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The speaker discusses a woman who had a family member's younger sister unable to marry them and struggled with emotions and family. They emphasize the importance of following the natural reactions of people facing challenges, preparing for them, and not giving them too much attention. The speaker also gives advice on how to handle difficult situations and being prepared for graduation.

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			I want to share a reflection on a
		
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			verse in Surah Al-Ankabut where Allah says,
		
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			after I seek refuge with
		
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			Allah
		
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			from
		
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			the evil of my
		
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			heart, I seek refuge with Allah from the
		
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			evil of my heart, I seek refuge with
		
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			Allah
		
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			from
		
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			the evil of my heart, I seek refuge
		
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			with Allah from the evil of my heart,
		
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			I seek refuge with Allah from the evil
		
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			of my heart, I seek refuge with Allah
		
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			from the evil of my heart, I seek
		
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			refuge with Allah from the evil of my
		
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			heart, I seek refuge with
		
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			Allah from the evil of my heart, I
		
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			seek refuge with Allah from the evil of
		
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			my heart, I seek refuge with Allah from
		
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			the evil of my heart, I seek refuge
		
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			with Allah from the evil
		
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			of
		
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			my heart, I seek refuge with Allah from
		
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			the evil of my heart, I seek refuge
		
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			with Allah
		
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			from the evil of my heart.
		
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			to a particular pain, you can get divorced.
		
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			You cannot get into the degree that you
		
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			wanted to get into.
		
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			You cannot get the job that you wanted.
		
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			The person that you proposed to doesn't want
		
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			to marry you.
		
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			A family member passes away.
		
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			These are all great tests that you go
		
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			through.
		
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			Inshallah, if you're patient, your sins are being
		
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			forgiven, your ranks are being raised, good deeds
		
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			are being written down for you.
		
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			But what this also does for you is
		
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			that the next time you meet someone that
		
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			has gone through a similar circumstance or is
		
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			going through a similar circumstance, it leads you
		
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			to being empathetic.
		
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			It leads you to being kind, merciful, and
		
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			compassionate because you knew what that pain did
		
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			to you.
		
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			You knew how hard it was for you.
		
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			And this leads you to be more merciful
		
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			and more empathetic towards the other people.
		
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			And this is a first lesson that I
		
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			want us to take away that as we
		
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			are tried and tested, it's not just for
		
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			the afterlife, but there's something that you're meant
		
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			to take away from this life as well,
		
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			which is mercy and compassion towards the creation
		
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			of Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la.
		
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			Number two, I'm gonna share a funny story
		
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			with you from my teenage years.
		
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			So how many of you have an older
		
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			sibling, an older brother or sister?
		
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			Raise your hand.
		
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			Older brother or sister?
		
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			Man, those are challenging relationships, especially if they
		
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			are older than you, SubhanAllah.
		
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			You get bullied.
		
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			It's inevitable.
		
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			So I had an older, or I have
		
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			an older sister that's four years older than
		
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			me, and she was just starting off high
		
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			school.
		
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			I was still in middle school.
		
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			Anytime a friend used to come over, it
		
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			wasn't good enough that I went to the
		
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			basement or hid in my room or hid
		
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			away from wherever her and her friends were.
		
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			I would have to physically leave the house.
		
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			So I used to have a cousin, my
		
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			mom's sister's daughter, that used to live about
		
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			a 10-minute walk away.
		
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			So every time her friend would come over,
		
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			I would go to my aunt and uncle's
		
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			house where my cousin is.
		
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			And eventually, we spent so much time together,
		
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			SubhanAllah, we developed a sibling rivalry.
		
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			So she got a new bicycle, I had
		
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			to get a better bicycle.
		
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			I got a laptop, she had to get
		
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			a better laptop.
		
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			And things used to keep going back and
		
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			forth this way.
		
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			Until every quarter, we would get our report
		
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			cards, and my mom and dad, may Allah
		
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			have mercy upon them, and all of our
		
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			parents, I mean, they used to ask me,
		
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			how are your grades?
		
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			And I'd be super happy.
		
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			I'm like, mom, dad, I got an A
		
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			in this, a B in this, super happy
		
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			with my grades.
		
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			But as is typical culture, it could be
		
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			Desi culture, Arab culture, but how did your
		
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			cousin do?
		
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			We have to compare you to other kids.
		
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			What else do we do?
		
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			And I would be upset.
		
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			I'm like, why do I have to be
		
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			compared to her all the time?
		
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			And mashallah, she was wearing hijab, very studious,
		
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			mashallah.
		
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			I would make up any excuse.
		
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			I'm like, look, she has no social life.
		
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			Obviously, she's gonna do better academically.
		
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			And it would hurt me a lot anytime
		
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			I would be compared.
		
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			But as is the sunnah of Allah Subh
		
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			'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la, every believer is
		
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			gonna have their own personal battle of Badr.
		
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			What was my personal battle of Badr?
		
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			The day we went for our driving exam.
		
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			So she goes and she does her driving
		
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			exam, and then she comes home, and she
		
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			has tears in her eyes.
		
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			And I'm like, man, are these tears of
		
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			happiness that she passed, or tears of misery
		
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			that she failed?
		
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			And then she starts talking.
		
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			She says, Mama, Baba, I'm so sorry, but
		
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			I failed.
		
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			And in the back of the house, you
		
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			hear Takbir, Allahu Akbar.
		
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			And I'm partying and celebrating.
		
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			Such a terrible person, SubhanAllah.
		
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			But now the pressure is on me.
		
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			I have to go do my driving exam.
		
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			If I don't pass, I'm gonna have no
		
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			self-respect left in the house.
		
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			So I went to my driving exam, and
		
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			I want you to empathize with me.
		
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			The invigilator says, Mr. Aziz, welcome to your
		
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			final driving exam.
		
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			I would like you to reverse out of
		
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			the parking spot.
		
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			So I'm like, Bismillah, I got this.
		
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			So I put my seatbelt on, check all
		
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			of my mirrors, turn the car on, put
		
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			my foot on the brake, and I start
		
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			reversing.
		
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			I'm going back, I'm going back, I'm going
		
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			back.
		
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			Boom!
		
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			You hit something.
		
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			La ilaha illallah.
		
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			What's the first word that comes to your
		
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			mouth at that time, right?
		
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			I want you to imagine.
		
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			When we get scared, what is the first
		
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			word that comes to our minds at that
		
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			time?
		
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			Inshallah, it's good words.
		
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			We're in a masjid, and we're pious people,
		
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			inshallah.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la says,
		
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			الذين إذا أصابتوا مصيبة قالوا إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا
		
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			إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ That believers, when they're tested by
		
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			Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta-A'la, their
		
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			natural reaction is to remember Allah Subh'anaHu
		
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			Wa Ta-A'la, and to remind themselves
		
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			that to Allah we belong, and to Him
		
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			we shall return.
		
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			Now, I want you to imagine.
		
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			Let's do this exercise again.
		
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			We're reversing back.
		
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			You hit something.
		
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			Boom!
		
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			What word comes out of your mouth?
		
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			Naturally, this time it's going to be الذكر.
		
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			It'll be لا إله إلا الله سبحان الله
		
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			الله أكبر إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ Why
		
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			is that going to happen?
		
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			Because you're prepared.
		
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			You already knew that it was coming, so
		
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			you knew what to respond.
		
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			And this is one of the objectives of
		
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			the ayah that Allah Subh'anaHu Wa Ta
		
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			-A'la is telling us, you have to
		
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			be prepared for tests.
		
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			And as you prepare for them, you will
		
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			know how to respond.
		
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			And this applies to all things in life.
		
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			If you can assess and analyze all the
		
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			troubles and difficulties that you're going to face,
		
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			the better you are to respond to them.
		
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			You know, I was giving a leadership class
		
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			at Qalam yesterday.
		
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			And I was telling people that as you
		
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			go to give khutbah, there's always going to
		
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			be that one uncle that's waiting for you
		
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			before you get on the mumber.
		
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			And he's going to be like, بيتا, son,
		
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			I have some advice for you.
		
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			And he's going to be waiting for you
		
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			every week.
		
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			How do you navigate through that situation?
		
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			If you're not prepared, then you'll be like
		
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			in a hurry, you'll be rude to him,
		
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			you'll ruin the relationship.
		
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			He'll be upset at you, he'll file a
		
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			complaint against you.
		
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			And you know what?
		
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			He'll ruin his week, your week, and possibly
		
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			your delivery of the khutbah as well.
		
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			But if you know in advance that that
		
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			uncle is going to be there, you're going
		
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			to show up intentionally 20 minutes early.
		
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			And you'll be like, uncle, بسم الله, let
		
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			me treat you to some tea.
		
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			Let's go chill outside.
		
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			Give me all of the advice that you
		
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			want.
		
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			Let him speak till his heart is content.
		
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			Make dua for him.
		
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			Thank him.
		
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			جزاكم الله خيرا.
		
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			Let's go give the khutbah and I hope
		
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			you enjoy it inshaAllah.
		
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			He leaves happy, you leave happy.
		
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			And this was able to be done because
		
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			you were prepared, right?
		
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			So the more preparation you put in your
		
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			life in terms of assessing what are the
		
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			pitfalls I'm going to face?
		
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			What are the ways that shaitan can attack
		
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			me?
		
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			What are the possible relationship, you know, issues
		
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			that I can have?
		
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			The more you prepare, the more likely you'll
		
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			have a more appropriate response.
		
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			So these are two things that I want
		
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			us to take away inshaAllah that number one,
		
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			that as we go through trials and calamities
		
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			and other people experience similar things, let us
		
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			be more merciful, compassionate and empathetic towards them.
		
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			And then number two, what we learn from
		
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			this ayah is the importance of being prepared
		
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			and the importance of looking out for where
		
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			shaitan can attack us and we can have
		
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			pitfalls in our lives.
		
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			And the more we prepare and the better
		
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			response we can have.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant us
		
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			tawfiq, forgive us for our sins and shortcomings,
		
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			grant us patience during times of tests, grant
		
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			us gratitude and blessings and make us of
		
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			those that remember Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			frequently, Allahumma ameen.
		
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			As-salamu alaykum wa barakatu Muhammad wa ala
		
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			alihi wa sahbihi ajma'in.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khayran.
		
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			Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		
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			Assalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khayran.
		
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			Thank you very much and welcome to Valley
		
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			Ranch.
		
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			Welcome home.
		
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			InshaAllah.
		
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			Wa alaykumusallah.