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Saad Tasleem

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Wedding Dowry in Islam

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Assalamu alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh. Today we're talking about the Maha or the dowry.

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There are misconceptions and confusions regarding this issue. So let's take a brief look at this matter inshallah. Very simply, the motto is what the groom gives to the bride when they get married, and it's their right of the bride was founded to Allah says, to Nisa, pasado rtnn Allah, and give the women meaning the women who are about to marry their dowry with a good heart. If you notice here, Allah uses the word, Doc. And so doc comes from the word Sid, which means truth. So the Maha or sadock is a testament to how truthful and sincere The man is, in his desire to marry this woman and to fulfill his obligations. That really is a symbol of respect and honor for this woman that

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he's about to marry. Now, according to most of the scholars, the Maha should be something which is tangible, but Islam doesn't stipulate an exact amount, nor a maximum or minimum amount. That being said, there are a couple of things to watch out for when it comes to the model. Firstly, the mosque should be simple, convenient and easy. The process Adam said hiatal subak, a subtle, the best of the diaries is that which is the most easy, meaning the best type of malhar is that which is affordable for the groom, the mouth, his mouth shouldn't be a burden upon him, the mouth should be something that he can afford. And obviously, this differs from person to person, depending on their financial

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status, and so on. So yes, the groom should be as generous as possible when it comes to the Maha, but he should not commit to a Maha which he cannot afford, he should give what he's able to give without it being a burden. And also, it is best to give them a hug immediately. It may be permissible to delay them a holiday, maybe permissible gift part now in part later, but he should give it immediately at the time of the kneecap. Sometimes, such a high amount of gets stipulated to be paid a future time that the groom is never able to afford it. And he ends up Never giving this type of modern Japan a law, that obligation doesn't get fulfilled. And sometimes I've had a lot and

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this happens sometimes, a person gets pressured into giving him a hug, and he cannot speak up and say, You know what, I can't afford this Mahal. And because he's pressured into this, and he feels a pressure a bit later, he ends up with resentment either towards the bride or towards her family, or whoever else and this leads to problems down the line. Lastly, to the parents, I want to say Listen, don't make them a hump and obstacle between two people getting married. The mother is not the price of your daughter, it's not how much she's worth. It's simply a token of a man's desire to marry this woman. It's never going to be equal to how much your daughter is truly worth. Also, some people's

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paddler they become boastful about them or how they start comparing them out of their daughter to the other girls and so on so forth. It's about Allah, this leads to arrogance. It leads to problems and it leads to descend issues, and that should never ever be done. And last hello to Allah knows best. Until next time in sha Allah, Allah said I'm on a call what happened to lie about a cat