Understanding Invisible Wounds

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Omar Suleiman

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The Prophet ﷺ bled more in Uhud, but he hurt more in Taif. Sh. Omar Suleiman reflects on becoming aware of our own invisible wounds, the wounds we cause, the ones we ignore in the people around us.

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Salam Alaikum Welcome to over the cattle once again

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from nada, nada Haman hamdulillahi Rabbil alameen, whatever you want to lie to me will allow people to subpoena a lot more suddenly we're settling without a crab because we can Mohammed and soleimani was Salaam. While early he was like me he was settled into scene and Kafeel. So the title is speaking about none other than our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and it actually comes out of a conversation that I

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had with the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam where she asked him,

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she asked him very, you know, point blank data, aka yome can shut under minyama or hurt. Has there ever been a day in your life harder than the day of hurt? Why would I ask that question? The profit slice alone was almost killed on the roads. He was struck in multiple directions. His teeth were knocked out. his helmet was knocked into his head. So he had wounds all over his face. He couldn't even walk at one point because of how, how struck he was on the neighborhood. The blood was flowing from the profits license on for hours after those narration were faulty model the law is not evil, the law nor trying to clean the wounds of the profit slice on the neighborhood. And they could not

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they realize that they were pouring water into the shield of it. And they were, they were they were pouring the water on the profits, they sell them and the blood just kept on flowing and flowing and flowing. So he bled more on the day of hope than any other day. His wounds were worse on the day of our herd than any other day of his life. And he of course lost some very beloved people to him on that day. And it was it was a difficult day for the Muslims the day of the battle ahead. So I Isha, being married to the profit slice at that time telling the profit slice alone. You know, have you ever had a worst day of your life and the profit slice that goes on to say that the worst day of my

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life was the last day of thought if where he ended up being rejected by the people, you know, the culmination of that rejection, to where they rejected him, and they stone him and they cursed him and they humiliated him while he walked for miles and miles and miles until the profit slice I mentioned, eventually landing in pinata Island, in that final place where he rusted and made out to Allah subhanaw taala. And Allah sent the angels to the prophets license. Now I don't want to go too far into the headache of the story of Baba, because I think that everyone knows the story of love. But if you were to take the wounds of boyhood, and compare them to the wounds of five, the wounds

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that the prophets lie, some suffered on the day of five, were nothing compared to the wounds of boyhood, and thought of the prophets lie. Selim was stoned and punched, they threw rocks at him and punched him for miles and cursed him. And he did have blood all over his body.

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And he did so a lot of them have stones in his shoes. So he stopped, he suffered. I mean, it was, it was physically a very difficult day for the messenger but muscle wise, as well. But he almost died. What makes the date of five so much worse than the day of or hurt? All right. When on the outside, it looks like the prophets lie. Selim was harmed to so much more in the neighborhoods. And that's where the discussion goes into the invisible wounds that we often don't see. And how I once had a brother who was complaining to me about the way that people treated his daughter, and his daughter was someone that has had several mental health challenges beyond her control, and the last panel

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inside and knows best, right? And he was talking about he said, you know, somehow there's like no sympathy for her, because of those mental health challenges. Right? If she was walking around with the physical challenge, that would be the equivalent of that challenge, then she would much, much more likely gain some sympathy from people that there was no sympathy towards her with her very real mental health. Struggle may last, not cure her and cure all of those that are ailing be the spiritual elements, a mental element of physical element, or whatever it may be. I mean, and I want to really take the time to reflect on that for a moment because even the Prophet sallallahu wasallam

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was telling I shall have the law and five hurt much more than or hurt, even though no one who would if you were to take the image of the Prophet slice on the day of five, and put it next to the image of the neighborhood. He looked like he was in such a worse condition on the day or hurt than he was on the day of five. But the emotional pain, the pain of rejection, the pain of humiliation, the pain of not knowing what was coming next, right. You know, the Prophet seisen did not have a large mo with him at that time. The download looked like it was dying. He didn't have a wife to run to at the time. I mean, it was a very

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Very difficult day for the prophets I send them and in ways that most people would not have been able to understand. yet so pantalon physically he was wounded more or hurt and Subhan Allah. On both of those days, the Prophet slicin sought forgiveness for the people that hearten on the day of a hurt, which you would have thought was his worst day, the Prophet slicin um, was saying a llama footed he called me fat normally animal and Allah forgive my people, they just don't know any better. That was with no teeth in his mouth and the blood flowing and flowing and flowing. And the helmet stuck in his head, he's still saying, with no teeth, with his front teeth knocked down the

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blood flowing from his mouth, those beautiful words, or law, forgive my people, they don't know any better. On the day of life, the angels came to the Prophet slice them on that day and cotton with that job read it, he said on the angel Gabriel came to him and introduced to him the angel who would move the mountains that would that would that would crush the people between Russia been crushed the people of Mecca and life and the prophets lie, Selim is saying, you know, leave them because it may be that their children that there will be from their children, those who bear witness to the oneness of God, those who arise from that generation, and they will be different than their parents. So in

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both of those days, the two worst days of his life, presumably,

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you know, the profit slice that I was offered a chance to exterminate to harm the people that harmed him, and he did not survive. So some reflections for us, we have to become more aware of our own invisible wounds, we have to become more aware of the invisible wounds that we sometimes cause. And we have to become more aware of the invisible wounds that we so often ignore, okay, and other people around us, our own invisible wounds, it's important for us to take the time to really try to come to terms with why we feel the way that we do, why we might be hurting in certain ways. And to really reflect and to, to try to seek out the proper protocol, the proper treatments, whatever that is

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right, to be able to treat those that pain that we might have, right. And of course, the greatest treatment starts from a place of faith and spirituality. But it doesn't always end there. So thinking about what's next, how do I bring myself to really understand myself better, and then to take the necessary actions to make sure that I'm taking care of myself so that I can be more able to serve a loss of habitat and to serve the people. So our own invisible wounds, the invisible wounds that we cause, the prophets I seldom used to seek refuge in Allah. And indeed, you know, to cause oppression is far worse than to be oppressed. Because to be oppressed is to suffer in this world, to

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oppress someone else is to suffer in the hereafter to face the, to face the punishment for that in the hereafter. So be the servant of a lot that is wrong to do not be the servant of a lot of that wrongs, be the servant of a lot, that's makuu that is killed, don't be the one that kills Don't be the one that causes that harm, to think very deeply, in the midst of our stress in the midst of our anger, in the midst of our own uncertainty in the midst of our own wounds, whether we are saying things to the people that are close to us, that are harming them, in ways that could really damage them, that could really, really damage them. And you know, this is a temporary time of uncertainty,

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sometimes we do things in temporary times of uncertainty, that have permanent consequences, right, they damage relationships and damage people for for a very, very long time permanently in this life. And we have to be very careful not to say things or do things that would harm others in the midst of that. And you know, somehow, especially if we're quarantined around people, we're talking to people, we can say really hurtful things because of how we're hurting right now. Right, and just say something that would really cause pain to someone and strike at and you don't somehow the shape on, he knows how to he knows how to direct your tongue in a painful way, in a way that causes pain to

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someone you know, someone else's insecurities, you know, it really gets on their nerves, you know, it really bothers them. And in the midst of an argument, you want to inflict pain, and sometimes you inflict an invisible wound, and it's not like you cut someone and the blood flows, and then you bandage it up. It's you hurt someone deeply, and you might apologize, but the wound is still flowing. And you don't want to cause that wound in the first place. And be very careful with the things that you say. So right now, in particular, while everyone is hurting in very weird ways, in strange ways, don't cause harm, don't cause those invisible wounds to others. And the third one is

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ignoring other people's invisible wounds.

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We need to pay very, very close attention. And I've told people this before somehow that when you think about social media, sometimes you see someone lashing out on social media and we think it's funny or people poke fun out and people will comment and say things and, you know, and, you know, enjoy the moments. Sometimes someone will suddenly put out their sense, right? So they're

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Be a change in their life for the worse in terms of spirituality. And they'll flaunt that change. And the only thing that we can do is talk about how stuff but Allah, how could that person do that?

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The believer, you know, who wants to be a mirror to the brother sister does not just want to condemn the obvious sin if there is an obvious sin, or the lashing out or some of the words, but to actually say, I hope that person is okay. And if there's a way for me to access that person, I want to call them and say, Hey, are you doing all right? You know, I'm just calling to check up on you. Is everything okay?

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Is there something I do want to talk about anything? Right? Not in a judgmental way, but in a way that demonstrates that, hey, I'm just checking up on you. Are you okay? What can I say to you right now? What can I do? What can we talk about right now, right? Think about what it is that maybe I was ignoring. So paying closer attention to those wounds that aren't as obvious, especially when there are signs, warning signs, we can't afford to ignore those warning signs and smell and sign on top of that excellence on top of that is to think about some of the people that are not lashing out online or not, are not, you know, sending concerning text messages, but you know that they're right now

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probably suffering due to some circumstances that would make this condition that would make this pandemic even more hurtful to them. So reaching out to them in particular, when people probably are not reaching out to them somehow, sometimes our silence is more harmful than our speech. Sometimes not, you know, not checking in just completely ignoring someone forgetting about someone is more painful than even checking in the wrong way. Right. So, again, three things because we learn from the profit slice alone, that invisible wounds sometimes are much worse than the visible wounds, they hurt more, the profit slice on hurt more from his invisible loans. So the lesson for us is three

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things number one, being more more conscious and reflective and taking the necessary steps to cure our own invisible wounds when we can. Number two, being extremely cautious about causing those invisible wounds to other people. Number three, son checking up on people when we sense that there may be some things that that give a signs all right, the equivalent of flowing blood and an obvious cut that give us signs of someone's really hurting may allow us to help our brothers and sisters that are hurting May Allah subhanaw taala protect us from hurting others may Allah Subhana Allah to Allah forgive us and forgive us and guide us and give us clarity and guide us to the right way to

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how to deal with this situation and all situations that arise I mean, so does that mean our fate and once again I'm glad that so many of you are excited about the Ramadan series. We will have a lot going on Ramadan inshallah tada so please stay tuned and thank you for your encouraging words and your jobs personally A lot of you have checked in a lot of you have sent two outs I really do appreciate them and please keep my family in your job as you're making draft for others in Charlottetown Allah and I look forward to being with you all inshallah. Throughout Ramadan Allah been living out on a bomb it was kind of a loss to live to see it all along, realize pans out allow

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us to benefit from Ramadan. I mean loss parents, Allah allow us to attain His pleasure a lot. I mean, so I'll see you all tomorrow webinar dot yaqeen institute.org and sha Allah Tada. And then we'll get back to the nightly reflection on Thursday. Does that sound like