Omar Suleiman – What advice would the Prophet give to you

			China and bearing witness that none has the right to be worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except
for him. And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is his final messenger, we
ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him, the prophets and messengers that came before
him, his family and companions that served alongside him, and those that follow in his lesson path
until the day of judgment and we ask Allah to make us amongst them Allahumma Amin, two brothers and
sisters, one of the most sensitive subjects when you talk about the rights of a Muslim on another
Muslim is this concept of Nicaea. This concept of advice, sincere advice, and the most sincere
		

			advisor that has ever been sent to us was none other than our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
until now, the sincere advice of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam lives with us, and it
guides us and it pushes us forward. And the example of the Prophet sly Salaam is so clear in every
way, who he was what he represented, what he said, what he expected of us, that you cannot reduce
the Prophet sly some to just a silent symbol. You can't turn the prophets lie Selim into an image
that you merely bring out every once in a while, and you appropriate and turn into all sorts of
different things because who he was sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is so well documented, and the
		

			advice that he gave to us, and the commands that he gave to us are so clear that there is no going
astray except for the one who insists on doing so when it comes to the message and the messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sunnah. So we talked about this concept of Naseeha, this concept of advice and
the rights of a Muslim on another Muslim, this was not something that the prophets lie some just
left from Himself to us, but rather the prophets lie. Selim mentioned that goodness will prevail in
this nation, so long as we continue to sincerely advise one another. And Allah mentioned this as
well, what's the loss, I'll be happy? What's the loss of a sub Are they enjoying one another in
		

			good, they forbid one another from evil, they enjoying one another in patience, they keep each other
steadfast, we keep each other in check, and we keep each other motivated, we keep each other
inspired. And we keep trying to collectively strive and that's going to require conversations
between us at times to push us back and say, Look, you know, it might be better for you to think
about this and I've noticed this and things of that sort. But it's also a very sensitive area. Why
because to give and I'll see her in the wrong way can actually have the exact opposite effect of
nausea which means sincere advice, either it's not sincere or it's just not well delivered advice or
		

			people don't want to hear advice anymore. You know when we're when we're striving towards
individualism constantly and being told that that is the fullest way to live. Just come you know be
yourself and everything is about yourself and everything revolves around NFC NFC myself myself, then
when anyone tries to poke a hole in what you are creating as a vision for yourself, then that person
is automatically an intruder on your space. And so you're gonna treat them with hostility even if
they're coming to you with full sincerity and that's where I belong. Robotic Rahim Allah, one of the
great scholars of this Deen he was told how come you don't give us advice anymore? How come you
		

			don't tell us what we need to hear? How come you don't give us advice? He says there anyone that's
looking for advice? Is there anyone that's actually searching for it. So it is a precious gem that
exists amongst us to be sought, and to be given all in accordance with and with the aim of getting
closest to the directions of the most sincere adviser sent to us Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam. So you find the hadith of operator or the Allahu Anhu where the prophets lie some mentioned
the rights that we have on one another, to return salaam to one another to say Salaam and return
salaam the greeting of peace to visit one another when we are sick to follow the funeral processions
		

			of one another to pray janazah on one another to follow the funeral processions, to answer the
invitations of one another to respond to the sneeze when someone says that Hamdulillah you say your
hammock Allah may Allah have mercy on you, you wish them well. And finally, in one narration, the
prophets nice and unsaid either stanza Hakka fond salah, who, if your brother or your sister seeks
advice from you, give them sincere advice. Now I'm going to get to a very specific advice at the end
of this cultivate insha Allah to Allah. But before that, the methodology, the techniques, the way
the prophets lie, some use to give Naziha period. Right? And first and foremost, he exemplifies the
		

			best of what is from the Quran, because he is a walking Quran sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and so
when the Quran says to call to the way of your Lord
		

			Word Hekmati well Mareeba till Hassan with wisdom and with beautiful preaching. The prophets lie
some was the greatest manifestation of that. You find that Allah Subhana Allah Allah tells us that
advice is to be given in the best of ways, even to the worst of people, even to the worst of people
we're not even talking about between brothers and sisters. And that's why I've done medica been
Marwan Rahim Allah to Allah, a man came to him, and he told to him that he thought he said to him
that I'm going to give you advice, that is more severe shut Doman assault that is more severe than a
whip. I'm about to talk to you in a way that is more severe than the whip. And he responded to him.
		

			And he said to him,
		

			am I worse than Fidel? And
		

			he said, No, he said, Are you better than Musashi Silla? He said, No, I said, but Allah subhanaw
taala told Moses to speak to the pharaoh musante Islam to speak to the veteran with what for cola
who cola Lena, speak to them with the right words with lenient words that maybe they would be
reminded they would change their ways. So Musa and Harun were given that instruction and so you find
that from the profit slice of them, the overall spirit of generosity, that when he was giving you
advice, he put his own ego to the side sallallahu alayhi, wa sallam, anything of the neffs to the
side because it was all about your welfare. And that's why you find these conversations, where he's
		

			talking to the most hostile people in Mecca people that showed him no generosity whatsoever with
their words or with their actions. But the prophets lie some was patient with them. Why? Because the
prophets lie Selim was trying to at the end of the day, get them to see the error of their ways, and
get them to do what was best for themselves. He wasn't trying to be victorious over them Salah
already was salam, he was trying to be victorious with them. We're trying to get to Jana together.
This is the way to salvation. Let me hold your hand follow me to that path. But with gentleness and
goodness he manifested that's a lie Salam with the crown of his time in Abuja. We also find that
		

			when it comes to I'll see how Of course, one of the ways that people give and I'll see how wrong
these days is they humiliate one another in the name of Naseeha. And the name of sincere advice you
absolutely humiliate someone. You berate them, you expose them. You put them down all in the name of
what I'm doing my job, I'm trying to protect the deen and I'm trying to do what's best for you.
Right? And I shall have the Allah Allah Allah and her. This is a Hadith authentic hadith where she
narrated. She said about the prophets lie Selim either Bella who originally che, that when he was
told about someone, Sal, Allahu Allah, and he was salam, saying, so so forth and so forth. Someone
		

			was saying something wrong. The prophets lie Selim would say, my bad who Fudan and your coal. The
prophets lie some would not say what is it with this person saying such and such but he would
instead say, my bad who acquirement your coluna? Kava Kava? Oh, yeah, for I don't want to cut that.
Look at that. What is it with a group of people saying such and such are doing such and such, he
wouldn't name the person to not humiliate the person, because the prophets lie. Some was hoping the
advice would reach that person and at the same time, people would be protected from the possible
harm of the action, or what is being said. So the Prophet slicin would not name people in a
		

			humiliating way. And that's why we see some of these Hadith where you see a man who made a mistake
from the companions of the Prophet sly Salam, almost always the man will be left unnamed. Unless
he's the narrator of the story and telling you about a mistake he made or she made and the profit
slice I'm correcting them, otherwise the person remains unnamed. Why? What's the point? What's the
point of humiliating that person? As Imam Shafi Rahim Allah to Allah said specifically about this
idea of public nasiha
		

			you know, people don't pick up a phone anymore. I've got your phone number, I can message you, but
I'm gonna make but it's it's so severe. I need to put this in the WhatsApp group. I need to tweet
about you. I need to do this about you like before even like the courtesy of let me try to correct
you privately. So you correct yourself publicly. In the name of what I need to, you know, send a
message. And Imam Shafi Rahim, Allah to Allah said manhwa, who said one Faqad Naso, who was Anna who
woman one another who Allah near term for called Follow who wahana hope he said Rahim Allah to
Allah, that whoever gives his brother or sister advice in private, has given them sincere advice and
		

			beautify them, they come out better, they come out stronger.
		

			And whoever gives them advice in public has humiliated them and betrayed them.
		

			Now that nowadays Subhanallah that's we don't know how to communicate with one another in private.
		

			And someone says, Well, you know, this person said this there I've got to correct
		

			them there. Let me ask you a serious question. And because we live in the world of these groups, you
respond to that brother, that sister within this group privately and you say, Hey, listen, I noticed
you made a mistake here. I'm just telling you because I love you. And I want you to recognize this.
And that person goes back and corrects themselves. They come out with a with a better face with a
better image, and they know that you're sincere to them.
		

			Because otherwise it could have been on blast. We don't put people on blast in the name of
sincerity. That's not who we are. Especially not with our brothers and sisters. And it comes back to
a fundamental understanding of your brother and sister, you wouldn't do that to your sibling. You
wouldn't do that to a parent, you wouldn't do that to your family. We're family and maybe that's the
problem is that we're forgetting that. And so we humiliate each other like enemies, even when Allah
taught us not even to humiliate our enemies.
		

			It's not no see. And the Prophet SAW Salem was not wanting to do that. And then you find all of
these books written about the way the prophets lie. Some approached people that the prophets lie
some gave people advice and proportion in time, where they were at how much they could handle at the
moment, and Buhari Rahim Allah to Allah has Bab Makana, Nabil sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he has a
one to one been more EBA wherein the prophets lie Selim would not overdo it with the companions with
knowledge. I mean, who who doesn't want to hear the prophets lie Selim? But the prophets lie Selim
would not give them more than they could handle why Kayla and Pharaoh so that they don't flee from
		

			the religion. He gave them what they could handle so Allah Azza wa salam time proportion concepts
where they were at growing them steadily over time. And so yes, something that I need to learn from
the Prophets lie Selim first and foremost is what Abdullah and Mr. Little the Allahu Anhu says in
this chapter that the Prophet slice Allah would not lengthen his sermons too long. Why so that the
Sahaba would not become bored of what he was saying. That's the prophets why some of them that's
what have been Mr. Little the Allah and who was saying that was Salah sai son, um, paid attention to
that type of detail. And then when he spoke to you personally,
		

			and this is where I want you to start paying attention. How do I be more like this? He would never
mention a bad quality that he was trying to rectify in you. Before mentioning something good about
you. He started off with the good netmail Raja Raja Abdullah. What a good blessing young man
Abdullah is
		

			but pray a little bit of Fiamma live
		

			near Mr. Raja starts off with the good before you have to say something to someone to correct them
or to bring out something that's not pleasant because they'll see how there's usually a hard
conversation. And even sometimes with with the best approach, Brahim on Islam spoke to His Father
with the best approach. Look how that ended up. Sometimes it doesn't work, but you got to do your
part. Start with what the good qualities, the prophet sighs someone always mentioned the good
quality. First of a person before he tried to correct what he saw was sola sai Salam also when it
came to his body language. I mean, this was the busiest man on the planet. It his Salatu was Salam.
		

			His body language was one of care and affection. How many a hadith do we find aka rasool Allah He
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam OB Min keybie He took my shoulder Salah Hardy who is Salah he put his
hand on my shoulder, what was it like in that society? To have Rasulullah sai some walk up to you
and put his hand on your shoulder. Like let's talk. What kind of love and affection and care is that
from the head of state from the most important man the whole the whole community revolves around the
morning slot with Summon, he'll put his hand on your shoulder. He'll look you in the eyes. He'll say
to you what you need to hear he'll smile at you said Allah Hardy was said um, He'll put you at ease.
		

			And then he'll give you advice. So we find so many of these narrations where he put it was his habit
when he used to talk to his companions. He put his hand on your shoulder sallallahu alayhi wa salam,
the prophets I send a mentioning his affection to his companions. More either bingeable or the
Allahu taala. And he was saying that before he sent me to Yemen after they'd be ready, he he took
the hand of morons and he said Jamar Odwalla he in the little handbook Wallah he in the little
handbook said to him twice oh my god, I swear by Allah I love you. I swear by Allah I love you. How
beautiful is that? Right I mean that was the best thing that my little the Allah annual could have
		

			heard from the Prophet slice on Myanmar and of Allah in the little handbook I want you to know I
love you. I want you to know that I love you for the sake of Allah all CKR more if I'm giving you
advice and I will see you Omar and a will Omar and later there and if we do but equally Salatin,
taco Allahumma and Neolithic Rica, or Sugar Creek we're hosting the Rebbe Datsik do not let any
prayer pass except that
		

			At the end of your prayer you say hola hola en near the decreto are sure Creek was nearby Datsik O
Allah helped me to remember you helped me to thank you helped me to worship you. The scholars also
say that the Prophet SAW Selim, if you look at when he mentioned the quality, whether he mentioned a
good quality or a bad quality, the prophets lie Selim, even when he was doing that, he was not
assigning it to you as an inherent weakness or something that would prohibit you from success. He
was either telling you to tone it down, or he was telling you to be aware but don't be offended. So
when he says to Oh, my God, Allah, I know I'm gonna give you this example of himself. He says that
		

			in hajj, the prophets like Selim said to me, yeah, Omar, in Nicaragua and Cohen, or Omar, you're a
strong man. So I'm gonna hold the ALLAH and he was happy. It's praise. But then he told him what he
said, Don't you know be easy around the Blackstone are on the hazardous word. They have weak people
there, they have people that are not as strong as you. And you might be sending them flying right
and left just by nature of your strength. So after he told them in Nicaragua and Kuwait, that you're
a strong man. He gave him some advice and amaro the law and hello took the advice to heart abou
while the Allahu taala. And the most frequently advised man of the prophets lie some whom we have
		

			the narrations of, when you read the books of Messiah and the vCLI salaam, the advices of the
prophets lie Selim, the Messiah, the way that the prophets lie, some would give those personal
advices above without all the alarm on hulis So many of these conversations between him in the
profit slice because he was persistent. He said to the prophets lie, some yada sulla Ellison, he
gave me this advice on Messenger of Allah. What do I do if this happens, goes through all the
hypotheticals, and the prophets lie some was patient with him, giving him advice. But one time the
prophets lie some says to Abu Daria about that INEC Allah if he said, listen, oh, Buddha in Iraq,
		

			Allah Eva, I see you to have some weakness. We're in knee or hip Boudicca now Hibbard enough. See,
I'm not saying this to put you down.
		

			I'm not saying this to put you down. I love for you what I love for myself. This is out of love for
you that I'm saying this, you know that I didn't just decide to come here and say to to you, oh,
Buddha, you're a weak man. No, no, there is a weakness here. What was the weakness of without it was
asking the prophets lie some to be put in a position of leadership.
		

			In the prophets lie, Selim had to tell him, Look, there's something that stops you from leadership.
It's not the physical strength, but there is a there is a weakness in terms of how you would
approach the position. So he says to a Buddha, look, I love for you what I love for myself, but he
tells him at the end of the day, do not accept a position of an immediate even over to people and do
not agree to be the guardian of an orphans property could be his asceticism and all the Allahu Taala
and the way you know his demeanor, his approach, but the prophets lie some was telling him look,
it's not for you. And I'm telling you this because I love for you what I love for myself. I want
		

			Janna for you like I want Jana for myself. And so all of the narrations where without all the Allah
animal says L Sani Fellini sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, beekley salon and middle height. My Beloved
One the prophets lie Selim gave me advices he told me how to reach these positions of good that also
met sometimes having that hard conversation. But it wasn't the only time you spoke to us without
which is, which is also an important thing. If someone has not heard something encouraging from you
forever, and the only time that you come to speak to them is when you want to admonish them, of
course, they're going to be offended by it. Of course, they're going to be insulted. Who are you now
		

			you're showing up? Now you decided to give me no see. Right? So the prophets lie some established a
relationship with him to where when he said that it was taken in its proper spirits. And there are
so many things the scholars mentioned also that when the Prophet sly someone give those types of
advices he would he would mention your name to you. And you know, like, like, not just in a general
sense, but when he's talking to you directly as a means of affection. Yeah. And assembler, you can
find different narrations where he calls you by your full name, because he's talking to you like,
look, this is serious, and this is out of my love for you. So we learned this from the messenger
		

			sallallahu alayhi wa salam. And we have these narrated advices from one after the other, a companion
comes to him and asked him for advice. Clearly a colon will actually tell me something that will
benefit me but keep it short, not talk about do not become angry, do not become angry, do not become
angry. All these advices now here's what I want to come to
		

			every one of these specific advices to the prophets lie Selim, or from the Prophets lie some to a
companion fits us as well. There isn't a single one of those advices that you can't read and take
for yourself as something beneficial.
		

			But I want you to rehearse in your mind what you would do
		

			If you met the prophets lie some in this world
		

			and he was going to give you nasiha advice.
		

			You know, I want to start from a place of what that it's not some sort of magical equation that we
don't really know what would be such
		

			right on the Day of Judgment it Crocky Tarbuck, read your own book Kefar been FC Kalyan, Malika
Hussey, but this was not hidden from you. You knew what was coming. You knew what you were supposed
to be doing.
		

			So read your book. Go ahead and read it.
		

			If you were to meet the Prophet SAW Salem, in this life, and he's going to give you nasiha What do
you think the prophets lie some would say to you?
		

			What advice would he give to you? What would you rush to change about yourself? Before you meet him?
How would you how would your demeanor suddenly change? If he was to walk into your house? What are
you going to do to your house at the moment? What are you going to hide away or put away?
		

			If the profit slice on was suddenly going to enter into your group?
		

			What are you going to delete? Or what are you going to stop saying? If the profit sighs I'm speaking
to you directly? You know, we say we love Him and He has salatu salam May Allah make that true of
all of us that we love him sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, but our greatest hope is that we get to
approach him on the day of judgment and not be pushed away, not be turned away from him or his
slaughter center. May Allah allow us all to be brought nearer to him to be shaded under the Throne
of Allah and to drink from the hand of our beloved some Allah Azza wa sallam and not be turned away
Allah. I mean, we all want that. Sometimes that powerful talk,
		

			that you could imagine in your own head, what you would change, if he was to talk to you. If he was
walking into the masjid right now and he took you to the side and then if he knew you a little bit
better, what would he say to you sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. Obviously, it would start with the
injunctions from the divine revelation that he was sent with, and then the personal stuff, and we
know ourselves and when we can synchronize what he would say to us, with what we hope to say to
Allah when we stand before him on the day of judgment, because at the end of the day, the prophets I
send them was sent not just with a mission and mercy but with consequences for us. The truth has
		

			consequences,
		

			then we can start to make those changes in our lives. And so you have an assignment today, that at
some point, I want you to sit and think with yourself if Rasul Allah says, Saddam came to my house
and sat with me, what do I think he would say to me, and what would I change to make myself more
presentable to the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for surely the one who sent the messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and the one who will hold us accountable sees us now May Allah Subhan
Allah to Allah make us pleasing in His sight. May Allah forgive us for our shortcomings. May Allah
make us true and sincere followers of our beloved messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and join us
		

			with the prophets and the righteous ones in the highest level of theodosis Arlette Lama I mean, a
cool local, we have the stuff that you would recommend starting with some infested fruit in a hula
for him.
		

			hamdulillah Salatu was Salam ala