Saad Tasleem – Shaadi Season Ep#9

			Salam, alaikum, warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Okay, so five tips for the newly married.
		

			Number one, don't be afraid to disagree. It's common that when people first get married, they're in
that lovey w phase. And when they see something in their spouse, they don't like they don't really
bring it up, they don't address it. And they just live their life in that way until they find
themselves in a position one day, maybe after the honeymoon phase is over after a year or so, where
they have some type of conflict. They disagree, they strongly disagree with their spouse, and they
don't know how to deal with this conflict. And they don't know how to deal with it is because they
never trained themselves. When it comes to conflict resolution, they don't know how to disagree with
		

			their spouse. And it's actually like I said, it's better that if you have a disagreement or you
disagree with your spouse, it's okay to disagree with them. Even in the beginning of the
relationship, what you're doing is you're establishing habits that will continue or establishing
good habits of how to deal with conflict that will continue on in the future of your relationship as
well. Number two, educate yourself about marriage and relationships. If you haven't done this before
marriage, which is actually the proper time to do it. But if you haven't done it before, at least
now, educate yourself about marriage, for example, the fear of marriage, Islamic part of it, the
		

			fear of marriage, and relationships. But even when it comes to communication, and conflict
resolution, educate yourself about this, it's not too late. Do it now. Number three, learn about the
differences between the genders. The reality is that men and women are different. There are many
ways in which we're different. We behave in different ways we deal with issues in different ways.
There are psychological difference between differences between men and women. One of the biggest
mistakes that people make when they're married, is to treat the opposite gender, just like the way
they would want to be treated. And so educate yourself. And like with the previous point, this
		

			should be done before you get married. But if you haven't done it, then at least do it. Now educate
yourself about the differences between men and women. Number four, learn together so that you may
improve together. If you put yourself in the habit from the beginning of your relationship of
learning, starting with Islam, obviously, improving your relationship with last pet together. This
is a habit that will continue on in the rest of your relationship and it's something inshallah, that
you can pass on to your children as well. If you're learning together, you are improving together.
And the more you improve your relationship with the last panel of data, the more it will help the
		

			relationship between the two of you. Lastly, number five, and this may seem a little odd to some
people. But trust me, this is important. Make a budget. Now you're asking what is it? What do you
mean make a budget? What does that have to do with all these other pieces of advice that you're
giving me make a budget, because one of the and I mentioned this in a previous video before, but one
of the main causes of divorce is financial problems or financial issues. And so from the beginning
of the relationship, if you make a budget and you have your expectations laid out in terms of how
much how much you're supposed to spend, how much what you're supposed to spend on what you're not
		

			supposed to spend on to lay down your financial expectations from one another. This can save a lot
of conflict that can occur later on in the relationship. So lastly, and I know this may say this may
sound strange to you, but sit down with your new wife or sit down with your new husband and make a
budget for your life. And Allah Subhana Allah knows best. Until next time, inshallah Giada said I'm
on a cold water hammer to law II or what I can do.