Nouman Ali Khan – The Definition Of A True Friend

			is a Sunday.
		

			Oh boy. So the Sunday comes from SIDS anybody know what that means? Call it out.
		

			Truth, truthfulness, truthfulness, etc.
		

			And so he was actually a genuine friend. What that means is you're friends with someone for no
reason. No reason except a genuine intention. In other words, you're not friends with them, because
being friends with them will make you feel more popular at school, you're not friends with them.
Because you know, when you're friends with them, then others will think more highly of you. Or
they're really rich, and you'd like to get a ride home in their car, or you're not friends with them
for an agenda, you're not friends with them, because you want to get a job. You know, you're not
friends with them, because they're really smart at school. And you could use the help for homework.
		

			You know, not for any of those reasons, when the when your friendship has no strings attached, it's
true. And genuine, you are friends with them for who they are.
		

			Not the things they owe, not the status, they have not the artificial and superficial stuff. But
it's a genuine friendship, despite all of those things. That is not actually true, genuine
friendship, no matter what. And you know what, whether you have a job or not, when you're doing good
good in school or not, whether you're having a good day or a bad day, Sadiq is acidic, they're going
to be there for you, they're going to be there for you. And that's one of the hardest things to have
in life, by the way is that
		

			you can have people that you play sports with, it's easy. You guys can have friends that you play
PlayStation with or whatever, it's easy, it's not hard. You can have friends, you know, you guys
have some pretty intense sports, during your break in school under the hot sun. And you got you guys
you know, the guys playing like volleyball and cricket and all that stuff in the in the heat. So you
can make friends like that it's easy. If you go have friends and go watch a movie together or
whatever you do, you know, hang out in the mall. You know, that's easy, but having a genuine friend
that is there for you whether you own a car or not. Whether you have the money to pay for the food
		

			or not, you know, even a friend that when you are doing well in your Diem, they're your friend. And
when you start making mistakes there, you're still there, they're still there for you. Man, that's
that's a real friend. They don't give up on you because you're not righteous anymore. And that's the
kind of friend you have to be I'm not talking about the friends you shouldn't be looking for
Remember that? I want? Um, this is a conversation about what kind of friendship IV and what kind of
friends should you be, you know, I have to go out of my way, my high school friends, they're not
like me, they're in a different world. You know, we went different ways. And a lot of my high school
		

			friends are non Muslims, but I try to stay in touch with them as best I can. Because they're my
friends. And then we'll come to that later. If you have friends that are non Muslims, we'll get to
that part. Is that even possible? Yes, it is possible? Yes, it is fine. The fact that we have to
understand them properly. We unnecessarily make our make the the worldview of Islam overly
aggressive, overly angry and diffuse our own frustrations into it. And it just hurts our vision of
the deal. It really does. So that's true of non Muslims. We'll get to that in more detail a little
later. But your Muslim friends that have fallen off that you don't see the machine anymore, guys,
		

			you come in, they don't see them anymore. Call them don't say well, you know, he's got different
friends. Now. He does all kinds of bad things. I should forget it. I don't want to talk to him. Last
time I talked to him. He said all this kinds of stuff. No, no, let it go. Don't give up on your
friends. And one of the greatest things about friendship
		

			is you know, it's an Arabic wisdom actually. So people come in Santa Clara and Santa right. Your
friend is someone who's true to you, who's honest with you, not just someone who befriends you, not
just someone who's friendly with you. In other words, when you're falling off, they're true to you
and say, Listen, I care about you. I don't want you to do this. I want to help you. And whatever it
takes, you are honest with your friends. And sometimes you have friends around you that are all
fake. They're all fake. And you do the wrong thing. And they encourage you. And they're afraid to
say something because if they say something to you, or you say something to them, the friendship
		

			might come to an end. So I don't want to say anything because they get really upset. You know, my
friends got really angry. You know? Why I can't say anything? That's your friend, man. Look what
he's doing. He talks to his mother. You should say something No, bro. You don't know, man. As I
talked to his mother, you know, he gets he gets really angry. He makes the Hulk look calm. You know?
I can't I can't talk to him. No, don't do that. On the one hand, don't be judgmental to your
friends. And on the other hand, don't be deceiving the just friendly no matter why you can be
friendly and honest at the same time with your friends. And that's a condition of friendship. And
		

			this is one of the things that people on Judgement Day that are on the wrong side of Judgement Day.
They are heading towards hellfire. They're heading towards a less judgment and justice May Allah not
make us from them. Unless there's about them in the
		

			moon. Nobody misguiding us except the criminals. So they're saying that it's not our fault. We're
going to *. It's not our fault. We're in trouble.
		

			on Judgement Day, it's criminals that misled us that people misled us. Now, who are these people
from under lemon shuffling, we got nobody to make a case for us. Now, a shark fin is someone who
likes you. And when you're getting in trouble, they stand in the way and say, No, no, no, no, no,
He's good. He's okay. Like, imagine you're in trouble with the principal. And the teacher comes in
and says,
		

			he's a good student, I'll take care of it. He comes in the way that she thought. They say, today,
nobody's coming to Microsoft. Nobody's got our back today. And then they say what else have eaten
her mean? Sunday is the only time this word is used directly like that, and abroad.
		

			They say today, we have no true friends that are that are close to us, that are showing us off. No
loving true friends. So kind of like, you know, what I was saying is the converse is also true. The
people on the wrong side of Judgement Day will complain, we have no true friends today. And the
people on the right side of Judgement Day will actually be on the opposite end. And they will have
the shuffling
		

			around he was in the middle of all of this for them. And they will have genuine friends. They'll
have friends that were true to them here. And and that's the other thing about this. Why do you lose
friends, you lose friends, sometimes because you're honest. You're truthful. You just say the right
thing. And they don't want to hear that.
		

			You don't want to they don't want to hear that. And you know what that does. They can distance
themselves but that doesn't mean you give up on them. You come back to them and you still remain
true. So it's friendships can be painful in this world. They can be painful in this world, but you
still don't give up on them and then they become eternal friendships in the ohana. They become
gatherings of constant and permanent happiness.