Nouman Ali Khan – Controlling Anger

Nouman Ali Khan

Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan delves on the issues with controlling anger and how we should strive to abstain from getting angry.

When someone benefits from the goodness of religion, of this Deen, they get what they are supposed to get out of Salah and they want to share that goodness with others. But others have no appreciation of that. This is one of the main causes of getting angry.

What are some other occasions when we get angry? When we have expectations and Whenever we have expectations and they are not met, we get upset. People also get angry because they feel that justice is not being served. The lack of justice makes someone get angry.

All of these are legitimate kinds of anger. 

But what should that anger turn into? According to our Deen, it should turn into Sabr. It’s a feeling that goes through our heart and our heart should convert that into Sabr.  Now when our heart is not connected to Allah then Sabr is out. Then that anger comes out in other ways.

So we should exercise patience and there is a greater need to learn how to be patient. We need to learn how to take that anger and transform it into ancient intelligence. We must respond to ignorance with intelligence and should not turn into impulsive people. We cannot let our anger get the best of us.we must protect ourselves from that evil deed of arrogance. 

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The natural connection between perception and actions is discussed, including the natural tendencies of the brain and the importance of being a decent human being. The segment emphasizes the importance of respecting people's rights and not violating them, as it is a natural progression of human behavior. The segment also touches on the negative impact of negative comments on people's behavior and suggests ways to transform anger into patient intelligence.

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			When I will be diving into the accuracy
		
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			of the data
		
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			Hello, have you ever
		
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			wondered
		
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			what
		
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			you can offer other people?
		
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			Me Have you ever committed?
		
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			Now
		
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			what we'll do
		
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			one
		
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			last thing I
		
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			would like to find out
		
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			what items you think of the market in a lot of people, a whole
		
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			lot safety machine offering something in the
		
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			end
		
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			a brief reminder, I'd like to
		
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			share some thoughts with you that I hope to benefit from myself. I hope that they are all of you as
well, in regards to a very dangerous, and at the same time, a very natural sentiment all of us have.
And that is our anger.
		
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			Anger is very natural. It's not an unnatural sentiment for us to get angry in many occasions that
make you angry.
		
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			Sometimes those things are small, and sometimes they're big. But this feeling is rooted in something
else. It's really something else. And if it's not something healthy can become very vicious. It's
really a symptom of a much larger disease. I chose this passage to share with you because this is a
passage in which the Bible
		
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			is giving advice to his son.
		
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			And there are other occasions when others are talking to sons, but
		
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			you know, a lot of stuff.
		
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			So this idea of a father giving advice to the son is not unique,
		
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			multiple times, but something we should pay attention to.
		
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			And you think of this picture to see as an older man and his wisdom and wisdom
		
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			is giving advice to young people how
		
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			you got older and you find yourself and you'll notice something. As you get older wisdom kicks in.
If you are fortunate enough to benefit from wisdom, what happens also is patience. And what you'll
notice in your sons and your young men growing up
		
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			and they will
		
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			easily so one of the very important pieces of advice for a young man to get from someone who has
wisdom above his father is for him to calm down himself and check to control himself. So with that
in mind,
		
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			let's see some of the things he tells them to do first.
		
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			This is a conversation with the Messenger of Allah
		
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			So this is not just using the official sense of the five games, I will reveal to our messenger,
		
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			every messenger was given their own form of slot. And finally, the protection of it is anonymous,
and there's some love for it.
		
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			But this digital sense,
		
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			which means connection, maintain a connection with,
		
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			you know, practically this discussion to the sun, this council began
		
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			to shift with a lot
		
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			of associations with ultimate crime of distancing yourself from a law by putting someone else in
between yourself.
		
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			And practically, practically, not just theoretical
		
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			ideological.
		
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			One has to be connected to a law.
		
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			And the device, the mechanism by which a believer that's connected to
		
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			this connection, it doesn't let anybody else come in between when you and I are making slides, just
in conversation with a lot of directors.
		
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			A lot of rather than responding to every part of the article, every person has a direct connection,
okay?
		
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			This creates a transformation inside some of these characters, it's like a revolution happening
inside of yourself.
		
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			Because change that happens inside yourself cannot remain inside yourself, you know, something
that's not the threads. When it came to snake, it doesn't just find itself widespread. When a person
gets sick, once a lot lights you up, and it will have an impact on your surroundings. So the natural
results have real connection to a lot, a lot. A natural result of that is what the Father the father
full of wisdom.
		
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			He says what
		
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			was
		
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			the man enjoy advise people to do good advice
		
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			suggests
		
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			because it doesn't just mean commands. It actually also means that models are to suggest in
different situations, the different things.
		
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			Sometimes the only suggestion
		
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			is advice.
		
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			situation calls for, you know, for instance, you have a sibling.
		
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			And his sons, obviously, he's their father was the commander. So when they come back with a dirty
shirt for the blood of blood, he is in fact in a position to commander because he's the deputy
commander. No, because he's awkward
		
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			for me, because he doesn't matter what time
		
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			it is wisdom to have authority, it's still not easy. You know, that's something we learned.
		
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			We
		
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			establish
		
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			that as a result to truly be able to suggest or advise or even connect.
		
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			Good right.
		
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			Now,
		
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			objective
		
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			implies that
		
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			you know, what is known to be good, you're giving somebody advice, and
		
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			this is something good.
		
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			First thing to do something they already recognize.
		
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			You have to be a decent human being.
		
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			Start with that, and then move on.
		
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			Then predict and prevent from something unrecognized, literally something unrecognized, something
nobody recognizes to be good. It's the third opposite of a formal language
		
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			is good.
		
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			cursing someone being rude to someone raising their voice
		
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			or not even the people who do it.
		
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			Why? Because that's just the progression of people.
		
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			to benefit from the greatness of salaat, yourself, then you or others the benefits of goodness. So
you give them something.
		
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			And then eventually, when you have a relationship with them,
		
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			you will be
		
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			giving advice to somebody, go straight after them.
		
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			Know what you're doing this long
		
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			this will be here, you can talk like that you can do this, you can do that, and the first defense
mechanism built into the human psyche.
		
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			Tell me who you think you are.
		
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			You can talk
		
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			to me,
		
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			he cannot respond to that.
		
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			You have to respond to that. If somebody comes up to you,
		
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			you don't respond to that.
		
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			Just
		
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			have to be a little bit more intelligent.
		
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			Was
		
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			this what I wanted to get to
		
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			connect
		
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			with an owner of the unknown.
		
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			When someone benefits from the goodness of religion,
		
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			you get what they're supposed to get out of. And they want to share that goodness with others, but
others have no appreciation. If I
		
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			don't care about
		
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			it, take it to the curb. And you say to yourself, some really good advice, I went out of my way to
help you. And this is what you do in return, naturally, you get a this is one of the manifestations
of trying to get somebody
		
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			to do something good. And they will appreciate it.
		
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			This is an occasion
		
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			for you and I get
		
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			an expectation from my son or my daughter, or my wife or my husband.
		
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			Their expectation is not that I'm going to
		
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			show up on time, because I'm 40 minutes late. That's what I'm going to do.
		
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			Whenever we have expectations that they were not met,
		
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			whenever we have rights,
		
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			I have a right to be respected. I have a right to be
		
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			a teacher.
		
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			If I
		
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			have a husband or a wife
		
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			either way
		
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			for violating your rights
		
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			when a speech was very inappropriate.
		
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			He gets upset because my
		
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			expectations aren't met. When
		
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			when injustice is done.
		
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			Do
		
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			you know
		
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			the other half is I'm going on vacation? And do
		
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			you don't have the right when justice is not?
		
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			Okay, look at all those Occupy Wall Street occupy
		
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			because they feel like justice is
		
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			justice for
		
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			all of these are legitimate kinds of
		
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			contact or people who get angry when something is said against
		
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			something inappropriate
		
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			or unacceptable. Some people say
		
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			To put this in perspective, you and I have a right to get
		
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			the camera right.
		
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			What that what that should turn into according to our needs.
		
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			The ethics opinion is it and it goes through our hearts in our hearts to convert that anger into
something that's really supposed to do when our heart is not a lot and
		
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			then the anger comes out.
		
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			What am I doing exactly?
		
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			nothing compared to what a lot
		
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			of people in this in this world will claim that
		
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			this statement makes not just believers.
		
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			Lot.
		
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			It makes him so angry that he says
		
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			perhaps the size of the Earth
		
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			Every
		
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			every
		
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			offensive that
		
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			I want you to remember, how can we apply guess was something inappropriate about this, there's
multiple reasons.
		
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			One is something inappropriate.
		
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			It's alive
		
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			and alive.
		
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			And now this
		
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			is multiple accounts.
		
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			Keep that in mind as we go for
		
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			a group of Christians used to live in this area
		
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			at the time of the process of
		
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			messenger to check it out.
		
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			So they came to visit the messenger.
		
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			So where do these questions come
		
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			in?
		
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			They stay.
		
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			The same people who believe the most offensive things
		
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			are honored guests are honored guests in the house.
		
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			And every person speaks in
		
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			the conversation,
		
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			the messenger over
		
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			there talking to the messenger by justifying
		
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			inside the house of Allah
		
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			inside the house, there's a frown on the messenger
		
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			for the sake of
		
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			if
		
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			and if there's something to be offended about is the statement.
		
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			You are free. He's what
		
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			he calls us Abu Kiba. It's also implied there were people that were in contact with the books, they
have access to the text, they were literally people that knew what they were talking about. And they
were still coming up with the wrong conclusion.
		
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			Because the people who don't
		
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			know.
		
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			And yet the attitude of my messenger.
		
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			Whoever tries to debate with you try to stump you
		
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			is when you try to disagree with somebody going back and forth, and you come up with something.
		
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			These people are trying to one of you in conversation, find out the messenger online conversations.
		
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			Just think about that, in addition to the fact that
		
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			in addition to all of that, they are trying to be offensive in their discourse with the messenger of
a loss of a loved one from this. Amen. Muslim, Muslim,
		
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			Muslim, how
		
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			do you call it
		
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			into the messenger
		
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			just open the customers name itself.
		
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			But they didn't say he said
		
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			that he says
		
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			don't
		
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			want to do that.
		
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			Just because you call him by his name just because of that because you were too casual in your in
your lack of respect for the message.
		
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			And these guys are doing what?
		
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			They're debating with him.
		
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			How much more offended first because he's a
		
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			second
		
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			With the message of love, and
		
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			color with your kids that you will come with
		
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			a lot of different things. In South Dakota.
		
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			We need to learn how to be patient, we need to learn to take that anger and transform it into into
patient intelligence.
		
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			We cannot be the people
		
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			we love are going
		
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			to be upset.
		
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			Because this way, I have a right to be treated fairly at work. If I'm asked
		
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			to do one of those feelings, those feelings are stemming from something far worse than anger. That
is, it's arrogance, pride, your pride is hurt. If that's the case, then you've got way bigger
problems and anger, then
		
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			that's not a real problem.
		
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			When people come back to the good
		
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			times pretty much
		
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			what we'll do one time.
		
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			Originally, somebody can ask for the good, because they felt the goods themselves when they got
connected to them.
		
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			But as you get used to connect people, you start forgetting about yourself, it's just about you
having the authority to tell others what to do.
		
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			Forget about yourself, and
		
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			what to do, and when they don't use your
		
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			nose, people which is an expression for what
		
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			all
		
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			these people that do this.
		
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			Don't be condescending to people
		
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			is your anger if you don't have
		
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			this conversation, that's
		
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			incredible, was
		
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			just a walk around.
		
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			You're sitting in
		
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			the slammer on the floor.
		
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			Books
		
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			is basically to keep yourself in check when you
		
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			know where you are.
		
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			He says
		
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			you
		
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			need to check yourself. And then if you do want to raise your voice,
		
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			the worst kind of sound or the most
		
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			of sounds
		
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			compared to the angry guy raising his voice to a dog in this one I want to end with why.
		
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			First of all, it's it's very it's very
		
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			I don't want to pretend to do it.
		
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			But there's another adult who was used
		
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			to Lowe's
		
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			and described
		
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			as follows of that
		
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			stuff piled on to it until you put so much on an attempt at it anymore. And
		
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			if
		
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			you keep piling it up, in other words,
		
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			you've tested my patience when you
		
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			reach this limit.
		
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			When you reach your limit
		
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			that is the
		
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			that's the time you
		
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			will find. You won't find any relief in releasing your anger and that's not to help you
		
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			naked people that can control a lot of people that can be patient with each other.
		
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			protect us from that to charity in
		
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			a court of law does not have anyone who is full of this imaginary themselves, whose primary advisors
are protectors for time.
		
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			A new
		
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			advantage of it in a model of an effect
		
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			out of committed
		
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			Can I block out a lot.
		
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			I got a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot more than
		
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			what you have even put up
		
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			for everybody
		
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			in the USA government