Naima B. Robert – TMC E5 Clip Some Of The Biggest Issues

So what are the biggest issues that you're seeing then? Over the

last five years? What have been the biggest issues facing making?

In a nutshell, it's a commitment issue. There is a lack of

commitment. But I think we see certain symptoms. And that could

be that people think finance is causing problem to their marriage.

And it is it does contribute. People think is the in laws,

especially where I'm from sub, you know, like Southeast Asian

countries, people think it's,

you know,

say,

being too busy in life not making time for each other.

You see, all of these things can be sorted out if the commitment is

there. Yeah, people may blame, you know, he doesn't do his roles and

responsibility, and he's not taking marriage, you know,

seriously, he's not contributing, these are the common complaints.

So if I was to categorize them, there is obviously responsibility.

There is finance, there is infidelity, there is a loss.

And these things, obviously, they don't come about just like that

there are telltale signs. And I think if people had commitment,

and then they made an effort to be on the same page with the opposite

gender, then these telltale sign signs they will be able to spot

early on. Right. And I think what people don't realize, and this is

something that I have said to quite a few people is before a

couple separate physically, they separate emotionally. Yeah.

Yeah. Now, one of your question, was the thing about midlife crisis

and what is happening around that time? Now to really think about

this point, because I was thinking, midlife crisis,

supposedly, if you look it up is from the age of 40 to 63, or 64.

I couldn't help but think about how the Prophet SAW was him. He

got Naboo at the age of 40.

And he lived until the age of 6310 years in market, you know, 13

Altogether, he had 23 years for spreading Islam. And I was

thinking Islam gives a very clear vision for that midlife mission.

Not crisis mission. Midlife mission. I like that. Yeah. Why?

Because that is the time where you're really at the final like

sprinter of your, say race or journey. You know, when the horse

is about to end the journey, it goes faster, it really, you know,

goes for it. Why? Because

your life matters, how he ends, more than how it begins. Because,

you know, the way you end your life, that's a good indication of

how your afterlife will begin,

isn't it? So, for us as Muslims, when we are hitting that point, we

should be thinking, okay, how can I raise the bar? Because, you

know, the lifespan of the Muslim community is what 6465 The

prophets have said, you know, it's in the 60s. This is not the time

to be experimenting and figuring out and having your, like, you

know, say,

tantrums or doing whatever you want to do. You know, this is a

time to think, Okay, I need to focus. This is a time of focus and

hence why Nobu came at that time, because it's a time of balaclava

should that maturity, you know,

but when I was looking into this question, because I was thinking,

okay, so why does this trend of midlife, you know, crisis come

come about? And how to avoid it, you know, so I was doing a bit of

research to understand what do they say, you know, And

subhanAllah, what I was thinking is that, as a believer, as a human

being,

we have to live our life, to the best of our ability, irrespective

of the age that we're in. So we see that in the spirit of the

process and the prophets ism would nurture and empower and encourage

young Sahaba youngest 13 Abdullah ibn Abbas, you know, the famous

Hadith where he was writing behind him and he was saying to him, be

mindful of Allah and you know, you will find Allah supporting you

that long Hadith in 40 Hadith

And then we find he advised older companions and rich companions,

mature companions. And what does that show us? It shows us that

whatever age you're at, you still have to be striving for

excellence.