Omar Suleiman – Why Me #26 How Can I Accept That I am Dying

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The speakers discuss the concept of death and rebirth, including witnessing past mistakes and the importance of forgiveness and staying in a state of contentment to receive blessings. They also touch on the inspection of one's body for disease and the holy eye, with a mention of a book and a person with leprosy in all weapons. The importance of forgiveness and staying in a state of contentment is emphasized.

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			If you were to just find out now
		
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			when exactly you were going to die,
		
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			how would you react?
		
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			Are you alarmed?
		
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			Fearful?
		
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			Angry?
		
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			Reminders of death come to you throughout your
		
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			life.
		
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			The death of your loved ones,
		
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			tragic deaths,
		
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			sudden deaths,
		
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			young deaths.
		
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			We hear the announcements
		
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			and witness the janazos.
		
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			And then you have near death experiences.
		
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			Your hair turning gray,
		
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			all the joy of people coming into the
		
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			world
		
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			only then followed by their seemingly untimely exit.
		
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			And all around us, we constantly witness the
		
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			death and rebirth of nature all the time.
		
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			Wakayim
		
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			min ayatinfisamaawati
		
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			walarliya murun a'alaiha wahumma'anha
		
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			mo'lidun.
		
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			How many signs in the heavens and earth
		
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			do they pass
		
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			while they continue to turn away?
		
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			And then the ultimate sign comes down that
		
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			cannot be ignored.
		
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			You're told that you only have a few
		
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			months to live.
		
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			You've stored so much in your heart,
		
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			and now you await the day
		
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			that its secrets will be divulged.
		
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			A few years ago I had a dream
		
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			where everybody
		
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			knew exactly when they were going to die,
		
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			and the graveyard
		
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			became like an airport.
		
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			Everybody knew that they had to go to
		
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			their grave
		
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			at a set time and they could take
		
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			with them only one suitcase.
		
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			And so in that dream, I'm taking someone
		
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			with me to the graveyard
		
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			and I'm trying to comfort them
		
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			as they're getting ready
		
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			to go to their new destination.
		
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			And I want you to imagine if that
		
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			was the way that we lived our lives.
		
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			Every single one of us had a clock
		
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			and we knew that once that clock expires,
		
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			we get dropped off there
		
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			and we take with us just that one
		
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			suitcase,
		
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			but with our good deeds.
		
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			You have a terminal illness.
		
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			It's not called cancer.
		
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			It's actually called life.
		
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			And in one narration, the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam said, badiru bil aamali saban. Hasten to
		
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			do good deeds before you are overtaken
		
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			by 1 of 7 trials.
		
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			He said fakranmunsiyan
		
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			auhinan
		
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			mutghiyan
		
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			Poverty which causes you to forget your worship
		
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			or prosperity which corrupts
		
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			you. Awmardanmuffsidan
		
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			awharamanmufanidan
		
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			Disease that disables you or becoming senile in
		
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			a way that renders you immensely incapable.
		
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			Then he said, awmautanmujhizan
		
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			Awad dajal,
		
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			or sudden death, or ad dajal.
		
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			And then he finally said, Awisaaatafasa'aato
		
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			adha wa amar,
		
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			or the hour and how tragic and bitter
		
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			is the hour. And the prophet SallAllahu Alaihi
		
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			Wasallam used to seek refuge in Allah from
		
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			sudden death in multiple ways, mawturfuja'a.
		
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			Even though if that's what comes to you,
		
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			it's also good. Just as the case of
		
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			the shahid, the martyr who sees his place
		
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			in paradise no later than the first strike.
		
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			But if Allah has given you a diagnosis
		
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			where you're told that you're on your way
		
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			out,
		
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			or Allah gifts you to start to feel
		
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			like your time is coming
		
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			without anyone in this world even telling you.
		
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			It gives your family a chance to say
		
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			sorry
		
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			or goodbye,
		
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			and it gives you a chance to say
		
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			the same.
		
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			And it gives you all the chance to
		
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			turn back to Allah
		
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			and to beg him for his mercy and
		
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			guidance.
		
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			You have a chance to reflect on all
		
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			the moments when you didn't properly thank him,
		
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			and now you can say Alhamdulillah.
		
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			The blessings you may have taken for granted,
		
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			the sins you haven't yet repented for,
		
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			the good deeds that you can still do
		
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			and the good deeds you've done and hope
		
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			Allah accepts.
		
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			If Allah gave you a long enough life,
		
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			surely there are things in front of you
		
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			that make you proud, even as some things
		
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			in the past continue to make you ashamed.
		
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			Or if what's ahead makes you nervous.
		
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			How merciful is Allah that he gave you
		
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			all those blessings and chances despite your shortcomings.
		
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			Tasabih bihamdi rabbika
		
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			was staghfir.
		
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			So declare the perfection of your Lord
		
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			and seek forgiveness for your own imperfections.
		
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			This was the last command Allah gave to
		
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			the prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam after his unparalleled
		
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			life of good.
		
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			So what then of your last days?
		
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			And when they inspect your body for disease,
		
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			inspect your body instead for its deeds.
		
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			Abu Bakr radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu was narrated to
		
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			have said, When death comes to a man,
		
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			an angel is told
		
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			shummarasahu inspect his head.
		
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			And the angel goes to his head and
		
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			inspects it and says, ajidoo fi rasi hil
		
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			Quran. I find the Quran in his head.
		
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			And then the angels told, inspect his heart.
		
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			So the angel goes and inspects his heart
		
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			and says, ajidoo fiqalbihisliam.
		
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			I find in his heart fasting.
		
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			Then the angels told, now inspect his feet.
		
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			And the angel comes back and says, adidoo
		
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			feeqadamihil
		
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			qiyam,
		
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			I find in his feet standing in qiyaam.
		
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			And so then it is said, hafilanafsahu
		
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			hafilahullah.
		
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			This man protected himself
		
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			so surely Allah will protect him. And you
		
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			hope that Allah finds you grateful as these
		
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			blessings start to flee away.
		
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			Khalafibnu Isma'e rahimahullah
		
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			once spoke about a person who had leprosy
		
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			in all of his limbs and most of
		
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			his body.
		
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			And he said, by your glory, oh Allah,
		
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			if poisonous insects had taken hold of my
		
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			body and you shredded me to pieces like
		
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			torn threads,
		
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			I would only increase by your permission in
		
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			patience.
		
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			And I would only hold by your mercy
		
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			to nothing but contentment,
		
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			nothing but riblah.
		
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			But what about those after me?
		
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			Who's going to take care of them? When
		
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			Umar ibn Abdul Aziz Rahimullah was passing away,
		
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			he had 11 kids with each of them
		
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			inheriting only 19 dirhams each, 19 small coins.
		
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			And so one of his advisors was worried
		
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			and he called him and he said, You
		
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			Amir al mumineen, we've gotta do something about
		
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			your kids.
		
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			And Umar responds and he says,
		
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			imma anyakoonus
		
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			saliheen
		
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			fallahu yatawalas saliheen
		
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			Look, if they are righteous,
		
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			then Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala takes care of
		
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			the righteous.
		
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			And if they're not from the righteous,
		
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			then I don't want to give them what
		
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			they will then use to disobey Allah with.
		
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			And Allah asks me on the day of
		
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			judgment why I assisted them in disobedience.
		
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			Kayfayushriyukuqalbunsuarulaqwani
		
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			How can the heart be illuminated
		
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			while the mere forms of creatures are reflected
		
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			in its mirror?
		
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			How can it journey to Allah while it's
		
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			shackled by its passions?
		
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			How can it desire to enter the presence
		
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			of Allah
		
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			while it has not yet purified itself of
		
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			the stain of forgetfulness?
		
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			How can it understand the subtle secrets in
		
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			front of it while it has not yet
		
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			repented
		
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			of its obvious offenses?
		
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			When Allah sent Adam to the earth, he
		
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			said, faman tabi ahu daya yafa lahawfun alihim
		
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			walahum yazanoon.
		
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			So whoever follows my guidance
		
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			shall not fear nor grieve. Likewise, when the
		
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			angels take your soul from this earth, they
		
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			say to you, if you were righteous,
		
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			allatahafuwala
		
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			tahzanu,
		
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			do not fear and do not grieve.
		
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			The scholars mentioned that do not fear means
		
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			do not fear what is to come, and
		
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			do not grieve means do not grieve over
		
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			what you are leaving behind.
		
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			Death is not only hard on the loved
		
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			ones when they think of who they are
		
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			losing,
		
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			but it's also hard on the one who
		
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			is dying,
		
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			when he thinks of who will take care
		
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			of his loved ones once he's gone.
		
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			You might think about the loneliness of your
		
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			spouse,
		
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			or the finances of your household,
		
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			or you might worry about what is to
		
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			become of those children.
		
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			Rabbanahabilanaminazwajina
		
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			wuthuriatinakurrataaayun
		
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			wajahalna
		
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			lil muttaqina imama.
		
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			Our Lord grant us and our spouses and
		
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			offspring the coolness of our eyes
		
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			and make them leaders of the pious.
		
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			The coolness of your eyes is in seeing
		
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			them in a state of worshiping Allah.
		
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			But whether you have children or not,
		
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			the true coolness of your eyes
		
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			is in what Allah is about to show
		
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			you
		
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			that no eye has ever seen,
		
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			and no imagination has ever grasped.