Naima B. Robert – Where Does Sexiness Come From

			That seduction is not so you can
use it in a in a bad way. Right?
		

			But it comes from from inside.
Think about think about the people
		

			who get you know, in America we
have the people's the sexiest man
		

			alive, right? People magazine's
Sexiest Man Alive. Every person
		

			they've ever put on the sexiest
man sexiest woman alive. I'm like,
		

			I don't think they're very sexy.
Because it doesn't have anything
		

			to do with their physical
features. It has to do with
		

			something that people see in them
that they like, right.
		

			So, if I was to ask you, on behalf
of viewers, where does sexiness
		

			come from? Where does that sexual
is sexiness, sexual confidence.
		

			You mentioned the word seduction.
Where does it actually come from?
		

			Something we can perform? Is it
something we can kind of, you
		

			know, is there like a step by
step? Is it something internal? Is
		

			it based on your experiences?
Where does it come from? I think
		

			it comes from so there's a
difference between sexiness and
		

			seduction. So to be a sexy person
might come across as being a
		

			person who exudes a level of
sexual prowess, right? Oh, this is
		

			a sexy person, they exude a level
of sexual potential. It may be in
		

			the way that they walk the way
that they carry themselves.
		

			seduction, however, is a person
who pulls you in with a lure. You
		

			may not want to develop any form
of physicality with them. But
		

			there's something captivating
about this person. I think of
		

			Yusuf Alayhi. Salam when I think
of seduction, right. Oh, wow.
		

			Yeah. Other women were just like
he didn't he wasn't even doing
		

			anything. He was chilling, right?
But he just has this magnetism to
		

			him. As a nice word. Yes. ISM
isn't. That's seduction. It's not
		

			so you can use it in a in a bad
way. Right. But it comes from from
		

			inside. Think about think about
the people who get you know, in
		

			America, we have the people's the
sexiest man alive, right? People
		

			magazine's Sexiest Man Alive.
Every person that they've ever put
		

			on the sexiest man sexiest woman
alive. I'm like, I don't think
		

			they're very sexy. Because it
doesn't have anything to do with
		

			their physical features. It has to
do with something that people see
		

			in them that they like, right? So
for me, a person being sexy,
		

			exudes a level of sexual
potential, but the more nuanced
		

			and the more sophisticated
approach is, what level of
		

			seductive confidence do they have?
It's like, Have you ever been in a
		

			room and someone has walked in,
and it's like, all the air just
		

			goes directly to that person. It's
like, you have to just gasping and
		

			catch your breath. You don't even
they don't even have to say
		

			anything. They don't even have to
necessarily be a totally
		

			physically conventionally
attractive person. There's just
		

			something about them that's
rapturous, that seductive
		

			confidence. That's where it comes
from. So what it starts with
		

			knowing who you are, being
confident in who you are, and
		

			accepting yourself, however, you
come accepting your flaws, because
		

			when you accept your flaws, no one
can weaponize them against you.
		

			And then you allow other people
space to be fully themselves. And
		

			so that is that's what you start
to exude. And that is that level
		

			of seductive confidence that you
have that makes people say, Well,
		

			how can I be like you? How can I
get
		

			it's so much more than the
performative aspects of, of
		

			appearance and sexiness. It's it
has a much deeper route and I
		

			truly think that anyone can access
it but it does definitely takes a
		

			lot of internal work to get there.