11. The Coolness of Eyes
Channel: Nouman Ali Khan
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Ustadh Nouman Ali Khan delves into an analysis of the following verse from the Holy Qur’an.
“And those who say: Our Lord! Bestow on us from our wives and our offspring who will be the comfort of our eyes, and make us leaders for the Muttaqun.’”
It is clear that the purpose of this Dua that we make often is due to our incessant inward love and fondness for our family. We strive endlessly into making them acquainted with the main principles and positive laws of Islam and the paths of truth and justice.
The Arabic phrase “qurrata ‘ayn” means the apple of one’s eye, which basically means a person who is the cause of happiness and pride. This is originally derived from the word “qurr” which means coolness and since it is said that the tears of eagerness and happiness are always cool, the phrase means something that causes the eyes of a man to cool down. This implies happiness and joy.
The Muttaqin acquire the qualifications of greatness and leadership in a way that all the required attributes of a real leader are included in them and this is a herculean job given the severe and testing conditions in and around us. They are special servants of Allah and their knowledge, speech, thought and power helps in guiding people to the path of the Truth. They are the lanterns of guidance in the wake of storms and we should try to always inculcate values from them if not aiming at being them.
Appreciate the the turnout, which I'm aware because if you're not mentally prepared well in advance, you don't have long attention span. So keeping that in mind that shouldn't take more than 2530 minutes from the stretch, but I'll keep very conscious of the time.
And in this short time,
I do want to share with you just a small lesson from the Quran. And this lesson has to do with a figure of speech and expression that is used multiple times in a large book. And it's also found in the Sunnah of the messenger or loss of a love. And this expression is
the coolness of eyes. The expression is the coolness of eyes. Now first and foremost, it's important to know what an expression is, look at the when you when I say it's an expression of
an idiom in any language is when words come together. But they need something else when they come together, and you need something else when you take them apart. In other words, just to give you a simple example of an idiom or an expression in English, if I say what's up.
When I say Vasa, you all know what that means. What do you what's going on in your life? What are you doing, etc, etc. But when I take the words apart, I say what is
separate, the meaning is completely different. If you look at the dictionary of each word, and you put it together in a different language, you will never see me. Similarly an expression can be Wow, that was cool.
That was cool. That was cool. I think all of you understand what that means. That was good. I appreciate it. I liked it. That was enjoyable. But at the same time, if you look it up in the dictionary, that was cool. It was have completely different connotations. This happens in every language. And these kinds of, you know, combinations of words that create nuanced me up new meanings that can be captured in the dictionary. Those are called figures of speech.
How do you figure speech? You know, what is the Arabs even before they
were using? So you can decide after the reveal? I think this is a figure of speech. You can't take this literally. But that's not a figure of speech. No, that's not up to us, that decided by the language of the
One of the attributes of for artists will be one of the words describing
it will be to be clear and clarify this was nothing.
This is clear in and of itself. And it clarifies other things. This is one of the attributes of this happens to be an attribute of the Arabic language as well as the discerning audience will be the Arabic language itself is clear. And it also clarifies it removes confusion. So the figure of speech, the secret of English figure speech was like
the coolest, the coolest of the
first thing we're gonna do is we're gonna try to figure out, how are the errors before it's not in jeopardy?
How are they using that phrase where they will use it, and if they were whether they need
to understand that we'll see two parts. The first part is the Arabs used to have two expressions, two things that used to say, they will say the eyes have become cool, or they will say the eyes have become more. So they have two opposite expressions, the eyes and the eyes become one.
When you are shedding tears of joy, when you're so happy, it moves you to tears, they will see your eyes and become full.
And if you are overwhelmed with sadness, and you're so sad, and you're so depressed, or crying, then your eyes will become one.
To help you understand this even better tears of joy, tears of sadness. Let's take an example of the airport. You're at the airport and you see two families, there's a mother and a son. And one son is saying goodbye to the other side saying hello. So one son is dealing for a few years. And they're saying farewell to each other and both weather in summertime. And on the other side
who just arrived and the mother is going to receive it and they're also crying, but which
is the arrival or departure place. The Arrival flight is cooler. And the departure plate is what warm is according to the expression of the air. You know one of the worst things the Arab to say to the other Arab devotee attacks was on a lawn right?
Which meant what May Allah make his eyes warm. It was one of the worst things they could say to each other. It was kind of a curse may be so sad and so depressed me such bad things happened to you that she moved to tears of sorrow. But the expression is, is becoming cool, which implies tears of joy.
Happiness overwhelming, you're so happy that you're so happy that tears are coming out of your eyes. That's the first implication of the coolest of the odds. The second implication is that the Arab used to travel in the store in the desert, and the vehicle of the error. Most of the time in London was not the horse that was the cattle know if there's a sandstorm, the air has to cover the space because the sand is pounding the space. But there's one part of the space he can't afford to come. Because he covers in
the open, so the eyes are suffering in the storm, until you find the cave, or you find some kind of shelter. And when you find this, he says poetically, he says fireflies have become what? Cool. In other words, the coolest of the eyes, which actually uses video speech also to refer to finding referring to finding shelter from the storm. When you find refuge from the store, your eyes have become cool to applications, though tears of joy, and finding shelter from the store. I'd like you to remember this background, when we come to the I article on
especially the hobbies that I want to share with you.
In regards to this remarkable phrasing of
one of those Providence places is used as a source of supply. This is the 25th allows
our master our own gratis from our spouses and our children.
So let's just as
we asked the Lord to give us the eyes, I'm going to add a word translation, especially out of our spouses and our children. Now the question is, where did I get the word especially, most transitions you read will say, Lord, or our Lord, our master grant us coolness of the eyes from our spouses and our children, especially from our spouses and our children, if you will, particularly promotionals our children, especially And particularly, this is a principle of the Arabic, the Arabic says,
meaning as well.
You see, the purpose of
that phrase in Arabic normally is not supposed to be mentioned here, it's supposed to be at the end of the sentence.
This is the normal sequencing of a sentence. But in the ancient Arabic, if you remove that latter part earlier, the meaning gets specialized, you have to add the word especially, particularly to the meaning something subtle nuance changes in how you interpret that. So now, the rough transition again, with our master branches from our spouses or children, especially from them, the coolness of you know, that means make me so happy with my wife, make me so happy with my husband, made me so happy with my children, that I moved to tears of joy. I should be so happy with it that I moved to tears of joy. Now this is a particularly relevant, by the way. What was the other meeting besides
tears of joy, you remember,
shelf of the store? It's like the outside world as a store. But when you come home to the spouse and the children, part of you have
you found shelter,
into pains outside without overstretching has disappeared. And this is a particularly ironic God, you know why? Because for most people, the storm is not outside the house.
The storm is inside the house.
You know, I made a joke a lot of times about the stress, you know, in the life of a Muslim,
especially, but also the man is stressed out who's the victim of the stress?
There are two places where the average of the man stress is really
one victim of the stress of the house. And the other is the last word meaning all over America.
Right? So he goes home, despite an argument that I can't take this anymore.
Right. And by the way, this is feeding inside the whole husband and wife being sarcastic against each other, making unnecessarily inappropriate comments, just in knowing just what gets under the other skin. Knowing just what hurts and knowing just what to say, right? This is a shame.
But this is the exact opposite of grasping the law.
You know, you know your wife is sensitive about cheaper. She's always really happy. So you're going to see your sources a little low, even if you don't think it's low. You just want to see her.
just for fun you say, you know, and she knows just what to say.
To get back.
This is not finding the strength comics. This is a little bit of sarcasm here. A little bit of charm commentary here.
But it builds up over the years and it builds aggression and nastiness. And then the husband or the wife, who's watching
the children. And the next thing, you know, the child's a teenager, and he's young, because that's what he
to do. What about, we asked a lot, particularly to make give us coolness of the eyes, harmony, peace, joy, shelter from the storm, a stress free environment inside the house, what a beautiful God, what a powerful and relevant block. And I say it's relevant because for most nowadays, Muslim, anonymous, promote
their the arguments, unresolved issues inside the house, there's no open communication.
Right? There's no forgiveness inside the house, people hold grudges
against your wife for less than yours.
These are the people that are most deserving of forgiveness. So we asked a lot to give us that elicit the eyes.
Beautiful. Let's see what else this phrase is used. It's used in the case of
spring for the
baby for the love. She's putting into the water. What do you think of that woman? Who is or
once you can figure that out, it's a time of great sadness. It's a time of great fear uncertainty, that she's putting her child in what seems to be certain depth, which is the only way to save him from even worse than the soldier before the door.
Now, another woman who got one is in that same story, can you think of one mother and another?
Now we have to figure out why does she have
what's so stressful? Will she she's she's really messed up.
Right? Now, here's the thing isn't you have to appreciate the next version of psychological abuse against us. We don't even know what physical abuse there might be. We don't know for sure. But we know one thing for sure. The second that the psychological and psychological abuse is captured.
She is so overwhelmed by it. She has
a psychological or any kind of abuse between husband and wife. Maybe the wife could call a domestic hotline. Maybe she called the police. Maybe she'd go to the government who the judge or the governor. So why can she go?
She can't go to the class. What's the problem? He kind of
she can go to court because he's the court. She can't go to the government because he is the government. She can't escape the situation. She can't she is in the store where her eyes were born. And this is baby washes up. And she picks this up. And what are the words she says
he will be the coolness of the eye for me. This kid will
love Have you seen a mother of a woman wants a child and doesn't have a child. And all of a sudden she's grabbing a child. When a mother is playing with her child? Yes, what happens? She forgets the rest of the world exists. No problems. It's just for those of you that are married or just had a child recently, or those who have had children or older, you can recall when you were your wife's best friend, and he used to talk about everything. Then the baby came.
When the baby came, you're talking to your wife about how the workday was going. And you're talking to her about you know, these things that happened on the way home, etc, etc. And all of a sudden she hears from the baby in the other room. And well guess what the conversation is over her world is changing. Now she's won her first wife second. That's automatic for a mother. She can't even hold herself. And when she lived her child over problems disappeared. She may not have the electricity maybe out of the house, the rent. There may not be put on the table when she's played with a baby overexpresses. So she looks at
me, but she doesn't stop there.
know what's really interesting in the language of
the iceberg, she didn't say that she said for me and for you she separated herself even in this manner.
And the other reason is of the difficulties of yours is not from sadness, but from me. He is
history. He's a paranoid, psychotic mania. And she says this special being his company might be calm you down to your eyes. And how do we learn a lot of clothes This is
one of the special gifts given to
I have given you.
special love, you can see the English idiomatic expression, I sprayed onto you love that comes especially from me, you know the word COVID here is love.
My heart is what's called an
empowered love. It's wonderful. And it's only used one time in
every other time.
This is the only time something special in the eloquence of the IRS a food is one way, but both ways he
is come into contact with the consumer, they become loving towards them also, despite even
even being aggressive towards him.
He's still carrying himself, even though
he can't get himself.
anyhow, so this father says this
with a mother, who,
whose mother, which was the original, not the foster mother, not the original Mother, what our parents
saw his favorite on him or his favorite or him when
we pay per view is we give you special favorite on other occasions as well. Now the thing is
that he returned to his money.
Lesson Listen, I did a
lesson I did a favor for you. To who.
And then he says.
So I returned you, we returned you to your mother. So her eyes to become cool.
So not to look to Vegas either becoming cool with
with the thing I decided what I wanted to bring to your attention.
Alyssa to the
goodness that comes to your mother is a gift to you.
As a gift to you, the joy of your mother is a gift to you. You see how
the baby doesn't know the difference. But the mother is becoming described as a favorite.
What are the lessons we're learning? How attached are we supposed to be to our health, you know what our relationship is. So here's a couple of examples.
When we go
to see the coolness of the eye, by the way, the second one, when he returns to his mother, I want you to appreciate that a little bit, especially the lovers here, you take your child, your two year old, your three year old to the grocery store, right? And it's just you and your child, and you go to the grocery store and you're putting things in your cart. And all of a sudden you look to the right and the child is not there, you look to your left and the child is not there. What happens to the mother,
she goes crazy. She doesn't think who's walking, who's gonna say something, you know, I'm in public, I should know. And then she has 10 1213 feet away. You have not seen dies like that in the NFL.
Her eyes are burning until she finally gets her child. And finally your eyes become
you have to appreciate a mother losing her child and then regaining the kind of joy, the kind of can you imagine the tears of joy this mother, she had just
put this child in the water. And now she's holding it again.
Can you imagine the joy?
the coolest of
all of this was just me preparing for the actual talk. And I probably wrap it up with attendance. And
all of this was the total how beautifully this phrase is actually used in a position to profit. So
before I take you to that, after preparing for you have you can appreciate me just by reading it. You have to set up the scene before you can really taste the beauty of the messengers words some of the level.
To learn this part of this, appreciate this lesson, I want you to remember one thing, a messenger is basically involved in two conversations,
a conversation with the people and a conversation with
their 200 pages a messenger has to do with communication with a lot of communication with the people.
This is very simple, something you already knew. So let's take an example since we're on the subject of musasa First, let's take an example.
That I was traveling with his family
and he sees a flame.
He sees a friend he tells his family.
Again the language is wrong.
He says to his family you stay here is certainly Only I know I added the word only because he understood
the principle, I won't make you feel bad about not going there to get to the bottom line. The bottom line is somehow
this is important, because it is in the middle of the night, and there is a plane, and it's the dark desert. If somebody sees like, what are they going to do?
They're going to go there. But nobody else is meant to go. So
I'm going to go.
And by the way, later on the part, we're not going to get to in this talk, you know how many adventures before you finally get to that he finally gets to
you can precisely on schedule,
day to do this, this is because this is this is going to be in the water, you're going to the customer journey out of Egypt, then you're going to spend the money and then you're going to travel with your family.
Time and the moment the second half of said you came precisely on schedule.
So let's get back to the main topic itself. He sees the fire he goes up is expected to be someone's you know, sorry.
He gets up there. He gets
nada udia was he got a call with me yamasa.
Now one thing to say.
Right, if he met you,
whatever you want, but he's called by me. So whoever knows who I am, what's going on here? Already? What's going on? I don't get what's happening. A lot introduces itself in the book, is are your master your Lord, Lord, because it's old English. mastery is actually closer to the core meaning of the word. But that's a separate discussion in the anonymous here again, aside, when alleged reduces himself to those who lost
The location was
What was the revolution?
The word love was used to introduce a lot to the messenger, or what was being used to introduce without
any era of
economy. You're also
coming in if
you are the Secretary of War, he's still in shock.
you don't have a lot of words for choosing but the word lady was
good. I chose you because
you know why that's important.
Because he feels that you can get away
So he's got a job. And it was a no, I honestly believe it
was a good I see, I see.
a scenario that listen carefully to what is being revealed. Now let's first
let's take a step back. Let's take a small step back. This is a conversation between a human being and
this will have the greatest historical occasion ever.
The one of the most one of the landmark incidents in human history. And compare this to something just that you can appreciate By comparison, because when you compare a rock to a diamond who appreciate the diamond more, have you ever met someone?
When you read some things, when you talk to someone, when you have dinner with someone, when you call someone, it becomes a burden memory in your life. So much so that when you meet someone new, and you're becoming friends with someone, one of the conversation starters you have is you know, one
you were at this one time
conference, and I was
texting me I didn't even know
what to eat when you shake hands with someone because people take a picture and fade it in their house.
Or they pass the story on generations. You know, I got to meet the president, or I got to meet this woman.
And do you think he wants the conversation to be shorter or longer?
He wants to select when you get to talk to somebody important. Even if you don't have a question.
I suppose what else is going on?
You want to prolong the conversation? So by introducing himself formally tells him the damn
serious conversation and all of a sudden,
unexpected. He says.
What's that in your right hand?
A lot is asking what's in your mind? Now, who
is more interesting question?
Actually, because I know because I've told them already. Know the name. He knows that it's pretty obvious. What?
to say. Yeah, yeah.
What am I going to say? Seriously? Have
you noticed it? No.
the question was, what is that? What's the answer? What do you expect the answer to be? And what was
For the other guys here? staff is not the people you hire back to the old staff. It's not my staff to work with. Don't be confused. So long stick is different from a cane. A cane is a sign of weakness. But a staff is a sign of strength.
So it's a long stick? So the answer the question was what's in your head? The answer is yes.
But he doesn't stop there. He said, Have
a look at lining up and
it'll ask what you do with it.
What is it? What is the answer?
The answer is you say this is my friend. But he doesn't want to hang up, if you understand what I say. He wants to keep the conversation going.
And he says,
to prolong the conversation, what should
I be pushing for it so much, she can eat it.
Now, what else can I say about?
I mean, how many things can you say about a stick anyway?
You're gonna run out of things to say pretty fast. So you can't think of anything else to say. So you know, first of all, if the market was so beautiful, he said, What do you
it's an illustration of how you want this conversation to just go. He's got a chance to talk to a human being gonna get a chance, like,
where would you want that to go? Now, this conversation goes on.
And all of a sudden,
the course of this
Guru is revealed. Now that you've had conversation with me, now it's time for you to have conversation with Lou.
I told you in the beginning of this conversation, I said a messenger has to have two communications, one with Obama and one with the people.
Now the question is, we just had a beautiful conversation.
And who do
you want to talk to the guy from whom
he's gonna talk to he's gonna have the nastiest conversation, no
is gonna call him a liar. A criminal. You're gonna make fun of the stutter. He's gonna call him humiliated. He's gonna call it a magician. He's going to call it insane. He's going to call him every day with the book in what
do you think anybody enjoy being
a criminal, and you will enjoy being a part of it.
This is going to be a tough conversation.
For you to have.
I want to tell you on the side something
before or not appreciated before
is the biggest victim of shape power in districts.
Is the archetype describe the human life the human dilemma is how do we know which two are protects us from
which law protects us?
So to know what names of alarm
Medicare Now listen to what's going on.
What we're doing is First off,
He says, don't have the sovereignty of the Kingdom of Egypt. What did you just call him?
he says to his generals
in the army, I don't know any enough for you except myself.
for himself, use keywords in the keywords
where it is or what
the words are reserved for use for yourself or for you help particularly relevant to
come back to this, he has engaged in a conversation with
the most beautiful conversation about preparing and strengthening for the nastiest conversation. Let's turn to our messenger. So
does he also have to have
a conversation with a lot of people? Which one do you think a messenger enjoys? Which one do you think he would be able to enjoy?
Is this a no brainer? It's a conversation with him. But the messenger obligated to have conversations with the people and when he has conversations with people.
People also speak respectfully.
Look, I've been invited here. I was invited here last minute you guys came out. I appreciate you coming in listening. But if all of a sudden if one of you got up and started insulting me, cursing, cursing my family, humiliating, embarrassing me calling me all kinds of things. What would I do?
know, you know what I would do? Take this thing off probably kick the camera. Why?
Don't take it early flight back to Dallas. And then next time I get an invitation from Coronavirus.
Because it is
just a messenger that luxury equals out to
the people cursing humiliate him, call him does He say
you know what, forget.
And by the way, he can't even go to a different travel, we got this car was not very helpful. I'm gonna go find a different car. The next day he has to talk to his car again.
The same car washes the first day do you think they're nicer the next day or worse.
If they're nasty the first day, they'll only get nasty The next day, and only worse the day after. And only yesterday was the day after. And it's only gonna get uglier and uglier. put this into perspective, you and I are decent people respectable people, you expect to be respected at work.
You expect that nobody's gonna insult you, when you go to your job. You're a respectable human being. But if a coworker starts cursing you out,
humiliating publicly in front of everyone and you are not used to that kind of thing. If you if you are the kind of person that runs with a lower some element of society where cursing and nastiness is a part of your life, then maybe you brush it off. When somebody curses you up. You'll never use power.
Well, if you're not used to that kind of built in, you're a decent human being. When somebody uses that kind of word. You don't have to do the rest of that day. You're not going to eat lunch, your face is going to be droopy, you're going to come home
What do you want after dinner on level one? You would mentally shut down you would shut down let me go this other way your eyes would become
do you think? messenger normal human being
whether you really whether insult, most no one
He would walk by and do with their clothes and cover themselves like
a messenger is walking by, you
know, homeless guy or something.
That's what they would do.
When he would walk by
whenever you start talking and stick their fingers in their ears, which is our contemporary, whatever men
are rolling your eyes.
That's what they would do.
This is humiliating. clearly didn't want to deal with us to say but does He say you know it's obvious. You want to hear what I have to say I'm gonna stop talking.
Luttrell, you know people are
You just remind
me to just remind your jobs to
your you're not in charge of
You keep doing it, how hard is that? If you guys were just talking to each other telling me to shut up while I was speaking, and
just keep going, just keep doing, keep doing. It's a psychological damage. The point I'm trying to make is the messenger is either becoming more.
So what does he need to do?
He needs to go
to regain his calm, to regain his composure to regain his humanity. What does he have to do now?
The Messenger of
the coolness of light hyzer was placed in the salon.
When he talks to the people, his eyes become more when he goes in salon.
He's talking to a lot of Africans. Now he's ready to talk to the people again.
Then he comes back to salon
again, so what does he prefer? The joy of his life, the joy that gives him so it's given so much joy is moved into tears, the thing that is a refuge from the store and for him is
that if any of you are thinking you do work up down,
either work without, you know,
talking to the people for 30 days, you can't talk to the people that will you talk
to talk to
you can talk to a lot of property until you find joy a lot.
You're not doing now you're heading
you're doing speeches, you gotta talk to a lovers. You got to do that.
Now that's that's the kind of the message are they? So there's a lot of coolness of the eyes to them. And arcilla is an obstacle in rd.
You know, are you playing Grand Theft Auto and author time your mom's Hassan. you pause it. And then you go to make slot and in your slot, you're still playing.
Right? And so you need to get it over with quickly so you can get back to what's really important to stay on your site when
you get it over and get back to what's really, the irony is you are
running out of time.
And you're deciding it because you're running out of time. But
the irony of the situation, the tragic irony.
The final thing I want to share with you remember,
I said if you meet someone important you never forget
So it's obviously never gonna forget the conversation is never gonna forget.
It is no doubt that either there's no way to be worshipped in any way, shape or form except I would be the slave yourself and worship me will
establish the law so you can remember to remember me What must you do? establish the left to the man who will never forget him. Listen, if you really want to remember.
If you really want to remember
the law is empty, then you will find all kinds of creative avenues to fill that void. Be it songs and music or video games or movies or all kinds of creative rituals to fill that void. That void is filled with that close your eyes, nothing else.
I pray that a lot of that gives us coolness of the eyes. And I think a lot of those it gives us coolness of the island our spouses and our children. I pray that Allah Allah gives us the joy in serving Is he the joy that was felt by the messenger a lot and this is normal for me.
And I prayed a lot overlooks the shortcomings and mistakes and the careless attitude sometimes we have in the salon and the heat was added to the axilla
overlooks it and forgives it and accept whatever broken sloppy image anyway because in the end the veterans accept whatever we have done.
I work in QA but they're a bunch of people.
For this, I'm gonna have to run the cello.
And thank you very much for listening