Sadullah Khan – Developing a Qur’anic Personality To be and What not to be. #5
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The speakers discuss the concept of naseeh, which is the practice of giving good advice in a positive and constructive way. They also mention the importance of being honest and not being associated with anyone. The speakers provide examples of how advising someone withoutronging themselves and advising someone without apologizing for their actions, both of which have caused harm.
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In our theme for this Ramadan,
developing a Quranic personality
to be and how not to be,
we conclude our focus on the concept of
naseeh.
We remind ourselves that naseeh is a practice
of prophets,
and the ability to give good advice in
a positive and constructive there
is a
distinct difference
There is a distinct difference between advising someone,
insulting someone,
belittling someone, and ridiculing someone.
It's very different.
According to Imam Al Ghazali, Rahim Muhullah, he
said,
and the positive advice and the negative
way of giving advice. He said, is
confidential and courteous.
Nasiha is confidential and courteous. Whereas tawbir
is public and tactless without tact.
We also consider the advice of the renowned
Islamic scholar,
Imam
the Luminary Fudayil
ibn Ayaab, who said,
Imam
Fudayil ibn Aya said, a believer covers
up and gives naseeh,
whereas an evildoer
exposes and humiliates.
I want to relate a particular incident, and
I want us to take lessons from these
incidences.
And indicates the act and the impact of
genuine and positive nasiha which we spoke about
yesterday.
At a school reunion,
a young man went up to an elderly
gentleman and said to him,
assalamu alaikum. And he said, you know,
he greeted him and he said, I am
so and so. He said, the name's rings
a bell, but who are you? He said,
I was a student of yours many years
ago,
and I've also become a teacher because of
you. He said,
oh, how is that?
He said, many years ago,
some of the one of the students in
the class bought a very expensive gift.
And we were of the poor children and
so on. But none the less, we're very
jealous because you know everyone was paying attention
to this boy. So I stole the item
and put it
boy complained,
the teacher then asked everybody
to stand in a circle in the class,
make a circle and close their eyes.
And then the teacher went around
3 times,
going through each one's pocket. And after going
around 3 times, he went to sit down
and then he told the students, open your
eyes and go and sit down.
They sat down. He said, people,
the the
the item has been found.
The item has been found.
I just wish to say that any of
us and everyone of us should learn to
be honest.
Never take something of someone else,
and if you make an error, return it.
Never take something of someone else. And that's
it. And he said, I don't want to
discuss this matter again. And he went on
with the class.
So the boy said, sir, do you remember?
He said, I was the boy and you
were the teacher,
and that's why I became like you. He
said, but why you became like me? He
said, because after that not a single
never
never victimized me.
So he said, sir, why didn't you do
that?
He said, you know why?
When I ask you to close your eyes
and I went around, I went around 3
times. I found it the first time.
But I went around 3 times and then
went to sit down because I also closed
my eyes.
I also closed my eyes. I didn't want
to see you so I didn't know it
was you. You see, from this lesson we
learn, a
very important
important lesson we learn from this. You see,
you can correct without shaming somebody.
Correcting without shaming.
Advising
without humiliating.
And imam Shafi'i put it best when he
said,
Whoever admonishes a person somebody's done something wrong
or so. Whoever admonishes a person privately,
He has advised him, and He has improved
and beautified him. And whoever admonishes someone publicly,
He has disgraced him, He has belittled him.
And in fact, buhanahu, He has betrayed him.
Beautiful example,
that we be of those who advise
and at the same time not be of
those who demean.