Rania Awaad – The Prophetic Way of Dealing with Hardship

Rania Awaad
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The speaker discusses the difficulty of understanding people and their emotions during difficult situations. They also talk about the Prophet's message about staying in thought for a little bit longer and the importance of not turning back. The speaker emphasizes the need for people to be self-sufficient and not feel like they need to do things on their own.
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When we talk about difficulty, people think, well

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how is ease with difficulty?

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Because it's not after difficulty comes ease, it's

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literally what?

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Ma'a.

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It's with.

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Literally tucked into the difficulty is your ease.

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But sometimes you can't see it right away.

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And sometimes that ease isn't the thing itself,

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but rather circumstances around it.

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People, individuals, resources.

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Just the ability to deal with something heavy

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emotionally.

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All of these are forms of yusra.

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Right?

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And so look at the Prophet ﷺ in

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this year of prolonged sadness and difficulty.

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What happens after the death of the uncle

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and in the backdrop of this economic boycott,

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the Prophet ﷺ says, well, I have distant

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family that's in Ta'if.

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I no longer have protection of Quraish.

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And they're not going to be listening to

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me.

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The people that are, you know, the important

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people of Quraish are no longer listening to

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me.

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So why don't I try another set of

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distant family members and another tribe altogether?

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Maybe they'll listen.

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So he literally walks.

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And here you have the Prophet ﷺ head

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over there and he starts his da'wah.

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He starts to call people to Islam.

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He's got very specific, the heads of the

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tribe that he wants to reach one by

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one.

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And he goes to them one by one.

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You know what they say to him?

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One person says to him, what?

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Your Allah couldn't find someone better than you

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to send us?

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Someone else says, if you really are the

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Prophet, then I'll be cursed.

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Right?

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The next person says, don't even try to

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talk to me.

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Basically, each one of them kicks him out.

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Each one of them in turn kicks him

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out.

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And so he decides, despite all of this

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pain, right?

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Of people being very humiliating him.

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He decides to stay in thought for a

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little bit longer.

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Why?

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He says, well, let me give the da

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'wah to the common people.

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Right?

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Their leaders don't want to listen.

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Maybe the commoners will listen.

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And then they started to actually be interested

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in what is this message of Islam?

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Do you know what happens next?

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The leaders get wind of the fact that

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the people are getting interested in Islam.

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So what do they do?

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They literally drive him out of thought.

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And they literally pick up stones and pelt

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him with this so much so that literally

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he starts to bleed.

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It said that his heels were so *

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from this incident of so many stones hitting

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him that his foot is sticking into his

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sandal because of the blood.

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And you know, when you're when you're targeted

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like this, you're so humiliated like this.

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He said, I lost track of where I

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was.

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Can you imagine?

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You're being driven out and being pelted and

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pelted with stones and you're bleeding and you're

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kind of a little bit confused where you

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are.

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He said, I did not even know where

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I was until he got to a specific

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orchard.

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SubhanAllah, where is the yusra tucked into the

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usr here?

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He's sitting in an orchard and the orchard

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belongs to people who are technically enemies, right?

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But he's sitting there and the people see

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him and he's bleeding.

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And so they said they sent their servant

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to him and they said, give him some

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grapes from the orchard.

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I never told you orchards, right?

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So when he's offered these grapes, he says,

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bismillah.

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And the servant who listens to this, he

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says, who taught you to say this?

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And he says, I'm a prophet of God.

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I'm taught this the way Allah has taught

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the prophets.

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And so he says, the servant says, I

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haven't heard anyone in these words.

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And he said, I too, I'm a descendant

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of Sayyidina Yunus and I'm a prophet just

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like the prophet Yunus and we are both

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given a message from the same God.

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Do you know that that servant right there

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took his shahada and became a Muslim?

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People don't know some of the little finer

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details, but that was, he hoped for Ta

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'if to become Muslim, but he had this

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one person and he said with this one

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person, it was the weight of that entire

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current city.

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And you think about had that whole city

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been annihilated, there wouldn't have been those believers

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today.

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But let's go back to our story.

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Here's the prophet.

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He's had what?

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Multiple losses, one after another.

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Why do I share this?

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Because when you think about the discussion on

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mental health and you think about person's well

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-being and mental wellness, we turn first to

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the prophet.

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What is it that we don't see?

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We don't see somebody turning after some difficulty,

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turning against Allah.

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We don't see somebody saying, why me?

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We don't see somebody saying, I can do

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this completely on my own.

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That last point is very important.

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And he had his community and he went

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and tried to seek out support from the

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leaders who wouldn't listen to him, but he

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was trying because he knew that you don't

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do this alone.

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See, today we have a little bit of

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a trouble with this.

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A lot of us believe that we can

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do things completely on our own.

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We think that we need to be self

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-sufficient.

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We need to be able to wipe away

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our own tears.

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And in fact, we maybe shouldn't even have

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tears in the first place.

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And that's just simply not the message of

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our prophet or the prophets of the Quran.

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