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inshallah, Thailand today's brief conversation. First of all, I'd like to thank the community for
inviting me here, and it's a pleasure to be here. And that allows me to bless this community. And
bless as much as I can keep it full for all the prayers, especially fudger and Russia, and melasma,
which and fill it with young blood in the morning and evenings. I mean, yeah. Okay.
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What I wanted to do in this talk with you today,
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is make reference to some ideas that I've talked about before. And I've given doodles on them
before, but I'll try to come at them from a different point of view this time. Also, what I wanted
to do is start from kind of an outside the Koran, kind of disclaimer, and that is that the concern
we have for our children is something built into our Deen. It's something that's it's not something
that we just came up with. Now. The concern the worry about the future generation is something that
was given to us by our father Ibrahim alayhis salam. And actually even before him, the first time we
learned about a concerned father is know how to his Salaam knew Hello. He said I was worried about
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his, you know, his son. And he even begs a Larissa widget in case of his son. So the concern of
father has for his child in regards to Deen is something that's built into this name. It's a very
fundamental part of this religion. And Allah azza wa jal teaches us something by telling us many,
many times about prophets, who had problems with their children. Many times I mean, Ibrahim alayhis
salaam is blessed with wonderful children. He's got a smile, he's got his hog. He's got wonderful
children, new honey salon, not so much Yakuza his salon, a couple of great kids, couple of problem
kids, majority problem kids, right. So you've got even profits that had trouble with their children.
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And that's important to note, because if even profits had trouble with their children, there's no
guarantee that you and I No matter how much we try, we can't avoid trouble with children from the
color of Allah.
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Allah will bless some of us with easy children, or some of our children will be easier. Some of our
children will be a test. And we have to work with all of them. And that's just part of this, Deen.
And that's just part of life. No two kids are going to be the same. There's not one formula to deal
with all of your children. Like for instance, in the case of jacoba, his salon, we don't believe
that he treated use of finding his salon better, and he treated the other kids worse. And that's why
they got that way. He's a prophet, obviously, one of the first things prophets do is live by
Justice. And that's not justice that you are good to one child and you're not good to another child.
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We don't expect that from Yahuwah. He said, and so he did his best as a father, but he still had
trouble with his children. Alhamdulillah in the end even they made Toba and that's a gift Allah gave
him. But I'll also talk, like I said, talked about no holidays around whose son until the end did
not make Toba. Also, just because they are profits, you would think you know how when you have a
good job, it comes with benefits. Like some of you have a good job and you get health insurance for
your whole family. Right? So you profit pretty good job. It's so employers a large origin, maybe
should come with some benefits. My family should be guaranteed. Not even the prophets get a
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guarantee of their family, not even the wife, not even the child. And even in the case of Muhammad
Rasulullah sallallahu earlier said one of the most incredible ahaadeeth you find is when he's
talking to his child. He's talking to the mother of the believers. He's talking about faulty model
the alohar faulty metal Zahra is talking to her. And he says yeah, faulty mode to been to Mohammed
tequila, Neelam Nicola
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Fatima, daughter of Mohammed, watch out for Allah, be careful about Allah. I will not be able to
help you I will have no authority even in your case in front of Allah.
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He's telling this to his own daughter salallahu alayhi wasallam. In other words, he's teaching us
something very important, just because we are Muslim and just
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Because we are doing our best, we cannot doubt that the Messenger of Allah on the left hand does
anything short of the best. He's the role model for all fathers in the future, especially fathers of
daughters, those of us that are sitting in this audience and we have daughters, we have we are
obliged. We are honored to be the continuation of the Prophet Sunnah. Because he was also the father
of daughters that were raised. He had sons also, but they died at an early age. But he Allah gave
him the gift of daughters, multiple daughters, that he had the, you know, the pleasure of raising
all this time. So this is something that we should take honor. And that's why the, you know, our
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view of having a daughter is changed. Before Islam in India, for example, the culture of having
daughters before Islam, the culture, even in Arabia of having daughters, when you had her daughter
is like, you made a face like,
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oh, man, how am I going to face the community now? You know, even to this day in the Muslim world,
even in some of your families, you're at the hospital with your wife, she almost died giving birth,
and then the child came out and immediately your mother sends you a text message that husbands Is it
good news?
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Is it good news means Is it a boy?
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And then you don't respond and she goes, Okay, next time inshallah. Right as those girl is a bad
day. So
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how far we've come. And Allah actually complains in the Quran about people who don't honor their
daughters, that when the daughter is born, one word who whom was one done, his face turns dark, like
a cloud is hanging over his face, he's depressed, I just had a daughter. So.
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So before we talk about worrying about our kids, we have to worry about what are we like, as parents
have to deal with that first. And that's a pretty big problem to deal with. But that's not even the
disclaimer, I want to start with. The disclaimer I want to start with is that, as I was saying,
before, his concern for our children is built into our religion. It's a very fundamental aspect of
our Deen.
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And it's something that generation after generation after generation of Muslims, we're very good at
Alhamdulillah, we're very, very good at raising children for generation, after generation after
generation. Obviously, the world has changed since the time of the Prophet sallallahu sallam. But
some things and the success the Muslims have had in raising their children relatively has been
great. Until now.
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Something has changed in the world so drastically, that it's affected not just how governments are
run, it hasn't just affected how the economy works. It hasn't just worked, affected how you know,
nations deal with each other. It hasn't just affected industry, it's also affected what happens
inside the house, not just the Muslim house, every house, the world has changed dramatically what
the family looks like now, it never looked like in human history.
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It never looked like that in human history. How children are raised now.
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It never looked like this in human history in any culture, not just Muslim culture in any culture,
globalization, and the advancement of mass communication. And then on top of that, the invasion of
you know, the extreme form of consumerism, I don't even say capitalism, I say consumerism that we've
become just addicted, you know, customers of products, that mentality has invaded, it's made itself
even inside our home. I'll give you a small example of what I'm talking about. Your Children Now
many of your parents here your children what do they ask you for the most?
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What do they ask you for all the time?
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Candy the Mashallah you have some really righteous kids they only ask you for candy.
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Okay, Nintendo, you got to keep up a little.
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iPod PlayStation three car really they got older car toys.
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Most of the time where did they get news about the iPad they see it in a dream like user friendly
some solid dream 11 stars sun in the moon so they saw a dream there's an Apple product.
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You know your ability in you know a two to $400 hockey fan like that. I saw an apple on a phone. You
know what does that mean? No, no, no. Where did they see the iPhone?
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either their friends have it.
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Or it's on TV. They saw their friends have it. Then they say I want to get that those those
sneakers. I want to get a shirt. I want to get that shirt. I want to get that toy. Where'd they get
that toys idea from where the inhome come from?
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It came from media. We are we expose our children to media. And in that media they're told to
basically beg us to get them those toys. And we get them those toys. And by the way, they're not
just the only victims of that we are victims of that to
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the brands we were actually you peel you feel really like high class when you were an expensive
watch others all of a sudden
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You feel like you're all of a sudden, you're more worth of a human being before that you were, you
know, the moment you walk out of the Apple Store, with an iPhone in your hand, all of a sudden, you
just start looking more handsome. Something happened. I don't know how I got cooler like this, but
it just happened. It has nothing but we we actually assume that we are our worth as human being
beings is related to these products. And if you're not wearing brand name, clothes, and you don't
have that kind of a phone, or you don't have this toy, or that toy, that you're worth less, somehow
you're not equal to others, others are better than you, just because the things they have in their
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hand, are better than the things you have in your hand. Right? So we've even Muslims, we've become
pretty much zombie consumers. That's what we've become. Also, when we talk about raising our
children in this society, we have to first understand what's happening with the world. What's
happening with all of us and with the world. Before we can think about raising our children
effectively, that so that's one big problem. The second big problem is what a success mean, with
this one is what is your worth, what are you worth, nowadays, our children are being raised to think
all they are worth is these products, the brand of clothes, the kind of house, the kind of car, your
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parents drive, drop you off to school, that the the brand of the bookbag you're wearing, you know,
that sort of thing. That's all you're worth. And then on top of that, the additional problem is,
what does it mean to be successful? Our idea of success, even 20 3040 years ago was for the Muslim
vast majority of the Muslim world, maybe some of you did not have a good opportunity for education,
or your parents did not have a good opportunity for education. And they put all of their effort in
getting you a good education.
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And you've learned that lesson in your life. So you say my children better have top notch education.
If that means they have to go to a private school, if that means that we have to rent a house, rent
an apartment and live uncomfortably so they can get a good education, we will do it.
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If that means we have to take an insane amount of money for loans, to put them in an Ivy League
school and to put them into an expensive med school or to put them into an elite program, we will do
it why? Because the most important part of your success is what your education and the children
hear. They're told by their parents this over and over and over and over again, you have to have an
education you will be you'll be a failure in life. If you don't get a good education, you have to
finish college, then you have to finish this and you have to do that. And if you're if you're from
the indo Pak subcontinent, obviously, if you're not a physician, then you have failed. And you
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should not expect anything from this dunya. Now the only thing left for you is Astra. Because you
know, and your parents will never be happy with you now because you are not a surgeon or you're not,
you know, even Don't be a dentist, dentists are humiliating.
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Don't even bother with that. Right. So that's what we've done. Our our idea and by the way, why is
it that being a physician is so important in the in a certain segment of our community? Do you know
why? Because it pays the most. It's not because you get to save lives, or because you're serving
humanity that has nothing to do with it. If doctors were paid the same salary as bus drivers are the
DC community would not be crazy about making their children doctors, there is no hips, there is no
there is no zeal to get our children to become you know, saviors for the world. No parents are so
happy when their son becomes a doctor. Then he says I'm going to Doctors Without Borders for three
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years.
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I'm going to go serve Doctors Without Borders and flood ridden areas. For the years, I'm going to go
to Somalia, and I'm going to go to Pakistan, we're going to Bangladesh. And I'm going to go to
Malaysia, and I'm going to serve no salary, nonprofit work. These parents are going to say, we put
all this money in to make you a doctor and this is what you do. You should have been part of the
same blood sucking machine that the insurance companies and the pharmaceutical companies are a part
of. That's what we wanted you to do. Why did you go and do it? Why are you saving lives? What's
wrong with you? You know, that's what we become. And then we say something's wrong with our
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children.
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You know, we have to, honestly we have to look in the mirror. What are we what are we creating?
Something has fundamentally changed. Our idea of success has become money. Our idea of education has
become a career that makes a lot of money.
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Everything comes back to money.
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So if you're successful, it means you have a lot of money. If you're successful, it means you have
an education, education in what field a field that will give you a good career, which means you will
have good money. That's that's what success is now, everything comes back to this. That's it. Now
this is different from old times. This is different from old times. In old times, to have an
education means to understand yourself to understand the
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world around you, and to contribute to making the world a better place. And to make the world a
better place. Sometimes you have to study history. Sometimes you have to study sociology, sometimes
you have to study political science. Sometimes you have to study media. Sometimes you have to study
journalism, you have to study a variety of fields to contribute to society, not one field, not one
field. And by the way, the most successful in the end, by any measure, the most successful
communities in the United States are the ones that did not limit their children to one field.
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My friends often tell me, one of my friends tells me, if Steven Spielberg was in a Pakistani
household, he would have been a doctor.
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Right? He would have been a doctor, why? Because we don't? What do you mean, you go to film school?
What's wrong with you? Did you are you failing medicine, you know, you're gonna give your parents
high blood pressure. Now let's talk a little bit about raising our children. First of all, our
mentality has to change. We, if they don't see in us the right definition of success. If they don't
see that in our personality, our conversations, we cannot expect them to have the right definition
of success for their life. They have to see that coming from us in what we talk about all the time,
in what is important to us, most of the time, when husband and wife are talking to each other
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children listening are not
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always, always, their ears are always on. Now, if you two are talking about two bills, and you're
talking about paying off the house, or you're only talking about movies, or you're only talking
about about this other family and what they did, or whatever you're talking about, they will come to
know these are the things that adults, this is what my parents do. This is what's what's important
in life. Right? That's, that's it. If you and your wife are talking about Koran, they're talking
about ohana, you're talking about doing good to others, you're talking about helping somebody. And
they see that from you. They just you don't have to give them a talk about it, they see it. The most
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effective parenting is not even telling your parents, your child to do anything, they just see it.
They just see it all the time. inside the home. A lot of you think if I just bring my child to a
brother and Oman lecture and sit him down and shut out after that layer, coonan Domino Salatin, they
will be righteous after that. Just a couple of YouTube videos and their problems will be solved.
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And going to help and you've probably already discovered that you, you are the real counselors to
your children. I'm the real counselor to my child, we have to become their best friends. And that's
the next thing that's changed in the world. You know, parents and children had a very organic
natural relationship in the old world. In the New World, that is at work most of the day, and he
comes home tired by the time he comes home, most of the time, children are already asleep. And by
the time he goes to work, he probably a lot of times dad leaves to work before kids even wake up.
And if he doesn't leave home before kids wake up, he sees them for maybe five minutes while they're
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having breakfast. And he goes and they go. So basically for five out of seven days in a week.
Parents and father and children have no conversation with each other. If any conversation did you do
your homework, okay, now give me some water. That's it. That's the conversation. Now comes the
weekend. But at the weekend, you have a dog with over here and a party over there. And you got to
sleep until 12 o'clock, and you gotta you got things to do around the house, etc. You don't spend
that time with your kids, either. You don't really talk to them. You don't really communicate with
them. This is the real problem. We have to make time for our children during the week, and weekends.
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That's the practical advice I'm giving you for myself. We have to make time for our children, to
talk just to talk to them, just to listen to them and to talk to them. Even if they're talking
nonsense. We should be a part of their life a big part of their life. Not you know, for a lot of you
the only role you have to your children. You're like the wall in the house. It's always there, but
you don't talk to it.
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It's always usually you need it. It's there. We know it's important. It's paying the bills. Other
than that I have no relationship with it. You know what happens to parents like that? You will find
the consequences of that the moment they become teenagers.
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Once they hit 1415 and they become a little dependent. And then they ask you for a car and you say
no why do you want a car? Fine. I'll just go with my friends.
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I'll get a job. I'll save some money and buy myself a car. And then all of a sudden you heard the
news data moving out.
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Moving out where are you going? Doesn't matter. I'm an adult now. And now you come running to the
kitchen in mom's house. Give me a soda.
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Give me $1 I can
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fix this boy
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doesn't work like that.
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doesn't work like that,
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that you can have state of emergency when they're 1718 1920. It's got to be built way, way before,
way before. Now I'll come to some practical bits of advice for the poor parents who have children
under 10 years old Show of hands please children under 10 years of age. Okay, quite a few of you
100, myself included, my eldest is 10.
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So for us, our biggest job is to us to teach our children Islam,
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US teaching our children Islam.
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The Prophet alayhi wa Salatu was Salam when the prophets were teaching them. They were teaching
everybody then they were.
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But when Eliza was in talks about children learning Islam, in the Quran, it's very few times Allah
talks about children learning, children receiving advice, but whenever he talks about it, it's from
the parents.
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When listen to that, again, whenever a lot of talks about children getting guidance in the Quran,
it's always from parents. And within the parents, it's always from the Father.
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Because the mother is always there. The mother, the mother has doesn't have to do extra work to be
there for the child all the time, and to care for him all the time. And to give him advice all the
time. You don't have to give moms training on how to be a mom, it comes naturally a lot put that
inside them. Fathers, however, are horrible. We have to go through training to become real fathers.
It doesn't come naturally to us. Just because you had a baby when a mother has a baby, her feelings,
her emotions, everything changes immediately changes. A father is like, you know, three, four days
go by a friend Friend say heard you had a baby. Yeah, man. It hasn't hit me yet.
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Somebody needs to hit you. So it hits you. But I'm saying it hasn't hit me yet. Because the feelings
of fatherhood. They're not. They're not natural to us. We have to build them. We have to work on
them. Right? So lemons, look one of the alojado making the time finding the right right opportunity
and then talking to his son. We find Yahuwah Salaam talking to his sons. Yeah. Vania in Allah has
tophi local Modine, we find Ibrahim and Islam saying this to his sons same exact advice iacobelli
sam gave to his sons. That's pretty amazing. Because that told you that father did a job to his
child not just on how to be be raised himself but how to be a father. We're gonna teach our children
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how to be good fathers one day, because Ibrahim taught his hug and his heart taught yaku and what
does Quran say Ibrahim and yaku, meaning grandfather and grandson said the same exact thing.
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Did they say at the same time? No. They said two generations apart from each other. Ibrahim was
talking to his Salaam to his Marylanders hug. jacobellis Ron was talking to his 11 sons. He's
talking to his 11 sons, but they said exactly the same thing or wasabi hybrid he knew but he
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Yeah, Vania inala hasta la comunidad de la tomahto nyla want to Muslim. And it's incredible that
Allah says the grandfather and the grandson gave the exact same advice. Why? Because the tarbiyah
was passed down not just on how to be a good son, but one day how to be a good father. How to be a
good father. That's the kind of W in other words we're going to be giving to our children, even when
they become fathers. Even when they get older, we're gonna give them advice about raising children.
And they're going to see that from us. And if we do our job, right, we're gonna look back, you know,
a lot of parents, they were abusive. A lot of parents were abusive, and they yelled at their
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children, and they insulted them, and they put them down and all these kinds of things. And so when
they have children, the sound going to be different from my father. I'm not going to be like my dad,
I'm going to love my child, I'm going to be this way, that way, or the other way, we end up being
exactly like our fathers, whether we like it or not, by the way, in one way or another way. But here
what we're learning is the power of generation after generation if you do your job right with your
children, if you do your job, right, and by the way, and another important question is, why are
Abraham's children the same quality as Yahoo's children?
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Are Abraham's children who are Abraham's children on Instagram? smiles ha, who are Yahoo children,
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use of Isilon Binyamin and the rest of the brothers. Same quality or no, no, but the advice is the
same, right?
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The advice is exactly the same. How come? What Ally's telling us teaching us here is it doesn't
matter if you have easy kids are difficult kids, you have to do your job.
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There are some parts of parenting that don't change at all. Other things have to change. Other
things have but this part of parenting will not change at all. You have to
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Give your children the teaching of them, it will come from you, it will not come from a party sob,
it will not come from the mom or the hottie, it will come from you. And so I come now to as the as
my talk winds down, I want to share with you some very practical, immediate things that all of us
can do myself also, I personally believe that Islamic education needs to experience a revolution.
That's my personal belief that Islamic education needs to experience a revolution. What do I mean by
that? There is Islamic studies for the island,
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the Alamo study Hadeeth, see arcada study all of these things, and you'll become aware of them, and
you will study them at a very high level.
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But there is a level underneath that we need to create actually doesn't really exist too much yet.
And we need to create it a level of learning Islam just for daily practice daily life. No, I'm not
talking about filk. I'm talking about advice for fathers.
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I'm talking about advice for wives, just a curriculum, how to be a good Muslim wife, how to be a
good Muslim husband, how to be a good Muslim father, how to be a good son, how to be a good
daughter, what advice is Allah have entire curricula just based on making us good human beings. This
is education. Real education is not that you know how to do c++, and you're Microsoft something
something certified, and you're Cisco certified. And on top of that, you have an accounting degree
and you got an MBA, all of that means you can make money, that does not mean you're educated.
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That just means you can make money.
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That's it. That's all that means. That does not make you a better human being. I know plenty of
physicians that are terrible human beings. I know plenty of programmers that are horrible human
beings. They're very jagged. They're undereducated, and how to be a husband, or an educated and how
to be a father, what good is their education,
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all that is a skilled labor, you're just a better worker at the factory. That's all it is. Now, it's
a virtual factory. But that's all you are. We have to revolutionize Islamic education in that we
have to create these, you know,
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Islamic education revolving around becoming better human beings, other specific areas that need help
now that never needed help before. I told you what's happening inside the home is being targeted.
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Most Muslim fathers don't even know what it means to be able to son father anymore. These things
came naturally to us. They were not difficult for us in the past. But now because of the change of
the world, and the change of our lifestyles, these things are we have to re educate ourselves in
these things. We have to come back and do them all over again, how to raise kids specifically,
there's one set of CDs, I think you might be able to find mp3 is online. Also, I want everybody here
to listen to them. They're not by me. They're by a person I really really admire. But they're a
shaman, our the the he Shambala with the children around the messenger. That's one series, it's
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called what again, children around the messenger and mother of the believers, mothers of the
believers. These two series, I want every person especially every father here, especially every
father, but the entire family to listen to both of these series. It's really, really important that
you do they benefited me tremendously. And they can benefit. You know, parents in general just these
are few resources we have, but they're gold. They're really really valuable. We should take
advantage of them. And we shouldn't shut out the other try to have our entire family, listen to
them. Put them in your iPod, put them in the car, listen to it every day, you will benefit
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tremendously. Recite on with your children. don't hire a car to recycle on recycle on with your
children. Malala Saab comes reads karate and goes home What about you?
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What about you, you don't have time? If you don't have time for Quran, why does your child have to
have time for Quran
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sit down with your child, make those 20 minutes happen shaitan will come He will make you yawn. He
will make you thirsty. He will make you sleepy. He will make you remember you had a meeting. All of
that will happen in those 20 minutes. Why? Because you gave those 20 minutes to Quran.
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He hates that. He can't stand it. But make those 20 minutes happen. commit to it. commit to it with
your children. Get the entire family there's one part of the day we're going to sit and we're going
to recite Quran.
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Listen to the explanation, at least a translation of the Quran together as a family if you can do it
for an hour to 10 minutes. So you can just listen to it. Just a little bit of 10 minutes of Quran.
Beyond the recitation recitation, I told you how many minutes 20 minutes listening to translation
some of the fields of explanation how long 10 minutes how long every day 30 minutes you as a family
just did something for Allah. My recommendation between Naga benatia and my recommendation
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You know, right now you're gonna say, you know, kids have exams, it's may lead to semester and fine.
You know what, I'll give you that this whole summer, this is what you do 30 minutes every day Don't
say which program should I put my child in? You're the program. You're the program. Everything else
is secondary. We have to come to terms with that. Islam is not on autopilot. And I end with this
guys. Islam is not on autopilot. What do I mean by that? We were raised in a Muslim, many of you,
many of us, including myself, were raised in a Muslim country.
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Our parents didn't have to worry about our beliefs.
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They didn't they didn't worry as much How can I become a Christian as you begin to become an
atheist? Is he gonna become Jewish, they didn't have to worry about that. You know, they didn't have
to worry as much I'm gonna go somewhere else and not predjama they didn't have to worry about that,
then that never came in their mind.
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They don't have to worry that, you know, they didn't have to worry about you that you're gonna end
up in a gang or drugs or run away from home. They didn't have didn't have these issues. So Islam,
they didn't have to worry about teaching you too much because the entire society in some way or
another was teaching you. The school was teaching you though the oven was being heard all over the
neighborhood. Society was giving you Islam? Are we in that situation now? No. So you cannot raise
your kids the way your parents raised you because you're not in the same world. Everything you
assumed will just be okay. It'll be okay. We came out okay.
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You came out okay. Because you lived in a different world, buddy. This is a different world. We have
no guarantee our children will be holding on to Islam. We don't have that guarantee. We don't the
pollution outside is not just a you know, cars smog. And pollution as outside is of goofer is
arrived. You know Toronto people are becoming doubtful. I cannot begin to tell you how many
teenagers I've met who are not sure about Islam. They're just not sure
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that you know, and they hear so many bad things about the deen all the time. You know, we're in
Texas after all. You know this. Here's so many terrible things. To this morning to Mormon teenage
boys came to my house before Juma knocked on the door. teenage boys is amazing, right teenage boys
doing Darla was like, man, if we have that. That'd be awesome. Which teenage boys you see get
dressed up, they get dressed really nicely, like a uniform, they grab their bikes, it's 92 degrees
outside and they go house to house, we want to tell you about the Word of God. You know how much
courage that takes. Um, before I started ripping their religion apart, I'm gonna say man, I
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appreciate what you guys are doing.
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That's amazing. They don't even have the truth. And they're so dedicated. And they were able to put
that into their kids. Why? Because the Mormon community decided our children are our top priority.
Forget everything else. We're not going to preach our religion, we're not going to teach it anybody
else. We don't have to build huge centers, all we have to worry about is our kids. That's it. We
make sure they understand our religion.
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So their teenage boys carry this religion, you know, and I'm sitting and I'm talking to them. And
you know, they believe this is the word of God. And it's a miracle. I was like, wow, guys. It's not
a miracle, but I really appreciate your dedication. I really, really appreciate your dedication.
That's the kindness and I'm not saying we become Mormon, or be like the Mormons, but I am saying
men, when you see something good, you should appreciate it.
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And they've got a good quality It is to be appreciated. You know, we have something to learn from
other communities. We do. And I tell you very quickly, the world is shifting. It's going to be
people who believe in God on the one side, and people who don't believe in any god on the other
side. Right now we have disagreements among each other different schools of thought even Muslim
versus Christian versus Jewish versus Hindu, etc, etc, etc. Pretty soon The world is polarizing
along two lines. I don't believe in any god in any religion, I believe in a God. That's the shift
that's happening. That's the that's the polarization that's happening in every corner of the United
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States. And it's happening like wildfire, don't you for a second thing, it's not gonna affect the
Muslim community. It is it absolutely is. You and I have to learn on as parents, not for our
children, for ourselves, we have to learn for and we have to love it so much that our children as
they're raised, they know my dad, somebody asked what is your dad like to do? They say that he loves
to learn the Quran
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is always talking about the Quran. I learned everything I know about the Quran. Most of it. I came
from my dad. He's always listening to an explanation of it. He's always telling me to recite more.
He's always memorizing it. He loves the recitation of all this stuff. We are we have to become a
nation of Quran. Why? Because the prophets I seldom was surrounded by people who doubted. Just like
we are surrounded by people who doubt and the only thing that gave him belief was what
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put on the word of Allah kept him strong. We have to become that nation again. us and our children,
we have to become the gene, the gene that the generation of the Quran.
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It has to become central in our life. 30 minutes a day, I'm starting the starting point 30 minutes a
day, but for yourselves the parents get, I don't care if you're 45 or 55 or 65 or 75. start
memorizing Quran, start doing it. Allah didn't put an age limit on it. Allah did not lets you a lot
didn't do it. show a lot you love his book and a level put blessings in your life you didn't even
see. You won't have to ask somebody else for advice on how to raise your children. Allah will give
you that advice in his book. He will have those answers for you and me in his book, we have to have
that direct relationship with this book. I tell you, most of our problems in the Muslim community
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are because we are disconnected from the Quran. We don't feel for it. We don't feel love for it. We
don't have a relationship with it. We don't go to it for advice. We don't recite it every day. We
don't care to memorize it. We don't care to learn more and more of it. We haven't shown it enough
love this word Allah gave honor this on my way, then we haven't given it enough love. If we did I
tell you our problems will start disappearing. I guarantee you, you know, Allah azza wa jal talks
about the people of the book he says hello comma, Toronto will in de la Kowloon for a moment to God
him. If they only established authority in the Injeel they would have eaten from above and below
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their dounia would have become Jenna. If they only established or rotting in jail. What is Allah
saying to us, then if we only establish what Koran you will eat from above and below, Allah will
make dunya and agenda just come back to his book. This this is the real advice to parents. We leave
our the memory we leave our children with my dad loved video games, my dad loved movies, but he man
more than anything else. He loves Koran. He really liked basketball, but he loved what on
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or on. He really, really loved. And he made sure he wanted us to love it too. He used to tell us
stories from it. He used to give us advice from it. Tell your children the amazing stories from the
Quran. And you won't be able to tell them if you yourself are not amazed by them.
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If you're not, if you're not in awe of the story itself, you won't be able to impress your children
but man from early childhood, you you not anybody else, you tell the stories from the heart, you
will have to do it. I teach I was teaching one of my daughters the story of Yusuf Ali Salaam the
other day, and I didn't finish the story. He's asking for days about what happened.
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He got thrown in jail, then what happened? I can't tell you. I'll tell you later. She's been asking
me to tell on the way back I'll tell her today inshallah.
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What happened after he got thrown into jail. But we have to make and create an interest into our
job. And the stories are so beautiful. They're so remarkable, especially when you tell them from
neurons point of view. There's so beautifully put together, realize that we have makers that people
have caught on and instilled that gives us the ability to instill that into our children. Have an
honest, open, direct conversation with your children. Ask them about what you know, what they heard
in school, what problems they have. And then you yourself, seek the answers from a love *. You
say, You know the thing you just your friend just told you or this terrible thing you saw. You know
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what Allah says about that? Let me show you.
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Literally teaching our children how to go to Allah for answers. That's what we have to do. We have
to create a generation milazzo don't help all of us do that allows me to put Baraka in the lives of
every Muslim and male and male add buttock on top of buttock on top of Baraka by means of our love
and affection and time and dedication to this Koran. I wanted to take this opportunity, quite a few
of you are here to announce make two quick announcements in sha Allah. The first of them is
immediate, and that's tomorrow. For our campus. In Irving. We're having an open house. And we're
inviting the community to come check out the Vienna campus and meet some of the students for this
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year. Many of you know many of you don't know we get about 60 students every year from all across
America that study Arabic and come on with us at the program. And we have a small like mini college
type campus set up there. So we'd love for you to come and check it out and meet with the students.
That's tomorrow from two o'clock to five o'clock. It's all the way in Irving. I know that's a big
deal for you. But look, I made it out here so you can make it out there. That's fine. You know.
That's That's right across the Irving machine in Val on 2300 valleyview. Lane. I know you wouldn't
remember the address, just remember this email address open [email protected]. Yes, remember that
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email address and we'll get we'll send you the information. Okay, open house would be another con.
That's a small announcement. The big announcement, however, that I'm very excited to share with you
is that by actually putting together its first conference, and I decided we had a lot of offers we
had offers in LA and New York and other places to put the conference together there. But since this
is home, I decided to do the conference here. So inshallah tada on June the 30th is going to be the
first beginner conference nationwide conference which is going to be held here in Dallas. It's at
the Irving Convention Center in Palo Alto and that's once again June the 30th myself, shake up the
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master agenda and
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Imam suhaib Webb from Boston is going to be there. So we're the three presenters. It's a one day
program. And I'd like you to sign up as soon as you can, yourself and your family. The the website
address, if you can try to remember it please is amazed by the quran.com amazed by the quran.com
that's the name of the conference amazed by the Quran. All three of us are going to be presenting
our favorite passages from the Quran from this year studies. That's what we're all three of us are
going to be doing and shallow down and there are other you know, kids activities and other programs
there too. So I hope all of you will join and help me spread the word in the area about the
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conference and help people sign up for that. Once again, let me see if you remember what's the
website address.
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amazed by the whole on.com does not go below head and so very much for listening attentively. If you
folks have any questions I don't know if we have time before a lot, but if we do I'll take them now
and Shalom. Tada.
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