Sadullah Khan – Developing a Qur’anic Personality To be and What not be. #22
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The speaker discusses the importance of following the Prophet's advice to avoid unnecessary distractions and avoid unnecessary behavior. They emphasize the need to focus on one's own needs and avoid seeking others' input. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of being involved in one's own affairs and not to prayed into other people's private affairs.
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Developing the Qur'anic personality
how to be and what not to be.
One of the great scholars of the 10th
century from kairouan in North Africa,
He wrote
He said,
good manners
and social etiquette from the Islamic perspective
are founded and based
on 4 hadith of Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam.
Whoever believes in Allah in the last day,
let him say something good or remain silent.
Control your emotions, in particular your anger.
None of you truly believe
unless you love for your fellow human being
what you love for yourself.
When you look at this, speak good or
don't say anything,
control your emotions, subdue your anger, love for
others what you love for yourselves.
These sayings of the Prophet
are
the foundations
of social etiquette.
And tonight we focus
particularly on the practical advice of the Rasul
given in the 4th of the hadith mentioned
by the Sheikh. And that hadith
is. The prophet
said, part of the perfection,
part of the goodness,
part of the excellence, part of the proof
of one's faith in Islam
is leaving off
that which is not your business.
In other words, minding your own concern,
do not indulge in matters which are not
your concern. This is part of the excellence
of your character as a Muslim person.
You see, by instilling the practice
of focusing on what is of our concern
and not over focusing
on what is not our business,
our attention
becomes more selective, what we attend to. Sometimes
people are so preoccupied.
There are people preoccupied
so much with things that doesn't bother them.
Or we don't prioritize even if we do
things, important things, we do the least important
the most.
So
if we focus on what is important, our
attention becomes more selective.
Our deliberations will become more practical.
Our deeds may become more appropriate
and perchance
our actions may become more valuable in the
estimation of Allah.
Now please do understand that this hadith does
not mean you don't care about other people,
you don't worry about other people. No. On
the contrary, in a hadith by Imam al
Bayhakil shurbul iman, Rasulullah
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
If Allah wishes well for a person, in
other words, if Allah really blesses you or
is inclined towards you or loves you,
an indication is that He makes you an
instrument of benefit for other people. In other
words, you become an energy avenue for benefiting
other people. Allah uses you to do good
to other people. So obviously, you must be
involved. We must be concerned and helpful to
others whenever the need arises.
However, the focus of the hadith,
we should not indulge
inquisitively
in what is not our business.
Some people tend to become preoccupied
with other people's affairs.
Some people tend to become preoccupied
with other people's affairs, which then leads to
gossip.
And gossip is one of the main gateways
to fitna.
And this results in unnecessary
interpersonal
problems. Many homes are broken. Many relationships are
broken because of this.
And many friendships are broken because of this.
Because gossip,
it leads to gossip, worrying about other people's
affairs and then commenting about it. It leads
to gossip, it leads to fitna, resulting in
unnecessary
interpersonal problems.
Rather than focusing on their own issues and
their own problems and their own shortcomings,
they preoccupy themselves
with other people's shortcomings, other people's fault, other
people's business. And the Rasulullah
said,
He said, glad tidings to that person, more
concerned about their own issues, about their own
faults, about their own shortcomings
than worrying about the issues of other people.
Hadith of Rasoolullah.
This prying into other people's affairs
is most certainly disliked by Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala. Only the tabaeen, of course tabaeen are
those
He
said,
One of the signs of Allah's turning away
from people
is because those people become involved
in the business of other
people. One of the signs of Allah turning
away from a person or from a people
is because that person or those people become
involved in the matters which does not concern
them.
So,
for us the lesson in all of this,
let us help where we can, always.
Get involved wherever necessary,
but never overextend
ourselves
by prying into
other people's private affairs. May Allah guide us
and may he protect us.