Riyad Nadwi – 0.6 Imam Ghazali on Ikhlas

Riyad Nadwi
AI: Summary ©
The importance of understanding the meaning of "fit centers is crucial to being a successful person and finding a celebrity designer with a specific label to show the value of celebrity's markings in our lives. The speaker emphasizes the negative impact of excessive focus and the importance of finding a balance between pleasure and satisfaction. The importance of positive views in removing negative comments and finding a balance between pleasure and satisfaction is also discussed. The speaker provides short lectures on optimal experiences, learning to improve condition, and pray for the flow of praise.
AI: Transcript ©
00:00:09 --> 00:00:10

And you all want to start start now.

00:00:10 --> 00:00:12

Let me check. Yeah. Okay. No worries. Are

00:00:12 --> 00:00:14

you alright? I've been set up in the,

00:00:15 --> 00:00:16

in the room. Yeah. Every everything's set up

00:00:16 --> 00:00:18

now. You're welcome to start now. Okay. Okay.

00:01:07 --> 00:01:08

Allah

00:01:09 --> 00:01:12

says to us in the Quran that

00:01:12 --> 00:01:15

they were not commanded except to worship Allah

00:01:15 --> 00:01:18

with sincerity with full in a state of

00:01:18 --> 00:01:19

being full sincerity

00:01:20 --> 00:01:22

in the faith in religion in claiming to

00:01:22 --> 00:01:22

truth

00:01:23 --> 00:01:26

and to establish prayer, to give zakah, to

00:01:26 --> 00:01:28

give charity, and that is the correct faith,

00:01:28 --> 00:01:29

the correct religion.

00:01:29 --> 00:01:30

Assalamu alaikum

00:01:32 --> 00:01:33

brothers and sisters.

00:01:34 --> 00:01:36

Welcome to our 6th

00:01:36 --> 00:01:37

session

00:01:37 --> 00:01:40

on lessons from imam Ghazali.

00:01:42 --> 00:01:43

He's,

00:01:44 --> 00:01:47

which we are using as a base for

00:01:47 --> 00:01:48

this course.

00:01:48 --> 00:01:50

In our last session, we read

00:01:52 --> 00:01:53

the imam's,

00:01:53 --> 00:01:54

discussion on

00:01:55 --> 00:01:56

the eternal knowledge

00:01:57 --> 00:01:58

as elite,

00:02:00 --> 00:02:01

as opposed to

00:02:04 --> 00:02:05

the

00:02:05 --> 00:02:06

the

00:02:06 --> 00:02:08

ones that are that change that are susceptible

00:02:08 --> 00:02:09

to change.

00:02:10 --> 00:02:10

And we

00:02:12 --> 00:02:13

arrived at

00:02:14 --> 00:02:15

that point where

00:02:16 --> 00:02:18

the distinction was drawn between

00:02:19 --> 00:02:20

knowledge that

00:02:21 --> 00:02:21

is

00:02:22 --> 00:02:24

changeable, knowledge that knowledge that is susceptible to

00:02:24 --> 00:02:27

change, and knowledge that is eternal eternal knowledge.

00:02:28 --> 00:02:28

And

00:02:29 --> 00:02:30

we said that the

00:02:30 --> 00:02:31

eternal knowledge,

00:02:32 --> 00:02:34

some of which we can acquire and when

00:02:34 --> 00:02:37

we do so, it provides us of light

00:02:37 --> 00:02:38

in this world

00:02:38 --> 00:02:41

and beyond. It it it succeeds. It it

00:02:41 --> 00:02:43

it supersedes death, that knowledge,

00:02:44 --> 00:02:45

where it become

00:02:45 --> 00:02:47

it becomes lamps,

00:02:47 --> 00:02:48

like

00:02:48 --> 00:02:51

little lamps with which we light larger lamps

00:02:51 --> 00:02:53

for us for our lives in the next

00:02:53 --> 00:02:54

in the next world.

00:02:55 --> 00:02:55

And

00:02:56 --> 00:02:59

in that, the point was also emphasized that

00:03:02 --> 00:03:05

that there is no true and genuine felicity

00:03:05 --> 00:03:06

and

00:03:06 --> 00:03:07

happiness

00:03:08 --> 00:03:08

to be found

00:03:10 --> 00:03:13

except in knowing our Creator, in knowing Allah

00:03:15 --> 00:03:17

We also discussed the

00:03:18 --> 00:03:20

virtues of chamul, a new concept.

00:03:21 --> 00:03:23

Chamul, which means anonymity,

00:03:23 --> 00:03:25

and we reflected on

00:03:25 --> 00:03:28

its relevance to our modern world and the

00:03:28 --> 00:03:29

phenomena of

00:03:29 --> 00:03:33

celebrity mania that affects us through the virtue

00:03:33 --> 00:03:35

of being members of the society.

00:03:36 --> 00:03:37

We are affected. We are influenced

00:03:38 --> 00:03:41

in subtle but powerful ways

00:03:41 --> 00:03:43

through a

00:03:44 --> 00:03:46

an osmosis like process.

00:03:46 --> 00:03:49

And that we should not think that

00:03:50 --> 00:03:53

the fit in, the corrupting schemes, effects will

00:03:53 --> 00:03:54

these corrupting

00:03:54 --> 00:03:57

ideas, the corrupting schemes will remain in watertight

00:03:58 --> 00:03:58

compartments,

00:03:58 --> 00:03:59

and

00:03:59 --> 00:04:00

that,

00:04:00 --> 00:04:02

as long as we,

00:04:02 --> 00:04:04

keep a certain distance, we will not be

00:04:04 --> 00:04:04

affected.

00:04:05 --> 00:04:07

The effects of fit in,

00:04:07 --> 00:04:09

as long as you're living in the same

00:04:09 --> 00:04:09

times,

00:04:10 --> 00:04:10

these effects

00:04:11 --> 00:04:12

seep into our hearts

00:04:13 --> 00:04:15

as members of a society stealthily,

00:04:16 --> 00:04:16

surreptitiously,

00:04:17 --> 00:04:18

like the creeping damp

00:04:19 --> 00:04:21

in the walls of a house. If you're

00:04:21 --> 00:04:22

part of a society,

00:04:23 --> 00:04:23

then

00:04:24 --> 00:04:25

you have to be aware of its fitan,

00:04:25 --> 00:04:27

and you have to take

00:04:27 --> 00:04:28

active steps

00:04:29 --> 00:04:32

to inoculate yourself and your children for Allah

00:04:33 --> 00:04:33

says in the Quran.

00:04:41 --> 00:04:42

Fear the fitna

00:04:42 --> 00:04:44

that will not affect only those who have

00:04:44 --> 00:04:47

done the wrong among you. Fear that fitna.

00:04:48 --> 00:04:50

This is directly related to the

00:04:50 --> 00:04:53

4th subject in the curriculum

00:04:53 --> 00:04:56

of Jibril alaihis salam which we discussed in

00:04:56 --> 00:04:56

the second class.

00:05:00 --> 00:05:02

Knowing the fitan of your of your time.

00:05:04 --> 00:05:06

Because if we're unfamiliar with the fitan of

00:05:06 --> 00:05:08

our time, then we would not recognize it

00:05:08 --> 00:05:10

when it creeps into our heart. We cannot

00:05:11 --> 00:05:12

live in a bubble and expect

00:05:13 --> 00:05:16

expect to be expect to be completely isolated.

00:05:17 --> 00:05:18

And the first step towards

00:05:19 --> 00:05:22

protecting ourselves is recognition, is to be able

00:05:22 --> 00:05:24

to recognize this. You have to be able

00:05:24 --> 00:05:27

to see it. And and then which is,

00:05:27 --> 00:05:28

of course, the first step towards,

00:05:29 --> 00:05:32

avoiding it and then take other steps.

00:05:33 --> 00:05:34

Now one of the ways in which this

00:05:34 --> 00:05:35

fitna

00:05:36 --> 00:05:38

of celebrity mania affects us

00:05:39 --> 00:05:42

is by distorting our perception of happiness,

00:05:43 --> 00:05:45

of what it means to be to have

00:05:45 --> 00:05:46

a good life.

00:05:46 --> 00:05:48

It tricks us into thinking that celebrity

00:05:49 --> 00:05:51

is the measure of success and happiness, And

00:05:51 --> 00:05:53

that if we do not indulge in this

00:05:53 --> 00:05:54

pursuit,

00:05:56 --> 00:05:57

our our lives will be in the pursuit

00:05:57 --> 00:06:00

of celebrity or if we do not indulge

00:06:00 --> 00:06:01

in the mania,

00:06:01 --> 00:06:03

that our lives will be miserable.

00:06:03 --> 00:06:06

And so so much so that the,

00:06:06 --> 00:06:09

the stamps of celebrity is required for

00:06:09 --> 00:06:11

social validation and vindication

00:06:12 --> 00:06:13

in

00:06:13 --> 00:06:16

mundane aspects of our lives. And I wanna

00:06:16 --> 00:06:18

give you the other example that I,

00:06:19 --> 00:06:21

wanted to mention last week, but this this

00:06:21 --> 00:06:23

this is an important example because it leads

00:06:23 --> 00:06:24

back to

00:06:24 --> 00:06:25

the

00:06:26 --> 00:06:26

perception

00:06:27 --> 00:06:27

of the

00:06:27 --> 00:06:29

it shows very clearly

00:06:29 --> 00:06:30

how perception

00:06:31 --> 00:06:34

can be altered, because perceptions can change. The

00:06:34 --> 00:06:35

the example is of clothes.

00:06:36 --> 00:06:38

A few decades ago,

00:06:38 --> 00:06:41

all clothes that were when when people manufactured

00:06:41 --> 00:06:42

clothes,

00:06:42 --> 00:06:44

the labels and the tags well, the the

00:06:44 --> 00:06:44

labels

00:06:45 --> 00:06:47

used to be tucked away behind the collar

00:06:47 --> 00:06:49

or somewhere hidden in the seam somewhere

00:06:50 --> 00:06:52

so that no one could would see it

00:06:52 --> 00:06:54

unless you took the clothes and had a

00:06:54 --> 00:06:56

and inspected it.

00:06:56 --> 00:06:57

But

00:06:57 --> 00:06:58

as the

00:06:58 --> 00:07:01

celebrity mania began to spread and grew into

00:07:01 --> 00:07:05

the consciousness of vast swathes of society,

00:07:05 --> 00:07:06

that all changed.

00:07:08 --> 00:07:09

Now for clothes to be

00:07:10 --> 00:07:12

for for the clothes we wear to be

00:07:12 --> 00:07:14

validated with value,

00:07:14 --> 00:07:16

we need to have the name of a

00:07:16 --> 00:07:18

celebrity designer

00:07:18 --> 00:07:18

printed

00:07:19 --> 00:07:21

on it in a place where everyone can

00:07:21 --> 00:07:21

see.

00:07:22 --> 00:07:25

A shirt or a blouse with an Armani

00:07:25 --> 00:07:28

label displayed in a place where everyone can

00:07:28 --> 00:07:30

see it is perceived to be more valuable

00:07:31 --> 00:07:33

than a garment made of the same cloth

00:07:33 --> 00:07:35

and the same design without the label.

00:07:36 --> 00:07:39

That perceptual change is the direct result

00:07:39 --> 00:07:40

of the spread

00:07:41 --> 00:07:41

of celebrity

00:07:43 --> 00:07:44

mania. The value of

00:07:45 --> 00:07:48

celebrity stamp is now firmly imprinted in our

00:07:48 --> 00:07:51

minds, in the minds of people, including Muslims.

00:07:51 --> 00:07:53

So we should not consider ourselves to be

00:07:53 --> 00:07:55

that somehow we are safe from this.

00:07:56 --> 00:07:58

This is a this is tragic because when

00:07:58 --> 00:08:00

it comes to the worth of

00:08:01 --> 00:08:03

the label of the sunnah of Muhammad

00:08:05 --> 00:08:07

on it, If someone says to you, oh

00:08:07 --> 00:08:09

this brother, you know, this is the sunnah

00:08:09 --> 00:08:10

of Rasulullah

00:08:12 --> 00:08:14

I think so, this is my understanding. Maybe

00:08:14 --> 00:08:16

you might have another understanding about

00:08:17 --> 00:08:18

the the the

00:08:18 --> 00:08:19

value of the hadith,

00:08:20 --> 00:08:20

the

00:08:21 --> 00:08:23

the station of the hadith, but it is,

00:08:23 --> 00:08:25

in my opinion, a sunnah.

00:08:25 --> 00:08:28

When someone says this, we have difficulty perceiving

00:08:28 --> 00:08:30

value in it. We have all sorts of

00:08:30 --> 00:08:33

ready made arguments, against wearing sunnah. You know,

00:08:33 --> 00:08:36

we say, oh, it's just sunnah, brother. It's

00:08:36 --> 00:08:36

not fun.

00:08:37 --> 00:08:38

Or it is,

00:08:38 --> 00:08:40

you know, it's it's a different time. It's

00:08:40 --> 00:08:41

a different climate.

00:08:41 --> 00:08:42

Yes. Of course.

00:08:43 --> 00:08:45

But what about the value of sunnah? What

00:08:45 --> 00:08:47

about the value of sunnah clothes in your

00:08:47 --> 00:08:48

heart

00:08:48 --> 00:08:51

compared to the value of celebrity designed clothes

00:08:52 --> 00:08:54

of of our celebrity designer

00:08:54 --> 00:08:55

clothes?

00:08:55 --> 00:08:57

Which which one has more value in our

00:08:57 --> 00:08:58

perceptions

00:08:58 --> 00:08:59

or in our hearts?

00:09:00 --> 00:09:03

Nowadays, even the the pursuit of religious knowledge,

00:09:03 --> 00:09:06

of of Deeni knowledge, has become victim of

00:09:06 --> 00:09:07

the celebrity mania.

00:09:08 --> 00:09:10

We have begun we we we we began

00:09:10 --> 00:09:12

to we we we are now measuring piety

00:09:13 --> 00:09:13

through celebrity.

00:09:14 --> 00:09:15

In other words,

00:09:16 --> 00:09:18

there is this new age of personality cults

00:09:18 --> 00:09:20

and celebrity mania

00:09:20 --> 00:09:23

Even in our Islam, Islam has to come

00:09:23 --> 00:09:24

with celebrity branding.

00:09:25 --> 00:09:25

We spend,

00:09:26 --> 00:09:27

if

00:09:27 --> 00:09:27

you,

00:09:28 --> 00:09:30

we have, you know, lots of young people

00:09:30 --> 00:09:31

today. We spend a few moments in the

00:09:31 --> 00:09:34

company of a celebrity scholar celebrity

00:09:34 --> 00:09:37

scholarship, memorize a few hadiths and see and

00:09:37 --> 00:09:39

and then they turn around and said

00:09:40 --> 00:09:42

start seeing that as a springboard for social

00:09:42 --> 00:09:43

media superstardom

00:09:44 --> 00:09:45

without realizing how

00:09:46 --> 00:09:49

devastating this pursuit can be. If you not

00:09:49 --> 00:09:51

by learning if you learn a few

00:09:51 --> 00:09:53

hadith and some Quran, that doesn't

00:09:54 --> 00:09:56

mean that you have to go and become

00:09:56 --> 00:09:58

a super a superstar, you know, you you

00:09:58 --> 00:09:59

in

00:09:59 --> 00:10:00

and be

00:10:01 --> 00:10:03

and use your din for fame. But the

00:10:03 --> 00:10:05

problem is that because we perceive that success

00:10:05 --> 00:10:08

in this world today is is in gaining

00:10:08 --> 00:10:10

fame, then people think that that's the natural

00:10:10 --> 00:10:12

thing to do. That I'll make some nice

00:10:12 --> 00:10:14

videos, you know, and people will love me.

00:10:14 --> 00:10:15

But

00:10:15 --> 00:10:16

we have to be

00:10:17 --> 00:10:19

careful. We have to be careful because shaitan

00:10:19 --> 00:10:21

can come and trick you into thinking, oh,

00:10:21 --> 00:10:23

I will I'm helping people. You know? I'm

00:10:23 --> 00:10:24

doing what I'm doing. I'm I'm doing it

00:10:24 --> 00:10:26

with good reasons. But

00:10:26 --> 00:10:28

if deep down inside, it's it has a

00:10:28 --> 00:10:30

dust it it has that

00:10:30 --> 00:10:33

black ant crawling as we said in the

00:10:33 --> 00:10:34

in the earlier lessons,

00:10:34 --> 00:10:36

then we have to remember the words of

00:10:36 --> 00:10:36

Rasulullah

00:10:38 --> 00:10:38

here

00:10:38 --> 00:10:39

where he said,

00:10:46 --> 00:10:46

The

00:10:53 --> 00:10:53

destruction

00:10:54 --> 00:10:56

of seeking fame and seeking wealth

00:10:57 --> 00:10:58

in your deen

00:10:59 --> 00:11:01

is more it will be more devastating

00:11:02 --> 00:11:03

than sending

00:11:03 --> 00:11:05

2 hungry wolves

00:11:05 --> 00:11:07

in a pen with sheep, where where sheep

00:11:07 --> 00:11:09

is. If you send to what kind of

00:11:09 --> 00:11:10

2 hungry wolves,

00:11:11 --> 00:11:12

which where there's sheep,

00:11:13 --> 00:11:15

the sort of devastation it will cause, that's

00:11:15 --> 00:11:17

the kind of devastation. These are the words

00:11:17 --> 00:11:19

of Rasulullah. These are the words of the

00:11:19 --> 00:11:19

prophet

00:11:20 --> 00:11:20

saying

00:11:21 --> 00:11:21

that

00:11:24 --> 00:11:25

that they that they will not cause these

00:11:25 --> 00:11:28

2 hungry wolves will not cause the kind

00:11:28 --> 00:11:28

of devastation

00:11:29 --> 00:11:32

that it that a person who is seeking

00:11:32 --> 00:11:34

fame and seeking position and seeking wealth with

00:11:34 --> 00:11:36

it through his deen. So

00:11:37 --> 00:11:39

we have to be careful. We we have

00:11:39 --> 00:11:41

to analyze our actions and look, and this

00:11:41 --> 00:11:43

is why we need this sort of discussion.

00:11:44 --> 00:11:47

Now in contrast to this, we pondered also

00:11:47 --> 00:11:49

the phenomenon known as flow,

00:11:50 --> 00:11:52

where many people in the world today,

00:11:53 --> 00:11:56

are not affected as much by this celebrity

00:11:56 --> 00:11:59

culture. They have they they they experience optimal

00:11:59 --> 00:12:02

life experiences of happiness and satisfaction,

00:12:02 --> 00:12:05

not through seeking the attention of others,

00:12:05 --> 00:12:06

but

00:12:06 --> 00:12:08

through paying attention

00:12:09 --> 00:12:11

paying attention in solitary focus,

00:12:12 --> 00:12:14

through single-minded focus on tasks,

00:12:15 --> 00:12:17

without the worry of defending the ego.

00:12:18 --> 00:12:21

These are people who are able to disengage.

00:12:22 --> 00:12:24

They're able to disengage from

00:12:24 --> 00:12:27

worrying about what people will think and or

00:12:27 --> 00:12:29

what people will say about them,

00:12:29 --> 00:12:32

and they're able to focus on more meaningful

00:12:32 --> 00:12:33

goals.

00:12:33 --> 00:12:36

They're not caught in a never ending obsession

00:12:37 --> 00:12:37

for recognition.

00:12:38 --> 00:12:39

These are

00:12:39 --> 00:12:40

people who

00:12:41 --> 00:12:43

are not only happier in their lives, but

00:12:43 --> 00:12:45

they prove the point that

00:12:45 --> 00:12:46

running after the celebrity

00:12:47 --> 00:12:48

is not as rewarding

00:12:48 --> 00:12:50

as we tend to think it is, and

00:12:50 --> 00:12:51

that was the message last week.

00:12:52 --> 00:12:54

Now among Muslims, the people who

00:12:55 --> 00:12:56

have reached

00:12:56 --> 00:12:58

the highest heights

00:12:59 --> 00:13:00

that we have seen,

00:13:00 --> 00:13:01

highest heights

00:13:02 --> 00:13:04

in this area, in the area of flow,

00:13:04 --> 00:13:05

in the area of

00:13:05 --> 00:13:06

having

00:13:06 --> 00:13:09

this the of having value, of enjoy of

00:13:09 --> 00:13:13

experiencing life to the fullest, but without celebrity.

00:13:13 --> 00:13:16

And these these people are the opposite of

00:13:16 --> 00:13:18

those who are running after celebrity, and they

00:13:18 --> 00:13:19

are the people who practice

00:13:19 --> 00:13:20

humul,

00:13:20 --> 00:13:22

the concept we studied last week.

00:13:22 --> 00:13:24

And as we saw in the reflection

00:13:25 --> 00:13:27

on, on the virtues of kumul, the opposite

00:13:27 --> 00:13:31

of celebrity, that to disengage from seeking Jah,

00:13:31 --> 00:13:33

moving away, and moving away from the,

00:13:34 --> 00:13:36

celebrity centered mindset

00:13:36 --> 00:13:39

has a great value. As Imam Ghazali

00:13:39 --> 00:13:42

in his discussion drew our attention to 8

00:13:42 --> 00:13:45

points in this regard. The first was that

00:13:45 --> 00:13:47

an anonymous disheveled person in rags

00:13:48 --> 00:13:51

may person who in in this

00:13:51 --> 00:13:54

celebrity mania world who no one will look

00:13:54 --> 00:13:55

at and think that has a person a

00:13:55 --> 00:13:57

person of a person who is disheveled and

00:13:57 --> 00:13:59

who is in rags and no one cares

00:13:59 --> 00:14:01

about, I would have no value whatsoever. That

00:14:01 --> 00:14:02

that's

00:14:02 --> 00:14:02

the

00:14:03 --> 00:14:06

the automatic perception that we would have. But

00:14:07 --> 00:14:08

what we learned last week is that these

00:14:08 --> 00:14:10

people may be so elevated

00:14:10 --> 00:14:13

so elevated in the eyes of Allah that

00:14:13 --> 00:14:15

if they were to take an oath and

00:14:15 --> 00:14:17

say that Allah will do such and such,

00:14:17 --> 00:14:20

Allah will fulfill their oath. That's the extent.

00:14:20 --> 00:14:22

In this world, Allah will fulfill their their

00:14:22 --> 00:14:23

oath.

00:14:23 --> 00:14:26

Number 2 was that Allah may give Jannah

00:14:26 --> 00:14:28

to some. They may ask Allah for things

00:14:28 --> 00:14:29

of this world and they may not give

00:14:29 --> 00:14:31

him, they'll not be given it

00:14:32 --> 00:14:34

but Allah will give them things in the

00:14:34 --> 00:14:36

ihara, will give them Jannah if they ask

00:14:36 --> 00:14:38

for it. These are the same disheveled anonymous

00:14:38 --> 00:14:41

people who no one knows, no one cares

00:14:41 --> 00:14:41

about

00:14:42 --> 00:14:43

And that the people

00:14:44 --> 00:14:45

who no one cares about

00:14:46 --> 00:14:47

are refused

00:14:47 --> 00:14:50

audiences with the princes and with the governors

00:14:50 --> 00:14:52

and they are not given daughters to marry.

00:14:52 --> 00:14:54

But on the day of judgment, these same

00:14:54 --> 00:14:55

people will carry

00:14:56 --> 00:14:58

enough light that will be sufficient for everyone.

00:14:59 --> 00:15:00

That's how much light they have in their

00:15:00 --> 00:15:01

heart.

00:15:01 --> 00:15:04

And number 4 is that some of the

00:15:04 --> 00:15:07

unknown people have hearts that are lamps of

00:15:07 --> 00:15:07

guidance.

00:15:08 --> 00:15:08

They

00:15:09 --> 00:15:13

are they are lamps of guidance that put

00:15:13 --> 00:15:15

that that protects them from all the calamity

00:15:15 --> 00:15:17

and all the fitna around them.

00:15:17 --> 00:15:18

Number 5 was that

00:15:19 --> 00:15:22

sometimes the supplication of these unknown people,

00:15:22 --> 00:15:23

their dua

00:15:23 --> 00:15:26

is accepted immediately by Allah as we saw

00:15:26 --> 00:15:29

in the story of the drought in Madinah.

00:15:30 --> 00:15:31

Number 6 was

00:15:32 --> 00:15:33

that one of the favors of Allah and

00:15:33 --> 00:15:36

his servants is in keeping him

00:15:36 --> 00:15:37

anonymous.

00:15:37 --> 00:15:37

Allah

00:15:38 --> 00:15:38

Allah

00:15:39 --> 00:15:41

will recount that on day of judgement.

00:15:41 --> 00:15:41

Did

00:15:42 --> 00:15:43

I not hide your sins? And

00:15:45 --> 00:15:48

did I not conceal? Did I not conceal?

00:15:48 --> 00:15:50

Make you anonymous? Did I not keep you

00:15:50 --> 00:15:52

away from fame? Because fame

00:15:52 --> 00:15:55

is a test. It's a great test. When

00:15:55 --> 00:15:57

you are, when you become famous, then

00:15:58 --> 00:15:59

how do you carry yourself?

00:15:59 --> 00:16:00

The fame of the prophets,

00:16:01 --> 00:16:03

then that was the point number 7 was

00:16:03 --> 00:16:05

that the fame of the prophets and the

00:16:05 --> 00:16:06

fame of the ulama

00:16:06 --> 00:16:08

come from Allah.

00:16:08 --> 00:16:10

They did they do they do not seek

00:16:10 --> 00:16:13

it so we should not use this uh-uh

00:16:13 --> 00:16:17

or misuse this as justification for our celebrity

00:16:17 --> 00:16:17

pursuits.

00:16:18 --> 00:16:21

And finally, number 8 was that if you're

00:16:21 --> 00:16:22

weak then

00:16:23 --> 00:16:25

and you know you're weak then it's better

00:16:25 --> 00:16:27

not to be known because it's like the

00:16:27 --> 00:16:29

example he gave this beautiful example

00:16:29 --> 00:16:31

of a weak swimmer in a river where

00:16:31 --> 00:16:33

people are drowning. It's better for people not

00:16:33 --> 00:16:34

to know you because they will hold on

00:16:34 --> 00:16:36

to you. You will drown and they will

00:16:36 --> 00:16:38

drown. But if you are strong, then it's

00:16:38 --> 00:16:40

better for them to know you so that

00:16:40 --> 00:16:42

they can seek your assistance and get help

00:16:42 --> 00:16:43

to come out.

00:16:44 --> 00:16:45

Now when we are trapped in

00:16:46 --> 00:16:47

this

00:16:48 --> 00:16:50

storm, the storm the status storm,

00:16:51 --> 00:16:52

the storm in the mind,

00:16:53 --> 00:16:56

our mental energies tend to be occupied

00:16:57 --> 00:16:58

constantly with

00:16:59 --> 00:17:01

the concern about what people are thinking and

00:17:01 --> 00:17:03

saying about us, you know,

00:17:08 --> 00:17:10

what would they say? What are people are

00:17:10 --> 00:17:12

saying? And this is

00:17:12 --> 00:17:14

the worry what

00:17:14 --> 00:17:17

leads us to check our social media status,

00:17:17 --> 00:17:19

you know, for feedback 20 times a day

00:17:19 --> 00:17:21

or 5 times an hour depending on how

00:17:21 --> 00:17:22

obsessed you are, you know,

00:17:23 --> 00:17:25

or looking for praise, checking for likes, searching

00:17:25 --> 00:17:26

for mentions.

00:17:27 --> 00:17:27

And

00:17:28 --> 00:17:30

because these make us

00:17:30 --> 00:17:33

feel good about ourselves, it it it it

00:17:33 --> 00:17:34

has a,

00:17:35 --> 00:17:37

we end up into a spiral going more

00:17:37 --> 00:17:39

and more and more for it because we

00:17:39 --> 00:17:40

get the feedback and we want to go.

00:17:40 --> 00:17:43

And if someone posts a negative comment about

00:17:43 --> 00:17:46

us, we become upset and dejected, and it

00:17:47 --> 00:17:49

life is turned upside down for days days

00:17:49 --> 00:17:50

on end.

00:17:51 --> 00:17:51

Now today,

00:17:52 --> 00:17:54

we will look at some

00:17:54 --> 00:17:55

strategies

00:17:56 --> 00:17:57

for dealing with this sort of problem,

00:17:58 --> 00:18:01

the problem of excessive focus and concern

00:18:01 --> 00:18:03

about what others say about us in terms

00:18:03 --> 00:18:05

of praise and criticism

00:18:05 --> 00:18:07

because this is

00:18:07 --> 00:18:09

at the heart of the matter. So let's

00:18:09 --> 00:18:09

read

00:18:11 --> 00:18:14

and we're going into the cures now.

00:18:26 --> 00:18:28

And here, Imam Ghazali is saying

00:18:30 --> 00:18:31

that most people

00:18:35 --> 00:18:36

that most people

00:18:37 --> 00:18:38

have ended up in destruction

00:18:39 --> 00:18:41

by excessive by worrying about what about the

00:18:41 --> 00:18:43

criticisms of people

00:18:43 --> 00:18:46

and the love of praise from people.

00:18:54 --> 00:18:56

What happens is that their entire life all

00:18:56 --> 00:18:58

their actions everything they do then becomes

00:18:59 --> 00:18:59

dependent

00:19:00 --> 00:19:02

upon what pleases people

00:19:07 --> 00:19:07

and it's

00:19:08 --> 00:19:11

for what pleases people and for the drawing

00:19:11 --> 00:19:13

over the hoping and praise and hoping for

00:19:13 --> 00:19:13

praise

00:19:14 --> 00:19:14

and for

00:19:15 --> 00:19:17

and then the fear of criticism

00:19:21 --> 00:19:24

And this is of the pitfalls of destruction.

00:19:24 --> 00:19:26

This is one of the pitfalls of destruction.

00:19:26 --> 00:19:27

So it is necessary

00:19:27 --> 00:19:29

to treat this.

00:19:30 --> 00:19:32

And the way of treating it is

00:19:39 --> 00:19:41

is to look at the reasons for which

00:19:41 --> 00:19:42

the person loves

00:19:42 --> 00:19:44

praise and hates criticism.

00:19:49 --> 00:19:52

Now the first is that the reason you

00:19:52 --> 00:19:54

you like this, the reason you you enjoy

00:19:54 --> 00:19:56

this is that it gives you a sense

00:19:56 --> 00:19:58

of complete sense of completeness, a sense of

00:19:58 --> 00:19:58

perfection.

00:19:59 --> 00:20:02

The the that you feel that what this

00:20:02 --> 00:20:04

person is saying, this praise that they're giving

00:20:04 --> 00:20:07

you is interpreted deep in your heart that

00:20:07 --> 00:20:09

that that you have some sort of perfection.

00:20:14 --> 00:20:16

So the the the way to

00:20:16 --> 00:20:17

return to your senses

00:20:18 --> 00:20:19

you should say to yourself

00:20:25 --> 00:20:28

that this quality with which this person is

00:20:28 --> 00:20:31

praising you do you do you really possess

00:20:31 --> 00:20:31

those qualities?

00:20:32 --> 00:20:33

Is it really for you?

00:20:36 --> 00:20:38

That if you are if you have this

00:20:38 --> 00:20:38

attribute

00:20:41 --> 00:20:44

it is it will either be one that

00:20:44 --> 00:20:46

it is deserving of praise

00:20:48 --> 00:20:50

such as knowledge true knowledge and piety

00:20:54 --> 00:20:56

or a an attribute that it's something that

00:20:56 --> 00:20:58

you have in you that it does not

00:20:58 --> 00:21:00

deserve the praise, but the person is praising

00:21:00 --> 00:21:01

you for it.

00:21:06 --> 00:21:07

Such as

00:21:09 --> 00:21:10

wealth in the world

00:21:11 --> 00:21:13

and abundance of wealth and station,

00:21:15 --> 00:21:17

and provisions of the world.

00:21:27 --> 00:21:29

That if it is about provisions about this

00:21:29 --> 00:21:31

world, things that we have in this world,

00:21:32 --> 00:21:35

then it is your joy over it

00:21:36 --> 00:21:38

is short lived, will be short lived because

00:21:38 --> 00:21:39

it is like being

00:21:40 --> 00:21:41

it is like the joy of,

00:21:41 --> 00:21:42

the joy of seeing

00:21:44 --> 00:21:45

vegetation

00:21:46 --> 00:21:48

sprout from the earth but then after a

00:21:48 --> 00:21:50

while it becomes dust and blown away.

00:21:53 --> 00:21:54

And and this

00:21:54 --> 00:21:55

it's

00:21:55 --> 00:21:56

it

00:21:56 --> 00:21:58

it it indicates to a,

00:21:59 --> 00:22:00

a a shortsightedness.

00:22:04 --> 00:22:05

But the intelligent one is the one who

00:22:05 --> 00:22:06

says as the he

00:22:13 --> 00:22:13

said

00:22:20 --> 00:22:22

He said that the most intense sadness for

00:22:22 --> 00:22:23

me is

00:22:23 --> 00:22:24

in the

00:22:24 --> 00:22:28

joy, in the excessive joy, the celebratory, this

00:22:28 --> 00:22:31

ecstasy of of someone over something which he

00:22:31 --> 00:22:33

is sure that he will lose.

00:22:33 --> 00:22:35

How can how can you be so so

00:22:35 --> 00:22:38

happy over it? You go into ecstasy about

00:22:38 --> 00:22:38

something.

00:22:41 --> 00:22:43

So it is not it is not

00:22:44 --> 00:22:46

suitable for someone to become excessively

00:22:46 --> 00:22:47

happy and,

00:22:47 --> 00:22:50

ecstatic about things in this world. But if

00:22:51 --> 00:22:53

you are happy about it, if you have

00:22:53 --> 00:22:55

if you if you become joyous then

00:22:57 --> 00:22:58

the thing that you should be happy with

00:22:58 --> 00:23:00

is not the praise of of someone who

00:23:00 --> 00:23:01

praises you

00:23:03 --> 00:23:05

but but with its with the presence of

00:23:05 --> 00:23:07

this gift that you have.

00:23:09 --> 00:23:11

And the praise is not the reason for

00:23:11 --> 00:23:11

its existence.

00:23:15 --> 00:23:18

If it is one of those attributes that

00:23:18 --> 00:23:19

is deserving of praise

00:23:20 --> 00:23:22

such as knowledge and piety

00:23:25 --> 00:23:26

though it is not it is it you

00:23:26 --> 00:23:28

should not be overly

00:23:28 --> 00:23:30

joyful over it because

00:23:33 --> 00:23:35

because no one knows what what our end

00:23:35 --> 00:23:36

will be

00:23:36 --> 00:23:38

the end in this world you have knowledge

00:23:38 --> 00:23:40

you have piety but in what state will

00:23:40 --> 00:23:41

you die?

00:23:46 --> 00:23:49

Yes it is it deserves to be you

00:23:49 --> 00:23:51

deserve to be pleased and happy about it

00:23:51 --> 00:23:53

because it brings you closer to Allah

00:23:55 --> 00:23:58

Allah. But we have to remember. So it

00:23:58 --> 00:24:00

has to be measured. The yeah. The the

00:24:01 --> 00:24:04

the danger of a of a terrible ending

00:24:04 --> 00:24:05

is still there.

00:24:10 --> 00:24:12

So it is about having this balanced approach

00:24:12 --> 00:24:13

and not becoming excessively

00:24:16 --> 00:24:19

ecstatic over over things in this world and

00:24:19 --> 00:24:21

and running after them and being happy about

00:24:21 --> 00:24:23

the praise about them. So he's saying here

00:24:23 --> 00:24:24

that look

00:24:24 --> 00:24:26

that there has to be balance between these

00:24:26 --> 00:24:27

2 that the

00:24:28 --> 00:24:31

that it it's balanced off with a worry.

00:24:31 --> 00:24:32

The the joy is balanced off with a

00:24:32 --> 00:24:35

worry about what will happen in the end.

00:24:40 --> 00:24:43

This dunya is full of trials and tribulations

00:24:43 --> 00:24:45

and sadness and things and and worry.

00:24:46 --> 00:24:48

The place where all of that will go

00:24:48 --> 00:24:50

away is is in the is in Jannah.

00:24:55 --> 00:24:58

That if you're happy about hoping that you

00:24:58 --> 00:24:59

will have a good ending

00:25:05 --> 00:25:07

then you're if you are going if if

00:25:07 --> 00:25:09

you're choosing this to be

00:25:09 --> 00:25:11

the point the reason for your joy then

00:25:11 --> 00:25:12

you should be happy

00:25:13 --> 00:25:15

because of the bounty from Allah

00:25:15 --> 00:25:17

but you should be happy with Allah that

00:25:17 --> 00:25:19

this is that this knowledge and this taqwa

00:25:19 --> 00:25:20

this

00:25:20 --> 00:25:21

righteousness is from Allah

00:25:23 --> 00:25:26

not from the praising of the praiser the

00:25:26 --> 00:25:27

one who is praising you

00:25:35 --> 00:25:37

That this joy that you're getting is from

00:25:37 --> 00:25:40

feeling is that sense of completeness, that sense

00:25:40 --> 00:25:43

of perfection. And that is with Allah. That

00:25:43 --> 00:25:45

is with Allah. That's a bounty from Allah.

00:25:47 --> 00:25:47

The man it

00:25:48 --> 00:25:50

the praise that you are receiving it comes

00:25:50 --> 00:25:50

from

00:25:51 --> 00:25:54

it did not create this attribute that you

00:25:54 --> 00:25:56

have. So you should not get happy with

00:25:56 --> 00:25:58

with the praise. You should be happy with

00:25:58 --> 00:26:00

the actual thing that you have.

00:26:05 --> 00:26:07

The praise does not increase you in any

00:26:07 --> 00:26:08

in any bounty.

00:26:13 --> 00:26:15

So that as far as things that you

00:26:15 --> 00:26:17

had, attributes that you actually had and people

00:26:17 --> 00:26:19

praised you for. As for things that you

00:26:19 --> 00:26:20

did not have,

00:26:22 --> 00:26:24

they're they're they're telling you about some they're

00:26:24 --> 00:26:26

they're praising you for something that you are

00:26:26 --> 00:26:28

void of you do not have it.

00:26:35 --> 00:26:36

So your joy

00:26:37 --> 00:26:39

of that over such a praise,

00:26:40 --> 00:26:41

you do not you do not have an

00:26:41 --> 00:26:43

attribute and people are praising you for it.

00:26:43 --> 00:26:44

He said that is

00:26:45 --> 00:26:47

It is the full extent of insanity.

00:26:48 --> 00:26:48

Yes.

00:26:58 --> 00:27:00

That a person who is, you know, passing

00:27:00 --> 00:27:01

relieving himself

00:27:02 --> 00:27:04

and someone says to him, oh, oh, what

00:27:04 --> 00:27:05

beautiful smells you

00:27:08 --> 00:27:08

have.

00:27:11 --> 00:27:13

That when he when he relieves himself, he

00:27:13 --> 00:27:16

a lot of, beautiful smells comes out of

00:27:16 --> 00:27:16

him.

00:27:20 --> 00:27:21

He knows that what

00:27:22 --> 00:27:23

that that this is not true. It's the

00:27:23 --> 00:27:25

complete opposite that happens.

00:27:26 --> 00:27:28

And then he's happy about that.

00:27:28 --> 00:27:29

Then so

00:27:33 --> 00:27:35

and so it is that if they praise

00:27:35 --> 00:27:37

you for being a very pious person and

00:27:37 --> 00:27:39

to and and be a very scrupulous person

00:27:39 --> 00:27:42

in your deen, then and you'd and you

00:27:42 --> 00:27:43

are void of it. You do not have

00:27:43 --> 00:27:45

any of this, then

00:27:50 --> 00:27:52

that you are you are happy with this

00:27:52 --> 00:27:53

and that Allah knows

00:27:54 --> 00:27:56

the true nature of your in your of

00:27:57 --> 00:27:58

what's in your heart.

00:27:59 --> 00:28:01

And all the all the dangerous,

00:28:02 --> 00:28:04

all the destructive capacities in you

00:28:05 --> 00:28:07

and all the terrible, the disgusting

00:28:08 --> 00:28:09

attributes you have.

00:28:11 --> 00:28:14

This is the highest extents of ignorance.

00:28:23 --> 00:28:24

That so

00:28:24 --> 00:28:27

if someone praises you and he's truthful in

00:28:27 --> 00:28:29

what he's saying and you know him to

00:28:29 --> 00:28:31

be then your joy should not be about

00:28:31 --> 00:28:34

the praise your joy should be about

00:28:34 --> 00:28:36

the Fadl about the bounty from Allah that

00:28:36 --> 00:28:38

that's Allah's. If he's

00:28:38 --> 00:28:39

lying

00:28:43 --> 00:28:46

that if it's lies what he's saying he's

00:28:46 --> 00:28:48

praising you for something you do not have

00:28:48 --> 00:28:51

then that should be a source of sadness

00:28:51 --> 00:28:51

not joy

00:28:54 --> 00:28:56

now as for the second reason

00:29:01 --> 00:29:03

That this is an indication

00:29:03 --> 00:29:05

of the reason another reason why, you know,

00:29:05 --> 00:29:06

you will be get attracted to it is

00:29:06 --> 00:29:08

that it's an indication that this person who

00:29:08 --> 00:29:11

is praising you, his heart is now

00:29:11 --> 00:29:13

in has now become

00:29:14 --> 00:29:16

back it's backends towards you. It's now part

00:29:17 --> 00:29:18

it's now it's now in your control.

00:29:23 --> 00:29:25

And once this person is in your control,

00:29:25 --> 00:29:27

he through him now, you'll be able to

00:29:27 --> 00:29:27

control others.

00:29:32 --> 00:29:33

And of course this is what

00:29:34 --> 00:29:36

is this is what and

00:29:36 --> 00:29:38

seeking position in the heart

00:29:40 --> 00:29:41

this is what we have looked at

00:29:44 --> 00:29:46

and how do you repair this? You repair

00:29:46 --> 00:29:47

this by

00:29:48 --> 00:29:48

cutting

00:29:49 --> 00:29:50

the yearning

00:29:50 --> 00:29:52

for people's for for position

00:29:54 --> 00:29:57

for cutting of position in people's heart and

00:29:57 --> 00:29:58

for seeking position

00:29:58 --> 00:29:59

in front of Allah

00:30:00 --> 00:30:03

and this is very important sentence this sentence

00:30:03 --> 00:30:04

needs to be written in gold

00:30:10 --> 00:30:12

that you should know very clearly in your

00:30:12 --> 00:30:13

mind

00:30:13 --> 00:30:16

that seeking position in the hearts of people

00:30:18 --> 00:30:20

and having joy over it

00:30:24 --> 00:30:25

It

00:30:25 --> 00:30:26

degrades you

00:30:27 --> 00:30:29

in your station in front of Allah. When

00:30:29 --> 00:30:31

you seek position in front of people in

00:30:31 --> 00:30:34

the hearts of people you're degrading yourself in

00:30:34 --> 00:30:34

front of Allah.

00:30:35 --> 00:30:37

This is the sentence this is the sentence

00:30:38 --> 00:30:41

how then can you be happy about this?

00:30:49 --> 00:30:50

In the law

00:30:51 --> 00:30:54

that seeking position in people's

00:30:54 --> 00:30:55

heart

00:30:55 --> 00:30:57

degrades you in the in in in the

00:30:57 --> 00:30:59

position in front of Allah in your position

00:30:59 --> 00:31:00

in front of Allah

00:31:01 --> 00:31:03

so how can you be happy about that?

00:31:04 --> 00:31:05

And then he said

00:31:05 --> 00:31:07

the third reason why it happens I'm a

00:31:07 --> 00:31:08

servant of

00:31:14 --> 00:31:16

shyness You know, the the person is is

00:31:16 --> 00:31:18

shy. He feels

00:31:18 --> 00:31:20

obliged to say something.

00:31:26 --> 00:31:28

Even if he doesn't know of, you know,

00:31:28 --> 00:31:30

being polite and, you know, shyness, he wants

00:31:30 --> 00:31:30

to

00:31:31 --> 00:31:33

it's a situation where he has to praise

00:31:33 --> 00:31:35

you, then know that this is this is

00:31:35 --> 00:31:37

passing. This is fleeting. This is a fleeting

00:31:37 --> 00:31:38

moment.

00:31:42 --> 00:31:44

You should be that this should

00:31:44 --> 00:31:46

be a source of of sadness.

00:31:49 --> 00:31:51

That the our early our early scholars.

00:31:58 --> 00:32:00

He's saying that this, this brings a calamity

00:32:00 --> 00:32:02

on people. If you praise them, it just

00:32:02 --> 00:32:05

brings calamities because it it destroys their balance.

00:32:13 --> 00:32:14

That whoever has become

00:32:14 --> 00:32:16

happy with praise of people

00:32:17 --> 00:32:19

then he has made it he has made

00:32:19 --> 00:32:21

it easy for shaitan to enter into his

00:32:21 --> 00:32:22

stomach

00:32:27 --> 00:32:29

that if you are the best of people

00:32:34 --> 00:32:35

It should be better for you for people

00:32:35 --> 00:32:37

to say oh you are the worst person

00:32:39 --> 00:32:39

that

00:32:40 --> 00:32:42

you are you are falling into into a

00:32:42 --> 00:32:42

trap

00:32:49 --> 00:32:50

That that you have

00:32:51 --> 00:32:54

you have broken his back. And this sentence

00:32:54 --> 00:32:54

comes,

00:32:55 --> 00:32:58

repeatedly in hadith that if people who praise,

00:32:58 --> 00:33:00

who who indulge in flattery,

00:33:00 --> 00:33:02

then you should throw dust in their face.

00:33:03 --> 00:33:04

Because

00:33:05 --> 00:33:08

it's about raising positions and you're you're you're

00:33:08 --> 00:33:10

indulging in flattery for other things.

00:33:21 --> 00:33:22

So then

00:33:22 --> 00:33:25

the Sahaba didn't didn't fall into this kind

00:33:25 --> 00:33:25

of trap

00:33:26 --> 00:33:28

of flattery and this excessive

00:33:30 --> 00:33:31

being excessively,

00:33:32 --> 00:33:32

pray

00:33:33 --> 00:33:34

praising excessively

00:33:34 --> 00:33:35

so that you

00:33:35 --> 00:33:37

you destroy a person's,

00:33:38 --> 00:33:39

self image as image of themselves.

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

Because of the joy it puts

00:33:45 --> 00:33:47

And and it's reported that some of the

00:33:47 --> 00:33:48

so some of the caliph's

00:33:51 --> 00:33:51

are.

00:33:54 --> 00:33:55

He has a personal

00:34:00 --> 00:34:01

something,

00:34:02 --> 00:34:03

and the man said to him, to Adam.

00:34:03 --> 00:34:04

He said he asked him some question. He

00:34:04 --> 00:34:06

said, oh, you are better than me and

00:34:06 --> 00:34:06

you know me.

00:34:08 --> 00:34:10

And he said to him he said to

00:34:10 --> 00:34:10

him, he

00:34:11 --> 00:34:13

he became angry and he said, in the

00:34:13 --> 00:34:16

lam, and to Zakini, I did not ask

00:34:16 --> 00:34:17

you for a reference.

00:34:25 --> 00:34:27

A person said to a Sahabi, you know,

00:34:27 --> 00:34:29

that that that people will be be

00:34:30 --> 00:34:31

will be safe as long as you are

00:34:31 --> 00:34:32

around,

00:34:32 --> 00:34:35

that Allah keeps you alive. And the Sahaba

00:34:35 --> 00:34:36

got angry. He said,

00:34:38 --> 00:34:39

I think you're an Iraqi.

00:34:40 --> 00:34:42

In those days, because they had a lot

00:34:42 --> 00:34:43

of, of this,

00:34:44 --> 00:34:46

tendency for culture, not not all of people,

00:34:46 --> 00:34:47

but it it was known.

00:34:52 --> 00:34:55

That, oh, Allah, this person is getting closer

00:34:55 --> 00:34:56

to me. He's trying to get close to

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

me by angering you.

00:35:09 --> 00:35:11

And the reason they dislike

00:35:11 --> 00:35:14

too much praise, they dislike praise from people

00:35:14 --> 00:35:15

from the creation

00:35:15 --> 00:35:17

is that they fear that they would be

00:35:17 --> 00:35:19

that they that it will be the opposite

00:35:19 --> 00:35:21

in the eyes of the Khalekh, in the

00:35:21 --> 00:35:22

eyes of the creator.

00:35:36 --> 00:35:37

That that their occupation

00:35:38 --> 00:35:41

with their status in front of Allah

00:35:42 --> 00:35:43

made them angry about

00:35:44 --> 00:35:47

praise of people around, worrying about people's praise,

00:35:48 --> 00:35:50

interrupted that whole process of worrying of

00:35:51 --> 00:35:53

having that focus and and paying attention to

00:35:53 --> 00:35:55

their station in front of Allah.

00:36:00 --> 00:36:03

That the rail the rail praised person is

00:36:03 --> 00:36:05

the one who is close to Allah.

00:36:13 --> 00:36:15

And the one who is blameworth, the one

00:36:15 --> 00:36:18

who is criticized, who should be criticized, who

00:36:18 --> 00:36:18

is blameworthy

00:36:19 --> 00:36:21

is the one who is far away from

00:36:21 --> 00:36:23

Allah who is thrown into the fire.

00:36:27 --> 00:36:29

That if this person who is being praised

00:36:29 --> 00:36:31

if he is of the fire

00:36:35 --> 00:36:35

what

00:36:38 --> 00:36:41

great ignorance is this? What kind of what

00:36:41 --> 00:36:43

great ignorance is this of him that he

00:36:43 --> 00:36:45

is happy with the praise of others while

00:36:45 --> 00:36:46

he is going to the fire?

00:36:48 --> 00:36:49

And if he is of the people of

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

Jannah

00:36:52 --> 00:36:53

he

00:36:56 --> 00:36:57

should not he should only be

00:36:58 --> 00:37:00

be happy with the praise of Allah and

00:37:02 --> 00:37:03

the bounty from Allah

00:37:06 --> 00:37:06

is

00:37:07 --> 00:37:08

that his

00:37:09 --> 00:37:10

outcomes, his future,

00:37:11 --> 00:37:13

his benefits are with Allah. It's not with

00:37:13 --> 00:37:14

the creation.

00:37:24 --> 00:37:26

That the more you're Yaqeen, the more you

00:37:26 --> 00:37:27

you you you're understanding,

00:37:28 --> 00:37:30

the more your belief, the more your your

00:37:30 --> 00:37:30

certainty

00:37:31 --> 00:37:31

that

00:37:32 --> 00:37:34

what will reach you in this world and

00:37:34 --> 00:37:36

what sustenance you will get in this world

00:37:37 --> 00:37:40

is from Allah. The more that rises is

00:37:40 --> 00:37:43

the less you will turn you will you

00:37:43 --> 00:37:45

will give attention to what people

00:37:45 --> 00:37:47

say in terms of praise

00:37:48 --> 00:37:48

or criticism

00:37:53 --> 00:37:55

and the love of praise will diminish in

00:37:55 --> 00:37:56

your heart

00:38:01 --> 00:38:03

and he will that person when that happens

00:38:03 --> 00:38:05

when when the love of praise diminishes in

00:38:05 --> 00:38:07

your heart then you will turn towards

00:38:08 --> 00:38:09

what is important for your deen in other

00:38:09 --> 00:38:12

words you will focus on what is important

00:38:12 --> 00:38:13

for your

00:38:15 --> 00:38:16

Akhirah that's

00:38:19 --> 00:38:21

that Now that was in terms of prayers.

00:38:21 --> 00:38:23

Now the next chapter is about criticism that

00:38:23 --> 00:38:25

we don't like people to say bad things

00:38:25 --> 00:38:26

about us and there's

00:38:27 --> 00:38:28

and well,

00:38:37 --> 00:38:39

He said in summary, this is

00:38:41 --> 00:38:42

that the person who criticizes

00:38:42 --> 00:38:43

you

00:38:46 --> 00:38:48

They can it it he will not

00:38:49 --> 00:38:50

be from

00:38:51 --> 00:38:52

more than 3 perspectives.

00:38:54 --> 00:38:56

3. From from in 3 situations.

00:39:03 --> 00:39:05

That way, if he criticizes you, the first

00:39:05 --> 00:39:07

situation will be that

00:39:07 --> 00:39:09

he is truthful in what he says,

00:39:10 --> 00:39:12

and his reason for doing it is to

00:39:12 --> 00:39:14

is to advise you, to give you good

00:39:14 --> 00:39:15

advice

00:39:16 --> 00:39:17

and to show,

00:39:18 --> 00:39:20

compassion towards you.

00:39:20 --> 00:39:22

He he's he's doing you a favor.

00:39:28 --> 00:39:30

That the second situation is where he does

00:39:30 --> 00:39:33

it, she does it, she criticizes you but

00:39:33 --> 00:39:35

the reason for doing it is

00:39:36 --> 00:39:37

to to cause pain

00:39:38 --> 00:39:40

and to condescend, to cause the condescension.

00:39:41 --> 00:39:44

Well, Imma and the third situation was Imma

00:39:44 --> 00:39:46

and Yakuna Kaziban or he may be lying,

00:39:46 --> 00:39:48

the third. The third situation is where he's

00:39:48 --> 00:39:49

making he's making some

00:39:50 --> 00:39:52

slander, some backbite. He he's he's not backbiting

00:39:52 --> 00:39:53

but completely,

00:39:54 --> 00:39:56

fabricating something against you. He's lying.

00:39:56 --> 00:39:59

So in the first situation he's explaining here,

00:39:59 --> 00:39:59

he says

00:40:01 --> 00:40:03

that if he is telling the truth and

00:40:03 --> 00:40:06

his purpose, his aim is to give good

00:40:06 --> 00:40:07

advice,

00:40:11 --> 00:40:13

then there's none of then you should not

00:40:13 --> 00:40:14

be angry with him,

00:40:14 --> 00:40:18

and, and hate him for that reason.

00:40:20 --> 00:40:22

You should hold on to you you should

00:40:22 --> 00:40:23

recognize

00:40:24 --> 00:40:26

his favor that he's doing to you.

00:40:33 --> 00:40:33

The

00:40:34 --> 00:40:35

one who shows you a

00:40:35 --> 00:40:36

a

00:40:36 --> 00:40:39

defect that you did not notice or reminds

00:40:39 --> 00:40:41

you of your defect, but then he's helping

00:40:41 --> 00:40:43

you. He's helping you not to fall into

00:40:43 --> 00:40:44

it. So

00:40:45 --> 00:40:47

you you should be happy about this.

00:40:52 --> 00:40:54

And take the advice and remove that bad

00:40:54 --> 00:40:56

quality, that bad attribute that for which you

00:40:56 --> 00:40:57

have been criticized

00:40:58 --> 00:40:59

to remove it from yourself.

00:41:08 --> 00:41:09

As far if you start to

00:41:10 --> 00:41:12

feel angry and start to criticize him and

00:41:12 --> 00:41:13

go and

00:41:13 --> 00:41:15

hate him because he has done this,

00:41:16 --> 00:41:18

then that is a form of that that

00:41:18 --> 00:41:18

is

00:41:19 --> 00:41:21

the pinnacle of ignorance.

00:41:21 --> 00:41:23

So that's for the first category. The first

00:41:24 --> 00:41:26

situation in the in which this happens. The

00:41:26 --> 00:41:27

second situation,

00:41:29 --> 00:41:31

he wants to cause pain. He wants to

00:41:31 --> 00:41:33

put you down. He wants to condescend.

00:41:33 --> 00:41:33

So

00:41:34 --> 00:41:35

but he what he's saying is true. So

00:41:35 --> 00:41:36

he's saying,

00:41:39 --> 00:41:41

you have benefited from what he has said.

00:41:45 --> 00:41:48

That he may be pointing you to a

00:41:48 --> 00:41:49

defect in your own character

00:41:50 --> 00:41:52

or defect in you for which you were

00:41:52 --> 00:41:56

unaware of possibly. That's in one situation. Oh,

00:41:58 --> 00:42:00

that or he reminded you of something that

00:42:00 --> 00:42:02

was in in you that you were that

00:42:02 --> 00:42:04

that you you did not you are

00:42:04 --> 00:42:06

heedless of. You knew it was there, but

00:42:06 --> 00:42:08

you were heedless of it in removing it.

00:42:12 --> 00:42:14

Or he made it dislikable in your mind.

00:42:14 --> 00:42:17

By doing that, he's he's transforming you. He's

00:42:17 --> 00:42:18

helping you. He's transformed

00:42:23 --> 00:42:24

So from and from that, you will be

00:42:24 --> 00:42:27

motivated to removing that that that ill that,

00:42:28 --> 00:42:28

defects,

00:42:30 --> 00:42:32

that bad that bad characteristic

00:42:35 --> 00:42:38

Maybe you you you did not recognize it

00:42:38 --> 00:42:40

as being bad, but now you've recognized it

00:42:40 --> 00:42:42

because of what he's done and he is

00:42:42 --> 00:42:43

spreading it among people. So you will remove

00:42:43 --> 00:42:44

it from yourself.

00:42:46 --> 00:42:48

And all of this is in your benefit.

00:42:50 --> 00:42:52

And you you you've been benefit you've benefited

00:42:52 --> 00:42:53

from it. These are all

00:42:54 --> 00:42:56

measures. These are all reasons for

00:42:57 --> 00:42:57

your

00:42:58 --> 00:42:59

good life, for for your benefit.

00:43:02 --> 00:43:05

So go towards seeking happiness, seeking good in

00:43:05 --> 00:43:06

this world.

00:43:11 --> 00:43:12

So you have benefited from what you hear

00:43:12 --> 00:43:14

this person say.

00:43:21 --> 00:43:23

That if you're and he's giving an example

00:43:23 --> 00:43:25

to bring home this point. He says that

00:43:25 --> 00:43:28

look, imagine you are imagine that you are

00:43:28 --> 00:43:30

about to enter into the court of the

00:43:30 --> 00:43:30

king

00:43:31 --> 00:43:33

and your clothes has dirt on it and

00:43:33 --> 00:43:35

you do not and you are unaware of

00:43:35 --> 00:43:35

it.

00:43:39 --> 00:43:40

That

00:43:44 --> 00:43:44

you

00:43:45 --> 00:43:47

it it it is possible that

00:43:47 --> 00:43:49

the sultan may

00:43:49 --> 00:43:52

punish you for messing his his court up

00:43:52 --> 00:43:54

with with the clothes that you have.

00:43:54 --> 00:43:55

And so if someone says

00:44:00 --> 00:44:01

And so if someone addresses you as you

00:44:01 --> 00:44:03

are about to go in and say oh

00:44:03 --> 00:44:04

you dirty man

00:44:06 --> 00:44:07

clean yourselves

00:44:08 --> 00:44:10

so it is necessary for you it is

00:44:10 --> 00:44:12

you in that situation you should be happy

00:44:12 --> 00:44:13

about it.

00:44:17 --> 00:44:18

That this is this is something in your

00:44:18 --> 00:44:20

favor you've you've earned something

00:44:20 --> 00:44:21

by by him.

00:44:25 --> 00:44:27

That all the bad characteristics

00:44:27 --> 00:44:28

of people

00:44:28 --> 00:44:30

in your character, all of these

00:44:30 --> 00:44:31

are

00:44:32 --> 00:44:35

stand all of these are are potential disruptions

00:44:35 --> 00:44:37

like that king who was will chop your

00:44:37 --> 00:44:39

head off if you mess his his

00:44:40 --> 00:44:42

his court up. He said these kind of

00:44:42 --> 00:44:43

every bad

00:44:44 --> 00:44:45

character

00:44:45 --> 00:44:47

defect is has potential

00:44:47 --> 00:44:48

for

00:44:49 --> 00:44:51

leading us into failure on the day of

00:44:51 --> 00:44:52

judgment. Failure. Well,

00:44:56 --> 00:44:56

and the person

00:44:57 --> 00:44:59

finds his own mistakes. He sees

00:44:59 --> 00:45:02

his his mistakes from the speech, from the

00:45:02 --> 00:45:03

words of his enemy.

00:45:07 --> 00:45:08

That you you should

00:45:09 --> 00:45:11

be happy about you should use this this

00:45:11 --> 00:45:11

opportunity.

00:45:14 --> 00:45:15

And as for

00:45:16 --> 00:45:19

his intention to cause pain and to condescend,

00:45:25 --> 00:45:27

that this is he is committing a crime

00:45:27 --> 00:45:28

against himself.

00:45:32 --> 00:45:34

On one hand, it's a crime against himself,

00:45:35 --> 00:45:37

and it's a benefit. It's a reward for

00:45:37 --> 00:45:38

you.

00:45:44 --> 00:45:47

So why why he be angry on something

00:45:47 --> 00:45:50

on an action on something done through which

00:45:50 --> 00:45:52

he has suffered and you have benefit

00:45:52 --> 00:45:55

That's the so this is how you get

00:45:55 --> 00:45:57

out of that trap of worrying, oh, this

00:45:57 --> 00:45:59

person has posted something about me and this

00:45:59 --> 00:45:59

and that.

00:46:00 --> 00:46:02

Well, hadith of Saris and the you know,

00:46:02 --> 00:46:03

he's saying that, look, this is the that

00:46:03 --> 00:46:05

that was the the the third

00:46:09 --> 00:46:10

situation.

00:46:10 --> 00:46:13

That he that he then fabricates something against

00:46:13 --> 00:46:15

you. He's lying. He's saying something bad about

00:46:15 --> 00:46:16

you.

00:46:21 --> 00:46:23

You should not worry about that. Don't worry

00:46:23 --> 00:46:25

about him about getting angry.

00:46:26 --> 00:46:28

And don't engage with his criticism.

00:46:30 --> 00:46:32

You should think about 3 things.

00:46:40 --> 00:46:42

That yes you might not have that particular

00:46:43 --> 00:46:46

defect in you but you may have many

00:46:46 --> 00:46:47

other

00:46:47 --> 00:46:48

similar defects.

00:46:49 --> 00:46:50

So don't

00:46:50 --> 00:46:54

feel too confident. He's saying here so this

00:46:54 --> 00:46:55

is the first thing you must think keep

00:46:55 --> 00:46:56

in mind.

00:47:02 --> 00:47:05

And the ones and the defects that Allah

00:47:05 --> 00:47:06

your sins

00:47:06 --> 00:47:09

that Allah has covered is more than what

00:47:09 --> 00:47:10

this person has fabricated.

00:47:20 --> 00:47:22

So thank Allah that He has not

00:47:22 --> 00:47:25

exposed your sins to this person.

00:47:28 --> 00:47:31

And He has led him into saying things

00:47:31 --> 00:47:34

which you have not committed, which you have

00:47:34 --> 00:47:36

not done. So keep that in your mind

00:47:36 --> 00:47:38

that's the first thing. The second thing

00:47:42 --> 00:47:43

that this is an expiation

00:47:44 --> 00:47:46

of your other sins. If he's mentioning one

00:47:46 --> 00:47:49

thing and he's fabricated it, then that is

00:47:49 --> 00:47:51

an ex that's wiping out other sins that

00:47:51 --> 00:47:51

you have.

00:47:55 --> 00:47:58

So so he's he has accused you of

00:47:58 --> 00:48:00

something that you do not have.

00:48:03 --> 00:48:05

He has accused you. He has thrown at

00:48:05 --> 00:48:06

you

00:48:06 --> 00:48:07

a,

00:48:07 --> 00:48:09

a sin that you do not have and

00:48:09 --> 00:48:11

with it, he's wiping away sins that you

00:48:11 --> 00:48:12

actually have.

00:48:17 --> 00:48:20

And anyone who backbites against you has given

00:48:20 --> 00:48:22

you his good his good deeds.

00:48:26 --> 00:48:28

And anyone who praises you, you know, goes

00:48:28 --> 00:48:30

into flattery with you then that person has

00:48:30 --> 00:48:33

broken your back. In other words, he has

00:48:33 --> 00:48:34

destroyed your ability to stand

00:48:35 --> 00:48:37

to to worry about the real thing which

00:48:37 --> 00:48:39

is how you stand in front of Allah.

00:48:41 --> 00:48:43

And so why do you why are you

00:48:43 --> 00:48:44

happy with this?

00:48:44 --> 00:48:46

Why are you happy with the one who

00:48:46 --> 00:48:47

has broken your back?

00:48:54 --> 00:48:54

And you

00:48:55 --> 00:48:58

are being sad about good deeds that you're

00:48:58 --> 00:48:59

receiving from people,

00:49:00 --> 00:49:01

good deeds that are bringing you closer to

00:49:01 --> 00:49:02

Allah.

00:49:05 --> 00:49:07

How how how can I have this

00:49:09 --> 00:49:11

this upside down, this alternative

00:49:12 --> 00:49:14

reaction when you claim

00:49:15 --> 00:49:15

that you

00:49:16 --> 00:49:19

love being close to Allah? These hasanat that

00:49:19 --> 00:49:21

you're getting from people who are doing all

00:49:21 --> 00:49:23

these things are bringing you closer to Allah.

00:49:24 --> 00:49:26

So why why worry about it?

00:49:27 --> 00:49:29

And he said now for for the third

00:49:29 --> 00:49:29

thing

00:49:34 --> 00:49:35

The the third thing that you have to

00:49:35 --> 00:49:38

keep in mind is that that this,

00:49:40 --> 00:49:42

this person, this miskeen, this poor person

00:49:44 --> 00:49:46

that he has now committed a crime against

00:49:46 --> 00:49:46

his deen

00:49:48 --> 00:49:50

He has fallen in the eyes of Allah.

00:49:52 --> 00:49:55

And he has destroyed himself with this fabrication.

00:49:58 --> 00:50:01

And he has made himself exposed to the

00:50:01 --> 00:50:03

worst types of of punishment.

00:50:08 --> 00:50:10

That then you should not add more anger

00:50:10 --> 00:50:13

to him because Allah is angry with him.

00:50:15 --> 00:50:17

That's what Shaitan you know cause they will

00:50:17 --> 00:50:19

tease him. Shaitan will tease him.

00:50:20 --> 00:50:20

And

00:50:21 --> 00:50:24

you say you will say Allahum, O Allah,

00:50:24 --> 00:50:25

destroy him.

00:50:26 --> 00:50:29

But is but instead you should say you

00:50:29 --> 00:50:29

should say

00:50:31 --> 00:50:32

O

00:50:33 --> 00:50:35

Oh Allah, rectify him. Oh Allah,

00:50:36 --> 00:50:38

forgive him. Oh Allah, forgive

00:50:39 --> 00:50:39

him.

00:51:01 --> 00:51:02

He's saying that Rasulullah

00:51:05 --> 00:51:06

in response to the people

00:51:07 --> 00:51:08

who broke his

00:51:10 --> 00:51:12

tooth and who injured his face and who

00:51:12 --> 00:51:13

killed his uncle,

00:51:13 --> 00:51:15

he was in response to those things that

00:51:15 --> 00:51:17

were happening, he said,

00:51:18 --> 00:51:20

oh Allah forgive my people.

00:51:22 --> 00:51:24

Oh Allah guide them.

00:51:25 --> 00:51:26

Oh they do not know what they're doing.

00:51:26 --> 00:51:29

They do not know. So this is the

00:51:29 --> 00:51:30

mercy of Rasool Allah

00:51:39 --> 00:51:40

You know, a person that that won the

00:51:40 --> 00:51:41

battle,

00:51:42 --> 00:51:44

a tire, the thing that's connected to

00:51:45 --> 00:51:45

to a

00:51:46 --> 00:51:47

to a helmet,

00:51:48 --> 00:51:49

ripped his head,

00:51:49 --> 00:51:52

ripped and caused a a big wound in

00:51:52 --> 00:51:54

it, and he made dua for this person.

00:51:54 --> 00:51:55

And

00:51:59 --> 00:52:01

he said, I know that I get reward

00:52:01 --> 00:52:02

because of this person.

00:52:04 --> 00:52:06

So I got good I got good I've

00:52:06 --> 00:52:07

I've received

00:52:07 --> 00:52:08

I've received good from him.

00:52:11 --> 00:52:12

So I don't want him to be punished

00:52:12 --> 00:52:13

because of me.

00:52:17 --> 00:52:19

And of the things that

00:52:19 --> 00:52:23

makes it easy for you to bear criticism

00:52:25 --> 00:52:26

is to

00:52:27 --> 00:52:30

sever your yearning, sever your covetousness, sever your

00:52:30 --> 00:52:32

your yearning for what people have.

00:52:32 --> 00:52:35

We're warning yearning for what? Because this is

00:52:35 --> 00:52:38

where it links into the wider cultures that

00:52:38 --> 00:52:40

we look up. You know, last week we

00:52:40 --> 00:52:41

talked about that hadith

00:52:41 --> 00:52:43

where Rasoolullah sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said that

00:52:43 --> 00:52:44

if you're looking, if you're doing comparisons,

00:52:50 --> 00:52:52

that if you're if you're doing if you're

00:52:52 --> 00:52:54

in the business of comparing, you're doing comparisons

00:52:54 --> 00:52:57

between who has and who hasn't, then be

00:52:57 --> 00:52:58

sure to look at those who are less

00:52:58 --> 00:52:59

fortunate

00:52:59 --> 00:53:01

because this is what leads to this.

00:53:02 --> 00:53:05

You're leading it leads to wanting what other

00:53:05 --> 00:53:07

people have, wanting this.

00:53:09 --> 00:53:10

Is stagnant.

00:53:11 --> 00:53:11

And

00:53:13 --> 00:53:14

that if you have nothing if you have

00:53:14 --> 00:53:16

nothing more to gain from these people, you

00:53:16 --> 00:53:18

have nothing more to want from what is

00:53:18 --> 00:53:20

with people, then it becomes easy

00:53:21 --> 00:53:23

to ignore people's criticism.

00:53:27 --> 00:53:29

And the effect of it excuse me. The

00:53:29 --> 00:53:31

effect of it also in your heart will

00:53:31 --> 00:53:32

be diminished.

00:53:32 --> 00:53:33

Will

00:53:33 --> 00:53:34

be lessened.

00:53:36 --> 00:53:38

And the foundation of our deen

00:53:39 --> 00:53:40

is in being contented,

00:53:41 --> 00:53:44

being contentment and satisfaction. We should be we

00:53:44 --> 00:53:45

should be contented with what we have,

00:53:46 --> 00:53:48

we have. And this is not fatalism.

00:53:49 --> 00:53:51

It's about, yes doing your best but what

00:53:51 --> 00:53:53

you managed to to achieve that has to

00:53:53 --> 00:53:56

be a you have to be contented with

00:53:56 --> 00:53:58

look this is what Allah thinks is good

00:53:58 --> 00:53:59

for me. This is what I have and

00:53:59 --> 00:54:01

this is and I'm contented with it. I

00:54:01 --> 00:54:02

will ask for more. I will try for

00:54:02 --> 00:54:04

more but I will not look at people

00:54:04 --> 00:54:06

and and blame Allah for not giving me

00:54:06 --> 00:54:07

what people have.

00:54:10 --> 00:54:12

Then the yearning for what people have will

00:54:12 --> 00:54:13

be cut off.

00:54:21 --> 00:54:23

That as long as you then have

00:54:23 --> 00:54:26

this view of looking upwards and looking what

00:54:26 --> 00:54:29

people have then you will be you'll be

00:54:29 --> 00:54:31

stuck in the trap in that storm as

00:54:31 --> 00:54:34

I said the storm of Jah, the storm

00:54:34 --> 00:54:36

of Hubul Jah, the storm of loving station,

00:54:36 --> 00:54:38

the storm of loving position will be dominant.

00:54:38 --> 00:54:39

He said

00:54:48 --> 00:54:49

That all that you will spend all your

00:54:49 --> 00:54:52

time in trying to get to to earn

00:54:52 --> 00:54:53

position in people.

00:54:56 --> 00:54:59

And the the tragedy is that you will

00:54:59 --> 00:55:00

not get this

00:55:00 --> 00:55:02

except through the destruction of your deen as

00:55:02 --> 00:55:05

we say like the 2 hungry wolves.

00:55:13 --> 00:55:14

That the person

00:55:15 --> 00:55:15

who's

00:55:16 --> 00:55:18

who has this yearning, this

00:55:18 --> 00:55:21

this covet, this covetousness for wealth and for

00:55:21 --> 00:55:21

position

00:55:22 --> 00:55:25

and love of praise and hating of criticism,

00:55:25 --> 00:55:26

that person,

00:55:27 --> 00:55:29

his deen is not safe.

00:55:31 --> 00:55:33

This is very far. That

00:55:34 --> 00:55:37

is the conclusion of of this chapter.

00:55:37 --> 00:55:39

Alright. We've run out of time right now.

00:55:39 --> 00:55:41

So, okay, we finished that on time. Now

00:55:41 --> 00:55:44

now to come back to what we started

00:55:44 --> 00:55:47

this discussion with which was about optimal experience.

00:55:47 --> 00:55:48

We talked about,

00:55:48 --> 00:55:51

that where regular moments of optimal experience

00:55:52 --> 00:55:53

serve

00:55:53 --> 00:55:56

as fortify as a fortifying force, as a

00:55:56 --> 00:55:58

strengthening force in an individual's life.

00:55:58 --> 00:55:59

As Muslims,

00:56:00 --> 00:56:02

where do we find our optimal experience?

00:56:03 --> 00:56:04

The answer is obvious.

00:56:04 --> 00:56:05

We can find

00:56:06 --> 00:56:07

our optimal life experience

00:56:08 --> 00:56:11

in our optimal goal in life. What is

00:56:11 --> 00:56:14

our optimal goal in life? Ibadah, getting close

00:56:14 --> 00:56:15

to Allah, the purpose for which we were

00:56:15 --> 00:56:16

created.

00:56:16 --> 00:56:18

We find our optimal experience

00:56:19 --> 00:56:21

in the remembrance of our Creator in prayer,

00:56:21 --> 00:56:22

in our salah.

00:56:23 --> 00:56:24

The requirement

00:56:24 --> 00:56:25

of Khushu,

00:56:26 --> 00:56:28

if you look at the requirements of Khushu

00:56:28 --> 00:56:29

in which we

00:56:31 --> 00:56:33

as Allah said in Surat Al Mominun is

00:56:33 --> 00:56:35

that the people, the praising the people who

00:56:35 --> 00:56:36

have salah in the fa who have Khushu,

00:56:37 --> 00:56:40

It it they it it includes complete disengagement

00:56:40 --> 00:56:43

from the world, not worrying about anything in

00:56:43 --> 00:56:45

the world, not who might say what and

00:56:45 --> 00:56:47

what people are saying, complete disengagement

00:56:48 --> 00:56:50

from the simulations of worldly conversations.

00:56:51 --> 00:56:54

Khushu is total disengagement in this hadith. In

00:56:54 --> 00:56:55

Bukhari and Muslim said

00:56:57 --> 00:56:57

that

00:57:10 --> 00:57:12

There are person who prays 2 rakat 2

00:57:12 --> 00:57:14

rakat salah, just 2,

00:57:14 --> 00:57:16

in which he prays it for

00:57:18 --> 00:57:20

and he he did not indulge in those

00:57:20 --> 00:57:20

worldly

00:57:21 --> 00:57:21

conversations

00:57:22 --> 00:57:25

he did not simulate any conversations in his

00:57:25 --> 00:57:25

mind

00:57:26 --> 00:57:27

of anything worldly

00:57:28 --> 00:57:30

he keeps it completely disengaged from the world

00:57:31 --> 00:57:32

then that turakah

00:57:35 --> 00:57:37

will it will wipe all his previous sins.

00:57:38 --> 00:57:40

So, and this is our flow, this is

00:57:40 --> 00:57:41

what we have to aim for. That's the

00:57:41 --> 00:57:44

salah we aim, we should aim for. Our

00:57:44 --> 00:57:47

flow is found in salah, in dhikr, in

00:57:47 --> 00:57:50

all its forms. Our flow is in the

00:57:50 --> 00:57:52

flowing of the eyes with tears.

00:57:52 --> 00:57:54

It is in the flowing of the heart

00:57:54 --> 00:57:56

with mercy and compassion.

00:57:56 --> 00:57:59

It is in the flow of sincere intentions

00:57:59 --> 00:57:59

and actions.

00:58:00 --> 00:58:02

It is in the flowing of charity from

00:58:02 --> 00:58:05

the hands like like a pleasant wind blowing.

00:58:05 --> 00:58:08

It is in the flow of heavenly mercies

00:58:08 --> 00:58:09

pouring

00:58:09 --> 00:58:10

upon the creation.

00:58:10 --> 00:58:12

It is in the flow of consciousness of

00:58:12 --> 00:58:13

the divine

00:58:14 --> 00:58:16

in the secret depths of the heart and

00:58:16 --> 00:58:17

the mind,

00:58:17 --> 00:58:19

it is in the flow of reciprocal

00:58:19 --> 00:58:20

remembrance

00:58:20 --> 00:58:21

as in

00:58:21 --> 00:58:24

remember me and I will remember you, it

00:58:24 --> 00:58:25

is in the flow

00:58:25 --> 00:58:27

of divine praise

00:58:27 --> 00:58:28

as Allah

00:58:30 --> 00:58:31

says look at my servant

00:58:33 --> 00:58:35

When Allah sees you get up at night

00:58:35 --> 00:58:38

and you leave your bed and your children

00:58:38 --> 00:58:39

and your family

00:58:40 --> 00:58:41

and your

00:58:42 --> 00:58:44

duvet and get up your bedding

00:58:44 --> 00:58:47

in the night to pray, Allah says, It

00:58:47 --> 00:58:50

is the flow of that praise that we

00:58:50 --> 00:58:53

should seek. It is the flow of praise

00:58:53 --> 00:58:54

among the angels in heaven.

00:58:55 --> 00:58:57

Prayer when it reaches this is a comfort

00:58:57 --> 00:58:59

as it was for our prophet Muhammad sallallahu

00:58:59 --> 00:59:01

alaihi wa sallam where he used to say

00:59:01 --> 00:59:04

to Bilal, radiAllahu alaihi he used to say,

00:59:05 --> 00:59:08

oh it's to start the prayer Bilal start.

00:59:11 --> 00:59:13

Bring us comfort with it. That's the comfort.

00:59:13 --> 00:59:16

The comfort of the difficulties in this world

00:59:16 --> 00:59:17

used to come through salah.

00:59:22 --> 00:59:24

That the salah has been made a comfort

00:59:24 --> 00:59:25

for me.

00:59:25 --> 00:59:25

Khushu

00:59:26 --> 00:59:28

is in the eyes and the ears because

00:59:28 --> 00:59:30

it is through these two things. It is

00:59:30 --> 00:59:33

through this this Khushu. It is through this

00:59:33 --> 00:59:33

that

00:59:35 --> 00:59:35

the

00:59:35 --> 00:59:38

clutter of the world pours into us. The

00:59:38 --> 00:59:41

clutter of the people speaking and what who

00:59:41 --> 00:59:43

has said what and what I'm going to

00:59:43 --> 00:59:45

say to who and what. And this is

00:59:45 --> 00:59:48

the thing that corrupts our hushu in salah.

00:59:48 --> 00:59:50

And the tragedy is

00:59:51 --> 00:59:53

that Rasulullah said

00:59:59 --> 01:00:00

that that the first

01:00:00 --> 01:00:03

good thing, the first thing of benefit, the

01:00:03 --> 01:00:04

first

01:00:04 --> 01:00:07

great treasure that will be lifted from this

01:00:07 --> 01:00:09

ummah that we will lose is khushu

01:00:12 --> 01:00:14

Until a time will come when the masjid

01:00:14 --> 01:00:16

will be full. But there will be not

01:00:16 --> 01:00:18

one person with khushu.

01:00:19 --> 01:00:20

To find this flow in Khushu,

01:00:21 --> 01:00:24

begin with your salah. It is the Mi'raj

01:00:24 --> 01:00:27

of Mu'min. It is the Ascension of the

01:00:27 --> 01:00:27

believer.

01:00:29 --> 01:00:30

We have to pray like the Prophet

01:00:31 --> 01:00:33

did. He used to say

01:00:47 --> 01:00:49

that both my ears and my eyes

01:00:50 --> 01:00:52

are now flowing with the goal of pleasing

01:00:52 --> 01:00:54

you alone only you.

01:00:54 --> 01:00:55

He used to say

01:01:00 --> 01:01:02

I used to seek refuge

01:01:03 --> 01:01:05

in you from knowledge that is of no

01:01:05 --> 01:01:07

benefit and from a heart that does not

01:01:07 --> 01:01:08

have in it.

01:01:09 --> 01:01:11

And an eye that does not flow

01:01:13 --> 01:01:16

and from an from a dua supplication

01:01:16 --> 01:01:17

that is not answered.

01:01:18 --> 01:01:18

So

01:01:19 --> 01:01:21

let us pray, let us ask Allah

01:01:22 --> 01:01:23

to help us.

01:01:39 --> 01:01:43

Allah forgive us. Oh Allah forgive our negligence

01:01:43 --> 01:01:45

and guide us to the flow of your

01:01:45 --> 01:01:45

mercies

01:01:46 --> 01:01:48

and protect our hearts and minds

01:01:48 --> 01:01:51

from doubt and save us from worrying about

01:01:51 --> 01:01:53

what others say about us and make us

01:01:53 --> 01:01:55

seek your approval, make us worry about what

01:01:55 --> 01:01:57

you think of us and what the angels

01:01:57 --> 01:01:59

think of us. Oh Allah,

01:01:59 --> 01:02:02

turn our hearts towards you in all situations

01:02:02 --> 01:02:05

and guide us in a direction of your

01:02:05 --> 01:02:06

love and your mercy.

01:02:07 --> 01:02:07

Place

01:02:08 --> 01:02:09

our joy and happiness

01:02:09 --> 01:02:11

in your prayers as it used to be

01:02:11 --> 01:02:13

for your beloved Prophet Muhammad

01:02:15 --> 01:02:15

Oh

01:02:16 --> 01:02:18

Allah, cleanse our hearts from the clutter

01:02:19 --> 01:02:19

of worldly,

01:02:20 --> 01:02:21

of a worldly chatter.

01:02:22 --> 01:02:24

Oh Allah, cleanse our hearts from the clutter

01:02:24 --> 01:02:25

of worldly chatter

01:02:26 --> 01:02:28

and in our prayer and open it, open

01:02:28 --> 01:02:31

our hearts with the light of your guidance.

01:02:32 --> 01:02:34

O Allah, we are your servants,

01:02:35 --> 01:02:36

we are your creation,

01:02:36 --> 01:02:37

we are your slaves,

01:02:38 --> 01:02:40

we have no other to turn to but

01:02:40 --> 01:02:41

you.

01:02:41 --> 01:02:44

Accept us and guide us, O Allah, forgive

01:02:44 --> 01:02:46

us, O Allah help us.

01:04:57 --> 01:04:58

The recordings

01:04:58 --> 01:05:00

for the previous 5,

01:05:01 --> 01:05:02

classes,

01:05:03 --> 01:05:03

plus

01:05:04 --> 01:05:05

a

01:05:05 --> 01:05:08

link. I've prepared a link here with a

01:05:08 --> 01:05:08

series.

01:05:09 --> 01:05:10

I have,

01:05:13 --> 01:05:14

One second. Let me just grab it. I'm

01:05:14 --> 01:05:16

going to share this with you.

01:05:16 --> 01:05:18

It's a series of

01:05:19 --> 01:05:21

short lectures between 20 30 minutes

01:05:22 --> 01:05:23

of 40 lectures

01:05:23 --> 01:05:26

on improving your salah because we're talking about

01:05:26 --> 01:05:29

salah, and this is a good moment

01:05:30 --> 01:05:30

to

01:05:31 --> 01:05:33

try and make an effort to improve the

01:05:33 --> 01:05:34

quality of your salah.

01:05:35 --> 01:05:38

So the 6th link that I will send

01:05:38 --> 01:05:41

here, there's a list of 6 links. The

01:05:41 --> 01:05:43

first five are for the 1st class the

01:05:43 --> 01:05:45

first five classes that we have done, which

01:05:45 --> 01:05:47

you can study or you can revise, go

01:05:47 --> 01:05:49

over them, and make notes,

01:05:49 --> 01:05:51

so it can help you to internalize to,

01:05:52 --> 01:05:54

practice what we what we are learning. This

01:05:54 --> 01:05:57

is not about information gathering, this is about

01:05:57 --> 01:05:57

inculcating

01:05:57 --> 01:06:00

them into your practice. And so for salah,

01:06:00 --> 01:06:02

which I said, this is where our optimal

01:06:02 --> 01:06:04

life experience is.

01:06:04 --> 01:06:07

And to improve to improve that, I'd like

01:06:07 --> 01:06:11

to you to try and find time to

01:06:11 --> 01:06:12

study these,

01:06:12 --> 01:06:15

to listen to these 40 lectures, take notes,

01:06:15 --> 01:06:15

try and,

01:06:16 --> 01:06:19

implement what's said in them, they're short and,

01:06:19 --> 01:06:19

Insha'Allah,

01:06:20 --> 01:06:21

in the in the in the course of

01:06:21 --> 01:06:23

a few couple of months, Insha'Allah, you should

01:06:23 --> 01:06:24

be able to, even if you do one

01:06:24 --> 01:06:25

a day, Inshallah.

01:06:26 --> 01:06:28

So, yeah, I I'd, I'm going to share

01:06:28 --> 01:06:29

that now.

01:06:29 --> 01:06:31

Please copy it and keep it into your,

01:06:33 --> 01:06:34

with you. Okay.

01:06:37 --> 01:06:39

Just tell me if that's get sent it.

01:06:39 --> 01:06:40

Let me see here.

01:06:40 --> 01:06:41

Okay.

01:06:41 --> 01:06:42

Is

01:06:42 --> 01:06:45

it gone? Can you see it? Yeah. We

01:06:45 --> 01:06:46

received it.

01:06:46 --> 01:06:47

Yeah. Okay.

01:06:47 --> 01:06:48

Yes. Okay.

01:06:48 --> 01:06:51

So, yeah, please copy that and, yeah, follow

01:06:51 --> 01:06:52

the link.

01:06:52 --> 01:06:53

Okay.

01:06:54 --> 01:06:55

Are the brothers in the

01:06:56 --> 01:06:57

in the

01:06:57 --> 01:06:58

class?

01:06:59 --> 01:06:59

Do they have

01:07:00 --> 01:07:02

any questions? Where where are they?

01:07:03 --> 01:07:04

Can't see who is in the class.

01:07:06 --> 01:07:09

Maybe I'm not seeing any answers. Anyway, yeah,

01:07:09 --> 01:07:10

inshallah, we will,

01:07:10 --> 01:07:12

meet up next week. Insha'Allah, next week is

01:07:12 --> 01:07:15

back to 7 o'clock. So, please,

01:07:15 --> 01:07:17

don't be late. Insha'Allah.

Share Page