Omar Suleiman – Fiqh of Pregnancy #1

			This topic as a whole, you know, we have to remember that the messenger of allah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam, he encouraged us to have children. So having children is a sunnah and the Prophet
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. He said, you know, have as many children as you can, for I will be
proud of your number on the Day of Judgment. Well, sulla sigh cinema will boast about the number of
Muslims on the Day of Judgment. Now, obviously, this ummah is the largest amount of believers on the
Day of Judgment out of all of the nations of the prophets, this ummah will be the largest of them
all the Rasul Allah sites, and I'm encouraged us and the prophets, I'm talking about being proud of
		

			us on the Day of Judgment, you know, the number that we have,
		

			obviously, from the individual perspective, from the virtues of having children is that it is the
greatest investment that you can make. As we know the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam.
		

			He said that, he said to a person, a son, when he was referring to his father, the son was asking
his, you know, was asking the messenger of allah sallallahu it was sent and what belongs to my
parents. And also lustleigh Salam said, until a medically a week and went to do Caspar Abbey, you
and what you've earned belong to your father, and obviously to both of your parents, but it was in
the context of the father at that moment. And also law. So I said, I'm sad that the child is the
earning of his parent, right, you know, subhanAllah, you work so hard, you toil to raise this child.
And because of that, everything that that child does goes to your record. And in fact, all of the
		

			actions that the prophets likes and I'm continue after said, continue after we die, being sadaqa
jariya, a continuous charity, a righteous child to make that for us, or a beneficial knowledge all
of them are found within within a child, because for the most part, who's going to make dua for you
consistently other than your child, who's going to give charity on your behalf consistently other
than your child, who's going to spread your beneficial knowledge consistently other than your child.
So it's really, you know, it's a worthy investment. And not only that, but and now we know him
Allah, he comments on this beautiful Hadith, he says that not only is this limited to the child, but
		

			to the entire offspring. Right? So can you imagine that our great, great, great, great, great
grandparents if they were Muslim, and they taught their children how to pray, who taught their
children how to pray, who taught their children how to pray, and who taught them that that Allah
Muhammad Rasul Allah and the importance of being Muslim. There could be someone hundreds of you
know, that passed away hundreds of years ago, that's benefiting from you being here right now. For
being in a gathering of remembrance of Allah subhanho wa taala. So the investment continues for a
long line and we continue to be a part of the legacy of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And
		

			also lastly Salam is part of the good deeds of Ibrahim it has set up and that's why Allah subhanaw
taala blessed Ismay that he has salaam so much imagine him and his brother is happy or they his
salah, and also lost my son, I'm sorry, Allah has chosen from the children of Ibrahim is married.
Right? It's mine has a higher level than his heart. But if you look under his heart, you have so
many prophets, all of the prophets have any slide because yeah, I called it his son I was the son of
is how you have the 12, the 12, sons of Yaqoob. And you have all of the 12 tribes of Israel and all
of the prophets that came from that. And when this marry that Islam, you have this long line, going
		

			just to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and from Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wasallam there
is a continuous legacy. So when you invest in something like this, and him did he Lauterbur I mean,
it's something that that will benefit you not just with your children but inshallah to Allah with
your grandchildren and their children and so on, so forth. So there's the investment aspect of it.
And there's also the aspect of struggle
		

			as Muslims, we'd like to struggle for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala because we know Allah
subhanaw taala rewards struggle, we know Allah subhanaw taala rewards pain and Allah subhanho to
Allah in the Quran, he you know, he talks about the mother, in particular how mela 201 And Allah wa
homiletical Kureha Wah wah wah to quote her, Allah describes labor pains, Allah describes the pain
at the time of delivery. Allah subhanaw taala describes the way that the mother would scream, you
know, whenever she's delivering and Allah Subhana Allah is is expressing this to show that Allah
subhanaw taala is not unaware of your struggle, and the struggle of the parents as a whole.
		

			Obviously, as a soloist, I seldom said that there is no form of anxiety, nor no form of distress, no
form of harm, no form of disease, except that when the believer is struck by it in expiate a sin, it
takes away his sense, so it purifies us. And we know from the famous hadith of Ibn Ahmad Radi Allahu
taala. And, and some say it's metaphor to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when he was asked
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			A man who carried his mother on his back throughout Hajj, you know, back in those days before you
had the cooling tiles, before you had all of you know, the, the things that are sprinkling, you
know, moisture and things of that sort before you had all of that, and the five star hotels that are
around you know, the kava that looked like Gotham City, you know, before all of that happened. He
was carrying his mother on his back with his feet burning, you know, in the heat throughout the
entire monastic of hatch. And he asks, Have I repaid her, you know, have I given her you know, what,
what I would have given her her due? And the answer was, well, I'd be calculating why that not even
		

			with one cry at the time of labor, you haven't even repaid her for that. And Allah Subhana Allah
Allah is the One who compensates the believer on the Day of Judgment. So there's from that aspect,
also, and masala he said, I'm particularly talking about a woman in her time of pregnancy. Now
brothers, we're going to also talk about brothers also but particularly the mother because the
mother struggles the most.
		

			You know, there's an authentic hadith from Ibn Ahmad on the Allah Tada and who that was so allah
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said Amara to mean Hamley her either without her enough if AMI had that
verily a woman from her pregnancy to the time of her delivery to the time of her weaning, fee
Hannity Jihad and visa vie Leila, she is in a state of jihad visa Baitullah. She is a soldier for
Allah subhanho wa Taala throughout that entire process, you know, throughout that entire process,
and that's why well so as I said, I'm said if a woman dies before labor and this is an authentic
hadith, and if a woman dies before labor, during labor, or during the Nephi us she would have died
		

			Shaheed he would have died a martyr, and her child will drag her to Paradise, even by the umbilical
cord, she will enter Jannah she would die a martyr. Subhanallah so that's, you know, that's an
amazing situation to be in. Obviously, it's one that requires, you know, much effort and much
struggle, but Allah Subhana Allah Allah is surely not unaware and Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam also expressed that Imam a no Rahim Allah also said something very beautiful and interesting,
he said that
		

			our companions meaning the scholars, they all used to say that a woman's do is Mr. job at this time
is accepted at this time. You know, because with the with the greater struggle, the more the DUA is
accepted. The closer that person is to Allah subhanho wa Taala as they struggle, then there is the
reward of sacrificing for your children. Right? We all make sacrifices for our children, brother and
sister and just listen to this beautiful Hadith from Aisha Radi Allahu Taala on her in Sahih Muslim,
where I saw the Allahu Taala and her says that a poor woman came to me with her two daughters. And I
gave her three dates. And she gave each of them a date. And she was about to eat the third one. And
		

			then when one of her daughters asked for it, she took that date and C divided it into two and she
gave it to her two daughters. So she went hungry while her daughters ate now how many times did we
did we sacrifice for our children? You know, there was something that we wanted to do. There was
something that we wanted to eat, but as soon as our children put their eyes on it, that was it.
Right? It belonged to them. And so I saw the Allahu Ana she was amazed by this so she's She told us
allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam about what she saw. And also allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam
said Hacket lehle JANA behind the hit Tamra. Jana became her right Subhanallah just as the food was
		

			the right of the child, when they looked on the child looked at the food, Jana became her right?
Because of that date, because of that one date. So even the sacrifices that you make for your
children on a daily basis, especially when they're when they're at a younger age, you know, the
happiness that you would forego, sometimes, you know, the time that you would rather spend in
something else, but the time you sacrifice for them, don't think that Allah Subhana Allah is unaware
from that. And that's whether the child is righteous or not. Notice the Salafi Islam didn't talk
about whether these two daughters grow up to be, you know, pious Muslim as or things of that sort.
		

			That's just the sacrifice that every parent will make. Now, if they are righteous, then it goes even
further. Right, if they are righteous, then it goes even further. Because then they're your
continuous investment. As we said, everything you taught them, the salah that you taught them, it's
like someone is praying, it's like someone is praying for you every single time. Right? You are
getting the reward of that every time they say the name of Allah subhanaw taala any bother. It is
your reward, and it benefits you after death. All the way through, you know, for your grandchildren
and so on so forth. Now, the point here is that at what point do you start trying to make your
		

			children righteous? And that's the that's the issue here. Now there is a reward whether you rate
		

			Is your children righteous or not? From the very beginning the sacrifices you make as parents, there
is a reward for that. But at what point do you start caring about the righteousness of your
children, and that's really something that I wanted to start out with, to introduce this topic in
the first place, because that's the point of all this learning the Son does, and things of that sort
and learning the film. All of this is to do things that are pleasing to ALLAH SubhanA, Allah to
Allah, and to have the maximum blessing from this, from this effort, and from what we go through.
And a lot of times, people again, they wait until their children grow up to start worrying about
		

			their righteousness, right, and then take him to a chef and hope you'll give him the Holy Spirit,
you know, put his hand on his head, and then all of a sudden, he'll start loving some on he'll start
loving the masjid and, you know, she'll want to wear it not just a job she'll want to wear in a
club, you know, because she got the Holy Spirit one time, you know, one meeting and hamdulillah it's
all over. That's, that's such a wrong way of thinking, you know, obviously, it doesn't make sense.
And as much as it doesn't make sense, you know, I've said this in conventions with with 1000s of
people, I made that remark. And some of the parents are laughing and I'm like, You're guilty of
		

			this. I can see right now I know what your kids do. You're guilty of this right now. So it's,
although, you know, it's illogical. And it doesn't make sense. Unfortunately, some people only react
when it comes back to hit him in the face. You know, whenever they see the consequences of their
actions, some people are not proactive, some people are reactive, they wait until their children
grow up, and their children are telling them to you know, you know, saying bad words to them and
telling them to go away and shutting the door on them and not giving them the time of day and then
questioning Islam and so on so forth. That's when some parents are like, wow, what have I done with
		

			my life, and we should not wait for that time. And you know, that's there's a lot of perspective on
the Hadith, for example, with the messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, to raise your children
Onsala at seven, make sure your kids are praying at seven, not just one or two prayers a day, make
sure that they're praying the five daily prayers at seven budget accounts to even on the weekends at
seven years old your children should be praying. And also last I said, I'm said what? And at the age
of 10, then you need to discipline them physically. The prophets lie Selim was not giving was not
telling the Sahaba you know, if your kids aren't praying at 10 years old, go smack them around.
		

			Actually, the perspective of this hadith is that a lot of people react with the hand in the first
place, right? They start slapping right away, when their kids aren't praying, you know, that's the
way that they start. They start disciplining physically from the first place. And what the
messengers lays on them is teaching us that if for three years, three entire years, every single
day, you are ensuring that your children are praying just like you, do you really think that would
be necessary at the age of 10? No. Okay. So you start early, and how early do you start? When do you
start trying to ensure righteous children?
		

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			you ensure you try to ensure the righteousness of your children even before marriage, the profit
slice that I'm taught us or Eliza teaches us Ibrahim it is Saddam's and Rasul Allah say Sam used to
make this time he taught us to make the start. I've done our habit and I'm in as well as you know
with reality now Kurata Aryan *, then Latina, Imana Oh Allah grant us from our spouses and our
offspring, the coolness of our eyes, and make us Imams for the MacDuffie and make us leaders of the
Moroccan so there is that you know, what else, the way that you treat your parents, that's also a
way of ensuring the righteousness of your kids because what goes around comes around Subhanallah
		

			that, you know, I see some of the things that that my daughter does turn like, you know, I remember
making that same joke or pulling that same thing with my parents and she's just three and she's
already doing this. Alright, some of the things that that my Sunday school kids what before I became
email my Sunday School students used to do to me I'd say some Hi, remember playing that same prank.
When I was in Sunday school, you know, it comes back around Subhanallah it does come back around. So
the way that you treat your parents, the way that your treat your parents. Now, obviously, there are
exceptions to that. There are exceptions to that. But generally speaking, you will see some of it if
		

			you look close enough in the way that you treated your parents that your children will treat you in
the same way. Then getting married choosing the right spouse like some of you talked about a man
came to brain damage Rahimullah for four month old baby you know bringing him to the greatest chef
of the time right go ahead make dua for him, you know, smack them on the head, whatever it is that
you have to do make him a righteous boy. While him a lot of times said it's too late. So what do you
mean it's too late? said you should have came to me before you got married right before you got
married because the type of spouse that you marry.
		

			The type of spouse that you marry will have a lot to do with your
		

			Children. Now, we really underestimate that. And unfortunately, a lot of times when we're young in
particular, we get married for the wrong reasons or we rush to get married, or we married the person
that excites us most, but we don't realize that this is a contract that you're going to have to deal
with. This is the most important decision that you're going to make in your life after your
religion. Right? Because it will, you know, subhanAllah and it's not just a wife, it's a husband to
having a right spouse, when you marry someone who you think is going to be a good father, a good
mother and you think about that before you get married. Right You can't keep trying you can't just
		

			always try to patch things up afterwards. So looking for those good characteristics those and also
last I saw them and they are gonna like commented on what I saw last night and I'm said either
attack him in total Dona Dena who Luca, who for person comes to you with good religion and good
character said one of the reasons why the prophets lie. So I'm told us we should look for character
to is because we should want our children to have good character. So I should see things in my
perspective spouse, that I would like my children to have the characteristics, I should want my
child to have those same attributes, and those same characteristics before I get married. Then what
		

			comes after that after choosing the spouse, even at the time of intimacy, the prophets lie Selim
taught us to do that. Before being intimate every time I also lost my son. I'm sad that both of the
spouses actually the husband and the wife should make dua Allah magenta Shavon was the * Matos
McDonough, oh Allah put the shape on aside and put him away from anything that you give us as a
result of this any of our offspring. Right? So again, we have grace allah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam teaching us even at that moment, you're conscious. You're awake, you're thinking of that.
You're thinking of your children. Right? Because the Muslim, the believer is always proactive. He's
		

			always thinking about his future. Right? He's he'll he knows the more he does now, the more he'll
think himself later, right? So you you're making that from the very start. And by the way, just so
y'all know, I'm going to be very explicit, especially when we get into filthy issues. So please
forgive me from now.