Sadullah Khan – Developing a Qur’anic Personality To be and What not be. #22

Developing the Qur'anic personality

how to be and what not to be.

One of the great scholars of the 10th

century from kairouan in North Africa,

He wrote

He said,

good manners

and social etiquette from the Islamic perspective

are founded and based

on 4 hadith of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.

Whoever believes in Allah in the last day,

let him say something good or remain silent.

Control your emotions, in particular your anger.

None of you truly believe

unless you love for your fellow human being

what you love for yourself.

When you look at this, speak good or

don't say anything,

control your emotions, subdue your anger, love for

others what you love for yourselves.

These sayings of the Prophet

are

the foundations

of social etiquette.

And tonight we focus

particularly on the practical advice of the Rasul

given in the 4th of the hadith mentioned

by the Sheikh. And that hadith

is. The prophet

said, part of the perfection,

part of the goodness,

part of the excellence, part of the proof

of one's faith in Islam

is leaving off

that which is not your business.

In other words, minding your own concern,

do not indulge in matters which are not

your concern. This is part of the excellence

of your character as a Muslim person.

You see, by instilling the practice

of focusing on what is of our concern

and not over focusing

on what is not our business,

our attention

becomes more selective, what we attend to. Sometimes

people are so preoccupied.

There are people preoccupied

so much with things that doesn't bother them.

Or we don't prioritize even if we do

things, important things, we do the least important

the most.

So

if we focus on what is important, our

attention becomes more selective.

Our deliberations will become more practical.

Our deeds may become more appropriate

and perchance

our actions may become more valuable in the

estimation of Allah.

Now please do understand that this hadith does

not mean you don't care about other people,

you don't worry about other people. No. On

the contrary, in a hadith by Imam al

Bayhakil shurbul iman, Rasulullah

sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,

If Allah wishes well for a person, in

other words, if Allah really blesses you or

is inclined towards you or loves you,

an indication is that He makes you an

instrument of benefit for other people. In other

words, you become an energy avenue for benefiting

other people. Allah uses you to do good

to other people. So obviously, you must be

involved. We must be concerned and helpful to

others whenever the need arises.

However, the focus of the hadith,

we should not indulge

inquisitively

in what is not our business.

Some people tend to become preoccupied

with other people's affairs.

Some people tend to become preoccupied

with other people's affairs, which then leads to

gossip.

And gossip is one of the main gateways

to fitna.

And this results in unnecessary

interpersonal

problems. Many homes are broken. Many relationships are

broken because of this.

And many friendships are broken because of this.

Because gossip,

it leads to gossip, worrying about other people's

affairs and then commenting about it. It leads

to gossip, it leads to fitna, resulting in

unnecessary

interpersonal problems.

Rather than focusing on their own issues and

their own problems and their own shortcomings,

they preoccupy themselves

with other people's shortcomings, other people's fault, other

people's business. And the Rasulullah

said,

He said, glad tidings to that person, more

concerned about their own issues, about their own

faults, about their own shortcomings

than worrying about the issues of other people.

Hadith of Rasoolullah.

This prying into other people's affairs

is most certainly disliked by Allah subhanahu wa

ta'ala. Only the tabaeen, of course tabaeen are

those

He

said,

One of the signs of Allah's turning away

from people

is because those people become involved

in the business of other

people. One of the signs of Allah turning

away from a person or from a people

is because that person or those people become

involved in the matters which does not concern

them.

So,

for us the lesson in all of this,

let us help where we can, always.

Get involved wherever necessary,

but never overextend

ourselves

by prying into

other people's private affairs. May Allah guide us

and may he protect us.