A Life of Integrity

Nouman Ali Khan


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I'm about before I start my voice, I want you to sit over here so I can see you. You too.

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So I know many of us aren't attending Juma and massage it. But when you do and you attend your mom with your children, then it's important that you make sure that they're not leaning on a wall and they're not sitting on the side, they're sitting right in front. And they are setting respectfully. A lot of times parents let their kids be bunched up together in the masjid. And so the parents are attending and the kids are it's okay for them to be distracted and be talking to each other and things like that we expect the highest manners from our kids, they can goof around all they want. But once the event is given, we have to set certain guidelines. And those guidelines are once the

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event is given all the conversations about video games, playing all the conversations about school friends, you know what, what fight you watched what, you know what movie what what all of that goes, it's gone. All of that disappears, once the event happens, then there's no difference between you and an adult inside the machine. Like that's, this is a less time and you have to respect that. And part of that is you have to make the most of every moment you're here you're not there to relax, you're in the presence, not of the Hatim you're not in the presence of the Imam you're in the Presence of Allah. And you came to us house and ally invited you and the as it actually means part

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of what it means Allahu Akbar is Allah is a greater priority than everything else. And once that announcement is made, you acknowledge that and you repeat it after the month in Allahu Akbar, Allahu Allah is greater meaning greater part of the meaning is greater than everything else I was doing greater than anything on my phone, greater than any conversation I was having greater than any job greater than everything else. So that means that we have to. And I'm taking time to say that because I want the kids that are listening to know the next time you go to a mustard and shallow this, this crisis is over. And we're going to resume our life back inside the massage. And we're going to go

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back and be able to spend time in Allah's house. When you go to the machine doesn't matter which prayer it is before the prayer. You want to goof off with your friends totally cool. But once once the event is given, then it's almost time and you have to have the highest form of discipline. By the way.

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The prayer, the Muslim prayer is perfect rose, isn't it? And all the movements are completely synchronized. Everybody's completely synchronized moving at the same exact time. Where else in the world? Do you see that kind of organization? You see the kind of organization the military, right and the military soldiers marching in unison to take steps in unison. They stop in unison, they move in unison. They speak in unison, isn't it? And that kind of milk because the military is considered the highest form of organization. And there's in the military, the chain of command and the chain of command is the general the commander, you know, whoever it is he speaks and the soldiers immediately

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follow. There's no room for conversation or anything else right everybody lines up

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When the commander is there, everybody lines up and everybody's disciplined, right? Because they, they teach you something in the military about chain of command and discipline. And nobody's messing around when it when time comes for that, okay? Because to them, that's a matter of life and death when the when the actual battlefield comes. So no military in the world will have loose discipline, because that's the same as death. And if they understand chain of command from a commander, a general a captain, whoever, on our side in Islam, the chain of command is Allah Himself, a larger set, lineup, a larger set, come and drop everything, right. So we have to demonstrate that when we

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are in, in his in his house, and we were in his presence at that time. Now, it's not just a tangent from the hood, but that I wanted to give you today because the subject of the ayah, the subject of the hood, but today is the 17th ayah. of sort of look, man. This is again, continuing with mundo de la hora and his advice to his son, and this is where we get to probably the heart of the matter, everything up until now is build up to this. These few concluding thoughts are actually the, I consider them the juiciest part of this conversation. This is the most real part of the conversation. He says, Yeah, Buddha Yeah, my beloved son, my young son, my little boy, Clemens

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salata established the prayer, they commonly translated as established the prayer, let me tell you something about karma. Karma in Arabic comes from the word piano. And piano means to stand. And when you put it as a comma, this is from the fall family, what that does is, it's to make something else stand. Right. So if you're, if you're if somebody was building a tower, they made the brick stand on top of each other, and they built a tower, right, so they did have a building. That's, that's the karma we're building, to make it erect to make it stand, comma, to Salah, you can think of it because we know we use these words, establish the prayer, establish the prayer, what in the world is

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established the prayer mean? One of the ways you can think about that is preserve the prayer, make sure it stays standing, when you do your karma of something, it says if you put in a pillar and or you put a pole or a pillar in the ground, and you make sure you keep checking on it that it doesn't want, it doesn't lean, right? You keep making maintaining it, and you keep so you maintaining the prayer and preserving the prayer that's actually within the meaning of ecommerce, Allah. So what didn't just say pray, and he's the father is not telling his son pray. He's saying preserve the prayer, maintain the prayer, you know what that means. That means the prayer is something that can

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get damaged very easily. Because when something is delicate, and they can get damaged easily, then it needs to be maintained, and it needs to be preserved. Like a delicate plant, you have to make sure some plants you know, they can't stand on their own. So you have to put a stick in the ground, and the trellis and it wraps around the stick, and you have to keep checking on it. Because if the winds were too high, or the sun was too harsh, the plant might burn out, right. So this third we have the plant this making sure that it grows, making sure that it's preserved and taken care of. That's the kind of thing you have to do with prayer. Now, there are some things we have in our life

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that don't require that kind of care. Right. So if you have a car, for example, you don't have to change its oil for a while, and it's running and doesn't matter. Right. And sometimes, sometimes people won't take care of it for a long time until they find out that it's falling apart. Right? There are other things you have to make, check on them constantly. And if you don't, it's gonna, you know, it's not gonna last like ice for example, if you needed ice for something, you have a limited amount of time and it was starting to melt. You have to put it back in the freezer again. Because if you don't maintain the temperature, it's going to melt away, right? By using the word again. What

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Allah is teaching us and what the Father is teaching his son is it's not just enough that you pray because you could have like a busted broken down building called prayer. And you just kind of got it over with

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and that was your prayer. And your parents can come and say did you pray? I'm printing

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remember? Yep. And when you when you actually you know secretly record your son or daughter praying you find out that that looks more like a you know cardiovascular exercise than it looks like prayer.

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Because the record was done in lightspeed you know, in the search done look more like a bird pecking the ground and

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why? Because the prayer was just something you get it get it over with. You just get it over with. You ever see people like a friend of mine loves cars, right? He's always fixing cars. And what does he do? He's constantly looking inside the engine man. That part's getting a little rusty. I need to lube this part up. I need to loosen this up. I need to fix this. I need to fix that car's perfect man. No, no, no

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You don't understand. That's the deep, it's at a different level, isn't it? When you have love of preserving and protecting something, then you're constantly fixing fixing things, there are people that are fixated on the inner decor of their home, or people that are really into gardening, checking on every flower, oh, this one's getting a little weak. There's a, there's a delicate care that goes into it. Right? There are some of you, you know, kids, I'm telling you about gardening, I'm telling you about taking care of the car, you can't relate to that. But if I tell you about things, your collection, your collection of whatever cards, your collection of certain kinds of

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toys, and who touched my collection,

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who touched my shoes, some people have shoes that are like to keep them like they belong in a museum on display, right? My left shoe is slightly a little bit too much to the left who touched it.

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Right. Because you're you want to preserve it perfectly, you want to look at it just looking at it makes you happy.

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Well, you know what, the prayer, the father's giving the son advice is something you have to go out of your way to preserve. And if you don't preserve it, it's going to fall apart. And it's going to be like, here's the analogy, it's going to be like a tree that looks like a tree, but it's just a hollow bark is nothing inside,

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you know, a tree that's a full tree, a car could run into it, the trees not going to tip over the car is going to be destroyed, right. But if a tree is hollow on the inside, and a car smashes into it, what's gonna fall apart, the tree is gonna fall apart cuz there's nothing inside. It looked like a tree, but it wasn't one. Well, what the prayer does, is it actually fills you on the inside. It's it strengthens you and me on the inside. But it won't do that if we don't maintain it. We don't if you don't maintain it. So that's going to be a conversation by itself. How do you maintain the prayer.

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And for some people, you know, it's one thing

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that you're not healthy to begin with. Right? And then somebody says, maintain your health. Now, well, if I'm not healthy to begin with, I need to fix certain things and go through certain therapy and medical medical treatment or, you know, some kind of process before I can actually get healthy, then once I get healthy, I have to maintain it, right.

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So you can't just say maintain your health while I'm not healthy to begin with. I gotta get to a healthy place. So the harder question when the father says to the son maintain your prayer is the son has to ask themselves the daughter has to ask herself is my prayer actually, the way it's supposed to be to begin with that I should maintain it because maintained would mean keep doing what you're doing. But if you're doing the wrong thing, and you and you say maintain the prayer, okay, I'll keep maintaining it. You're not making anything better. You're not making anything better. So first, what needs to be identified is the prayer the way it's supposed to be? Or not? The word Salah

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actually comes from Salah in Arabic, which is what we call the prayer, right? But there's another word for prayer to do. Ah, there is also word for prayer. Okay. And actually it can also be considered prayer, but unless specifically uses the term Salah, and Salah comes from Silla and Silla or Russell actually mean connection. Connection. The prayer isn't just words you say, isn't just movements that you make. It's not just specific direction that you follow. It's not step by step process, all of that stuff you learned. Either you learned it from your parents or somebody, your parents hired somebody to teach you or you went to a Sunday school or an Islamic school, you learn

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that stuff, fine. That's the form of the prayer. But all of that the purpose of all of that was one thing to establish and to preserve the connection to Allah in the prayer. So let me just remind myself in you what the prayer is, the moment I say Allahu Akbar, can I talk to anybody? No. Am I supposed to be looking around? No.

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It's everything in the world, whether your phone goes off, or somebody calling you, right? Or you're late for a meeting,

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or you know, anything going on outside other than life threatening emergency.

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None of that exists. When you are praying, everything came to an end. Everything halted you, for those few minutes that you were praying, the rest of your life did not exist.

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No other priority existed. In fact, you weren't even control in charge of your own body at that point. You can't just walk the way you want to walk. You can't just put your feet where you want to put your feet. You can just put your hands where you want to put your hands. You can move your mouth the way you want to move your mouth. You can move your eyes the way you want to move your eyes, isn't it?

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Your everything has been completely surrendered over to a lot since you say allow birth until the time you say salaam aleikum. wa Taala yes or no.

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You know what that is? That's a rehearsal. And one way you can think about the prayer is it's a rehearsal.

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rehearsal of what day is coming, when we will not be in control of our bodies.

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A lot will truly show us how much greater he is than us. We're not going to be able to speak what we want to speak, we'll only speak what Allah wants us to say. We're not going to be able to move, the way we want to move a la will have control over our limbs, and the remote control that's living inside this cranium right now is going to be disabled. And our body will function in a way that we never imagined before. It's doing things that we didn't want it to do.

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It's testifying, it's speaking the way we never wanted it to speak.

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The Prayer is a reminder of how to how we're gonna all end up surrendering ourselves in front of a law on Judgement Day.

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Now, think about that, on judgment day, it didn't matter what clothes you use to own, it didn't matter what car you had, it didn't matter where you lived, it didn't matter how much money you had, all the arguments, you had all the people you liked, all the people you hated, all disappeared.

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It's just, it's just you and a lot. That's it. It's just you, and Allah, and you're just standing in front of a law, isn't it? By the way, it's called Yeoman qiyamah, the day of long standing.

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And what is the longest part of our prayer, piano?

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piano, there's a reason for that. We start the prayer by reminding ourselves standing in front, because when somebody is standing in prayer, they're standing in front of a law, right?

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They have to connect themselves to judgment day. And they have to connect themselves to a law as if I am in front of Allah. And Judgment Day has already started. For me. It's a recap, it's a small preview of what's going to happen on Judgement Day. And on Judgement Day, I want to be able to say the things that will benefit my because I won't have control over my time. I want to be able to say the right things. And the best things I can say are the truth. And the law tells us that his words himself to see when we stand in front of a law. That is not something you can just automatically get if you say Allahu Akbar subchronic along with political dollars, well, you quickly run through that.

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if you do that, you can finish the prayer. And in terms of fick, you prayed, but you actually didn't, I didn't connect to a law that way at all. I didn't connect with a law. I didn't remind myself what this prayers for. Maintain your connection to Allah through the prayer is a commis. Allah.

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Allah is now telling us people feel that people say things like, and you might say things to yourself, like I want to feel closer to Allah. I want to feel spiritually connected to Allah. Allah has given us the best program to connect to him. That's the prayer, when the prayer is not doing what it's supposed to do, then you're trying to find some other alternative way to feel spiritual. Because you're not giving the actual connection, it's due. Right? If you're not eating the actual healthy food, then you're gonna feel feel better eating junk food. And so at least I'm getting some nutrition. Yeah, you'll get even junk food has nutrition. But it's not what you needed. It's not

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what was going to truly nourish you. So feel good about it for a few seconds. You get something out of it. The same way, the first advice he gives to his son is maintain preserve the actual prayer, the actual connection to Allah. That's what Salah is for. That's the goal of Salah. So actually taking the time when somebody says I want to learn about Islam, right, I want to learn more about my religion, I would argue, you can learn about your religion, and you can learn 100 different sciences in Islam.

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But what if your goal in learning Islam is to connect closer to Allah? Everybody would say that anybody who's a Muslim would say that I want to be closer to Allah, then your first priority should be the prayer itself.

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Wow, what do I know about the prayer? And now I'm not just talking about the form of the prayer. How do you make will do, how do you Where do you stand, you know, the technicalities of the prayer? How do I use the prayer to connect to Allah, that's actually the conversation you have to have with yourself, learn that stuff. remind yourself of that stuff. And even if you learned it took a course on it, read material on it, guess what, it still needs maintenance.

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You could be a scholar and know all the Arabic of the prayer and have studied everything and you can write an article about every every component of the prayer and you're still not connected to align the prayer, because that's all up here. But when you say Allahu Akbar, this needs to be connected. This needs to let go of every other preoccupation. And this needs to be overwhelmed and occupied with Allah. That's what needs to happen in the prayer. He gives us an advice person, I know your feelings are going to go in every different direction. There's going to be all kinds of things you're going to be hit with. There's going to be when you as you get older, you're going to start

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thinking about a lot about how you look.

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You're gonna think about your hair a lot. You're gonna think about whether your mustache is too big or too small or

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Should you shave or should you not shave,

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you can think about which t shirt looks good with with jeans, should I get those shorts, shoes or the shoes, you can think about that stuff.

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You can think about the opposite gender, that those thoughts are gonna come to you.

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You're gonna think about your friends, you're gonna think about who your friends are, and who your friends are not. You're going to think about entertaining yourself these this, your mind is going to be spinning with thoughts all the time, you'll be connected to people to devices to things to your own feelings, you'll be connected, connected, connected, and it will become so easy for you to be disconnected from Allah because you're so busy connecting with everything else. And so he tells us his son, this is something that doesn't automatically happen.

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The more you connect to those other things, the easier it becomes to disconnect from Allah. alchemists Allah,

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maintain your connection to Allah through the prayer, preserve that connection, protect that. And why is he telling him that he's telling him that because he didn't say, son, let me preserve the prayer for you, you better pray.

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Because the father could just say, pray, right, you better finish

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The father realizes something, my little boy is not going to be a little boy for that long, he's going to be a young man.

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And when he's a young man, and when she's a young woman, I will have no say in their choices, even if they pretend that they have a say,

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I become my own person, I have my own thoughts, I have my own feelings. I have my own world that I live in inside my head. And he says, Listen, I won't be able to preserve it for you, I can teach you what to do. But if you don't maintain it, and you don't preserve it, I nobody else can help you.

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Nobody else can help you. Now that if I can give you that if I can make you feel that you will connect to align the prayer, then you will have certain superpowers,

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you will have an ability that other people just do not have, you will have a gift and a strength that other people do not possess. And so Next, I'm going to talk to you about that strength. I'll give you just one small tidbit of it. One piece of it. When you're standing in front of a law on Judgement Day, are you going to be afraid of anyone else? No, you're only going to be afraid of a law. When you're standing in front of a law judgment, are you going to be thinking about anybody else's actions? anybody else's will take what they think of you, or what they don't think of you. And whether they like you, or whether they don't like you, or whether you're popular or whether

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you're not popular? Or whether you're loved or whether you hate Will any of that matter to you on Judgement Day. No, all of that will disappear. And the only thing will matter is is a lie happy to learn and happy yes or no. That's the only thing that's gonna matter. When you truly stand in front of Allah involved in us, in Muslim in Asia, you will live not caring about what anybody else thinks or, or expects except to accept Allah. And then when you come out of that, then your friends expect you to be a certain way. Your culture expects you to be a certain way. Your family expects you to be a certain way. Your society expects you to be a certain way. Your inner feelings expect you to be a

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certain way. And you learn to put all of them in their place and say, Wait, I know all of you won't have your demands. And even your body has its own demands. But you will say no, wait, I want to meet all those expectations first. And if I meet those expectations, and that means I disappoint some of you. I'm okay with that. Because I got to stand in front of Allah. And I don't even have to wait till judgment data stand in front of Allah. I have to have a meeting with a lion about two hours that I got to stand in front of him again, how am I going to face him? If I listen to you and not listen to Allah? You see what that does. It empowers you to not be afraid of people anymore. It

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empowers you to not be concerned about anybody. You can care about people, but so long as you're not violating what alone once it makes you stronger. It makes a person truly truly strong to stand by what's right.

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And you don't say man, how am I gonna answer a law on Judgement Day? You start thinking how am I gonna answer a lead magnet? How am I going to have to stand in front of him? Don't I? I'm going to stand in front of him and I'm going to promise him something. The way you're gonna say we worship only you.

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Oh, yeah, you

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wouldn't what mouth Am I going to take before a lie and say that when I was doing what I was doing, when I was saying what I was saying, when I was acting the way that I was acting.

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When you really connect to Allah, then that connects things. When you were you start seeing it affecting everything that happens between the prayers

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and affects your speech. It affects your actions. It affects your priorities. It affects what you're afraid of. It affects what you're hopeful of.

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Everything starts changing. So he gives his son the most powerful advice. Because at the end of the day, the father is letting his son know, you don't have to live up to my expectations.

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But you're definitely going to have to live to live up to those expectations. A father and a son and a daughter and a mother, all of us are human, we can be alive one day, we can be gone the next. We can be alive one hour, we can be gone the next. So your father used to yell at you to pray, and he's not there anymore. Your love preserve all of our parents. Right? Your your, your mother used to be there, she's not there anymore. Your son used to be there, they're not there anymore. A lot can take less life. He can take he can, he can give and he can take, right. But you know what, whoever comes and goes, you can say, Well, now nobody's telling me to not stay up late. Nobody's waking me up for

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a budget, I can sleep in peace. I don't live with my mom anymore. So I don't have to worry about it anymore. And the father is telling his son, it's not about me. It was never about me. Wherever you are

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intimate will look for some modula whichever way you turn your faces. That's where you find a law.

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That's where you find a law. This is about us facing alarm. And that's the first advice that he gives his son before he gets into how he what kind of things he's going to face in life. So that's the first priority that I wanted to highlight inshallah will be on this, this ayah for a couple of weeks. 3117 and my advice to you, those of you that are that are keeping up with the series for your own personal benefit. It's not that long of a passage. It's so number 31 and this is is number 12 all the way to 19. That's actually pretty much one page. And it's not that hard to memorize. It would be good for you to memorize it, and to rehearse this teaching, inshallah for yourselves and

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your family. barakallahu li walakum por el Hakeem when finally we combine it with the

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100 la vaca wa salatu wa salam O Allah anybody Hindi Mostafa hussin Allah, Allah Mohammed, Mohammed Amin. He was

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