Focus on Character more than Reputation and Personality

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In Alhamdulillah mundo

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de Ferro, when we learn Himanshu Dorian fusina when say Molina

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or my youth little fella howdy Allah.

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Wa shadow Allah, Allah illallah wa la sharika

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Mohammedan Abu Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about in the fall howdy kita Bala well hiral had been had you Mohammedan sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was shot on morishima

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my bad you have a better filler or Sukumaran FC the taco la has origin

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la casa Nabi sallallahu alayhi wa sallam

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Risa Lata who

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one Mohan Mehta who had eaten wine, and dhammapada sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in Paris to live with him muckety muck

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the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam summed up all his mission

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and the essence of his message, and one Hadith.

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When he said Salalah alayhi wa sallam, I have been sent to you to perfect the standard of good character, good behavior.

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And before I take you into a journey to explain what does that mean?

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Let me just introduce

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a summary of the perfect meaning of Islam.

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Islam brothers and sisters,

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is a chain

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of 44 components that cannot be disconnected.

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And it starts with a set of beliefs are key them.

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And the Akita of the Muslim is that Allah subhana wa Taala created him for a purpose, which is to enslave himself to Allah, all of his life.

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And then we should know who Allah is.

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And we should know the attributes of Allah subhanho wa Taala. So we can have the proper arcada.

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Once we know Allah, once we know the purpose of our life, we move to the second component of Islam

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itself the contract that we signed with Allah subhanho wa Taala and Al Fatiha and we renew that contract 17 times a day at least.

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And the false alarm when we say a year

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Norbert which means your Allah I am signing a contract. What I accept myself as a slave, and you are the master.

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Because you said in the Quran, Allah Allah

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will.

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200 belongs to creation, and he's the one who gives instructions to his creation.

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It's because you lost it in the Koran festwochen comma.

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Well, I said, Sir, first starting camera,

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follow the straight path, the way you're commanded, not the way you like.

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So the second component of Islam is a bad and many people do not understand the meaning of a bear that they think that rabada is just some rituals, called Salas

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That's it.

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No, a bother is an all inclusive term of everything that you might say or you might do internally or externally, with the intention to please Allah.

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For example, the second best a better in the sight of Allah is good.

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And it's mentioned the Quran more than 13 times

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it will be

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removing an obstacle that stops the way of the people is part of the man.

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So we need to understand the comprehensive meaning of very bad

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and the right way of a bad

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is the way summarized by Allah subhanho wa Taala in one ayah in the Quran,

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in Surah,

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number 33 and number 21.

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So if you want to enslave yourself to Allah, the best way to do it, you have the best example in the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. This is the best way to become a slave of Allah, to do it as Prophet Mohammed Salah not as your culture back home,

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not according to your desires.

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So our Tina

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rabada then, do we do a bother for the sake of

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our event? The answer is no. It's your ally who need that rabada

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It's you and I who benefit by that. If we understand it, and if we do it sincerely for Allah.

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And it's very, quite clear in the Quran, after every after every obligation or farther from Allah. Allah was to do that you are the beneficiary not Allah.

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Allah him sadaqa This is Daya.

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Three in SATA Toba

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Why? It serves you. It purifies you and it does the skier to you.

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Why do you pray Allah doesn't need our Salah Joaquim is Allah.

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If you pray, a new salon never stopped you from saying or doing what was displeased Allah, you didn't understand the meaning of salon.

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If you're going for heights to come back with a title of a house, he didn't understand the meaning of heights. Because if you do hydrate properly or you come back as if you're a newborn.

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So what is the outcome are very bad. That's the third ring in the chain. It is UCLA.

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And that's what I started with. It's the main reason for the mission of Prophet Muhammad SLM is to better UCLA.

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So if my father did not change me to make me a better person, I didn't understand the meaning of a better

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and how can I see a good character

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it's manifested in the way you deal with others.

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Otherwise, we have wasted our life. So let me repeat this again, Islam is four components, you cannot disconnect them.

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You need to know Allah properly. You need to know his names and attributes you understand the meaning of toffee. So you have a proper Aki, then

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based on that you enslave yourself to Allah subhanaw taala in the form of very bad in the comprehensive meaning of just explain,

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then you

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should change your character and make you a better person.

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And how can I see this character, it's the way you treat others and the way you deal with others. So this D is

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a set of beliefs that leads you to enslave yourself to Allah, that will better your character which will be manifested in the way you treat others and deal with them, whether they're Muslims or not.

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Muslims.

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So now let me take you into the journey of why the professor summed up his mission when he said, I have been sent to you to perfect good character.

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Sometimes, you might know someone of your own family of your own community of your own country

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who had very good.

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They're very nice to be around. They're very nice. They're very generous. They're very considerate, they think before they speak.

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But they don't have a connection with Allah. They don't do a balance.

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That's one example.

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You might have another one who has Mashallah perfect.

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Not only does he or she performs the obligatory Salah, and the obligatory fasting, but they do voluntary ones and extra ones. Yet, when it comes to the club, they are very rude.

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They're not nice to be around. They don't think before they speak.

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So if I were to ask you, if you were to ask me, which one is better? Who is better amongst these two people? The one was perfect.

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But no way. Or the one was perfect, either. But you know, but

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it's exactly as if you're asking me which one of your eyes would you choose? Would you choose to keep the right I have the left to I need both of them.

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And this is why I said we cannot disconnect these four components are key to a bad marma lead.

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So, what if somebody has the minimum requirement of a clock

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but they have the history data or someone else who have the minimum requirement of a band, but they have perfect o'clock which one is better?

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Let me take you to the Prophet salallahu audio so if somebody has perfect it better, but the clock is not that good?

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make up for that which is missing from the

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most likely No, but the opposite scenario is correct.

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In the Hadith, narrated by Abu huraira, the Allahu incite al Bukhari, they came to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam and they said to him, Yara Salalah, Fulani so on so

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the como la

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water sama, Maha

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so on so Mashallah, she recited the Quran, and she stands the mind or the mind doing pm will lie.

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And she fasts not only Ramadan, but voluntary fasting, what are the giran Javi rissani her

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but she hurts her neighbors with her tongue.

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Paula here for now.

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So the Prophet sallallahu Sallam in response to that, he said if she continues,

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what she's doing

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does not affect her.

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And she does this to her neighbors. Her final abode would be hellfire.

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But they say prophet of Allah falana.

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She just does the minimum requirement of the deal. She prays the five times

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and she only fast Ramadan. She doesn't even have that much to give us. So she gives some, as we say, that means skimmed milk, or even, you know cheese.

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We have the milk and you keep it and then you make yogurt. Or you make some cheese out of it.

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But she treats her neighbors well. Paul here Finjan. The professor them said, If she comes with the minimum requirement of

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butter, like that she doesn't hurt

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her neighbors. And if she continues to do this, her final abode will be genuine.

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So

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again, we cannot disconnect the four components of Islam.

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But the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam told us he said in a live layer because no one okay he meant

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Hinata saw him in

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another nation same as saw me

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one time.

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Meaning, again, if you come up with the minimum requirements are very bad, but you have good

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Allah subhanho wa Taala will give you the rewards of someone who is stablishing the whole mind and was fasting most of his life.

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Again, the promiseland confirms the same meaning by saying, a Krav Maga mini messiness in Yama, Yama.

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The closest amongst you, to me in position, on the day of judgment, are those who have good character.

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So you can be stressing the outcome of a bad is to benefit from that data that will change you and make you a better person.

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Now,

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moving on, we need to understand that we as human beings,

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we have three components.

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We have three components, we have our reputation, we have our personality, and we have our character.

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Now, let me explain the difference between the three.

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What's the meaning of reputation? And what's the meaning of personality? And what's the meaning of character?

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reputation is the image that people have a view

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or the image you're selling to people, but it's not who you are.

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personality is the way you present yourself to others.

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But again, it's not the reality about you.

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But character, is who we really are.

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Let me explain this.

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I need to understand what do you mean by reputation, if you want to understand the meaning of reputation, watch the politicians of the times of elections. And you will know what I mean by reputation.

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They will show people that they're very kind, and they're very nice. And they will take a photo with an orphan for example, if it makes it to the leading article, in the front page of the newspapers and magazines, they made it and they win the elections.

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But is this who they really all in their life? This is the image they're trying to sell people.

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This is why politicians, they pour lots of money at the times of elections,

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trying to impress people and sell them an image, which is not true.

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So now,

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why do people invest too much in reputation?

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Because the effort that they exert is very little.

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But the reward is immediate.

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Same thing with personality. What's personality, personality, is the way I'm dressed. is the way I speak to you, is the way I have my haircut is the way I talk to you.

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But does it really mean who I am in real life? Or who you are? No, it's not.

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Again, sending an image to people.

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Do people invest too much today in personality? Yes. Why? For the same reason of reputation? Because the effort is very little, but the reward is immediate.

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Now the question is, is my reputation under my control?

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Is my reputation of my own making? The answer is no.

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People can ruin your reputation.

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Your reputation is in the hands of people, they can say whatever they want.

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But your own character is under your control. Your own character is of your choice.

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You're the full author of your character, but you have no control over your reputation.

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Give me examples, the best man in the history of mankind. Let's go back and check his reputation amongst his own community. What did they say about him?

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They said my genome

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is crazy cuz Elia

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poet's shine. He made up the Quran

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was the Prophet sallallahu Sallam so key to stop on the people are saying, in fact, they changed his name from Muhammad to them. And he could care less about that.

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In fact, when he was sitting with the Sahaba, one day, he said to the Sahaba, Allah

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Subhana

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Allah,

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Mohammed,

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he said, shall I explain to you how those idiots of Christ, they tried to swear and curse, and try to destroy and ruin my reputation. They call me.

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The one who's not to be praised. It's the opposite.

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So they're calling they're talking about someone else.

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But I am Mohammed, I'm the one who's worthy of thanking for the rest of the life, because I brought light into the life.

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So again, people today, they focus so much, and they invest so much on reputation and personality, you know, what, even at the university

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what I used to teach the world class, a scald, let's enhance your personality for you. Let's enhance your smile, let's whiten your teeth for you. So you look good in front of people. That's, that's valueless. That's of no value.

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We need to take control of our own character. That's what matters with Allah subhanho wa Taala.

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And the problem is today also one of the misconceptions that we have when we mix our goals with our means. That's a recipe for disaster.

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What does that mean?

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The hook but today is about good character. We should all invest in good character. But the question is, is good character, a goal? Can anyone amongst the audience say I am a good person?

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I made it. I have all the good qualities No. good character is a process. It's a means

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it's an

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ongoing process. You will always develop yourself until the day you will meet with Allah. because nobody's perfect.

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But we need to do that. We need to exert the effort to develop our character and take control of our character because our character is our own making.

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Let me just explain what does that mean to you?

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When people mixed goals with means, as I said, it's a recipe for disaster is building a Masjid a goal or a means?

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Some people think that building a massive is a goal. No.

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This is why once they build the message like

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this is gonna bring everybody to the machine. This is gonna indicate our community will have no issues with divorce will have no issues with our young people becoming boyfriends and girlfriends at the university will have no problems of our kids leaving our homes will have no problems of our kids being atheists today. We build them as you

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know, the message is a means to bring people and educate them.

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It's

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a goal in itself. No sulla is a means to make you more purified. Because the Prophet Sallam said, if you have a river in front of your own house, and you take a shower and that river five times a day, would that leave any dirt in your body? No. He said exactly the five salon will purify you if you really understand salah and if you really connect with Allah and Salah is not just physical movements you go up and down

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is

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a goal in itself. No, that guy is a means to eliminate poverty in the community.

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So we have to wake up and understand the difference between

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goals and means so good character is a process. We spend all of our life trying to develop a good character. So what's the character and what are the components of a good character? I can only cover the first question and inshallah enough follow on hook buncha Allah. I will focus on the components of good character, so we can learn more about this topic, and I will explain inshallah, what's the meaning of character in the second foot Bakula? Probably had that was stuck for a lot

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Alhamdulillah

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wa Salatu was Salam and Allah. Allah Deena Stouffer.

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Why Shadwell. illa Allahu la sharika wa shadow Namo Hamada, Navajo rasa Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.

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What's character?

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They say character is the set of words, actions and habits that we display.

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Let me repeat this again. It's the set of words, actions and habits that we display. This is why they say Watch out your thoughts. Because your thoughts become your words.

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Watch out your words, because your words will become your actions. Watch out your actions, because your actions will become your habits. Watch out your habits because your habits will formulate your character and your character decides your destiny with Allah. Let me repeat this again.

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What's character?

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It all starts with thinking.

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So you might say, What do you mean by watch? My thoughts.

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I entertain 10s and hundreds of false at the same time. Even though I'm sitting in the corner. I'm looking at you. In the background. I'm thinking about so many things. And I'm not saying control your thoughts. We cannot control our thoughts. We think about so many things. But we choose

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one thought and we dwell on that thought. And we take it

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and then we start talking about it. And then we start acting upon it.

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You think about something bad or you think about something good. You think about dhikr of Allah subhana wa Tada. Then what's next you're gonna talk about Allah subhanho wa Taala you're gonna read the Quran, you're gonna pray, you're gonna remind people of Allah subhanho wa Taala and then it becomes your action, then it becomes your habit. You're always remembering Allah,

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Allah

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and then it will become your character, your attacker of Allah.

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You always think of good people, you give people the benefit of doubt. So you develop that thought, then you start talking about that. Yeah, he might have done this. Because of this. She might have said that because she means that you will always take the positive attitude, then you become insane hasn't been

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yet you could be the opposite person.

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You're always talking bad. You're always thinking evil. You're always thinking bad of people. Then you start talking about this. And you start acting upon this, it will become your words will become your actions, then it becomes your habit, then it will be part of your character.

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So we are the authors of our own characters. If you want patience, you need to develop the character of patience. If you want liquor of Allah, you need to develop that character of dhikr of Allah. You need to get rid of all of the bad characters and you need to work on having good characters. So again, we have to watch our thoughts meaning, we need to

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choose the thoughts that we will dwell on.

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Because once we dwell in one thought, it's gonna become your worst, you're gonna talk about it. When people love their children, we're gonna be talking about their children all the time and their actions, they will buy everything for their children. And it becomes one of the characters they are known for that if somebody is angry all the time, it will become one of the collector, because they always think that way, and they will talk that way and they will act that way and it will become their habit and will become the collector. But if somebody is patient, you know, once they hear something, they will take it to their brains first, and then we'll think about it if it does make

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sense or not. This is why when the people talked about I shall have your maharana inhabitat Elif What did the prophet SAW Selim, you know, explain to the Muslims when the ayat came, Allah subhanaw taala said is the lactone o bL cinetic.

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You received the slander of Ayesha with your tones? Don't you have a mind just to take it to your mind think first if it makes sense or rot?

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So Allah gave us two ears, and one tongue to listen twice as much as we speak. So we ask Allah subhanho wa Taala to guide us to good character, a llama la de la

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