Disagreements And Divisions In Our Ummah –

Nouman Ali Khan

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like to share with you just a

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brief set of lessons from one ayah from sort of shoulder to shoulder is the 42nd, sort of the Quran. And this is the 14th ayah Surah 42. And number 14, Alonzo just speaks in this ayah about an archetype

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in regards to disagreement within this

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within the nation of people that believes and we of course, are not the first nation we're not the first oma that had a man, they were the nation before us that came before us that also had a man. And we're not the first ones that have disagreements with each other there were nations before us, even despite the fact that they believed that they disagreed with each other. Nowadays, it's not very shocking for you to say how can believers disagree with each other, because pretty much any Muslim you talk to who knows of Muslims having disagreements with one another, whether they are religion based or not, but for the most part, they're based in some way shape or form in the

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religion, we have religious disagreements with each other. A large religion speaks in this surah. In this in this particular ayah, about a particular brand of people within the religious community within the believing community that engages in the act of falling divided among each other. They felt they fall into division. A large division says well, Martha for Rocco, they didn't, they didn't fall divided at all, in the except mean by the merger.

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Except after knowledge had already come to them. knowledge came to them. And only after knowledge came to them they fell into disagreement. Now of course, people that have religious knowledge, we call them scholars and scholars mind You are the means by which this oma is united.

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The people have knowledge of religion are the means by which the oma is united. But there's a certain breed of people that actually have religious knowledge. But they don't use that knowledge to cause unity. They use that knowledge to cause this unity, to cause this unity. And how do they do so large that wouldn't says what matter for Roku? Remember the magic bazian baina. Home the key word here is buggy and in the ayah. buggy in the Arabic language, the closest thing I can think of in English is the urge to dominate the other. You have this ego, you have this pride, you have this self, the sense of self. And your concern is to overpower someone else. So a king or a ruler trying

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to invade the land of another or to an ex is engaged in this buggy. This this buggy is just the urge to dominate the other party. Allies origin uses this word in in the Arabic language, it can be interpreted in two ways it could be called what's what's termed a free level, or a HUD. And we'll discuss the meanings in English at least what the implications are of these two grammatical analyses. On the one hand, Allah says the way in which they disagreed, the way in which they disagreed, was arrogant. The means of their disagreement was full of this, you know, this urge to dominate this ego. So you could see in the way that they're arguing with each other that there's a

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lot of ego involved. It's really not about the issue. It's really not about who's right and who's wrong. That's not really the case, even though they're giving evidences and they're citing a hadith and then before us, the people of the book before us cited their books, when they argued with each other. But the real reason wasn't that they're genuinely in disagreement. The real reason was, I want to prove that I'm right. And I want to prove that he's wrong. That was the real reason. This is bulky and by no home, right. So, the way in which they argued was arrogant also Motorola which means the reason for which they argued the reason for which they disagreed was their ego. So what is the

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means with which they argued an arrogant fashion of argument, and then the purpose of the argument the purpose of folding,

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into division is something deeply rooted inside an ego. And this is something that a Muslim has to be very careful about. Because in our times, we fall into disagreement all the time. And this is one of the great plagues of this ummah, across the globe. And especially even here, we're not an exception in the United States, we're not an exception, you have people saying, Don't listen to this shape, or that shape. Or don't listen to these people, or those people or this group, or that group or this machine or that machine. All because I have the hook, I have the truth, and these people are on the bottle, they're false. You know, in Islam, when you want to correct someone, when you want to

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correct someone, you're not correcting them, because you want to overpower them or you want to prove to them how wrong they are and how Right you are. You want to correct them because you want to benefit them. We have this genuinely shared love among ourselves that we all share that in a in the law. So when you correct someone, you correct them out of humility and out of love. alaris origin describes this attitude as the Latin meaning they are humbled, they're overpowered when they deal with other believers. They don't come to them full of ego, they come to them full of humility. But you will find among this a trend that when we correct one another, we correct one another as though

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we're talking about some enemy of Islam. Someone that we have to completely humiliate in order to correct them. Now you tell me, if somebody tries to correct you in that way, would you rather listen to them? Or would you rather fight back? So what we ended up doing is we ended up putting more fuel on the fire in the means by the means with which we disagree with one another. There's certain ethics in the way a Muslim disagrees with another Muslim, right? Look at our look at our Lama when they would disagree with the opinion of another scholar. First, they would make the offer that scholar and say, Rahim Allah, may Allah reward him. May Allah bless him. And then they would say we

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respectfully disagree with this one thing.

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And Allah knows best, they would edit the egg on the lentils best. But you find this is not the case nowadays. what the case is nowadays is the Muslim comes to the other Muslim. And he says to him, you're not doing this right. By the way, let me tell you what the heck is and this especially happens with our youth, they take a class or two, or they read a couple of articles on the internet. And now they're ready to fight with their parents, or they're ready to correct the Imam or they're ready to interrupt a hot boy even to say no, you're on the button, your data is incorrect. Whatever the case may be, however, can convinced you are that the person is wrong. Are you doing more good?

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by causing the scene by causing this division? Is your intent to benefit this person or to harm him? So the question becomes, are we really correcting one another? Because of a genuine concern to make things better for our Muslims? To all for all of us to be on the right path? Or are we correcting one another because there's this ego involved? And when this ego does get involved, let me tell you what happens. Allah azza wa jal didn't leave this leave us in the dark here, this ayah in the first part of the ayah, Allah tells us that they rebelled for or they disagreed and they fell into disagreement for this reason Buffy and Vito, Bahian by now, and then lets us know that this is not

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something that was happy with. This is something that brings about the Wrath of Allah, what Allah brought is the truth and the truth should be a means of unity. It should be a means of unification and incidentally on the side before we go on, I want to share one more thing with you from the Sunnah of our messenger sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you know, the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam is obviously obviously delivering the truth. Anybody who accepts Islam has accepted that Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa sallam speaks on behalf of revelation that has given been given to him by Allah. So, of course, all this I have are convinced that he speaks the truth but even then Allah

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tells him, you better deal with your Sahaba your companions in a certain way. Allah says to him, febi Mara met him in Allah hillington Oh, listen is profound. And so on and so on. He says it is by the mercy of Allah alone, that you are lenient towards them, meaning the Sahaba so let's telling him it's a love of mercy that our messenger sallallahu alayhi Salaam is lenient to the Sahaba. And then he says, well, oh, couldn't afford one illegal.

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Had you been tough, hard hearted, had you been harsh, then from boomin Holic, they would have run away from you.

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Allah says about the Sahaba they would have dispersed away from who, from the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, only if he did one thing wrong, which he didn't, by the way, and what's that one thing if he was harsh? If he was harsh, the Sahaba would have run away from the Messenger of Allah is what Allah says Allah subhana wa Tada. Thought foreign home was done from the home. Why shall we

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look at the advice being given to the Messenger of Allah sallallahu send them lovingly forgive them five run home. They will make mistakes they will disappoint you when Muslims work together for any cause that we're working

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To build a machine, we're working at an MSA, we're working for an Islamic organization. We're working on a dharwad project. We're working on an assignment school, a Sunday school, all these projects when Muslims work together, things come up, you, you end up arguing with one another at some meeting, your opinion is not taken, or somebody went one way and you were deciding to go another way, or there was some assignment that you gave to someone and they didn't fulfill it happens. It's it's a part of life, right? We fall into disagreement. And of course, the Sahaba, on the other hand was right, it's very possible. At some point someone will make a mistake that will

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disappoint the Messenger of Allah sallallahu sallam, what advice does Allah give His Messenger sallallahu sallam, he says number one factor on home, forgive them lovingly. meaning there's one thing to say it's okay. Don't worry about it. Right? You mess up. And your boss says to you, it's okay. Don't worry about it. But you could tell from his face that it's not okay. That there's still something wrong. Right? And there's a kind of pat on the back, relax. Don't make a big deal out of it. Forget it, forget it ever happened. Then you feel a little relieved? The messenger is being told basically to give the pat on the backs of the lover and even send them five four on home. Then Allah

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says don't stop there. What's the fella home

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and ask forgiveness for them. How do you really know you forgiven someone? When when you're making the offer yourself when you're making the offer your mother when you're making to offer your children, you're also making the offer the one that has offended you or has disappointed you? Was Tukwila home. And then on top of that this is the most profound it's incredible in the Sunnah of Our Messengers on the lower the quality of leadership, the quality of the one who had the most knowledge among the people. Allah azza wa jal says to him more shall be at home will

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consult them when you make a decision. Take their Shula is also the name of the sutra we're discussing here even though that is from IBM Ronnie Shula shall

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take their consultation take their opinion in decision making. Now let me ask you this. The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Allah says about him. Well my antico Anil, however, he doesn't speak on his own vain desire. He speaks based on revelation. Does he need to consult anybody before he makes the right decision? No, he doesn't need to consult anyone. But Allah tells him to consult who was the heart of the lohana was mine, especially the ones who he has just forgiven. Why? Because you know, even after he forgives us a hobby even if he forgives him,

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this hobby still feels it used to be different before this issue. He forgave me. But now things are not the same as they used to be. But if the messenger asked him, what's your opinion, give me your input. All of a sudden he feels things are back to normal. The messenger asked me some Allahu alayhi wa sallam now It means there's nothing left in his heart against me. So to ensure there's nothing left not an inkling of pain left in the hearts of the companions well the Allahu Allah commands His Messenger wish I

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wish I would have for them and it makes it clear it's not because you need their decision, who's gonna make the decision, the Messenger of Allah himself so lenses the is kind of what either what either as a mentor, when you reach the decision, when you are convinced fatawa Corolla, then put your trust in Allah meaning that's the matter is closed, the decision was was actually in your hands. Now we come back to this ayah the ayah at hand. Allah azza wa jal is speaking about disagreement, disagreement. On the one hand, we have the example of the messenger sallallahu alayhi wasallam, who is making every his making sure of every finest detail, that the group does not fall

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into division, that they don't fall into division, he's making sure they remain cohesive. And on the other hand, there is us, the way in which we disagree with each other is so ugly, and it's so violent, and it's so merciless towards the other. Sometimes it puts us to shame. We treat the people that are not Muslims. And I'm not saying treat non Muslims in a bad way. But we treat non Muslims in a much nicer way at the grocery store.

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But at the checkout counter, or when you're pumping gas at the station, or your boss at work, or the secretary, and we treat the Muslim brother or the sister much, much worse when we come to the masjid. Much, much worse. We disagree with each other and get annoyed with each other over really small things, really, really small things. And this brings about the Wrath of Allah azza wa jal, he says what Allah Kalimantan sakakawea rahbek Isla De Lima sama had it not been a word that had already come from Allah, a word it is a word of Allah that has already been declared meaning Allah has already decided when this act will be punished of dividing among yourselves. A lot already

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decided a date, a date, a fixed deadline, that date will be the date when this one this act will be punished. If Allah hadn't already fixed that appointment, luckily have a new home their matter would have been declared already. The punishment would have come right away. The only reason they're not being punished now is a lead decided that their punishment will come later. And Allah knows the wisdom in that we don't know kobina him but then he lets us know

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The consequence of this behavior of Muslims disagreeing with each other, he lets us know of the consequence of this. The consequence of this, of course, we are divided were disunited, but the real consequence of this is in the next generation, not in your own generation. In the next generation, Allah says we're in Allah Dena od tokita Ambani him. And it is no doubt, those who were given the book to inherit after them, those who inherited the book after them, Allah didn't say they were given the book, in the meaning by the home, no, not the believers after them in the Latino refill Kitab. Remember the him, those who are given the book and inheritance after them, meaning they got

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it from their fathers from their mothers, they got the book, they got the religion because they were born in Muslim families. They were born in a community which was engaged in disagreement. What happened to these kids, this next generation of Muslims supposedly left the check came in who Marine, first of all, they have no confidence in their faith, the fee check check is a kind of doubt that takes the confidence away from you, you're not sure about something. And then marieb a kind of rival counter kind of doubt that keeps you from going forward. So every time that you know there's an issue of halal or haram the right or wrong according to the dictates of this, Deen, they're not

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so sure if that's the thing they're supposed to do. The next generation is in doubt about the religion altogether. Because the generation before was too busy fighting, it was too busy fighting, you know, something that happened in the Muslim world, that those of you that come from the Muslim world already know. And the Muslim world. Let's take Pakistan, India, for example, where I come from,

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Muslims are basically divided into multiple camps. But if you want to generalize, there are two basic camps. There's the religious Muslim, somehow religious, whatever affiliation they may have. And then there is the more secularized, modernized Muslims, the Muslims that are not very religious, the Muslims that are sort of cut off from religious learning altogether. And you know, the people, they're all they all call themselves Muslims, by the way. But you know, if you ask the average educated, secularized or semi secularized Muslim, why don't you learn more about the religion? Why don't you practice them? I mean, after all, you're Muslim. Why don't you practice it? You know, what

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they say, Oh, these mullahs, they're always fighting each other.

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What am I want me to turn like them? You want me to be like them? Go look, go into the machine. One, guys. Give me a call back against that guy that goes against that guy. Every group is saying you're not in this group, don't come to this machine. Don't go to that machine. This is as crazy as it gets in the Muslim world. And we're no exception.

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We're not as crazy because the law doesn't let us be the only reason. But I've seen insanity here to in the massage people speaking against other groups, people speaking against Imams and daddies, you don't know them, you have never spoken to them in person. But yet you have the audacity to say this person is not on the hook. They're, they're evil. They're, you know, they're on falsehood, this and that. It is it is to the level of ugliness. So the average Muslim who doesn't even come for five prayers, doesn't even pray five times at home. The only time they show up at the machine, by accident by the mercy of Allah is for Juma prayer, and they hear this nonsense. They hear this on

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the member, would they ever want to come back? Would they ever be sure about their religion, they fall into more doubt about it. Well, in the Latino audience, we'll get back to him. Luffy shock came in Hungary. I go around the country, and Subhanallah wherever I go, I meet some parents, they say I want you to talk to my kids. Can I invite you to my house, I want to I want you to talk to my kids. And I talk to these kids, you know, the kinds of questions they have. I get Muslim families, Muslim families for generations, and their kids are asking me questions like, how do you know for sure God exists?

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What's wrong with homosexuality? What's wrong? I'm not so sure. I don't you're not killing anyone? What's wrong with it? So what if I hang out with guys?

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I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. It's not like I'm, you know, doing anything worse. And if somebody does drugs or things, I mean, these are Muslim kids asking these questions. They're not asking in front of their parents asking away from their parents. So I don't tell their parents but

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the fact is, they're in doubt. They're in doubt. Where did this doubt come from? The generation before was too busy in argument. Why were they arguing? They were arguing because they had this ego inside. I'll call it out. I'll be blunt, this time. across this country. I've seen arguments like $8 v versus 25. V, either on Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday, or Thursday or Friday. Right. The disagreement within the Muslim? Should our demand be an Arab should be an African African American should be should it be a DC? Should it be this or that? Right? Who should give the hoba these are the disagreements between the Muslims. And a lot of times the Muslims who are disagreeing about

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these things fighting tooth and nail don't even know what the issue is. They don't even know why it should be on this day or that day. They just say that guy is a different race for me in the back

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In your head, therefore, I can never agree with him. All those Arabs, all those bases, they're all the same. Oh, those brothers, they don't understand that community doesn't understand. And they're fighting it out. They're fighting it out. And who's being lost in all of these fights? Are you the ones that are suffering is the next generation? Well, let me tell you one true story, and I'm done in child altana. One True story that hurt, it's it hurts me. It hurts me. I was in this community. And they were I was invited to two dinners. The community was half indo Pak, predominantly. And the other half was Arab community. And because I speak a little bit of Arabic, I broke the ice with the

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our brothers and my pajamas. Okay, so I've made good friends with these young girls, too. So I got invited one night to a DC household where all the brothers got together, of course, which brothers, the DC brothers and the other night, I got invited to the Arab community. And you know, I hung out with the brothers on the other side.

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The fight between this community only to mention names was which Imam should we hire? Should he be an Indian Imam? Because the majority is indo Pak and we're Hanafi. So we should have 100 female? And the other side? No, we need an Arabic mom, because Arabic is the language of Islam. And you know, the sunlight is to speak and you know, the Islam actually not assume that the Islam promotes the Arabic language, therefore, we need an Arabic mom. So who was promoting an Indian Imam?

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They ended up pacts who was promoting an Arab among the Arabs. And when I go to one side, they're trying to say why don't you convince them of an Indian Imam and I go to the Arab families? And one of them say, why don't you convince them of an Arab him and I blend to both of them. And I said the same thing. Let's assume you get the top notch scholar that you want. The best scholar cracks the best jokes in inhabited body or do or, you know, or in, you know, dialectical Egyptian on Mia, and you're really happy with him? Your kids, the indo Pak kids, the African American kids, the Arab kids, the turret kids, the Indonesian kids, the kids of the people that have recently accepted Islam

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from varying ethnicities, their kids, can they understand these imams?

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No, they're not really concerned about their next generation. They're not Who are they concerned about? themselves, it's like this nostalgia

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of back home. I want to feel like it used to feel when I was younger, and I used to listen to that Imam. So I want my mom to remind me of the old days where I used to be. And the one being sacrificed in all of this is who the kids that are barely awake in the hood. But the kids when the hotline is being presented, they're outside playing basketball, or worse, or worse. Who What are we doing this for? Who's gonna be filling these these roles in 20 years, who's gonna be there? We haven't thought ahead. And in these in these arguments we have against each other. The only one suffering is the next generation. They're the only one suffering. There's nobody to talk to them. You see these

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youth, right? They have problems. Your kids, the vast majority of Muslim kids, they go to public school, they do. And public school, everything goes. I mean, I went to public school in New York in the 90s. And that was bad. But nothing, those were good times compared to now.

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A lot has changed just in 12 years, it's insanely different. Your kids hear things, they see things. They know things that you don't even know exist. They have vocabulary that's out of your scope. They know words you've never heard before. But if you knew if you know what they mean, you'd have a heart attack.

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And your boy at school, or your daughter at school in high school, some boy comes to her. And he says you have pretty eyes want to go out sometime. And your boy at school, some other girl comes to him and says you're kind of cute. Is he gonna tell you? He's not gonna tell you. Because if he tells you, you're gonna go crazy, I should ship you back to Pakistan.

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You know, this, this is my solution. Or I'm as a punishment, I'm putting you in Islamic school, or you better memorize what

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you think that's gonna solve the problem. Our kids have no one to talk to. So you know who they end up talking to. They end up talking to their non Muslim friends who say hey, she thinks you're cute, right? That's probably a good thing. Go for it, man.

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So the current, they cut themselves off from their parents, and they find a new affiliation with those who have no religion. Those who have no values. Whose fault is all of this. Whose fault is all of this? It is us the elders. I myself included. I'm a parent too. We are too busy in these petty disagreements. And we've lost sight of the bigger priority which is our children. Our kids, they need someone to talk to they need counsel. The machine is supposed to be their refuge. You ask the average youth in the average Muslim community in this country. Would you like to go to the machine? You know what they're gonna say? No. What am I gonna do there? I don't understand what they talk

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about. And half the time these uncles are fighting anyway. That's

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For a while I'd rather go with my friends go see a movie, go play pool, we've made the machine unattractive. For young people, we've done that. That's our fault. But it's not too late. We learned these lessons from Allah's book that the next generation fell into doubt about their religion, nothing can be worse. Nothing can be worse if your kids are far from the religion, what's gonna happen to their kids. And if their kids are even worse, what's gonna happen two generations, three generations from now, I met a Lebanese Muslim in New York City. He became he actually took his Shahada when he was 18. After he did some research into his family trees family came from from from

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Lebanon 100 years ago to New York. 100 years ago, they migrated they became Christian 60 years into their migration. They had converted, completely assimilated. Why? Because the next generation fell into doubt. And he just kind of rediscovered Islam took Shahada again, revive the religion of his forefathers, on the Day of Resurrection, all of us that our parents, all of us that are elders, we are going to be responsible before Allah for who, ourselves and our children. And if we messed up with our kids, and as a result, they messed up with their kids and so on and so forth. The entire lineage that is messed up will come back to haunt who, where the problem began. Where the problem

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began, we asked a large origin was tequila mama for a reason make us even more McDuck in Mecca. See mama for those who have Taqwa leaders over those who have Taqwa. Because on the Day of Resurrection, we're gonna need that. We're gonna need that. I pray that Allah azza wa jal, my intent of this talk was not to offend anyone or not to knock on any ethnicity. Or to say, you know, this Imam is bad and daddy mama is good. We have respect, the most respect for all the Allah in this country. They are a blessing of Allah azza wa jal, all of them. But my advice, my sincere advice, just based on the things I've seen as I've traveled around, is that we take the matter of, you know, retaining the

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love of this Deen in the next generation a little more seriously. And in light of that priority, we overlook these other disagreements that we have. They are less important in comparison to what's happening to our children. We have to address this problem. It's a matter of emergency. My alarm is urgent give us a serious concern for our future generation. May Allah azza wa jal unite the hearts of all of the Muslims and remove the petty disagreements that lie within us and May Allah azza wa jal cleanse our hearts and give us a love of each other based on that ilaha illAllah Muhammad Rasul Allah Subhana Allah Houma La ilaha illa Anta Mr. Furukawa to Lake como la Santa Monica