Naima B. Robert – TMC E5 Clip Some Of The Biggest Issues

			So what are the biggest issues
that you're seeing then? Over the
		

			last five years? What have been
the biggest issues facing making?
		

			In a nutshell, it's a commitment
issue. There is a lack of
		

			commitment. But I think we see
certain symptoms. And that could
		

			be that people think finance is
causing problem to their marriage.
		

			And it is it does contribute.
People think is the in laws,
		

			especially where I'm from sub, you
know, like Southeast Asian
		

			countries, people think it's,
		

			you know,
		

			say,
		

			being too busy in life not making
time for each other.
		

			You see, all of these things can
be sorted out if the commitment is
		

			there. Yeah, people may blame, you
know, he doesn't do his roles and
		

			responsibility, and he's not
taking marriage, you know,
		

			seriously, he's not contributing,
these are the common complaints.
		

			So if I was to categorize them,
there is obviously responsibility.
		

			There is finance, there is
infidelity, there is a loss.
		

			And these things, obviously, they
don't come about just like that
		

			there are telltale signs. And I
think if people had commitment,
		

			and then they made an effort to be
on the same page with the opposite
		

			gender, then these telltale sign
signs they will be able to spot
		

			early on. Right. And I think what
people don't realize, and this is
		

			something that I have said to
quite a few people is before a
		

			couple separate physically, they
separate emotionally. Yeah.
		

			Yeah. Now, one of your question,
was the thing about midlife crisis
		

			and what is happening around that
time? Now to really think about
		

			this point, because I was
thinking, midlife crisis,
		

			supposedly, if you look it up is
from the age of 40 to 63, or 64.
		

			I couldn't help but think about
how the Prophet SAW was him. He
		

			got Naboo at the age of 40.
		

			And he lived until the age of 6310
years in market, you know, 13
		

			Altogether, he had 23 years for
spreading Islam. And I was
		

			thinking Islam gives a very clear
vision for that midlife mission.
		

			Not crisis mission. Midlife
mission. I like that. Yeah. Why?
		

			Because that is the time where
you're really at the final like
		

			sprinter of your, say race or
journey. You know, when the horse
		

			is about to end the journey, it
goes faster, it really, you know,
		

			goes for it. Why? Because
		

			your life matters, how he ends,
more than how it begins. Because,
		

			you know, the way you end your
life, that's a good indication of
		

			how your afterlife will begin,
		

			isn't it? So, for us as Muslims,
when we are hitting that point, we
		

			should be thinking, okay, how can
I raise the bar? Because, you
		

			know, the lifespan of the Muslim
community is what 6465 The
		

			prophets have said, you know, it's
in the 60s. This is not the time
		

			to be experimenting and figuring
out and having your, like, you
		

			know, say,
		

			tantrums or doing whatever you
want to do. You know, this is a
		

			time to think, Okay, I need to
focus. This is a time of focus and
		

			hence why Nobu came at that time,
because it's a time of balaclava
		

			should that maturity, you know,
		

			but when I was looking into this
question, because I was thinking,
		

			okay, so why does this trend of
midlife, you know, crisis come
		

			come about? And how to avoid it,
you know, so I was doing a bit of
		

			research to understand what do
they say, you know, And
		

			subhanAllah, what I was thinking
is that, as a believer, as a human
		

			being,
		

			we have to live our life, to the
best of our ability, irrespective
		

			of the age that we're in. So we
see that in the spirit of the
		

			process and the prophets ism would
nurture and empower and encourage
		

			young Sahaba youngest 13 Abdullah
ibn Abbas, you know, the famous
		

			Hadith where he was writing behind
him and he was saying to him, be
		

			mindful of Allah and you know, you
will find Allah supporting you
		

			that long Hadith in 40 Hadith
		

			And then we find he advised older
companions and rich companions,
		

			mature companions. And what does
that show us? It shows us that
		

			whatever age you're at, you still
have to be striving for
		

			excellence.