Sadullah Khan – Developing a Qur’anic Personality To be and What not to be. #5

In our theme for this Ramadan,

developing a Quranic personality

to be and how not to be,

we conclude our focus on the concept of

naseeh.

We remind ourselves that naseeh is a practice

of prophets,

and the ability to give good advice in

a positive and constructive there

is a

distinct difference

There is a distinct difference between advising someone,

insulting someone,

belittling someone, and ridiculing someone.

It's very different.

According to Imam Al Ghazali, Rahim Muhullah, he

said,

and the positive advice and the negative

way of giving advice. He said, is

confidential and courteous.

Nasiha is confidential and courteous. Whereas tawbir

is public and tactless without tact.

We also consider the advice of the renowned

Islamic scholar,

Imam

the Luminary Fudayil

ibn Ayaab, who said,

Imam

Fudayil ibn Aya said, a believer covers

up and gives naseeh,

whereas an evildoer

exposes and humiliates.

I want to relate a particular incident, and

I want us to take lessons from these

incidences.

And indicates the act and the impact of

genuine and positive nasiha which we spoke about

yesterday.

At a school reunion,

a young man went up to an elderly

gentleman and said to him,

assalamu alaikum. And he said, you know,

he greeted him and he said, I am

so and so. He said, the name's rings

a bell, but who are you? He said,

I was a student of yours many years

ago,

and I've also become a teacher because of

you. He said,

oh, how is that?

He said, many years ago,

some of the one of the students in

the class bought a very expensive gift.

And we were of the poor children and

so on. But none the less, we're very

jealous because you know everyone was paying attention

to this boy. So I stole the item

and put it

boy complained,

the teacher then asked everybody

to stand in a circle in the class,

make a circle and close their eyes.

And then the teacher went around

3 times,

going through each one's pocket. And after going

around 3 times, he went to sit down

and then he told the students, open your

eyes and go and sit down.

They sat down. He said, people,

the the

the item has been found.

The item has been found.

I just wish to say that any of

us and everyone of us should learn to

be honest.

Never take something of someone else,

and if you make an error, return it.

Never take something of someone else. And that's

it. And he said, I don't want to

discuss this matter again. And he went on

with the class.

So the boy said, sir, do you remember?

He said, I was the boy and you

were the teacher,

and that's why I became like you. He

said, but why you became like me? He

said, because after that not a single

never

never victimized me.

So he said, sir, why didn't you do

that?

He said, you know why?

When I ask you to close your eyes

and I went around, I went around 3

times. I found it the first time.

But I went around 3 times and then

went to sit down because I also closed

my eyes.

I also closed my eyes. I didn't want

to see you so I didn't know it

was you. You see, from this lesson we

learn, a

very important

important lesson we learn from this. You see,

you can correct without shaming somebody.

Correcting without shaming.

Advising

without humiliating.

And imam Shafi'i put it best when he

said,

Whoever admonishes a person somebody's done something wrong

or so. Whoever admonishes a person privately,

He has advised him, and He has improved

and beautified him. And whoever admonishes someone publicly,

He has disgraced him, He has belittled him.

And in fact, buhanahu, He has betrayed him.

Beautiful example,

that we be of those who advise

and at the same time not be of

those who demean.