Riyadul Haqq – Traits of Hypocrisy Part 7
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Bismillah al Rahman al Rahim
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa barakato.
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respect to listeners,
we continue with the theme of hypocrisy
and its signs and traits.
I've spoken on this topic at length, in great detail over the past few weeks.
And so,
but the topic is so vast,
and the number of verses
in the Quran that remain to be recited and
explained.
Even about hypocrisy and the traits of hypocrisy are so numerous that I don't think we will have sufficient time and I don't want to rush them.
Otherwise we won't be able to do them justice. So what I think I will do is
wrap up this topic and provide
a summary today of many of the outstanding verses and sections of the Quran.
And then in sha Allah next week, I'll move on from the verses of the Quran to the hadith of Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam. And I'll probably explain just
two, three Hadith, maybe just even to
about hypocrisy and it's and then will suffice with that.
So
some of the remaining traits that are mentioned in different parts of the Quran, which we haven't covered in detail, our
betrayal
the one of the hypocrites at the time of Rasul allah sallallahu alayhi wa salam.
One of the greatest things which Allah condemns in detail about their behavior, is their betrayal of Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam at critical moments.
So that's one thing, which is very evident throughout.
The other thing which Allah mentions in more than one place is there to face adness
and the desire to please everyone for their personal
gain.
And this means going to one party, convincing them then reassuring them that they are with them, they are friends with them devoted and dedicated to them, sincere towards them, and then repeating the same pledges and promises and assurances to another party. So this topic is also covered in more than one place of the Quran regarding the hypocrites.
One of the traits which maybe I'll expand on which Allah mentions again in more than one place is their laziness in a bad
way the farm Illa salatu salam Kusa your own and mouse what I have grown hola hola hola Paulina
that when they referring to the hypocrites when they rise to prayer, they rise indolence
lazily
half heartedly
and they do so you're on a mass meal each show the people
what I have grown alike luckily, and they do not remember a law
except very little. So before I move on to the other topics, let me just briefly expand on this. So
this is something we can learn a lot for.
Which is that our iba
should be sincere.
Full of devotion
full of meaning and depth.
It shouldn't be a mindless ritual
because that is a trait of hypocrisy
we shouldn't feel it's just something I have to do.
And
worse, is what the hypocrites would do, which is that they would pray they would do many of the things they would join us all Allah Subhan Allah Almighty was syndrome, but it was all for sure.
And
and this is why law condemns them because they are extremely insincere in their EBA.
Even they're spending, even they're praying.
Even they're standing with Rasulullah sallallahu today who said that it was all for show.
And as a result, they cannot be trusted. If someone does something for show
that shows great insincerity.
That person cannot be called upon or trusted to do the right thing at the right time. Because the only consideration is themselves
if they even reduce their Salah to show
and Allah specifically speaks of
that that is a warning for us. So our bad, should be sincere, should be full of devotion and depth. Now of course this can't happen immediately. It's not easy to achieve, but it's something we have to consciously
and continuously work towards. We can't let this slip
People often ask.
Allah says in the beginning of sort of
a flattened movement on and livina houfy salah the hem harshing
indeed successful are those believers who are
humble and divide
in their prey
so
this is often referred to as horseshoe
in Salah, that's the verb of
the Salah to him harsh
word harsh hearing meaning devout humble. There are is derived from the roots. Well, it's derived from the verb, horseshoe.
So what does horseshoe originally mean?
And in the Asian languages and even in Arabic,
but you often hear this phrase in order to who should and who do who should who do so in Arabic, you hear it to assure Hodor these are two separate words. So what do they actually mean? So we often hear people say, How do I develop? Or should Sure am Hello insula.
So what do these two words mean? They are similar
in that they both refer to submission.
And he millets
in another verse of the Quran, Allah says in surah, heading at a mutiny Lilina Armineh and duchateau global homolytic Killa. Oman as well
as the time not yet come
for the believers, and buckshot guru homolytic Rila that their hearts submit and soften and become humble to the remembrance of Allah
Ah, and to that truth which has come down.
So, this is what should means to submit. And when a person submits, they humble themselves. If one submits before another, you can only submit sincerely with humility.
So the to go hand in hand. So this is why crucial means submission and humility.
So, what's the difference between sure and hadoo?
The same word, same root letters, ha.
The first letter is heart and the final letter design, and only the middle letter differs. It's either sheen, which is sure, or Dodd, which is corridor. They're actually very similar. But one distinction between the two is, although it's not always used, but there is one technical distinction, which says that, who should who do with a thought in the middle refers to the humility and the submission and the softening of the body.
And the limbs and who should with A cian refers to the submission and the humility of the heart, just as Allah says in that verse, And Doescher, our Guru has a time not yet come for the believers that their hearts soften and submit and become humble to the remembrance of Allah. So who should who door in Salah therefore means the softening, the relaxing,
the submitting, and the humility of the of both the body and the heart in Salah.
That's devoutness that's devotion.
So this is how we should be insula, devoted, and devout, humbles silent, submissive, soft, and relaxed, relaxed, not in the sense that we are
indifferent
and nonchalant, no, relaxed in the sense that our bodies are relaxed and submissive before Allah subhanho wa taala. They drop relaxation in the sense that the body drops before Allah.
The body should not be tense.
And similarly,
when you submit, you lower yourself physically as well as mentally and emotionally. So the body should be lowered before Allah.
humbled before the heart and mind should also be softened and humbled and lowered before Allah subhanho wa taala. Now that's very difficult to achieve. So as I began saying, People often ask, How do I develop this? Sure. And who do insula? Well, like most things, there's no magic pill.
There's no instant fix or solution.
It's as easy and as difficult as doing it to yourself. No one else can do it for you. There's no magic pill
so sometimes doctors when they become a bit Stern, they are known to say to their patients, look, you have to do this.
Doctor, how can I do that?
Because we're always looking for that instant, magical,
easy, simple solution
which requires no effort, no willpower, no determination, no resolve, no hard work and no time on our part.
So doctors often say sometimes sternly, you have to do this.
And if you say well how do I do that? This is how you do it. It says easy and as hard as that. That's all it's as simple and as difficult as that. The most the doctor can do is advise you guide you point you in the right direction.
Similarly indeed, the most that ruler man can do
that and will be someone who's mentoring you and guiding you the most a teacher an earl in a shave,
a more a be a guide a Muslim watershed can do
is
advise you show you point you in the right direction and
Got
the lifting the heavy work, the resolve the determination, the willpower, the mustering of that strength, and that willpower,
and the hard work and the perseverance.
All of that is the responsibility of the individual, no one else can do it for you.
And this is true for every single thing in the
and I'm saying this because
this is one of the most famous questions we get asked,
How do I do this? How do I achieve that? Yes, if a person genuinely doesn't know, when it's a valid question, of course, but often, we already know that, okay, I have to do a I have to do B. But we still persist in asking, How do I do a how do I achieve B?
It's in everybody's grasp.
We can do it. Now you can live Allah on Epson in Laos.
We know this verse very well, Allah does not burden the soul.
X except to the extent of its strength.
We are able to do it.
We just have to develop that determination.
And that result
to see through. So same with shoes, although it's not easy, undoubtedly. But unless you make a conscious, continuous concerted effort
to develop the Salah, so that it becomes sincere only for the sake of Allah. There's no show in it. There's no rigidity, and there's no inflexibility. There's no
casual behavior about it. There's nothing routine or ritual about it, we won't always achieve it. But every time we fall off, we have to get back on every time we veer off, we have to bring ourselves back. And by constantly training oneself to do this.
It can be achieved.
So the salah of a modern, is devout,
devoted, deep,
profound
and meaningful.
The Salah of a monastic is rapid.
It's devoid of any meaning, bereft of any spirituality,
of any depth.
Its functional.
And its purpose is never to please Allah, its purpose is always something else to show
Seanchan for display, and although Allah says this about salah
that you are our own analysis immediately show the people that's exemplary in the sense that they would be guilty of the same behavior and everything they did.
And this is what I mean needs to fear that none of my bad should be for sure to seek fame.
A name
worldly glory for one's good deeds is the behavior of homeownership, not the behavior of men, because it's tied in with what I've said previously about the vision and the outlook of a monastic. And will now if it only sees the dunya nevertheless, and when Africa short, sharp, short sighted
and when I fit once and seeks instant gratification and gain.
And so
their intentions,
their motives, their objectives are always short term.
And so they're really bad. It's never for the actor, it's always for the dunya and Walkman, on the other hand,
is as far sighted and what means gays is on the ACA, not on the dunya. So even though dunya is for that
even the dunya is for the ACA
so why wouldn't the Dean be for the ACA and I'm gonna fit
his beam is also for the dunya so why wouldn't is doing IV for the dunya
me
Lin's dunya M dean of the art for the Afra and I'm gonna fix deen and duniya both off of the dunya
so I'm gonna fix Salah is for the dunya and when Africa southern is for the dunya
a Mortman Southern Africa sadaqa charity is always for the
there should be no show. So I've given the example of southern clap because sometimes
it may be difficult to understand
Alia Austin tation showmanship display
when it comes to Salah
but we can easily understand it when it comes to southern
because that's a display of wealth and a person gives them charity is a display of generosity he attracts name gain fame
recognition
so mins iba whether it's summer, Osaka or South Africa or even
whether it's the ultimate ally meaning studying or teach
all of this is for the AF
and I'm gonna fix rabada not just his Salah and his sadaqa but also his the alum and Taleem his learning and His teaching and His IL
is for the dunya
so how can an add him be I'm gonna fit
in a hadith later by Imam, ramblings Muslim and others Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said in a call from out halfway done with the
aluminum, aluminum.
Indeed, the greatest thing that I fear for my ummah
is every hypocrite who is learned of tongue
eloquent of 10.
So if an alum if Allah subhanho wa Taala has given an ad,
the aim of his GitHub of his book and the end of his Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the words of his little soul, so Allah Hi, and that around him becomes insincere. I'm not saying he isn't gonna have it. But if that Alim becomes insincere, and then he utilizes he actually exploit his real
for the sake of the dunya and not the deen
than even that our limbs
efforts that our limbs teach the Imams preaching is hypocritical.
It's one of the traits of nifer can hypocrisy and it is highly possible. There is no exception. In sincerity being
a traitor the hypocrisy is not confined to Salah extends to every rebel other sadaqa has well even extends to him.
And I say this because of the students of him so you to those who are actually studying fear, Ria, fear, showmanship, fear display fear ostentation, fear hypocrisy in England?
fear it.
And the hypocrisy of Ireland is far far greater than the hypocrisy of sulla.
Because when a hypocrite is hypocritical in his Salah
that's quite limited.
But when the Alim is hypocritical
in his ill
that damage is not restricted to the individual extends to the whole ummah. This is why the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Indeed the greatest fear that I have of the things that I fear for my ummah, gulaman after Lehman listen is every hypocrites every month it was eloquent of tongue,
learned of tongue.
So, going back to the verses of the Quran, one of the traits which Allah mentions in more than one place is the showmanship and the display
in worship, especially in specifically in salah of the hypocrites even at the time, especially at the time of Rasul Allah Subhan Allah Almighty He was some of them.
So I mentioned today the
are
hypocrites being lazy as well, so they, they will pray. But they'll pray very lazily, very intelligently. It's a burden, everything's a burden. They don't do it enthusiastically. And that's what men should never treat. CRM sadaqa Salah any of the IBA that as a bird,
never
this is why I'm Hanifa Rahim Allah advised that if a person is hungry
and the time for Salah comes
then
the person should eat first and then pray late,
not pray first and eat later.
And his explanation was very beautiful. He would say of course this is derived from the Hadith. This is derived from the Sunnah of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam and the Sahaba will be Allah. Once I'm delighted no matter the Allah who was actually eating whilst the Imam was reciting Quran in Salah
he was eat
and Imam Abu Hanifa Rahim Allah used to say I'd rather make my food my salah than my salah my food
meaning
if I know that I still have to pray
then I'd rather eat first
why but during my food or will be preoccupied with the thought that I still have to do my salah so my food will become my salah.
So I'd rather make my food my salah
than the other way around, which is that as many of us like to do, we have a choice now
we have to pray Salah we have to eat.
So what do we do? So often our attitude is, let me pray in haste and eat at leisure.
So let me quickly get it out of the way five minutes and then have a three course meal over 50 minutes.
And when a person then prays stomach rumbling person's hungry, they can smell the food it's waiting at the table. It's tasty. And the whole seller becomes a person's food because that's all they all think
so mmm honey Faraj Mahala would say, I'd rather make my food my salah than my salah my food.
This again speaks of that devotion
and I was saying that men should never treat any bird that has a bird. Never. And in this we often treat our Salah has a bird like something we have to get out of the way so that we can do other things peacefully and athleisure that's not the attitude of a mob. Of course we fail. Well, we have to remind ourselves and work towards it. Because that's what the hypocrites used to do where they're gone with a solid bunk Salah when they would rise to prayer, they'd rise lazily intimately and what men should be enthusiastic about every act of
enthusiastic about fasting
and Masha Allah we still have it in us.
We see it in Ramadan. Before the arrival of Ramadan, people are genuinely excited. That is a sign of EMA.
That is a sign of people are genuinely excited. People look forward to Ramadan, even though it's not easy. People look forward to that spirituality, that atmosphere.
The EBA
and people are enthusiastic they want to fast.
So there is that glimpse of ima, unfortunately, we're unable to sustain it. So within the first few days of Ramadan,
our enthusiasm wanes and we begin looking forward to eat and not simply because of the celebration, just so that we don't have to fast
and we see it in taraweeh as well. In the first night of that are we the massages are full
and then
After the first week, the numbers begin to drop and dwindle. And the middle of Ramadan is the low.
Genuinely there's a real low and drop and the numbers begin begin picking up towards the end of the month.
There's no real explanation for that other than laziness, lack of enthusiasm.
And, of course, it's not easy but we have to work on it because laziness, indolence, half heartedness in a bother and lack of enthusiasm is the sign
of the math beat until the hypocrites were at the time Rasul Allah rasool Allah Heidi are so anyway moving on.
As I said the some of the signs mentioned other than laziness and about the him prayer are mainly to face Agnus. Betrayal
and
short sightedness and another thing creating conflict corruption and poisoning the minds of the beliefs instructing one another to do evil
universal law says I'm gonna if you're gonna what I'm gonna go to bat go member
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In and when I've been a humble first
was first described as a very beautifully, the hypocritical men and the hypocritical women.
They are of each other
mean. But just as believers
like to associate with each other, rely on each other depend on each other support each other. They encourage each other.
They remind each other. That's what Believers do. A believer is a mirror to another belief, as I've explained, one of the meanings is that a believer points out the errors of another believer in order to guide them to what's best.
They look out for each other that they care for each other. They instruct each other to do good. They're enjoying the good and forbid the evil amongst each other. What does Allah say? And what sort of grass will ask in them in Santa Fe hos in the Lilina almond Awami Lusardi have what the wire so we'll build the wire service.
By time. Indeed, man is in a state of great loss. Except for those who believe in who do good deeds. What do they do, and they encourage each other, they remind each other, they instruct each other, to the truth
and to perseverance,
steadfastness.
So that's what Believers do. So just as believers, they rely on each other, depend on each other, support each other.
Encourage one another to do good. Guide one another, to the way of Allah, hypocrites bound with each other. They rely on each other. They depend on each other, they defend each other.
And they actually encourage each other and others to do something.
Everyone's giving their power.
Everyone gives that
everyone is always pulling.
Everyone is always pulling.
It's the law of the universe. There's no inertia.
Nothing is still static.
Everything pulls or pushes. Everything moves.
That's the law of the universe. And as individuals as people, we do exactly the same. We push we pull,
we give dower
we're always pulling each other towards us towards our opinions, our beliefs, our preferences, our wants our ways. So I'm what min Paul's tries to draw and attract
everyone to good to help to sub to perseverance to steadfastness to the way of Allah and his little salsa Allah it was and then what mean does that by word of mouth, by behavior by at
cheered by de
missa sometimes when you find someone who's good as a person, they don't have to say anything
their demeanor
their character,
their mannerism
all of this is sufficient to attract
and to actually encourage you to become like
an Amana FIP
and others, they are constantly attracting, they are a magnet to but that attraction, their invitation there that hour
is not too good.
But it's to their ways. And what are their ways lie? Deception
intrigue,
plotting, scheming, harming,
poisoning.
And that's exactly what the modern African would do at the time of Rasul Allah Subhan. Allah Almighty Who said them as Allah describes here, the hypocritical men and women they are of each other.
Unlike the believers who yet Morona Bill Maher who went home and in Monaco,
the believers enjoying the good and forbid the evil, the moon, half moon and the moon car, Allah says they actually encourage and instruct others to sin.
When Hona and in my roof, and they prevent each other, and others and they forbid, good.
That may sound strange, how is that possible? But Allah says it, that's exactly what them on Earth.
So anyone who encourages another to do evil to commit sin.
That is
the way of the hypocrites that is actually a trait of hypocrisy.
Remarkably,
in the Quran, Allah mentioned something
which I've actually heard other people say,
today in this day and age, which is that they encourage someone encourages another to commit sin. When the other person resists because they uncomfortable, something they haven't done.
And another person's encouraging, will lie he people have related this to, and I've actually heard it myself.
Where the person who's encouraging the others to commit sin actually says to them, Look, don't worry.
I will shoulder your sin.
I will take the burden of your sin, I will shoulder your sin. This is exactly what the hypocrite said.
At the time of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, they actually said to others,
that we will bear
your sins.
Allah says well mountain behind me Lindemann biohome, and Che, and they will never bear the burden of others since
they are liars.
So
people do encourage one another, to commit sin. And they do prevent one another from doing good. And this is actually much easier. We should be very wary of this.
One of the reasons is that we want people to be like us, because we don't want to feel left out. We don't want to feel guilty. We don't want to feel left behind. We don't stick out like sore thumbs. So if someone's trying to do good,
and we are failures in that regard, it reminds us it reminds us of our failure of our backwardness of our loneliness. So what do we do? We try to ensure that they remain a tower level.
So we stop them from doing good.
Why are you doing this? There's no need for you to do this. Why are you trying to be so goody goody
you
Children actually say that and remember when we were children, it's a group of children, if any one person is trying to do good than the other ones ganging up on him and say, Why are you trying to be all goody goody? We used to hear that phrase a lot. Why are you trying to be all goody goody?
Just like in, in the class, everyone's messing around, someone's trying to behave.
That person faces a lot of abuse. Why are you trying to be the teacher's pet?
Why why do you want to be the odd one out? Why do you want to be good? And the reason for preventing that person from not misbehaving and from actually doing good is that they feel guilty and sinful.
In psychology, it's known as projective identification.
Where
to make yourself feel better.
Well, two things one is projection of guilt, will Allah He that is a sign of hypocrisy as well Allah mentioned in the Quran, in the context of the hypocrite, it's
when when you ex, oh, isn't familiar, maybe he buddy in the
movie, whoever commits the sin
or grievous error,
then familiar, maybe he but he, then he casts that sin
onto an innocent person for the
movie now that indeed that person has borne a great sin, and a clear cannon
calumny and a clear sin.
What does that mean? He actually happened at the time of Rasulullah Salallahu Alaihe Salam where someone committed theft.
And he was a hypocrite.
When he was about to be found out, he actually planted evidence and accused an innocent person
of being guilty of that sin and cry.
And this is the reference. This is according to one narration.
So projection of guilt
is famous term in psychology. That's a trait of hypocrisy and projective identification, which is another
psychological term used often about peds.
peds are personality disorders.
So that they actually called they have a personality disorder. But often in psychiatry, they are referred to as personality disorders, PDS because they are the disorder.
Someone rang me yesterday.
Well, I spoke to someone yesterday.
And
personally, individuals quite anxious about their relationship with an individual who many suspect has a personality disorder because of the behavior.
A Walking Disaster, a walking whirlwind,
mayhem, college, everywhere.
So in the conversation, I began saying as well PD,
meaning, the personality disorder. So projective identification and projection of guilt will lie these are both traits of hypocrisy. And these two terms are also used about personality disordered individuals. So what are the projection of guilt? This is what a hypocrite does, which is they aren't guilty of something. And they falsely accuse another in order to deflect attention, divert attention, deflect criticism, they have no shame in doing so. So they are the ones who are lying. But they actually say to the innocent person, you lie.
And they say it was such conviction. The poor good innocent person actually pauses and thinks.
Am I guilty?
These people are remorseless.
Unscrupulous, they have no shame.
No sense of guilt.
no conscience at all. And with a blank face, they could be lying through their teeth, but they will gaslight you and accuse you of
Have law.
And good guys always come last. So the poor innocent soul things my guilty, they begin to question themselves. So that's what that verse says whoever commits a sin or a previous cry
an error, and then
casts that onto an innocent person than indeed they have born a great canon niam a clear sin, mass projection of guilt. But what I was speaking about children, and not just children, but don't be the teacher's pet, and why do they do that. So that's just a crude example of how children do that. But as adults, we do it too. If someone is doing something good, we don't want to be left out. We don't want to feel bad. We don't want to be reminded of how terrible we are, how sinful we are. So what do we do, we ensure that that person doesn't rise above others. So we bring them down to our level, so that we feel better. In psychology, psychiatry, this is known as projective identification.
Another example of this is, people with personality disorders.
They actually feel quite terrible within at times, or a lot of the time.
So that world is quite
it is in great turmoil
within their world is in great turmoil.
And they feel really bad.
So how do they make themselves feel better? Do you know how they make themselves feel better, they actually go out.
And they create the same turmoil for someone else.
So when they create that carnage, and that turmoil and that inner * for someone else, because they bring that person down to their level, they think, fine, I'm okay. Now, it's not just me, it's him as well. It's her as well. And in Arabic, there's a saying, I believe that you there and with have faith, that when a calamity is common, it's lighter.
If someone thinks I'm the only one suffering, that's really terrible.
If everyone's suffering the same, we're all in the same boat makes me feel better. So the fact that the others are suffering makes a person feel better. I'll believe they they're McMuffin. So that's what people do when they and this is why
some people will deliberately come out and spoil your day. They will, there's no need, there's no call for it. They'll actually go out of their way to spoil your day. spoil your mood.
Why do they do it? It's all about them. It's because projective identification they want you to they want to bring you down to the same level so that they feel better. And they can own Subhanallah how twisted is this? If they see someone else?
Being good, doing good.
There thinking isn't that
I can feel better by elevating and lifting myself up to that level?
No, it's twisted. They don't do that. They think I know what I should do. I can feel better, not by lifting myself up to the higher level of this person, but rather, I should make myself feel better by dragging this person down to my level.
That is projective identification. And I've gone into this
digressed explanation, because this is what we do in then this is the meaning of yet Morona will monka why and how many Maroof they enjoin evil and they actually forbid good when we see someone doing good. Rather than being a mock Minh and thinking Masha Allah, let me try to be like him, like that hadith of Bokhari Muslim and others.
Which Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said there is no envy except in two people or accepting two things and what's the first one? The first one is
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And there is no envy except in two things. The first thing is that of a man from Allah has blessed with the Quran, so he recites it for the hours of the night.
So a neighbor hears.
And then the neighbor says, Would that I be given what he has been given,
so that I can do what he does. That's what men will for you. They're like affiliate and alphas and modern alphas soon. And it is in this, that those who via and rival each other should compete with each other. And
so when we see someone going ahead, our thought shouldn't be let me pull him back. Rather, our thought should be let me compete with them so that I can catch up with him or even beat him in good.
When we see others doing good, a mock Minh thinks, let me rise to that level of good. And well now if it thinks, let me bring that person down to my level.
And that's the meaning of yet and we're only going to move away and hone and in Maroof, they actually forbid, good. Now, this, I'm not saying everyone who does this as a hypocrite, like I've said throughout. Rather, this is one of the traits of hypocrisy, we should be very careful, especially in families, this is very common.
In families, it's very common, what when a family member is trying to do good, or the family members actually discourage.
And prevent
it remarkable.
Spouses stop each other from doing good.
But Billahi. And this is no lie throughout my life. The number of cases where I've dealt with the number of cases that I've dealt with, where the wife is preventing the husband from doing good is maybe about that much.
And the number of cases where the husband is preventing the wife from doing good is off the scale
truly is, and that may come as a surprise. I have dealt with countless cases where the wife wants to do good.
And the person preventing her is not her friend is not her acquaintance or colleague.
It's not even anyone else.
It's actually her own husband.
Her husband prevents her from doing good. And not indirectly directly. He forcibly prevents her from obeying Allah and is
forcibly,
forcibly obey forcibly
makes her commencing
forcibly prevents her from doing good.
I've dealt with countless cases.
There are other examples. That's why I said family where, for instance, someone's trying to do good parents don't forcibly stop the children, but they strongly discourage them.
And the strange thing is that it doesn't affect them.
So for instance, the Father, if the parents, if the son or the daughter is doing something,
it doesn't affect the parents in a negative way.
At all,
it doesn't cost them anything. So why do they prevent them and this is in some cases, they prevent the children because they do not want the extended family and others
to think that the son or the daughter has become too religious.
Now how can a person become too religious, it's only by comparison and contrast. It's a relative term. So if the father is a layabout, an utterly useless
if the mother isn't behaving as she should be,
and if others in the extended family on neglectful of their religious and moral and ethical duties,
and they indeed are all over the place, and that's the picture of the family and the extended family. And then one or two people emerge, who tried to do good,
who do good, who looked good, who speak good. It's that same projective identification. The others don't want to feel worse off. So rather than the others admiring them and begin to emulate them and aspire to rise to their level
Oh, no, everyone collectively works to bring them and drag them down
I remember once a young man
came to me in the masjid, it's just one example of many is just something that occurred to me right now. A young man came to me in the masjid
and sat me down.
And he actually began weeping.
He wept with his body shaking
wracked with emotion.
And he was complaining about his father.
He said, All my life, he was in his early 20s. All my life, my father has opposed me practicing religion,
all manner, and he wasn't being fanatical in any way. No.
He was just trying to be a good person.
And one exact, he gave me an example, that
he approached, this was many, many years ago. So in those days
now, it's quite common for teachers and schools to provide areas for prayer for worship for reflection in schools. But in many, many years ago, this wasn't so common. So this young man, he said to me that when I was 15 years old, I approached my teachers, and I requested them that I would like to do my afternoon prayer during the lunch hour. So could I have?
Is there any place where I can pray and maybe with others? So the school was very accommodating? But they said, in order to facilitate this, can we have some sort of official request? And because you were a child, can you maybe ask your they said to the other children, can you get your parents to maybe write in or contact us, and then with the support of the parents, and coordinating with them, we can maybe make some arrangements for a prayer facility, not specially with just a quiet space where they can retreat for
a short time during the lunch break.
So he spoke to his father, the other children spoke to their parents, and he spoke to his father. He said, My father went to school. And this is when he was really weep isn't my father went to school. And he actually told the teacher is head. Don't let him pray. My son is mad.
He said, about his own son, he said, My son is mad.
So fathers,
who in their age should know better are calling their young teenage children who tried to do good, Matt. And this isn't the only case. It's quite common. Someone begins praying, fasting, practicing, and members of the extended family and the immediate family aren't so observant.
What do they do? Rather than aspire to become like the individual? They actually turn around say you're balgowlah
He's math.
It's common to these math
when he would go around, giving Dawa
This is a traditional sunnah. Calling religious people mad. observant people mad is a traditional sunnah mu had a Salah.
In fact, Allah says, they say of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Majnoon
by his man. So Allah says Ottawa, so
what have they left a will to each other? That whenever anyone comes who encourages you and invite you to good you call him man
Mahalia, his Sarang.
They said of him, called Imogen
was legit. They said of him that he is mad, but not just the people. Do you know? No, Holly has said
I'm his own wife used to go around telling the people that my husband is mad. The wife have more headache the seller used to go around telling everyone My wife is mad. Sorry my husband is mad. She's calling original
prophets Allah love it was salam in muckety muck aroma before the Hijra in the morass him of Hajj in the seasons of Hajj, when people would come from all over Arabia. And he would go around visiting tribes and delegations, in Minar. And in the plains of hedge, what would happen is a he'd go, he'd speak to a group of people, invite them to the Oneness of Allah. And then he'd move on to the next group. So Abu Lahab would follow him His own uncle. And when he would speak to one group and move on to another group, Abu Lahab, would then come to the first group and say to them,
don't listen to anything he has said. He's my brother's son. He's my nephew. I'm his uncle. And I'm telling you, he's mad.
Don't miss it. Then the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa salam, when he would finish from the second group, and move on to another group, Abu Lahab would go to the next group and say, whatever this person has said, ignore him. He is my brother's son. He is my nephew. I am his elder. I am his uncle. I know him very well. He is mad, do not listen to him. So the wife of Alayhis Salam used to call him mad. That uncle of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, Abu Lahab used to call him mad. These were family members. It's very common.
It's very common.
So this is a son. And it continues today.
Yep, more on a bit of my roof. You got Morona Bill monka when Hona anima Ruth, Allah says they instruct each other and others to do to commit sin.
And they actually prevent others from doing
so anyway, that is one of the descriptions of the one after another one in the Quran. But going back to the early part of today's speech, which is that Allah subhanho wa Taala has mentioned many, many traits throughout the Quran. It's difficult to encompass all of them. I've tried to cover as many as possible. And undoubtedly others will also come along in the discussion of other topics, so I'll highlight them them.
But one of the things is betrayal.
The *,
hypocrites betray. And we're not just talking about minor betrayal. We are talking about treasonous, treacherous behavior.
And this is what the hypocrites did. At the time of assault allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at every critical juncture in
the monastic womb, betrayed besought allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam and exposed him and his chil him and his followers to great danger to mortal danger. It happened at the time of
you happened at the time of the aza.
It happened at the BU it happened on many occasions. And Allah actually references these in the Quran. So the treachery and the treasonous behavior and their betrayal and the betrayal of the man for whom at the time of the campaign of word, because with a lot of this is covered in surah. Allah Imran many, many verses, the treachery and the betrayal of the monarchy, at the time of a hospital reserve, also known as a hospital hand up is covered in great detail and sort of
the betrayal and the treachery and treasonous behavior of the monarchy, for whom at the time of us, but the book is covered in thorough detail in Surah Totoaba.
And these were some of the final verses of the Quran to be actually revealed.
The
line
the poisoning
of mind.
This is another trait of hypocrisy. This is also covered in sort of the new when the hypocrites played a major role in spreading
accusations, false allegations and candidly
against the honor
of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and that of his family. The famous story of millionaire a shell of the Lavon, which I've covered in full detail in the multi part commentary of Hadith on F from Sahiwal Hurley so please refer to that. But the hypocrites played a major role on that occasion to they were instrumental in instigating and then circulating the room, which then took help. So, poisoning minds, spreading filth and corruption,
gossipy
smearing and besmirching the name of others. This is not the trait, not the behavior of men. This is a characteristic of a monographic that's also covered in sort of
the betrayal and the treachery of the hypocrites at the time of Elizabeth winning the lead another campaign within the city of Medina, similar to those what
is also covered in sorted to the hash.
So,
this was one of the key
characteristics which Allah has actually expanded on in great detail throughout the Quran in these places, sort of a reserved sort of Emraan salted hash
which is the betrayal of the mafia.
Betraying Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi salam
reneging on their pledges on their promises.
In such a way, they actually harms other people and exposes them to mortal danger.
This betrayal was one of the key characteristics and what min is not treasonous. And what mean is not treacherous. And Markman doesn't betray a monument upholds trust
and what means trust with and what mean is honest. And what mean doesn't sell his soul? And a mottling doesn't sell his brother
is friend
is confident or anyone who trusts
and what means frank and honest men if you cannot do anything, he will say Look, I'm sorry, I cannot do this.
And what men will not say one thing to you. And as soon as your faces turn
stab you in the back. betray you Sell. Sell your
that is actually the behavior of Amana. Why What are of course, there are many reasons but one of the simple reasons why I'm gonna fix this is that there's a saying in English, there are no friends, only interests in politics is famous phrase, there are no friends only interest. And so you have major nations.
When you have psychopaths
ruling a whole nation
in a dictatorial man,
then that person's whims and desires and that person's treason and treachery and their betrayal.
swings the entire country
behind.
And we saw that, for instance, in the Second World War, Hitler and Stalin. Both came to an agreement that was their pact, a pact of non aggression. They carved up Europe between them.
And it was a promise
that you had both Hitler and Stalin
and neither of them had any intention of honoring their pledge, or the pact from the very beginning from the very outset. Historical documents have categorically proven that neither of them
lends any weight to the paper they sign the pact. Mike.
Both had an intention from the very outset of backstabbing each other.
And these weren't just two individuals on the street.
These two individuals have the lives of scores of millions
at their disposal,
and they swung their entire nations
behind them
in their trash.
So in politics, there's that phrase, there are no friends only interests. So that's what dictated to them standing was no friend to Hitler and vice versa. They both although they declared their friendship, neither of them saw each other as friends, they only saw interests. And when that interest dictated that they stab one another in the back and declare war on each other. And
that treachery eventually led to the ruin of entire continents, and the greatest loss of human life in the history of mankind.
That's it it was dictated that was the result of this political Maxim but there are no friends only interests
so I'm what me in everyday life
never
adopts that attitude that
it's only my interest that will dictate and guide everything that's what I'm gonna affect. And when I fix has no friends, and when I Fix It only has interests.
So he will do and he will go where his interest takes him and what's his interest why it doesn't matter if it behave in this backstabbing, treacherous, treasonous, deceptive behavior, or there are many reasons but one of the reasons is simple short term gain, short term sighted sightedness instant gratification, instant gain, short term interest, simple that sounds shallow them on Alpha peers. So, this betrayal is throughout the Quran. And that's one of the major characteristics and what mint does not behave like that. And this is actually covered in that famous hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu. It was seldom that signs of Amana fit are three.
When he lands when he speaks he lies.
When he promises he betrays that promise.
And when he is entrusted with a trust
it betrays that trust, he proves to be treasonous.
So, indeed, they displayed this at its absolute maximum
on these critical occasions during the life of Rasul Allah salAllahu Alaihe Salam and the Muslim community in Medina
and this is covered in great detail in all of these sorts of the Quran and so are sorted to know men does not gossip and what men does not spread lies and not men does not falsely accuse this is the behavior of I'm gonna not have a moment.
Lying isn't just that
you've done something and then when you are questioned, you say Oh, I didn't it is not lying includes repeating
unsubstantiated gossip,
and rumors about other people. And in fact, even if they are substantiate, it doesn't concern the person and what min doesn't talk about simple
even if someone has done something
unless it concerns the Mothman The Mothman does not concern himself or herself with it.
And that's the lesson Allah gave and sorted.
Lola it's similar to more than me nor anyone want me now to be enforcing Pharaoh Otto however, if goMobi Why wasn't that when you heard this believing men and believing women for good in themselves and said this is a clear law.
And Allah revealed that verse of the Quran but it was always acted on it had already been acted on by some of the Sahaba of the Allah Harnam according to many narrations will be you
will you will and sorry that the Allah one
did this and according some generations even Obamacare under the law and did exactly the same so it wasn't just a what you will in Saudi but also a way you've McCarren of the Allah and was famous story of what you will and sorry, he was sitting with his wife at home
and his wife on what are you but in Saudi Arabia said to him? Oh boy, you have you heard about our Isha and Safwan?
Because the name of the person who was accused of finding the martyr or the Allahu and so she said, Have you heard about our Isha? And so one
what people are saying, so she wasn't personally directly accusing her already shuttled the Lavorgna she was merely repeating what she
You heard heard,
gossip, rumor mongering? Chit Chat?
Vain, tall,
meaningless gossip. She said, Have you heard what
people are saying about? Alright, Shannon? So one?
So will you will I'm sorry that the levar knew what she was referring to.
So he said to her,
what's an answer? He said, Would you do it?
Would you do this?
So she vehemently began protesting innocence. And she bought at the idea that of what a you would even question her that will she capable of doing this? So her reaction spoke volumes. But how can you think this of me?
So he called me asked her, she calmly said to him, Have you heard what people are saying about our insurance software? So he calmly said to her, Would you do this?
And when she reacted, he then said to her, for our issue to hero Minky, then know that our insurance is far better than simple. If you can not imagine this about yourself, and you think only good of yourself, then how can you think any less of someone who is far far better than your eyeshadow?
So this personal vision that you have this favorable opinion, that you hold of yourself, extend that to everyone else? And that's the meaning of the verse, Allah reveal the verse but what you will in Saudi to the Allah Hara, and had already acted on it, because he's the one who did it. And that's the meaning of the verse, believing men and believing women should think good of themselves. When they think good of themselves, they should even more so think good of others. That's the attitude of men, and what men doesn't repeat rumors, doesn't indulge in gossip, does not carry tails,
does not speak idly
does not engage in chit chats.
In
needless conversation,
that's what on earth does the total opposite the * on the hypocrites, although many or sorry, although some of the believers perpetuated the rumor, and repeated it, the instigate of the room.
People actually started the rooms
were
the munafo. That's what the monarch does. And what men doesn't do that. There are many of the traits throughout the Quran. What I will do is I will suffice with this as I said at the very beginning, today will be the last session about traits of hypocrisy from the Quran. Just one more session next week, I'll devote some time to expanding on the
traits of hypocrisy mentioned in some of the most famous hadith of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, and then we will suffice with that. I pray that Allah subhanho wa Taala enables us to understand May Allah protect us from all of the traits of NIFA hypocrisy. May Allah make us a monks the mezzanine or some of the Allahu wa salam ala Abdi he will soon in the Vienna Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi Ultramarines hammock Allah will be the crescendo Allah Allah elantas The critical waterway Lake