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Omar Suleiman

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10 Essential Tips
The holiest month of the year is nearly upon us! What can we do to make this the most spiritually productive and fulfilling Ramadan we’ve ever had? Join our panel of speakers as they offer 10 practical tips to make the most of Ramadan this year.

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all right and on that note sound like everyone Oh bless me I'm gonna say out

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loud I mean whatever one eight that a lot I mean

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a lot most of us have them about a copy photo so you can

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sell them I knew he was like a seven to seven cuz he had a lot I can feel the Ramadan spirits it's right around the corner and here we are and the doors of Allah's mercy be the night Allah which are always open and will be flung open inshallah Tata for us as we get into this month. And what's always exciting about Ramadan in general is that there's so much beneficial content to get us prepared now that's one of the blessings of Allah subhana wa tada that there's so much out there to get us prepared. One of the things I'm really excited about for this month in particular, is the connection that we will develop with the Quran, which we'll talk about in the course of this webinar

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in sha Allah Tada. And it's just exciting to see how many people are going to be doing

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overviews and summaries, you know, inshallah, Tada. We'll be doing one every night starting tomorrow night

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at 10pm, Eastern live and just reflecting summarizing, reflecting on every visit, over the next 30 nights, I saw my shot lush as a probably has one that he's going to be doing every day. I know Sheikh Mohammed is Chanel, he's going to have his gems every single day, Michelle also, she has seen nor so many beautiful opportunities for people to connect with, and uncover the content and review the plan. And I know I just mentioned a handful, many local massages. So again tomorrow night in Charlotte Tyler at 10pm. Eastern, we start every night and Charlotte's either reflecting on wonders of the app. And with the Ramadan prep webinar that we have tonight, it's going to be a little bit of

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a different webinar, inshallah. So Hamdulillah, I'm joined by my esteemed colleagues who represent a diversity of backgrounds, in terms of the expertise that they bring to the table. And each one of them has put together two points out of the 10 points that we're going to share with you all tonight and share lots of data and have a conversation about about how to practically have the best llama bond possible this year. And I know that some people think it's crazy when you say the best animal but trust me, I'm not happy about that, about the massages being closed. Actually just you know, somehow I went to my messenger for something and it felt so eerie and strange, and I'm not happy

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about it. Certainly none of us would be happy that the houses of a loss of hundreds out are close to us right now. But the mercy of Allah subhanaw taala is surely available to us. And it is a unique opportunity. That doesn't mean we have to say it's ideal because certainly it's not an ideal situation. But it's a unique opportunity but isn't it tada to connect to a lot in a very different way this year in sha Allah with everything that's around so we're grateful to Allah subhana wa tan that he even allows us to live to see this time and I want to remind everyone of how many people have passed away in the recent weeks right how many people were saying a lot of the living out

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Ramadan Oh Allah allow us to see them alone and did not live to see this Hold on. Do you think that they would be talking about you know, oh, well, Ramadan is going to be spent at homes we have to pray tada we had home or was it just a lot more of a living at home alone. And so when we asked a lot of parents out till now because we're not yet there, a lot of that does not hold on, Oh Allah allow us to see it on hold on weather in Chicago. So that is the Dominican if you're grateful I will increase you so be grateful to Allah subhanaw taala if he allows you to have the opportunity to see it all along, and to worship Him, even if it's in a very unique fashion, in this unprecedented time.

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And heaven did he laugh at the mercy of a lot that he's kept this alive? through this and and shut up. It allows us to see this month of Ramadan. You know, somehow less Some people ask me I posted something about my mother, may Allah have mercy on her. And she did 14 cuttings. And in her last year

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a few people ask me When did she pass away before the next level bomb it was actually five days before the next call. So she didn't live to see the next level down just five days before the next level done a lot of parents out It took her back and I pray that Eliza didn't accept all of her deeds and forgave her. And, and I said what an incredible Ramadan to meet Allah with so whatever it is, don't assume that this is a normal dawn we're going to catch this year and then next year, you know, we'll get back into massages who has who's assured you that you're going to have another year of Ramadan in the must right. Just be grateful if you have this one sacred opportunity do the best

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that you possibly can and express that that longing for a lot as origin. And it could be indeed the most rewardable Ramadan for you and for us me a loss of hundreds add make it as such. Before I hand it off in Charlotte's Island, we start the conversation. If you look at the link, you're going to see a an opportunity to start to hold on with Subbu.

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I want to emphasize to everyone that we need to keep our institutions alive in Charlottetown our nonprofit institutions alive whether they

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relief one, the demo ones, the education ones, do your best and show all types of support these institutions through this difficult time as well, because we need all of these institutions now more than ever. And I want to invite you all to start Ramadan, strong and shuttle to Ireland with a donation to European Institute handle that everything we provide is free and accessible. And we were looking back at what we've just produced over the last month, over 100 videos, over 20 articles, Michelle, lots of articles, webinars, infographics, animations do out booklet that was downloaded almost 10,000 times the E book itself, that was prepared was downloaded almost 10,000 times.

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And we're grateful to you all for interacting with us throughout this time, because that's what gave us the strength to continue was the fact that the community kept on, you know, kept on saying this is helping them through this and we want it to be there for you as a community right now. And inshallah Tada, we're going to be counting on your support as many institutions throughout Ramadan. So I'm asking you to start your Ramadan and show a little bit of South Africa. The donation that you make today, the pledge that you make today at that link will be charged on Friday evening. So it'll catch both those that are starting Ramadan on Friday, and if people happen to be starting on

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Saturday, as well, inshallah, it'll either be the first day going into the second night or the first night in Charlottetown. So please do click that link and shall at some point, and, and, and make a pledge to start this off. So I'm joined hamdulillah by should have the dual SR system of peak Sr najwa. Our show Homer Hussein, Dr. If not emerge, he is located on to all of you for being with us tonight. I'm also joined with my cup, this is my right hand, if I drink with this hand and it shows is my left hand. It's because of the mirroring effect. Okay, so I don't know what it's showing for you guys. But it's my right hand. We're not changing this in shape. Homer Hussein might drink with

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his left hand, but I will never drink with my left hand. And

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with that being said, why don't we start with you say Homer Hussein.

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But you can't take a shot back at me, I'm letting you go first.

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10 tips each each one of you is prepared to so I'm gonna start with you. So I'm going to shuffle to either give one of your 10 tips and Chatelet to either and everyone else, feel free to jump in and out of reflection.

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Shout out off man and I think Medina staying with that. So let me tell you a little story. So I'm an elementary school in beautiful Anaheim, California. And every day I would take my lunch to school, because when you're brown you brown bag it. So I take my lunch to school, which included such delicacies as kebab sandwiches, which are about 90% bread before you actually get to the meat in the middle.

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It included tuna sandwiches, which have sort of a repugnant smell and about 11:15am or so. And everyone's kind of looking around, like, Where's that coming from? And you're pretending like you don't know who it is. So our teacher is talking about a topic. And I'll tell you what the topic is in a second. Because I did not bring my lunch I forgot my lunch, my mom would get up. She prepared everything. All I had to do was take the lunch to school. So we get to lunch, you know, you go into the table. And I realized I forgot my lunch. Maybe the only time in my life that I forgotten my lunch maybe one other time. It was very rare, if not non existent. So I see my teacher coming out

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and she is fuming.

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And she comes in she takes a brown bag and she slams it on the on the table in front of me. And she says that your mom dropped off your lunch. Personal Responsibility. And that's what she had been speaking about. Now, as Muslims, we don't believe in like coincidence, right? Everything happens for a reason. That was what she was stressing to us the entire day about doing personal responsibility. And I go and I forget my lunch that time. So it was really her opportunity to kind of let me have it. And when I think about this little move on, and specifically the thought only prayer, I think about personal responsibility. We have been attending therapy for I don't know, five years, 10

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years, 30 years, 40 years, 50 years, many, many years of therapy are under our belt, but this year is going to be different. And we really have to take the initiative to make it an experience which is going to be worthwhile throughout the Koran. Those who start something or take the initiative have incredible reward WhatsApp, you're gonna save your own without equal makara boom. The first the first. Those are the ones who are closest to Allah subhana wa dawn and many other verses we can quote about rushing to good What is rushing to good saying taking the initiative. And so specifically when it comes to thought only one practical suggestion, I would I would say is to have

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the thoroughly prayer set as if you are going to pray it in the muster that means

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Every day, say 945.

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If you're one person in the household or your 10 people in the household that prayer starts at 945. You don't delay it because the dinner went a little bit long. If someone is late, they're late. And let me also add, you know, sometimes we think like, well, if you're single, you know, it's, it's easy, and it's more difficult with the family everybody has on tests. Sometimes it's more dangerous when you're single, because you fool yourself into thinking you have a lot of time. And sometimes people with family, you know, they only have a little bit of time, but they're really efficient in that little amount of time. Now, they all have their challenges. That's not my point.

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To decide which is more difficult than the other, but everyone has sort of their their patterns. So take the initiative, as a family, as an individual with your, with your friend group most of the group and pray that are we on time. So let's say that you set the time 945, you pray, you're eight Raka or you coordinate it with the reminder from your local machine, you'll clean second local mustard first and shall listen to the reminder and then continue with your prayer. And I really think this is and we've seen research on this that we have, you know, 86% of people said they would read more and this year than last, I mean some kind of law, right? To be able I think it's a great

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gift. Sometimes we make it like no the reading the title, or something. It's just like all or nothing, either I've memorized the entire Quran and I received like a beautiful party or I can't read any of it. Where is this elitism coming from? So for us to be able to have the opportunity to recite it, remember that the one who stumbles gets double the reward as the profits on the minus and I'm told us rotate amongst family members or you know, take the most have and read from different parts. Especially if you're reading the meaning or reading it if you understand the meaning reading more about it in the daytime, it's going to add more in the nighttime and really stick to that

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schedule and inshallah take that initiative to make it a Ramadan which is unique and inshallah unforgettable and full of reward.

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Mashallah, so open floor, does anyone want to jump in with their next tips that builds off of that?

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I think I can, because what basically what Shama Hussein is talking about is routine, and creating that maintaining that routine, creating structure, a lot of things that, you know, we've been talking about, and hopefully, people have been implementing the past few weeks, right. And so when it comes with setting routine with setting you know, times for things One great example here being today, we have course, you want to think about all the other goals you're trying to achieve right? So you said we should be inshallah goal for everyone. A goal to sort of recreate that sense of community that opportunity to engage in in, you know, send up prayers, pray, like the companions

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prayed, pray.

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Okay.

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Yeah, so it's all about, you know, identifying what you want to be doing. So, if Tara was one of your goals, think about all the other goals you're doing. So if that's reading a certain amount of an if that's going to be, you know, doing your ticket in the morning, doing your scarf, so so the different dots of the prophets, I seldom used to say, whatever your goal is, now, when you're thinking about what you're going to be doing, and hopefully you've given this some thought already, because, you know, tomorrow's the big day, inshallah, for every goal that you've told yourself, you're going to do, whether it's you're praying every night, 24 hours, or eight hours or two,

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because if you told yourself, you're going to pay 200, if you told yourself, you're going to read a hutzpah, you're going to do a hotspot, and you're going to read one visit every single night. Every single goal that you've told yourself, think of a backup goal.

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So a lot of times people always tell me like to see me know, we had all these amazing goals. And then you know, after one day, I didn't meet any of my goals. And I thought to myself, what's the point I, you know, clearly can't manage, it clearly can't figure this out. So I, there's something wrong with me. And you know, whatever I'll try again next time. But when you have a goal, for example, let's say your goal is to read, you know, you're going to do a full custom of the plan, you're going to be looking out for, you know, cover to cover. So that means you have to read just every single day, if you have that goal. And you set out a backup goal of You know what, on the days

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that I'm busy, the days that I'm tired, the days that things just don't go the way I plan, my backup goal is to read five pages. It might not be as ambitious as is your big goal. But you're going to fall back on five pages. What happens when now you that real day, that's going to hit all of us, whether it's in the beginning of Ramadan, the middle or the end, where we're feeling tired or exhausted because of you know, whether it's family, whether it's responsibilities, work, whatever it is, those days are going to come along where you know, you might not have time to read the full 20 pages. So what's going to happen most of the time if we don't have that backup goal, well Today's a

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Right when taken out for the day, and you know, I'll try again tomorrow, I'll make up for it tomorrow, and then they start piling up their job. And so what happens is that that day goes by that that precious day and along goes by and you end up reading no plan, because you didn't have time to do the full 20. So when you set yourself that that smaller backup goal, the days that you're tired, the days that you, you know, again, that you're busy, you fall back on that those five pages, you know, five pages for some people might take just a few minutes. For some people, it might take longer, that the smaller goal that is small for you, right, you need to think about this personally

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entirely on your own. And so you fall back, what happens is now you're always going to be reading put on, so you're going to be achieving consistency, right. So there's not a single day that goes by that you're not meeting some level of either based on those goals that you've set. So you get that consistency, which the process of seven says is the best, you know, the best of the actions in the sight of loss and data are those that are small, those that are consistent, even if they're small, right. So don't diminish the act of reading five pages, if that's that feels little to you don't diminish the act of reading just an if, and if that feels little to you. Because at the end of the

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day, if you can manage doing that act consistently throughout the entire month, that is incredible in the state of Washington Tada. And so not only do you get consistency, but what happens when you miss a goal, you get that slump, like what I said earlier, like, man, I knew I couldn't do it. I set too high of goals. I'm just gonna try again next month, or Yeah, maybe this wasn't for me. I don't know what I was thinking. I didn't factor in how tired and all of these caffeine headaches are hitting in and, you know, so I'm just, you know, I sort of give up, right? But when you even when, when you fall back and even do those smaller goals, you think to yourself, you know what, at least I

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did something, I feel good. It triggers that cue that that reward feeling in your brain and tells you that to keep going. And the next day, that habit, again kicks back in because you've sensed that reward from the day before, and you can keep moving forward. And you know what, inshallah, that's not, it's still an opportunity to finish your Hutson or whatever your goal is, it might require you to push yourself a little harder. In the last 10 nights, it might require you to finish off what you're doing after Ramadan, which is great, it's never a bad thing, start a habit and continue it out. That's, that's the real The ultimate goal we're trying to do. So for every goal, think about

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every goal you plan on having and if it's it's like what shall we say we had mentioned, if it's about printed every single, you know, night at the same time, great. And the days that you might feel exhausted or whatever it is, have that backup plan, whether it's praying a shorter revise, if it's praying, you know, different timings, whatever, let's stick to the same timing so we don't ruin ruin his tip. But think about you know, finding different sources, less likes shorter sutras lesser gods, whatever it is just be consistent. And do not diminish the incredible blessing that a small but consistent Alex can have.

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I actually want to jump in somehow with the tip that I typically it builds off of that.

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And to make it even more practical after Ramadan also, because you should have a monthly core angle regardless. And that's one of the things you want to take from Ramadan is now having a monthly core angle, right. And the best time to start your monthly cold and goal after Ramadan is literally chawan. Because if you let that month pass, then you're in trouble, right. And that's the blessing of just like you have to fast not have to but it's an it's a fast those six days and show up. After it all done. It keeps you in the habit of fasting, it's easy to continue that habit after same is true for all about that, whether it's beyond or it's orange.

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And one of the things that that I find very helpful, I'm talking about my own personal practice, is to put two days put a goal that fits within two days, but don't let it slip beyond three. So let me give it let me put it this way. Let's say that my goal is to read a juice a day. And there's one day that I wasn't able to complete that.

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Well, that means that I'm going to give myself a maximum of three days to finish my goal. I'll actually look at it in terms of blocks. So I need to finish three jobs within three days. Instead of I need to finish my job every single day. That way I don't completely relinquish it. And if I find that it's unreasonable in the long term, one of the you know you have to understand shavon always will come to you and try to take struggling practice and make it no practice they'll still try to come to you when you have low faith and make it no fun. Right? So you're not you're not doing this just collapse and give it up ditch it whether it's post had your post Ramadan or post any heightened

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time spirituality. So we adjusting is actually the center because the profits is that I'm told, I'm loving I will be alone will not Don't be like the person who says I used to break down the dead photographer pm and then he just leaves it all together, right readjust to a more reasonable goal. But don't ditch the goal altogether. So that we got two tips so far. First one from shakaama her saying take personal responsibility. take the initiative to establish structure during Ramadan

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Those who take the initiative to do good reap the most reward. set a schedule to pray totally at the same time every day as if you were in the masjid right so that [???] Homer Hussein's tip number one. Second tip from sister test name set manageable goals. So for every small goal, have a smaller backup goal. That way on the days you're tired or busy, you can fall back on your smaller goal. Rather than doing nothing at all. This will allow you to be consistent and not hit the I can't meet any of my goals. So why do a slump excellently set by the way to everyone inshallah, tada, we're going to compile all 10 of these and release them in sha Allah tada in written form tomorrow

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morning, inshallah Tada, so that you can have them written as well, and shall so we'll talk about them tonight. And elaborate, anyone want to reflect on that or jump in with the next tip?

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I can. So one of my favorites tips as it relates to consistency it relates to pacing, is self care. And I think when we think of Ramadan, self care is one of the last things we would ever think about. Because Ramadan is a time of sacrifice, it's a time that you're sacrificing sleep this time, you're sacrificing money and food. And so I think with when we think about self care, what comes up a lot of myths, that has to be something indulgent has to be something extravagant. And that's not what self care is at all. Now, self care during the rest of the year, is different than self care during Ramadan. But I definitely feel like self care has a lot to do with pacing oneself being able to have

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goals consistently, instead of like starting out very strong, and then not doing anything after.

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And so what would self care look like during Ramadan? It is, it's different for each person, right? Because each person will rest or feel better in different ways. So there's like two components to self care one, it makes you feel better, but two, it's good for you. Right. So if it makes you feel better, but it's not good for you, it's not really self care. So with Ramadan, it can be saying no to over committing yourself. Like if you get into the habit of you know signing yourself up for different groups for different

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tasks that take you away from perhaps reading the Quran or or being with your family, that this would be a good opportunity for you to do self care practice self care by saying, you know, this is a time that I'm going to take a break. And then finally, you're getting back a lot of time that you could be using to propel yourself forward in terms of good deeds or connecting to Allah, it can be saying, after five o'clock, I'm not checking any work emails,

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it can be saying no social media, or if there's someone that you know, every time you talk to on the phone that you're going to be stuck for two hours, or they're going to back by Look, I'm going to try to take a break. So self care isn't always eating your favorite snack or do it or watching a movie or something like that. It's finding things to to help you rejuvenate. And to bring you forward. Another thing that another good self care tip during Ramadan is like taking a nap. So taking a nap is actually sooner. And so the research shows that a good nap is usually about like 30 minutes. If it's 40 to 60, you tend to be groggy, and then there's another window from I think 90 to

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120 minutes that you can feel well rested. So it's useful to research to find out the best amount of time to not, but

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if you take a nap during the day, then you're more likely to do turn away, you're more likely maybe to do to hedge it. So that act of self care was good for your body and gave you rest. But then also it gave you the ability to do more good deeds later.

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Other acts of self care, you know, I think we all love food, I am some and I definitely and I shouldn't overeat sometimes. But something that I've been telling myself recently is, you know, it feels really good right now, but I know like half an hour from now I'm not going to feel good. And so that is an act of self care telling yourself, okay, eat, you know, enjoy it, but don't go overboard, because then you're gonna feel lethargic, you're gonna feel really crummy after. So these are self care tips, and then everyone can just kind of reflect on what works best for them. And you know, just have a few things. It could be practice daily, it doesn't have to be something that takes

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a long amount of time. It doesn't have to be something that, you know, takes you away from your family. I know parents usually are like, well, where am I gonna find time for self care, there's always There's always time. It can be maybe 10 minutes before fetcher. Like while your kids are asleep. It could be maybe after everybody prays to where he can sneak off into the corner if it's grand, whatever it is for you. And then you're like, this is my self care. This is where I'm going to kind of take care of myself and it becomes a practice a regular habit. And then when you do that inshallah, you will find yourself

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Have more momentum more strength to be able to go the long distance than to burn out early on. inshallah

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that's how long he talks about self care in in the month of Ramadan and pacing yourself and taking a nap what a mercy from a log that the best 10 nights or the last 10 nights. So, you know, I was thinking about from the charbon webinar when some of them like having the knowledge of Rahim Allah to Allah He said that one of the wisdoms of fasting and Siobhan is that by the time Ramadan comes around, the pain of physically fasting or the struggle of physically fasting is gone, and you're only tasting the sweetness of the fasting, right so that the habit of fasting is there now you're just reaping the reward. Now, let's say you didn't fast any of Siobhan. It's okay at this point to

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think about Alright, well, the first 20 days give me a chance to really adjust all of this right, just my sleep schedule. Get my naps in get over my cat caffeine withdrawals, which I have a lot of stuff, you're gonna see me groggy check up on the door, you're gonna have to carry this for the first few nights and 3430 because I'm going to be I'm still going to be adjusting the caffeine withdrawals and stuff like that, you know, you get that first shot right after your thought to be clear of coffee. All right, nothing, how long? It takes some time at the coffee to settle in, right.

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So I come over here. All right, who's next?

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If I may, just for anyone wants to comment. Yeah, I just want to you know, I had a student. There was a brother who in our early studies, you know, when you're kind of learning the getting the language down, it's really difficult. So he wasn't the best of students. But Mashallah, he would never miss the sun on the afternoon now. I mean, he was

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like, you know, he wouldn't really review very much he didn't do very well in his studies. But he was he was on that son. So Mashallah, it can really be valuable for us was that was that you shift paid? Who knows?

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All right, so on that note, if anyone wants to dis their students or take the fourth tip, so our third tip was focus on self care, Ramadan's about sacrifice, but that doesn't mean that self care should be eliminated. Like saying no to extra commitments, taking breaks, eating right can bring you closer to a loved one used correctly. So a doula as soon as to who is soon take advantage of those those those things that Allah has given us to power us through inshallah. All right, who's next? open floor elymus Milla ago,

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I'll build upon what was mentioned earlier about routines. And I think a lot of Ramadan, when we think about it, people set these goals for the amount of code and the read and the amount of takasi set forth or UI, one of the things that we don't often think about is the amount of code and that we study. And this is something which the the A and the affiliate De Bruyne for an illusion of loss is not put on the do people not ponder over the code and or their locks upon their hearts. So um, my, my tip is that this month of Ramadan is a boot camp for spiritual reformation. And the curriculum is the poor app. And so I wants to really think about like looking at the Quran as a book to study, not

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only to remember to to reap the reward of his recitation, and I say this because the panel in the modern age when we speak about the quarter and and your talk, and you have, like lectures on the program, speak a lot about like the wisdom of Allah, if and like the legal wisdom, we speak sometimes about the scientific miracles, but one of the things that the Sahaba that really got to them, was the literal beauty of the Quran, the linguistic beauty of the program. And so whether one is a native Arabic speaker or not, we can still get this by reading the language that we understand and studying it in a language that we understand. So if we go to the Quran, and we and we think

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about the artistic expression, that the way that the verses and the chapters are tied together, and the Quran is not the textbook, and that's something which is amazing that it's not like a chapter on, you know, salon and then chapter on fasting and a chapter on hudge. You know, it's intertwined in these amazing ways where there's some pros, but then it goes into a poetic style, it rhymes laws are intertwined with stories, stories with metaphors, conversations. And the point is that the style of the poor and is meant to really captivate the reader. And it's about moving the hearts, the minds, the ears, in in a way that one builds this like deep connection with it. And so for this

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month of Ramadan, I want us to think about that. And I want to exemplify that in a story that's published from the Sierra that it always gets to me because the story actually of a non Muslim story of a Walid bin moveo he was one of the leaders of Quraysh and this is a man you know, who was a staunch enemy of Islam, and he went to negotiate with the Prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam trying to get him to kind of give up Islam. And after the profits are slumber cited numerous IR to him.

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he remarked he went back to his you know, like the, you know, his his his face came back completely like white. He went back like a blue

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And the other leaders have perish. And the people remarked this one will lead walked away. You know, we're worried that you know that people if he leaves this, like, you know the religion of his people, and everyone else is going to leave. And so what he actually told people was that what shall I say about the end? Because I swear that no one knows more about poetry than me, neither about its rhythms or styles. But he said, I swear that what Mohammed Salah Salaam says resembles nothing of poetry. Indeed, in his speech, there's a sweetness, it has an air of splendor about it destroys and obliterates anything else. Well, it is the most elevated of speech. So this is what a non Muslim

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said when he heard the Quran. And of course, Abuja has buttered him up and said, Don't come on, don't give in and he didn't. But my challenge and my tip is that can we interact with the Quran, this Ramadan in a way that we would say something like that, that we would say this quarter and really is better than any poetry? It is sweet. It is splendid. It obliterates any other type of speech, it is lofty. And so how can we do this perhaps this Ramadan, perhaps setting a goal not just in how much you read in the Arabic, or how much you pray, but how much you study, pick one sutra that you love, I know, online in some of our culture, so with Ramadan, sort of Yes, seeing the all

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love it, and over the Havas, you know, we're always there on edge because they know that there's 100 people in the desert who can correct them on any slip, and they'll sue us. But how many people know that the seed of that soda, which they know So, so well, the recitation of it. So if you were to pick one sort of that, you know, and so I'm just going to read at the center of this inside and out from one of my favorite scholars, it could be of course, reading a book, it could be following it on a lecture. But, or even a just sometimes I tell people that maybe we have a goal one just this year, imagine in 30 years, if Allah gives you that chance to live, you would have studied the entirety of

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the Quran. So it could be that as a lofty goal or a thematic study, maybe you're curious about the stories of the prophets in the poor and that's what I'm going to dig deep into in my spare time, or I asked about the Day of Judgment. So my tip really is just focus on how can you deeply engage personally so that this quarter and becomes something deeper than simply something that you get the reward of the proof that you recited and of course allows generous you know without reward, but inshallah it'll be even more valuable if we leave this month with an attachment to it that that continues after this beautiful month,

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Zack locker and somehow a lot when it comes to reflecting on the poor and you know, some people ask how many items which is good if you set a high goal for yourself on how much of the poor and you want to finish you should have a husband goal if you can, you should have a goal to listen to lectures about the poor and and connect deeper with the poor and the point is to be engaged with the court and in this month, right? So it's not necessarily one way to be engaged with the court and but make sure that it's diversified, right so your point is well taken especially in Ramadan, where sometimes we feel like our backs are against the wall with the recitation goals that we're not

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taking the time to reflect and not taking the time to really engage the poor and at a deeper level and this is a great opportunity to do so. And as you're talking I was just thinking about the her father who leads Halloween so I don't know about you guys. I love Tuttle we're one year doing cover to cover and it was miserable and I feel bad for all of those that have had to do so you know leading leading total we found that have to do there probably some of them are happy that some of us are quarantine because the guys that always correct them you know sooner yeah seen and just I'm not like everyone in the message knows what they are no, you don't have to jump in if you make a mistake

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on an ad from 10th row so I know some of those are happy to have that pressure relief, but I know that all of us are longing for the most. But so how I actually would often tell people that the closest I ever felt to the quarter and that year was in shutdown of that year because I had to review the Quran and make sure that I had it well enough preserved enough to where I felt comfortable enough reciting it and I felt such a deep now Ramadan was was stressful but if you're a half if somehow alone you talk about people that engage the the father engage the poor and Ramadan in a spectacular level right they're reviewing it all day long. You know to make sure that they can

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deliver it at night May Allah reward all of those that are going to be reciting you know through some of the live streams online not to follow them in salon but to enjoy their recitation and so on as they recite online for their various massages and things of that sort. So your tip shift home or shift doctor if man was to reflect over the

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last console rewards you and to engage it at a deeper level. Anyone want to comment on that or take on the next tip inshallah? Yeah, I like to comment on that. I mean, the Quran is something that's

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it's beautiful, you know, and Cipolla, just like you mentioned, the month of Chabad is a preparation. And, you know, the Quran says upon a lie, y'all

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I was reading you know, some, some texts on the Koran and just contemplating over it and you know when it comes to the, the depth of you know, there's like a just 30 parts of the Quran and he just has his band like to what they call groups or his and in each his is divided in eighths right? There are some scholars such as such as slick chef Sam Tamia, he doesn't hold the opinion of memorizing the Quran in that fashion. He holds the opinion of you should memorize the Quran based on the sore or based on the subject matter. Like for instance, you know, there's one part with it with it with a hit with a portion of the head starts when walks on that two minute Latino turkey tab right on that,

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that's in the middle of talking about the types of people that you can marry those that are lawful those that are not lawful. So shakin Assam Tamia, and he holds the opinion that if you memorize the Quran, it should be more subject based or based on the surah. And he gives some a thought from the seller, and how they used to memorize the Quran. As we know, you know, men can enter jobs, if they wouldn't leave past 10 verses until they understood the manner and some kind of law when you look at it that way, we think of him the Quran, but it's more of him than money. It's more pricing the meanings for you to actualize that in your life and the goal is actualization of the crime II type

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one mubaraka wi T, we believe

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that it's a book that we have brought down to your blessing book.

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For you, for the people, for the for the for the preponderance of to ponder the meaning and then for the people of remembrance of ponderings to remember and recall. So it's something that is best the best situation is memorizing the mind and the meanings but not to take anything away from the hercog that's the other thing I wanted to capitalize on too. And I'm so glad to come at you touched on that, you know cuz our matching where we're going to have on our Facebook is different Cora reading the same juice of that day, every other hour starting from lower. So from like, two to three is the first juice. Four to five is the same juice. seven to nine is the same just from different camera,

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right? And I told him I said no, this is a stress relief man because I know a lot of times I can imagine I can't imagine the stress you know, it's not the human rights in the crime you're going in to recite in front of people but you know, your family's behind you Your parents are said my son, my, my, my great grandfather's third cousins son is going to be the cross. I'm going six miles to this Masjid. Nope, no question. Right. So a lot of pressure and I you know, in my master's, I talked to them a lot of pressure. So I'm glad you touched on that, you know, just make to offer them inshallah, but I told them, You know, I say, I know this is the last stress relief for you, but we

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still got to put you to work and show us how to get the edge you

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know, that that's the beautiful thing and just with the pondering over the is, you know, is reading also how they used to repeat the verses over and over and over and over again, like, cite him in Japan or the law or the law and he would he would repeat the verse what's up will Yeoman tour gentlemen a fee in Allah

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clear the day that you will be returned the passive form you will be returned to a loss of kind of more time. And he mentioned you know, a booth I've mentioned that. He said this biller will actually moderate that he said this verse about 20 plus times, you know, that he would say this verse over and over and over and over again, just to think about the verse, you know, and that's something that will really help us in Sharla Todd,

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just to touch on that point you're talking about here, she was meant for that. I guess I'll mention one of the points that I have here is just to to to challenge yourself to change

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and it's primarily you know, really looking from the aspect of like I mentioned here every day and if tar there's something uncomfortable you know choosing something uncomfortable this Ramadan one thing that I always tell a lot of converts you know, people that convert to Islam is is that you know your life is a Muslim you can consider it a change or an alteration but it's it's it should serve as you're starting a process you know even though you embrace Islam it wasn't event know that it's a process this being a Muslim in general Ramadan, we should look at it as a catalyst not as a catalyst for a new beginning in some habit that we're mentioning whether this is the Quran or

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whether it's even the fact of setting goals you know, cuz some people are not used to finishing things right? You know, there's a couple who I met when I was in Medina some brother I mean one brother He graduated from Medina he was like, upon law my fifth my kids can finally look at me and say that Baba finished something

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he because he said I never really finished anything in my life. You know, so having a goal of making goals in your life and trying to reach that you know, so that change is what we should look forward to. Okay, this Ramadan is going to be a cattle

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It's not going to be an event to where, okay, I'm going to do this thing, Ramadan, but I'm back to the old meat, right? The real meat, right, we should look at one habit that we can handle and we can manage and have a vision of what we want to see the next shot ban coming since coming into the next Ramadan. So, welcome uncomfortability

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Welcome, you know, the stressful moments that are going to come and let that serve as a catalyst to push you to find something in yourself that you didn't even know existed.

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And what you will need are those family members that are around you at home, you know, that will push you that'll set the alarm and maybe even your child, sometimes you know, your child saying, you know, Baba, you didn't wake up at 3am, like you said, you're gonna wake up, you know, it's a beautiful, a beautiful reminder for you, you know, just okay, you say Bauer, you know, I'm the father and the mother, you know, I want to set this goal and I said to the whole family now to push myself, it's going to be an uncomfortable moment. So we're looking at this, even with this whole quarantine being at home, may Allah make it easy on all of us, you know, inshallah, this transition.

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It's a transition. But it's a process even within this transition. But when we look at the son of the prophet SAW some hedra was a transition. I mean, it was, it was something that they had to changing of the Qibla You know, a lot of things that we had to do to change. That's what we should welcome. Welcome the uncomfortable.

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That leads to a progressive change in sha Allah tala. So if we have the correct intention in Sharla, this quarantine, as I do with my son, we call it quarantine. And in Benin, Ramadan will be something that we all benefit from inshallah, and use it as a catalyst for for a positive change. Instead of something that we look at as a threatening challenge, so called quarantine and dienen. Yes, sir. I mean, I think for an teaming, or anti sounds cooler, I don't know who coined it.

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yourself. I think that sounds a lot cooler than what you just said, I'm just gonna, I'm just gonna put that out there. But I'm glad I'm gonna be co hosting on 3430 view, Mashallah, because you're gonna bring the energy every night and

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look here for those collections. And I'm glad you talked about the pressure of the fall off. That lead total, we, I cannot imagine what it would be like to be the Imam or the half of this leading total, we had to Homer Hussein's mustard and making a mistake, and then having him pull you to the side and reprimand you, I think it would be savage and vicious. And, you know, May Allah forgive him for what he's done to the Father his message over the last few years, I can't imagine I'm gonna have to talk to them. And I think we need to bring in a mental health expert. So Sister najwa, you're up.

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I don't want to give you a chance to hit back at me. So

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that's what we got. Let's move on to the next tip, inshallah. We'll keep it moving. Another tip that I really like is that is practicing mindfulness. And when we think about mindfulness, a lot of times people associate that with, like, sitting there doing deep breathing, or think thinking about nothing like me, meditating, and supplemental

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mindfulness, what it is, it's focusing on the present. It's not thinking about the future, what's to come, which a lot of times gives us anxiety. And it's not thinking about the past, because a lot of times we look back and there's regret, but it's just sitting there in the moment. And what's in front of me what's in my environment, what is my body feel like? That is mindfulness. And we can take the practice of mindfulness to decrease our focus and Ramadan, to help us make intention, intentions with our good deeds. And it can be also a way to like to increase the the the feeling of the spirit of Ramadan. So for, for example, when

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when you wake up for supper, and you're sitting there and the house is dark, and

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it can be a very, it can be a task that you just don't even give any thought, like you're just sitting, you might even be tired, like you're not even paying attention. But if you were to practice mindfulness in that moment, it would be sitting there and be like,

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handle, I have this food. I mean, it could be toast, or it can be a date, or it could be whatever. The date is soft, and it tastes sweet. And the house is quiet. It's always noisy, but right now it's quiet. And I have a house and it's warm, and it's sitting there and just being aware right in that moment what you are doing. And when you sit there and you're mindful of just everyday tasks, it can cultivate a sense of gratitude. hamdulillah I have this home hamdulillah like even if I don't have a delicious

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You're like I have, you know, water that I can, I can drink and it can nourish me. And so being there in that moment, can can make you feel closer to alum, it can make you feel more in the spirit of Ramadan, okay, I'm about to start my fast, I'm getting excited. So you're taking like a very mundane task, you're turning into something meaningful. Another example, you know, probably something that a lot of the parents can relate to, is you might be sitting there with your child just passing time, you know, and sometimes, like later when the faster longer and you're like, Okay, how much how much more time how much more time. And so if you're mindful in that moment, you can

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kind of shift, you can say, Okay, I'm sitting here with my child, why don't we pull out a book, let me make my intention to teach my child something

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to be a good parent. And so now you took something from just passing time to now you can even get good deeds for it, because you made the intention for it. Now, instead of just passing time, you're spending quality time with your child, which is so important. And you're turning that experience into something meaningful, that maybe your child will remember five years from now. So it's taking these really, really small things, and making something meaningful out of them. You know, we talk a lot about CATIA and salaah, like paying attention to what you're citing paying attention to what you're doing. And to me, mindfulness reminds me of like, push your concentration outside of salon,

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it reminds me of that focus that, yes, we shouldn't be focused, of course, it's a lot. But it's really, it's a, it's a very empowering, it's a very wonderful feeling to feel focus outside. And that's what I feel like sometimes is really living is that you're not thinking about what's to come or what just happened, but you're just in that moment. And when you do that, when whether you're reading or spending time with your family, it just kind of transforms how you you do everything and it can bring so much more meaning and depth to the good deeds that you do throughout the Ramadan because you're mindful, okay, now I'm giving some of us what it means to take my wealth that I

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really spent a lot of time doing and now I'm giving it and it just takes everything to a much deeper levels of how long

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it was. I bless you. So that's Tip number six, I believe or was that five or six, right?

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Six, okay. So practicing mindfulness, and it can be a useful tool to maximize good deeds, increase focus, feel the spirit of Ramadan, a lot a few minutes of your day to thoughtfully recite the Quran or reflect on the blessings in your life Second Life so that ties into your other tip which is focusing on self care, right? So you can practice proper self care and enjoy your leisure time and enjoy your day Buddha. If you're not practicing mindfulness and European right so you got to have the balance between the two right so intensely napping, like showhome are saying students is only good if you intensely pray as well and meditate and and really maximize your good deeds and show us

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out all right, so I'm gonna hand it back to you and I've been taking too many shots at you not let you just to clarify it was actually was a classmate it wasn't a student.

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You want to name

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a doctor of non emergency by any chance

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because he opens us up together right? So was he sleeping and this is this is this is pretty awesome. Okay.

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So let me talk about something which which ties in the three things you just mentioned mindfulness, and, and the other two things that you mentioned. So, the most obvious thing that we give up in Milan, is food. It is rarely talked about to transform our lives or to get us closer to Allah subhana wa tada of all the things that we give up a lot didn't ask us like, you know, money Amanda has salatu salam. She was told not to speak right? Allah didn't tell us don't speak or don't work for certain amount of time. He told us to refrain from eat from food and drink and he didn't prohibited unconditionally. kulu washoku Allah 234 eat and drink, enjoy your food, but do not be

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excessive. And I just don't know how we can attain taqwa. Or how we can gain this closeness to Allah subhana wa Tada. If we have this obsession, and over consumption of food, it just does not make any sense. And I'll have to tell you something just between us and you know, the couple 1000 people listening or I'm actually kind of happy that we are not having the thoughts at the masjid not because I don't miss the 500 people there and you know, the atmosphere of the masjid. But because so much waste that I don't have to go

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announced a shout out to Valley Ranch for eliminating giving out water bottles. Michelle, I don't have to announce, please don't take the water bottles, if you're not going to finish them, we don't have to see the piles of food. I mean, it's just it. It just kills you to see that, right? We're in a community, we have many refugees, we have many people in need in the community, we don't need to like go very far. And just buckets of food just being thrown away. So that is not going to be there. And so while we are in our homes, we don't, we're not going to act like that, right. And so it's very, very important to be focused on that food, simply by reducing the quantity. So let's talk

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about mindful eating. Right mindfulness and eating. Take a breath. So I said to reduce food by 25%. I don't know what that means. Exactly. But just reduce it like I have never, ever in my life. Maybe you have I've never heard of anyone that died because they didn't have enough at a spa. I have never seen with weddings either. By the way, I've never ever come across that. Just reduce the amount of food if you think everyone needs to breads, just go with one and a half. Nothing is going to happen. And give up one of the foods which because really, I mean this why mom because it talks so much about the food, right? You cannot stand long hours in the prayer. If you're if you're you know, you

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have indigestion and you know, you just you physically feel very sick. So to give up just one unhealthy food. Maybe that's the cmosis Okay, maybe that's the sodas. I know, that's a tall ask. But odors, maybe but not so Moses, come on now.

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I can give you an alternative. You can actually bake this a Moses airfryer we

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give it? Yeah, exactly. You think so change is possible. So, but just really like just one thing. You know, so many of us we grew up in and we see members of the household spending all this energy to this is for a thought, you know, we had in our clothes of this. We had a program for a message the other day. And so one of my friends was on, dear brother, Chef Obaidullah Evans. And he said one year, he was talking with his wife. And he's like, you know, we need to get this for a thought. And we'd have this prepared for a thought and his daughter very young at the time, a little while, and she says, who is a thought?

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Who is this person you've been talking about? Every day you're talking about we need to prepare this and we need to and he said this was really a moment where we looked at each other like is this what we want our child to take? Right so innocent thinking about it like that. So just the obsession with 100 others know if third parties, the sooner you go to the bar party people are missing thoroughly, because just excessive eating so we don't have that this year, I think it's a golden opportunity to just eat a little bit less dial back remove one thing we shouldn't be eating, it's easier in groups. And you know, just to cut down just a little bit on the food, be mindful when eating it and

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inshallah that will lead to greater Eva which is which is the ultimate purpose of

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you know, somehow Allah teaching. I've taught him and hasn't been alive. That's obviously a summary Mufasa Mufasa with Dean rates.

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The invading mom was early summarized and has been by Josie and then some has been writing mom Kodama and my favorite section, one of my favorite sections, not my favorite, but favorite in that it creates such a, I think a wake up call for people's when you talk about shout out to write the desire for food. And there are a few important tips there are a few important things that the scholars connected to Ischia to overeating. You know, a lot of people focus on when they talk about not to overeat, they talked about body image.

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They did not talk about not overeating because of body image, they talked about it because of spiritual health. Like you cannot be disciplined with your spirituality if you're so wildly on disciplined with your food. And you find like that there are several of these I had the Hadith where the prophets lie Some said one third food, one third water, one third for breathing bad teeth of the seven intestines, the prophets lie some set that a disbeliever eats with seven intestines a believer eats with one and some people are like, Is it like when you take Shahada? You know, like suddenly your body works and you don't have it? Just it just completely changes. What is that right?

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Is there some sort of mutation or something like that, and the story backstory of the Hadeeth was that there was a man that was that was drinking heavily, you know, the love them the milk from seven different animals and he wasn't getting full. And the next day he became Muslim and he drank from one and he was satisfied. And the Prophet slicin I made that comment and one of the beautiful statements but it was it was to the effect of, you know, when you're focused on something more important than your focus

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Does not your shadow your food does not become your objective or goal. And so it almost it's not that it becomes a distraction, but you eat it to function. And it's not like if you got an important exam at night, you're not thinking about let me go out and enjoy my grip, you know, this great meal, right? You're thinking about the exam, and so you're eating healthy you're eating in a way that's not going to take away from your goal of the exam. And so, with that, when our purpose is to please Allah subhanaw taala, disciplining our eating our food consumption at the time of a thought is a good way to discipline our consumption at all times. And to really get that down and to be

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disciplined with that, again, not as a means of body image as a means of spiritual and physical health, right spiritual and physical health. So Exactly. That was wonderful. Anyone want to add anything or take it to the next tip? Let's see if I actually wanted to add thing and I think my next tip is sort of related. It's actually interesting because even my dad just said, he categorizes overeating as a disease of the heart right? So it's not this is again not that physical aspect but it's something that is going to corrupt your heart because you can't focus you can't there's so many so many problems when you're lethargic when you feel sluggish. You can't get things done you can't

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focus and we we've all been there done that we we know exactly feeling after I

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post

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my brain up at the moment it's it's you just feel awful afterwards and so because of that it's not just something that is a problem for for you know your body and your health which it absolutely is but it's for your for as both Shankara matza were saying the disease of the heart and I think a different sound you want to add something before I jump into my tip yeah okay I was gonna say on that was like so apparently like in Ramadan I I feel like so many

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of our mothers and our wives they do pm but it's pm in the kitchen. And so like this Ramadan I really want like everyone to be mindful of like giving especially moms or watching children like a break from like overly cooking and give them a chance for a better so something like this like not necessarily mandating like a fresh five course meal every day. It's okay to eat leftovers for a thought that's it's not hot um you know, some people get worried about that but just to be as part of ROM I think this Ramadan is ticking easy on on those who are responsible for cooking.

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So what do I take from this instead of two chocolate bars, I'm going down to one my goal for the month inshallah. But along with actually zero and Sham, essentially, I don't know about that. But inshallah.

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But something that's directly related to eating less is to staying fix, right. I'm not asking anyone to run a marathon, I'm not asking you what to do CrossFit, like many of our incredible clean staff, and volunteers, but really to make sure you stay active animal dawn, and if there's any double DOM, it's important to stay active, to get up and move it, especially this one, a lot of us are stuck at home, a lot of us are not leaving for, you know, days or weeks at a time. And so it's it's all the more important to get up and move because what happens when you're fasting most of the time is that, well, we're not eating. So why do we need to get up and move, you know, well, I you know, I just

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feel so dizzy, and I'm tired, I've got another caffeine headache out of the 10th one for the day, whatever it is. And so we find all these different excuses. So you know, add that to not leaving the house for a while and you're sort of just slumped on the couch or in your bed. For for what can be days and weeks on end. It really can take a toll on you. And so I want to encourage everyone to make it a habit, even if it's just a walk, even if it's just a few yoga stretches, whatever it is, but to find a time in the day, for you know, for me it always it's great, you know, an hour before a thought not, you know, the first the last 1015 minutes when you're rushing to get all the food

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ready. But you know, just just enough times you're not dying of thirst. Before you know as you're fasting, find a time that works for you. Maybe it's after fudger maybe it's before fidget. And to find a time find an activity plan ahead. Great. So don't think to yourself, okay, it's 7pm I've got 20 minutes left to the thought. Let me go you know, do something. Because again, when you don't have those that preparation in ahead of time, seven or 7pm is gonna roll around, you can think yourself, Well, I don't really know what I'm gonna do. And you know what the weather it's kind of rainy out so I'm just gonna, you know, go back to where I was on the couch. So plan ahead in the morning, the

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week before the day before, whatever it is, and get, keep moving. So number one, it's great for your mental health, your physical health, all of that. But of course, the ultimate goal is to have that energy to create the energy both internally by you know, creating those endorphins, those good, the feel good neurotransmitters, all that stuff that you get from exercise, but also you want that energy, you know, both

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internally and physically by feeling better, to have four times a week to be able to get up for 200. Because if we're slumped up on a couch, getting up to pay $20, or eight, Okay, that sounds awful, right? And you don't want that mentality, you want to be at your best, you want to be energized, you want to be excited, and that can't happen. If you're constantly, you know, just being a couch potato. And then on top of that you're eating 10 smokes as a lot of time. So, so along with cutting out, you know, one sugary or one fatty food or whatever it is, or, you know, cooking a little less, make sure you incorporate some form of physical activity, even if it's for just 1520 minutes a day.

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And I want to make a disclaimer that your pain is not in any way anti samosa, because you guys have been way too rough on

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too many shots at sauces. That's one of the best things about Ramadan. So keep yourself honest as we keep them baked, if you can, but I think that's a great tip, focusing or staying active as much as you can, right. And I think different people have different times. I personally don't know how anyone works out an hour before, if

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so set your different times, and whatever that looks like for you. Right, so for our brothers and sisters that have disabilities, whatever that you know, different disabilities, whatever that looks like for you. If a person can get out and walk around to the neighborhood around and they're able to do that in this time, and keep their safe distance, whatever that looks like for you inshallah, to stay active. I think that's a great tip inshallah, and it keeps the juices flowing, beating the die. Tada. So I think now we're down to just a couple more inshallah Tada, so anyone want to comment or who wants to jump into the next tip,

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let me spend that. On that point of locking, I want to just re emphasize that it's not it's, it's so good for the mind as well when it comes to refreshing your attentional capacity. So you know, when we don't eat, often, it's harder to focus at times. But walking and looking at nature actually replenishes that attentional capacity that you have. So it has added benefits beyond it and hundreds and if not, for an tell us to go outside and look at things for them. yanbu, SMS philomela. And these if they're on and on and on, and that is the actual, like, it's an act of worship, to go walk around your neighborhood, if there's trees, if there's flowers, look at them, and allow them to

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rejuvenate you. So I'll use that as my segue to my other tip, which has to do with being mindful but not have not in nature. I mean, obviously be mindful of nature. But being mindful of our online consumption is from Milan. And so what I want to mention is, that's polite, it's amazing that how quickly massage and assignment organizations have been able to quickly put together a in

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a menu of things for this month, we have our support reflections, we have weekly classes, we have nightly reminders, we have nightly core and recitation. And it's just, it's shocking, because some of these massages, you know, may Allah reward the people who put in the effort a month ago didn't have a website. And now they're offering all this virtual streaming. So, and this is a great blessing that we have the opportunity to actually get some spiritual rejuvenation, through inspirational speeches and lectures. But at the same time, we need to be mindful about how much we consume of that. And like anything in life, moderation is important. So we're mindful and moderate

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in our food, we're also should be moderate in the amount of online videos live streaming on demand that we consume. And the reason is that

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the month of Ramadan is a month to be an active worshipper. And the point of any inspirational video, the point of a reminder of the C are to make the art is to inspire people to act. And so if the act itself is not listening to a beautiful lecture about how beautiful is that the point of that is to go and make a dog. So I just want to really reiterate this point that come up with a schedule where you say I'm going to listen to a set number of things. So I've got for instance, my my daily budget reminder, I got my you know, my 3430 was shipped with Shakeology Bella, and I got my deed to habit, three or four things, you know, a little bit here and there, but don't binge watch anything.

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So even binge watching Islamic content for hours upon hours upon hours, it is actually not ideal to do. And this is because it's the sincerity that Allah subhanaw taala he wants from us and he accepts it's not necessarily the, you know, the beauty of the thilawa that we're listening to that's going to be rewarded. And I want to actually mention with what Dhamma he mentioned, actually, someone had asked him about this point. And this is the issue of deception, that sometimes even in doing good, we can be deceived into doing that, which is not as good. So he mentioned that even worshipers and students of knowledge can fall into this trap of seeking out that which is like knowledge to the

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extent that they ignore actually good actions. So people by end up being deceived by thinking that the knowledge that they have achieved is puts them at a high status with Allah not realizing that

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If they look deeply, that the purpose of knowledge is for the purpose of acting upon and then he said the statement I loved he said, had it not been for the sake of action, knowledge wouldn't have any value. And then he says, Allah says in the Quran for the man that Allah says successful is the one who purifies he doesn't say successful as the one who knows how to purify so if you watch a video that's about making dog

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like that's not after that just stopping isn't enough you need to then go and make dog if you watch a video that says to do a good deed you got to practice that good deed for the process to read the if a speech says that encourage you to read more and you have to go and read more And so rather than sit and listen to the wonderful Havas recite for hours on end,

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take the core an even with our less than perfect recitation, knowing that a lower word that more than just listening on hours of someone else. So being an active participant this month, and not being passive and just thinking I'm gonna sit back, you know, relax and you know, let all the inspirational speakers and the Havas entertain me for this month. So I know that's a little bit of a of a harder tip. But um, you know, this is a month where we do our best to strive. And you know, we can do a lot more, you know, after the month of Ramadan in seeking knowledge beyond that, but this is a month of really your pad. And don't over indulge in things that take you away from that. So

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those are those

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that come along. And

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by all means panelo when it comes to the content that we're putting out.

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So we're gonna have every day and shout out to the angel series. We'll start on Friday, every every day in Charlottetown, Milan at 11am. Eastern will be released and then we'll have from D to habits by all of our scholars and fellows and shout outs on every day at noon. We'll have 3430 though I have a name change, which I'm going to suggest you shift Charlotte's at the end of this webinar, we'll have four and 3430 every night at 10pm. Eastern Charlotte's island where we'll have different scholars join us and of course, a bill will be dropping his John's Mashallah. Every night

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you know, we have European classroom, we have conversations, decks, curriculum, things to really really keep you engaged inshallah. So before we get to the last time, the last of the 10, which I believes which after lunch,

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I want to actually hand it off to Shay Homer Hussain, who's our head of instruction or sister to Steven Pete, who's our head of expanded learning inshallah you guys can both talk about what we have to offer, inshallah, from it from a curriculum and structure perspective. And for people who

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don't have a trouble ticket.

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So, hello, we started

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clean classroom. And so we we started last week hamdulillah. And that is really targeted to kind of the high school crowd. So it's, it's, again, it's taking the European content, making it digestible, for arguably the most important age group that is out there. I can't imagine if I was 1415. And I was told, why does God ask us to worship Him, and I sincerely believed it. I did believe it. But you know, when you believe it on your own, like with full conviction, that's why like, you know, some people translate a man has conviction and not faith. And so that can really have a powerful effect. So if you have children, or you know, you wanna you want a little bit of a break, or you want them

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to learn something, and that would definitely be something to check out from your team. There's also a special auto bond conversation series. So you know, you don't have to be an expert in the car or anything. It's just, it's, it's, it gives us kind of that social aspect. But again, as Dr. Rothman was saying, there's a purpose to it. Like, why are we doing this? What is the endgame and all this, it's not just to kind of get together. And that's really where I feel being in our homes, this Ramadan, you know, we are going to have maybe a greater chance to act on things because we can't hide it by all we're just going to kind of go to the masjid socialize and come back. It's going to

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get home, you know, really quickly. And so those cards, inshallah will help facilitate that. So just to piggy back real quick on what shahana just said, and I think this is something that I want to emphasize the thing classroom is fantastic. It's basically those online classes for high school audience, but the conversation deck that we just created is really an opportunity for you to get together on a zoom call with friends, on FaceTime, whatever it is, and talk about your concerns for this normal dawn, and how you're going to reframe your perspective to be positive and set goals that are achievable set goals that are so perfect for having a socially isolated Ramadan. So what you're

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doing is literally you're going you're on zoom, and you're going through a deck of cards, we have a mobile version, so you know you start off with the first question.

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It's an icebreaker, you move on to the pair share, which is, you know, you're going through these questions, what I share your worries, what are what are the things you're concerned about, hold on, share things that you're looking forward to that you're going to miss, you know, talk about things that are going to be different that things are going to be difficult, it's so important to be able to share those those worries, those anxieties with others, it helps alleviate the sort of therapy and I don't want to say much with with Nashville on the call, but not only are you talking about those worries, but then the cards, the questions, they build up and they they lead to solutions. So

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we're not just making guys talk about your you know, your problems and what you're scared of and worried about. But we want you to actively talk with friends, things that you want to be doing right now you want to be having that social interaction, and talk about things of finding solutions, feeling better, feeling excited and motivated for the storm a lot. So there's one thing I want everyone to walk away with, to be encouraged to do is to download our conversation deck honorable dawn, get 123 410 people get on a zoom call, get on a WhatsApp call, whatever it is, that's easiest for you. And and and answer those questions as a group, and inshallah you'll find a lot of benefit,

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and I'll get you really hyped for tomorrow. Sharla. This has been key talking about by any chance Academy, it would be wonderful. And I think a lot of people are not aware of Academy. Yeah, I'm glad you reminded me. So you're kind of Academy handler, we did our full launch very recently. We basically we take all of our lovely European publications, which sometimes can be a little bit long. And we make it into you know, we break it down into little two minute videos. Some are one minute or two, three minutes. And we basically just summarize the paper, get the points that we really want you to take away with. And we make it interactive, right? So you're watching all these videos on our

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your super fancy app. And you know, you watch the first two minutes on why do bad things always happen to me. You get the gist of the paper. There's a whole you know, if you if you feel like you want to learn more, there's another video after that. And there's a you know, a little question after each video. So to make sure you really understood, understood those two minutes understood the point we were trying to make, Hey, can you answer those questions True or false? You know, tell us tell us what you learn from this. And so you get points. So then you challenge your friends and say, Hey, guys, I just watched like, these 20 videos are all two minutes each and super short and super

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cool. I got 20 points or 200 points, see if you can beat me right so now this is an opportunity to again message all your friends Hey guys, let's do this thing where we're going to be learning about these, these these topics. A lot of these topics that are extremely relevant for animal dawn, talking about, you know, spirituality, mindfulness, just different topics that will really help build you for the next coming month and months inshallah and an opportunity to again, connect with friends challenge have create that excitement generate that, you know that that sense of community and and, you know, friendship, you can do it through a conversation deck, you can do it through

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watching videos on an app. And that's just some of the many ways that we've created, you know, different platforms to engage with our research, but in a really fun way, like my life so just, you know, to again, emphasize 100 a lot we put out in the last month over 100 videos just in the last month alone, over 20 articles written by our incredible scholars and fellows and

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we've had infographics and resource book, animation videos, all types of things for you to cope with. But in the structure part of things we also want you to take these things and Charlottetown and learn in a structured way. So we've got Academy for the individual which you just download the app and Shaolin you can see it for free inshallah to access European Academy conversations if you want to have amongst your kin conversation you can have with your family or you could have with your friends we have European curriculum, which now has a live component to it which has been classroom led by none other than shahana Hussain who was not the first show Homer to be a part of your pain

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Institute just FYI. And then lastly, conviction circles which are meant to be for for more serious studious groups inshallah Tata to get through that so those that really want to take it to the next level in terms of engaging the content and Charlotte's eyes so we're trying to put out as much as we can come to that it's all free and accessible. Download the app, make sure that you're making use of inshallah tada and I'm going to hand off our last point to Shaykh Abdullah guru who, who's going to take it home for us and shall we the last 10 then we'll repeat the 10 and give everyone their last thoughts inshallah to have their final thoughts and sign off for the night. So chef Abdullah, what's

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your last tip course?

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Not the last point is to prioritize with a purpose

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Shall we see in the Quran, how Allah subhanaw taala mentions the obligation of fasting and when he says after booty by Lake como si mo chemical to Valentina public company, Allah Come on. We've all heard this verse within the past couple of weeks. We will we will be hearing it almost every night. Online. Our law says that. Oh, you believe fasting has been prescribed

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upon you, as it was prescribed upon the people before you, perhaps you may be of those who are mindful.

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What's interesting here is that Allah subhanho wa Taala, as we've heard before, that he mentioned the obligation, and he ties the the law or the effective characteristic behind the obligation of fasting to hoping that you will be of those that are mindful, which end result gives us the the goal and shows us the purpose, the ultimate purpose of fasting is for you to obtain mindfulness. And the reason I say that is because some kind of law with this transition that everyone is facing, it's important for us to realize that throughout all of this,

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it what we still have control over for those of those of us that are eligible is exactly that is fasting. You know, a lot of times we hear Ramadan, we the picture that's painted our mind is totally in Jamaica, you know that if tars as we've mentioned, but the ultimate goal for us is to obtain mindfulness. And the means of attaining that goal is fasting. When we look at the Pillars of Islam, and any action in Islam is only a means of obtaining a goal.

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You have to ponder over that like fasting, fasting, prayer, Hajj, these are all means to obtain a goal. And the goal is mindfulness of a loss of kinda data. So without, with everything that's going on, we have to remember Okay, now that I'm at home, my life has changed. Yes, you know,

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I mentioned, you know, that, you know, even online with all of this content, it's probably your mind, even as students of knowledge, you have to remember, okay, the goal is not the knowledge in and of itself, the knowledge is a means to obtain mindfulness of a law and to be a better Muslim, through practice, through knowing what I'm doing, and allowing this knowledge to liberate me to get closer to Allah via to HUD, you, you know, smiling, practicing the son of the province of the law, and it was something, you know, calling people to the center with the center, using the way that I talked to people through by using the son of how to talk to people, right. So when we look at

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fasting, we have to remember now that I'm at home, and you know, I'm changing, my life is changing, my schedule is changing from the law, I have all this set, you know, you have your online lesson set, making sure that everything is in its proper place, but always remember that, okay, I have to concentrate on my fasting. And as you all mentioned before, with eating and working out, and things of that nature, you know, just side point I wanted to mention is that super analog, you know, as we're seeing the days go by, especially with fasting, you know, I was watching, you're reading something the other day talking about, you know, many of us have heard about this intermittent

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fasting, and like it's something new. But in Islam, it's been something that's been there forever. You know, I mean, even for the nations before us, I live in poverty come, but now that you hear them even talking about having fasting one day, and leaving a day off and fasting The next day, so handle on the fasting of that without a sauna, you know, all these things we have to remember, you know, keep in our minds and in our hearts that

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with conviction, right with your theme is that Islam does have the solution, as days go by, and as times go by, we will figure out what Islam has already mentioned for us. And fasting is a huge sign of that. Now, within the fasting in the middle of the day, you may, you know, as mentioned earlier, your sugar levels will go down, your glucose will go down. And then some mentioned that, you know, because you don't have that sugar and glucose, you know, you may not make the right decisions because you may not you may not you may lose focus in the sugars for energy. So when those times that time comes, it's important to try your best to be mindful. And that attempt is what Allah wants

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from you as a loss of power with Allah mentions and the chapter on Caboose when he says he had to finish then at the end of him Superliner were in the mind machine, and those that strive in our path. Jabu Bina, so jahad do is the action of struggle, for what purpose Faena for our purpose with sincerity and just those two things, right, that we always hear, do the action but be sincere and it just mentioned and the verb and also the, what they call the preposition here. So after that, a lot suffices within the law, lemma imachining. After you mentioned that fasting will guide them to our way which is gentle inshallah, and Allah is with the ones definitely with the ones that are the

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people of excellence. Remember, it is not about being perfect. We will never be perfect. Believe me, my wife and my children know I'll never be perfect, totally fine. I'm good with that. But it's about trying your best. Allah wants excellence. Excellence means you give yourself to the best of your ability. And as we mentioned, only a law and you in certain people close you know if you're giving it, Your Honor.

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If you're giving it your best, that's what's most important. So when you're here in this month of Ramadan, and you're fasting, remember, I'm fasting when you see you know your child push you someone push your buttons if your younger brother or sister, your older brother sisters make you do everything around the house, taking advantage of you, you know, as a promise, awesome, say, when you get angry, what do you say, in the violent harassing, I'm fasting. I'm fasting, bro, I'm fasting sister, you know, mother, tell your children, I'm fasting. I only want to talk about that right now. I'm not talking about that I'm fasting. You know, remember that you're fasting. And so Pamela, we're

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looking at Heidi, to say it to yourself. You know, sister Nigel can confirm this is kind of like CBT cognitive behavioral therapy, right? You're, you're verbalizing something. And that's the beauty of your verbalizing something to remind you about something, to act upon it. So just remember, the priority throughout all of this, is to fact and use that fast as a means of obtaining mindfulness. And lastly, you know, as I mentioned, in the series, to try to face and, you know, Sr tesni, mentioned in beautifully is, you know, some time, you know, to to have for yourself, you know, find a place in your house, you know, to or, you know, in that corner, you have a prayer rug, and that's

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the time you're going to spend 510 2030 minutes, and you're just going to think you're just going to contemplate necessary measurements earlier, you know, even before you're in the dark, you know, to just contemplate and think about life. And that's the beauty of it take if you know, to just contemplate and to think about life, think about what you have the mindfulness and use that fasting as a means to to try that mindfulness. And that's the purpose of it. It's not going to be easy, but that's the beauty of it. Because the fact that you are striving and struggling a lot loves your site, in this article much shorter. So May Allah Allah make that a blessing in this fasting a

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blessing and make it something that will be your

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return show. Um, you know, Zack l'affaire chef and I'm gonna, I'm going to inshallah tie just a few more things. So for us, we got a name change for the for our for and 3430 starting tomorrow night Angel. Okay, so tomorrow night, from tomorrow night onwards, 10pm, Eastern Joshua, Bill and myself will be hosting a nightly reflection session summary and reflection session on East Jews and Shaolin we'll have a guest from the team joining us every night so you ready for the name change ship? Yes. All right. An Tina and Dena

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Miss mix the two I knew they knew.

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books to be doing this in front of everyone.

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Now you all will witness the savagery of shame on what you're saying is about to come out. I don't want a piece of that right now. I don't want you to make me cry on camera, at least not for that reason.

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So to remind everyone inshallah tada we will have I want you to go to the link in the comments you can sign up to our Ramadan daily email campaign inshallah I know people get sick of emails but our emails will not spam you. They'll give you track so that you know track that you can follow inshallah to how to keep along give you some structure inshallah time for the month of Ramadan inshallah, please go ahead and sign up for the Ramadan daily email campaign and shot a lot tighter. And also, again to remind everyone to start logged on with Sobotka if you click on that link and you make a donation in Charlottetown the donation will be processed on Friday evening in Charlottetown

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to catch both for those that will be fasting on Friday for the first day and Saturday making the Friday night their first their first Ramadan inshallah tada so starting Ramadan with

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our team, which is which is a broad team of researchers. We have a research team, a creative team, a marketing team, an engineering team, expanded learning curriculum, partnership and outreach and a development team seven teams that click and that put all of this together and our creative team in fact inshallah is going to be taking these 10 tips and putting it into a nice just just a nice pretty way that you can interact to inshallah talk tomorrow and you can spread it out so we'll have that up tomorrow morning for you inshallah, but your sub funds this and we keep this free and accessible to everyone because we need everyone inshallah to Allah to benefit as much as they can.

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And we don't want any barriers inshallah to add to that concept and always tell us how we can be better for you inshallah, tada so we're gonna try our best to just as this last month there's been an overload of content, but I hope inshallah you found it beneficial this coming month of Ramadan inshallah tada we're going to try to be in touch with you throughout the month and show on WhatsApp so please do sign up. So I'm going to give the 10 again, and then I'm gonna ask everyone to give a final thought inshallah. So he said, number one, be mindful of live streaming. There will be plenty of opportunities to stream lectures, recitations, and other reminders throughout the month. Find

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your balance, watch enough videos to motivate you to engage in more worship and be

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Careful of replacing your active worship meaning you're reading for yourself or you're praying with passive watching. Number two was reflect over the poor. So in addition to just reciting the Quran, make sure that you take the time to reflect and study as well and Charlottetown this month number three, take personal responsibility to take the initiative to establish structure during Ramadan and to and to take the initiative to do good reap the most reward. So set a schedule to pray tada we have the same time every day as if you were in the masjid number four do not overeat. Allah says eat and drink but do not be excessive for Allah does not love those who are excessive try cooking loss

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or eliminating one fried and or sugary food individually or as a family. This allows them to be more mindful of what you eat and not feeling lethargic as you engage in worship but nothing you're not gonna see any hits on some Moses in our in our in what we put out tomorrow that was just uncalled for, and excessive on the part of say Homer creciente going after Moses Lake here. Number five focus on self care. Ramadan is about sacrifice, but that doesn't mean that self care should be eliminated. self care, like saying no to extra commitments, taking breaks and eating right can actually bring you closer to Allah when used correctly. Number six practice mindfulness. practicing mindfulness can

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be a useful tool to maximize good deeds increase focus and feel the spirit of Ramadan. A lot a few minutes of your day to thoughtfully recite Vicki. Reflect on the blessings in your life. Number seven set manageable goals for every goal have a smaller backup goal. That way on the days that you are tired or busy, you can fall back on the smaller goal rather than doing nothing at all. And this will allow you to be consistent and not hit me. I can't meet any of my goals. So why do any slump number eight stay active set a time every day to walk stretch were engaged in some sort of physical activity to avoid feeling sluggish. And this is crucial to help diminish stress, stress as well as

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generate internal positivity to keep you motivated and energized for standing up in prayer. Number nine prioritize with a purpose. Fasting is our priority this month, the purpose of which is to be mindful of a lot as described before. And leave off anything that distracts you from that purpose. Assign a space in your room to serve as your worship zone. And spend time there to mentally and spiritually detox to help you to help remind you of your ultimate priority. Lastly, challenge yourself to change every day after thought do something uncomfortable workout, memorize a portion of the quote or call or call a longtime friend or enemy and stay a good word to them. Take advantage of

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the discomfort that comes with change and use this time to push you to discover who you really are and who you can be. So that Zack Milan Qaeda and I want to go through each and every single one of you to just give us last words, not a tip per se but just give us your final words. Whatever you got in trouble. It's either a short, sweet message. You know, and we appreciate everyone's patience for being on this long and short lots. As we begin the night title, welcome Ramadan, very soon, so the floor is open. inshallah, I'll start, I'm just going to say, you know, I tonight I was able to laugh, I was able to learn a lot of things. And so thank you for putting this together. I know for

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me, maybe not tonight because I'm a little tired. But tomorrow, inshallah I do want to sit down, I'm looking forward to seeing the infographic. And just coming up with my own personal goals and probably sharing it with my husband as well. Because I feel like when there are a lot of goals, it's really nice to like, turn them into concrete goals. So I have an idea of what I want, but I feel like if I write it down, and Charlotte's gonna make it more

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concrete and measurable for me, so I am looking forward to that tomorrow and challenges that monocular for give me all these tips so I can incorporate them into my list inshallah.

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I can go

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I'll go inshallah. So, first of all, it's been a pleasure being on the most

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culturally diverse Brady Bunch crew I've ever seen. So

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let me just say, direct my thought to the moms, the youth group leaders, the emcee of this program, and I mean it sincerely. We talked about self care.

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You need to take care of yourself as a leader in whatever capacity even if it's the leader of the household, otherwise it leads to burnout. I know you know, in my first couple years in the masjid here, I really struggled with this, that you feel like you're not really getting your worship in and it's always about serving others serving others hamdulillah Of course, that is that is a wonderful thing, but you know, just being in front of the screen, all

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The time and some of us are actually busier Now, during the quarantine, so please, as the leaders, please do not neglect your own self care and community members, please take some time out. I'm not referring to myself, but take some time out to think and appreciate those who are putting in long hours to make sure that everyone's gonna move on. You know that they get something out of it?

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Sure, well, Zach Miller. All right. Next.

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We're gonna take a couple a few questions in Charlottetown. But just the final, quick, quick tip, and Charlotte's is something that comes to mind. This bill, one of the things I thought a lot about was

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people who are at home with their children, it's tough sometimes to have that optimal schedule. So while Yes, we try our best to have a schedule with our kids, try to bake in things like maybe have your kids give hot rods, maybe after salon, make them call the event, do things that kind of make them an active part of this month. And if things don't go perfect, and you know, their kids are crying, you know, and they need support with their online class or something of that. Just be easy on yourself. Again, you know, Allah subhanaw taala. He knows he's the one you know, he's in charge of everything and the situation that that we're in his only with his will. And so, you know, we do

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the best of our efforts, but don't hold yourself to a to a standard, that he wouldn't hold us as well. So have it on yourself and on your children as well.

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All right, he's next.

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going next. So we can Leisha have the love best for last. Um, one thing that I keep thinking about is the fact that, you know, we could have never predicted, I mean, at least I could have never predicted on hold on like this where you can't go to the masjid like, it's still it's still mind blowing to me. And inshallah, we of course, we don't know this. But this may be the only Ramadan, we're ever forced to do this in our lifetime, right? So think about it like this as this unique opportunity that this is a once in a lifetime opportunity, right? It's don't think of it as something that this is, you know, scary Ramadan. But again, use that practice of reframing and think

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to yourself, I may never have the chance, again, to experience a lot at home with my family to pray to be on my own, do any of these different things. And so really look at every day as this, this really exciting opportunity of like, I'm going to pray, like the companions, and the prophecies of them did for the most part, right? or pray on my own, I'm going to use this opportunity to really get closer to Allah spawn, Tada. And if you keep reminding yourself that, you know, in a few months, a few years, and this is really something that helps me think about, like people are going to ask, you know, that one, how did you have a normal dog without the machine? How is that even possible?

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What your kids are gonna, are gonna ask you, someone's gonna ask you, and you're gonna say, that was the best moment of my life, right? You want to think back? You want to look back and say, No, no, you'll never have to experience it. But that was the biggest blessing the last part that has given us because that was the first time I was able to pray every night on my own. That was the first time I was able to eat healthy and to take care of myself and to be mindful, engaged in all of these tips. So the days that you're feeling, you know, like, oh, man, I really missed the message of the days that you you know, you feel like things are just not the same. Remind yourself that this is

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really an opportunity to think of this as this special moment, the special one a lifetime and hold on. And hopefully, you can look back and say that was the best one hold on yet.

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Yeah.

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Just two things.

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The first one is just try your best, just try your best Just do your best. I mean, you know, even in relationships, as long as the spouse knows that the other one is doing their best show. That's a a strong element that keeps the family together, it keeps the relationship together that sympathy and realizing Look, he's not where I want him to be, but he or she is trying their best. And lastly, is the statement I always tell myself, my family is that look, it's

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discipline over motivation for transformation. You know, a lot of times we look to be motivated, but the goal should be should we should look to be transformed. Sometimes motivation can be your worst enemy, because when you look just to be motivated, it's like okay, I just need that boost for a minute, which is great. You know, it's a campaigns mission, you know, let's let's sit around and, and raise our man for the moment. But make sure it's getting you somewhere. That's why I said he, you know, Ramadan is a catalyst, we have to use that word as a catalyst like a new beginning for a new habit. So you're motivated by something. It takes discipline, to get to transform our goals to

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be to transform into something new, taking on a new habit, whether it's one rakaats of wisdom, or reading one verse, you know, every single day, five days a week and reviewing the two days everything what you took those five days, but please try your best and have the intention to transform instead of just being motivated. May Allah make it easy on this show.

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So a couple of quick questions and Selma, okay.

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And we have a lot of questions about I'm sorry, we can't get to all of them, but inshallah Tyler will just try to summarize a few of them. So

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a lot of it is about how to what is a full day schedule look like when you have a full time job and and salons schedules a bit tricky being at home. So tesni might actually want to direct that to you and Charlotte, because you wrote an article about that, and COVID error, right? So what is the full day schedule actually look like?

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Don't go through the whole schedule, but just someone that's like trying to figure out the schedule.

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You know, what does that look like? Yeah, so, you know, when, when you're trying to approach filling out your schedule, the first thing you want to do is take a step back and think about all the commitments that you have, right. So if that's work, that's family, that's a law, think of all of those different responsibilities and those goals that you want to meet, think about them and write them down. And remember, I said this earlier, as well, to actively write down makes a huge difference, you don't want to think about this. And, you know, just worry yourself in your mind, but when you write it down, it's very clear, it lessens your anxiety, you see everything that you have

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to do, and then you can go ahead and prioritize it. So if work is, you know, 10 out of 10 priority, you have no choice. But to complete all of your tasks, you get to put that high up on the list, list and move from there, right. And so if that are we is that's the goal that's normal long, that's your priority, it's gonna be 10 out of 10, you're gonna move it up, right, so you have a list of all of your responsibilities, you're going to prioritize them in terms of work, family spiritual responsibilities, and then you're going to fill in your day from there. And so now that it's normal dawn, you can work backwards, right, you know that you're going to be awake, certain times of the

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night, you're going to be sleeping certain times of the day, perhaps, it's actually for those of you who are working from home, this is one of you know, hopefully it will be a great experience because instead of having to wake up at six or 7am to rush to get ready and then commute to work, hopefully you'll get an extra hour of sleep or an extra opportunity to to do you know something else on your list. So work backwards, no put in the things that you know are priority if you have a nine to five job if you know that you're going to be praying that tidal wave every night at 9:45pm fill those in and then go through your list based on priority and with the time that you have left in your in your

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schedule, go ahead and fill it in so that's just a general you know, piece of advice to be able to think more you know, more in in routine and structure you want to think about multiple different factors primarily how your day is going to look like based on you know your most pressing needs and then those those really those big goals that you have set for them a lot inshallah. Zack will often since it's getting late, I'm going to have one last question, Charlotte, I'm gonna throw this to the group.

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More than one of you can comment on it. But it's, you know, merging a few questions together. I know we talked about practically readjusting goals when you know that you haven't met them, right? But there's a question what do you what do you say to yourself when you miss a goal, right? Like a lot of different feelings can happen. despair is a lot of mad at me, it's like me and my not gonna have to do this Hold on. What do you say to yourself when you miss a goal? So that's the question to the group inshallah. And that'll be our last question show.

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So let me let me put on my nerdy social science classes for just a second. To better allow us to reach those goals in the first place. I'm really excited I get to use my favorite acronym of setting SMART goals. Okay, s m, AR, T, the SS for specific. So you say for example, I want to read sunova Quran surah, Allah and Ron with the Tafseer. It's specific not I just want to read more and

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make it measurable. So you have these two suitors instead of, you know, so we know exactly. And then achievable, right? Is it achievable? Yes, probably achievable. You don't say I'm going to make 1500 ohms. Okay, and then the RS four relevant so you don't say I'm going to improve my writing skills that has nothing to do with with the month and then the T is for time based. So you say By this time, I'm going to accomplish this. I think if we take one thing, from really a common theme to everything we've discussed is do and give us the best chance to succeed. So inshallah if we know exactly what we're aiming for, then we would have a better chance of achieving the goal in the first

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place. And that's what the thinking should be. Because if we don't like sister to sneem said, there may be that more backup also think we will achieve the goals and shall

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have one more thing.

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One of the things that we can also do to to build off that isn't there's a something called a when Ben plan that's common in the goal setting literature, which is to tell yourself that we know there's obstacles in our life, like we know that they're there, it could be the telephone smartphone, it could be whatever it might be, that you tell yourself for each goal that when this action presents

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And then I will do this. And this way you're deliberate about limiting those distractions. So for instance, you know, when I get distracted by when I don't finish my reading for the day, then I will turn off my smartphone for an hour, or something like that. So there's ways that you can limit the chance that that would fall off completely.

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Anyone else? I'll add, one of my favorite sayings is learn to take breaks, not quit, right, and it addresses all the black and white thinking that we've been kind of talking about all night. Like, if I don't meet this goal, then it's kind of over. But when you look at it as Okay, tonight, I for whatever reason, I wasn't able to meet my goal, tonight will be a break and that's okay, inshallah, tomorrow, I will start again. So not putting yourself down and just saying it, this is not gonna reflect the rest of my hormones, not gonna define the rest of my Ramadan. And even if you have certain hiccups, it's fine today didn't go out and work as planned. Let's count on is a break, I'll

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start I'm not going to quit. I'm going to continue tomorrow. And I know that keeps me going and keeps me motivated personally.

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Because I can hold on, I think that's a perfect way to add muscle. And I want to thank each of you for bringing such a special, special, you know, flair to this. This webinar. There was another suggestion we should change it to web mosa

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I don't know too many these name changes coming up. So we're gonna keep it around 3430 starting tomorrow and shall shall know that you can't you can't do that to me, man. It wasn't my son. It wasn't my suggestion. Okay, that's that wasn't me. So you can't shake your head at me. We're gonna have 30 nights together inshallah tada starting tomorrow night. We're gonna invite everyone to an end of the night out of luck and luck that each one of you brought something really special. Tonight I have to say that I have not enjoyed a webinar like I enjoyed this one for quite some time about a lot of them and I'm sure that's true as well for those that are watching each one of you brought

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something very special tonight and I hope that's a sign of trophy as we go into the special month of Ramadan. So again, I want to thank you all think all the viewers and remind everyone to please contribute to European Institute inshallah tada now and it will be processed in Milan and please share this with everyone else inshallah, sign up to the Ramadan daily email and we look forward to being with you and we wish you a blessed at all on me last out accepted from you and us and allow us to live through it and to be forgiven through it as well and to gain lifelong habits that keep us connected to him subhanho wa Taala until we meet him subhana wa tada with those deeds that are

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pleasing to Him, and that are entered into the abode of his pleasure in genitive. So to dose the companionship of our beloved Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah I mean, as I

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should have done myself we'll see you tomorrow at 10 o'clock in Charlotte Eastern and all the rest of our speakers that are here you'll be seeing them throughout the month of Ramadan as well.

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