Tired of Being Taken Advantage Of

Omar Suleiman


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We begin by praising Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and bearing witness that none has the right to be worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except for him. And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa Salam is his final messenger. We ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him, the prophets and messengers that came before him, his family and companions that served alongside him and those that follow in his busted path until the day of judgment. And we ask Allah to make us amongst them Allahumma Amin, the brothers and sisters, I wanted to approach in today's court, briefly, the topic of Exxon the topic of doing good when you don't feel good as you do good. And

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what I mean by that is that there's always this sentiment that the more corrupt the world becomes, the more our interpersonal relationships dictate. The more our relationship with Allah subhana wa Tada collectively as mankind starts to decrease, the more those who seek to insist upon a higher way are going to be taken advantage of and are going to get what they call the short end of the stick.

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They're not going to get the benefits that most people get in this life, by cheating by being petty by insisting upon matters of this world by seeking to consume as much as they can of this world without any sense of conscience, not of Allah subhanho wa Taala nor of anything else, and Subhan Allah when you look at the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, I want to start off with what this football is not about Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa salam, despite being a person who we can all agree was taken advantage of in on multiple occasions, despite being the person who would be mobbed for sadaqa mob for charity, ask questions in a harsh manner. The Prophet salallahu Salam despite

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giving in every relationship of his more than what he received both to those that rejected him and to those that accepted him no one can say that they were a better saw him that they were a better companions of the Prophet slice them than he was a Sahib to them. None of the family members of the prophets like some could say they were a better family member to him than he was to them it his Salatu was set up, and of course his enemies who never even acknowledged his goodness towards him. Despite all of that Rasul Allah say Saddam was a man who knew how to set boundaries for himself despite his boundless compassion. He knew how to say no sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when it was

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necessary to not enable a greater harm. That's why sorted His wrath was revealed because the prophets lie said when he went home was Allah say salam was giving the hack of his family upon him. And so no matter how loud you screamed at him, or how much you banged on his door, was allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam at that time was engaged in the heart of those people inside his household upon him. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, despite being the most merciful person, and a person who was a mercy to mankind, He did not allow the harm that was shown to him to shut him down. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, despite Lala cabeza here enough, second Allah authority him, it

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is as if you would harm yourself not that the Prophet slicin would actually self harm but that you're hurting yourself over your love for them. The Prophet salallahu Salam did not have any lack of zeal towards the message that he was actually spreading. He didn't cry all day and night Salallahu Alaihe salam to where he could not work the way that Allah subhanaw taala taught him to work, despite the prophets lie some himself having endured so much hardship from the people. I love that you highly to NASA is

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no one fits the description of someone who mixed with the people and tolerated their hardship more than us Allah sai Salam. Despite that the prophets lie some did not tolerate a climate of abuse.

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And he didn't tolerate a climate of wrongdoing, and did not allow for that to happen to people that were around him. You can't force Exxon on somebody else. You should force Exxon on the one who is dealing with someone else with cruelty, not on the one who's on the receiving end. You can encourage axon to that person, but you cannot tolerate the opposite of excellence and cruelty

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and put all of the burden on the other person. But when the Prophet size some himself was on the receiving end, he always SallAllahu wasallam opted for a higher ideal for a higher level. Now the question becomes, why is it that we often feel like

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maybe we're not getting anything in return

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for the goodness that we are doing towards others? First and foremost, you first start with those who have done goodness to you and perhaps you did not repay them

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and the perpetual prototype of that as the parent right there is no person in at the default.

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who's taken advantage of more than a parent by their child? Right? There is no person who fits the prototype more than that person than the parents, because the child cannot repay the parent. It's impossible. So you think about everyone that you have to repay. You know, often times when we feel like we're taken advantage of, or we feel like we did more for someone than what was done for us, that should cause us to reflect on those who did more for us than we did for them, and see how we can then be reminded, and that's the beauty of the child growing up and then recognizing, as they get into the age that their parents were at, when their parents struggled with them. Wow, this is

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what it's like.

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So they become activated towards a greater level of chakotay to their parents gratitude towards their parents. But there's often this undertone when we show axon towards people, that all of that was for nothing.

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All of that was for nothing, and indeed Subhanallah sometimes when it comes to worldly relationships, a person invests in a relationship and does and does and does and gets very little in return.

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And that can feel very harsh to a person, whether it's a relationship or a marriage, or a friendship or a colleague, or whatever it may be. It can feel that way. But I wanted to Subhanallah underline how Allah azza wa jal addresses this in the Quran, with something very interesting. Last time it says in the Latina I'm Anwar middle sloty Hatti inner learn or Leo edge, Rahman Aksana. Amla, one ayah, Allah subhana wa says those who do good

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and those who believe in do good, we do not let the good deeds of those good doers go to waste, the eye is actually repetitive, where Allah azza wa jal does not have to be repetitive from a linguistic perspective, to emphasize here, that no person will ever do good in this life, and it will not be rewarded by something better. And this is a theme throughout the Quran. Now, there's a difference, I think we can all agree towards doing better to someone who's also doing good towards you. What does that mean? There, it might say, there is the level of when someone does Exxon towards you, or does the basic, you know, or fulfills a basic requirement of gratitude towards you and the give and take

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relationship. And you always try to do better, because there's no harm that's really embedded in that. So you count on the gap. And that's the most beautiful of relationships, when there are two people who are both competing for Allah's pleasure. And so they're trying to out exon one another and you want to make sure that you're on the upper hand of that and so Allah will fill the gap in that land or Leroy agilon Min X and Ramona, but then there are elements A Subhanallah, that that's usually not the case. And that's why Allah azza wa jal says was there for in Hola, hola, yo, Ron Mycenae. Be patient because Allah does not let the goodness of the good doers go to waste. What's

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the as the mama tabali Rahim, Allah says, indicates that usually people of exon are going to be harmed.

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It is the norm of the world throughout all periods of history, that usually people that are generous will be taken advantage of generous not with their wealth, per se, generous with their spirit, generous with their energy, generous with their time generous with their emotions, that usually people that do good and that have this as a mantra and a motto in life. They're going to be harmed in the process, because most people will devour that. And so he commented he said the Apolo to Allah the Crow was the rearm Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah, Telkom and Muslim he called me Kameena other Villa he will mcru He Raja jazzy Lhasa Billa Allah Dalek be patient O Muhammad

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sallallahu alayhi wa sallam for the harm that you endure from your people as you tried to give them Jana. What is the profit slice I'm trying to get these people to do he's trying to get them to go to Jana. He's trying to take them to Jannah and they're throwing garbage in his face. So be patient Oh Muhammad sallallahu alayhi salam no one of us is trying to give or is in a position with anyone else in our lives that the prophets lysozyme was with his people. He's trying to give them Jana not trying to give them a gift not trying to give them some kindness only he's trying to give them Jana, he's serving them Janice, Allah Allahu Allahu wa salam and they're throwing garbage at him and

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kicking him and abusing him in the process. There is no greater discrepancy from a human to human perspective than the discrepancy between a messenger and his people who are rejecting him.

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But for in Allahu Allah, you will also have them and me Allah for Allah Allah whatever camera who have a v. Bell you are Pharaoh.

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who are who are Jamaica como la. This is so beautiful. A poverty Rahim Allah says commenting on this if Allah will not let the goodness that you do towards anyone else go to waste, especially in the capacity of Dawa. Rather Allah will repay you with something that you will need more in a time where you will need it more with something that you will need more in a time where you will need it more. What does that mean? If someone says all of that was for nothing, Allah says in Allah Allah, you will lead to Agile ramazzini.

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Allah does not let the payments the agile, the reward of the good doers go to waste, not the efforts, the reward, meaning count on my budget, to fulfill what wasn't given back to you.

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And it will be given to you in a time when you will need it more and it will be better than what the other person could have given back to you.

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It would be so much better, so much more powerful. There's a beautiful,

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subtle difference in how Allah subhanaw taala talks about for example, how we respond to people in Dallas with that which is better. So the very famous if it's Fabula t here asking for either the Boehner carabiner who I don't know whether you and me. We all know this idea. Allah azza wa jal says respond to that which is evil with that which is better. It might be. It might be that the one that is your enemy becomes your protective friend. Does that always happen in Darwin? That's a worldly reward right, a worldly gift. Does it always happen that when we respond with kindness to evil, that the evil doer instead turns and becomes a person who is kind towards you and relinquishes their

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hostility? No, but Allah azza wa jal says another I am

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speaking, very similarly, when Latina Saba Optiva our hero be him or accommo Salah amfa ko mimma razack Nahum ser one Melania wire the owner Bill has an anti sia hola ek Allahu Akbar da there is a look at the difference in sorts of line between full Siddharth Allah subhanaw taala says those who are patients and they established the prayer, they worship Allah subhana wa Tada and they give charity in private and in public, and they respond to that which is evil with that which is better, Allah will certainly grant them the best ending.

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There is no doubt about the Jannah Park, meaning its bonus, its bonus if your goodness towards these people results in them becoming good. That's a bonus.

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But the thing you can bank on is about dog is that the ending that Allah subhanaw taala will give you will be so much more worth it than anything that they could have given you in the process. And that's where the true nature of the believer is. That's where you shine the prophets lie. Some says lay salwaar CETOL Bill McAfee that the one who is considered as someone who is establishing the ties of kinship is not the one who's responding reciprocating kindness. That's not who was single rahem is the one who establishes the ties of kinship is the one who's just reciprocating good. The prophets lie Selim says, Well, I can tell wasu ledee either courtyards Rahima who was Allah? He said

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the one who Allah azza wa jal is talking about when he talks about the reward of establishing the ties of kinship is the one who when he is cut off he goes and he reconciles when you're cut off, you make the effort and you still go and you reconcile, you be that person who swallows the ego, not because of the person that you're going to reconcile with, but because of the reward of the one who put you on this earth with rights of that person upon you and rights of you upon that person. He said sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, in another narration also authentic Salman kata, what team and how Romhack word for a man balama keysets Allahu alayhi wa sallam established the times with those who

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would cut you off and give to those who withheld from you and forgive those who wronged you. Meaning that's where the sun truly shows again, he SallAllahu Sallam did not tolerate a climate of abuse. And despite his boundless compassion, he had his boundary sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. But at some point, that person who says you know what, I will lower and lower and lower because anything I decrease in this world for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala is going to be increased from him in a time where I will need it more. And in a way that's better than I could have got it in this world.

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And it's not just money we're talking about, you know, subhanAllah if you read this hadith, in its entirety, where he said something some of the hadith of Abu Dhabi Allahu Anhu ma na Cassatt sada cartoon madman, one Azad Allahu Abdon behalf when in there is a woman tawa donde la isla Rafa, who

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When you take it all together, the prophets lie some said charity does not decrease wealth. Charity will never lead to a decrease in your wealth. What scares you when you're about to give charity, you start making calculations, but there's a decrease here. I'm going to lose out on something. If I give. And he said, Sal, Allahu Allah Islam in that same vein, one Izod Allah, who I've done the Aslan in Larissa, Allah will not increase you in the quality of an awful The quality of being forgiving and pardoning, except that ALLAH will actually honor you in the process. Think about the people in our congregation, and the people that we know in our lives, who are forgiving and merciful

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people in the moment, it might look like they're being humiliated, but they gain a place of honor like Myrcella that's such a well composed person, such high character, was willing to put out the fire. Allah will increase you and honor but in the moment you feel like you're getting humiliated. And so you think you're going to decrease in honor by being forgiving. And the prophets I seldom said, and no one humbles themselves for the sake of Allah except that Allah azza wa jal exalts them. Now I'm gonna end on this note in sha Allah to Allah because I think it's it's very powerful when you take these three themes together.

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We know that hadith, because we've been to a million fundraisers in the Muslim community, that when you're about to give sadaqa 70,000 saline, right, open their mouths, and warn you of *er warn you of decrease warn you of poverty, don't decrease your wealth, where sadaqa or else

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now Allah knows best, but for some of us

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to do sadaqa Beloeil with your honor, and with your dignity is harder than sadaqa with none is harder than charity with your money. And so 70,000 Shayateen open their mouths when you're about to give from your money for the sake of Allah. Imagine when you're about to give from your ego for the sake of Allah Subhana Allah might even be 70 70,000 more shale clean, because the voice and the lure is so much more.

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Do not give from your honor to this person.

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And your response has to be just like, every time I give charity, it's not decreasing my wealth. When I humble myself for Allah, and I give sadaqa of my ego for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala it's not decreasing me in anything. All that paranoia all that fear of the shape onto try to stop you from reconciling. And we don't learn from these lessons. How many times do we feel a weight off of our chests? When we humble ourselves to our brothers and our sisters? And we reconcile Why did you wait so long? Because those 70,000 mouths were open sometimes the human beings to don't do it, it will decrease you, it will decrease you, it will decrease you, it will humiliate you, it will

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lower you, they don't deserve it. You're right, they don't deserve it, but maybe you deserve it. From Allah Subhana Allah to Allah. And so dear brothers and sisters, to feel like you've given up too much to an ungrateful one is not true. But to feel like you've given it up for the sake of the most grateful a shocker is empowering. Because your life is a journey between you and Allah subhanaw taala and everyone, everyone that is placed in the path is a part of that journey between you and Allah subhanaw taala

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May Allah subhanaw taala allow us to always be willing to give for his sake, may Allah subhanaw taala allow us to give our ego to give our wealth to give whatever it may be, to seek His higher reward. May Allah Subhana Allah never make us amongst those who act in ways that are fruitless or reckless May Allah subhanaw taala purify our intentions and reward us for our deeds. Allama I mean, a political leader was Toffolo locomotory certainly I mean, first of all, we know a lot more about him.

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