Naima B. Robert – Where Does Sexiness Come From

That seduction is not so you can use it in a in a bad way. Right?

But it comes from from inside. Think about think about the people

who get you know, in America we have the people's the sexiest man

alive, right? People magazine's Sexiest Man Alive. Every person

they've ever put on the sexiest man sexiest woman alive. I'm like,

I don't think they're very sexy. Because it doesn't have anything

to do with their physical features. It has to do with

something that people see in them that they like, right.

So, if I was to ask you, on behalf of viewers, where does sexiness

come from? Where does that sexual is sexiness, sexual confidence.

You mentioned the word seduction. Where does it actually come from?

Something we can perform? Is it something we can kind of, you

know, is there like a step by step? Is it something internal? Is

it based on your experiences? Where does it come from? I think

it comes from so there's a difference between sexiness and

seduction. So to be a sexy person might come across as being a

person who exudes a level of sexual prowess, right? Oh, this is

a sexy person, they exude a level of sexual potential. It may be in

the way that they walk the way that they carry themselves.

seduction, however, is a person who pulls you in with a lure. You

may not want to develop any form of physicality with them. But

there's something captivating about this person. I think of

Yusuf Alayhi. Salam when I think of seduction, right. Oh, wow.

Yeah. Other women were just like he didn't he wasn't even doing

anything. He was chilling, right? But he just has this magnetism to

him. As a nice word. Yes. ISM isn't. That's seduction. It's not

so you can use it in a in a bad way. Right. But it comes from from

inside. Think about think about the people who get you know, in

America, we have the people's the sexiest man alive, right? People

magazine's Sexiest Man Alive. Every person that they've ever put

on the sexiest man sexiest woman alive. I'm like, I don't think

they're very sexy. Because it doesn't have anything to do with

their physical features. It has to do with something that people see

in them that they like, right? So for me, a person being sexy,

exudes a level of sexual potential, but the more nuanced

and the more sophisticated approach is, what level of

seductive confidence do they have? It's like, Have you ever been in a

room and someone has walked in, and it's like, all the air just

goes directly to that person. It's like, you have to just gasping and

catch your breath. You don't even they don't even have to say

anything. They don't even have to necessarily be a totally

physically conventionally attractive person. There's just

something about them that's rapturous, that seductive

confidence. That's where it comes from. So what it starts with

knowing who you are, being confident in who you are, and

accepting yourself, however, you come accepting your flaws, because

when you accept your flaws, no one can weaponize them against you.

And then you allow other people space to be fully themselves. And

so that is that's what you start to exude. And that is that level

of seductive confidence that you have that makes people say, Well,

how can I be like you? How can I get

it's so much more than the performative aspects of, of

appearance and sexiness. It's it has a much deeper route and I

truly think that anyone can access it but it does definitely takes a

lot of internal work to get there.