Omar Suleiman – Dua Away #07 DuA To Relieve Anxiety & Manage Anger
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I don't know if I can ever trust
again. I don't know if I can ever
hope again. I don't know if I'll ever
really feel happy again.
These are sentiments that you've probably had yourself
after trauma or after something really difficult that
happened to you, or maybe you've heard it
from someone else. But the idea is is
that just because Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala removes
the barrier of a difficulty from you,
doesn't mean that the impact of that is
not going to be felt for a very
very long time.
And are there duas that can actually change
emotions? That can actually change the way that
we feel about the past, present, and future?
And the answer is absolutely.
The Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said in authentic
narration that there is no one amongst you.
And I want to emphasize here that he
said there is no one amongst you, meaning
that this is for all of the Muslims,
who when he is stricken with grief and
anxiety
and who says this du'a,
except that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala will remove
his anxiety
and will replace his grief with joy. So
it's a powerful dua and you can imagine
that when the Sahaba heard this they said,
You Rasulullah
should we teach other people this du'a? And
the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, Absolutely. Whoever
hears this should learn it and by extension
should teach it as well. So what is
this dua' that the Prophet
is teaching us? It's such a beautiful and
comprehensive dua.
He said, say
Allahumma'inniAbduk,
Ibnu Abdik, or you could say, Webnu Abdik,
Allahumma'inniAbduk,
ibnuabdik,
ibnuamatik,
nasliati
biadik,
mallunfiyahukmuk,
adlunfiyaqaba'uk,
So let's look at the beginning. Oh Allah,
I am your slave. I am the child
of your male slave and the child of
your female slave. Which means what? Number 1,
it is absolute submission to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala.
The slave does not disobey his master. The
slave does not question his master. And this
is unlike any type of human relationship.
When a person submits themselves to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala, they find nothing but love, nothing
but glory. And the more that someone humbles
themselves to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, the more
Allah honors them. So you're saying from the
very beginning,
I submit everything to You, You Allah. I
am Your slave and I descend from humble
beings as well. I'm not entitled. I'm just
Your slave and I'm pleased to be your
slave because that is the greatest station
of honor with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
And my forelock
is in your hand. Now I want you
to think about the image of someone who
has their forehead in the hand of someone
else. What does this represent? It represents that
I am completely
submitted to
you and you have complete control over me
and some of the scholars say it also
means the submission of intellect to Allah Subhanahu
Wa Ta'ala.
Right? That I submit my own thinking to
your revelation
that you know better than me and I'm
okay with that. Right? I'm pleased with that.
And I am content with your revelation
even when I can't understand your revelation. So
first and foremost, I submit myself intellectually to
you,
and you are in full control over me.
Your judgment upon me is assured.
Meaning what?
Everything that Allah
has decreed is going to happen
and I'm content with that as well. And
on top of that the expression,
'adlun fiyaqala'ook,
that verily your decree concerning me is just.'
SubhanAllah, think about a person who turns to
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and says life has
been unfair,
you've been unfair,
why me? Why is this happening to me?
Why is this happening to me? The difference
between that person and someone who turns to
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala and says, I have
no doubt
that everything you have decreed for me is
just, that you've never been unfair to me,
O Allah. And you affirm that in your
dua to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
So all of this is praise of Allah
Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
and expressing your submission to Allah Subhanahu Wa
Ta'ala. And then you say, I ask you
by every single name that you have named
yourself with. One of the most blessed ways
to have your dua answered
is to call upon Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
with a specific name
that fits your specific request. So if you're
asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for His mercy,
you call upon him as a ruhman. If
you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for his
forgiveness, you call upon him as al Ghafoor.
If you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for
his lisk, for his sustenance, you call upon
him as Arazaq.
But here, this is all encompassing.
Every single name that you have, oh Allah,
I am including it in this du'a.
The names that you have named yourself with,
meaning the ones that I'm aware of,
the ones that you have revealed in your
book, the ones that you taught to anyone
of your creation,
or the ones that are completely kept to
your knowledge in the unseen?
Now think about that for a moment. There
are names of Allah
that we don't even know, that no creation
of Allah
knows,
and the specific du'a that you may be
asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala with might match
one of those particular names.
And here you're including it in your du'a.
So just like when you make Istikhara you
say,
that you know everything that happens in the
unseen in regards to this decision that I'm
trying to make here. Oh Allah,
whatever name that you have that matches the
ask that I have then I invoke that
name even if I don't know that name
and I'm comfortable not knowing that name. So
I ask you by every single name that
you have, oh Allah,
to make the Quran the spring of my
heart.
Now by the way, it would be pretty
strange to ask Allah to make the Quran
the spring of your heart and to not
read the Quran. So, just like with every
other dua'a, there has to be a deed
that matches the dua'. So you're resorting to
the Qur'an
and you're asking Allah, make the Qur'an the
spring of my heart. What does it mean
to make the Qur'an the spring of your
heart? The scholars mention
that the spring of the heart means give
it life once again. So if you think
about dead land,
nourish it. Give it life once again. Let
it spring once again after death. And then
the second part of this, and to make
it the light of my test. Now subhanAllah,
what do crops need?
They need the soil, they need nutrition, and
they need light.
And light clarifies,
light alleviates,
light relieves. So it's like give me life
after death. And indeed some people, SubhanAllah,
they feel the death of their heart. Give
me life in my heart after the death
of my heart, or what I feel like
is the death of my heart, and then
give me light in my chest, Relieve the
burdens. Give me clarity. Wajalaaahusni
wathahabhami.
And let it be the banisher of my
sadness,
and let it be the reliever of my
anxiety.
SubhanAllah, you're asking Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to
place the Quran
in a certain relationship with you to where
it removes the impact of the past
and the anxiety about the future and indeed
the Quran is a cure and here you're
making du'a to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala for
the Quran to assume its rightful place with
you.
So the Prophet sallAllahu 'alayhi wa sallam said
whoever says this du'a, it will remove every
single anxiety and it will replace
every sadness, every form of grief with joy.
In another narration, Abu Sa'id al Khudri radiAllahu
ta'ala Anhu says that one day the Prophet
entered the masjid
and he saw a man from the Ansar
named Abu Umama radiAllahu ta'ala Anhu. And he
asked Abu Umama radiAllahu Anhu what's the matter?
Why are you sitting in the masjid when
it's not the time of salah? And he
said, You Rasulullah,
never ending worries and never ending debts.
Never ending worries and never ending debts. And
the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, shall I
not teach you words that if you say
them it would settle your debts and it
would ease your worries? And he said, of
course You Rasulullah.
The Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said, say in
the morning and in the evening, Allahumma'inni
a'udubika
min alhammi
walhazan.
Oh Allah, I seek refuge in you from
alhamwalhazan,
anxiety
and grief.
Hem is anxiety about what's to come.
Hazan is grief over what has already passed.
So, oh Allah,
remove the trauma, remove the pain which paralyzes
me because of something that has happened in
the past, sorrow over something that's happened in
the past, and the anxiety
that doesn't allow me to act in regards
to my future.
And I seek refuge in you from inability
and laziness.
Al ajaz
is when you want to do something
but you can't do something, you're unable. So
you have the willingness but you don't have
the ability.
Al Kasl, laziness,
is when you have the ability but you
don't have the willingness. Right? So you can
do something but you don't want to do
something. So you're asking Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
to activate you beyond that. So the first
part of this dua, the first half of
this dua is about emotions. The second half
is when the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam said,
and I seek refuge in you from cowardice
and from stinginess,
wa'a'uthubika
mimgala batid deini wakahr rijal, and I seek
refuge
in you from being overcome by debt and
from being overpowered
by men. So you'll see once again in
the same du'a the prophet teaching us how
to remove pain and how to remove the
effect of pain, the tangible
and the intangible.
And that's also a sign
of the care that Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala
has for us that he would instruct the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam or inspire through the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam these words of du'a
that control our very emotions. The last one
I want to leave you with is actually
one that's very beautiful, A'isha radiAllahu ta'ala Anha
when she would become angry, she said that
the messenger of Allah SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam would
put his finger on her nose, like stroking
her nose to calm her down. And the
Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam would say to her,
You Uweish, which was a nickname, like little
Aisha, calm down,
calm down and listen to what it is
that I'm about to teach you. Say this
dua, say Allahum araba Muhammad, O Allah the
Lord of Muhammad. Ikhfirli dambi
wa'adhhib ghaydhaqalbi
wa'a'idni
minmudullahiatilfitan.
Once again, Allahummarabba
Muhammad.
Ikhfirliizambi
wa athhib ghayfaqalbi
wa'izzni
minmudullatil
fitan.
That the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam said,
Say, O Allah, the Lord of Muhammad Sallallahu
Alaihi Wasallam, Ikhr lizambe forgive my sins,
Wa athhib ghayfaqalbi
and remove the anger from my heart,
wa aizni minmudullatul
fitan and protect me from the fitan that
mislead me. And Sub SubhanAllah, if you think
about it, there is no other time in
your life in which you do things that
you regret
than times of anger,
when you do things that harm yourself
and you do things that could potentially take
you away from your deen or spoil your
dunya. And the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wasallam is
teaching A'isha radiAllahu Anha by stroking her nose,
You Aisha
say this du'a and it will do away
with your anger and it will stop you
from putting yourself in a situation as a
result of that uncontrollable emotion
with
unending circumstances and consequences in this life and
potentially in the hereafter
as well.