what it's gonna be like
to live with me and my husband or
me and my wife and you know if
we have kids inshaAllah.
I wonder what my home will feel like.
And I'm sure every single person in here
wants their home to be a place of
sakinah.
You want your home to be a place
that you're excited to go back to, not
a place that you dread going back to.
You want your family to be people that
you're able to confide in and not people
that you run away from.
If that's something that you want, ask Allah
subhanahu wa ta'ala for it.
Ask Allah to put wholesome nature into your
future.
Into your livelihood.
That's what this part of the dua is
asking for.
And then he says, وَمِنَ الْعُمُرِ أَسْعَدَهُ And
when it comes to my umari, my life
in general, I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala to make it the most happy life.
The most happy life.
Happiness, by the way, is a very very
subjective term.
What makes one person happy may not make
the other person happy.
This is why when this dua says أَسْعَدَهُ
Make it the most happy.
Make it the most happy.
It's the happiness that you find within your
heart.
How many people find it the happiest that
you are is when you're randomly walking through
Kroger and you're just happy.
That's my life at this point, a 31
year old man.
Happiness to me is just going through the
snack aisle at Kroger.
Now that we're following the BDS boycotting rule,
all the Kroger brand stuff is so good
all of a sudden.
I'm flying through the soda aisle buying all
the Kroger brand stuff.
Happiness to me, I always tell people, I
have a really weird, I don't know why,
but I love shopping for furniture.
My wife tells me, I think we need
a new patio set.
I'm like, really?
Say less.
Let's go.
We'll go to Nebraska.
We'll hit it up.
That's happiness for me.
Another person might find Nebraska furniture like a
torment.
They're like, oh my God, this is torture.
This is going to be a part of
my Jahannam.
Auzubillah, right?
So happiness is subjective.
Happiness for you might be like a quiet
evening at home by yourself, right?
To an extrovert, that's like, are you being
punished?
To an extrovert, they're like, happiness for me
is being surrounded by 30 of my friends
at some random restaurant that we all go
to on a Friday night, right?
Happiness to me is like 15 of my
friends hanging out at Arwa Coffee, just chilling,
right?
To another person that's like, anxiety, right?
Getting anxious thinking about that situation.
So this idea of life, as'adahu, happiness
in whatever fits you, right?
Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for that,
okay?
And then he says, he says, وَمِنَ الْإِحْسَانِ
أَتَمَّهُ He says, and for in regarding to
or in regards to beneficence for the most
perfect of Ihsan, okay?
Ihsan, أَتَمَّهُ Okay?
You want quality in your life.
You don't just want quantity, man.
Dude, I'm telling you guys something, subhanAllah, anything
that is quantity will come and go.
How many of you guys have realized that?
Anybody in here like watch numbers like a
crazy person?
Like you watch like your grades like a
crazy person?
You watch money like a crazy person?
How many people check like Instagram every like
10 minutes?
You watch like numbers like a little bit
of like a, you know, like a little
bit of a concerned human being.
And one thing you'll realize about numbers, numbers
are meant to go up and they're meant
to go down.
So if you put all of your faith
in numbers, you'll never be happy, right?
So you ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
for what?
You ask Allah for Ihsan.
You ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for
quality.
You don't ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
for quantity.
Allah could give you, Allah could give you
so many people in your life and you
will still feel lonely.
But ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for
quality for the people that you have in
your life.
That's what will make a difference, okay?
And then he says, وَمِنَ الْإِنْعَامِ أَعَمَّهُ He
says, and I ask you O Allah in
regard to favor for the most inclusive of
it, for the most inclusive of your favors.
Meaning that O Allah, make everything you give
me inclusive and all-encompassing, right?
So if I have, you know, I want
to feel the sense of belonging.
Inclusivity is a synonym for the word belonging.
I want to feel like I belong somewhere.
How many of us, subhanAllah, we go around
the dunya and we still feel lonely.
We don't feel like we belong anywhere.
We feel like we're still wandering around looking
for places where people will be like, you
know what, just come join.
You can sit with us.
You can sit here with me.
This part of the dua is for inclusivity
of the favors of Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala.
You want to feel the sense of belonging,
the sense of welcoming, right?
There's nothing like that.
When the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam, guys, when
he moved to Medina, the reason, I always
ask people, why do you think the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wasalam chose to pass away in
Medina?
Like, wasn't Mecca a Muslim city before the
Prophet passed away?
Of course it was.
After the conquest of Mecca, they did their
tawaf and their umrah, everybody in Mecca became
Muslim.
There were very few people that were not
Muslim in Mecca.
Why did the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam choose
to go back to Medina?
Because Medina was associated in his mind with
this idea of inclusivity.
I was a stranger.
I was a traveler.
And they took me into their home as
though I was one of their own.
I will never forget that for the rest
of my life.
How many of you guys ever been to
Medina tul Munawwara before in your life?
Oh, there is a peace in that city
that cannot be described.
The brisk air that is felt in Medina
cannot be described in any other city in
the entire world.
It is something special.
And it's something special, why?
Because it has barakah in it, because it
was built off of selflessness.
It was people that were there, that lived
there, that brought in the Prophet salallahu alayhi
wasalam as though he was their brother, as
though he was their son, as though he
was their own family member.
Okay?
And then Imam Ghazali, he continues and he
says, وَمِنَ الْفَضْلِ أَعْذَبَهُ He says, and for
in regards to generosity, the most sweet, the
most sweet version of your generosity, you know,
this is like, you know, when you give
somebody something, can you give something, can you
be generous to somebody in like a rude
way sometimes?
Like they ask you for something and you're
like, fine, just take it, right?
I mean, they're still giving it to you,
right?
But that's not the same as like, I
love doing this for you.
I love giving you this thing.
I love doing that favor for you.
So when you ask for the generosity of
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, you ask for
it in its most sweet manner.
You ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
give you in the most sweet way possible.
How many of you guys have been given
a gift in a really sweet way?
And how many of you guys have been
given a gift in a really, really weird
way?
Like a person bought something for you, but
then they made you feel like they bought
something for you, right?
Like, hey, remember, spring 2024, I bought that
gift for you.
And you're like, do you want it back?
Like, what's wrong with you?
Do you want me to just continuously praise
you because you remind me every single second?
No, no, no.
When somebody gives you a gift, they give
it to you because they gave it to
you in a very sweet way, right?
And this is the generosity that you want
from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
And then finally, he says, وَمِنَ اللُّطْفِ أَقْرَبَهُ
Okay?
He says, and from your gentleness, وَمِنَ اللُّطْفِ
أَقْرَبَهُ And from your gentleness, in its most
close state.
أَقْرَبَهُ أَقْرَبَهُ means that Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala is always close to you.
Allah is gentle with you.
You know, I always tell people that sometimes
when you are going through a rough moment
in your life, the thing that you need
the most is an amazing companion, an amazing
friend whose shoulder you can just lean on.
You don't have to say anything.
And they don't have to say anything to
you.
But you just have a person that you
can sit with, and you can just lean
against, and you can just sit there quietly
with them because you know that they're close.
This is the type of closeness that you
want with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
You want to be with Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala in the closest state.
And you may not have anything that you
can talk about because your emotions are too
great.
Your sadness, your anxiety, your frustration, your grief
may be too great.
But you're just sitting on the prayer rug
and you feel close with Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala.
It's like a friend who says, just come
here.
Let's not talk about it right now.
Just come.
You don't have to speak.
I'll just sit with you.
This is like when Khadijah radiallahu anha after
the Prophet salallahu alayhi wasalam went through a
very difficult time receiving revelation for the first
time from Jibreel alayhi salam.
And he came down from the mountain, from
Jabal al-Nur, and he ran home, and
he told his wife Khadijah, zamiluni, zamiluni, dathiruni,
dathiruni.
Oh Khadijah, cover me up and conceal me.
Cover me up and conceal me.
You know Khadijah radiallahu anha, she did not
even ask what happened.
She did not even ask what happened.
She didn't say, where were you?
What were you doing?
Why were you away for so long?
She literally covered him up.
Y'all know the ayah in the Quran
where Allah describes marriage?
Hunna libasun lakum wa antum libasun lahun.
He says that about partners, about a husband
and a wife.
Hunna libasun lakum.
They are garments for you, wa antum libasun
lahun.
And you are going to be a garment
for them.
She was literally a garment for him at
that moment.
He came running down from that mountain scared.
Why?
Because he experienced a very, very supernatural moment
with an angel of Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala telling him to read.
And he had no idea what to do.
And he was scared because Jibreel alayhi salam,
he squeezed them.
And after that experience was over, he came
to the first person he thought in his
mind would be there for him and she
was Khadijah radiallahu anha.
And when he sat with her, he said,
cover me and she covered him.
Conceal me and she concealed him.
And he was shaking and he was shivering.
And he did not know what to say.
And what did she say to him?
Ya Muhammad salallahu alayhi wasalam, Allah would not
forsake you.
Allah would not do something to you that
you would dislike.
You are good to your family.
You're good to your friends.
You're generous with your people in your life.
You give to those who are weak.
You always take sides with those who've had
their voices taken away from them.
You're a good neighbor.
She mentions fact after fact about the Prophet
salallahu alayhi wasalam.
And at that moment, his anxiety began to
dissipate.
It began to go away.
Why?
Because she was that friend that he needed
at that moment.
So this idea at the end, wa minal
lutfi aqrabu aqrabahu.
You're asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
be that friend for you.
It's not always about talking.
Sometimes it's just about being there for one
another.
And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala is there
for you.
But are you there with Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala when He's there for you?
Or do we just kind of neglect Allah
and we go by Him?
We see that prayer rug in our room
and we know that, you know what?
I should stop.
I should pray.
I should be with Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala right now.
But we get distracted, y'all.
We get distracted by the tens of million
things that are in our newsfeed, in our
For You page, in our text threads, in
our group chats, in our updates on Twitter
and TikTok.
We get distracted.
But Allah was always waiting.
So ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
be close to you.
What is the famous statement from Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala?
Ya Rasulullah, if my servants ask about me,
tell them, فإني قريب.
Tell them that I'm near.
Tell them that I'm close.
It's like a friend who's always there just
in case you need.
Just in case you need.
And for months and weeks and possibly years,
you have looked at that friend and you've
walked right past them.
You didn't acknowledge them.
They were waiting for you.
They didn't leave.
And this is the difference.
Human beings, if they're waiting for you long
enough, they'll realize that you have no interest
in them and they'll walk away.
They'll say, yeah, I send text messages.
I call them.
I ask them if they want to spend
time.
And they continuously said no.
Or they continuously left me on read.
Or they continuously just ignored me.
That person will eventually move on.
This is the nature of human beings.
They'll move on.
But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala being who
He is, He will always wait there just
for you.
We don't deserve, wallahi, guys, we don't deserve
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's grace.
We don't deserve Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala's
grace and His kindness.
But Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, in His
infinite love, in His infinite mercy for all
of us, He will remain there until it
is too late, until we pass away.
Turn to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala and
ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to be
close to you.
Okay?
InshaAllah.
We're going to end with that because the
next dua, inshaAllah, I'm going to have Qari
Nouman cover with me the next few duas,
inshaAllah.
We have the next one and then about
two more after that.
And Imam Ghazali, rahimahullah, he wraps up his
book, Ayyuhal Walad, in the next three paragraphs.
So inshaAllah, we'll stop here.
But what we're going to do now, inshaAllah,
we have ten minutes left with each other.
What we're going to do now is we're
going to open up the Q&A portal
for everybody, inshaAllah.
And we're going to allow folks to go
ahead and submit questions so that we can
do a little bit of interactive Q&A,
inshaAllah, before Salat al-Isha tonight.
Okay?
So y'all can go ahead and scan
the QR code right here and y'all
will be able to, inshaAllah, join and submit
your questions.
Okay?
So I'll give everybody a little bit of
time to go ahead and submit questions.
InshaAllah, I'll go ahead and start answering some
of them that came in already, inshaAllah.
And again, like usual, this is all anonymous,
guys, so don't worry about anything being exposed
in terms of your privacy.
Okay.
So I'll go ahead, inshaAllah, and start answering
some of these questions and you guys will
even be able to see them, hopefully, on
your side.
Actually, I think I can approve some of
these.
Okay.
Okay.
Go ahead and approve all of these, inshaAllah.
Okay.
All right.
So you guys will be able to see
the questions that I went ahead and approved.
And y'all will be able to...
Let me go back to the top.
I want to zoom in on the QR
code, though, inshaAllah.
On the Slido app, you guys can, inshaAllah,
go ahead and see it.
But inshaAllah, I'll just kind of bump some
of the ones to the top that you
guys are asking, inshaAllah.
Okay.
So somebody said, I want to travel to
Mas Iqna, but my family doesn't want me
going alone.
I have friends with family there that I'll
be there with.
I feel stuck in my state.
Very good question.
So a couple of things that I'll share
regarding this question, when it comes to traveling
and, you know, there will be a conflict
with family and parents, like, you know, allowing
you to do certain things.
A lot of times we focus more on
the what we're asking about versus, like, how
that conversation is taking place.
Okay.
When it comes to any conflict with family,
especially regarding, like, permission to do certain things,
I'd focus less on what you're asking about,
and I'd focus more on how you're asking
it.
Okay.
If there's a conversation where, like, a parent
disagrees with me about something, I'm like, hey,
can I go here with my friends?
And they're like, no, I don't really feel
good about that.
And the moment that that disagreement takes place,
I begin to lose my cool, and I
start to kind of argue immediately.
Know that you've already probably lost that battle.
Okay.
You've already lost that battle.
So first step is to make sure that,
like, you don't lose your cool first.
Okay.
You are required in Islam to always be
in a state of tranquility whenever speaking to
people, especially people like your parents.
All right.
As frustrating as that may sound, all right,
parents are not there to cause distress and
disappointment in your life.
They're literally, literally thinking of the worst case
scenario, and out of fear, they may disallow
certain things.
So don't think that it's coming from a
position of, like, making your life miserable.
Okay.
Now, what I'll say after that is the
way you approach parents when it comes to,
like, oh, traveling or doing certain things that
they may be a little bit uncomfortable with.
I always tell people, do your parents know
who your friends are?
Do your parents know who your friends are?
Because in this insane world that we live
in today, guys, I don't blame parents for
being crazy anymore.
Well, lie, the stories that you hear are
actually, like, it's sick.
It's, like, very, very alarming stuff.
Okay.
So the way that you ease the hearts
of a lot of the people that you
live with, whether it be parents or siblings
or whatever it may be, is make sure
that there's a lot of candidness about who
you spend your time with.
Right.
Who are your friends?
Who are you traveling with?
I'll tell you, like, when I was growing
up and I was in college, sometimes, subhanAllah,
I had a friend, very good friend of
mine.
He's still, alhamdulillah, a good friend of mine,
but he lives in Tennessee still.
I used to be at his house until,
like, 10 p.m., 11 p.m. at
night, and my mother would be, like, worried
about where I was after Isha.
And then she would see my location, and
she would see that I'm, like, right where
he was, and she's like, oh, okay, he's
with him.
I'm good.
I'm chilling.
Okay.
Because she had so much confidence in that
relationship and that trust that she had with
this friend of mine.
So number two is do my parents know
who I spend time with?
And number three, number three, if you feel
that your parents are being completely unreasonable, like
beyond a shadow of a doubt, like you've
done step one, step two, step three, then
is when you kind of, like, ask for
a little bit of help.
Don't think that you have to fight every
battle on your own.
If you feel like there's, like, a battle
that you're fighting right now, and you're calm,
you're collected, you're doing things in good manner
and good faith, your parents know who your
friends are, and even after you've checked off
everything off that list, like your parents are
completely, like, unreasonably being against whatever you want
to do, ask somebody for help.
You can't do everything on your own, and
it's never going to be that way.
Trust me, as you get older, you'll still
see the same exact thing.
Okay.
So ask for help.
Ask for somebody who you know that your
parents may trust, they may respect, they may
take their word a little bit more.
Ask that person for help.
Last but not least, and this is the
fourth advice that I'll give you in regards
to this question, if it is something that
is so distressing, that is literally, like, breaking
the family apart, every night you go home,
you're arguing with people, I'm telling you, it
just may be the best, and I know
it's a really tough pill to swallow, it
may be the best for you to be
the bigger person in this situation right now.
It's not worth it.
It's not worth putting up that fight and
arguing nonstop, day in and day out, especially
when you see nothing budging.
You've done everything, and they're still insisting that,
no, this doesn't happen.
May Allah reward you for your sacrifices.
May Allah reward you for your sacrifices.
Imagine what the Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam went
through when he went to Hudaybiyyah, and he
wanted to do Umrah, and all the Quraysh
in Mecca said no.
I'm not saying that your parents were like
the Quraysh of Mecca before Islam, but what
I'm saying is, it's the same kind of
principle of, he wanted something, and there was
khayr in it.
There was khayr in Umrah.
Of course there is.
There's khayr in going to Masjid Iqna.
Of course there is.
But, it may not be written for you
right now.
But it will be, inshallah.
Okay?
So have faith in that.
Okay?
Very, very good.
Oh boy, a marriage question.
Me and Saladur Rahman are going to be
notarized as the imams that answer marriage questions
after every halaqa that they teach.
We're just going to start a new business
on the side.
Submit all your marriage questions here.
I want a good husband.
I'm only 18, but never talked to anyone,
and everyone around me has.
It feels like I have no options.
How do we meet others in a halal
way?
First of all, you're 18.
I will tell you guys, give yourself a
little bit of time and experience and wiggle
room just to learn in your life.
Can I be honest with you?
I'm saying this on live stream here.
I never want marriage to be something that
Muslims speak about the same way that people
speak about pre-marital relationships in non-Muslim
culture.
Oh, I just need to get married.
That's not what marriage is supposed to be.
It's not supposed to be like a box
that you check off your list and just
kind of like, boom, I'm done after that.
Marriage requires a lot of sincerity, a lot
of ihsan, a lot of thought, a lot
of due diligence.
So if by 18, and this question, this
person is saying that everyone around me has,
I'll be honest with you.
It doesn't matter if everybody around you has.
You're just chilling.
What does that chill guy mean, right?
You're just a chill girl.
This girl is asking about her husband.
It's okay.
It's okay.
You're Alhamdulillah.
Allah has given you so many other joys
in life that you don't have to worry
about marriage right now.
We need to do, by the way, we
need to do classes in Islam about the
blessings of being single.
I'm telling you, it's not a horrible state
to be in.
I'm telling you guys.
I know that like we've manufactured this idea
of like, yeah, if you're married, you're successful.
If you're single, you're a loser, right?
We need to cut that joint out.
There's a lot of beauty in focusing on
the stage of life that Allah has given
you.
Don't think that just because you're married, you're
like the most successful person on earth.
If you're single, ask Allah to put barakah
in your life right now.
Because guess what?
After marriage, you'll go into a next stage,
and you won't have that anymore, right?
And you'll always see grass is always greener.
But if you appreciate where you're at, you'll
always realize, no, no, the grass is green
where I am right now.
So alhamdulillah, don't worry about that too much
in regards to comparing and contrasting.
Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala for barakah
wherever you may be in your life, okay?
Very good.
All right.
What if you buy gifts for friends for
celebrations and they end up not giving you
one?
Is it bad?
I feel like I give more than I
receive.
I feel unloved.
Subhanallah.
And may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala bless
you for the courageousness to ask this question.
When it comes to giving more than you
receive, I'll share something, you know.
Number one, the Prophet ﷺ, he would say,
اليد العليا خير من اليد السفلى He would
say, the upper hand that gives is better
than the lower hand that receives.
Okay?
Being a giver is a very beautiful trait
to have as a Muslim.
Because you never feel that anything you do
is transactional.
You don't give just to receive, right?
This is not what we do in life.
We don't ever do nice things for people
so that we know that transactionally they'll do
nice things for us.
That's not the way that we operate as
Muslims, okay?
But I will say, if you feel in
your life that you are giving a lot
more in certain relationships in your life than
people are giving back to you, then what
I would suggest for you to do is
instead of quantifying your relationships with, Oh, I
give a lot more than I receive, focus
on a few people in your life that
give you the same energy back.
Don't expect that energy from everybody.
I'll tell you guys something very honestly, and
you guys are alhamdulillah younger than me.
As you get older in life, your social
circle begins to shrink like crazy.
But guess what?
You start becoming really happy about it.
Because you realize that the people that I
have in my life that I consider very
close to me, they are the people who,
subhanAllah, يُحِبُّ لِأَخِيهِ مَا يُحِبُّ لِنَفْسِهِ They love
for me what I love for them.
They check on me just like I check
on them.
Give the people benefit of the doubt that
you want them to be close to you,
but they may not be as close to
you as you want, and focus on the
people that are actually there for you, alright?
And always remember, it's always better to be
a giver than a receiver at the end
of the day, okay?
Very good.
What if I hurt people and they really
get hurt by me, and I'm the reason
for their sadness?
SubhanAllah.
MashaAllah, maybe this question or this comment is
a means of you coming to a sense
of realization, right?
If a person is open enough to kind
of share this and text this and ask
this as a question, you're already on the
path of muhasabah, of accountability.
You're taking the first step to realizing that
I might be the source of certain people's
sadness.
So I don't want to be that way.
So the only question to ask now is,
now that I've admitted it, what am I
doing to own up to it, and what
am I doing to remedy this, right?
I don't want to be that person anymore.
So ask yourself the symptoms of why.
Why do I feel like I'm a person
who adds certain troubles in people's lives?
And start very, very calculatively deducing the reasons
as to why this is a possibility in
my life, right?
Very good, mashaAllah.
You're on the right path though, alhamdulillah.
Very, very good.
Okay, can you make dua?
I got a job.
Oh Allah, give this anonymous person a job.
Ameen.
Very good.
How to deal with fluctuations of your iman?
Your iman is supposed to fluctuate.
Don't get frustrated by that.
Embrace the high points, and when you have
a low point, ask Allah subhanahu wa ta
'ala and tell him, Ya Allah, I miss
you.
I would like to be back at that
level that I was at.
Don't get frustrated by your highs and lows
of iman.
That's literally what you're supposed to go through
as a human being, okay?
Very good.
Why are we God's favorite creation if we
neglect Him?
SubhanAllah, very good question.
Why are we Allah's favorite creation if we
neglect Him?
We are Allah's favorite creation because Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala, He says in the Quran,
إِلَّا الَّذِينَ أَمَنُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتُ أُولَٰئِكَهُمْ خَيْرُ
الْبَرِيَّةِ خَيْرُ الْبَرِيَّةِ means that you have the
potential to be the best of all creation.
We may not always be the best of
all creation, but we have the potential to
be.
So potential is everything.
This is your ceiling and Allah knows it.
And Allah told His angels that you don't
know things about them that I know.
And when Allah says that I know things
about them that you may not know, trust
that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows what
He's talking about, okay?
Alright, JazakAllah khairan guys.
InshaAllah we'll take care of some of the
questions next week with Shaykh Nouman and we'll
see you all inshaAllah next Thursday.
We have a great event coming up on
the 14th by the way.
We're doing a full on end of semester
Q&A and boba social here on Saturday
night at 7pm inshaAllah.
We'd like to see all of our college
community here inshaAllah ta'ala at that time.
Alright guys, we'll see you all inshaAllah Saturday
night.
Assalamualaikum.
I want everyone to not miss their Isha
Salah, so I would encourage everyone to go
ahead and make their way over to the
Musallah inshaAllah.