Nouman Ali Khan – Beware Bad Trendsetters

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			I want to start my football with something very simple. I think something everybody here understands
		

			that as people that live in society, we can't help but feel pressure from society.
		

			And when that is said societal pressure, we usually think of bigger things. But really, it boils
down to even the most microscopic details in our life.
		

			Those of you that have children will notice your children want a certain toy.
		

			And more than anything else, sometimes they want that toy because someone else at school has it.
		

			They want to get what somebody else has, that's a form of societal pressure, their children started
getting a little bit older, and they want to dress a certain way. And the idea of them wanting to
dress that certain way didn't come from their own imagination. It came from something they saw on TV
that was defined to them as the way to dress, or someone they suggest that we are at school and is
popular. And that sort of becomes the defining thing for them. And they want to dress that way or
look that way or buy that gadget or have a phone, little kids wanting to have a phone. Right? What
do you need a phone for? I don't know, my friends have a two. Why can't I have it? You probably
		

			parents have heard that logic before they have it. Why Can I have it? When you get a little bit
older, the same societal pressure. It takes different forms. It can be something as simple as you
parking your car at your office in the parking lot. And your co worker has a nicer car and you go
man, I need to get ahead. Look at what these guys are driving. You know the neighborhood you live
in, and you go visit one of your friend's house who lives in a nicer neighborhood and the thought is
running in your mind.
		

			Then when am I going to get to this point, I need to be where this guy is at or better. We're always
comparing ourselves to what other people have. And we're constantly vying consciously or
subconsciously, to get what other people have. Also, this is what I mean by societal pressure,
whether it comes in or whether it comes in the form of you dressing, or it comes in the form of what
you purchase, where you put your money, what kind of career you want to pursue, a lot of times our
parents, they given the societal pressure, so whether their children are made for that or not, they
will make sure these they say to their children, you better become a medical doctor.
		

			Because if you don't, you're a failure at life. Everybody else around us that are successful,
they're all doctors. So that's the only thing in life to do. And I'm not saying being a physician is
a bad practice. But if your son or daughter becomes a doctor, and they did not want to be, I would
never want to be their patient.
		

			I wouldn't want to go to them, if the only reason they chose this profession is because their
parents forced them to, or because of some kind of societal pressure. These are pressures that exist
all around us. This comparison stuff is all around us. And it's so it can become so strong that a
person can almost feel enslaved. They're not even free anymore. Which is really ironic that we're
living in a society that prides itself over being free. Right, it prides itself over having
independent freedom, I can do whatever I want. Dress however I want talk however I want, you know,
look, however I want, spend my money on whatever I want. That's the thing that makes this society,
		

			pride itself take pride in itself. And yet, if you go to somewhere as simple as high school, you'll
find a bunch of kids that are dressed almost exactly the same.
		

			They're just almost exactly the same. All the hip hop kids are they look the same, all the goth kids
look the same. All the emo kids look the same. It's almost like they go through a uniform. And even
the way they talk has to be a certain way to fit in with that crowd.
		

			And if you don't fit into that crowd, then you're you're out, you're an outcast. And so when you
look at that i don't i don't see freedom, when I see that what I see is cultural slavery.
		

			These, this young man, or this young woman can't even make that decision of how to look or how to
talk or how to walk for themselves, they have to conform to what is going on around them.
		

			And sometimes it's willing, sometimes you submit that that is the better way to live, that is the
better way to dress or to talk, oh, that's the better thing to do with my time. That's the kind of
music I want to be addicted to, or these are the kinds of practices I'll do, whatever, that's one
conscious decision, the person makes that that's the life to live. And sometimes it's even
pressured, I've met mooseland teenage kids that have come to me in private, and when you look at
them are like, Man, this is this kind of gang or something. And they'll come to you in private, and
they'll be crying, because they say I don't want to dress like this. I don't want to look like this.
		

			But if I don't, I'll get beat up at school.
		

			That's cultural slavery. That's a form of slavery. But it's not just about the youth, and their, you
know, whether they become enslaved to musical culture or entertainment culture, and they want to be
just like whatever, you know, that famous athlete or musician or actor is, it's beyond that. It's
even for older generations. For older generations, this kind of cultural slavery takes a different
texture, it takes a different tone. You have you did things a certain way in your country or in your
society, you were you saw that your entire life. You want to make sure your family and your children
will do things exactly the same way, whether that's good for them or not, doesn't matter. This is
		

			how we do things. This is how it has to be done. And we're enslaved to certain definitions.
		

			In that context, what I want to share with you first and foremost, is a very powerful idea about the
role of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam,
		

			one of the functions of the Messenger of Allah that he thought was so dumb, that is described in
suits without us even though my hotbar today is not about this is a whole bunch of today's about a
couple of biotopes little bacara. But I want to start with this ayah from Surah.
		

			Allah so we did this talking to people of the book,
		

			who knows that the Prophet has been told about in their own books. So this final messenger
sallallahu alayhi wa sallam is foretold in their own books and allies testifying to that in this
ayah. That part of the I'll skip through, but I'll tell you the part of the ayah that describes the
messengers roles from Allah, Allah who said them, he says, Yeah, Bill Murphy went home and it won't
carry when you're
		

			when you're traveling while he was alive,
		

			he commands them to good things. He forbids them from evil things. He opens the doors for them, he
makes permissible for them good impure things. And he makes impermissible for them filthy things.
This is the one of the central roles of a messenger of Allah and this final messenger of Allah that
		

			He will tell us to do good things, keep us away from bad things, open the door to pure things for us
and close the door, from filthy things away from us. So we stay away from the filthy things. But
then Allah mentioned something very powerful, well yoba, on whom Islam was done, and that he can
talk to him.
		

			And to remove from them listen to this part carefully to remove from them. The burdens is sort of a
heavy burden. It also actually means that agreement, so combining the two meanings, it actually
means a very heavy agreement, a loaded agreement, he came to remove that burden from them. And
Allah, Allah, Allah, Allah poke your affiliates, you know, the chains that are put in the hands or
around the neck. You know, what, what kind of person has those kinds of chains, you know, right? A
prisoner, a prisoner has chains around his hands and have chains around his neck. Allah says this
messenger came to remove people of burdens, and the chains that were around their hands and necks
		

			that they were they were enslaved by. He came to remove them, what chains are these? as society goes
forward? The only thing even in a Muslim society, of course, the first thing we're concerned about,
like the first generation, the only thing on their minds was what is permissible, what is not
permissible? What is it that we have to do? And what is it that we have to forbid, that was their
primary concern, nothing else mattered, everything else was secondary. But as time goes on in an oma
society, and this pressure starts mixing in, so you don't just have the obligation to abide by what
a law says, Now, you also have the obligation to abide by what society says,
		

			You've got additional chains, you've got additional burdens, and the messenger comes to let go of
those burdens. We think we follow societal pressure, because it will make life easy. It does nothing
but make life harder. A lot of times when people follow a particular tradition, and I'll give you an
example, closer to home, I'm from Pakistan, originally, and this is a problem in Pakistan, I'll tell
you, we have to have the most lavish kinds of weddings, you have the most the most exotic, the most
over the top super expensive kinds of weddings, even if the family can't afford it. Even if they
can't afford they have to have that kind of wedding. And if you ask the family, why are you doing
		

			this? Why are you putting yourself in 1000s of dollars of credit card debt? Why are you doing that?
They say, well, your cousin had a wedding like that. What are we going to show? How are we going to
show our face to your uncle? Or this friend of yours got married? They had a big wedding? How are we
going to just have a * had too much debt? What are you crazy? What are we we have to show our
face in society. It's not because the dean says you should go over the top. It's what society,
society. And so they'll put themselves in all kinds of financial trouble. And imagine a young man
and woman who are just getting married. And it'd be lucky if they're young. Because if they're from
		

			the countries that we come from, they don't let them get them, get them married until they're like
30 or something. But if they are young, and they get married, they're just starting out and they
start their life with debt. They start their married life with this huge burden on them because of
this insane party that no one remembers Three days later. For nothing else, just to fulfill a
societal urge this this pressure that somebody felt no other reason. What are people gonna say?
		

			Right? What are people gonna say, if we don't do this, so much concerned about what people might
say. And it leads you into your deeper troubles for yourself. On the other hand, the law says you
need a low and you have the funcom. Allah just wants to lighten your burden.
		

			Allah wants to take the load off of you. That's what the dean is supposed to be. And you'll find
people that are enslaved to their culture. They're enslaved to their societal pressure. When they
talk about Islam. They say Islam is tough. Islam is too strict. That's exactly what these people
say, Islam is too strict. And what's funny is, if they followed even small principles of the dean,
their life would be a lot easier. The Dean would make their life easier, not harder. And what
they're trying to follow only lays them in deeper and deeper and deeper trouble.
		

			That's what it lends them into. But they don't realize it. A messenger comes to remove these
burdens. But there's another meaning of these burdens also in these chains. You know, when we follow
a certain way in our life, our children learn from us, just like our parents learn from their
parents, and it's passed down. So when we stand in front of a law on judgment day, and we have
generations of people who disobeyed a law because of societal pressure, we're chained to them. We're
tied to them, their burden is our burden because we set that trend. We set that precedent for them,
we have to answer for what they've done also, they have to answer for themselves. And we on top of
		

			that, so Paula, it's a serious problem. This is why Rahim alayhis salam has an intelligent father
and makes the law or actually we are taught to make the dog with
		

			imama right, make us Mr. mover and with the payments total for con, because on Judgement Day, we
don't want to be tied to people that went down the wrong path. They're gonna drag us down with them.
		

			Now I want to take you to the fact that this football is actually about
		

			this is from sootel bacara and then sort of Bukhara towards the second half of this surah one of the
main conversations is what people follow, what people follow, who they end up following, and why
they follow who they follow.
		

			Now, this particular passage that I chose has to do with the Day of Judgment. And on judgment day,
everybody stands up and I want you to think of it this way, there are trendsetters and there are
trend followers. You follow someone when you did something, you dress a certain way you walked a
certain walk you talk to certain talk, you bought a certain kind of car, you move to a certain kind
of neighborhood, you hung out with a certain kind of posse, this this was your these were your
trendsetters, you were around them, most of what you did was influenced by them. These are your
trendsetters. This is about them. These trendsetters, these are the people that people like to
		

			follow is the Barbara and Latina to be meaner Latina Tabasco,
		

			when those who used to be followed, those who used to be followed, these are trendsetters,
		

			when they will be cutting themselves off disassociating themselves from all those who used to follow
them. So here you are, you made your life miserable, trying to be like someone trying to fit in with
a certain crowd, worried about what they're going to think of you how acceptable you'll be to them.
Judgment Day comes around. And the first thing these trendsetters do these leaders do is they say I
have nothing to do with you, when you try to be like me.
		

			I want nothing to do with you.
		

			I got nothing to do with you. And you'll be like, Wait, you're the one who told me don't rent an
apartment, go get into a house. You're the one who said you have to be smart, go get into a
mortgage. Don't worry about just do it. And listen to you know, everybody around you. You guys are
the ones who got me into this. You're the one who told me this is a good business idea. Yeah, it's
got liquor too, but it's okay. Don't worry about it. Around the corner, you can make extra Salawat
up alright, it'll clean it all up. Don't worry about it. So good business, I'm telling you a lot of
money in it. And I went into this business because I listened to you. I got into it because of you.
		

			You know, you have certain circles in the Muslim community. I won't even talk about outside Muslim
communities that's inside Muslim community, you have certain circles, you have the business circle,
you have the professional circles, you have the physician circles. And in each circle, there are
certain standards, right? There are certain kinds of parties, they like to throw other certain kinds
of gatherings they like to have and each one tries to outdo the other to keep up with the circle.
		

			They make each other they feed each other in their wrongdoing. And now they're cutting off from each
other on Judgment. I want nothing to do with you. All that stuff you did is your problem, not my
problem. It's nothing to do minella Xena trabajo para la de they will all be alarmist agenda, which
combines everybody, the followers, and the leaders are all looking at the punishment for the
homeless. And all relationships at that point are cut. You don't care about no society when nobody
else thinks then it's all gone. all zeros. All of that stuff that we were so worried about here
completely erased. And now the people who mindlessly followed. And before I talk about mindlessly
		

			following I have to interject
		

			on our flight here from Dallas, my I flew with my family to California, maybe about 10 days ago.
		

			So we're all the kids were asleep. And so my wife and I were the only ones awake. And you know how
they dropped the TV screen. So thankfully, the children were all asleep. So we're the only ones even
if you don't want to. It's right in your face that TV screen, right. And we don't have headphones.
That's a silent film for us. You know what it was? It was the Justin Bieber documentary.
		

			So we watched the Justin Bieber, it was torture and the second hour and a half of Justin Bieber in
your face, but will lie. It was an educational experience. every two minutes I just look at my wife
and go
		

			because you see him walk by and these girls are crying.
		

			And they're screaming. And their parents are so happy that he got to touch their daughters.
		

			This is how enslaved these people get
		

			is how crazy they get this ridiculous, you know girls wearing his his face on their book bags on
their shirts and
		

			it was mind boggling to me how that can be. And what's that going to look like on Judgement Day. I
got nothing to do with my fans. I want nothing to do with you. But Takata ademola suave and at that
point, all of the followers what
		

			They're going to say, we'll call the Xena taboo.
		

			And those who used to follow, they're going to be saying, no anila camera.
		

			If we only had another chance, we would cut ourselves off from them. Like they're cutting themselves
off from us now.
		

			They're saying this on Judgement Day when they're crying. They're saying if we only had a chance, do
they get a chance? No. Do you and I have a chance. Yes.
		

			That's why the AI is telling us this. Don't wait till the point where you regret it. Be that now.
And for a moment, I want to talk to the parents here. When you buy your when we bought our children,
Disney gear. When we buy our children, you know, we will let them watch whatever they want to watch
on TV. Oh, it's just cartoons. It ain't just cartoons anymore. Let me tell you. It ain't just
cartoons anymore. They put a lot of stuff in there. Right. And I used to teach at an Islamic school
back in the day. And you know, these little girls would have like, you know, Hannah Montana book
bags coming to Islamic school. Right? They've got these girls books. And they're fans of them. And
		

			they watch all the shows and stuff. And when these same girls that are on Disney or whatever,
Nickelodeon or whatever, when they're teenagers, when they're 20. When they're 19. They're half
naked. And now what do you what are you going to do? How are you going to explain that to your
children? You allowed them to be trend followers. You did that? I did that. We have to be cautious.
What are we allowing our children to become?
		

			Before you know what they'll be out of your control? They will be enslaved to that culture. Some of
you are experiencing that. Now. Some of your children are teenagers and you don't even recognize
them. Like what happened to you? Why are you dressed like that? What are you doing with your hair?
What is that? You will know? But it's a trend and they're just following. That's all they're doing?
Well, Carla, Xena TARULLO. Angela Nakamura, Vanessa amin, home Camacho mina karateka. Yuri him
Allahu Allah Hassan Ali, Baba Mahajan, Amina now. That is how Allah shows them all of their deeds,
so they can not just have forgotten him. It's unique. Allah says Hassan Ali him regret on top of
		

			regret on top of regret falling over them. There's, you know, punishment itself is bad. But regret
is a form of punishment itself. When you regret something, when the regret really overtakes you,
it's a kind of torture itself, unless as it will be coming on them over and over and over again. Why
didn't I listen? Why didn't I change myself? How did I allow myself to be like this? And they won't
be coming out of the fire Well, my home behati genome in an hour. Aloha Manasa giandomenico right
after this ayah Allah azza wa jal gives us a commandment about consuming halal
		

			under the dominance of the halal and even
		

			as a pawn in the hula Komodo movie, it's really interesting, because most of the time when we follow
trends, what do we leave, we leave the halaal we leave the permissible and we pursue the
impermissible so Allah reminds us Look, don't fall into those trends. Don't fall into that pressure.
Consume that which is Helen, what is good and pure. Don't let the footsteps don't follow the
footsteps of Stefan. And here we are thinking we're following footsteps of society and allies
telling us No no, no, that was just a that was just the shallow cover. The reality of it was these
were footsteps of shape on
		

			in the hula kumudam movie.
		

			And then the last thing what is shape on do what is his what are the two things that he will get you
to commit in them I assume he was actually one Saku Allah him Allah tala moon, he'll command you to
evil. He'll command you to shamelessness. And to say things about Allah, you have no idea of I want
to explain that briefly in this clip by is done.
		

			When people want to follow whatever it is they want to follow, and they don't want to hear about the
dean the dean is Islam is too strict. I don't know I go to Juma and stuff. But that's, that's
already more than enough. I'm doing a lot of favor by being a Juma on, you know, showing up. I don't
need to be here on time. If I just show up before they start praying or before they say Salaam
that's enough for me lastin first out, right, that's the majority of the congregation. Usually, if
you're that person, and listen to this, then just listen for a moment. If you think you're doing a
lesbian a favor, and what you really need to live your life for has already been defined for you by
		

			your culture, by your trip, but by outsiders by what everybody else follows, then you're not free at
all. You're not free at all. You're a slave. The only ones that are truly free are alleged slaves.
They don't they don't feel the need to be like everybody else. They don't feel the need to spend
their money in places that are useless, that are better a waste they see
		

			Above that they're mature.
		

			And so in this note, I just want to give you an example of our daughters because this is an
important subject, something I've been talking about recently. And I feel it's critical in along
these lines, trend setting, and what it what effect it's having happening on Muslim girls, on our
daughters. There's a crisis in the Muslim community when it comes to our daughter's a crisis of self
esteem,
		

			a crisis of self esteem, we're already a different culture before 911 we're already a very different
tradition than regular Western society. We're very different in many ways, especially in the way we
dress, especially in the in the in the, you know, commitment, we have to modesty after 911 it's been
10 to 10 years now, and the hatred and the animosity, and the the spiteful language that spews out
of people's mouths about Islam has increased tenfold, if not a hundredfold. So it was already
difficult to follow. And now it's become something everybody hates. And in the middle of all of that
is our daughters that go to public school, even if they go to Islamic school doesn't even matter.
		

			Then they go to college, and they're covering themselves, and they see girls dressed however they're
dressed, and a thought runs in the mind of a young Muslim girl. Like, can I dress like that?
		

			Man, anything fun is her arm. She looks so pretty. Yeah, why can't I look pretty? Why can't I be
like that? That thought crosses her mind. She's afraid to say it. But it crosses her mind. And she's
always thinking like, she's depressed. I look ugly. Because of this thing. People make fun of me.
You know, why are we such such backwards, backwards society, I don't even know why I have to wear
it. That's a serious problem. That's trendsetting inside. Even if it's not outside, that's an inside
it's a bigger problem. The heart is now submitted to what is relevant to Allah.
		

			This only happens when we don't give our sons and especially our daughters, enough self esteem.
Where does self esteem come from? This is the last thing I'll share with you. Because this this
problem of following trends in society is a big one. But probably the biggest component of that is
saving our children, saving our children from becoming swept away with the flood. So this is the
last bit I want to share with you. And that is we have to acknowledge fathers especially have to
spend time with their daughters. fathers have to encourage their daughters, fathers have to
appreciate their daughters. fathers have to tell their daughters, they look beautiful. So they don't
		

			have to look for that from some idiot on Facebook. They don't have to do that. Because their fathers
are telling them that they get that you're, you know, the kind of self taught self confidence that
girl gets from her dad is irreplaceable. Not even the mother mother's critical but not when it comes
to this. When it comes to the acknowledgement of a father, when the last time you talked to your
daughter, was those of you that have daughters actually had a conversation with her. You know, our
daughters. I have I brought two of my four daughters with me on this trip.
		

			girls talk a lot.
		

			They talk a lot. They never run out of things to say.
		

			Which is why for men a lot of times the woman you know, okay, okay, okay, okay. Yeah, that's nice.
That's nice. And you don't really listen.
		

			Right? Listen to your daughters talk to them. Because if you're ignoring them, now, when they get
older, they'll be ignoring you.
		

			They will be ignoring you. It doesn't matter if they're talking about hair clips, or what their
friend said at school, or what coloring projects they were doing, or where they visited or what show
they whatever, talk to them, communicate with them. They need that from you. And you you need to
play that role as a father, we cannot allow our children to fall into that, you know, get swept away
into that culture, we can't. So this is one, you know, last bit of advice that I really, really
wanted to share with you. Because if we don't do that, well, I'm telling you, if we don't do that,
we are cheating our daughters from a proper raising, or cheating even our senator. And since I
		

			talked about dollars, so much, I'll say just one thing about sons, play with your sons. Spend time
with your sons play sports with them. Most of our dads are so out of shape. They come home, they
pick up the child for two minutes, and then they're like,
		

			No, just passed out on the couch. Right? get in shape for your kids, not for yourself, for your kids
play with them. You need to be a better friend to them than anyone else. Because we're lucky this
society offers lots of evil friends. It does. And before they make those kinds of friends, they need
to find their best friend in you. It's not the way we did things back home. Back home, you weren't
friends with your dad, your dad came home and you sat straight. Your dad spoken you stood up and
responded It was a relationship of respect. A distant relationship. You don't chill with your dad.
Right? You don't do that here. You have to do that. You have to do that not just you should you have
		

			to. We have to become those people. Because if we don't work again, the flood will come and just
take our kids away.
		

			Just come and take them away. I pray that we're not of the people who are followers of evil trends.
I pray we're the kinds of people and you know, when Allah talks about these trend followers, he did
mention the here's a trend you should follow for women that are ever on Eva hanifa follow the way
over him. And you know what the wave is right? He was right. didn't follow anybody else.
		

			Everybody's worshipping idols, I'm gonna break them.
		

			Everybody's going this way. He's gonna go that way. He's gonna go the way Allah wants him to go.
That's the trend to follow. That's the people we become. May Allah make us from the middle of people
around me Allah make us understand his book The way it should be understood. May Allah protect our
children from falling into the tide of cultural for cultural forces and pressures. May Allah make us
of those who understand his book, love his book and implement his book in our lives. May Allah open
the doors of its wisdom and the wisdom of the son of his messenger sallallahu Sallam to all of us
verticality. Welcome to a new Hakeem. When finally we're here can be it was Hakeem
		

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