Rania Awaad – Emotional Blocks & Learning To Let Your Guard Down Through GodS Divine Names

Rania Awaad
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Beth talks about her experiences with a book she received and how it has been a gift from centers. She also discusses various ways people can be affected by her name, including physical], [In this segment of a conversation, the speaker discusses various aspects of Islam, including forgiveness, love, and provision. They also talk about the negative impact of shifa on people's health and the potential for a "lock on" of the Prophet's name. The speaker encourages people to take back their favorite names and use them.
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Mashallah, salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

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So wonderful to have all of you here.

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Mashallah, I didn't think we were going to

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have another Friday night in person.

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And then, mashallah, we learned Ustadh Jinnan was

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going to be with us in California.

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So we said we must meet in person,

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inshallah ta'ala.

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I'm so excited.

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What an incredible honor for all of us.

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Tabarakallah, because as all of you who have

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been following the Friday Night Halkas know, this

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entire year, the theme of our halka has

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been based on Ustadh Jinnan's book, which is

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called Reflecting on the Names of Allah.

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It's the book I've been carrying with me

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every Friday night, mashallah.

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And she's here herself in person.

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I can't believe it's final.

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We had no idea that this would necessarily

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happen.

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And so we're very, very honored and pleased,

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inshallah, my section today will be short, so

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that you could have time to hear her

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directly.

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Bismillah ar-Rahman ar-Rahim, wa sallallahu ala

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sayyidina Muhammad wa ala alihi wa sahbihi wa

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sallim ajma'in.

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Before I begin, though, I just wanted to

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say about the book.

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Some of you have noticed that I always

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had my little bow on the book.

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It's actually a gift from Ustadh Jinnan, and

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I just kept the book.

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It came with this beautiful box with the

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bow, and I just kept it on, mashallah.

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And I showed it to her today, which

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is so fun, because subhanallah, she's coming from

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all the way across the world, from the

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Emirates, tabarakallah.

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And it's really wonderful that she's here with

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us, alhamdulillah.

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Tabarakallah.

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Also really wonderful to have Ustadh Shamira and

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Ustadh Hussai here.

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As you know, when I'm traveling, they often

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are the ones teaching actually the book, when

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I'm somewhere across the world, alhamdulillah.

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So very excited to have all the group

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that's been teaching this book.

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And then of course, the author herself, tabarakallah.

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May Allah bless you and increase you, alhamdulillah.

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And we couldn't do any of this without

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Ustadh Fadwa, so many thanks to her as

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well, alhamdulillah.

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With that, my dear sisters, today, the topic

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that I was assigned is related to so

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much of what you've already heard from Ustadh

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Shamira and Ustadh Hussai, which is on emotional

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blocks.

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And for me, I'm talking about emotional blocks,

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specifically in accessing the names of Allah Azawajal.

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I should say they were talking about the

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names of Allah Azawajal, and I'm going to

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talk on the emotional blocks of accessing the

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names of Allah Azawajal.

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And so often, I meet sisters, and I'll

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say, and you may have heard this in

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my before, I'll say, how is your connection

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with Allah Azawajal?

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And so many times people feel, the answer

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is they feel very distant.

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They don't feel very connected necessarily.

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They'll say, I pray.

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I fast.

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I give my zakah or charity.

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You know, I do this and I do

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this.

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I eat halal and I wear my hijab,

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you know, like kind of the basic blueprint

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of what a Muslim does.

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But in terms of a direct connection with

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Allah Azawajal, where you feel like you're very

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much connected, where you're actually talking to Allah,

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many people feel that that is something a

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little bit distant to them.

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I shared with some of you that in

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January, a group of people, myself, went to

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Umrah.

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And on the Umrah trip, so many people

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had with them, not just us, but really

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everybody there, had these little dua books.

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And the little dua books are helpful.

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In fact, I myself found myself very attached

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to my dua book.

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Like I wanted to read everything in the

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dua book, every single page as we were

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going around the Ka'bah.

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And then there's the sections where it says,

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you know, when you're here, say this.

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And when you're here, say this.

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You guys know what I'm talking about?

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Yeah.

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When you're here, say this.

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And then I realized, wait a second.

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So often my advice to so many sisters

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and myself is that you have to actually

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talk directly from your heart to Allah Azawajal.

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The words that are written in books, and

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we're going to go through some of my

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favorite duas today, calling Allah Subh'anaHu Wa

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Ta-A'la by his different names.

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Beautiful.

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And they must be used.

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But there also is a time and space

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to talk directly to Allah Azawajal.

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Does anyone remember what I call this kind

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of dua?

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Yes, who said it?

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I said, somebody's going to remember.

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I haven't heard anyone else call it this,

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but I hope many people start using this.

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You know, I always say to people, part

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of really getting over that emotional block and

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talking directly to Allah Azawajal is being able

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to freestyle your dua.

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You following me?

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What freestyle means?

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Just you saying it directly.

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It's unscripted.

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It's not written anywhere.

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You're not reading it from anything.

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You're literally talking to Allah directly.

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And whatever comes from your heart flows.

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And many people feel that Allah Azawajal is

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so magnanimous.

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It's like, how do I even begin talking

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to him?

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I would have trouble talking to somebody who

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is like, you know, the big CEO of

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a company or the big boss of something

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or, you know, an elder, elder, very important

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elder of a family or community or a

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big, big, you know, scholar or something.

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And so I'm anxious even to talking to

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that person.

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And I guess stumble, I don't know what

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to say exactly.

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Well, how do I talk to Allah, the

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creator of all these people?

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SubhanAllah.

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Right.

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However, Allah Azawajal, as we know, and we've

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studied in the names in this last year

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now, we realize that he actually wants us

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to call upon his names and the Prophet

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Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam and the prophets in the

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Quran and also the woman of the Quran

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are often calling Allah Azawajal usually by a

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specific name.

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Does anyone remember from our class?

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Think of some of the duas that you

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know from the prophets and from the great

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people.

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What is it?

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Yes.

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It starts with Rabbi, my Lord, my Lord.

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And then they'll say the dua very often.

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And then there are also times in which

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different names of Allah Azawajal show up in

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these adhariya.

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Now, what I want to do together with

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you today, inshallah, is really talk about a

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few different types of blocks that people have,

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emotional blocks, psychological blocks that we get stuck

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on and look at some of the names,

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some of which we've already done together, but

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it's always good to review and think about

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what are those names that you call Allah

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Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la with?

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Because if you hope to freestyle your dua

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and be really proficient at this, then you

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have to think about what are the various

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names.

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There are so many and more than just

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99.

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So let's start with one that many people

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feel that they're often stuck at.

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We start so many things with Ar-Rahman,

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Ar-Rahim, right?

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Including our Basmala, right?

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Bismillah, Ar-Rahman, Ar-Rahim.

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One of the things that we talked about

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for the word Rahim, if you remember as

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a review, is that whenever you're struggling with

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something, there's a habit that you're trying to

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break.

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I'll give you an example.

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It's summertime.

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What time is Fajr?

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The fact that everyone is giggling is telling,

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inshallah.

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No, I'm very serious.

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I said this last week too.

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I don't know about you.

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Yes, inshallah.

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I don't know about you, but in my

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household, it's summertime.

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And so, you know, it's like the schedule

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is very hard to keep in the summertime

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the way we have it regimented during the

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year.

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So before you know it, it's literally 11

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p.m., midnight.

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Oh my goodness.

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And by the time you realize and put

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your head down to sleep, it's only a

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few hours and suddenly it's Fajr.

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And the struggle of getting up and getting

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everybody else up for Fajr.

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But subhanAllah, it's a real struggle.

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So if you have a habit that's developed

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this summer of not catching your Fajr on

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time, then call Allah by his name, Ar

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-Rahim.

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And maybe it's some other struggle.

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Maybe it's some other issue that you're dealing

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with.

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Call Allah by the names that you call,

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that they're meant to be called when you're

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struggling with something, right?

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We learn, رَبَّنَا آمَنَّا فَغْفِرْ لَنَا وَارْحَمْنَا وَأَنتَ

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خَيْرُ الرَّاحِمِينَ Feel free to take pictures of

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this, to have this.

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We're recording this, inshallah ta'ala.

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But there's so many du'as that are

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beautiful that capture the different names of Allah.

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This is one that we're taught, because it

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comes directly in the Qur'an.

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Oh our Lord, we have believed, so forgive

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us.

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Have mercy on us.

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You are the best of those who are

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merciful.

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When you call Allah by his names, it

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doesn't matter how sinful you feel.

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It doesn't matter how many times you feel

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like you've messed up and you have this

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issue that just does not seem to be

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getting better.

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He's capable of changing everything and anything.

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One time I shared with you a woman's

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conference that I had been attending for many

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years in a row.

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And every time I share about du'a,

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I feel like compelled to tell the story

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because it's so incredible, inshallah.

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And this woman's conference, local, inshallah, for years

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and years and years, year after year after

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year after year.

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And there's a sister that I would meet

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year after year after year after year.

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And her story was always very similar.

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It was always pretty much the same thing.

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Please, Dr. Hadi, make du'a for me.

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I'm trying to raise my children Muslim and

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to pray, but I don't have any support

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from my husband.

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He doesn't pray and he's not interested in

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trying.

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And on top of it all, it seemed

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like every year was getting worse and worse.

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He was kind of spiraling into difficult habits.

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And in this case, it was literally alcoholism.

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And she said to me, how do you

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convince children to pray and to keep up

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that fard that Allah has asked us to

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when there's literally not just someone not praying,

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but openly sinning in front of us?

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Hard.

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It was very hard.

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You could see the struggle, the struggle.

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And I kept giving her advice and saying

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the thing I would hear my teacher say

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very often, never, ever, ever downplay the power

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of du'a.

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Do everything you possibly can.

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And we go through things.

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One, two, three.

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These are things you can do.

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But never downplay the power of du'a

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when you think you've tried everything you can

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possibly try.

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Then one year in one of the conferences,

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a sister came up and she said, Dr.

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Rania, yeah.

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As-salamu alaykum.

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And you don't recognize me?

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And I do this very often.

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I'm like, and she's like, I'm so-and

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-so.

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And I'm like, so-and-so?

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I truly, truly could not recognize her.

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It's as though someone, I don't know, Rania.

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She didn't do any cosmetic surgery or anything

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like that.

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But it was like her face was completely

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different.

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And she said, oh, I have to tell

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you, I need du'a.

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And I thought I'm going to hear the

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same story that I've been hearing for many

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years.

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And she said, but this time it had

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to do with her daughter.

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And I said, khair.

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And she said, she got in a terrible

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car wreck.

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Oh, subhanAllah.

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And she said, oh, no, no, no.

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She's okay now.

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I said, okay, alhamdulillah.

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But you have to understand that is a

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good thing.

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And I said, how could a car wreck

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possibly be a good thing?

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And then she said, when that happened, the

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person who had hit her was a drunk

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driver.

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And for whatever reason, it snapped.

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Her husband, who'd been in this alcoholic stupor

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for so long, snapped him out of it.

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And when you know somebody who's been drinking

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for a long time, you can't just sort

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of cold turkey very easily.

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You cannot.

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SubhanAllah, it takes time.

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But this man, cold turkey.

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And then she points over there where the

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message was.

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And she goes, he's there.

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And I was like, he's there?

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This man who like refused to pray, who

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refused to refuse like everything.

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And we would say counseling, refused counseling.

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Imam, talk to an imam, refused imam.

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Wouldn't even step foot in the masjid, was

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literally in the muslimah.

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And she said, he cold turkey, stopped the

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alcohol, got clean, got better, started praying.

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And he was now fully involved in this

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family.

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After years and years and years and years

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of her complaints.

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And she said, you always said the power

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of dua.

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And I thought, la ilaha illallah.

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I mean, not always do you hear the

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full ending of a story necessarily.

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But this was amazing.

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Truly amazing.

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And something you don't necessarily always expect to

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hear.

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And so even when you feel like a

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person, you're going to give up on them,

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don't.

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Because Allah doesn't give up on us.

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Even if you've given up on yourself about

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something, don't.

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Because has not given up on you.

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Right?

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And even if you feel like your sins

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are mountains, there is nothing mountainous to Allah.

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Do you see what I'm saying?

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Calling him by his names, helps remove these

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blocks that we sometimes impose onto ourselves that

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he hasn't imposed onto us.

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He didn't put that.

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We put it on ourselves.

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Right?

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Another one.

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The next one, I want to tell you

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is Al-Mujib, the one who responds.

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So often when I talk with sisters, I'll

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say that they're talking to me about something.

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My field is mental health and counseling.

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So we're talking about something.

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And I'll say, have you thought about that

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Allah is listening to what you're saying?

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He's listening to your cries and he sees

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your tears.

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No, I don't know.

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Like it's almost like it's a, I don't

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want to say fairy tale, but it's almost

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like it feels really distant that the person

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doesn't feel that it's really, that Allah is

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really listening.

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Or they'll say, I've made this dua for

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so long.

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If he was listening, he would have already

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by now answered me.

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How come my duas don't get answered?

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You have to remember that Allah is Al

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-Mujib and he has his own way of

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answering the duas.

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Look at the story of this sister.

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You know what she said to me?

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She said, I'm making dua that my husband

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would finally come back to Islam and stop

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the sin that he was doing.

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I didn't expect that the Al-Mujib, the

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one who responds, would respond with a wreck,

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car wreck for my daughter.

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She didn't expect that was going to be

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the circle of response.

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Do you see what I'm saying?

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But Allah chooses to do things the way

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he chooses.

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Do you see what I'm saying?

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It's on us to believe in the first

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session, to understand who he is, that he

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can and will, but in his time and

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in his way.

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SubhanAllah.

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And so we say, and the Hadith of

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the Prophet is beautiful.

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Allah is conscientious and generous, and he is

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shy to return the outstretched hands of his

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servant empty and disappointed.

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So keep on stretching out your hands, keep

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on calling, keep on asking Allah.

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And as he wishes and when we he

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wishes, it'll come to pass.

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The next one, Al-Wali.

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The Wali is a protecting friend.

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Now, many of us have friends of different

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stripes.

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Some from childhood, some in adulthood, some who

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are family and some who feel like family

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because they've been around for so long in

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our life.

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Allah too can and should be a Wali

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to us.

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A protecting friend.

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In Surah Al-A'raf, the verse says,

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You are our protector, so forgive us, have

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mercy upon us.

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You are the best of those who forgive.

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Look, humans can forgive you.

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You mess up, you say something out of

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line, you do an eye roll, something happens,

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and then you realize that you're wrong and

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you go and you ask that person forgiveness,

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you say, I'm sorry.

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They may accept or they may say, nope.

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You should have known better.

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That was rude.

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But Allah is literally there to forgive always

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anyone who reaches out with forgiveness.

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And it is on us to understand that

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we do not put our human limitations onto

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him.

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We as humans, there are things, there are

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people in my life today, I could tell

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you, there are certain circumstances and people that

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have said things or done things, where even

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till now when I think about them, there's

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a little bit of a rub, like a

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little bit of a, you know, hush Allah,

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could it hurt?

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It hurt.

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It did, I'm a human, it hurt.

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And you work on it, you work on

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it, you work on it.

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But you don't put that human limitation onto

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Allah.

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It doesn't hurt him to forgive you.

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He doesn't think twice and he doesn't need

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full, long, lengthy explanations from you.

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Literally, you say, Allahumma ghafirli.

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And it is on us in our aqidah

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to believe that that is real and true.

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Sometimes people truly believe that they are not

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worthy, they're not good enough, they're not worthy

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of forgiveness, but why?

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That is simply not accurate creed, proper aqidah.

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And so we ask Allah to be our

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protecting friend.

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Ya Allah, I'm traveling.

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Ya Allah, I'm going alone.

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I'm heading out to do this thing.

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I'm embarking on this new journey.

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I'm having, you know, this isn't first time

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to do something.

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Ya Allah, please protect me and be my

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protecting friend, literally my wali, the one who

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looks out for me.

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And also we pray that people in our

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life be upright and upstanding as well, subhanAllah.

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Another emotional block that I see many people

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have, subhanAllah, is rizq, sustenance.

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What Allah has written for us.

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Usada Hussain, in her session, was mentioning how

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this, in this world that we currently live

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in, there's so much of this, I shouldn't

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use the term, but I'll use keeping up

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with the Joneses, right?

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You're constantly comparing yourself, and she talked at

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great length about social media, looking into the

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lives of other people, because literally it's right

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there, scrolling in front of you, right?

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Right in front of you.

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Their marriages and their food and their dress

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and their clothes and their renovations and their

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vacations, all kinds of stuff, literally like an

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open book in front of you.

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And it is hard not to compare yourself.

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But subhanAllah, when we talk about ar-razaq,

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one who provides, you realize, subhanAllah, when you

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are struggling to make ends meet, or maybe

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it's not necessarily in dollars and cents, but

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maybe it's in other ways.

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Maybe you're at rizq, you have the money

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in the pocket, but the people in your

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life are not trustworthy.

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They don't show up for you, right?

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Maybe there's a lot of tensions and issues.

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Maybe you're at rizq, the issue isn't wealth,

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but it's in people.

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For other people, they have good people in

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their life, but they can't make the rent.

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Everyone has their own struggles, right?

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Ar-razaq gives of all things.

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He gives the wealth, the dollars, but he

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also gives the people in one's life.

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He gives friends.

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I was talking to somebody literally just this

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morning, and they said to me, I don't

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have friends.

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I'm very lonely.

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That is a form of rizq that one

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should ask for, and literally stretch out your

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hands and ask for this.

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That Allah put, even sometimes, even just one

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good friend sometimes is better than 10 people

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who don't really show up for you.

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Do you know what I mean?

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But that's a form of rizq.

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It's a form of sustenance and provision.

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So when you're struggling, you ask Allah, Allahumma

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inni as'aluka ilman naafi'an wa rizqan

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tayyiban wa amalan mutaqabbalan.

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Right?

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Oh Allah, I ask you for beneficial knowledge

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and wholesome sustenance and deeds which are accepted.

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A beautiful dua.

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Add it to your list if you haven't

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already.

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And if you forget these words or can't

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find your slides or your pictures one day

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as you're trying to, what was that dua?

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Understand the essence of it and just freestyle

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it.

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Do you see?

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Just freestyle it.

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There is something about provision.

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Let me ask Allah, the provider, for this.

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All right, next.

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Salaam.

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In this world and in the time that

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we're living in, subhanAllah, with very little peace

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anywhere, subhanAllah, calling upon the source of peace,

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as-salaam, is very important.

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When I was in Syria, our teachers took

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this dua to heart and literally after every

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single prayer, they would say this dua.

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Every single prayer.

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And so now after every single prayer that

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I finish, I say it too.

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It's become a habit.

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And it's a beautiful dua.

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Allahumma anta as-salaam wa minka as-salaam.

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Tabarakta yaadhal jalali wal-ikram.

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Oh Allah, you are peace and peace comes

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from you.

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Blessed are you, oh possessor of glory and

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honor.

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Call out to salaam.

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You feel that the world is topsy-turvy.

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You feel that there's no peace in your

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life or in the globe, in the world.

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Call out to as-salaam.

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Because even if peace isn't going to come

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immediately, and we do pray for this, ya

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Rabbi, we do pray for this.

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Ask Allah to put peace in your heart,

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in your family, in your home, right?

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In yourself.

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Some of the emotional blocks that I feel

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that I've seen in counseling and kind of

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talking with our sisters often is a lack

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of peace.

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It's a lot of turbulence.

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Interpersonal dynamics and relationships, whether it's husband and

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wife, whether it's in-laws and family, whether

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it's children and parents, whether it's the grandparents

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on up or the elders, whether it's co

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-workers, whether it's neighbors, there's always people.

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And that's how Allah created us.

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He created us not to live by ourselves

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in little bubbles.

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He created us with people around us.

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And that means there's always going to be

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some level of turbulence.

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So ask for salaam.

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So ask for salaam.

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There's a story one of my teachers would

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tell, and it's actually a story that she

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took.

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She told us she took it from the

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book by Scott M.

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Peck, where he was talking about the road

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less traveled and was talking about a very

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interesting story.

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I don't know if it's a true story,

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but a very interesting story.

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And it was a story about a new

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wife and her mother-in-law and this

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tension that happens every so often, right?

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Where now the husband finds himself in the

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middle because there's a new person in his

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life and wants to give his attention and

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love to her.

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But also there was a mother who also

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sometimes is vying for this attention and love

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as well.

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And so immediately there's a clash between the

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mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law.

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And so in the book, the story goes

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that she runs to an herbalist and she

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says to him, give me some sort of

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concoction that I can little by little by

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little by little put in her tea so

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that she disappears from my life and that

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nobody would know.

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He says, are you sure my daughter?

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Are you sure you want to do this?

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Are you sure?

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And she says, yes, I'm sure.

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He says, okay.

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So he prepares, he goes back and he

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prepares all this stuff and comes back with

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a little concoction.

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He says, listen, people are going to suspect

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you.

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The first one they're going to suspect is

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you.

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So when you put this drop in her

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tea every day, you have to also be

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very kind and very nice and go out

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of your way to really like win her

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over so that nobody suspects you.

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Okay, okay.

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She runs off with the concoction.

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And sure enough, over the span of the

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next few weeks, she does this.

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She puts a little, and she's so nice

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and she's so kind.

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And then the mother-in-law starts to

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shift.

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And she too is like, oh, well, you're

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really nice.

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You're different than when I first met you.

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And so she starts being nice back and

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they start having a pretty good relationship.

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So the girl panics and she runs back

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to the herbalist and she says, I got

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to give me the antidote.

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Give me the opposite.

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Give me the opposite.

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I'm going to kill her and I don't

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mean to kill her.

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She's actually very nice.

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And so he smiles and he says, I

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never gave you anything in the first place.

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It was just nothing.

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It was actually your good actions towards her

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that caused her to have good kindness towards

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you.

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And this is where the relationship changed.

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Now, some of you are like, that's not

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my mother-in-law.

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Just saying.

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But in reality, even the harshest personality, even

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the most difficult person, even the person who

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truly gives you a hard time can be

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won over.

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And if you can't win them over, know

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that you've done your duty in the eyes

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of Allah subhana wa ta'ala.

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Because if they don't want to change, that's

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on them.

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But you have done what you can in

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front of God.

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Does that make sense?

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So some of you may like the story.

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Some of you may not.

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But looking for peace and asking for peace

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in all of your relationships is a beautiful

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and wonderful thing.

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And also both things.

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Now, a couple more.

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Another one that goes with something I said

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earlier about sin and people feeling very often

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like they have these mountains of sin is

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to say, for example, to call upon Allah's

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name as satir.

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Now, the one who is the concealer of

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sins, and sometimes it's not even your heavy

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sins, like the fact like missing fajr or

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not doing something that you're supposed to be

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doing.

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But rather, it could even just be somebody

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coming up to me like, oh, mashallah, you're

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so this and this so great, and this

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is so wonderful.

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And they're praising you.

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They're praising you.

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They're praising you.

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As soon as that praise comes to you,

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I know many of us go mashallah, mashallah,

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mashallah.

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Please say mashallah.

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Please say mashallah.

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And so maybe you're embarrassed to say that.

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But even if you can't get yourself to

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say anything, as soon as this happens, go

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back and call Allah by his name as

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satir.

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Why?

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Because you're asking literally to conceal your sins.

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Alhamdulillah, you should feel gratefulness that Allah has

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allowed people to see you in a state

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that is good.

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When in reality, we all know we all

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have demons inside of us.

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The reality is, right?

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And had they seen everything, they probably would

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have gone running.

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Subhanallah.

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But Allah only allowed them to see this

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good.

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So ask Allah to protect and conceal your

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faults from others.

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Right?

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So yes, inshallah, they say mashallah.

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But even if they don't, ask Allah to

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protect you and conceal your sins.

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My favorite.

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Everyone has a favorite name of Allah Azawajal.

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And sometimes this has to do with their

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own discipline or study or something that really

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speaks to them.

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Find your name.

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After some period of time, I think I

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have many, many favorite names, but after some

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time, I realized it's a Shafi.

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And part of it is because I find

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myself calling upon this name so often.

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Maybe it's my line of work.

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My line of work is a healing profession.

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And this is what I pray.

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And I literally pray for my patients, like

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literally, like, please, Ya Rabbi, allow me to

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be a vehicle of shifa for them and

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allow Ya Rabbi that shifa comes on my

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hands to them.

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It is amazing to know that you can

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have somebody who can be so ill, whether

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physical illness or mental illness or any other

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form of illness, and a Shafi can, in

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his ability and might, treat and cure if

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he wishes.

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And if he doesn't, then you know that

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this is also a source of forgiveness for

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them.

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It's an expiation of their sins.

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Subhanallah.

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And so part of this is to always

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ask Allah and to realize that even when

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you go to doctors and even when you

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take medicine and even when you do all

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these herbal concoction and remedies and all these

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great things that people are doing and that

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you exercise and you get all the vitamin

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D that you need and all the rest

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of it, ultimately, it's a Shafi who gives

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you healing.

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Because explain to me why you have two

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people, one who, siblings even, same genetics, okay?

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Same genes, just about.

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And one ends up with cancer and one

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doesn't.

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And yet they both exercise and they both

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are healthy and they both do this.

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It's Qadr at the end of the day.

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May Allah protect all of us.

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Ameen, Ya Rabb.

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Call by a Shafi.

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And we have seen people's illnesses completely overturned

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or at least go under control.

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And so pray.

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Pray.

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Allahumma Rabb al-Nas.

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Idh hab al-baas.

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Ishfi anta al-Shafi.

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La shifa illa shifauk.

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Shifaun la yughadir saqama.

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It is so beautiful to understand the words

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of this.

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Please look at it with me.

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Oh Allah, Lord of the people, remove the

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trouble, heal the patient, for you are the

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healer and there is no healer but you.

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Give him a healing which leaves no disease

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behind.

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Please make this dua for your family members,

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for your children, for yourselves, even if it's

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a little headache or a little ache.

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And please know that the Prophet ﷺ did

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not leave even a headache without doing something

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about it.

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That when he had a headache ﷺ, he

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would take a rag and tie it over

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his blessed head.

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He did something about it.

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He didn't just pray about it.

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So there's a two-path, two-way in

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this, in calling out to Allah's name and

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in doing something.

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And so often one of the blocks I

00:31:08 --> 00:31:11

find in terms of health, emotional blocks that

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I find about people's health, is that either

00:31:14 --> 00:31:15

you have the extreme of, well I prayed

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and if this is my qadr, it's my

00:31:18 --> 00:31:20

qadr and taking no actual measures to get

00:31:20 --> 00:31:23

help, or the other extreme where they're doing

00:31:23 --> 00:31:26

all the medical procedures and all things, maybe

00:31:26 --> 00:31:28

too many things, right, and not actually calling

00:31:28 --> 00:31:29

on Allah's help.

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You find this dichotomy and yet the Muslim

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is a balanced person who does both, right,

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and you see that in the example of

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the Prophet ﷺ.

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And lastly, we ask Allah by his name,

00:31:44 --> 00:31:45

the guide, al-Hadi.

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This too is a block that I find

00:31:47 --> 00:31:52

so often, particularly in the mothers, right, our

00:31:52 --> 00:31:54

halaqa on Friday nights is so many women

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who are mothers, mashaAllah, but so many women

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in general and everyone is welcomed, but so

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many of the women here are mothers of

00:32:01 --> 00:32:02

the daughters who are in the programs on

00:32:02 --> 00:32:04

Friday nights, the rahmah programs.

00:32:05 --> 00:32:08

And so often, I probably, every few weeks

00:32:08 --> 00:32:09

I have a mother who comes up to

00:32:09 --> 00:32:12

me and says, please my kid is going

00:32:12 --> 00:32:14

off the path of Islam, please my kid

00:32:14 --> 00:32:15

is not, you know, please my kid is

00:32:16 --> 00:32:17

following Islam.

00:32:18 --> 00:32:19

I'm worried about their faith, they're leaving the

00:32:19 --> 00:32:21

faith, they're going away from it, something like

00:32:21 --> 00:32:21

this.

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And so I'll say, how have you been,

00:32:27 --> 00:32:29

you know, maybe we'll go through some steps,

00:32:29 --> 00:32:30

but I'll also say, how have you been

00:32:30 --> 00:32:31

making dua to Allah?

00:32:32 --> 00:32:35

And sometimes I get this block, I feel

00:32:35 --> 00:32:37

this block with a person where they're saying,

00:32:37 --> 00:32:39

no, no, no, they're too far gone.

00:32:39 --> 00:32:40

Nobody's too far gone.

00:32:41 --> 00:32:43

Nobody's, but their day, but they're this with

00:32:43 --> 00:32:44

this person, they're doing this and they're doing,

00:32:44 --> 00:32:47

no one is too far gone with Allah.

00:32:48 --> 00:32:51

And then I'll remind them, what did you

00:32:51 --> 00:32:51

do for this child?

00:32:52 --> 00:32:53

I taught them, I swear I taught them

00:32:53 --> 00:32:54

and I taught them to pray and I

00:32:54 --> 00:32:56

gave them Quran and I tried and I

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tried.

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Our teachers say that the lub, the lub,

00:33:02 --> 00:33:05

which is that inner core that you have

00:33:05 --> 00:33:10

given and poured into that child, when they

00:33:10 --> 00:33:14

start to go this way, you must believe

00:33:14 --> 00:33:16

that with your dua to Al Hadi, the

00:33:16 --> 00:33:19

guide, that Allah will guide them back.

00:33:20 --> 00:33:26

Sometimes it's a very roundabout path back, but

00:33:26 --> 00:33:28

even people we have seen, subhanAllah, we have

00:33:28 --> 00:33:30

seen, I've seen some of the most ajib,

00:33:30 --> 00:33:33

literally strangest stories where somebody has become literally

00:33:33 --> 00:33:36

a mother who's poured her heart, there's one

00:33:36 --> 00:33:38

example, poured her heart into these children and

00:33:38 --> 00:33:41

actually was one of the only Muslim families

00:33:41 --> 00:33:43

in that whole, not just city, the whole

00:33:43 --> 00:33:44

state that they were living in.

00:33:44 --> 00:33:46

And this child, all of her children became

00:33:46 --> 00:33:48

hufadh of the Quran from her hifth.

00:33:51 --> 00:33:52

That's at the feet, there wasn't like a

00:33:52 --> 00:33:54

Quran school over here or an imam to

00:33:54 --> 00:33:55

go to, this is her doing this.

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And then when the kid got to high

00:33:57 --> 00:33:59

school, they messed with his brain.

00:34:00 --> 00:34:02

Muslims are this and Muslims are that and

00:34:02 --> 00:34:02

Muslims are other thing.

00:34:03 --> 00:34:05

As soon as he got to college, he

00:34:05 --> 00:34:09

bounced and she was devastated because she was

00:34:09 --> 00:34:10

somebody who had studied Islam and somebody who

00:34:10 --> 00:34:12

was a hafidh of the Quran and gave

00:34:12 --> 00:34:14

her kids Islam and gave her kids the

00:34:14 --> 00:34:16

Quran and how could this happen?

00:34:16 --> 00:34:18

And everybody tried to know, this shaykh talked

00:34:18 --> 00:34:19

to him and this shaykh talked to him

00:34:19 --> 00:34:21

and this shaykh talked to him, not interested.

00:34:22 --> 00:34:24

And we kept telling her, you gave him

00:34:24 --> 00:34:25

so much.

00:34:26 --> 00:34:28

If he veers that way, know that Allah

00:34:28 --> 00:34:30

one day will come back and we don't

00:34:30 --> 00:34:32

know how and where, just keep on making

00:34:32 --> 00:34:32

dua.

00:34:35 --> 00:34:37

The story goes, and I was sort of

00:34:37 --> 00:34:38

involved in this, I got called into the

00:34:38 --> 00:34:40

story too, so I know it very closely.

00:34:40 --> 00:34:42

And it took a very long time, but

00:34:42 --> 00:34:43

I'll end with this story because it's so

00:34:43 --> 00:34:44

powerful, subhanAllah.

00:34:46 --> 00:34:47

SubhanAllah in a way that you don't even

00:34:47 --> 00:34:47

expect.

00:34:48 --> 00:34:49

He started to party and to go off

00:34:49 --> 00:34:51

and it's just so different than someone who

00:34:51 --> 00:34:52

was literally a hafidh of the Quran.

00:34:53 --> 00:34:55

And one day it was Ramadan, he was

00:34:55 --> 00:34:56

not fasting, he's not interested, he's not doing

00:34:56 --> 00:34:58

any of this stuff, but he meets some

00:34:58 --> 00:35:02

other students on campus who are practicing Muslims

00:35:02 --> 00:35:03

and they're fasting and so on.

00:35:04 --> 00:35:06

And so he's just eating with them and

00:35:06 --> 00:35:07

then it's time for them to pray.

00:35:08 --> 00:35:11

And they realize that none of those kids

00:35:11 --> 00:35:13

have any Quran really.

00:35:13 --> 00:35:16

So they start Aisha and he's not interested,

00:35:16 --> 00:35:17

and then they have Tarawih.

00:35:20 --> 00:35:22

And the ruling in the Hanafi school is

00:35:22 --> 00:35:25

you can't read from a mushaf, you have

00:35:25 --> 00:35:27

to recite from memory, from your heart.

00:35:28 --> 00:35:29

They look at each other, they look at

00:35:29 --> 00:35:31

each other, they don't have enough Quran amongst

00:35:31 --> 00:35:31

themselves.

00:35:32 --> 00:35:34

So they say, does anybody here have any

00:35:34 --> 00:35:35

Quran memorized?

00:35:36 --> 00:35:38

And out of nowhere, they don't know anything

00:35:38 --> 00:35:40

about his history.

00:35:41 --> 00:35:43

And so out of nowhere he goes, I'm

00:35:43 --> 00:35:43

a hafidh.

00:35:46 --> 00:35:48

They're like, the party kid is the hafidh?

00:35:48 --> 00:35:51

And they literally push him up.

00:35:51 --> 00:35:52

This is a true story.

00:35:52 --> 00:35:54

I'm making this up, Allah, it's a true

00:35:54 --> 00:35:54

story.

00:35:54 --> 00:35:57

They push him up and he's like, I

00:35:57 --> 00:35:58

haven't prayed in forever.

00:35:58 --> 00:36:00

Go take a shower, come back.

00:36:02 --> 00:36:03

They're in a dorm.

00:36:04 --> 00:36:08

And so literally, he tells the story later,

00:36:09 --> 00:36:10

he says it was like riding a bike.

00:36:11 --> 00:36:12

If you haven't ridden it for a long

00:36:12 --> 00:36:14

time, you feel like you can't get on

00:36:14 --> 00:36:14

it.

00:36:14 --> 00:36:17

But once you start, and suddenly you're soaring.

00:36:18 --> 00:36:21

As soon as he stood up there, he

00:36:21 --> 00:36:23

said the whole mushaf, it came back to

00:36:23 --> 00:36:23

him.

00:36:23 --> 00:36:24

SubhanAllah.

00:36:24 --> 00:36:26

He took his tilba, he made his tilba

00:36:26 --> 00:36:29

and he came back at the hands of

00:36:29 --> 00:36:30

these other kids in college.

00:36:32 --> 00:36:34

Allah guides whom he wills, how he wills,

00:36:34 --> 00:36:35

when he wills.

00:36:36 --> 00:36:38

It is our job to teach and do

00:36:38 --> 00:36:40

our best that we can do and then

00:36:40 --> 00:36:41

keep calling.

00:36:42 --> 00:36:44

Please sisters, don't give up.

00:36:45 --> 00:36:47

Please don't have these blocks and say, I'm

00:36:47 --> 00:36:47

too far gone.

00:36:47 --> 00:36:49

My kids are too far gone.

00:36:49 --> 00:36:50

This is too far away.

00:36:50 --> 00:36:50

I'm not good enough.

00:36:51 --> 00:36:53

None of this is with Allah.

00:36:53 --> 00:36:56

In fact, if anything, and I'll end with

00:36:56 --> 00:36:59

this, he literally says in the Quran, he

00:36:59 --> 00:37:01

teaches us, and Allah's names are the best

00:37:01 --> 00:37:02

names.

00:37:02 --> 00:37:05

So call on him and leave those who

00:37:05 --> 00:37:06

violate the sanctity of his names.

00:37:07 --> 00:37:09

They shall be recompensed for what they did.

00:37:09 --> 00:37:11

Call upon the names of Allah.

00:37:12 --> 00:37:14

And with that, I hope there's some here

00:37:14 --> 00:37:16

inspiration for us to take back some of

00:37:16 --> 00:37:18

these names that you've been hearing today, and

00:37:18 --> 00:37:20

please just freestyle them into your du'as.

00:37:20 --> 00:37:23

Find your favorite names and use them.

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