Omar Suleiman – The Best Time to Reconcile – Ask Me Anything
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The speaker discusses the importance of reconciling one's negative actions within three days to avoid losing their deeds. They also mention the community structure and incentives to avoid losing their deeds. The speaker encourages people to send greetings and send messages of record to avoid losing their deeds.
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Assalamu alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh, everyone.
Alhamdulillah wa salatu wassalamu ala Rasulina wa ala
alihi wa sahbihi wa man wala.
So, many times I get these questions about
folks that want to reconcile but don't know
how to reach out to someone after a
very long time.
And obviously, the longer that things go on,
the worse things can get.
And the Prophet ﷺ warned us about even
going three days.
And to incentivize it more than anything else,
your deeds are not accepted.
If you do not reconcile within three days.
The Prophet ﷺ said that Allah Azawajal says,
leave these two until they reconcile.
He ﷺ said that to ignore or to
cut off your brother for a year is
like spilling his blood.
And so, the longer that things go on,
the harder it becomes to reconcile.
And the incentives are many.
Yourself wanting to be forgiven.
وَلِيَعْفُوا وَلِيَصْفَحُوا أَلَىٰ تُحِبُّونَ يَغْفِرَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ Let
them forgive and pardon.
Don't you want Allah to forgive you?
Don't you want your deeds to be accepted?
And just the peace of mind and goodness
that you find in your own life.
And you'll notice that the community structure really
does not allow for the boycotting of each
other.
The idea of coming to Salah on a
daily basis.
You can't avoid someone in Salah.
If you're coming to Salah, right?
You pray next to that person, you pray
next to that person.
The idea of the right of janazahs.
The right to attend the janazah of a
person.
So, the family member of a person obviously
attending the janazah of that family member at
the very least.
Or the janazah of that person themselves.
But you don't want it to get to
that point.
The right of salam.
The Prophet ﷺ mentioning that salam is actually
a right.
So, if you pass by someone, you have
to give salam.
And that is part of the right that
that person has upon you.
So, all these things really make it so
that it's very hard in our deen.
Functionally, the way the community is set up.
And with the incentives to remain cut off.
Now, SubhanAllah, I wanted to say especially when
it comes to the occasions.
We're coming to the occasion of Eid.
And you obviously have a few days within
Eid where people reach out and send greetings.
One of the best times to reach out
to someone after a very long time.
After they've been estranged.
Is on an occasion.
And that's part of the blessings of these
occasions.
And I'm not saying you have to wait
for these occasions.
But I'm saying that it's the easiest and
most natural time to send salam to someone.
And not just forward a WhatsApp image that
you're sending to everyone else.
But to reach out to someone with somewhat
of a personal note.
As-salamu alaykum, may Allah accept from you.
Something along those lines.
Don't underestimate that.
And don't overlook the opportunity that Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala is giving to you.
Because you might not have another opportunity.
And this is the easiest time to do
that.
And if at the very least it establishes
salam.
And the well-wishing of one Muslim to
another.
And then that person responding in like manner.
That in and of itself is a victory.
And it might be the deciding factor for
your deeds being accepted.
So please do this inshaAllah ta'ala.
Within the next few days of Eid.
Send that message of salam.
Send that message of Eid Mubarak.
And hopefully you see someone at Eid as
well.
That it's important for you to give salam
to inshaAllah.
JazakumAllahu khayran.
Eid Mubarak to you all.
Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.