Omar Suleiman – The Advice You Need to Hear

			We begin by praising Allah Subhana Allah and bearing witness that none has the right to be
worshipped or unconditionally obeyed except for him. And we bear witness that Muhammad sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam is his final messenger, we ask Allah to send his peace and blessings upon him, the
prophets and messengers that came before him, his family and companions that served alongside him
and those that follow in his blessed path until the day of judgment, and we ask Allah to make us
amongst them Allahumma Amin, dear brothers and sisters, there is a body of a Hadith from the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa salam, probably more extensive than in any other way of life, about the
		

			importance of nausea, the importance of sincere advice. And typically you find that the body of
Hadith that are focused on nausea focused on the idea of sincere advice, focus on how to give
advice, the mechanics of giving advice, the way that we talk to people, the way that we talk to our
brothers and sisters. And the way that this ultimately ties into the pursuit of Allah subhanaw taala
is pleasure and our destination, our hope, destination of paradise whatsoever. So we'll help the
what our sub sub are people that enjoying one another in good and forbid evil amongst each other,
and help one another towards that pleasure of Allah subhanaw taala and keep each other resilient and
		

			steadfast and patience with what comes with taking that path collectively. And while you have all of
these Hadith all of these statements about how a person should give advice, and it is important,
because it affects the way that a person will receive it. You have an entire scope that is described
in the Quran and the Sunnah, of how to make the heart necessary to receive sincere advice similar to
the way that you make the heart necessary, or you make the heart fertile to receive the most
necessary advice and the most necessary guidance of all time, which is the infallible speech of
Allah Subhana Allah to Allah, that the heart has to be willing to receive even the Quran. There is
		

			no word that is greater than the Quran. There is no advice like the Quran, there is no guidance,
like the guidance of the Quran. It is perfect in every sense, spoken by ALLAH SubhanA, which Allah
meant for your heart to receive it. And even then, there are hearts that are described as being as
hard as stone that cannot receive it. And there is no fault whatsoever in the Quran, the fault is in
the heart that was unable to receive it. On the other hand, the opposite of that may Allah azza wa
jal make our hearts the opposite of that. There are hearts that are like fertile soil, they receive
the revelation, and they continue to grow these beautiful crops, these beautiful plants, all
		

			stemming from that initial revelation from Allah subhanho wa taala. And so there has to be the giver
and the receiver there has to be a heart that is ready. And if that is the case for the Quran, and
certainly when it comes to the imperfect advice, that we're commanded to give each other where there
is more room for things to be wrong in substance or in delivery, then the heart has to be at an even
greater level of anticipation and desire to receive then that heart which is with the Quran, which
is with the word of Allah subhanho wa taala. And you find so many Hadith that stress this communal
role amongst us the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaking about the believers as being
		

			mirrors to one another, a mirror shows you things that you otherwise cannot see. It shows you flaws
that you otherwise cannot see. You know, if you look in the mirror, and there's a stain on your
shirt, then that's how you detect that stain. If there's something that's on your face, that's how
you detect that thing that's on your face. That's the function of that mirror. And for the believer,
to the believer, you are the spiritual mirror of every brother and sister in this ummah, you're
their spiritual mirror, that means that there is a necessary cleansing mechanism that you have to
have for yourself. And there's a function that you serve to your brother and your sister. And if you
		

			don't serve that function, then you are the defective mirror.
		

			And subhanAllah you find this emphasis on the collective decay of mankind's being tied to the
unwillingness of people to advise one another anymore. On the profit side. So I mentioned that the
people will be in hide, they will be in good, so long as they enjoying good and forbid evil amongst
themselves. Now, typically, we might resort to when we read a hadith like that, this idea that evil
becomes so emboldened and when it's unchallenged, it only grows and that's true. But there's another
set of people a large set of people that aren't necessarily evil that aren't necessarily emboldened
in their evil but they just don't know any better because there's a collective leaving all
		

			off of this nasiha, this culture of advising one another of enjoying good and forbidding evil,
trying to build one another up to be pleasing to Allah Subhana Allah to Allah and the mountain was a
Sati or amo Allah, he says something very profound in his here, he says, Think about a person who
had a scorpion on their back. You know, we're we can relate maybe to mosquitoes right now in Texas,
but if you had a scorpion on your back, and there was someone that was walking behind you, and that
notice that Scorpion that was on your back before it ditch you, and they didn't tell you, the Fort
bitchu. He said, similarly, when we have these character flaws that become obvious to people around
		

			us, and our brothers and sisters, don't point them out. It's like a scorpion that is there about to
bite you, you have a responsibility to say to your brother or your sister, I see a scorpion that you
might not see, not because you can't see, but it happens to be on your back. And I want to point it
out to you. Not so that you scream a little quieter once the scorpion bites you so that I can
actually stop you from, you know, suffering maximum damage through the bite of that scorpion.
Perhaps I can stop it from biting you in the first place if I intervene early enough, or I can help
you get treated quickly. But the point is, is that as people when we walk around, then we have
		

			scorpions on us. We want people to point that out to us. We want people to point out that harm
because it poses an imminent physical harm. What about spiritual harms? What about spiritual
diseases? And subhanAllah? You find there's a man by the name of our beloved Mubarak Rahim Allah to
Allah. And you can find entire books that are just people asking our beloved and MOBOTIX Rahim Allah
for advice and him responding with profound advice. And there came a time clearly where he stopped
giving people advice. And he was asked, aren't you going to advise us? And he said, Is there anyone
who's still looking for advice? I don't find that people are interested in hearing I'll see him
		

			anymore. I don't find that people are interested in having things pointed out to them. I find that
people seem to have turned away from this and he's talking about it at that time. And as a result of
that, who suffers, not the person that no longer gives advice, but the person that could have
received really good advice, necessary advice to make themselves more pleasing to Allah subhanho
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			and there is a man by the name Habibollah GitLab Rahim Allah He said that I asked Abdullah Mubarak
Rahim Allah to Allah, what is the best thing that a human being can be given? Ma Hydromat RTL
insaan, what's the best thing a person can be given. So first, he responded, he said, a lot easier
to first and foremost good intuition, strong insight perception, where you have the internal
mechanics you have that intelligence and that, that that introspection to where you can think on
your own, you can see things for yourself, not exclusively on your own, but you have a strong mind
in a good way you have a functioning mind that actively seeks out the best version of the knifes
		

			that actively seeks out the best ways to refine the character and to purify the heart. And that sees
the world in a certain way and sees the self in in a certain way. So a person that can sit and
reflect and have that intelligence and have that intuition and that perception, to be able to self
rectify. And then he said for him Jaquan What if a person doesn't have the color other than a person
has good manners, good manners, at least. Right? So they observe a certain set of basic courtesies
and good manners and Subhanallah one of the beauties of this ummah, that sometimes you find the most
illiterate people in this ummah have the most beautiful o'clock, the most beautiful characteristics,
		

			the most beautiful values, the most beautiful qualities and you don't get that sometimes unless you
travel the Muslim world. Sometimes there are certain things that people have in them, almost
innately that have been embedded in them in them that are so beautiful and so pleasing to Allah
subhanaw taala and they might not even be able to read a book, but they have other they have good
other good manners called the inland Jaquan. He said, Oh, what if I don't have that color icon,
Shafiq? Yes, the Shiro, then you have a good brother who can give you advice. Someone that can give
you good advice. So if you're not able to come up with this alone, if you're not able to work on
		

			yourself alone, and if you have a hard time coming to these places, then you need someone that can
point things out to you. You need someone that you can seek advice from and we all need that. But
that's the third thing. Carla for inlandia Cohen, he said what if I don't have that kind of someone,
Pauline?
		

			You then you should have long periods of silence. You shouldn't talk much. You shouldn't engage much
in that case because you're likely to be making a ton of mistakes that
		

			ton of mistakes if you don't have the internal rectifying mechanism of to dabble into fucker on a
regular routine basis and you don't have the natural manners that have been put inside of you and
embedded in you through culture through good company and you don't have a good brother, a good
sister to advise you sometimes to lead.
		

			That should really affect the amount of times that you engage, how you engage in giving input and
speaking and doing because you don't have the necessary mechanics and filters to be able to process
that properly thought of and Aamir Khan, Carla, Milton added he said, If I don't have that, he said,
then you should probably at that point wish for death. If you have none of these things, you're not
capable of any of these things. And that means that your period on earth your extension of a period
on Earth is just going to be an extension of sin. May Allah subhanaw taala protect us. So what does
this look like? Culturally? What does this look like when a person naturally has the ability to hear
		

			no see, and to take the best of it, and to act upon it? And to be in that sincere pursuit of Allah
subhanaw taala one of the famous stories of Imam Malik Rahim Allah Tada as Imam Malik walks into a
masjid after Salah to the ASA one day and it was from the opinion of Imam Malik Rahim Allah that if
you walked into the masjid after salah, and also that you wouldn't pray to here to the masjid, you
would not pray the two Dockers of entering the masjid. And this young man comes up and in a harsh
way, tells him to get up and pray to recurse he could have responded and said let me speak to young
man about my moussaka. Let me pull up my book, show you my Hadith and explain to you how i the Imam
		

			of Medina got to this place. He could have debated him at that moment. But instead he got up and he
prayed to that guys right away.
		

			And as students who have been taught by Him that that's not the right time to pray to them because
they were lost by this they said, you know, we know from you that when you enter into the masjid
after Salah to Lhasa we don't pray to hear the message. And he said I was afraid of being one of
those people who Allah subhana wa Tada described what either por la Mercado, like I'm currently one
of those people who Allah subhanaw taala says when they are told to bow they don't bow. I did not
want to find myself in the category of the stubborn disobedience, heedless, rebellious transgressors
that Allah Subhana Allah mentions that would resist what is good for them. And so he's still acted
		

			upon that advice. The opposite of this group of people are a people that Allah azza wa jal describes
in the Quran are either Tila Tequila that will resolve belief. When you say to a person or when you
say to this person, fear Allah be mindful of Allah, Allah Tala is belittle.
		

			Pride stops them from abandoning that sin. Pride stops them from abandoning that sin either they
don't like the person that told them a tequila, or they don't like the way that it was set to them.
Or they just don't like being corrected period. Right. But it tequila is set to them. Twitter is
beneath them, then they are stuck because of their pride because of their arrogance. And Eminem is a
little the Allahu Taala annually commented on this idea. He said in them in October them he said one
of the worst of sins and the Akula robbery he it tequila, that a person says to his brother to his
sister, be mindful of Allah fear Allah and that person says, or they can be enough sick and to
		

			testimony.
		

			Worry about yourself. You're You're telling me what to do? Who are you to tell me what to do? And
they can be enough sick, worry about yourself, and to testimony? Maybe they'll respond with all of
the sins and all of the flaws? How dare you give me advice? Who are you to give me now see how mind
you there is a way to say to someone a tequila. And sometimes that's not actually even using the
words it's tequila. There is a tone, there's a delivery, there's the the personnel of the good ways
in which you give and I'll see how beautifully.
		

			But here the blame falls on the recipient when he responds with arrogance. So that's what it is to
Bill FM. And what does that look like? That means that I will insist on a sin that will destroy me
to make you mad.
		

			I'm not going to give you the pleasure of correcting me. And ultimately I'm going to harm myself in
the hereafter. Because I don't want to give you that validation. Think about how that sounds when
you actually play it out. I'm not going to correct myself. I'm not going to do something
differently. I'm not going to take the step towards Allah subhanaw taala that I know I should take.
I'm not going to abandon the sin that I know I should abandon because I don't want you to have the
pleasure of knowing that you put me in my place. Uh huh. That's what it is. But if
		

			who hurts at the end of the day, what are you going to tell Allah subhanaw taala on the day of
judgment I don't like the way he said it to me
		

			I wanted to show them who's the boss, You're not the boss, neither am I. Neither is the person who
gave you advice, even if they did it in the wrong way.
		

			And subhanAllah I want you to flip this frame in your mind for a moment. If someone gives you advice
in the wrong way, or in a way, that's not the best, they could have done better.
		

			And there's a part of you maybe they were even very rude to you. But there is some weights to the
advice that was given to you. Instead of seeing it as but I'm going to validate that person's bad
practices, see it as maybe I have to rewards with Allah subhanaw taala the reward of swallowing my
ego, and the reward of doing the thing that I was supposed to do anyway. It may be that Allah azza
wa jal to reward you for in spite of the fact that the advice was given to you in a bad way. You
still did it to please Him. Flip the frame. I'm going to act upon this to please Allah subhanaw
taala even though I don't like the way the person said it to me, and you know what, if I want to
		

			correct that person's bad way of giving advice, I will say to them to Zach, Allah hit, I really
benefited from this and this is good, and inshallah I'm going to act on it. Inshallah, if you get a
chance, maybe the next time that you speak to someone that's going through this predicament, it may
help defuse this because you might be able to deliver better but exactly like that I benefited, this
is good. I acted upon it, I want to act upon it.
		

			If there is some validation in some way to that, and I see how that's being given to you, take it,
take it. And the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, Beware of creating a culture or an aura
around you where people don't want to deal with you. He said some alarming some element shuddered.
And Nassim Antartica who knows it deeper, actually, the worst of people are those who people leave
off giving advice to because they don't want to deal with their foul mounts. I don't even want to
say anything to that person. Yeah, I know they have that. But I just don't want to deal with their
temper. I'd rather that person sink themselves, because I don't want to deal with them. Don't be a
		

			person who creates an aura around you where we don't want to give that person we'll see.
		

			I don't want to talk to my father, I don't want to talk to my mother. I don't want to talk to my
husband. I want to talk to my wife, my brother, my sister, my friend, my colleague, I don't want to
give them a car because I don't want to set them off. If people have to walk around eggshells around
you then that's something for you to assess and say why is it that people don't approach me and give
me nasiha directly what am I doing wrong that maybe I don't invite that Naseeha and the greatest
person in that regard save their own model the Allah Tada and and I think about it when you think
humility, sometimes you think broken, disgraced, those are all model the Allahu Anhu evoke any level
		

			of disgrace in your mind. None. None. The manifestation of mental other and then out of
		

			that whoever humbles himself for Allah, Allah raises them on the Allahu Anhu used to say, Rahim
Allah whom an added layer up may Allah have mercy on the person who guides me to my faults. May
Allah bless that person who comes to me and who tells me Hey, I noticed this, whether it's a servant
or a king, whether it's a colleague, whether it's one of the great companions, or someone who's
unknown, even a non Muslim family member or a stranger, when someone would tell our model the Allah,
you know, some form of advice, he took it, and he would celebrate that person. Why because he wanted
everyone to know when you have advice for almoradi Allah Tala annual go give him advice. He wants
		

			it. And subhanAllah you think about the day and age that we live in, you know, people pay loads of
money, for leadership classes and assessments and all of these things, which, by the way, are good
for you. Not saying they're not good for you. But one of the reasons why we feel comfortable
receiving harsh critical advice from complete strangers is because we don't feel threatened by those
people. Right? So I can have a stranger that you know, assesses me over 30 minutes or whatever it
is, I put in something into a system and then tells me all these things that are flaws that I need
to correct but I don't feel threatened by that person.
		

			What if, what if your ego doesn't feel threatened by the people around you? who know you best and
who could be giving you that critical mercy? What if you disarm? What if you put that ego away?
Subhanallah what would happen in your life, people that don't need you to fill out a 30 minute
assessment? They've got three years with you or 30 years with you where they could give you some
let's see how about yourself and maybe they're not experts, but they know you better than those
experts do. And there's value to what they would be able to say to you and I want to inshallah to
Allah and with this because it's important when I keep on saying renew a culture of advice around
		

			you give an you know give an opening a constant opening for people to give no see how to to seek
nasiha from people. One of the reasons why that becomes so important is because we change we change
the law see her I might have needed a year ago. I might need a completely different I'll see her
now. We change. It's not like you get to a point where you no longer need
		

			he'd advice, circumstances change, and then we change sometimes with those circumstances in ways we
can't see. And they'll tell you in psychology that in our mind somewhere, there's always a
perception that we're still that innocent child. And maybe we're not. Maybe we're not. And because
we change, we need people's advice to be constant. So it can detect those changes early on. We want
people to notice it early in us when they start to see that change and to feel invited to say to us,
you know, my brother, my sister, my friend, I just, you know, I noticed this and I wanted to point
it out to you and you say, Zack, Allah O'Hara, thank you so much for that. It's panela you'll find
		

			yourself even taking advice from their children talking about not feeling threatened, not having a
fragile ego, you know, to be able to say to your children, give me no say Ha, let's have a culture
of advice and exchange together. And this is where we find Subhanallah that a person can grow out of
an experience rather than be completely taken off track by you want someone to intercept a temporary
circumstantial flaw that before it becomes a permanent characteristic flow. You want someone to
intercept and intervene at an early stage where it's a temporary circumstance rather than a
permanent character detriments May Allah Subhana Allah protect us from that. And he said Rahim Allah
		

			to Allah, our beloved robotic ly Azhar to the model early human mouth Matabeleland for either one
and the whole Kadima for Caja Hill. A person remains to be a knowledgeable person so long as they
are seeking knowledge. Once a person feels like they have reached the place of knowledge, then they
have reached the place of complete ignorance. Instead, replace follow their L with Paula nasiha.
Here seeking good advice sticking is to Shara from people once we stopped seeking that growth and
seeking that advice from people around us, then we may indeed become permanently relegated to our
own misconstrued perceptions of ourself May Allah subhanaw taala protect us from self delusion Allah
		

			Allah Amin, a practical tip that I'm going to give to everyone in sha Allah to Allah, you have an
assignment, this Juma, which is this week in sha Allah to Allah this week and preferably within the
next few days, I want you to go to to people that are very close to you. And I want you to invite
them to give you sincere advice to people that are close to you and maybe that you think will give
you advice that you might not want to hear but to people that you go to and you push them and if
they ask you why you're acting that way say that it was a job assignment and I had to do so but if
you have to, you know call someone bring someone you know from far away go to someone and say I need
		

			Nasi. How what do you think I could do to better myself? What are some changes you've noticed in me?
How can I be a better character? May Allah subhanaw taala grant us the best of character and allow
us to be close to our prophets lie Selim in this life and character and close to him and for those
who are either Allahumma Amin Furukawa, or stuff like that accompany certain Muslim infrastructure
for Rahim.
		

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