Nouman Ali Khan – The Sacred Responsibility of Parenthood – Surah At-Talaq

You know what that means?

Allah took one sacred relationship To prepare the

child for the ultimate sacred relationship, which is

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we switch gears وَكَأَيِّمْ مِّنْ قَرْيَةٍ عَتَتْ عَنْ

أَمْرِ رَبِّهَا وَرُسُولِهِ فَحَاسَبْنَاهَا حِسَابًا شَدِيدًا وَعَذَّبْنَاهَا

عَذَابًا نُّكْرًا It's gonna feel like it's a

different surah And how many villages, towns, cities

have there been that disobeyed the commandment of

their master and disobeyed the commandment of their

messenger so we took them to account with

an intense audit and we punished them in

a way that was never even heard of

before This is what Allah is saying Destruction

of past nations Where did that come from?

I'm not gonna tell you yet I'll tell

you by the end today وَكَأَيِّمْ Let's start

with the first word اسمٌ لِعَدَدٍ كَثِيرٍ لِعَدَدٍ

كَثِيرٍ مُبْهَن يُفَصِّلُهُ بِمَا يُمَيِّزُهُ بَعْد كَأَيِّمْ means

oh my god how many on top of

many on top of many and then it's

clarified with من something So what an enormous

number of civilizations have there been قَرْيَةٍ have

there been Towns have there been that disobeyed

the commandment of their Rabb Can you name

some of these towns that Allah mentioned Some

of them I mean he's saying there's a

lot more than he mentioned But some of

them that he mentioned do you know Aad,

Thamud, even Firoun for example There's these qura

that were destroyed right And Allah talks about

them أَهْلَكْنَاهُمْ So let's talk now about a

little bit for Maybe I should just tell

you now Fine I'll just tell you now

I call this the first and the last

domino So let me explain what I mean

by that You have family law Which is

what we saw a glimpse of family law

And I told you earlier on in today's

discussions in the previous ayah That the bond

of the man and the woman is sacred

in the quran And actually the first bond

of human beings was the bond of Adam

and Hawa Was the bond of marriage Right

so it's the most sacred bond in existence

between human beings Okay now having said that

Because of that bond being sacred The way

you enter into it, the way a man

and woman can be together Needs to be

sacred And the way they end that also

needs to be sacred Right that's what we

described And as a result of that Because

there's so much care put into how a

man and woman come together As a result

of that the child that is born from

that relationship Is also a sacred responsibility is

it not And as a result of that

the child is also told to honor the

two people that came together To bring that

child into this world And so And the

relationship we have with our parents is also

what?

Sacred So now humanity is building this system

And the first Think about a child The

first instance of shukr Or tawakkul Right Allah

used the parents As a training for a

child Whose mind isn't yet developed To eventually

replace the parents with Allah Everything the child

was doing with Allah As the child grows

older He replaces that with the parents And

that's why you notice the language So you

don't stop thanking your parents But you realize

that the gratitude you have to your parents

Behind that gratitude is your gratitude to Allah

subhanahu wa ta'ala But the way Allah

taught the human being The gratitude to Allah

The first training Even the child is born

with fitrah It doesn't come out saying Alhamdulillah

It doesn't do that And the first words

that come out of its mouth Eventually is

not Allah First words You know what that

means Allah took one sacred relationship To prepare

the child For the ultimate sacred relationship Which

is what?

The relationship with Allah So now what I'm

trying to tell you is The marriage is

sacred The child is sacred The child coming

up and learning the relationship with his parents

And being grateful to his parents And her

parents is sacred And all of that eventually

leads to the regard One is supposed to

have for Allah azza wa jalla In fact

You know how the famous hadith of the

Prophet Says مَنْ لَمْ يَشْكُلِ النَّاسِ لَمْ يَشْكُلِ

اللَّهِ If you can't thank Allah If you

can't thank people, you can't thank Allah Well

the first instance of that is If you

can't even acknowledge the best Behavior to your

own mother Who gave you birth That she

brought you into this world Then how are

you going to Thank the one who brought

you into this world That you can't even

see And that's Allah So it's only logical

That you are trained with the seen To

prepare you for the unseen Now having said

all of that From this comes an entire

system Of blood ties being sacred And from

this Then comes this idea That the yatama

Yatama are people whose sacred tie Parents have

been cut So they become yatim So what

does Allah do?

He says اتقوا ربكم الذي خلقكم من نفس

واحدة وخلق منها زوجها That ayah Ends with

تقوى أولى الرحم In Surah An-Nisa What's

the immediate next statement?

وَآتُ الْيَتَامَ أَمْوَالَهُمْ Give to the yatama, why?

Because now it's your sacred duty You as

a community must cover for those Who don't

have the shadow of that other Sacred relationship,

their parents So you must go cover for

them You must help them Now imagine a

society in which The man and the woman

coming together Is not sacred They can just

get together Hook up and hook off And

sink their hook somewhere else And they can

just have Casual relationships Nothing is sacred about

it Nothing If such a society existed I

mean you wouldn't know of such a society

But I'm saying hypothetically If such a society

existed Then the child that comes into existence

As a result of that union Is that

child being treated As something sacred?

No Because the union from which he came

Or she came Itself wasn't sacred So the

child is not being treated as someone sacred

And will that child see their mother Or

father as sacred figures To be thankful to

To turn to, to learn from So they

can eventually turn to the ultimately sacred Will

that happen?

No In fact they'll talk to their mom

And say, yeah Jennifer I'm busy right now

They'll call their mom by their first name

I don't know my dad And if I

knew him Beep, beep, beep You'd get a

society where The parents are no longer sacred

Which means, by the way For a child

who's coming up naturally Who are the most

important people In the life of a child?

Parents If you remove the parents from the

equation You know what that means?

There's nobody important left If no one's around

that's left The only one that's sacred Is

who?

No, not Allah Not for that young man

Yourself Now you're sacred Looking out for number

one, baby Now Everyone else is a burden

The only one that matters is Me, the

whole universe revolves around Me Now imagine an

entire society Of millions of people Who have

removed the sacredness Of the man and the

woman coming together And the child becoming a

sacred responsibility What happens to such a society

When you say Listen to your Rabb Rabb

I don't even listen to my mom I

don't even listen to anybody You know who

I listen to?

Me That's who I listen to A nation,

as a nation That entirely rebels Against the

command of the Rabb Because they have no

authority They don't recognize any authority Why would

I listen to a messenger?

Another human being?

He's just human Well the first people you

were supposed to have regard for Were also

human, weren't they?

But you don't have that As a culture

in that society you don't have it Once

you remove The sacredness of family You have

prepared a society for Eventual Not just kufr

but utu And we'll discuss utu in a

second What does that mean?

We'll dig into that a little bit But

what I'm saying is The first part of

this surah Was the first domino that you

need to keep from falling But if you

don't Let that domino fall Dominoes will continue

to fall Until you get to the final

domino Which is what?

حَاسَبْنَهَا حِسَابًا شَدِيدًا وَعَذَّبْنَهَا عَذَابًا نُّكْرًا And all

the other dominoes in between You're too smart,

you can figure that out yourself Hey guys

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