Omar Suleiman – Dua Away #07 DuA To Relieve Anxiety & Manage Anger

Omar Suleiman
AI: Summary © The speaker discusses the importance of the Prophet Sallallli Alaihi Wasallam's teachings, which can change one's emotions and lead to a positive experience. The message is a combination of praise and the call upon Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, with a specific name. The speaker emphasizes the importance of submitting oneself to Allah Subhanahu Wa and finding one's own way to achieve goals, as well as finding one's own way to remove suffering and anger from one's life and future.
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I don't know if I can ever trust

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again. I don't know if I can ever

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hope again. I don't know if I'll ever

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really feel happy again.

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These are sentiments that you've probably had yourself

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after trauma or after something really difficult that

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happened to you, or maybe you've heard it

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from someone else. But the idea is is

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that just because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala removes

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the barrier of a difficulty from you,

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doesn't mean that the impact of that is

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not going to be felt for a very

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very long time.

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And are there duas that can actually change

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emotions? That can actually change the way that

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we feel about the past, present, and future?

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And the answer is absolutely.

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The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said in authentic

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narration that there is no one amongst you.

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And I want to emphasize here that he

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said there is no one amongst you, meaning

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that this is for all of the Muslims,

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who when he is stricken with grief and

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anxiety

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and who says this du'a,

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except that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will remove

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his anxiety

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and will replace his grief with joy. So

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it's a powerful dua and you can imagine

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that when the Sahaba heard this they said,

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You Rasulullah

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should we teach other people this du'a? And

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the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, Absolutely. Whoever

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hears this should learn it and by extension

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should teach it as well. So what is

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this dua' that the Prophet

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is teaching us? It's such a beautiful and

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comprehensive dua.

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He said, say

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Allahumma'inniAbduk,

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Ibnu Abdik, or you could say, Webnu Abdik,

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Allahumma'inniAbduk,

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ibnuabdik,

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ibnuamatik,

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nasliati

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biadik,

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mallunfiyahukmuk,

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adlunfiyaqaba'uk,

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So let's look at the beginning. Oh Allah,

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I am your slave. I am the child

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of your male slave and the child of

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your female slave. Which means what? Number 1,

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it is absolute submission to Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala.

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The slave does not disobey his master. The

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slave does not question his master. And this

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is unlike any type of human relationship.

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When a person submits themselves to Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala, they find nothing but love, nothing

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but glory. And the more that someone humbles

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themselves to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the more

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Allah honors them. So you're saying from the

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very beginning,

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I submit everything to You, You Allah. I

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am Your slave and I descend from humble

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beings as well. I'm not entitled. I'm just

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Your slave and I'm pleased to be your

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slave because that is the greatest station

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of honor with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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And my forelock

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is in your hand. Now I want you

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to think about the image of someone who

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has their forehead in the hand of someone

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else. What does this represent? It represents that

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I am completely

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submitted to

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you and you have complete control over me

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and some of the scholars say it also

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means the submission of intellect to Allah Subhanahu

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Wa Ta'ala.

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Right? That I submit my own thinking to

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your revelation

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that you know better than me and I'm

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okay with that. Right? I'm pleased with that.

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And I am content with your revelation

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even when I can't understand your revelation. So

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first and foremost, I submit myself intellectually to

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you,

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and you are in full control over me.

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Your judgment upon me is assured.

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Meaning what?

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Everything that Allah

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has decreed is going to happen

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and I'm content with that as well. And

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on top of that the expression,

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'adlun fiyaqala'ook,

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that verily your decree concerning me is just.'

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SubhanAllah, think about a person who turns to

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and says life has

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been unfair,

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you've been unfair,

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why me? Why is this happening to me?

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Why is this happening to me? The difference

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between that person and someone who turns to

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Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and says, I have

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no doubt

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that everything you have decreed for me is

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just, that you've never been unfair to me,

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O Allah. And you affirm that in your

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dua to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.

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So all of this is praise of Allah

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Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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and expressing your submission to Allah Subhanahu Wa

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Ta'ala. And then you say, I ask you

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by every single name that you have named

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yourself with. One of the most blessed ways

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to have your dua answered

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is to call upon Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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with a specific name

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that fits your specific request. So if you're

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asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for His mercy,

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you call upon him as a ruhman. If

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you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for his

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forgiveness, you call upon him as al Ghafoor.

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If you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for

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his lisk, for his sustenance, you call upon

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him as Arazaq.

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But here, this is all encompassing.

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Every single name that you have, oh Allah,

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I am including it in this du'a.

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The names that you have named yourself with,

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meaning the ones that I'm aware of,

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the ones that you have revealed in your

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book, the ones that you taught to anyone

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of your creation,

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or the ones that are completely kept to

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your knowledge in the unseen?

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Now think about that for a moment. There

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are names of Allah

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that we don't even know, that no creation

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of Allah

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knows,

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and the specific du'a that you may be

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asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala with might match

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one of those particular names.

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And here you're including it in your du'a.

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So just like when you make Istikhara you

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say,

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that you know everything that happens in the

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unseen in regards to this decision that I'm

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trying to make here. Oh Allah,

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whatever name that you have that matches the

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ask that I have then I invoke that

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name even if I don't know that name

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and I'm comfortable not knowing that name. So

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I ask you by every single name that

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you have, oh Allah,

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to make the Quran the spring of my

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heart.

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Now by the way, it would be pretty

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strange to ask Allah to make the Quran

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the spring of your heart and to not

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read the Quran. So, just like with every

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other dua'a, there has to be a deed

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that matches the dua'. So you're resorting to

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the Qur'an

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and you're asking Allah, make the Qur'an the

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spring of my heart. What does it mean

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to make the Qur'an the spring of your

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heart? The scholars mention

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that the spring of the heart means give

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it life once again. So if you think

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about dead land,

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nourish it. Give it life once again. Let

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it spring once again after death. And then

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the second part of this, and to make

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it the light of my test. Now subhanAllah,

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what do crops need?

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They need the soil, they need nutrition, and

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they need light.

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And light clarifies,

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light alleviates,

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light relieves. So it's like give me life

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after death. And indeed some people, SubhanAllah,

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they feel the death of their heart. Give

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me life in my heart after the death

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of my heart, or what I feel like

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is the death of my heart, and then

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give me light in my chest, Relieve the

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burdens. Give me clarity. Wajalaaahusni

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wathahabhami.

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And let it be the banisher of my

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sadness,

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and let it be the reliever of my

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anxiety.

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SubhanAllah, you're asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to

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place the Quran

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in a certain relationship with you to where

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it removes the impact of the past

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and the anxiety about the future and indeed

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the Quran is a cure and here you're

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making du'a to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for

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the Quran to assume its rightful place with

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you.

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So the Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam said

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whoever says this du'a, it will remove every

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single anxiety and it will replace

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every sadness, every form of grief with joy.

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In another narration, Abu Sa'id al Khudri radiAllahu

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ta'ala Anhu says that one day the Prophet

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entered the masjid

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and he saw a man from the Ansar

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named Abu Umama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. And he

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asked Abu Umama radiAllahu Anhu what's the matter?

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Why are you sitting in the masjid when

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it's not the time of salah? And he

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said, You Rasulullah,

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never ending worries and never ending debts.

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Never ending worries and never ending debts. And

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the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, shall I

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not teach you words that if you say

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them it would settle your debts and it

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would ease your worries? And he said, of

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course You Rasulullah.

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The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, say in

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the morning and in the evening, Allahumma'inni

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a'udubika

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min alhammi

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walhazan.

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Oh Allah, I seek refuge in you from

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alhamwalhazan,

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anxiety

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and grief.

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Hem is anxiety about what's to come.

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Hazan is grief over what has already passed.

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So, oh Allah,

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remove the trauma, remove the pain which paralyzes

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me because of something that has happened in

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the past, sorrow over something that's happened in

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the past, and the anxiety

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that doesn't allow me to act in regards

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to my future.

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And I seek refuge in you from inability

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and laziness.

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Al ajaz

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is when you want to do something

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but you can't do something, you're unable. So

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you have the willingness but you don't have

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the ability.

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Al Kasl, laziness,

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is when you have the ability but you

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don't have the willingness. Right? So you can

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do something but you don't want to do

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something. So you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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to activate you beyond that. So the first

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part of this dua, the first half of

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this dua is about emotions. The second half

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is when the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said,

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and I seek refuge in you from cowardice

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and from stinginess,

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wa'a'uthubika

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mimgala batid deini wakahr rijal, and I seek

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refuge

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in you from being overcome by debt and

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from being overpowered

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by men. So you'll see once again in

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the same du'a the prophet teaching us how

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to remove pain and how to remove the

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effect of pain, the tangible

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and the intangible.

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And that's also a sign

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of the care that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala

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has for us that he would instruct the

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Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam or inspire through the

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Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam these words of du'a

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that control our very emotions. The last one

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I want to leave you with is actually

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one that's very beautiful, A'isha radiAllahu ta'ala Anha

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when she would become angry, she said that

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the messenger of Allah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam would

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put his finger on her nose, like stroking

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her nose to calm her down. And the

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Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would say to her,

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You Uweish, which was a nickname, like little

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Aisha, calm down,

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calm down and listen to what it is

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that I'm about to teach you. Say this

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dua, say Allahum araba Muhammad, O Allah the

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Lord of Muhammad. Ikhfirli dambi

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wa'adhhib ghaydhaqalbi

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wa'a'idni

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minmudullahiatilfitan.

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Once again, Allahummarabba

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Muhammad.

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Ikhfirliizambi

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wa athhib ghayfaqalbi

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wa'izzni

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minmudullatil

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fitan.

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That the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,

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Say, O Allah, the Lord of Muhammad Sallallahu

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Alaihi Wasallam, Ikhr lizambe forgive my sins,

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Wa athhib ghayfaqalbi

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and remove the anger from my heart,

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wa aizni minmudullatul

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fitan and protect me from the fitan that

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mislead me. And Sub SubhanAllah, if you think

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about it, there is no other time in

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your life in which you do things that

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you regret

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than times of anger,

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when you do things that harm yourself

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and you do things that could potentially take

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you away from your deen or spoil your

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dunya. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is

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teaching A'isha radiAllahu Anha by stroking her nose,

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You Aisha

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say this du'a and it will do away

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with your anger and it will stop you

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from putting yourself in a situation as a

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result of that uncontrollable emotion

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with

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unending circumstances and consequences in this life and

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potentially in the hereafter

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as well.

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