Navaid Aziz – Heartbreak At The Time Of The Prophet S.A.W

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The concept of divorce and avoiding war is essential during the divorce process, as the woman must give a dowry to her husband in exchange for a parting gift. The sharia will be made during the divorce, and the woman must give a gift to her husband in exchange for a parting gift. The speakers also touch on the history of slavery and the importance of women in marriage, as well as the need for privacy and avoiding harmful behavior. The conversation touches on the issue of free gift programs and the importance of following strict rules.

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			We're going
		
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			to
		
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			continue with our series on story nights, and
		
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			I was looking for love stories from the
		
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			Sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And I was able to find two of
		
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			them.
		
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			One of them ends in a heartbreak, and
		
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			that's the one we're discussing tonight.
		
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			And that is the story of Barira and
		
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			Mughith.
		
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			And there's another one that actually has a
		
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			happy ending to it, which is the story
		
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			of Zaynab and Abu al-Asr.
		
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			And inshallah we're going to save that story
		
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			for our third story night, but Allah knows
		
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			best when that story night will actually be.
		
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			Why did I want to discuss the story
		
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			of heartbreak?
		
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			And if you remember from last week's halaqah,
		
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			the story of Ashab al-Ukhdud, it doesn't
		
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			end with a happy ending in what we
		
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			traditionally think of a happy ending.
		
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			They're burnt alive and they're dead, and that's
		
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			the end of the hadith as for the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			And it's very important for us as believers
		
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			to be reminded of that.
		
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			That not everything will have a happy ending
		
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			in this life.
		
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			There are certain times where you know what,
		
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			it's just heart pain and misery, heartbreak and
		
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			misery, and you have to get accustomed to
		
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			that.
		
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			But it has meaning, because Allah ﷻ is
		
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			forgiving your sins and raising your ranks and
		
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			writing down good deeds for you that you
		
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			will benefit from immensely in the hereafter.
		
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			So with that introduction, the story of Mughith
		
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			and Barira, it's mentioned in Sahih al-Bukhari
		
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			and Sahih Muslim.
		
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			Imam al-Bukhari, he mentions this story over
		
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			24 times inside Sahih al-Bukhari.
		
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			It's mentioned over 24 times in like 24
		
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			different places of Sahih al-Bukhari.
		
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			Al-Hafidh ibn Hajar, he extracted 120 different
		
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			lessons from this hadith, or from this story
		
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			rather.
		
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			And he mentions that there are certain scholars
		
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			who have compiled over 300 lessons from this
		
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			story.
		
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			So what is this story exactly?
		
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			There were two slaves at the time of
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			One was Barira ibn Safwan, and the other
		
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			one was Mughith.
		
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			And they got married to one another.
		
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			So one day, Barira, she had enough of
		
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			being a slave.
		
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			She said, you know what, I'm tired of
		
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			being a slave, I don't want to be
		
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			a slave anymore, and I want to negotiate
		
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			my way out.
		
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			So this is the first introduction, there's going
		
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			to be a lot of fiqh in tonight's
		
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			discussion by the way, so please be tentative
		
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			to that.
		
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			She says, you know what, I've had enough.
		
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			And this gives us an introduction as to
		
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			how slavery in Islam is very different to
		
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			the slavery that we know of the West.
		
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			Particularly in relation to colonialism.
		
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			So there is a concept known as mukataba.
		
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			Where a slave is allowed to go to
		
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			their slave master and tell them, I would
		
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			like to purchase my own freedom.
		
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			I would like to purchase my own freedom.
		
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			And then the slave can be set free,
		
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			and then has a debt that they have
		
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			to pay back to their masters at that
		
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			time.
		
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			So she does mukataba with her slave masters.
		
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			And they agree to the term of 9
		
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			basically payments, which was the equivalent of about
		
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			360 dirhams.
		
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			Meaning quite a big sum of money that
		
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			she has to pay.
		
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			So Barira, she had an existing relationship with
		
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			Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha in advance.
		
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			And they used to hang out together, they
		
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			used to talk with one another.
		
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			Barira used to help Aisha radiallahu ta'ala
		
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			anha around the house.
		
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			So when Barira comes to visit Aisha radiallahu
		
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			ta'ala anha, she tells her of the
		
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			news.
		
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			That, you know, I went to my masters
		
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			and we've agreed on the 9 awqiyah to
		
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			pay off my debt.
		
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			And, you know, I can't wait till I'm
		
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			finally free.
		
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			So Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha, she tells
		
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			Barira, you know what?
		
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			As a gesture of kindness, as a gesture
		
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			of our relationship and friendliness, and me wanting
		
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			to do something good for you.
		
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			Let me purchase your freedom for you.
		
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			So Barira is overjoyed, she's like Allahu akbar.
		
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			You know, this debt is going to be
		
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			paid off for me automatically.
		
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			So she goes back to her slave masters,
		
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			and she tells them that I would like
		
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			to purchase my freedom immediately.
		
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			Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha, she's going to
		
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			pay off my debt.
		
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			So the slave masters are perplexed.
		
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			And they're like, you know, should we let
		
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			her go, should we not let her go?
		
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			What is the confusion over here?
		
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			Had Barira purchased her own freedom, her allegiance
		
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			would have stayed with her slave masters.
		
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			However, when someone else frees you as a
		
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			slave, then your allegiance becomes to the one
		
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			that freed you.
		
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			What does that mean exactly?
		
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			So basically, this concept of allegiance post-emancipation
		
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			talks about who are you going to spend
		
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			time with, who are you going to help
		
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			out.
		
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			And if there's ever a situation where you
		
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			have a large amount of wealth that you
		
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			leave behind as inheritance, and you have no
		
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			one to inherit from you, then those people
		
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			that emancipated you would inherit from you in
		
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			that situation.
		
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			They would inherit from you in that situation.
		
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			So the slave masters, they go to Barira,
		
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			they said, we will set you free, we
		
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			don't have a problem with the price.
		
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			However, your allegiance will remain with us.
		
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			So Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha, she hears
		
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			of this, and she goes to the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			And she says, O Messenger of Allah, this
		
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			is what has happened.
		
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			What do you advise me with?
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ tells Aisha radiallahu ta
		
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			'ala anha, fulfill your agreement in freeing Barira.
		
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			However, the wala will be for you.
		
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			Her wala, her allegiance will be for you.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ at that time got onto
		
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			the mambar.
		
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			He praised Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, and
		
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			then he gave a very short sermon.
		
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			He said, what is wrong with people that
		
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			they stipulate conditions that are not stipulated by
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala?
		
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			By Allah, had they stipulated even a hundred
		
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			conditions, those conditions should not be honored, as
		
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			long as they're in contradiction to what Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala has said.
		
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			And basically, this was in response to that
		
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			you can't stipulate a condition that goes against
		
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			what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has dictated.
		
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			That the one that sets you free, they
		
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			have your allegiance.
		
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			So now, this khutbah becomes famous in all
		
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			of Medina.
		
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			She is freed, and her allegiance is for
		
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			Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha.
		
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			Now, as soon as she becomes free, she's
		
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			told of something.
		
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			Which is, when a female slave is freed,
		
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			and she is married to a male slave,
		
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			then she has a choice to make.
		
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			Which is, does she want to stay with
		
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			her slave husband, or does she want to
		
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			be set free?
		
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			And set free over here is not talaq,
		
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			it is not khula.
		
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			So talaq meaning the husband divorces the wife.
		
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			Khula means the wife returns some of her
		
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			mahr, and she is freed from the marriage.
		
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			This is fasq, it's an annulment of the
		
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			marriage, a dissolution of the marriage.
		
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			Where everyone goes back to as if they
		
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			were not married.
		
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			And at this time, Barira radiallahu ta'ala
		
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			anha, she has a child from Mughith.
		
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			So she thinks about it for a little
		
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			while, and she tells the Prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam, I would like to be freed from
		
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			Mughith.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam tells her,
		
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			the choice is yours, you are free from
		
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			Mughith.
		
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			Now as time goes on, and the next
		
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			instance we see, is that Mughith is chasing
		
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			Barira around the city of Medina.
		
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			Keep in mind, the city of Medina was
		
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			very very small.
		
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			The masjid that you see right now, Masjid
		
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			al-Nabwi, is bigger than all the city
		
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			of Medina at the time of the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
		
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			That's how small the city of Medina was.
		
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			So Mughith, he's now seen chasing Barira around
		
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			the city of Medina.
		
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			With tears in his eyes, shouting, Ya Barira
		
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			take me back, Ya Barira take me back.
		
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			Ya Barira, I still love you, why will
		
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			you not return my love, why will you
		
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			not reciprocate my love?
		
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			And in one of those incidents, the Prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam is with his uncle Abbas.
		
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			And he tells his uncle Abbas, Oh my
		
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			uncle, isn't it amazing how much Mughith loves
		
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			Barira?
		
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			And isn't it amazing how much Barira detests
		
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			Mughith?
		
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			Isn't it astonishing that we're seeing this?
		
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			Subhanallah.
		
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			And we don't get a response from his
		
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			uncle Abbas, he just acknowledges that.
		
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			Sometime later goes by, and his uncle Abbas
		
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			decides to intercede.
		
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			He's like, Oh messenger of Allah, we see
		
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			them running around in the city, it's very
		
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			degrading for Mughith to do this.
		
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			He's clearly in a lot of pain, why
		
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			don't you intercede with Barira?
		
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			And go and ask her that perhaps she
		
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			may take him back.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam summons Barira.
		
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			And he asks her, you know, Mughith is
		
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			such a nice man, he's obedient to Allah
		
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			s.w.t. He has all these good
		
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			characteristics, won't you take him back?
		
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			And Barira, she's not fazed at all.
		
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			Like most men and women in the presence
		
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			of the messenger of Allah sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
		
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			they're awestruck.
		
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			But Barira radiallahu ta'ala, she's not.
		
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			She says, Oh messenger of Allah, are you
		
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			commanding me?
		
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			Or are you merely interceding on his behalf?
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam says, I'm
		
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			merely interceding, this is not a command.
		
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			And in as stone cold as she can
		
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			be, she says, Oh messenger of Allah, I
		
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			have no need of him.
		
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			And then that was the end of that.
		
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			So now some time goes by, and someone
		
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			gave Barira some sadaqa of some meat.
		
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			Because she was emancipated and she was free.
		
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			And she wanted to do something nice for
		
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			Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha.
		
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			So she comes to the house of Aisha
		
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			radiallahu ta'ala anha, and they cook the
		
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			meat together.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he comes
		
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			in.
		
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			And you have to understand, it's very rare
		
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			that something is cooking in the house of
		
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			the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam asks, what
		
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			is it that we have?
		
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			And Aisha radiallahu anha says, that Barira was
		
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			given some sadaqa of some meat.
		
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			So we're making some soup out of it,
		
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			Ya Rasulallah.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam says, serve
		
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			me some.
		
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			So after it's done cooking, the Prophet sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam is sitting in his home.
		
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			And Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha, she brings
		
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			him a bowl of soup.
		
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			But there's no meat in the soup.
		
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			So the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam, he takes
		
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			a bite or a sip of the soup.
		
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			And he says, Aisha, where's the meat?
		
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			Like, you only gave me soup.
		
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			In his head, he's like, is this a
		
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			prank?
		
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			Is this a joke?
		
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			Like, we rarely get cooked food as it
		
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			is.
		
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			Give me some meat, now that we have
		
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			some meat.
		
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			So she says, Ya Rasulallah, this meat was
		
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			given to Barira as a sadaqa.
		
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			And I know that you don't eat sadaqa
		
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			meat.
		
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			And it's not allowed for you and the
		
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			family.
		
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			So I didn't want to give you that
		
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			meat, lest that I do something impermissible.
		
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			So he says, O Aisha, it was given
		
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			to Barira as a sadaqa.
		
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			But how did Barira give it to you?
		
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			She says, O Messenger of Allah, it was
		
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			given to me as a gift.
		
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			And he said, that is exactly the point.
		
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			That it was sadaqa for Barira, but it
		
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			is a gift for us.
		
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			It is a gift for us.
		
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			So serve me some meat with the soup.
		
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			And the Prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam ate from
		
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			that meat.
		
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			And this is the end of all of
		
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			the ahadith that we have about Barira and
		
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			Mughif.
		
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			We have other narrations that talk about Mughif
		
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			getting married later on, and Barira getting married
		
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			later on as well.
		
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			But those aren't corroborated for authenticity, so I'm
		
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			not mentioning them.
		
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			And they're not directly relevant to the story.
		
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			So now, as we did last week, what
		
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			are lessons that we can derive from this
		
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			story?
		
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			What are lessons that we can derive from
		
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			this story?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go for it.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			So you want to go straight to the
		
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			fiqh.
		
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			I love it.
		
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			So just because it's sadaqa for someone, it
		
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			doesn't mean it's sadaqa for everyone.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Determination.
		
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			Can you explain what you mean by that?
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			So Mughif is turned down.
		
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			He knows his wife doesn't want him, or
		
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			his ex-wife doesn't want him anymore.
		
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			But he doesn't give up.
		
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			He still tries to win her back.
		
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			Determination.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Abu Bakr.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Don't?
		
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			Don't free your wife.
		
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			La ilaha illallah.
		
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			This is exactly why this hadith exists.
		
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			Because the man didn't have the right to
		
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			free her in the first place.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ gave the choice to her.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			I'm glad we're going to discuss this as
		
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			well.
		
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			What lessons do we derive from this?
		
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			Anything from the sisters that sticks out?
		
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			No?
		
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			No lessons from the sisters?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			Beautiful.
		
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			And we're going to discuss this in detail
		
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			as well.
		
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			So if the husband does not want the
		
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			wife, and the wife does not want the
		
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			husband on valid grounds, there is no Islamic
		
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			concept of let us stay together for the
		
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			kids.
		
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			There is no Islamic concept of let us
		
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			stay together for the kids.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So I can see we're attracted to the
		
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			fiqh over here.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			So the brother is pointing out the obvious
		
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			that the Prophet ﷺ did not command her
		
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			to go back.
		
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			And we know that divorce or separation of
		
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			the family is one of the most disliked
		
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			things in Islam.
		
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			So perhaps there is a wisdom behind that.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			And we'll explore that together.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			So when a relationship is unhealthy, it's better
		
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			to go your separate ways.
		
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			But is there anything to indicate that the
		
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			relationship was unhealthy?
		
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			That's something we need to explore.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			The value of a woman's rights in Islam.
		
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			Allahu Akbar.
		
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			I love it.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			So are you talking about the wife converted
		
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			and the husband didn't convert?
		
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			Or a Muslim woman marrying a non-Muslim
		
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			man?
		
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			La ilaha illallah.
		
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			La ilaha illallah.
		
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			This is a very far-fetched qiyas, but
		
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			I'm going to comment on this.
		
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			So Islamically speaking, there is a concept of
		
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			kafaa.
		
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			There is a concept of kafaa, which is
		
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			equivalency or similarity or compatibility.
		
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			You can translate it in various ways.
		
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			And what the sister is mentioning is that
		
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			there are certain elements of kafaa for the
		
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			woman.
		
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			And this is what we see in the
		
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			hadith of Barira.
		
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			That the man should be at that level
		
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			or above.
		
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			But he shouldn't be below.
		
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			He shouldn't be below.
		
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			So the fact that Barira was freed, this
		
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			shows us that this concept of kafaa exists.
		
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			And scholars comment on this and we'll discuss
		
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			this in detail.
		
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			But what I want to comment on is
		
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			the sister mentioning Muslim women marrying non-Muslim
		
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			men.
		
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			This is something that is not allowed in
		
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			Islam.
		
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			Muslim women are not allowed to marry non
		
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			-Muslim men.
		
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			For Muslim men, they are allowed to marry
		
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			Kitabiyat.
		
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			They are allowed to marry Kitabiyat as long
		
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			as they have adherence to their religion and
		
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			they are chaste.
		
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			But that's outside the scope of our discussion.
		
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			So this concept of kafaa is a real
		
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			one and inshaAllah we'll discuss this in some
		
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			detail.
		
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			Any other comments from the sisters?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So talking about conditions.
		
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			So any conditions that go against the rules
		
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			of Allah SWT or the spirit of what
		
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			Allah SWT wants in the contract cannot be
		
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			accepted.
		
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			And we'll discuss this in detail as well.
		
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			So let's start off with this.
		
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			The first thing we want to discuss is
		
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			the comparison and contrast between colonialist slavery and
		
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			slavery in Islam.
		
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			And I think there's a big discussion that
		
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			needs to take place over here.
		
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			So the first thing I'll mention is that
		
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			there's two very good books on this topic.
		
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			One by Shaykh Hatem Al-Hajj and number
		
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			two by Dr. Jonathan Brown.
		
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			Both of them are very recent in the
		
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			past few years.
		
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			And they do a good job of discussing
		
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			slavery from an Islamic perspective as well as
		
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			slavery from a colonialist perspective.
		
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			And what we want to highlight over here
		
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			is in colonialist slavery you are basically owned,
		
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			you will be abused, and you will have
		
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			no rights.
		
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			Whereas the concept of servanthood in Islam is
		
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			very very different.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ commanded the Muslims feed them
		
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			just as you feed yourself.
		
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			Clothe them just as you clothe yourself.
		
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			Give them shelter just as you give shelter
		
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			to yourself.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So there's a level of respect, a level
		
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			of dignity that needs to be retained.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ forbade abusing them.
		
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			That you're not allowed to physically abuse them
		
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			or physically hit them or any of that.
		
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			And here we also see that this is
		
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			perhaps one of the most unique concepts is
		
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			that within Islam if a person was a
		
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			servant or a slave, they have the rights
		
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			to purchase their own freedom.
		
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			They don't have to wait for someone else
		
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			to free them.
		
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			So if a servant wants out and they
		
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			want to go and work and try to
		
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			make their own living, they're completely allowed to
		
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			do this.
		
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			And no one can stop them.
		
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			And Allah ﷻ mentions this in Surah An
		
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			-Nur.
		
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			So this is the first thing that we
		
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			see.
		
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			Number two is that we see that the...
		
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			When Bareera radhiAllahu ta'ala anha, she comes
		
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			to Aisha radhiAllahu ta'ala anha sharing the
		
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			news that you know what, I finally agreed
		
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			to my freedom.
		
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			Aisha radhiAllahu ta'ala anha, she becomes immensely
		
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			happy.
		
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			She becomes immensely happy.
		
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			And that one of itself is a big
		
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			point to notice.
		
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			And I'll mention two points here together as
		
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			point number two.
		
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			So 2A is one of the roles of
		
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			friendship is that you share in the happiness
		
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			of your friends.
		
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			You also share in their misery, right?
		
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			So when your friend shares their happiness with
		
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			you, it is twice the happiness.
		
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			When your friend shares their misery with you,
		
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			it is half the misery.
		
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			And that is something you have to understand
		
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			that the role of a friend is exactly
		
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			that.
		
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			That you have to celebrate their wins and
		
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			make their losses more palatable.
		
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			You have to try your best to make,
		
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			you know, the suffering and pain that they
		
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			experience as minimal as possible.
		
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			Which leads us to point 2A.
		
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			You want to live your life in such
		
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			a way that you do things for people
		
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			that they can never pay you back for.
		
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			You want to live your life in such
		
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			a way that you do things for people
		
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			that they can never pay you back for.
		
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			How can you repay someone that has emancipated
		
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			you?
		
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			You can't.
		
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			There's literally nothing that you can do for
		
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			this person except somehow, someway, you find them
		
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			in a similar situation and then you reciprocate
		
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			it for them.
		
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			But other than that, there's no way that
		
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			you can repay them.
		
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			And I think this is a beautiful way
		
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			to live your life.
		
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			Why?
		
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			At the end of the day, we're all
		
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			hoping for the mercy of Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala.
		
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			None of us will enter Jannah except to
		
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			the mercy of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			And these deeds that we do, that are
		
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			grand dose in nature, these are the things
		
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			that will help us earn the mercy of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Number 2, is that these are also the
		
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			deeds that will determine our ranks in the
		
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			hereafter.
		
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			You enter Jannah by the mercy of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala, but your rank is
		
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			determined by the deeds that you used to
		
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			do.
		
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			The better the deeds that you have, the
		
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			quality of the deeds, the more frequent your
		
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			deeds, the greater the number of your deeds,
		
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			this is what will determine your rank in
		
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			the hereafter.
		
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			And we see this in Aisha radiallahu ta
		
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			'ala anha.
		
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			We also see from Aisha radiallahu ta'ala
		
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			anha, fiqh.
		
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			That Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha, she hears
		
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			this amazing news, and she says, how can
		
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			I mince out on this amazing opportunity of
		
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			doing good?
		
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			That you hear good news, celebrate by doing
		
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			ibadah of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			You finish Ramadan, you celebrate by praying Salatul
		
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			Eid.
		
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			You finish Hajj, you celebrate by praying Salatul
		
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			Eid.
		
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			These are all celebrations of the worship of
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			So when good deeds are done, they're meant
		
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			to be celebrated.
		
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			And Aisha radiallahu ta'ala anha teaches us
		
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			this.
		
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			That not only when an opportunity for good
		
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			presents itself, should you take advantage of it,
		
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			but number two, when ibadah of Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala is done, we celebrate that
		
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			ibadah.
		
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			We celebrate that ibadah.
		
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			Now going back, I'm gonna going back to
		
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			point number one, I apologize.
		
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			Because one thing I forgot, with regards to
		
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			emancipation, is that one of the ways that
		
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			Islam tried to abolish slavery, is by raising
		
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			the rank of the individual that freed a
		
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			slave.
		
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			And number two, stipulating certain kaffarat, meaning certain
		
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			expiation of sins, that in order to be
		
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			forgiven for those sins, you have to free
		
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			a slave if you're able to.
		
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			So for example, a man that is intimate
		
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			physically with his wife during the daytime of
		
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			Ramadan, the first thing that they should try
		
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			to do, is to free a slave.
		
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			If they're not able to, then fast for
		
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			60 days.
		
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			If they're not able to, then feed 60
		
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			poor people.
		
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			And to feed 60 poor people.
		
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			So this shows us that Islam made an
		
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			effort to abolish slavery, by affiliating it with
		
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			the kaffarat as well.
		
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			So that's one, relationship between slavery and colonialism
		
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			in Islam.
		
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			Then number two, what Aisha radiallahu ta'ala
		
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			anha did with regards to friendship, ibadah, and
		
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			not missing out opportunities of khair.
		
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			Which brings us to point number three.
		
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			Which is with regards to the Prophet shallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam, educating the masses.
		
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			So when the Prophet shallallahu alaihi wasallam heard
		
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			that the owners had stipulated that the wala
		
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			would remain for them, even though they are
		
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			no longer the emancipators, the Prophet shallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam went, and he got onto the mambar.
		
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			And he said, what is wrong with people?
		
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			So he assumed over here, that people should
		
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			know the conditions that Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala has stipulated.
		
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			Meaning that many slaves have been free, this
		
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			is not new to them.
		
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			So he's assuming that these people knew about
		
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			these conditions, and they're going against these conditions.
		
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			But notice what the Prophet shallallahu alaihi wasallam
		
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			did.
		
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			He never mentioned their names.
		
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			He never mentioned, oh owners of barira, how
		
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			evil you are.
		
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			You're stipulating conditions that Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala has stipulated against, or in contrary to
		
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			what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has legislated.
		
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			So the Prophet shallallahu alaihi wasallam used to
		
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			educate with wisdom.
		
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			Yes, at times he would get angry, and
		
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			he would get infuriated with the people when
		
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			they would do things that were wrong.
		
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			But he would never publicly shame or humiliate
		
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			anyone.
		
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			And this is one of the greatest lessons
		
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			that we learn from the Prophet shallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam.
		
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			Educate people.
		
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			Teach them.
		
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			Correct them.
		
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			But also win their hearts at the same
		
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			time.
		
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			Also win their hearts at the same time.
		
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			Meaning that don't do anything to damage their
		
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			relationship with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Or their relationship with the deen of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Because their hearts are very very sensitive.
		
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			And you'll notice a lot of people in
		
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			our day and age, they grow up with
		
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			religious trauma.
		
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			So their Quran teacher used to beat them
		
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			as a kid.
		
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			Or perhaps they had an Islamic school teacher
		
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			that you know what, used to get very
		
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			very angry at them at Sunday school.
		
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			And as they grow older, their natural emotional
		
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			affiliation with the deen is a very negative
		
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			one.
		
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			Now this doesn't justify the actions that they
		
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			do.
		
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			But we're trying to understand the impact of
		
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			a religious figure, and what it can have
		
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			on a person's religious affiliation with their deen.
		
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			So this teaches us a very valuable lesson
		
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			that as parents, as people who have authority
		
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			over people, whether in a masjid or in
		
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			a school, you want to make sure that
		
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			you're not deterring people away from the deen
		
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			of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala when there
		
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			are clearly other alternatives.
		
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			Educate without shaming.
		
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			Teach without humiliating.
		
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			And this is the way the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			did it.
		
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			Number two, under three, so you can say
		
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			three B, the Prophet ﷺ, he always taught
		
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			the people what they needed to know.
		
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			And he never delayed in it.
		
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			And this establishes a very important usulul fiqh
		
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			principle.
		
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			لا يجوز تأخير البيان في وقت الحاجة That
		
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			when a situation arises, it needs to be
		
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			addressed immediately.
		
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			It can't be delayed till later.
		
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			So if someone does something wrong, it needs
		
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			to be addressed immediately, and it can't be
		
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			addressed later on.
		
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			So here the Prophet ﷺ teaches us the
		
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			role of the religious figure is to correct
		
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			people and to educate them.
		
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			And people needed to know this very important
		
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			lesson.
		
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			That when conditions are stipulated by Allah ﷻ,
		
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			and there's a spirit to the contract, you
		
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			have to abide by that contract.
		
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			So let us start off with an example.
		
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			Imagine you go to a car rental company.
		
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			You go to a car rental company, and
		
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			you say, I would like to rent the
		
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			car from you.
		
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			And they say, we will rent you the
		
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			car, but on the condition you can't drive
		
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			it.
		
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			Now based upon what we've learnt, would this
		
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			condition be allowed Islamically, yes or no?
		
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			Who has an answer for me?
		
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			Raise your hand and give me an answer.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			It wouldn't be allowed.
		
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			Why wouldn't it be allowed?
		
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			Renting the car.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Ahsan, that's exactly what we're looking for.
		
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			So the spirit behind the rental of the
		
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			car is to use its utility.
		
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			What is the utility of the car?
		
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			To drive it around.
		
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			So this sort of condition would not be
		
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			allowed.
		
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			Now let me give you a second example.
		
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			You go back to the car rental company,
		
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			and you say, I would like to rent
		
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			your car.
		
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			But they stipulate, you're not allowed using it
		
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			for commercial purposes.
		
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			You can't use it as a taxi, you
		
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			can't use it as an Uber.
		
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			Is this condition allowed?
		
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			What do you think?
		
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			We have a yes from the sisters.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go for it.
		
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			Why is this condition allowed?
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			And that's correct.
		
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			So you're still allowed to use the utility
		
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			of the car, and the stipulation does not
		
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			go against the spirit of the contract.
		
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			Right?
		
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			It doesn't go against the spirit of the
		
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			contract.
		
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			If anything, they're trying to prevent abuse of
		
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			the car.
		
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			So they don't want you picking up random
		
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			people that may throw up in the car,
		
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			or leave dust and dirt in the car,
		
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			or they don't want you to accumulate more
		
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			mileage that would normally take place on the
		
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			car.
		
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			So this sort of stipulation would be allowed.
		
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			Now, let me get to the most controversial
		
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			one.
		
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			Husband and wife are getting married.
		
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			The wife stipulates in the marriage contract that
		
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			I don't want my husband doing nikah with
		
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			the second wife.
		
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			Is she allowed to stipulate this contract?
		
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			No?
		
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			She's not allowed?
		
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			Why is she not allowed?
		
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			Because Allah gave you four.
		
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			لا إله إلا الله Some of us are
		
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			struggling to find one.
		
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			So, can you expand on your argument a
		
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			little bit more?
		
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			You can marry up to four.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			You're denying.
		
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			Right.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			I'm going to come back to you inshallah.
		
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			Sheikh, you had your hand up.
		
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			Sorry, so start over.
		
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			You're saying, no, it's not allowed?
		
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			She's not allowed to do that.
		
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			And why?
		
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			أرجال قومون على النساء Okay.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			She can have a preference, but she's not
		
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			allowed to do that.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			بسم الله She's a hundred percent allowed.
		
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			الله أكبر Why is she allowed to do
		
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			so?
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So we have three perspectives from the brothers.
		
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			Let's get three perspectives from the sisters.
		
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			بسم الله.
		
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			Number one.
		
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			She is allowed.
		
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			Sorry, brothers.
		
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			The sisters were very respectful when you spoke.
		
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			We want to give them the same respect
		
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			inshallah.
		
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			Please repeat.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So Allah سبحانه وتعالى made تعدد مباح.
		
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			He didn't make it واجب.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Very good.
		
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			Second sister, go ahead.
		
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			Exactly what you were going to say.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So she's not preventing him from anything obligatory.
		
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			She's only preventing him from something that is
		
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			allowed.
		
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			Do you have something further to add?
		
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			أحسنت.
		
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			Good.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			Okay.
		
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			So it doesn't go against the spirit of
		
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			the contract because the contract is between the
		
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			husband and the wife.
		
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			So now, let's look at some of the
		
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			things that were mentioned.
		
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			So the first thing that was mentioned was
		
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			that Allah سبحانه وتعالى has given us the
		
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			right to do so.
		
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			And therefore, she's not allowed to take that
		
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			right away.
		
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			And I'm really glad that was mentioned.
		
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			Because just like Allah سبحانه وتعالى has allowed
		
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			a man to do nikah with up to
		
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			four women.
		
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			He also says, وَأَحَلَّ اللَّهُ الْبِيَعَ وَهَرَّمَ الْرِبَى.
		
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			So if we go back to the previous
		
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			example where when you rent a car, they're
		
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			allowed to prevent you from doing commercial transactions.
		
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			Then similarly, a wife has the right of
		
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			refusal to stipulate that a man is not
		
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			allowed to take more than one nikah.
		
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			The second point was, الرِّجَالُ قَوَامُونَ عَلَى النِّسَانِ.
		
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			And this ayah is in particular to the
		
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			husband over the wife.
		
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			And the nikah contract is even before that
		
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			takes place.
		
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			So prior to that, she's allowed to stipulate
		
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			any conditions that don't go against the spirit
		
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			of the law or don't go against something
		
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			prohibited in Islam or basically prohibited something in
		
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			Islam.
		
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			With the young kids, can I just ask
		
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			for a favor, inshallah?
		
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			We have the youth center next door.
		
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			I think you can still hear from it
		
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			over there as well.
		
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			Can we kindly take them over there?
		
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			Just so that it's not a distraction for
		
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			myself and for everyone else here.
		
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			Only for those that, you know, are making
		
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			noise.
		
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			But if it's for a short period of
		
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			time, take them, and then you're welcome to
		
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			come back.
		
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			So that was number two.
		
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			With regards to how do we respond to
		
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			that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala made it
		
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			halal?
		
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			How can you make haram something that Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala has made halal?
		
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			And this is the point.
		
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			We're not making it haram.
		
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			Whereas the man always has the choice to
		
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			refuse.
		
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			She stipulates this condition.
		
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			It's before the nikah takes place.
		
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			The man has the right to refuse it
		
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			or to accept it.
		
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			If he accepts it, then he has to
		
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			abide by it.
		
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			Now here's the important thing to understand.
		
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			If the man agrees to this condition and
		
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			he breaks this condition, what actually happens?
		
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			Are they automatically divorced?
		
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			No, that's not what happens.
		
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			Basically now the wife has grounds for divorce
		
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			at that time.
		
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			She has grounds for divorce at that time.
		
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			And this is an understanding that any woman
		
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			that seeks divorce from her husband without any
		
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			reason will not smell the fragrance of Jannah.
		
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			Will not smell the fragrance of Jannah.
		
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			However, if the husband does something to violate
		
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			the contract of the nikah, then she has
		
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			every right to seek that divorce.
		
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			She has every right to seek that divorce.
		
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			So this is where, you know, a hadith
		
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			like this come very, very beneficial.
		
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			That especially even though we're talking about love
		
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			and heartbreak, now we're going into chapters of
		
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			fiqh.
		
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			Now we're going to chapters of fiqh.
		
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			Which brings us to, and I know a
		
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			lot of people have questions, let's save them
		
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			for the end.
		
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			I'll answer your questions as long as they're
		
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			there inshaAllah.
		
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			Which brings us to point number four now.
		
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			To point number four.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ gives this khutbah, barira is
		
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			free, Aisha has paid her debt off, and
		
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			everything is hunky-dory as they say.
		
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			But now, barira radiallahu ta'ala she's given
		
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			a choice.
		
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			And that choice is, would you like to
		
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			be separated from your husband based on fasq?
		
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			And this is where we'll do some very
		
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			quick fiqh of divorce and separation.
		
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			There are three types of divorces.
		
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			And I'm using the language of divorce in
		
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			the English sense, not to equate it with
		
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			talaq.
		
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			I just mean separating the husband from the
		
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			wife.
		
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			So we have talaq, we have khula, and
		
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			we have fasq.
		
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			Let's look at these three.
		
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			Talaq is the right of the man.
		
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			The man is the one that issues the
		
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			talaq.
		
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			When this happens, there's a sunnah way of
		
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			issuing the talaq.
		
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			Which is that they should advise one another,
		
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			they should separate from the beds, they should
		
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			get intermediaries and arbitrators involved, the man should
		
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			not divorce the woman while she's on her
		
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			menstrual cycle, and the husband and wife should
		
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			not be physically intimate in the past month
		
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			before the divorce is issued.
		
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			They should not be physically intimate in the
		
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			last month before the divorce is issued.
		
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			This is how divorce is done according to
		
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			the sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ.
		
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			Now, he issues the divorce once, and then
		
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			they wait the iddah period.
		
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			The iddah period is three menstrual cycles and
		
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			purifications.
		
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			Once three menstrual cycles and purifications are completed,
		
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			the nikah contract is done.
		
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			The nikah contract is done.
		
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			Now, what is meant to happen during this
		
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			time, because he's only issued one talaq, is
		
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			that the wife is encouraged to stay in
		
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			the man of the house so that they
		
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			can reconcile.
		
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			And they should try everything possible to reconcile.
		
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			If they choose not to at the end
		
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			of it, then the wife is free.
		
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			Now, what is the wife owed at this
		
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			time?
		
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			If she has a dowry that is still
		
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			withstanding, that dowry is now owed to her.
		
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			If the dowry has been paid off, there's
		
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			nothing that's owed to the wife.
		
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			The Qur'an teaches us that when the
		
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			husband divorces the wife, he should give her
		
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			a mat'a, meaning a parting gift.
		
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			And this parting gift is just to make
		
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			sure that there's no hard feelings in the
		
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			heart from the wife towards the husband, and
		
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			they end off the relationship on good terms
		
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			without animosity.
		
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			So just like she came into the wedding
		
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			receiving a gift, she leaves from the wedding
		
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			receiving a gift without any hatred or animosity.
		
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			And this saves the people's feelings.
		
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			It saves the society from disaster and calamity.
		
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			It shows the children that the parents can
		
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			be civil, even though they may no longer
		
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			be a right fit for one another.
		
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			But most importantly, you're doing things the correct
		
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			way.
		
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			You're doing things the correct way.
		
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			As a result of this, should they choose
		
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			to get married again in the future, they
		
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			are allowed to get remarried two more times.
		
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			They are allowed to get married two more
		
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			times.
		
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			Which leads us to number two, which is
		
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			the khula.
		
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			Which is from the wife to the husband.
		
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			Now this should have some sort of shari
		
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			'i reason behind it.
		
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			From the sunnah of the Prophet ﷺ, we
		
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			see that a woman was granted khula by
		
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			the Prophet ﷺ because she no longer found
		
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			her husband attractive.
		
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			And that was the reason.
		
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			No, he was abusive.
		
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			No, he didn't pay me my money.
		
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			Ya Rasulullah, I just don't find him attractive
		
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			anymore.
		
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			And I feel that if I stay with
		
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			him, I will not be able to fulfill
		
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			his rights.
		
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			So the Prophet ﷺ granted her khula.
		
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			So what does khula mean?
		
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			Khula is a request made by the woman
		
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			to the husband himself in exchange that she
		
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			foregoes the dowry and returns the dowry in
		
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			its totality or in partiality, whatever they agree
		
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			to.
		
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			There is a difference of opinion.
		
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			Is her iddah one menstrual cycle or three
		
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			menstrual cycles?
		
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			We're not going to get into that right
		
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			now.
		
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			But after the khula is done, this would
		
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			count as the equivalent of one talaq.
		
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			This would count as the equivalent of one
		
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			talaq.
		
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			And they can get remarried again in the
		
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			future.
		
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			Which brings us to scenario number three, which
		
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			is the dissolvement of the marriage.
		
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			And this is what happened with Barira radiallahu
		
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			ta'ala anha.
		
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			That she was a slave, her husband was
		
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			a slave.
		
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			She became emancipated.
		
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			And the husband is no longer at his
		
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			level of kafaa of the woman.
		
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			Right?
		
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			He's actually below her in authority, if you
		
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			want to call it that.
		
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			And therefore, Islam gives the woman the choice
		
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			to dissolve the marriage.
		
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			And what this means is, every party goes
		
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			back to what they were before they came
		
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			into this relationship.
		
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			Any gifts that were given, any dowries that
		
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			were given, all of that was given.
		
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			They go their separate ways.
		
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			And it was as if this marriage never
		
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			took place.
		
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			Another example of this that could take place
		
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			for fusk, is if you get married to
		
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			someone that you're not allowed to get married
		
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			to.
		
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			So for example, a woman breastfeeds multiple children.
		
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			Some of those children may actually be her
		
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			direct biological children.
		
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			And some of them may be her sister's
		
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			children or her brother's children.
		
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			And she does that just for the sake
		
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			of fostering them.
		
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			So in this situation, two children that have
		
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			been breastfed by the same woman, over five
		
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			times, they now become brother and sister.
		
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			Islamically, they're not allowed to marry one another.
		
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			So let's just say they got married because
		
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			they didn't know that they were foster siblings.
		
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			If they find out, there's a fusk that
		
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			takes place and they are separated.
		
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			So that would be the example of a
		
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			modern day fusk.
		
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			So this is just a quick recap of
		
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			the fiqh of separation in marriage and how
		
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			it takes place.
		
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			So now, to go further into detail, over
		
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			here, this right of separation is exclusively for
		
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			the woman.
		
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			If the man became free, he would not
		
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			be given this choice.
		
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			His alternative would be to go for talaq.
		
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			So now, this incident takes place and now
		
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			we get to point number five.
		
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			Sometimes the sharia will take place and you
		
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			will find it very painful and hurtful.
		
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			There are certain things that the sharia will
		
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			allow and you will find it very painful
		
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			and very hurtful.
		
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			And that is the reality of life.
		
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			You have to deal with it.
		
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			But how do you actually deal with it?
		
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			What does Islam mean?
		
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			Who can tell me?
		
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			What does the word Islam actually mean?
		
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			It means to submit to Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala.
		
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			And if you understand that Islam means submission,
		
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			it's not just to Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala, it's to the rules and regulations that
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has legislated.
		
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			So for example, a woman may question, you
		
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			know, why does the man have the right
		
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			to divorce?
		
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			Why does the man have the right to
		
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			do ta'dud, to do nikah with multiple women?
		
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			And I'm intentionally using the term nikah and
		
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			not marriage.
		
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			Right?
		
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			Why are these things allowed?
		
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			The sharia has allowed these things.
		
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			And yes, we may not accept them without
		
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			pain.
		
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			But the key is, submit to Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala and everything else becomes acceptable
		
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			and easier to accept.
		
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			But if you don't submit to Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala and you try to logically
		
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			and emotionally understand these things, you'll never be
		
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			able to do so.
		
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			Because you will be emotionally blinded.
		
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			And this is why it is imperative that
		
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			you submit to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			first, before you question.
		
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			If you question before submission, this leads to
		
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			bigger problems.
		
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			This leads to bigger problems.
		
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			And this is exactly what happened to Mughith.
		
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			Like from what we know in the story,
		
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			Mughith radiallahu ta'ala anhu did nothing wrong.
		
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			He was not abusive towards his wife.
		
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			It wasn't that he was falling short with
		
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			regards to his duties or responsibilities.
		
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			But this is a choice that she is
		
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			given because she was accepted in regards to
		
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			taking care of his slave master or taking
		
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			care of his wife.
		
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			And thus she has the choice to be
		
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			freed at that time.
		
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			Now did Mughith contest that saying, no, how
		
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			could the sharia allow that?
		
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			I didn't do anything wrong.
		
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			I am innocent in this.
		
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			I am the victim.
		
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			He didn't do any of that.
		
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			He accepted that fact and he tried to
		
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			win Barira over.
		
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			He tried to win Barira over.
		
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			Which leads us to point number six.
		
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			How does the community deal with community drama?
		
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			Nowhere in this story do you see the
		
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			community gossiping.
		
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			Nowhere did you see that one sahabi said
		
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			to another, oh did you hear the latest
		
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			gossip?
		
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			Mughith was separated from Barira.
		
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			And oh my god, let's talk and discuss
		
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			this over.
		
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			No, no one did that.
		
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			And that is the way the believers are
		
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			meant to be.
		
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			Something happened, you make dua for them.
		
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			May Allah help them, may Allah make things
		
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			easy for them.
		
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			May Allah rectify their affairs, may Allah reconcile
		
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			them.
		
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			If there is room for reconciliation.
		
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			That is the way we respond to incidents
		
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			in our community.
		
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			And this is exactly what the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			does in point number seven.
		
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			Is that if people are having their issues,
		
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			don't intervene unless you are in a position
		
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			to help them reconcile.
		
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			Don't intervene unless you are in a position
		
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			to help them reconcile.
		
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			And this is where we have to emphasize
		
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			this point.
		
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			Reconciliation is one of the most beloved things
		
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			in the deen of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala.
		
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			How do we know this?
		
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			From two ways.
		
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			Number one, is that lying is allowed for
		
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			the sake of helping reconcile people.
		
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			Lying is prohibited in almost all other cases.
		
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			But in reconciling people, you are allowed to
		
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			lie.
		
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			Number two, the fact that shaitan celebrates the
		
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			qareer that separates a husband and a wife.
		
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			Shaitan, iblis, sits on his throne and he
		
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			hears all the other shayateen about all of
		
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			the bad sins that they've done.
		
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			Someone encouraged someone to steal, someone encouraged someone
		
00:46:06 --> 00:46:07
			to murder.
		
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			He doesn't celebrate those people.
		
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			The qareer that was able to separate a
		
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			husband and wife, he is the one that
		
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			shaitan celebrates.
		
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			He is the one that shaitan celebrates.
		
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			So the fact that you're doing something that
		
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			shaitan hates and celebrates, then this way you
		
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			know that you're doing something that is beloved
		
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			to Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			So this is how we know that reconciliation
		
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			is a great act.
		
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			And that is why the Prophet ﷺ, he
		
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			made that effort.
		
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			He made that effort.
		
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			And this is where we come to point
		
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			number eight.
		
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			Where every person needs to know their position.
		
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			That yes, you may have a position of
		
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			authority, but you can't impose yourself.
		
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			He is Rasulullah.
		
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			He is the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
		
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			There is no greater man that has walked
		
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			the earth other than him.
		
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			He could have simply said, as the Messenger
		
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			of Allah, I'm asking you to take him
		
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			back.
		
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			And this is where you see the importance
		
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			of knowledge.
		
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			Bareera radiallahu ta'ala anha, even though she
		
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			may have been a servant, she had the
		
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			knowledge of the deen and perhaps, we can
		
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			defer from this, her relationship with Aisha radiallahu
		
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			ta'ala anha led to this.
		
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			You hang around with knowledgeable people, you will
		
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			become knowledgeable.
		
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			You hang around with idiots, you're gonna be
		
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			an idiot.
		
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			That is what ends up happening.
		
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			So here we see Bareera radiallahu ta'ala
		
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			anha, because of her knowledge, she's able to
		
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			ask a very polite and straightforward question.
		
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			Ya Rasulullah, are you commanding me to do
		
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			this or are you interceding?
		
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			And now the Prophet ﷺ has to answer
		
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			the question.
		
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			He says, I'm merely interceding.
		
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			I can't command you to do this.
		
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			It's not my position to do so.
		
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			It's not my position to do so.
		
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			So once she hears this because of her
		
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			knowledge, she knows that I'm allowed to reject
		
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			this proposition from the Messenger of Allah even
		
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			though he is the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			Even though he is the Messenger of Allah.
		
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			Which goes to a bigger principle that anything
		
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			that comes from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ
		
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			with regards to the deen, has to be
		
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			accepted.
		
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			We have no choice except to accept it
		
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			from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ.
		
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			But when it comes to the matters of
		
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			the dunya, we base it upon masalih and
		
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			mafasith.
		
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			Another example of this, the Prophet ﷺ told
		
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			the date farmers how to farm their dates.
		
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			The following year the Prophet ﷺ asked, how
		
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			did your harvest come?
		
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			And he said, Ya Rasulullah, our harvest was
		
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			ruined.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ said, anthum adra bi dunyakum.
		
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			That you are more knowledgeable of your dunya.
		
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			That do that which is best for your
		
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			dunya.
		
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			You know, seek the knowledge that you need
		
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			for it.
		
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			So that is how the Prophet ﷺ established
		
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			his rule knowing that he can't impose.
		
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			And this is an important thing as well.
		
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			Every person needs to know their rule.
		
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			Every person needs to know their rule.
		
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			Which brings us to point number nine now.
		
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			How did the Prophet ﷺ deal with Mughif?
		
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			And I think this is an important point
		
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			over here.
		
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			Where we don't actually see any interaction.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ didn't go to him and
		
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			say, Ya Mughif, man up.
		
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			Don't cry.
		
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			Why are you crying?
		
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			He didn't do that.
		
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			He didn't tell him, stop loving Barira.
		
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			She doesn't love you.
		
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			Because Mughif can't control that.
		
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			Nor did the Prophet ﷺ say, stop chasing
		
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			her.
		
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			Every man has a right to, you know,
		
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			receive the love that he wants to receive.
		
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			But the greater lesson over here, and this
		
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			is where we'll have a bit of a
		
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			discussion.
		
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			In an ideal world, the people that we
		
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			love, will love us back.
		
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			The reality is, love will not always be
		
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			reciprocated.
		
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			Love will not always be reciprocated.
		
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			This can be between a parent and their
		
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			child.
		
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			Both ways.
		
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			A child can love a parent, and the
		
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			child may not love the parent back.
		
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			Or it could also be from the child,
		
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			loving the parent, but the parent doesn't love
		
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			the child.
		
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			It is a reality.
		
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			It could happen between spouses.
		
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			The wife loves the husband, the husband doesn't
		
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			love the wife.
		
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			Husband loves the wife, wife doesn't love the
		
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			husband.
		
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			It could happen between siblings.
		
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			It could happen between friends.
		
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			It could happen between everyone.
		
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			And that is the reality of this dunya,
		
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			that you will be tested, even in your
		
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			emotions.
		
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			وَلَا نَبْلُؤَنَّكُمْ بِشَيْءٍ مِّنَ الْخَوْفِ وَالْجُوعِ وَنَخْسٍ مِّنَ
		
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			الْأَمْوَالِ وَالْأَنفُسِ وَالثَّمَرَاتِ وَبَشِيرَ الصَّابِرِ That you will
		
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			surely be tested, you will surely be tested,
		
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			out of fear, out of hunger, in your
		
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			wealth, and even in your own self, give
		
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			glad tidings to the patient.
		
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			So you have to expect this.
		
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			And subhanAllah, one of the most difficult things
		
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			that an individual can go through is heartbreak.
		
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			And again, when love is not reciprocated, when
		
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			love is not reciprocated.
		
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			On this point of love, it's very important
		
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			to understand one point.
		
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			When you transgress the boundaries of love, that
		
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			which becomes an impediment between you and Allah,
		
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			Allah uses as a form of punishment against
		
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			you.
		
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			What does that mean?
		
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			If you love someone more than you're meant
		
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			to love them, more than you're allowed to
		
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			love them, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will
		
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			use that exact same thing to punish you.
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will use that
		
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			exact same thing to punish you.
		
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			Simplest example.
		
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			Husband and wife are married.
		
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			The wife tells the husband, Oh, I want
		
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			a fancy house.
		
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			I want new jewelry.
		
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			I want new clothes.
		
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			I want luxury items.
		
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			The husband kills himself, working as much as
		
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			he possibly can.
		
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			It's not enough for her.
		
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			He ends up going into haram debt, borrows
		
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			money from the banks, with riba in it.
		
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			It's still not enough for her.
		
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			Eventually a moment will come where the wife
		
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			will become a source of punishment for the
		
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			husband.
		
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			How will that happen?
		
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			Allah knows best.
		
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			She may leave him.
		
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			She may stop respecting him.
		
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			She may be infidelous with him.
		
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			Allah knows best.
		
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			But you have to understand that anything that
		
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			becomes a means of you disobeying Allah will
		
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			become a form of punishment for you in
		
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			this life.
		
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			This is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			reminds us, وَالَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَشَدُّوا حُبًّا لِلَّهِ That
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala should always be
		
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			the most beloved to us.
		
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			وَلَا طُعَةِ الْمَخْلُوكِ فِي مَعْصِيَةِ الْخَالِكِ And there
		
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			is never obedience to the creation and disobedience
		
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			to the creator.
		
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			Fundamental lesson to remember.
		
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			That if a man, you want to retain
		
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			your respect and dignity, as soon as she
		
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			sees you disobey Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala,
		
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			whether you like it or not, she will
		
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			lose all respect and dignity for you.
		
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			But if she sees you hold your ground
		
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			for the sake of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala, her admiration and her respect for you
		
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			will only increase.
		
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			And that is only for the believing woman.
		
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			That is only for the believing woman.
		
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			That is why the women of the Salaf,
		
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			they used to tell their men, that we
		
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			can be patient upon hunger, but we can't
		
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			be patient upon the hellfire.
		
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			Meaning that go and seek your risk in
		
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			a halal way, even if it's a little
		
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			bit, we'll survive because we've been patient in
		
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			this life.
		
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			But if you're seeking your risk in a
		
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			haram way, we can't be patient in the
		
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			hellfire.
		
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			Right?
		
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			And this is the virtue of marrying a
		
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			pious and righteous woman.
		
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			So now, let's create some fitnah in the
		
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			community.
		
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			Do women break the hearts of men more?
		
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			Or do men break the hearts of women
		
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			more?
		
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			If you feel that women are more likely
		
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			to break a man's heart, raise your hands.
		
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			Okay, hands down.
		
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			And if you feel that a man is
		
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			more likely to break a woman's heart, raise
		
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			your hands.
		
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			There's a mother that put her daughter's hand
		
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			down.
		
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			Jazakum Allah khair for participating.
		
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			This trial of fitnah didn't work too well.
		
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			I thought there'd be more of an uproar,
		
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			but there wasn't.
		
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			And the reality is, I don't think there's
		
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			a clear answer to this question.
		
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			I think it is a human condition that
		
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			we break the hearts of people.
		
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			Sometimes intentionally, sometimes unintentionally.
		
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			Right?
		
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			وَكَمِّن مُرِيدٍ بِالْخَيْرِ لَمْ يَبْلُحُونَ Sometimes you want
		
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			to love a person, but it's not enough.
		
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			Or sometimes you want to love a person,
		
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			but it's not done in the right way.
		
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			So they're not finding the love that they
		
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			need.
		
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			They're not finding the love that they need.
		
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			But the natural and general sunnah of Allah
		
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			subhanahu wa ta'ala, and this is where
		
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			we find hope.
		
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			The general sunnah of Allah subhanahu wa ta
		
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			'ala is, if you genuinely and sincerely love
		
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			someone, Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala will place
		
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			in their heart that they will genuinely and
		
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			sincerely love you as well.
		
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			This is what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			means when He has created you in pairs.
		
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			This is what Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			means when He has created you in pairs.
		
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			If you have genuine and sincere love for
		
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			someone, oftentimes that love will be reciprocated.
		
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			Not every time, because there's always exceptions to
		
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			the rule.
		
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			And we saw this again.
		
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			We mentioned this many times.
		
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			Ibrahim a.s.'s father with him.
		
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			Nuh a.s.'s wife with him.
		
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			Nuh a.s.'s son with him.
		
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			These are all the exception, not the rule.
		
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			But they're there to remind us that these
		
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			exceptions do exist.
		
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			They're there to remind us that these exceptions
		
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			do exist.
		
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			One thing that I...
		
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			Let's just move on.
		
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			Let's move on to point number 10, inshallah.
		
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			I'll conclude soon, dear Allah ta'ala.
		
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			Move on to point number 10.
		
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			Actually, sorry.
		
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			Before we move on to point number 10,
		
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			last point I'll mention over here.
		
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			Are we allowed to ask Allah subhanahu wa
		
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			ta'ala to mend our hearts after they're
		
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			broken?
		
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			Someone breaks your heart.
		
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			Can you ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			to mend your heart?
		
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			Are we allowed to do that?
		
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			Is that a permissible du'a to make?
		
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			O Allah, mend my broken heart.
		
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			JazakAllah khair.
		
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			Are we allowed to do that?
		
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			Yes?
		
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			Can anyone think of an example?
		
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			Something that would be close to this?
		
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			Okay.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			But anywhere in the du'a, do we
		
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			find that, O Allah, mend my heart or
		
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			fix me?
		
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			And I'll comment on that as well.
		
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			So the sister mentioned the du'a of
		
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			Ta'if.
		
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			Right?
		
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			This du'a is very, very famous in
		
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			the books of Sira.
		
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			But from a hadith standpoint, we don't find
		
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			it narrated anywhere.
		
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			And that is why a lot of the
		
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			muhaddithun, they said that one should not attribute
		
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			this du'a to the Prophet ﷺ except
		
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			for the sake of saying that it possibly
		
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			happened, but we don't derive any major lessons
		
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			from it.
		
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			Even though it's mentioned in a lot of
		
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			the books of Sira.
		
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			But this du'a, as beautiful as it
		
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			is, it doesn't clearly show that, O Allah,
		
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			mend my heart.
		
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			Right?
		
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			I want to share an example.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			وَأَلِفْ بَيْنَ قُلُوبِنَا بَسْ هَذَا بَيْنَ قُلُوبِ الْعِبَادِ
		
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			لَيْسَ يَعْنِ قَلْبَ النَّفْسِ Right?
		
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			So the example that I'll give you, between
		
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			the two sajdas, the Prophet ﷺ used to
		
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			make a du'a.
		
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			اَللَّهُمْ أَحْسَنْتِ هَذَا هُوَ اللَّهُمَ اَخْفِرْ لِي وَارْحَمْنِي
		
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			وَارْزُقْنِي وَاجْبُرْنِي Right?
		
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			The name Al-Jabbar, we often translate it
		
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			as the Compeller.
		
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			But it is not just the Compeller, it
		
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			is the one that compels things to come
		
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			together.
		
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			The mender of the hearts is also Al
		
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			-Jabbar.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So when you say, وَاجْبُرْنِي Like, O Allah,
		
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			I'm broken.
		
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			Make me whole again.
		
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			Fix me.
		
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			Right?
		
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			So this is a du'a that the
		
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			Prophet ﷺ used to make.
		
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			Why is this important?
		
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			That if someone like the Messenger of Allah
		
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			ﷺ can experience heartbreak, who are we not
		
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			to experience heartbreak?
		
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			It's a part of life.
		
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			You learn it, you learn to deal with
		
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			it, you embrace it, and understand that this
		
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			is a means of your forgiveness.
		
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			This is a means of your ranks being
		
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			raised.
		
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			This is a means for you learning valuable
		
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			lessons that you impart with others.
		
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			That subhanAllah, this hadith as we mentioned, narrated
		
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			24 times by Imam Al-Bukhari.
		
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			Ibn Hajar, 120 lessons.
		
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			Other ulama, over 300 lessons.
		
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			There's so many lessons that are derived from
		
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			heartbreak that we have to share with the
		
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			people.
		
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			Which now brings us to point number 10.
		
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			Which now brings us to point number 10.
		
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			Which is the issue of having kids.
		
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			And this is from the practical reality.
		
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			When a husband and wife are at each
		
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			other's necks all the time, constantly arguing, constantly
		
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			blaming one another, constantly not giving each other
		
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			the benefit of the doubt.
		
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			They think to themselves and they receive advice,
		
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			it's better to stay together for the sake
		
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			of the kids.
		
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			This argument is not grounded in Islam, nor
		
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			is it grounded in psychology.
		
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			In fact, it's just, you know, an emotionally
		
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			manipulative tactic.
		
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			For the sake of the kids, we need
		
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			to stay together.
		
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			One party will stay to the other.
		
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			But it's not grounded in Islam or in
		
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			psychology.
		
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			From Islam, we see that Barira radiallahu anha,
		
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			she had a child, the Prophet ﷺ didn't
		
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			even go as far as encouraging her to
		
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			go back to Muhith.
		
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			Didn't even encourage her to do that.
		
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			He just asked her, will you consider taking
		
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			him back?
		
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			Let alone forcing her to do that.
		
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			So we see that Islamically, that argument doesn't
		
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			stand.
		
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			Psychologically, what is healthier for the child, is
		
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			for the child to see two civil parents
		
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			that know how to end a relationship when
		
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			the relationship is over.
		
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			And this is where you have to learn
		
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			this concept that in Islam, marriage is not
		
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			till death do us part.
		
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			Marriage remains as long as we are not
		
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			harmful and hurtful to one another.
		
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			But if the relationship reaches a level where
		
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			we are harming one another and we are
		
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			hurting one another, and reconciliation isn't working, counseling
		
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			isn't working, dua isn't working, then at that
		
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			point, you have to call it quits.
		
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			This is why divorce is actually halal.
		
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			Divorce is halal for those very cases.
		
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			Divorce is haram when you have no reason.
		
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			But when you have a reason, divorce is
		
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			halal.
		
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			When you have a reason, divorce is halal.
		
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			Can you please not pull on the wire?
		
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			Yeah, don't play with the wire.
		
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			JazakAllah khair.
		
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			This is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			has made divorce halal.
		
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			Which brings me to the last point that
		
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			I'll be sharing for this evening, point number
		
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			12, which is the fiqh behind the sadaqah
		
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			and the hadiyah.
		
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			Meaning that Barira radiallahu ta'ala was given
		
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			some meat as sadaqah.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ and his family are not
		
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			allowed to consume sadaqah.
		
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			So Aisha radiallahu ta'ala on this understanding
		
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			did not give the meat to the Prophet
		
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			ﷺ.
		
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			The Prophet ﷺ tells us that it was
		
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			sadaqah for Barira, but when he changed hands
		
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			and she gave it to you, this wasn't
		
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			sadaqah, this was a gift.
		
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			And based upon this, the changing of the
		
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			hands changes the ruling of the item.
		
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			Changes the ruling of the item.
		
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			And we see this a lot.
		
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			So for example, we know that taking riba
		
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			is haram.
		
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			So you have a savings account, you didn't
		
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			know that this was riba, you now find
		
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			out that this is riba and this is
		
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			not allowed for you, so you have this
		
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			interest money.
		
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			You as an individual that have received this
		
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			interest money are not allowed to use it
		
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			in any way.
		
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			You can't use it for your clothes, you
		
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			can't use it for your food, you can't
		
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			use it for gasoline, you are not allowed
		
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			to use it for yourself.
		
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			However, if you were to give it to
		
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			someone else now, it now becomes permissible for
		
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			them.
		
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			It now becomes permissible for them.
		
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			And this is where they derive the principle
		
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			in Islamic finance, the changing of the hands
		
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			changes the ruling of the wealth with the
		
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			exception of one wealth.
		
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			Wealth that is stolen.
		
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			Wealth that is stolen can never be purified.
		
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			Wealth that is stolen has to be returned
		
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			to its rightful owner no matter how many
		
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			times it gets sold and bought.
		
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			It will never be purified, it always has
		
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			to be returned to its rightful owner.
		
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			However, money that comes from riba, money that
		
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			comes from gharar, money that comes from maysir,
		
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			so gharar is like excessive uncertainty, maysir is
		
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			money that comes from gambling, when it changes
		
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			hands it becomes permissible.
		
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			When it changes hands it becomes permissible.
		
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			So, inshallah one day all of you go
		
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			on to lead amazing non-profit organizations.
		
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			One of the things that you'll find that
		
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			non-profit organizations are allowed to do is
		
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			apply for grants from Alberta Lottery.
		
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			And when one doesn't have fiqh, they may
		
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			think you know what, taking money from the
		
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			lottery as a grant or as a bursary
		
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			would not be allowed because it's lottery money.
		
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			But here is where you're allowed to use
		
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			the principle that the changing of the hands
		
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			purifies the wealth.
		
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			Changing of the hands purifies the wealth.
		
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			So what is haram for them to use
		
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			becomes permissible because it has now changed hands.
		
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			So this is one example of how this
		
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			rule can be implemented.
		
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			Now, I'll give a caveat over here.
		
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			Just because something is halal, does it mean
		
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			that you should do it?
		
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			And I'll emphasize this point.
		
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			Imagine...
		
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			I think you can appreciate the fact that
		
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			the vast majority of Muslims won't know the
		
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			ruling on this.
		
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			So imagine it becomes public that X, Y,
		
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			and Z organization is taking money from Lottery
		
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			Alberta.
		
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			It's going to completely ruin and tarnish your
		
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			reputation because you're taking lottery money.
		
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			Even though you're doing something halal, the jahal
		
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			of the people will ruin your reputation.
		
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			And we see this in the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			when he was with Umm Salama r.a
		
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			and two men in a distance in the
		
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			darkness of the night saw him.
		
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			He called them over and he said, This
		
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			is my wife.
		
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			I didn't want you to think that she
		
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			was someone other than that.
		
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			I didn't want you to think something bad
		
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			of me.
		
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			And he said, Ya Rasulullah, how could we
		
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			think bad of you?
		
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			And the Prophet ﷺ says that shaitan runs
		
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			through the veins of Adam just like blood.
		
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			Meaning that shaitan will make Muslims think bad
		
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			about each other.
		
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			So up until we get to a level
		
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			of awareness, it may not be the best
		
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			thing for you to do, even though it
		
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			may be halal.
		
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			Even though it may be halal.
		
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			I've gone over the time that I wanted
		
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			to.
		
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			I apologize for that.
		
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			And that's why I'm stopping at 12.
		
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			But you can imagine we could go up
		
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			to 120.
		
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			Just quoting al-Hafiz ibn Hajar r.a.
		
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			So with that being said, the point that
		
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			I'll summarize, and I think where a lot
		
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			of people came to hear, is that question
		
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			about heartbreak.
		
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			Heartbreak is a fact of life.
		
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			It will happen to you sooner or later.
		
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			You don't know how it will happen, but
		
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			it will happen.
		
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			When it happens, understand you need to deepen
		
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			your connection with Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			Ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala to help
		
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			you overcome it.
		
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			Remind yourself that no pain is everlasting.
		
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			Remind yourself that in Jannah, there's only pleasure,
		
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			joy, and bliss.
		
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			There is no heartbreak.
		
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			And sometimes it is these incidents that we
		
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			experience of heartbreak that will help us get
		
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			there.
		
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			That will raise our ranks in Jannah.
		
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			So always have that mindset that it is
		
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			temporary.
		
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			My love for Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			is greater.
		
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			Jannah is an abode that is only filled
		
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			with pleasure and joy.
		
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			And if it helps me get there, I'm
		
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			willing to accept it.
		
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			I'm willing to accept it.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala mend our
		
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			broken hearts.
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala give us
		
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			fiqh of the deen.
		
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			And may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala forgive
		
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			us for our sins and shortcomings.
		
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			Allahumma ameen.
		
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			With that being said, I'll open up the
		
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			floor to any questions you may have inshallah.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			If she got married.
		
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			Sorry.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So the brother's question is, and this is
		
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			a, mashallah, he has four wives already, and
		
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			somehow, miraculously, he gets a prisoner of war
		
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			as a slave.
		
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			Is he allowed to be intimate with her?
		
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			And what I'll say is, a lot of
		
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			men have this fantasy.
		
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			They have this fantasy of having slave women.
		
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			And historically, they did exist.
		
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			But I think what's important to understand is
		
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			that there was a difference between a woman
		
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			that is a servant and a caretaker, and
		
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			a woman that was there for a man's
		
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			gratification.
		
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			They were never the same.
		
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			They were never meant to be the same.
		
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			And the rulings for both of them are
		
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			very, very different.
		
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			What I can say is, historically, they did
		
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			exist.
		
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			Contextually, in our day and age, they no
		
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			longer exist.
		
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			And the ulama have this principle that that
		
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			which is hypothetical should not be discussed in
		
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			the realm of fiqh.
		
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			Wallahu ta'ala ala.
		
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			Next question.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Dr. Jonathan Brown and Sheikh Hatim al-Hajj.
		
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			Two different books.
		
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			I'm so sorry.
		
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			When you speak, can you come closer or
		
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			raise your voice?
		
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			Yeah, I can hear you.
		
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			They don't exist.
		
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			And that's why we don't discuss it.
		
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			We only retroactively discuss it because it's mentioned
		
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			in our books of fiqh.
		
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			But slavery, as far as we know, Islamically
		
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			has been abolished.
		
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			Slavery, from an Islamic perspective, no longer exists
		
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			in this day and age.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Wallahu ta'ala ala.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Can a man marry all four women at
		
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			once?
		
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			How old are you?
		
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			You're 16?
		
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			May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala grant you
		
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			a pious and righteous wife that is the
		
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			coolness of your eyes.
		
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			Allahumma ameen.
		
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			I think this goes back, and this is
		
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			not to mention anything over here.
		
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			This goes back to the point of being
		
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			grounded in reality, right?
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, yes, He has
		
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			made marriage permissible, and He has made nikah
		
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			for up to four women permissible.
		
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			Can He do it all at the same
		
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			time?
		
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			It would still have to be one at
		
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			a time.
		
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			There has to be some sort of sequence.
		
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			Right?
		
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			But they can't all be done exactly at
		
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			the same time.
		
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			He can't do one ijab and qabool at
		
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			one time for all four women.
		
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			That wouldn't work.
		
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			That, as far as I understand your question.
		
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			But in terms of, again, this fantasization process
		
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			is very important to be grounded in reality.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			The leader of the house?
		
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			Allahu akbar.
		
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			You're treading dangerous territory, man.
		
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			So, the brother's question is, if the man
		
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			is no longer the breadwinner, and the woman
		
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			becomes the breadwinner, does she now get the
		
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			right to divorce him?
		
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			Does she now get the right to divorce
		
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			him?
		
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			I think I'll share something very interesting with
		
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			you.
		
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			Imam al-Qurtubi, rahimahullah, in that verse, 34
		
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			of surah an-Nisa, ar-rijalu qawwamuna ala
		
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			an-nisa that men are the maintainers, providers,
		
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			and protectors of women.
		
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			He said that the primary reason why the
		
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			man was given this responsibility was because he
		
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			was the breadwinner.
		
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			So as long as he's providing, he is
		
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			qawwam.
		
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			But if he's not providing, he loses the
		
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			qawwama upon her.
		
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			And what he insinuates is that if the
		
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			woman becomes the main provider, she becomes the
		
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			qawwama upon the rajul.
		
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			This was from the tafarrudat of Imam al
		
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			-Qurtubi, meaning the unique positions of Imam al
		
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			-Qurtubi, rahimahullah.
		
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			But all that's to say, there is no
		
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			scenario where a woman would get the ability
		
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			to divorce her husband.
		
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			She would get the right to khuda, and
		
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			she would get the right to fasq.
		
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			The only exception is more of a modern
		
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			-day contemporary issue, which is can the woman
		
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			stipulate in her contract the right to talaq
		
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			tafweeli?
		
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			If she stipulates in that, is this condition
		
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			acceptable or not?
		
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			And there's a lot of difference of opinion
		
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			amongst the scholars on talaq tafweeli, meaning the
		
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			woman is given the right to divorce the
		
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			man.
		
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			And we'll leave that for the fiqh of
		
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			marriage and divorce class.
		
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			That is the only exception the woman would
		
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			get the right to divorce.
		
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			In all other cases, it remains khuda and
		
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			fasq.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
		
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			Questions from the sisters?
		
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			Okay, back to the brothers.
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Yes, sir.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So, the first question from the brother is
		
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			that the kafara for being maritally intimate or
		
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			for zihar is that you have to free
		
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			a slave if you're unable to.
		
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			Then you fast for 60 days, and if
		
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			you're unable to, then you feed 60 people.
		
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			The verse specifically says, and whoever is not
		
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			able to.
		
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			So in this situation, in those situations, where
		
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			there's an intentional order, the intentional order has
		
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			to be followed.
		
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			In those situations where it's, these are the
		
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			three kafara, choose from any of them, you
		
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			can choose from any of them.
		
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			But for marital intimacy, you do have to
		
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			follow that order.
		
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			You have to try to free the slave.
		
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			If you can't free the slave, you fast
		
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			for 60 days.
		
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			If you're unable to fast for 60 days,
		
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			then you have to feed 60 people.
		
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			Second question?
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Excellent.
		
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			So, you'll see a lot of banks do
		
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			a variety of different schemes now.
		
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			In order to get more clients, the old
		
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			tactic was, oh, we'll give you a free
		
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			iPad or we'll give you a free iPod.
		
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			That as long as you do deposit two
		
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			cheques with us, then we'll give this gift
		
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			to you.
		
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			With items itself, I think it's not a
		
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			problem.
		
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			There's no gray area involved.
		
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			You are allowed to receive any physical item
		
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			other than cash within of itself.
		
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			Now, when it comes to the cash itself,
		
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			you really have to break down what exactly
		
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			is happening in the scenario.
		
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			In the scenario, what is not allowed is
		
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			for there to be any form of debt
		
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			and you receiving compensation as a creditor.
		
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			Right?
		
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			If there's debt and you are the creditor,
		
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			you're not allowed to receive any form of
		
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			compensation.
		
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			In this sort of situation, is there a
		
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			scenario where you are lending money and then
		
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			you're receiving money on top of that?
		
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			If the scenario is, we just want your
		
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			reoccurring deposits.
		
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			Reoccurring deposits is not a form of debt.
		
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			It's a form of a transaction.
		
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			That would be perfectly fine.
		
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			I don't think that's an issue.
		
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			But if they say you have to leave
		
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			$200 with us for one year and then
		
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			we'll give you $200 as a gift.
		
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			That transaction of leaving the money deposited could
		
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			be perceived as a loan and thus the
		
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			money that you receive could be considered as
		
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			a riba.
		
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			So you really have to look at the
		
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			details of the contract and what's being asked.
		
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			So if it's doing your regular deposits, I
		
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			don't think that's a problem.
		
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			But if they're stipulating that it has to
		
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			be a certain amount of money for a
		
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			prescribed period of time, then that would become
		
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			riba.
		
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			And that's better to stay away from.
		
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			And Allah knows best.
		
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			Any other questions?
		
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			Go ahead.
		
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			Yes.
		
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			Correct.
		
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			So no, that's a different scenario.
		
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			So the sister's first part was charity organizations
		
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			that receive money from the lottery, is that
		
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			allowed or not?
		
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			And I said yes.
		
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			Because they're not participating in the laundry.
		
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			They're giving it to you as a grant
		
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			anniversary.
		
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			So when it changes hands, it becomes permissible.
		
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			Now the second question is, can the school
		
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			themselves run a lottery system?
		
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			Is that what you're asking?
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			So doing a lottery yourself would not be
		
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			allowed, even if it is with pure intentions.
		
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			Even if you're raising it for charity, you
		
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			can't run a lottery like that.
		
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			It has to be a change of hands
		
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			as a form of charity.
		
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			Yeah.
		
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			Any other questions?
		
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			Bismillah.
		
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			Go for it.
		
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			Can a woman be pregnant before getting married?
		
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			Unless you are Maryam, alayha assalam, I would
		
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			find it very, very hard to believe that
		
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			something haram didn't take place.
		
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			More than likely, if a woman gets pregnant
		
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			and it is a halal pregnancy, it happens
		
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			through marriage.
		
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			If she claims that it is halal outside
		
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			of marriage, then this requires further investigation.
		
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			And more than likely, the conclusion will be
		
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			that it is not a halal pregnancy.
		
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			And Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala knows best.
		
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			Let's conclude with that, inshallah.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khairan to all of you for attending
		
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			and jazakumullahu khairan for participating.
		
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			Subhanakallah wa bihamdik.
		
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			Ashadu an la ilaha illa anta astaghfiruka wa
		
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			atubu ilayk.
		
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			An important announcement.
		
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			Anyone that has a car parked in the
		
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			gated parking lot, please remove it from the
		
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			parking lot, even if you're going somewhere and
		
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			coming back.
		
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			Cars will get locked in.
		
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			Cars will get locked in.
		
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			This is a reminder from our dear sister
		
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			Hind.
		
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			And this is not due to anyone's specific
		
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			incident.
		
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			Just as a general reminder, please remove your
		
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			cars, inshallah.
		
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			Jazakumullahu khairan.
		
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			Wassalamualaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh.