Nouman Ali Khan – Leniency in Leadership

Nouman Ali Khan

Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan delves into the topic of leadership and how leniency should be advocated in this matter as is evident from numerous verses of the Qur’an. In Surah Al Imran, the third Surah of the Qur’an, one particular subject has been given a lot of space in the Surah. And that subject matter is the accounts and whatever happened in the battle of Uhud. it was the second major battle in the Madani life of the Prophet ﷺ.

There are a lot of things to learn from these accounts and that’s why Allah dedicates a lot of Ayaat to this subject and we know that every Ayah of the Qur’an offers us guidance so that we can learn from it and make our own lives better forever to come. So the Qur’an is a book of timeless instruction, timeless counsel and timeless guidance.

Allah says, “No matter how good a leader you are, Muhammad ﷺ, there’s not going to be a better leader, there will not be a better leader. But no matter how amazing a leader you are, victory and loss do not come from you.” The very next ayah says, “If Allah was to aid you, no one can overcome you…”

This implies that victory doesn’t come from the leader. Victory comes from Allah. Allah puts the right attitude in place, right when we need it and loss comes from leaders. Hence, we should inculcate the ability to implement the qualities of this leadership in our household with our wives and our children. We should aim to make ourselves good leaders as teachers, good leaders as people that are in-charge for different aspects of the community. We should imbibe the leadership practices of the Prophet ﷺ so that we can lead a better family lives, better community lives and run better Islamic organizations.

 

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The speaker discusses the importance of learning from the Prophet's teachings and finding the right opportunity to teach a lesson. They emphasize the need for discipline in protecting soldiers and protecting the organization, as it is crucial for the fight against Islam. The importance of leadership positions and forgiveness is also emphasized, with advice given on how to deal with unexpected events and handle leadership challenges. The need for forgiveness and leadership positions is emphasized, and past issues should be addressed based on emotions.

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			certainly and Ron, the third suit of the Quran
		
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			deals with several subjects. But one particular subject has been given a lot of space in the surah.
And that subject matter is the accounts and whatever happened in the Battle of offered and offered
as many of you know, as the second major battle in the Madani life of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi
wasallam there are a lot of things to learn from these accounts. And that's why Allah dedicates a
lot of iaat to this subject. And we know that every eye of the Quran offers us guidance. So Allah
doesn't just tell us what happened. But he tells us what happened and what you can learn from it.
What us as Muslims can learn, not just in that particular situation, but what universal lessons are
		
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			we going to take from that and make our own lives better forever to come. So the Quran is not just a
book of history, it's a book of timeless instruction, timeless counsel and timeless guidance. So it
is in that spirit that I want to share with you something very particular that we learn about the
Prophet himself. sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, in dealing with a difficult situation. How the Prophet
is AutoSum is being taught himself. He is our teacher, some Allahu alayhi wa sallam Kamara, kulu
subhana wa Taala, where you only Mohamed Kitab, he's the one that teaches you the book. So he's our
teacher, but he himself has a teacher. So in the long run, he was alone. And that is a large origin.
		
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			And you know, the best thing to do as a teacher is to find the right opportunity to teach a lesson.
So the opportunity of offered as terrible as it was, and many of you know the details, and maybe
some of you don't know the details of what happened in that battle. I won't give you too many
details here because this is not the place for it. But I at least share with you some of the
accounts so that you have an idea of where we're headed here. It was a tough situation of battle.
Earlier on Allah says what are called sadakazu como la he isn't he is what Radha who is taco
tsunami, isn't he? Allah was fulfilling his promise, when you were annihilating them, you are making
		
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			them feel the heat of battle by his permission, the Muslims came ready. And they were destroying the
enemy on the battlefield. And they were winning. And this is the commentary of Allah Himself, that
you are making the enemy feel the pains of battle in the middle of the battlefield. Now, a lot of
you know in a battle in a war, there are a lot of different, you know, situations. It's not just one
fight going on. There's a fight going on over here, one over there, one over there. There's
strategic locations, and every location has its own importance. The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam had appointed in every major Group, a battalion, if you will of soldiers, every battalion has
		
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			their own leader.
		
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			Because the Prophet himself sallallahu wasallam, can't possibly lead every group. So he has to
appoint you can call them sub managers. So if he's this, the CEO and the general of this army, he
has to appoint certain lieutenants in each position, and that's important. And by the way, when you
appoint a lieutenant, it means you've given them confidence and obeying the lieutenant. And when a
soldier obeys the lieutenant, it's the same as the soldier obeying the general. There's actually no
difference. If a soldier says in the army, I don't have to listen to you. You're just a lieutenant.
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			is actually court martialed because that's destroying the discipline of the army. You can not
everybody can, can go up to the top, just like a lot of you work in organizations, you work in
corporations by guesses, and you have a manager. And then you have up above the corporate ladder,
somebody who's a CEO or a regional director or somebody, people who are in your team, when they have
an issue, they don't go to the CEO, they go to you. And if they skip you and go to the top, well,
they're destroying the structure of the organization and hurts the organization itself. It
undermines the hierarchy of the organization, to make sure that we understand that as Muslims, the
		
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			prophet alayhi salatu, Salam says, men are an effect upon Allah, whoever obeyed me, actually, the
fact of the matter is, they have in fact, obey the law. There's no difference between obeying me and
obeying Allah, what women are immediate for God upon me. And whoever has obeys the one I appoint, if
the Prophet appoints somebody, some alohar leaves to them, a lieutenant, whoever obeys him is the
same as obeying me, is the same as obeying me because that's the chain of command. That's the
discipline structure you have to have in an organization. And there's no tougher organization, no
stricter organization than the military, the military is probably the most disciplined form of
		
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			organizational structure there is. And that discipline is critical, because it can be the difference
between life and death. When a soldier when a lieutenant tells the soldier go over there, and he,
you know, goes one foot over this way or that way, it could mean the death of the entire command, it
could be the death of the entire you know, that entire battalion. So discipline is of key like life
and death importance in the army. Now, the Prophet sallallahu Sallam appoints certain a number of
Sahaba companions to the top of a hill, and they're supposed to be in modern, those of you the
younger folks here, that's the Modern Warfare sniper position. Okay, so they're, they're set up
		
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			there as archers, so that if the Muslims are attacked, they can keep the the security view, they can
see from all angles, if the enemy is coming from behind, they can watch out for him, because the
higher position you can see in every direction, so he appoints them, and he gives them instruction,
you shouldn't even come down even if you see birds eating from our corpses. Bottom line. In other
words, no matter how bad the situation gets on the ground, you shouldn't come down. And the
instruction, even though the Prophet himself gave these instructions, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam,
he left somebody in charge, he left a lieutenant behind, when the Prophet leaves, who's in charge
		
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			the lieutenant is now though it looked like according to what Allah says, it looked like we were
destroying the enemy. We're destroying the enemy. And these archers, some of them 35 out of 50, some
historians say, they said, Look, the prophet said that we should go down, even we shouldn't come
down, even if they're eating from our birds or eating from our bodies. But this is the opposite.
We're winning. We're not losing, we're winning, we should go down, you know.
		
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			And the head of the battalion, the lieutenant says, No, we should stay.
		
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			He says, No, we should stay. So now there is a difference of opinion in interpreting what the
prophet said. Some say the Prophet didn't mean we should stay in every situation, we should just go
down because it looks like we're winning. And the other says, The lieutenant says, No, my
interpretation is we should stay. So 35 out of 50, disobeying him, they disobey him thinking, What's
the big deal, we're only disagreeing with him. It's not like we're disagreeing with the Prophet
himself. Some of them that was their idea. So they come down, and as they come down holiday been
bullied who wasn't a Muslim yet, but he was a genius and political and military strategy, sees them
		
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			coming down and sees an opportunity. 15 archers on top are not going to be enough to hold them down.
So he makes a gigantic U turn and attacks the Muslims from behind, and the tide of the battle turns
a lot captures that entire failure. A lot of stuff happened. They came down, they messed up, we got
attacked from behind the whole scene, the tables were turned upside down. It looked like we were
winning. And now it looks like we are losing and being destroyed. The one phrase in the Quran that
captures that is either official term. What does that
		
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			small phrase until you fell loose, especially with the RBL murase right modern Arabic question is
failure. But an old Arabic fashion is to become loose. The idea is loosen discipline. You guys
loosened up your discipline you can afford to and you started arguing with each other with another I
don't feel angry. You started pulling out each other in what the right commands should be. Even
though there is a hierarchy set what I say to them and you disobeyed me by the Morocco motto
hipbone, you disobeyed after you saw what you love. The soldier sees, you know, swords and shields
lying on the battlefield. Those are the spoils of war. Those are the things you're going to pick up
		
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			and they can be your property. So he sees them and he you know, he runs towards it. But some, some
of us will interpret motto a boon meaning the Sahaba loved victory. for Islam. They didn't just want
the swords in the shields. They saw victory so they ran towards victory. But anyway, the point I
want to make is it turned the tide of the battle. Things got really tough.
		
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			So tough that the Muslims had to retreat. And as they're retreating, and in this chaos, by the way,
the prophet was hit so hard on the Lahore audio salon, that his tooth fell out and he fell
unconscious. And when he woke up, his mouth was filled with blood. And he saw blood on his own blood
all around him. And he was really, really like the rumor even spread that the Prophet has been
killed maravilla you know that this rumor spreading or hood. And when you can imagine people are
fighting, dust is rising, you can't see clearly you don't know what's going on where. And when this
rumor spread, the Muslims were in chaos, all kinds of crazy thing. And then finally, eventually,
		
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			when it was known that he hasn't been killed, there was a secure security line around him. And they
escorted him up a mountain because the horses of the enemy couldn't follow up the mountain, if they
do not want to Luna had Rasulullah Huracan the Muslims were retreating up the mountain and the
Prophet is still left on the battlefield. And he's saying, calling them back,
		
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			calling them back this insane situation occurred, you know, 70 of the great Shahada were killed. It
was the exact opposite of what happened in brother and brother 70 of the greatest leaders of Croatia
were killed. And the opposite happens in about 70 of the great Shahada of the this hub of the
Muslims are executed, and their Shahada. Now, in the middle of all of this chaos, does the Prophet
have a right to be upset? This Mayakoba is not about about love or hurt. It's about something about
the Prophet himself. So a lot more on exam. Does he have a right to be upset? He absolutely has a
right to be upset with the Sahaba. What did you do? Why did you leave your position? Didn't I
		
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			appoint him as my commander? Weren't you supposed to listen to the chain of command this one mistake
cost lives. It costs lives. It costs the prophet Isaiah Salaam, his tooth, he fell unconscious, he
almost got killed in the battlefield. His uncle dies in the process. I mean, this is not something
small. And you know, when you suffer losses, you get upset but when you suffer even the loss of
loved ones as a result of one of your people's mistakes, you have every right to be extremely,
extremely angry. So now there's going to be a meeting the meeting between the Sahaba especially the
Sahaba, who failed who made a mistake, and the prophets on the level or they send them one of the
		
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			Sahaba expecting you think oh man, that's not a meeting you want to go into. That's not a you have a
lot of you, you know, you're working corporate, you have a project Do you must miss the date by like
three weeks, and you're being called to the office? You know what you feel like? It's not gonna be
good.
		
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			So some of you are students you don't hand in your paper and the teacher says Can I meet with you
after class? You know how your your heart gets overfilled like, Oh, my God, my life is over. You
know,
		
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			this overwhelming feeling I imagine the Sahaba have to go meet with the prophets I saw them but
before they meet with the Prophet isotta salaam, Allah azza wa jal reveals tells the Prophet alayhi
salaatu wa Salaam how to deal with them.
		
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			That's the I want to share with you. This is leadership leadership in tough situations. Furby ma 90
min Allah He didn't allow.
		
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			Then it is especially because of the incredible and incredible mercy from Allah.
		
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			That you are lenient towards them. It was there are some things that the English translation of the
Quran just can't capture.
		
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			Linda home, fell into the home be my rock bottom inala at the water table, it will lower the normal
sequence is you Will you say you are lenient towards them because of Allah's mercy. In Arabic When
you say for Bhima rahmati mean Allah, then you say lynnderella home. What that means is it is an
unusual mercy from Allah. This is not something normal, no normal leader can do this. But you are
the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, you enjoy a special mercy from Allah and that's
why the buys before and then there's the mind because in Arabic, you can say Fabiola met him in
Allahu Allah says Fabi ma, ma ma ma ma ma, ma, ma Giovanna. It's shocking, how merciful how powerful
		
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			the mercy of Allah is on you. The Prophet sallahu wa salam, it is such a huge mercy on you. What's
that mercy that when you deal with them, lint, Allah whom you are lenient, and soft, you don't even
come across as upset. You're talking to the Sahaba that cost lives and you're going to deal with
them. And they're not even going to feel like you're angry lintel at home. You're lenient towards
them. You're soft towards them on the law. That's a very difficult thing to do, especially in the
battlefield. Now I we're talking about the battlefield and leadership in the battlefield, before I
go on to attend the rest of the ayah, which is incredible, really incredible.
		
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			All of us, we have to understand if I asked a question, you're not supposed to answer questions
during a clip, but but I'm asking rhetorically, how many of you are in leadership positions? You
know the answer all of you are all of you are. A father is in a leadership position. And a manager
is in a leadership role.
		
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			position, a mother is in a leadership position and older sibling is in a leadership position. You
know, even the youngest sibling has other people in his class in school that are younger than him.
He's a role model, whether you realize it or not. And as Muslims, Allah has put us in leadership
positions, because we're supposed to be examples to others. All of us are in leadership positions.
So when the Prophet is being given instructions, Allahu alayhi wa sallam, in the role of a leader.
And he's being told how to deal with disappointment, how to deal with people that have failed you
how to deal with people that didn't do what you asked them to do, that have made you upset that have
		
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			caused you harm. Then we have to take these instructions, not just something for the Prophet
himself. sallallahu wasallam but what kind of leader Am I when things don't go my way?
		
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			You know, in a college there's an MSA and the MSA president says please make the flyer and have it
printed by this day. And the guy says I forgot I had a midterm and you know, and of course it was a
finals game last night so I just couldn't couldn't find the time to make the flyer and he gets
really hot, bro. Come on, man. I relied on you. The event is in like two days you haven't made the
flyer. What's wrong with you? No, no, no. Lynn Taylor home, this volunteer. He doesn't need your
attitude. You need to be you need to learn from the prophets, leadership, some of them in that most
incredibly difficult situation of life and death. The Prophet is commanded to be lenient. What kind
		
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			of leaders are we going to be? lynnderella? He says, Well, I won't have one.
		
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			And if you were rigid in speech from Lidl lane. Lane is soft, easygoing, for his tough, rigid
scolding he from the from his face, you can tell what he's gonna say is gonna sound like thunder and
lightning.
		
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			I can't believe you guys did this.
		
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			You know, what made you do this? Answer my question, you know, is some teachers getting angry at the
students? How could you fail the exam? How could you have done this to me? That kind of yelling
maybe comes from your boss, when you go late into work? Maybe you're the boss, and you're the guy
that does it all the time. You know, have one if he had you been tough, you know, harsh mouth, you
said mean things all the time, as I leave if you were a heart of the heart, meaning you were
insensitive.
		
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			In Arabic combines two things. Very interesting word. When it combines toughness, and mostly in
Arabic literature, it goes back to the heart.
		
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			So somebody who doesn't it's not very sensitive, not very soft hearted. But it also means hard
toughness for your own protection. In other words, he's tough because he wants to get his job done.
He doesn't care about what anybody else needs to get done. My project, my work needs to get done,
and you fail. So it's your fault. So you're in some sense, you're selfish. When you have liver,
you're just concerned about yourself and insensitive to the problems and the shortcomings of others.
You think the Sahaba already feel guilty even before the Prophet opened his mouth. So Lola Han, he
said, I'm absolutely. And a sensitive leader would already know that. He would, he would already
		
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			know, look, these people, they made a mistake. But look at all the sacrifices they made for me
before.
		
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			They're nonprofits, they're gonna make mistakes. They're just human beings. And all of this that
they've done, and they haven't been paid for it, they've done this out of the goodness of their
heart. So I need to appreciate the fact that as we go, there will be bumps along the road, some
bigger than others. And I can't be hard with them. Local top 100 even called Now listen to this
incredible Ayah what Allah says to the prophets, I saw them. First of all, it's a special mercy from
God himself that you are so nice to them. Second, if you were harsh, and you were mean to them,
London Fog boom, and how lik the English translation says they would have run away from you, they
		
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			would have dispersed from you. The question is who would have dispersed from you the companions of
the Prophet sallallahu sallam, the companions came to Islam because Islam is the truth. That's what
we're told. We they came to Islam, because Islam is the truth, they were convinced that it's the
truth. They were convinced of it. But Allah says, and even though the Quran is still true, and the
Prophet is still the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu alayhi wasallam. And that is the best of all
generations, even if all of that is the case, if the only one difference was you were a mean, rude
leader, even just that one difference, everything else is still the same. The Sahaba would have run
		
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			away.
		
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			How important is the niceness of a leader that the best of all generations according to Allah
Himself, would have run away from the Prophet alayhi salatu salam, if he was harsh, if he was tough,
it's not my word is the word of Allah. When Oakland
		
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			boomin Holic How can we undermine the importance of the character, the demeanor of leadership, how
you're supposed to be with people who work under you? Even the Sahaba the greatest of all
generations were being told they would have run off, they wouldn't have been able to handle it.
		
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			So when people quit working volunteering for the machine, because the president of the machine
yelled at them. I don't know the president. I don't know any stories. Don't tell me
		
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			Don't know.
		
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			But he quit. I don't want to work there anymore. The teacher quit from the Sunday school because the
principal yelled at or,
		
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			you know, people leave, they don't want to deal with it anymore. And you say, well, they don't, they
don't want to serve the cause of Islam. That's why they left Well, actually, you're pretty
obnoxious, you know, pretty tough to deal with. And if the Prophet is being told Sahaba wouldn't
have been able to handle a bad attitude. You can't blame the people. He can't blame the people. We
have to take these people as gifts from Allah, the ones who serve in any capacity, and the mistakes
come along the way, regardless their gifts from Allah. Now,
		
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			the most incredible thing I told you, the English translation says they would have run away from
you. Yes. And in FIBA that's the word used in Arabic land football, in football, in football and
Arabic is actually used when glass breaks. You know, you drop a glass of water and the small pieces
of glass they spread. Can you put the glass back together? No, no, it's impossible. The word used
the miracle laugh.
		
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			Right away, they would have run away he says in fabu. In other words, they would have the group
would have been cracked and dispersed in a way that you could never put that unity back together
again.
		
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			The thing that is holding the unity of the Muslims together is the leniency and the patience and the
love of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam as a leader, can you imagine the value of leadership?
Imagine the value of the leniency of the leader, the patience of the leader, especially when dealing
with disappointment. Being a nice leader when things are going well is easy. The test of leadership
is when your followers disappoint you when they mess up. That's when the test is and that's when if
you don't do your job, the group the effort will break and it will break in a way that can never be
recovered. Again, learn from boom and Holic.
		
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			This is Allah holding a meeting with the Prophet salallahu alaihe salam before he holds a meeting
with the Sahaba let me prepare you for your meeting. Let me have a meeting with you first. So how
should you deal with him then? He's about to go meet with the Sahaba How should you deal with them?
Allah tells him here's what you need to do. Three steps.
		
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			Number one fight for unknown then lovingly forgive them. There's no point dwelling on the past. I
know you feel guilty already. Look, let bygones be bygones. It's over. I don't hold it against you.
Mistakes happen. It's okay. Forgive them. But my uncle no forgive them. But 70 Muslims died, forgive
them. I gave them specific instructions. How could they not listen, Allah says forgive them, let it
go.
		
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			That's what you have to do as a leader.
		
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			That's leadership. He has all the reasons not to forgive. Unless there's no you because it's a
special mercy from Allah. First thing first run and Allahu in Arabic.
		
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			For under McDarrah, right, forgiveness is with the one who has the the nobility, the dignity, the
ability to do so. So the prophet SAW them as a matter of his status. The fact that Allah has granted
him leadership is in the biggest position to be forgiving. The higher you are in leadership, the
more forgiving you should be far for on him, forgive them. Let them know that it's it's it's in the
past, not gonna bring it up again. But then, it may be that in a public meeting, the leader says
it's okay. It's done. I don't hold it against you anymore. But the heart still has a feeling inside.
Like that guy really messed up.
		
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			I mean, I'm saying I forgive him. But every time I see him, I remember what he did.
		
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			You know, every time I see his face, I'm reminded, so it's not like it was before. There's a crack
in the relationship and that crack is deep down inside the heart. It doesn't come on the tongue. It
doesn't come on the but it's in there. So how do you get rid of that? When you are by yourself?
Yasuda Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what should you do? What still FileZilla home ask a lot of
forgive them. When you make the offer yourself and your family and this oma pick the people that
disappointed you and make special offer them. That's how you will know nothing is left in your
heart. So Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And by the way, I added in private moments on purpose.
		
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			Because when somebody disappoints you, and you have a meeting afterwards and you say, No, Marie, I
forgive you, and May Allah forgive you to, then that's not forgiveness, that's humiliation. You
don't say that somebody publicly made love forgive you. You don't do that. You go in private. When
you talk to a love for yourself. When you talk to a love for your forgiveness, that's when a leader
asks for the forgiveness of his followers. It's the exact opposite your being back to being rude and
mean again, when you publicly say, May Allah forgive you what you have done. Oh, you know, that's
not that's not what the case is. This is how you make sure that the leader has nothing left in his
		
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			heart. But there's another last problem. Such a beautiful problem. The last problem is what if the
follower has something left in his heart? The one who does
		
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			appointed the prophet SAW. Selim says, Man, I messed up. He used to listen to me. He used to value
me. He used to respect me. I know it's never going to be the same again after I've messed up. I
mean, how can it be? I know he says he forgave me, but come on how it's impossible for him to get
rid of that from his heart. How are you as a leader going to convince your follower? That it's okay.
		
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			It is as it was, we have mended paths. So there's a crack in the leaders heart that's been mended.
But now there's a crack in the followers heart that needs to be mended. So Allah His Messenger is
told sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, what shall we do home Phil?
		
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			Manhattan column.
		
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			consult them when you make decisions.
		
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			The people who disappointed you when you're about to make a decision now who's making the decision?
The Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wasallam. Does he need anybody's input? No, my antico and
in our he doesn't speak on his own. He gets what he gets revelation. He doesn't need further
opinions. He gets opinion from Allah. But Allah says in order to make your disappointed followers,
your disappointing followers feel like they're special again, before you make a decision. Make sure
you ask their opinion.
		
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			So they feel like what the messenger asked me what I think. But I just messed up last week. It must
mean he values me again. He respects me again. He has love for me again. Just the fact that you
consider it and you asked. And by the way, Allah didn't say de la hora
		
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			pretend that you're asking their opinion don't really ask their opinion. You know what we do? In
short, all right, brother, what's your opinion just like a low hidden like he before he even gives
his opinion usage is like a low Hayden. That's not sure. When the Prophet is being commanded
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam it's this Mashallah is absolute? In other words, genuinely, I know my
time's up, I'll take one more minute, or shall we absolutely seek their consultation in the most
genuine way so they feel valued again. And even though they they have given your given you their
opinion, you will still be the final verdict, you will still have the final rule for either as I'm
		
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			afraid when you by yourself make the decision. After considering all the options for Canada law,
then put your trust in Allah. The last comment I want to leave you with, we're talking about you
know, and I was thinking about this for several reasons. And one of the most common of which is the
elections are around the corner. And in politics, you know what they do, they blame the problems of
a country on the leader.
		
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			It's under his leadership, this happened, this happened, this happened. So it must be his fault, or
under my leadership, this and this and this will happen so I'll take credit for it. So the leader
wants to take credit for everything good happening, and the opponent wants to give him all the blame
for all the bad things that are happening that's happened that happens with leadership. But you know
what Allah says, no matter how good a leader you are, Muhammad salam, there's not gonna be a better
leader. They will not be a better leader. But no matter how amazing a leader you are, victory and
loss do not come from you the very next irss em Sol como la who follows Alibaba calm when you don't
		
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			come from Angola De Luca mendini. If Allah wants to aid you, no one can overcome you. Victory
doesn't come from the leader. Victory comes from Allah. Don't blame your leaders. Help from Allah
hasn't arrived. See Allah puts the right attitude in place right when you need it. Right when you
start thinking victory and loss comes from leaders. Allah puts us in the right attitude. subhana wa
Tada. May Allah azza wa jal give us the ability to implement qualities of this leadership in our
household with our wives and our children. May Allah azza wa jal make us good leaders as teachers,
good leaders as people that are in charge for different aspects of the community. May Allah give
		
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			this kind of put the love of following the leadership practices of the prophet SAW them into the
hearts of every one of us so that we can lead better family lives, better community lives and run
better Islamic organizations. barakallahu li walakum Hakeem when finally we can build it with the
King
		
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