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Episode Notes

Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan showcases in the lecture on how we should never lose hope in Allah in spite of innumerable shortcomings and misdeeds that we might have committed in this lifetime. 

Say, “O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful” (Qur’an 39:53).

In the above Ayah, Allah SWT is addressing two different audiences. The first one addressed is the individual who is trying to preach Allah’s message. First and foremost, Allah SWT is talking to Prophet Muhammed ﷺ. The second one addressed in the verse is someone who has sinned so much that he has no hope of turning back to Allah SWT, and he has so much remorse and feelings of guilt that he thinks he has reached a point where there’s no way of receiving forgiveness. This sinner is being addressed through the agency of the Prophet or the da’iyah who recites and/or explains this verse to him and conveys the message of the boundless forgiveness and mercy of Allah SWT.

Whatever sins have been committed, Allah tells us that there is still hope of returning back to Allah SWT. But Shaitan plays his dirty tricks and coaxes us into believing that we are so deeply drowning in sin that we shouldn’t hope for Allah’s forgiveness. Shaitan capitalizes on one sin of ours and tries to trick us into doing more wrong things, thus taking us further away from Allah. 

Can a man’s evil deeds compare with the power of Allah’s mercy? 

We should learn how to supplicate Allah SWT and ask for forgiveness, believing with a full heart that Allah not only hears us, He sees us and knows full well what resides in our hearts. Despite having wronged ourselves by sinning, Allah still considers us as His slaves who are worthy of being forgiven if we make Tawbah (repentance) sincerely. He is extremely Forgiving (Al-Ghafoor) and always Merciful (Al-Raheem).

As a corollary, it is important that we guard ourselves against sin and wrongdoing by submitting to His will. When we do commit a sin, we must turn to Him in repentance and ask for forgiveness, never losing hope of His mercy. Then we will avoid being among those human beings who refuse to submit and never repent; deserving punishment, they are disgraced and dishonored on the Day of Reckoning. 

Episode Transcript

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Salam

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Alaikum

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whatever so

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it's really

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cool

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to see him

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in a lot of your fields Luba Jamie on in Nevada who will receive

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from you shortly somebody was sending me

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a cup of coffee

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had a toss up, but also the subject coming up behind me.

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Charla, I will only be talking to you about one I

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will not talk to you about anything else just this one is that I feel and share with you, those of you that are going to try and remember this a lot. This is Surah number 39, an ayah number 53. So 3953 is the reference to this, I have this discussion that we're about to have.

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In this ayah there are two conversations.

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And both of these conversations are really, really important to understand.

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One lesson, by the way, in both conversations, allies talking to different audiences,

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what conversation is between a lot and someone who is trying to preach a large message.

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The other conversation is between Allah and someone who has lived a life of sin. And then they do so much sin that they've completely lost hope. And they feel as though they are so messed up, that at this point, they are never going to be able to become a good person again. So they feel like they've reached a point of no return. Once again, there are two conversations. One conversation is between a law and the one who's trying to send a message to people a guy or someone trying to preach someone who's trying to give good advice or counsel and the other is a lot talking to someone who's simple.

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Of course, when we try to give the message of Islam to people who are we emulating, after whose model are we trying to duplicate? It's the model of the messenger.

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When we call people to allow we're trying to copy what he did, because he's the first and the best to call people to unlock.

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The i o begins with the word cool, say. And it's singular meaning of life saying to one person say that one person is the Messenger of Allah.

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Unless telling his messenger what to say when he talks to people

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what to say when he talks to people. So remember, I told you there are two conversations, there are two lessons. The first lesson is alive, his teaching his messenger what to say.

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And when we learned that carefully, what was teaching his messenger to say, if you and I ever want to do the work of Dawa and if you ever want to talk to someone engrossed in sin, and we should take this ayah carefully, because now we're also learning, what should we say to people like that?

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The second conversation, Allah tells the messenger to tell these people that are immersed in sin, tell them that I'm still willing to talk to them directly.

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What should you say to them? Yeah, by the end, levena, safaiwala, and Christina,

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my slaves, those of you that have made violations against their own selves, those of you that have gone beyond limits, only harming your own selves. I'm using a simplified transmission to get the message of the IRS. The words, the first words are my slaves, my slaves who's talking, who's has my slaves? Does the messenger say my state?

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law says my slaves. So the messenger is supposed to go to people and tell them look

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to you, you know, when somebody is really upset with you, they don't talk to you.

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Right? They refuse to talk to you.

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So you could say, you know, Ally's not angry at you? Allah might forgive you, but you're talking about a lot. Well, this is not only talking to you is giving you a look, he's talking to you. So you're right. You're You're reminding the sinful person Listen, a lot is directly addressing you.

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Now, when the one who does a lot of since you know Arabic, one of the words for that is Muslim, Muslim, Muslim, for someone of us have a limit, and he went beyond that limit. You know, literally, when you set a border like us put up a fence, and you tell the horse don't go past that fence, you train the horse, but when it crosses that press that fence the horse has called a

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Muslim, right? unless that's the limit, don't eat this. Don't look at that. Don't do this. Don't do that. remain within these limits when you cross those limits. And the point is this person called Muslim, right? The Ayah doesn't say, Tell the messenger to speak to the people and say cool, yeah, you

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people who go past the limits, listen up. Don't lose hope in the laws, mercy. It's not like that, unless I sell them. Yeah.

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My slaves, my slaves, you know, in normal discourse, who you call a slave of Allah. Like that person, such a good slave of the word slave implies someone who obeys the master, someone who loves the master, someone who listens to everything the Master says, doesn't it? But what I'm trying to get across to you is this ayah is not talking about people that obey the law. It's talking about people who would,

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who disobey the law. The law says even talks to them and says, my slaves, everybody, this is a term of love. And also what they're being told is, no matter how much you messed up, you still haven't lost your ability to become a slave.

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You still have a whole use of there's still hope alive with you. So much. So not only am I talking to you, I'm calling you by a good name. Yeah, buddy. By the way, the word ABS is also used in the fraud for the messenger. So

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I'm gonna dive into the answer.

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So kind of maybe Siv after the date and how that word slave is used for the homeless on the LaGuardia. And indeed, this ayah was using that word to call the person who sent

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the person who was immersed in sentence. What does he say? The body and Latina.

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My slaves who have crossed the limits, only harming their own selves, who have transgressed against their own selves. You know, when you break the rules.

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When you break the rules, you figure you harm the one who set those rules like if your parents told you don't do this, that or the other and you do it, you figure you hurt whose feelings, your parents you harmed your parents. So when you cross the limits, and when you break the rules and regulations and you disobey, you are hurting someone else, but according to a lie, in this case, whenever you sinned, whenever you cross a loss limits, who are you hurting, you're hurting yourself. So to my slave,

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who is so bent upon not hurting me, but hurting himself, you can harm a lot, you can't take away from him anything. So when you add it to somebody a lot more we harming our own selves. You've only harmed yourself. And by the way, I want to tell you what is harming yourself some practical examples of what doesn't mean that you're harming yourself. Since there's a lot of young people, a million people here to finish and still share this with you. When you see something shameless.

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When you see something shameless, you've actually harmed yourself.

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Every time you see something shameless, your heart becomes harder.

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You lose a part of your humanity. Animals have no shame, with a luggage, human beings a sense of shame. And the more you see something shameless, the closer you start becoming to what animals The closer you start becoming to animals. Until a point comes where there's no difference between you and an animal. You know what that what makes an animal animal animal has no control over its urges. It's hungry and bites.

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It sees a mate it runs after it. Squirrel running after the the scroll around the tree

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has no control over its urges. no control over its tongue, no control over what it eats, will control where it goes. Whenever it feels something it does it.

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Right.

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Which is the contemporary equivalent of saying I do whatever I feel like doing.

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Ever heard that expression? I know what I feel like, I will do what I want. You know what? That that by definition was behavior that is the behavior of an animal.

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You become accustomed to shamelessness you are closer to becoming an animal, when you don't care what you eat. Doesn't matter if you don't care, whatever goes in, that's okay. Then you are no different from an animal So who are you harming?

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harming yourself. Allah gave you the status of human being and you want to reduce yourself to an animal's

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you're only harming yourself. And by the way, those of you that are a little bit older,

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especially when it when it comes to shame. There are two problems I believe personally, there are two problems that Muslim youth have. If they can solve these two problems, they have no other problems. As far as I'm concerned, they got no other problems.

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The first problem they have is they are not respectful enough to their parents.

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The second problem they have is they are overexposed to shamelessness,

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two problems. If you can solve these two problems you got no everything else will be solved. Everything else will be fine. You don't miss a long time it will be fixed. Don't worry about it. It will come into play you don't know what you don't have that knowledge knowledge will come to

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you. No, no everything else.

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fall into place. But these are the two things that are eating away at the life, the life of Muslim youth and reducing them from not just believers, even from human beings to animals, even Muslim kids are being reduced to like the likeness of animals. The number one thing was what was the biggest problem?

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Yeah, not enough respect for your parents. Not enough respect for your parents. So you know, we're talking about the slaves who went against beyond their limits. You know what the number one limit you're crossing is? And as far as you guys are concerned, what you owe your parents? How much respect? How much dignity, how much regard? How much obedience? How much love you or your hands? That's the first thing by the way, when somebody does you a favor, what's the least you should do?

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Thank you.

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You're walking to school, a friend of yours pulls over says I'll give you a ride and gives you a ride the bus and it's snowing and it's you know, it's freezing. It gives you a ride when he gives you a ride when you get off the ride. What do you say at the very least? And what kind of indecent despicable person would you be that he did that for you? And then you don't even think

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that there would be a disgusting you will be you don't have that much dignity to say thanks, man.

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Now, just think about you know, a lot of you have this conversation among yourselves. Or even at school or among friends, my parents, they just don't understand.

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I'm trying to understand trying to explain to them but they just don't get it.

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Or you know, in those of you that go to public school hear this from other kids all the time. My parents got a funny accent. You know, they call their mom by their first name. Hey, Joanne, how's it going?

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Hey, Mark, elite to pick me up from school. They've talked about totally obsessed with their first name. Right? And we pick up some of these ads. And by the way, there are a lot of TV shows where you guys don't watch cartoons either, though. Okay, so if

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you watch cartoons, a lot of cartoons are are dedicated to depicting parents as idiots. There wasn't Jimmy Neutron.

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Ever seen it? The parents are classified in

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look like a bunch of morons. And they're called spider. They don't know what's going on the kids the genius there, the ideas you ever seen was that very Fairly Odd characters in that same theory. The kids are a bunch of all the parents are morons. And the kids are really smart. And this kid who's watching the show by the parents or kids, and what's being embedded in their mind in their subconscious, that they're really smart, and their parents are alive. They're stupid, they're dumb, they don't really,

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you know, they don't

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seem to lose that African American family and Disney Africa is called a proud family. The same thing

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over and over, and this is cartoons, you know, back in the day, the cartoon was a cat, there was a mouse and trying to kill each other everything was good. Now

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that was good stuff. But now it's you know, there's these messages inside the shows these cartoons even right. And you don't even realize the next time you talk about your parents a certain ways because he saw some garbage and it stuck in your head and it made you less of a human

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problem.

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So the first thing I say to you is there are you know, after the rights of Allah, in the passage of certain Islam after the rights of Allah whose rights

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have been violated.

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And not even when

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a bill is in use, and this is actually I won't go into the grammar but this is amazing over here, especially when it comes to your parents, you better be the best. Forget everyone else when it comes to your parents. Take extra caution when you deal with your parents. Because that will not dealing with them properly. I'm being blunt with you guys because I don't want to flower this up. That is your one way ticket to help.

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You are messed up with your parents and it doesn't matter if you go to a job here. And you know slaughter goats for the sake of Allah and give charity and you know mithya does none of that matters. If you're messed up with your parents. It's a straight ticket Doubtfire watch it.

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So in this ayah he says if you've messed up before, who hurt you harm

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yourself. Then what does he say? He says that

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don't lose hope and allows mercy.

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Other fine Arabic is to lose too big become depressed and sad to a point where you expect nothing good anymore.

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Alleged describing a person who does so many messed up things. Shabbat comes to them and says man, you're so messed up You call yourself a Muslim. So messed up.

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You shouldn't even pray anymore. You hypocrite.

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How are you going to stand there and recycle on and pray when you know you're such a messed up person.

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You know, you shouldn't even you know you shouldn't even do any of these things or hang out with Muslims or this and that and cut yourself off because you don't deserve your filthy person.

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A terrible human being. And the cheban comes to you and uses your one mistake to trick you into doing more mistakes, and taking them further away from us.

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On this, I've talked about this elsewhere. But I want to just bring this point to your attention, because this is very important for you guys. When you make a mistake. Like when you walk in with a class of mistake, you will complete the class, you make eye contact with the teacher, you avoid eye contact with the teacher. You avoid eye contact when you make them late to work. You make eye contact with your boss, you sneak into your cubicle or your office. You sneak in. When you get a really bad report card and you walk home. You enter the house, do you saw it?

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Or is it you barely notice that

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the door opens you take the shoes off before you go up the stairs, go inside the bed and pass out.

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Right? In other words, when you disappoint someone, you try to avoid them. The point I can make is when you disappoint someone you try to avoid them because it's embarrassing. You don't want to face them because it's humiliating when you sin who have you disappointed?

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disappointed a lot. Chuck comes and says what should you do?

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Avoid.

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Avoid the natural instinct of a human being. When you disappoint someone he or she avoids.

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Avoid the prayer. Avoid going to a company where you'll be reminded of a law avoid all of it, because how can you face it now? What kind of person are you? And the further you get? The more you start listening, you listen to one thing, and he listened to two things, then you listen to three things and the door the floodgates to center open. And when they open up, you become so immersed in them. And you say man, I am so messed up. There's no way of less forgiving me. You don't even know bro, the things I've done. messed up. His brother came up to me one time. So Bro, I know you're talking about like love forgiving and everything. But you don't know him and I'm bad. I'm real bad.

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You don't even know.

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I was like, Don't tell me how bad it is. How as bad as you are? Can you compete your evil deeds, the power of your evil deeds with the power of a lesser mercy

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was stronger.

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Do you think that's mercy. So says you you the worst thing you can do is lose hope in a Lazarus. And this ayah he says my slaves, those who were violated against their own selves, don't lose hope in Allah mercy.

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Then he says in the

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new version, there is no doubt for sure a love of cover. Forgive all of the mistakes all of the sins altogether.

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He will take all of your pile of evil deeds and get rid of all of them, all of them in one shot.

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The first thing you need to do in this ayah is not lose hope. Right? The first thing you need to do is not lose hope. And by the way before I talk about so that was the final stage, what was the first stage you started doing? What are the lessons avoiding. You started avoiding you don't talk to him. By the way, you know, all of you, you should talk to Alice.

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you memorize lots of doors, the prayer is done. You raise your hands, you make some noise you memorize. When you're walking to school, when you're walking down stairs, when you're by yourself talk to hold on.

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I'm sorry. You know, when you talk to someone you know, they can hear you.

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You know, when you talk to someone on the phone, you know they can hear you.

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When you talk to a lot, you know he can hear you.

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Do you know he can hear you? Yeah. And if you feel weird talking to a lot.

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If you feel like you like I'm talking to myself.

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That's kind of weird. You know what that means? That means you're not really a strong believer, because you have to believe that Allah hears you. So you have to learn to talk to a lot in your private moments we talk to a lot. You have to believe that he not only hears you, he also sees you. And you behave differently when someone sees you and hears you and you behave differently when they don't see or don't hear. Isn't that true? So we have to develop consciousness. This one is halala. Those of you that try to advise others about the

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what's the first step for these people, the Muslims who are immersed in saying that they're doing all kinds of things. When you start talking to them, if you tell them this is haram, they already know when you tell them you shouldn't do that. They already know they shouldn't do that. It's not like they didn't know they're doing it anyway. What's What is this? This is teaching us where do you start? What do you tell them first? Listen, you're still asleep. Even if you disagree or lie you're still asleep.

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And that that master of yours he's saying don't lose hope Even if you say and don't. Don't come and tell me you don't know man real bad. I like those more. Alexei knows how bad you are. And despite how bad you are, he still says don't lose hope in my verse.

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I'm Mike McCullough. Then he says in the lobby of Virginia, no Gov. A Levels forgive the sins all of them altogether. This is, by the way, the concept of doba and Islam. The concept is, you've heard of that before, right?

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Because one thing I want to tell you about that I don't want to give you a long lecture, I just want to just open this discussion with you two things. I wanted to highlight the rights of your parents. We'll talk about little more, and then shamelessness to problems that you have. And when I'm saying make Toba and don't lose hope in the laws mercy. The now when you go back and do you change your ways in regards to things you change your ways in regards to how you deal with your parents when you change your ways in regards to how exposed you are and how desensitized you are, to shameless things. Shameless words shameless language shameless company shameless things on the screen. I don't

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care what screen whether it's your cell phone screen, or it's your laptop screen as a TV screen, I don't care if it's off, screen, watch it. Shameless things in the hallway. When you're walking down the aisle in the high school of the hallway, in high school, or in class, you're exposed to shamelessness and you know it and you're exposed to so much shamelessness your parents don't even know it exists. So we need to know about it but you should know about those to save yourself from becoming an animal people around you are animals they are you see, they're worse than they can even control enough. They don't even know when to show respect and when not to show respect. They don't

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know that's what an animal is and the dog just barks has no control you know, so we shouldn't be reduced to that so the last thing inshallah tada in the light of the globe Mar in double.

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This is something you read all the time you probably haven't heard something. Maybe you haven't heard something discussed about it and a little bit more detail. Unless it is what it is he who is forgiving merciful.

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But the way he said forgiving the words of food is allowing for food. What is that Joakim? What letters in the middle? Yeah, the vowel in Arabic, it does something to the meaning of a word. I won't get technical with you. But I will tell you it does something to the meaning of the word. It makes it excessive.

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So what he's saying is extremely forgiving.

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He is extremely forgiving.

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The Yeah, it doesn't make the word extreme. It makes it permanent.

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So he means he's always merciful. So the meaning is he's extremely forgiving. At the same time. He's

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always merciful. So when I say always forgiving.

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The question is he said he's extremely forgiving. But he didn't say what?

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Always forgiving. You know why? Because he's not always forgiving.

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He's not always forgiving. If he's always forgiving, then you have no problem.

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You do whatever you want. And then when you get in trouble, what can you say, hey, look, ally is always renewing, but he's not always redeemed. He's extremely forgiving. But even when he finishes he's still what always was.

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Even worse.

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So don't take advantage of thinking that I was always going to forgive that doors Not always. Oh, that depends on you. Now this this one is is one of opening your doors of your relationship between you and allow once again the rest of these artists. Let's remember what number This was

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2530 930-933-3930 That's correct. The next I tell you Okay, now that you've revived your home and you are hopeful that alone will give you what should you do next? What do you do next? You only little bit about it and then I'm done. But I need to

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turn back towards your master.

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You remember what I said? When somebody says what they do?

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Avoid unless has quit avoiding and now turn back it's such appropriate language. And

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then he says what is the mood oh and this time give up before you

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completely give yourself up surrender. Surrender your ego surrender your temptations. Surrender, surrender your bad habits, surrender your tongue, surrender your eyes, right surrender your wasting of time surrender your you know your your misbehavior, all of that. Give it up before him.

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And then we're rushing through it quickly in shall live in Nevada from Manhattan saloon, and you better do this before the punishment comes and then you won't be helped. In other words, am I saying this is my way of what for you?

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What is the one doing right now? And these words, he's helping you. And he's saying if somebody wants to punishment comes and you didn't take advantage of this help, at that point, you will not be helped. When that happens is too late. You will get out. You're getting help right now. So if somebody says

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Allah has helped me. Yes, he has Here it is. He said, Don't lose hope. He said the Lord forgiveness is open, you have to turn back to him and this time surrender this time surrender your world before him, you can do that much. And that is a lot help for you. And if you don't do that, you just wait for the punishment. And when it when it comes, then there is no matter how much you cry and scream and say, I believe I'm sorry, I won't do it again, doesn't matter now. So my dad was on at that point, you will not be held. By the way. The word nasaan Arabic is not a small help. It's huge amounts of health aid you know, like you know, somebody, you give somebody a pen, you help them out.

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That's not not Muslim. That's not nothing. When you when a country gives another country like millions of dollars in like food supplies and medicine and things like that. That's called Moore's law. What the word here suggests is you're going to be in such a heap of trouble that a little bit of help won't even do you're going to ask for huge amounts of help and you won't get it.

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unfortunate people.

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Now the last thing, inshallah tada is excuses. What excuses as a person make of not turning

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on the day of skipping around. The person says, Oh, it's too you know, if only Allah guided me, I would have been good,

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though in the law that he had only Allah guided me. To come to me with a cane I could have been from the people who have stuck with people who feared people who obey people who are conscious of the righting wrongs I could have been for most people, it's just that I didn't want me to be guided alone decided that I should be a messed up person. That's just my fate. This is what a person will say on the Day of Judgment, by the way, person is about to be thrown in jail, and he says, oh, man, I wish luck just guided me I would have been good.

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Just he didn't. So in other words, he's saying it's not my fault. What to say.

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So what's my phone? How does one respond to that?

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He says

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no, no, no. My eyes. My eyes. You know, what I asked means

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is miraculous signs these revelations they came to you.

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In other words, but he says nobody can guide me.

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In other words, what is the guidance of Allah? Yeah, so you can say why didn't he? Yes, he did. It is did you take it? as one thing you feed me? No, it was in front of you didn't need

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you to think so. Was it the book he said no, your mind. The I just sent you the

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new light against them. In other words, when you said a lot in guiding your life, you live

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First of all, you've been sitting your whole life. Now you come in front of me. And now you say you didn't send me guidance, you're gonna lie to my face to

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what's that vodka. And this is the most important one for you guys. You know, I told you there are two major problems you have to worry about. Over the

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parents one, shameless, that's on the outside. You know, the bigger problems on the inside.

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Ego.

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Because, you know, me too. We're all full of ourselves. We're obsessed with ourselves. We're egotistical maniacs.

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We are so obsessed, self obsessed, obsessed and self absorbed.

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That if somebody so much has looked at you for a long time to

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look at me.

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Do you want

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to go

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you know what that is?

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That's arrogance.

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Kind of like he was also very self absorbed absorbed. You know, I know you can't deny this. A lot of you listen to hip hop music. I know.

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You don't have to accept it. It's okay. You can accept it in your heart. Okay, you know a lot of things I personally believe all music is messed up. But hip hop music particularly is

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by and large taking these people and making them not just animals but worse than animals.

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Why? Self obsession with the Self, my chain my head, my car, my rims my golden two. My my my mind you can't touch me. You can't do this. You can't do this like me. You can't act like me and talk like me and walk like me. The pronoun me is all over the lyrics. What does that show you?

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ego. I am number one. Nobody can touch this. I am above everything else. III Me, me, me, Eagle, Eagle Eagle. And that's your biggest problem. The ego manifests the worst way in which ego comes up in the youth nowadays that I've seen. This is a big English word I want to show you because this is the last part of the burqa.

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You showed arrogance. Welcome terminal cafe. For those who deny this word what I want to show you the English word is apathy. apathy means

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apathy means

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Don't care.

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Somebody talks to you about hellfire. You're like,

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I'm too hard to, you know,

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I'm too rough around the edges. You can touch me with that.

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Come on,

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like I cry.

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Because he's afraid to help.

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That attitude where you're like a Tu, Tu, Tu hardcore thug, you know, let Hellfire scare you, or for your consciousness to wake up and say, maybe I have been messed up to my parents, I'm not gonna let you show that I'm not gonna let you see that. I'm too rough around the edges. I'm too big and strong or whatever. And this is, by the way, an ego problem for sisters as well. When you deflect like that. This is called apathy. And this is all a manifestation of arrogance. And the word that illustrates the arrogance of our youth today is one word that they use a lot. Oh, yeah, whatever.

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Whatever. That word is the contemporary manifestation of an obsessed and inflated ego. When you get when you hear good advice, what do you say?

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Whatever.

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You hear somebody tell you doing something wrong when you say

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your parents tell you because you come home for dinner, whenever Mom

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You are whatever nowadays, is it and how you use it, how you use it is an easy check on it just for yourself to see how egotistical you've become. On the outside. There is a problem of shamelessness. And the problem of not respecting our parents on the inside was the big problem. ego and by the way, on the day of judgment, if everything was good, what's your heart had an ounce of ego?

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An ounce of ego? paradise or no?

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Nope, nope. And we become a culture. And I'm not pointing at American society or Western society, all of us are in this culture. We're in it. We have become a culture that is obsessed with ego, are obsessed with ourselves, our own selves. Get over yourself. A slave doesn't have ego.

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A slave has humility. Remember what this passage began with? It'll call this my slaves. My slave slave doesn't show you what he's got. Because he knows it's not mine.

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The slave is wearing nice clothes. A slave is very nice clothes, my clothes my mind mine was it was this a

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gift from the western? This is his I have to be grateful. He gave a different attitude, a different attitude. And if you have an egotistical attitude, it actually suggests that you haven't accepted yourself as a slave. You haven't accepted yourself as this way. That is the demand of the product except allies master accept yourself as a slave. That's the that's the arrogance, the kill the arrogance on the inside, on the outside that it becomes easy for you to avoid shamelessness. Because the Master said Don't be shameless. It becomes easy for you to listen to your parents, no matter how illogical and how irrational. how unfair. You know, you guys, I don't know I don't want to get angry

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at you guys because I don't know you. But I do want to say the things you get angry about your parents. It's pathetic.

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One will sleep over at your friend's house and there's no

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there are people like you know across the Atlantic children that haven't had food to eat for three days.

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Right? And you're crying all night about

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human culture. You

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explained it to be

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happier

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depressed culture and all the other genre of music I only have an mp3 from 2008 2009

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so depressed about that. Yeah.

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You're upset your parents were such pathetic thing. You sending yourself to Hellfire overseas miniscule petty things. You know, if they're asking you to clean your room, clean your room and clean theirs to

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be quiet. If they're telling you to just turn the thing off and come for dinner come for dinner.

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Seriously, if I see it, you know, in my house, especially in respect for a mother, right? If the kids are playing on the Wi Fi or something or they're watching something and the mother calls, waited a bunch is ready. She's ready. You know most of you do. Coming.

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But you're not coming.

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You do that right?

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You know what you deserve when you do that?

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When the mother calls you know what you should be doing?

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Ha ha talk about even break the salon, the other than the break the salon

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goes into it. And if you take 10 more seconds if I was there, I just take the thing and break that TV golden.

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How dare you? This is more worth worrying that your mother, she carried you around for, you know, four months after the baby gets really big the last four months of her pregnancy. You try carrying a book bag around on your stomach for four months. Yeah, that feels even when you go to the bathroom, when you go to sleep. She did that for you that she delivered you almost died doing so and lost pounds and pounds of blood and guts when she was delivering you. She almost died giving you birth. And then she calls you say coming?

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Show some respect. Be grateful. My parents don't understand. Yeah, they do they understand you better than you understand yourself. They understood you when you were pooping on yourself. Right? That's when they understood you they still understand. You think they don't understand you. But they do. You don't understand?

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You know, are you you say Oh, but here's how funny as understanding was actually a person twice as smart. Because at least they have they can speak somewhat in English, you can even speak a little bit or Arabic or Turkish or so they're twice as smart as you because at least they can communicate in two languages. Right. So don't don't undermine your parents. Don't underestimate them, show them respect and regard not only for their sake. You know, for the religion sake, this is a core teaching of our religion. And I tell you that whatever problems you think you have on the Day of Judgment, all of them will pale in comparison to this one. This one problem you have is

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you know, the when you don't have this, when you don't show respect to your parents, then there's a curse of a law on you, or the curse of allies on you, the door to all those other sins opens up might as well dig your hole deeper.

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When you take care of your parents, the dollars of your parents are with you. And when the laws of defense are with you, then you are safe from shamelessness, then it becomes easy for you to wake up for pleasure. And it becomes easy for you to guard yourself from filthy language and to keep away from bad company because of the law of your parents is with you.

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Know, this is very serious stuff This will make or break your life will make or break your life. So take this advice inshallah. Tada, seriously, if you know, I know this is what we're supposed to be talking about new years or something, I couldn't care less. But but you know what I really sincerely advise you do each other

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as a favor to yourself with anything else. When you go home, clean up the whole house.

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Clean the whole back in the whole thing. And like you know, make make mom breakfast tomorrow morning. Early. Massage your feet. Take care of dad, listen to him yell and smile back. On top back. smile back. What do you think all of a sudden

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said nothing more is taken. Okay? Just fake it.

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But go out of your way to do good for them. And you know what that will be? That will be your way of showing Allah Allah, I heard your ayah I heard that there's no hope for me. And I'm hoping that this act of mine is a show that are you will cleanse all of my sins away. And this will be my toggle for you. And from now on, I will take care of my parents. And whenever your parents get mad at you, do more for them. Start doing less

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to more of the yelling at you. Do more. Don't do let's walk out of the house.

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I'm gonna talk to my friends or they're yelling at you or you're texting. Your phone should be snapped in half. If you're doing that your peers are talking to you and you're not paying attention. When your parents are on the phone, don't put the

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headphones on and you're playing the video game on the phone and talking to your mother at the same time. Don't do that. When you're talking to your mother. Forget everyone. Forget everything. Talking to your mother, even if you're among your friends, play at the restaurant, everything food your mom calls, walk out, talk to her. Don't settle voicemail. So respect. This is how we have to be without parents. We have to do the things that I didn't I emphasize this a lot. I didn't emphasize the shamelessness thing. So I'll take maybe two minutes and emphasize some things about the shamelessness thing. What I told you was the more you watch shamelessness, more what happens to you

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become more like animals. You know what the manifestation of that is? manifestation of that is you know,

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if you have no problem, looking at something, staring at someone

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that's you know, you're not looking at them as a decent human being. You know, you're looking at them as an animal as a piece of flesh. That's all you're looking at. And you have no respect for your own mother, your own sister, your own way, your own daughter. There also you wouldn't want somebody to stare at them. The when you're staring at is also somebody's daughter. It's also somebody's sister is also somebody's mother, watch it, even if they don't have

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Respect for themselves. non Muslim women, sometimes they don't have respect for themselves. So they'll dress in inappropriate clothing, even muslims for that matter, but you have respect for yourself and the women of your family and and loyalty to that. And it's really disgusting. When the entire family sits together, and they're watching movies and shamelessness comes on and they're all mother and the daughter and the, you know, husband and the brother, everybody sitting together watching just one dancing, it's okay.

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It's disgusting. That's not the behavior of a Muslim family. We should be disturbed by shamelessness, we should be you know, we should stand against it. This is one of the great troubles of this society. There are a lot of great things about our society, lots of great things. But this is one of the things that's destroying our youth over exposure to shamelessness. Some girl just randomly messages you I want to be your friend on Facebook, well, I don't

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know.

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Go find your your brother to be friends with

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whichever father is offended, you need to find friends elsewhere.

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You know, these guys, I'm telling you this very, very seriously. Very serious about this. These you think this is fun. And you know,

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your ticket to Hellfire also could destroy your character? Would you want to marry a girl with

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100 other boys? I've looked at that. And she's kind of cute. Yeah, I heard all the great British manhood. You know, the Muslim, they have a sense of the women and the men. And our women, you know, you don't you know, nobody's supposed to look at your wife except to

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you, nobody's supposed to enjoy her beauty except you. Right, you would be disturbed. If somebody said, really beautiful, you'd be disturbed by that. Right? We're supposed to be as disturbed when we look at number one. And we're supposed to have that sense of shame. I don't know where it's gone. It's on vacation nowadays. For a lot of Muslims, it's on vacation, revive that sense of shame. This is very important, it will destroy your family life, you will not be able to have a healthy marriage, you will certainly not raise good children. If you don't have a sense of shame. You have to have a sense of shame, the kind of film that is on television, the kinds of things you're

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watching. You know, the messenger warned us are they supposed to run in our car?

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They're wearing clothes, but they're not wearing clothes. He warned us of a time like that.

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And that's what it was just pG 13.

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But okay, we can go just be 13 or just one bad scene in there. Or it's not that bad. Right? What do you want us to do then? Because you know, I can't let the movie do my parents let me do anything.

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My life is so sad because I didn't watch forever. Right? Get over yourself and get over this obsession with entertaining yourself as a free person. There is like other than television, and other than movies, and other than hulu.com. And other than, you know, whatever else, there's life outside of that, too, there's still oxygen to produce survive, trust me, will still be alive. If you abandon those things actually be much happier to

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know, the thing is I can tell you what not to do. But finally, tell you what to do, right? Because if you're not doing all of that, and what are you doing, find time doing sports, go out, start jogging or something

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is a healthy activity. I'm not saying necessarily find a religious activity. I don't expect that from you. But I do expect find an activity that at least isn't making you a worst human being. You understand what I'm saying?

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At least do no harm, at least do no harm. And the elders here they're sitting please, just a minute of your time. If our youth are coming together in the masjid, and they're not learning anything about Islam, they're just sitting here, eating pizza or whatever, and just talking about stuff, some random video game. I'm so happy that they're doing that. Because you know, if they weren't doing that here, they're probably doing something much worse at home. So don't say that, what are they doing?

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Please don't do that. Let them be here. Because the alternatives are worse. At least they're doing no harm. At least they're better than what else is out there. You understand? You have to build these little don't expect like the highest caliber of behavior from our youth. You didn't raise them that way. So how can you expect that from them? You put them in public school, they didn't apply themselves. You put them there, you expose them to shamelessness, eight hours every day. And then when they don't act like you know the the ultimate aim.

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How can they behave like this?

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What's the matter with you get realistic accept reality, this is reality. So we know I asked him we asked the elders of our community to have more tolerance for us in the machine to be more welcoming to them to help push them away. And I sincerely asked you young young guys, a blast bit of advice as well shamelessness and I've done it all I promise this time I'm done. Done. I mean it. Find better company to hang out with if your company is shameless.

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You will be shameless. If your company has shame and decency, you will develop shame and decency.

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If your company is messed up they will drag you to hell with them.

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And you'll think that they're cool but they will crumble they'll be really really hot

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right it's not gonna be cool at all. So I pray you take some of this advice seriously each other thought I didn't want to talk about too many things but I ended up doing so anyway. I just feel like you know, I don't get I don't spend a lot of time opportunity, talking to youth about just just simple advice. But please do take these these two letters and make them the most important priority in your life. Avoid shamelessness and take care of your parents and try to fight the ego inside and shut out and retain your humility. I sincerely pray that you're able to be leaders of this team unable to carry this message and able to raise healthy strong families and chocolate tada when the

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time comes. Because you are our leaders you are I cannot you guys are the leaders of this community. In the next you know decade. You are the you are what this community is that you are about as long as you have that responsibility to help you take that responsibility strongly channel. Now give your parents the ability to raise your right now I hope you find good company and help you avoid bad company. Now I hope you quit your bad habits get you out of the cycle of being exposed to shamelessness get you to learn to keep your control your tongue against your parents and to stop wasting your time and to become regular in your Salawat if I said anything good I choose to get from

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Alaska. If I made any mistakes there certainly my own satanic allotment of the shadow and that data into into a statue government