Riyadh Walls – Sunday Talk Masjidus Sunni (21 August 2022
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usually the father ha de la. When a shadow Allah, Allah Allah Allahu
Allahu la sharika when a shadow and Mohammed Abdullah who are soon
Salvaterra de wa sallahu alayhi wa alayhi wa was having a woman Daddy
that what he did about the Brothers and Sisters in Islam
Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah wa taala. And
today, I want to reflect upon
some of the women who lived with an in the time of Muhammad
Sallallahu, Salah in Medina.
What sort of personalities they had, how they behaved themselves,
what was the educated they observed, while being ladies of
Naka, Medina.
And so we'll get a glimpse of the rights that women have in Islam.
So these rights are not rights which came after the Prophet.
These rights were the beginning of Islam, when the promises are often
made injera, the ladies of Medina felt this is this is how they felt
about themselves. So we'll talk about that.
And I'm going to illustrate it by giving a few examples, but they're
very important examples, the examples worthy to remember,
because today we have
they refer to themselves as feminists.
They say that Islam is a patriarchal religion.
It's dominated by men. Hamad Al Salam was a man
of occurrence of Man armor, and that is the argument and they feel
that they've been left behind it was set at the back of the budget,
or there was with the screen between them and everybody else,
and so forth. So let's look at the real situation. And
why they why they should not be feminists in Islam.
We know of course that in Makkah
Women were the most oppressed part of the population.
Husband. In fact, people didn't one, girl babies, that's about
data diversion for girl babies. And what they did was they used to
bury them alive and they didn't pay them alive when they were
born. They waited for the child to walk,
then they would dig the grave and put the child in birthday suit.
And the father would go and put the child in the grave and cover
to say, just like that.
We believe it. So that was the kind of
culture that prevailed in Makkah.
Although in terms of marriage, women had a lot of say in Makkah
was a woman could pick her own partner. Okay, so that was
allowed, under the old customs. It also under the new customers will
you
even imagine says that a girl came to the Prophet SAW Salem young
lady came to the nebi, Salah, Salah Marisa to Salah.
And she told the prophet that
her father had married
to a man in her absence and without her permission.
So the province of sunset, so what choice do you want to make?
The Prophet didn't ask, Who is he is a Muslim? As he got this, is he
got money?
What's his family surname?
What do you think the Prophet said? She said to him, my father
married me to a man without my permission.
So the prophecy tour, so what choice will you want to make?
was doing in between words? They were just what her right was.
Her right was to say yes or no profit one to know. So what do you
want to do? Do you say yes to that arrangement? Or do you say no to
that arrangement?
SubhanAllah. Today, somebody should come to me with the story
legacy, no marriages
that are brought about by the parents and introduce, you know,
you know, probably better, you know, maybe you know, they love
you boy to trust, you know, she has the right to say no, even with
the father of America, she has the right to say no.
So the answer was no, I agree. I like the guy, I liked the mantle.
And Fine, fine, fine. So personally, why did you come to
me, she says, I came to era surah Allah
so that the women must know that choice of a husband is the FAA.
It's got nothing to do with the parents. Course, parents have a
lot of say, in the 20 years when, while she's with her what they
were spending with them have obviously that is influenced in
influences in the choice of her husband of her husband, and vice
versa. So she says, I want parents to know, and I want the people of
Medina to know that this is the right type of girl which was to
get married.
Of course today. And the reason I think that that was the right
size, and still up to the day of a woman is that there are some
nations and some tribes within nations that feel that it is
better for father to find a bride for his to find a bride for his
son, or vice versa. And it's a better range. It's a better range.
I don't agree with that.
Because if anything goes wrong in the marriage, you the father
mistake total responsibility, absolute responsibility. And I
don't think a father wants to carry that kind of responsibility.
Correct. So just like a woman chooses can choose a husband
and of course the men and time will be reserved to salon very
shy.
We will hear later on about the behavior of the males
so much so that one day a man who had been single for a very long
time had been single for a very long time. He said to
Allah I found somebody and I'm gonna get ready to prophesy
Mashallah.
But the prophet Nene very shy man. So poverty, did you look at
it? No.
I trust that she's not as good I mean as as as she is described by,
by friends, etc, etc. Have
you have to look at you have to look you can look at her face. You
can look at the hands and you can look at the feet. Because if she
has those extremities, it must be a body in between. She hasn't got
one leg or one arm whatever it may be. Well that's it I mean in
Sharia
promises show you if you see her face and you feel you still want
to be married to this man.
So just as a woman can choose her own partner so a woman can end her
marriage as well.
The classic example of course,
is the example of case
sabich taburiente case.
She came to the Prophet sermon I've narrated this to you before.
And she said to the Prophet SAW Salem Yara surah Allah, I have a
problem. I don't love my husband in
save a woman should have come to me with that kind of opening
gambit in our conversation. If she had said to me, I want to divorce.
I don't love us anymore. I would have had so many things going
through my mind. So
like bad texts?
Why wouldn't you ask the question? Obviously, the first question I
would ask would be, so
whatever her name is, so what is your reason? Why don't you love
your husband?
Probably didn't ask that question.
For the tacit question, the other lady comes in, she just tells the
prophet but I don't love
proposals and asked her
what do you want to do? She says, I want to be free from him. And
so the Prophet SAW salad said to what was your daughter? She said,
he gave me a gardener Salama, as crazy. As I said, I think he asked
me to stick to it before last, to be to be to be in a position to
give a garden to your bride. In Medina, you had to be a very rich
man. Because it is if you if you managed to grow a garden,
then you obviously would be a rich man.
So the prophets of salaam called
the husband and say to the husband, yes, your wife, she wants
out of your of the marriage.
Give her back, I'll tell her to give the garden back to you.
And that will end.
So that was done maybe in 10 minutes,
maybe 15 minutes, maybe half an hour, maybe an hour.
And this was very personal by the the professor and just do it like
that, who called Hola, with Wi Fi gives back the tower? Well, today,
I mean, people used to give to interior and Audi 25 and dowry
five ran down. So it won't be a burden on the husband or the wife
to give back. But to give back a garden you have to consider.
So I my question I asked myself was is why did the Prophet you
know, say, you know, let me sit down and find out what the problem
is, you know, maybe, in his mind, you know, reconcile a couple as we
say, you know,
knee
you know, we would have called that a sort of dusta nastro and
Dr. Locke kind of set up within 24 hours people do all these things.
The Prophet did, he did maybe 15 minutes.
Because if you look at what the woman said, she said, I do not
love my husband.
And a woman, a prophet of Salem, us on a Saturday guided our last
magnetar they just didn't say he was under the guidance of Allah.
The Prophet knew that when there's no more love this
if she said you know that he doesn't support me or he doesn't
do this. But when a woman says out and out that you can't Islam, it
is not an Islamic law or rule that a woman must stay in a marriage, a
loveless marriage and vice versa. But particularly why because she
doesn't have the right to divorce herself. She has to go somewhere
with a bank and express that. So in the time of the Navy So Salah
Elisa to Salam, we are now the rights of women with regard to
marriage
the prophets of salaam used to give
talks in the masjid like I give talks,
lectures in the masjid.
And
when the prophets of salaam gave lectures in the military, there
was no screen between the women and the men said that the women
was Tibet. Like we have it here. So this is the Sunnah of Muhammad
sallallahu alayhi wasallam.
And the ladies despite that, the lady
just wanted a class of their own with a profit they know what to
say to the bank.
There is a shy they don't ask questions, but when they allowed
was the teacher you know they open up and ask question to tutor at it
so
and they said the prom Sanjana Sinhala, they have a riddle behind
the men, they have a monopoly on what you say.
Because of the fact that they can come to you can walk within the
city can visit you. So many things happen in emerging you they have
the freedom of the masjid, and so forth. But I know we know now, we
know now that the women and the men
played in the same as you listen to the same lectures in the same
as Jay, and so forth.
Until of course, the time, Amara was the one who changed the
arrangement of men and women very much.
So the promises someone made a special database on the Thursday
night Sunday, Thursday, set aside some time every Thursday to teach
the ladies maybe not to teach it but to interact with them.
And his interaction. His interaction with those ladies was
not the kind of interaction I have with the ladies here.
Over the menu, it was they wanted to have conversation was an ERISA
laws.
They wanted to know who we knew we really was. I mean, they had so
much admiration for him because they didn't know know him. So they
wanted to get to know Him. And Omar came to hear this
arrangement. But
great man, it's
one of the men that is destined for January. But he was like
somebody I know also,
the Latina flick ominto said, even if it was the prophets, Allah. So
Amar went to, he knew where the place was, and he walked past
slowly, slowly will pass and he was you listened, you know, we
must laughing in them three time on
speaking and laughing.
And
he went inside and you say to the woman, this can't reflect this in
the presence of how much was of the prophesied. So this is not
ethical political.
Stuff your space
please God your space. So that is the relationship Muhammad SAW
Salam had God
we know of course that in the time of the NABI saw Salah women
attended magic factors
we will attend to the magic five times.
That includes a shy and Fajr
Of course, like men everywhere in all over the world, they like to
be in control.
And sometimes that control we use the dean for that control.
Sometimes we threaten also with that kind of control using
religion.
So at the time of the Navy Sasaram there was no hegemony of the men
or the women men and women are treated equally by the newbies
awesome
even your Alma tells us the story
that
he had married
a lady by the name of Artico
you heard this name before
she was at the community Zaid
and Zane was the brother of our Amara.
Say it.
And Ahmad married article who was his
brother's photo engineer
article was one of the lady Allah mouths Medina in the time within
reason.
She was an early man
recognized in the time of amatola like Aisha
and she was by description.
Also very beautiful.
So she was first married to the son of suitable bucket rugelach.
His name was Abdullah.
That was our first marriage. She married Abdullah the son of
Oba deep
and when Abdullah married Attica, he started skipping Salah at the
masjid.
Okay,
And he's and while he was married to identify, he didn't go for the
job to go for state of the future. So people started talking why
because he was the daughter of having he was the son of a vaca
Sadiq. Sunova came to this any cold, cold.
This is why you don't have too much heat anymore or not regularly
anymore. And also, you don't participate in jihad.
Hoboken New there is and he said, Oh, my father and my wife. So what
about your son, I can't stay away from my wife. And she's lonely if
I go away from
but he basically what he was telling his father is, I can't
take my eyes off my wife's Panama. So one can see that there was a
lot of love in Medina.
It wasn't a loveless place. It wasn't just, you know, odd men.
lonely women. No, no, it was normal love was part of the
atmosphere, part of the
lifestyle of the sahaba. And
so it became very angry worker could get really angry.
I wanted to divorce her within three days.
That time, that's a father's prerogative.
Do you know that was the other man who did?
Hmm.
That'd be Brahim. Allison.
When he came to knock on the door, his son Son is
to visit him he wasn't there. And his wife was at home. And thank
you for
asked him to come inside or something like that. She was yeah,
she was she was going towards
when when his wife came back, his father said to him, divorce your
wife.
All right, so
so he divorced article.
And he went off his mind.
But he had to decide between his father and his wife. And he chose
of course, to satisfy his father.
And five and then
Abdullah took part in all the battles after that, and the Battle
of Five he was wounded and he died.
And five years later, she married Ahmad
so I said she wasn't she was a power test and she was an island
so
and she always wanted to be in the major in the in the masjid every
Fajr
she wanted to come to the magic Fajr so I'm gonna say to her
I'm sorry, but
I don't like you coming to budget at all get this don't understand
why.
He said
to her, I disliked you.
So, life went on, and she didn't listen to him.
He disregarded
disregarded what you what he said.
And
one would have thought that Omar would have now put his foot down
and said, Look,
I don't like the idea of you going to the masjid. Then you may have
visited by these reasons. Maybe it was dark, maybe, you know,
whatever, whatever it was.
But here the logic was different. Yeah, it wasn't even just telling
her she couldn't come.
But he didn't take it any further.
He didn't take anything
because why did he not take it further? Because he knew then
Elisa Salam had said that and not only
a massage Prophet said to not prevent your women from going to
what do you tell him nothing.
But also said it's better for them to make solide home so the woman
has a choice. She can make salad bowl. Washington can go to the
restroom and she went to budget
for budget
how life
and so yeah, I'm not even hottub right to just leave. nothing he
could do. Because of the Hadith was a nice Allah Salah
Elisa
You know, we would have said, you know, to our wives in our society
now they will come further to the Mirchi with a lot of excuses. We
would have said Buczek said you can't go with my mother and I
said, you can't go. My father said it's not a good idea. Somebody
said you disobedient to your husband
is probably the biggest excuse. You will say, Yeah, but you can't
be disobedient to your husband. You can't be disobedient to the
Prophet in obedience to somebody else. You can't be disobedient to
Allah subhanaw taala in obedience to somebody else, the obedience of
amateur salah of Allah subhanaw taala. And then he says, Alan
comes first.
So Abraham, Kalani, he adds this.
He says, When Amara stared in the mirror article was in the masjid.
Which means that she went for Fudger right up to the death of
us, right after the death.
Because she knew she knew Kadeem. It's like women who knows the deen
when they get married. It just don't get married blindly.
They know that there's a contract to be drafted.
They know that their rights they have in that contract.
They know that it's the husband's duty, to, to, to, to NASA, to
support them in everything. They sing about, Oh, I'm getting
married to somebody. So she's going to have a job, I'm going to
have a job. She's going to pay the food and I'm going to this is this
this is what the prophet prophesied is going to be a sign
of pm
sign
when women will leave their homes to go to work to supplement
income. This is not part of
your hormones get married the places were
at home. Why? Why do we have so much trouble today with our
children? Why? Look at our lifestyle why is it that not all
of us, but most of us and if you look at the reason for that is
because mothers are not at home at crucial times. At crucial times.
We have a maid
who looks after the children
and she must pay somebody else to look after her children
I know people say yeah, but you know, say for house you must have
this costume.
Costume.
But there's a hadith codici
Hadith to the sea is where the words is from the prophets of
Salaam.
And the inspiration for him to say that comes from Allah. So it is
Allah speaking but in the words of Allah
and Allah addresses us and Allah Subhana Allah says
in this hadith
if you are not happy with the results that I've given you say
something Allah says if you're not happy with the visit which you
getting from me
then I would open to near field
I will open the dunya for you
you will run around in this dunya from this deck to that to that
investment to this job to their job at the end Allah says you will
get exactly what I gave to you
in the beginning for the same thing so last ones let let the
last one that says do not make yourself
tired
in running after which I've already set out for you you're not
gonna get more they're gonna hurt you no more for you. That's it
that's what you're gonna get
so if we look at our parents with mothers single work how this work
was in home while this will not work and what they earn that is
what they earn they just had to make two five grand a week
you're lucky 2011 A man who has a lot of money
one of and I knew people were in fiber and you must have
people on the Berlin tech fiber I mean I started the 14 i The degree
I started 14 But 14 and a martial arts almost
I could save up
and Africa
Alright, so
remember what I said about Hadith codici
so when we read
the Hadith, or salah.
We need to understand that whatever the Prophet said was real
He needs time and should be reading outside.
And we should try and strive. Woman can work from home maybe.
But what do we do as men? What do we do as fathers? What we do is
my child must be my girl, my girl child must become an accountant or
a lawyer. You already you sitting on the path of what of not being
at home. He's already putting in a short skirt.
You really deciding for what she wants to wear. I mean, you know,
I know of a father who was daughter wants to wear a scarf to
work he says, just how you lose your job
she wants to get a job.
And that is that is exactly where we are at.
And at the end of the day, if you look at their lifestyle and
lifestyle of the home, you'll find maybe it approximates the
difference between the two
I shall de la planta says
I actually used to attend funerals in the masjid and this is one
thing that I find
annoying.
Very annoying. Is that when they see Janaza the women don't make
salatu Janaza?
Why is it
not as far as the name is on us?
Is it like Joomla
anybody
jump I only found on Mondays
and Schelotto Janaza.
Everybody
and the more the more people make salah the greater your chances of
escaping Azerbaijan and
poverty the more than 100 people make Salah and
you will be free of either Janome I'm not sure or the other will
cover one of the two. I think it's because our album not.
So I show you how to
make Salah women used to make women in the Prophet day they used
to come in groups.
Next Allah make salatu salam.
So I suggested
once or twice the time, family of minute, who died, tell the
children or whoever it is, tell the ladies, they come out and do
the Connect salah. And it's not awkward. She we think of 10,000
things before we're going to say that why? Because you see maybe
there must be a copper. You know,
there's no place in the house. Typically, people come there to
them to the maze, they stand there, they stand there for quite
long
legs.
And then they turn around, they walk away.
Because
this is the kind of culture that we've that we've cultivated here.
Now you must say when you must tell your children, they when I
die.
The woman wants to make must be announced once you might select to
Janaza but be allowed to make a law to tell us how they stand at
the end of the day they made faces, the faces are made faces
stabilize in it. So you stand at the back of the car like this
keepalives The lady sensei she doesn't have to make recordings.
Also to do that she doesn't have to take her shoes, she might just
have to do that. So she stands
for topics
that enabled us to go through them.
So please, take heed of that ratchet in your world that women
want to make salah. And also when you announce
for the women to come to your house, then you must say please
come with
who do please come with because they'll have an opportunity for
you to make some. So what happens is women don't know how to perform
psychological journals.
So they don't know.
Why not because
they just no encouragement for them to excel.
Can you imagine your father dies and you're the daughter and the
last
daughter are that you can give to him and Salawat that you give to
him and do all that you can make from Isa to Janaza
isn't it
so that'll Janaza includes what it includes? What is the first What
do you read after the first
factor? What is the factor
and the second one
solid Salawat on
The Prophet SAW Sullivan and now we've arrived
and three
dua
long or short.
And then the end the last one, you don't have to say anything. So we
are three things we received first,
which is
then we put Salawat on a visa so
and that is why the Sahaba and amo salatu salam did not make dua
after the Salah
to Doha is in the Salah, they didn't put Salah on a visa salam
after the salata Janessa why not? Because it didn't change the
summer. You want to turn Allah Santana that your Prophet
didn't do the right thing he didn't put Salah you know, we say
okay, so Allah Allah and everybody makes to die mmm Imago Dei Chefman
never shifted image.
So I've instructed my children, that if I pass away, then
everybody who's in the matches, tell them each one makes his own
dua
because sometimes I feel you know, that the shapes and images make
the art because this is all the time.
They are the chosen ones.
Here they chose us in the violin, but you can't be the chosen one
and set aside the Sunnah of Hamas or sell to La Mancha Salawat after
the Salafi
brother in Allah and His Prophet put it in the Salah. Not out of
outsiders, Allah Sana, put it inside the sun
as a lot of these things, anyway.
So
after the death of the evisa salamin. Attica, the women, the
wives of the process, Allah made it carbonylation Can you imagine
coming to the merchant, and a woman comes in with a sleeping bag
in our time, maybe opera, or even sleep? Isn't it a bit
but the highest women in the world, the flies of the Prophet
Elisa
made Attica after he passed away to continue that sunnah.
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
so that is in a religious context. What I've spoken to now is in
Islamic context, all I've said now is not cultural. It's not habit.
It's not what the Malays do it's not what the Indians do not what
the brain is do
is not what the public is doing the Salafi is do this is what
promises Salem had done, this is what the highest I shall read the
last run
I mean, she was she was the person the go to the go to anybody for LM
after my death
all right.
But there is a social context of course.
There is a context of yesterday within capitalism maybe the main
will look at her will she look at the men that kind of thing.
But we have no qualms at all of sending our daughters to school
and university with a looked at by everybody
we send our wife to go and work
in the office and everybody looks at her and she looks at everybody.
But you send it to the budget
to sit in the same budget as with the main set.
It should be separation, there's no separation. We don't have
separation in Islam. We all have separation if there's one man and
one woman together
only then
So, what is the social context and I say that is a social context
that people say ah you know this women mixed are we mixing you know
that did women mix and the province arm did the same so we
should also
suffer you also going against the Sunnah of Muhammad Ali yourself
so at school, they look at each other. The wives who work in shops
they look at everybody who comes in the customers everything else
and at the time was Annalisa Salah Elisa salaam, women used to
participate in everything. I mean, we heard last week about Arusha.
Watch the dancing of the of the Sudanese and in the most
Ha ha ha she enjoyed it, and so forth.
So unassumingly Malik.
He says
at one day the NABI SallAllahu sallam was sitting outside with
the companions.
And a group of ladies came.
They were all dressed up in the refinery, they come from a wedding
celebration with a small children all dressed up.
And as they came past the prophets of salaam the Prophet stood up.
And he said to them, You are the most beloved to me.
You unsolved
you people have unsolved you are the most beloved 200
You stood up, I'm looking at the honor, because the Prophet
recognize that these were the people who gave me sanctuary. And
an insignia Malik says that the women of Medina used to stand on
the
on the hilltops, waiting the prophet to come and welcoming him
with songs of of welcome.
And they were very happy of course gonna be Salam K.
Today
if somebody should do that, say to a group of women, you know, I love
you because you live in Cambodia, or something like that. How can
you can't use the word love? Or how could you use the word love
but love today has become
the word love has been hijacked by everybody. Everything's about
love.
Everybody will ask him something. It's about love. LG, PDQ, they all
want to be loved, and they all capable of loving in their own
way.
And of course the Christians have done the bit they live on love
Jesus.
If you love Jesus who go to Paradise, doing what else you do,
all of us exploited there was love to the extent way
they use it for anything, everything and the Sufis today
also if you ask them, so why do you do this? Why do you jump up
and down in the mosque with music and whatever else and sing the
praises of Hamas or Salah whether they tell you
we love Allah, God of love.
So why do you kiss the grave?
pious man is buried there. And he loves Allah Allah loves him and we
showing our love to him
people don't kiss their parents but they kiss their graves.
People don't kiss their parents.
I normal families the person just comes in and he says Hola Hola,
como esta la Monica.
Now when it comes to me, I said no, no, no, no, no, you kiss your
mother Nicky's meals. I don't care if my beard is gonna stick your
whatever baby
was in a visa Salah man came a mentor a professor salon play with
one of his grandsons
with Hassan. Samia is playing with them and catching them and kissing
them. So the profit domain said whoa, he looked at me some city.
Big Men don't kiss you know this is not on.
So he said to the Prophet, I have 10 children, I've never kissed
anyone.
Brave is better than you. I'm a man. I don't kiss my children. I'm
a man to the Prophet said to him. Mala Mala.
Mala, Mala. Mala habla your
man liar.
He will doesn't show Rama mercy will not receive us and that is
part of giving you an ALA TV merciful to you thought of you
getting that mercy is by kissing your wife and your children, your
grandchildren and make them used to it. Make them used to it.
Why go into sooner?
It's assumed you get rewarded for it. Anytime you can see once the
sooner profit decreases. Every time you kiss your children the
sooner profits or
any love is grandchild's over regeneration generations he loved
and he showed the hugging them and
did the women in Medina participate in politics?
Anybody
because the question is what politics Okay, so let me give
For example
even your armor or the allotter was in the armor. He was the son
of Amara. He was the son of
Abdullah
in fact the people wanted Allah to make Abdullah the next Khalifa
after
I said that I think last year
so normal says
that
he said one day he went to visit his sister Hassan, possibly the
assistant pastor was also who
have those also
was the wife of Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
Allison was a very clever woman.
Any clever, and all women are clever. No doubt about that. But
she was exceptionally clever.
I'm sure you've already set your wife so many times. Muslim, you're
less Muslim your phones by slim.
All right, so he says he ended with visit half
and have to say to him,
do you know that
your dad was
honorable?
Do you know that your father hasn't yet appointed a successor
to his office?
Working on was made in his lifetime say you're gonna be
so Abdullah said to his sister? No, I don't know. I don't know, is
it it didn't appoint a successor. But I'm gonna go to him now and
tell him and inform him, you know, because he realized this was a
series better. Maybe Omar wasn't well at the time, or maybe he was
getting old or whatever it may be. And he went, and he went straight
to his father, he said his father, please, you must appoint your
success in office.
Now
Abdullah Abdullah Ahmad was one of the elite
of the companions, he was available, because he also
critical a
lot of people to speak for him.
And he was supposed to have knowledge of the inner circles
what what people talk about around Emeryville? Hatha because he's
Khalifa is dead. And he didn't even know that that is for the
good. And he said to his father, you can create a lot of caves. If
you don't appoint a successor after
and look at him Yama, look at this game of normal.
He didn't say when people asked him, so what motivated you to ask
your father to a point? He didn't say, Well, you know, somebody told
me.
He didn't want the men don't want the woman to get the accolades.
And so men say,
Well, I just know this, you know, I read it somewhere. Somebody told
me that his wife told him
she doesn't really say that his wife knows more than what he does.
But no, they also speak for women and when women made a
contribution, they respected it
so Hamada is made aware of so what do you do not do anybody? How did
you appoint a successor
amount appointed successor
what happened?
Abu Bakr appointed Omer, isn't it? So what did Obama do?
He appointed does
anybody else
worried
ah, I just had to be patient. And you blame me right? He appointed a
committee of six. You appointed six harbor to amongst themselves
choose the next
I spoke for him that was more democratic.
And when you when they said him appoint your son Abdullah, what
did he say?
When When did they want it? When did they want this to be?
He didn't want to pay in front of Allah. He didn't want his son to
appear in front of Allah also, with the same responsibility which
he had was to great responsibility. Thank you very
much for the odds.
Yeah, so.
I'm just going to shortly talk about the last last one. The last
one was
The last example in many examples I haven't I've only jotted down a
few of the examples.
The last one is about Abdullah.
Abdullah even as rude radula Jalon. Great, great man. You know,
he's known for his greatness
Abdullah Abdullah Massoud was the teacher of the teacher of Abu
Hanifa.
Said
Abdullah Mossad
went to live in Basra with Kufa cities and eventually a man a he
taught a lot of people and one of those people taught Imam Abu
Hanifa
Abdullah had a wife by the name of Xena
and Xena
wanted to give her the car to her husband to Abdullah was the wife.
She was shared money. He was a very poor man. He was poor not
because he wanted to be poor. He was poor because he spent all his
time with the parolees time in the company of the other Sahaba in the
company of the province, Assam so. So shame for me. It was like one
of the modern ws
so he refused.
He said no, no, no.
I can't contiguous aka How can I take you?
So he said, so she said to him, I'm going to ask the prophets of
Allah, if I can give my psychiatry
so she went to the NABI Saleh Ali salatu salam.
They went you arrived at the house of the Navy Alice had Salam Bilal
was
at the door. So Bilal used to take all the questions from the people
who come to ask questions, and he would pass it to them.
And so,
Zainab came and
he went inside, and he said to the province of Salem, Xena, the wife
of Abdullah is outside
though oh,
what I want to say here is that you know, we now have this thing
about brother and sister
how you sister, or your brother, or your sister or your brother. We
don't say the people's names anymore.
You know, it's gonna be we say system
and this is dehumanizing
terms of the practice of the Prophet our system, everybody was
called on the name
there was no Buddha, Abdullah, universal old
or whatever else you want to put everybody was
set up with Docker was the Khalifa he was called Abu Bakr
or Ameerul Momineen Ahmad also referred to as Omar his own life.
There was no Mr. O'Mara. This is a matter of shifting model. No, no,
no. Everybody was called by the name
and we dehumanize people are saying sister, but this isn't
sister got her name, or brother has no brother. cool people. I
like to be called by my name. I say I'd like to be called Five for
a change. And I want to I want to hear my name
when somebody calls you by another name your whole life I mean,
that's actually the tasty dehumanizing because you just a
shareholder Imam put out
that's not important.
So he came in, he said, is Xena
and in using belong knew everybody Medina, he knew the names, your
husband's name father's names and the children.
So the province of Islam Elisa salaam, say to tell her that it is
allowed for a wife to give her soccer to a husband if he's poor.
Why? Because
why?
Anybody? Why can a wife give us a cut? If he's poor, we need
spending
that's one thing. Yeah. He's got his favorite on the
show.
He's got a good wife.
She spends on it?
Yes, yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. Are they not related? Yes.
What else
Most important
why can't you give the car to your parents and your children? They'll
answer the question, why can't I give the car? Why can't you? Why
can't you can't give the car to your parents?
That's right, you must take care of them meaning then Africa is
funneled the point of view. And why can't you give your children
because then focus most of
their burden until they died.
From the day they born till the day they die, because often we see
when they get the job they think now you solely responsible for
them in many, many ways. And we fathers and mothers take that
responsibility very seriously. But they don't take our responsibility
for the very serious.
I think that just the way it is. So the reason that you can give
the car to your wife is because I mean, your wife gives the car to
you is because she
she what
was nataka isn't found for her to us. It is not a duty to support
us.
Even if
it's not her duty to support her husband,
not fall down.
So she can give of hers to him.
In terms of the caches, he's a stranger.
So you can't force her to give it to you. Obviously, you can't say
no chef said You know, it's a car he was Give it to me. I know, I
know.
You can remind her that you know, it's possible and you know, you
can
but only if the main needs are not needed to buy a TV. No, no, no.
needed for primary needs. Here's the price
No, no, no, no, no, no for the algorithms. Why not? Yeah,
maintenance is far. He has to
he has to supply her in the need. from his pocket, whatever he can
afford.
But today's you know, the women buy on the outside because they
work outside day by the end. So there's no love.
Because she's she's she's independent. The dependency
creates love dependency.
Have you ever thought woman in the Bangladesh, US could a better job
than what you have
to manage is not going to last?
A lot.
Or it may last was a lot of problems. Because you are
reversing the natural order. It's like climate change.
You can go on and on and on, you know, exuding burning, whatever
fossil fuels, you know, eventually is going to catch up with you.
Because it's not a natural thing to do. You're disturbing the
natural balance of the atmosphere of the of the earth, you
disturbing. And suddenly there's a natural balance in marriage to
natural balance between husband and wife. The one is the given.
Any questions?
Yes.
Yes, yes.
Sorry.
Whoa.
No, no, it wasn't it wasn't his brother's daughter.
It was
his father's
almost.
It was his uncle's daughter sugar. And for that, I thought I made a
mistake. I thought I made a mistake. You can get married to
nice
stuff.
That's good. I'm glad. I'm glad. Yeah.
Zane was his uncle, almost Uncle. Uncle. So that was his cousin
you know the questions Cikarang sees that very important.
You
know, it was his, it was his brother. Say Norma is brother say
Dharma very marry his daughter.
So he very discussing he married his his uncle daughter, uncle's
daughter with his customers. He can't marry his brother's
daughter. Can
you comment on this? We will definitely
Alaikum salaam
Yes
It's not
awkward
at all
obviously
add the position of clarity
to households or the state
of
the city at the time and now so that is dedicated to change that
was one of the
traditions
and that is what
good morning
teachers
the beds that could be sufficient
the opportunity for you
to take this opportunity is available
seems
so yeah that's just
okay
and I was on the way
because
he's obviously the topic of
this was the cause
and effect
ETF
safety so it wasn't
sure Sukhram IRA for that topic, I think it's a valid valid comment
any demand and we have a definition with the lottery
that she was businesswoman but she worked from home
she was a businesswoman, one of the richest women in America, but
she worked from home
that profit worked for
and many other people were.
So what do you saying is true?
And we have to admit to that that we are a patriarchal society
probably because of what preceded us Christians, patriarchal society
and some other we adopted a lot of that and we can see now by looking
at the history of Medina, that a lot of things that we do is not
part of Islam. It has been invented after the demise of the
prophets of Salaam.
They are still the balance between no loss founder assist in the
Quran, Laguna Mithila de la Hina. Bill Morrow. It is clear not
clearly differentiating your classes while 102 Women
Miss Lulu the Allah Hina
is their rights and responsibilities are the same as
men basically that to the ISS. I says
La Hoonah Miss Lulu the other hints
tell a little story to illustrate this.
You know the story, you know the story to illustrate the point that
men and women have the same
responsibilities towards towards each other.
I've told you many times so maybe somebody remember. There was a man
who came
to ask a question to Abdullah Abbas Abdullah Ali Abbas was who
he was the
cousin of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi salatu salam
unusal learners Khalid Abdullah Abbas
wrote the first Tafseer of the holy
In one volume
so this method is going to give the searcher the best bang. So he
traveled about long distance camel traveled to Medina
and the US when he came to Medina asked everybody where can I find
Abdullah? Said the lives
got a warm road number so until you find
so he finds him. How does he find it? At that time, there's no
fences and walls around people's houses. Everything is open. So I'm
telling you, I'm not sitting
back of his house in the son on a chair was a burr. And he was
trimming his beard, trimming his beard to his eyebrows, maybe
shortening.
Looking in the mirror, making himself pretty. So this man was
shocked.
He thought to himself panel, this is the greatest corner that an
inmate This is a cousin of homicide, and look what he's
doing. He's visiting the federal burden making himself pretty.
So so he showed him Shannon and I asked him why he's doing this.
Such a great color doing this. Say when we saw
article, I said, you know, I came to ask you a different question.
But I'd like you to answer this question first. Because I know
that you will not do anything except you can prove it to me
either by a verse of the Quran or Hadith has been a disaster. And I
know the Nabhi there's no Hadith within a visa Salam I checked in
front of a murderer and made himself beautiful, pretty
and that we know why that is the most famous man in the Horn of
Arabia. He didn't have to do anything to his face.
So Abdullah
Abbas, he smiled, and he said
I'm doing this because Allah Subhan Allah says
My wife has the same right over me as I have over her.
So if I want my wife to look pretty the whole day
if I feel that that is my right, then her right is for me also to
pretty for the whole day.
If he looks at me, I must look handsome. And if I look at her,
she must be pretty. And then Allah says Allah Hoonah Mifflin Ludhiana
hidden Bill Maher. Bill, my roof May Allah says your equal the
responsibilities are equal Bill my roof in terms of being a woman and
being in terms of being a man, but the standard standard required the
same standard for both is required. That's the beauty of
Islam.
Any other questions? We have some time?
Yeah, so my era, that was an excellent point, we need to
the only way I think we can.
Still
we can mitigate
the
influence of Western
and other cultures in our lives. And the only way we can do that,
we reduce our dependence on the way we see the world. We have a
worldview. That's the way we see the world. We don't see the world
in terms of our own worldview. We do things that we take a little
bit from here, take a little bit from there. We look at other
people who say they do it. And we never go back to our route and our
source and we tell children about this. I mean,
at the time of the Prophet sallallahu, alayhi salatu salam.
There was a
there was no
hijab, for women.
In Medina,
they didn't observe
not that they didn't want to dress properly, but not in the way that
we
have today, for example, and they look mostly women at the medina
women were traders. So they were in the marketplace, they were
everywhere.
And they knew that the men have a lot of respect for women, a lot of
respect for women.
I'm not even superb.
He looked at this and he said, No, no, no.
This is not how I like it to be. So what he did was, he went to the
prophets of Salaam
and he said to the Prophet said of the surah Allah
you know,
our women are not in hijab as we know, hijab to be and
I do we have a lot of graphics amongst us and a lot of money if
you could amongst the Jews of Medina, and other people who would
like to bring
shame
on the Mahabharata like
they do today they do the same.
I would like you to speak to the ladies SPEAK TO DO NOT didn't do
anything wrong. I just said they didn't confer conform to honors
high standards of how women should be and shouldn't be. Like, he told
his wife don't cover the mojito. And the woman said, No, that's my
right. Take it away. So you can imagine the recipient in other
aspects. So he came to the visa Salaam and he said,
he explained to him, you know, you should stick make the law stricter
for the ladies.
So at the time, there was another wives.
She was the she heard what he was saying, what he was telling the
Prophet about the women, this about the women.
So she came out. And he said,
What's wrong with you?
You're not starting to interfere in the domestic affairs of the
Navy.
Why you Come here? Why Why do you come here?
And you you know, revelation comes down in this house. This is the
house of Revelation. We don't need suggestions from you.
Preferably suggestions from us, nobody should do it. Wow.
Show the women that a lot of commotion in those days. I'm going
to choose if they said what was on their mind. They said what is on
their mind? Wait, she can be stolen.
Because you know, I'm very forceful. So Omar, of course,
being what he was, he said, you know, he left it there, and
prophesy subsidy. About I'll wait for revelation.
I'll wait for revelation.
So when the revelation came three verses only ministers but three
verses came with this particular time, all of them are found in
Surah
Surah sort of reserved, which is the city,
the
city which versus us, which are our city.
33/33 It's a 53rd tour of the Quran.
And its verse 2830 and 32,
two verses after two verses. So the first verse I'll just read
English.
So the first verse, Allah says to the Prophet sallallahu, ala
Prophet, say to your wife says direct instruction to the Annalisa
Allah Salah for his wife, of course, which will be applicable
to all other women.
So first, it comes to the thing of indecency to be in decent, Allah
says, even if you commit flagrant indecency,
Allah will double your punishment, this is for the wife, so
if she if they do anything wrong, they get double punished.
And as for those who are obedient to Allah subhanaw taala, Allah
will give them the reward twice
for the virus of the visa, and Allah is one that finally says,
and we every gift is in store for them. This is for the Mothers of
the Believers, of Muhammad Sallallahu. And so
that was the second verse. The third verse is
no, that was, that is second verse. The first verse is, Allah
says to the wives of the Prophet, if you desire the present life,
and it's beautiful things
come, come, come, I will send you away with in a handsome manner.
Allah gives the choice to the women of prophets of salaam to say
you want all the beautiful things in life, Muhammad can't afford to
give it to you. So if you want to not be married to him anymore, no
problem. As for those who are obedient to Allah, Allah shall
give them twice the reward and Allah shall give them their gifts.
So making them to steal the verses, the loss of the first
verses, and if you desire Allah and His Prophet, Allah is great
reward for those watches, the secret Tura the second verse is
verse number 30. Oh wives of the Prophet.
Whoever view commits a flagrant indecency double punishable and
those who are obedient to Allah and His Messenger, twice, and rare
gifts and the last one, are wives of the Prophet.
You are like no other. Today, Allah makes it clear. The wives of
the Prophet are special
Do you fear Allah do not be soft?
If you fear Allah do not be soft in your speech
What did Allah say? We mustn't speak softly, we will speak
louder.
Because Allah so Allah says it creates temptation in the hearts
of men.
That's true. Let me speak softly to
this woman is impressed by me. She speaks so softly to me.
Maybe she likes me.
But if a woman speaks, normal, loud voice, then shaytaan
countably speaking a dignified tidy by Allah says to the wise and
the messenger price to our wives as well speak in a dignified
Stay in your homes number two.
And number three,
do not do what the people of England had done before you
observe, pray, give charity and obey Allah is it possible
so when the verses were revealed,
the profit informed
the years is revealed ripoff city to Homer.
Allah is again spoken on your tongue
because many of the revelation came via questions by Omar in the
hot tub.
So you can imagine the love that he had for the newbies awesome,
sincere, sincere, loving Allah answer these questions, sincere
love for Humberto Salam and for Allah subhanho wa Taala
with we have we have about 10 minutes
we're still you a story of comedy will also to do with
with with wives, this man he had a problem with his wife
and he decided he was going to approach the Emile meaning
honorable
Tom was there at the time.
And of course all the he was a social worker was I mean it was a
counselor. He was everything so we the people had a problem they
would go straight to the president
no secretaries nobody in between so this man came in he went
and he is knocking on the door of Omar's house he is through the
door how almost wife is shouting screaming and throwing stuff at
him
so he sees himself
I thought I have
to complete this with I have a problem look at his problem in
years by a doctor machine didn't sweat she was dead you know we've
been concerned
that you know your sisters and your brothers and listen to God so
shy
he ran away
you said before before my before somebody has been knocking the
random
walk down the road you walk fast
open the door
without trying to shout into the come you can
come over I also knew that this method everything argument with
his wife the day that also so what's the problem? Yeah, Mara
minutes, okay. Don't worry. It's fine. You know, I I just I wasn't
feeling good. I just wanted to talk to you. Because
there's something troubling you
so he said,
Yeah, man, I mean,
I have the same problem that you have. So I'm afraid you can't help
me.
You couldn't help yourself inside the you didn't. You couldn't even
open your mouth. I didn't use a single word.
So is it I have the same problem with my wife, you know, she shouts
and screams and
and I didn't know what to do you know?
So almost it didn't come yet. Let me tell you I
said, you know,
my wife bought all my children for nine months.
I had no shame that I didn't carry the number two. When she gave
birth to them, she breastfeed them for free. For free. She could have
charged me for every drop of logs because it's charged with any
amount of money. And probably I would pay, Commerce's. She cooks
for me. She doesn't I don't pay.
She cleans the house, I don't pay.
She looks after me. I don't pay. In fact, I'm crosswind. She didn't
I in my shed.
They won't pay.
So he says if I look at all the things in my life, and he says the
most important thing she does for me She keeps me out of Iraq.
So he says if I think about all those things, I can see my mom
whatever it is change you want to shout today then I allowed to
shower. If you want to turn to the
Then I allowed you to run with it.
Because it's, it's a big imbalance as to what she contributed icon.
So when you go and you're wanting to shatter, then you sit, and you
relax, and you listen.
Don't get upset Subhanallah LOOK AT THIS BIG BANG about
this big giant of a man does worry of Islam.
This man who when when a man came to him to complain about the
Prophet, the man came to complain that
because he went to Abu Bakr to complain the Prophet
there was a there was a diff between the Muslim and the Jew.
So
the Prophet Sasaram gave the lady it favor of the Jew
so that's mostly was very upset. So we'll double back and say how
can the Prophet give a favor to Imam Muslim? So I think I can do
that's a very good approach
to sit down the gospel model and ask Omar so went on to do you know
what happened in this big issue with a Julian and the Prophet gave
the verdict in favor of the Jew
you want each side when to get a squirt?
Some of the some of the direct say chopped the band aid off I can't
believe that they don't even waste but maybe you just showed him the
sward you know Omar was so angry sitting you questioning the
judgment of a prophet of Islam Subhan Allah not allowed so that
is his wife letter Omar said you know as even must be inside his
own like
like
like a lamp
and outside like a lion not inside like a lion and outside like a
lamp inside like a lion we see the animals dung from who people hide
you children lock the doors. The wife just keeps quiet
and outside
he's the man
outside
That's the man
who has to beat up everybody and he was shouted everybody must be
the man almost says no be him your house.
No, sorry. That's right. Being asked not like a lion and outside
the belacan amongst men. So what do we have today? People you know
they went outside of the house and they greet you they say
mashallah, this man is such a lovely man you know, shuffle is
such a lovely person
And subhanAllah
and then you hear you know, stories about him and his wife and
eating Fukami the same man. So that was honorable
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Allah Allah Allah said no Mohammed Nuada earliest Salim Al
Hamdulillah Ramadan?
Things I haven't done in my life.
I've given
it all order to use this way.
The W swearwords.
You should tell your children that condition
when you go to
teach elementary for example?
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