Naima B. Robert – The Intimacy Conversation Natural Ways to Increase Sex Drive Anisa Kissoon
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Smilla Salam aleikum everyone welcome to day three of the
intimacy conversation super
super, super pleased to have you guys back with us mashallah, we
have an exciting press
notation by SR and Nisa Kisu now on an holistic and been talking
about this for the past two days and now we're going to dive really
deep and guys if you like sister and nieces presentation, make sure
that you get that VIP upgrade so you can attend her in depth
private workshop next weekend, where she is going to be talking
about sacred seduction techniques Masha Allah, so you don't want to
miss that sister and Lisa, please, I'm gonna go hand it over to you,
please in sha Allah, take it away, tell us who you are, how you came
to do this work and Bismillah it for Delhi Go ahead. As salam Wa
alaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. First of all, I'm
probably not going to be like most of the other hosts and beautiful,
beautiful experts because I am literally so super excited to do
this. Literally, I feel like I've just won a Golden Ticket. Because
for years, I have been talking about this topic passionately, and
wanting to share it. And I've been withheld for whatever reasons. But
now Allah has opened the door. And first and foremost, I'd like to
thank Allah. And I'd like to thank you NEMA for taking the courage to
open up this door for us here, especially in the UK. So thanks
very much. And with regards to my background, before I was a Muslim,
this was my life, passion, intimacy, through dance, I'm from
a West Indian background, and if anybody knows any West Indians, we
are very fiery culture. This is what we do. It is very reflective.
In our, our dances, like I said, and just, we are very passionate
people, you know, just our blood is very, very passionate. So, you
know, when I came into Islam, and I was faced with seeing
communities that for me,
nobody talked about this. Nobody talked about the beautification
and really dressing up, everybody around me that was just talked,
that was really straight black and white.
A lot of talk about what to do and what not to do.
We just didn't get into it. And I always saw it as something that
was very sacred, that was very special. It was like a gift. And
most of my life, I had to kind of literally put it in a box, lock it
up, and not really talk about it. And I felt that that was a bit of
a shame. Because especially being a mother, with, you know,
daughters who need to get married, it's like well, as it is important
to teach them about cooking and cleaning, we need to teach them
that this is a part of life. Now I totally understand, because it is
something that is intimate. And it is it is private. And we're not
going you know, saying go out there. But it is still
conversations that we need to have. Now, for me growing up.
You know, I was always very fascinated with kind of ancient
cultures, I always have for those of you who know me, most of you
know me for hijama therapy, right? And that's fine. But it is a
beautiful technique. And it's an ancient technique that we use and
Hamdulillah. And it's been used even before our beloved Prophet
peace be upon him, recommended it used all over the world. And we
know about that, right? We know how amazing it is. I mean, in
terms of health, when we look at health, it has been revived so
much. I think it's because literally it works. And it's
recommended by our last panel with Allah. But when it came to the
intimacy side, I started to look at all the ancient cultures. And I
looked at the Kama Sutra, which a lot of people know about. But
there's elements of it that is just not halal. And the word Kama
Sutra is beautiful. It's just lessons of love, you know, when I
look at that, I think is so lovely. But obviously that's
within their culture. And you have, you know, right from Africa,
to Japan, you have many different ancient techniques that are
unheard of. And then obviously, you've had some beautiful experts
have talked about our traditions and Hamdulillah. So how do we
marry them? How do we talk about it openly? Because there's a lot
of people with problems. So when I was teaching hijama therapy, I
found that a lot of the
actual topics that people wanted to talk about in terms of patients
was actually this. So I would get sometimes, you know, wives would
say, you know, I'm not really feeling it at the moment, or my
husband doesn't have the same drive as me, you know, all sorts
of questions or what can you give my husband and if you stick around
to later, I'll actually share with you one of my love potions, okay,
in sha Allah. But I noticed it was a huge topic, very taboo.
But it, nobody was really addressing it. And again, I know
that we have got lovely, beautiful, beautiful experts like
the village Auntie, you know, mashallah Tabata cola. But here in
the UK, we really didn't have anybody. So when I was exploring
this, I was looking at it from a totally holistic perspective, I
was combined in all of the things that I've learned over the years.
So whether it was therapies, whether it was exercise, I
actually, you know, coined the term sexercise before everybody
else jumped on it, Al Hamdulillah. And that's fine, because I don't
think I really want to do or would like to use that name anymore. But
it was, you know, exercises that were performed to help the women,
especially after childbirth, because, you know, if you don't
have that guidance to bring your body back up, you know, it can be,
it can be, it can be quite an embarrassing kind of situation.
And I know a lot of women, you know, if you're stressed, and you
are worried, you can't really perform to the best of your
ability. And we're not just talking about bodily how we look,
I'm talking about, you know, actually, you know, in our private
areas as well. So, this area for me, when I was asked to come on
here, I was just so excited. I was like, yes, because one, I can get
to share some of the knowledge that I painstakingly studied for
so many years, right. So, so many years. And like I said, it's been
locked in this box. And now Bismillah NIMAS. Amazing, she's
opened up the key for me, now I can talk about it openly
Alhamdulillah. So that's what I want to do today, I want to talk
to you about some of the ways that you can increase your * drive.
And even if you've got one, maybe you just want to even enjoy
yourself more. Or maybe you want to know how to help increase your
partner's * drives. Or maybe you just want to kind of, you know,
switch it up a little and change it a bit. And you want to learn
more, like I said, for me, as a mother, as important it was to
teach my children how to cook. And not just cooking for cooking sake,
by the way, I'm talking about health, nutrition, how to present
the food, you know, all of these things, looking at, you know, how
you can mix colors, and make it look presentable and beautiful.
I'll give you this example. So
your husband's gone out to work, right? This is for the ladies.
Okay? Oh, you know, it could be the other way around. It's all
right. So why have you gone out to work? Right? And you've worked
really, really hard all day. And why are you working? You're
working to provide for the family, right? Okay, so whoever's left at
home, be it mom or dad these days.
You know, you're hungry, right? And you've got to make the meal
for the person who's coming home and gone out there and done all
that hard work, you have a choice. You can either slap some mashed
potatoes and peas a bit of fish on the right and just slap it there.
Bismillah There you go. It's food, night, and hamdulillah we're
grateful wherever for whatever we're given, okay, Hamdulillah,
right. Or you can take the time and make a meal from your love.
Okay, and you can, you know, make it look presentable. And you can
make it smell beautifully. And you like, like a gourmet meal, you
know? So there's a difference, right? And think about that person
who's gone out there and worked really hard. What meal would they
like to receive? They wouldn't really want us we receive that
slapdash one they want to receive something that is made with love,
right. So
this is the same as our intimacy, we can slapdash go to the bedroom
and procreate, right just how you see the animals, right? They just,
you know, I was watching pigeons on our fence the day and it was
over in a couple of seconds and it was done. Because they are
obviously you know, just procreating. Or we can take this
sacred act, and we can turn it into something that is so
beautiful. And what will that do? That will increase the love? And
believe me, even if, for instance
You are not in the mood, you are tired. You know, it's just, it's
you having one of those days, right? When you do things for the
sake of Allah, for the sake of pleasing your Lord, you should
always do things to the best of your ability anyway, right? So you
are going to get so many so many good deeds from this. And this is
what I want to revive and bring back, I want to bring back this
beautiful sacred app that we've been given. And an app that we can
get extreme pleasure out of. Okay, and bring it back to where it's
supposed to be. And I will tell you, and again, I will tell you
why it is so important, in my opinion.
Because
we have an epidemic epidemic on our hands, right? We have,
unfortunately, and I'm sure a lot of the amazing experts have spoken
about this before. But we have got children and adults who are
turning to *, unfortunately, watching other people do X, we
have got, you know, other you know, people that are exploring
other fetishes and things that they shouldn't really be doing.
That's not halal. Okay, we have got an obsession right now. I
would even go as far as saying we have the same obsession with food.
And this is why we've got so much obesity, right. But if it is
nurtured in the right way, and it is in an Halal environment, it can
be the biggest blessing. And the biggest, I would say, pleasure,
right? Just like when you know, if you're a foodie, right, and you're
going for the, and I'm watching everybody getting ready for this
food festival, right. And they're all excited, because they can have
all this food that they are not used to having. Right. And I went
to that one year, by the way, and I saw people queuing two hours for
a burger. For me, that's an obsession. That's an addiction,
right? But and then I interviewed the girl I was in the queue with
because I said, Okay, I'm gonna leave you in this queue. I'm gonna
go around, do my film, and I'm going to come back, right? And
then when I came back, and I saw her bite into this burger, I said
to her, was that two hours worth it? And she said, Yes. And I went,
Okay, that's, that's insane. That's crazy. But this was her
thing. Okay. Now, again, we can make this act, something that can
save marriages, right, save marriages, it is the thing that
makes us exist. If there was none of it HELOCs the human race would
cease to exist, then that's how important it is, right? So we need
to kind of get a grip on that. I'm going to say that again. If we
didn't do this sacred act, we as human beings, would cease to
exist. So what does that mean? If Allah has given it to us as a gift
as a halal gift for us? Let's have a nice time with it. Right? Let's
let's let's get it on. Let's not make it be one of those birds
sitting on the fence and just two seconds and they're gone off and
they're flying off somewhere else, right? Let's make it something
that is absolute ly beautiful. And shot a lot better than so I think
I've kind of got you there. Right. Okay hamdulillah Hamdulillah. So,
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lovelies, to do Hamdulillah. So yeah, if you can do that, and
while you're doing that, my love, I want to talk about
why for me, the word pleasure is so important, right?
And why we should appreciate pleasure.
Now, think of a mother who has given birth, right? She, she's,
she's kind of gone through that nine months, okay? And that's
painful. Okay, for anybody out there has had babies, you'll know.
But the pleasure part is in the birth, right? And then you have
well after birth, but then you have the beautiful baby, okay?
Hamdulillah, right. Same as a farmer, a farmer can go out there.
And he can, you know, be planting the seeds and plowing the crops
and everything. But the pleasure is in the harvest and eating the
food the same way as a cook of Cook, sweats and you know, is
cooking up all day. And then when you eat that meal, you're rewarded
with this pleasure. Okay. So with regards to our sacred act, there
is that time, I wouldn't say necessarily plant pain, but maybe
more hard work, right. And if we put the hard work in, the pleasure
is going to be so much more. Because if you're a farmer, and
you've ever planted something, when you eat your own produce, oh,
my God, it tastes so amazing compared to if you go and quickly
get a takeout, right? So I really want to get people into this
notion of how we can literally, Oh, can we go to the first slide
my lovely,
yeah, how we can literally,
you know, get, make this act so beautiful. And even if you've been
married for 20 years, right? 30 years, it doesn't matter, you can
switch it up, make it make a difference, you can make a change,
and you can really, really take it to another level. Because like I
said, it's something that Allah has given us, and we're allowed to
enjoy things. It doesn't have to be all kind of, you know, doom and
gloom, and you know, everything has to be hardship. He has given
us this as a gift, a pleasure for one another, to be there for each
other. Okay. So and I don't think that we do honestly spend Well,
according to my research, and all the clients I've seen, I don't
think we look at the intricate little things. I'd love to give
you some gems today. That can really make a difference in your
life. Neymar Can we go to Okay, so we jump into it, right? So sorry,
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Sharla, brilliant. Okay, so lovely. So, so sacred, sacred
seduction is literally
the art of * which I have been blessed to have learned from
the ancient worlds. And I bought it into the modern day. I think
when we look at the ancient worlds worlds, we see so much intricacy
compared to today, right? So look at like, for instance, if anybody
has been to Alhambra, you know, or you have been to Tokyo or Iran.
And you have seen the intricate details there are on our buildings
compared to IKEA society, right? That everything is kind of chop,
you know, plain square, and it's, it's pretty boring. We don't have
that intricacy anymore. We don't have that delicacy. Where in the
ancient world, they took more time, time with everything, right.
And I think that's what we're missing. Subhanallah so I'd like
to be able to bring some of that intricacy when when I look at
people like Nefertari Nefertiti Cleopatra, from ancient Egypt, you
know, there was a reason why these women for instance, were so
beautiful, and put on a pedestal because they spent so much time
taking care of themselves and presenting themselves. Okay, so I
feel that in this modern world, everything is rush, rush, rush,
rush, you know, wham bam, Thank you, ma'am. And it's just like,
what are we doing that we are missing this? So I'd like to take
you through that in Sharla. And if you can change a slide, please my
lovely. So, for me anything that I do, I always tried to use the five
senses. Okay. This is something that even if, for instance, we
have any blind brothers and sisters, you know,
here today, you know, then you've been blessed with a heightened
sound and heightened taste right Alhamdulillah but though
Five senses
are so beautiful. If you can excite each and every one at the
same time, can you imagine the explosion that you're going to
have in Sharla? I didn't mean to use that word explosion.
You know what Gabriel said yesterday, it's very important to
stay serious and professional, when we're discussing this.
You must shut a lot of varkala. Okay, so out of these five senses,
I'm going to take you through
maybe a two today, and I'm going to take you through one that is
obvious, but not so obvious. So if we can change a slide, please my
lovely inshallah. Okay, smell.
Now, when we think of smell, we know that, you know, perfume or
wood is very important, right? It is one of the most underused
senses when it comes to intimate intimacy. And I say that because
some people just think, okay, they're going to put a bit of
spray on. And that's it. Well, actually, there's so many
different ways that we can use smell. And I'm going to explore
just some of them today, bearing in mind
that each of the five senses literally could be a whole full
day's workshop, it's, you know, literally, for me to condense it
down, as it's been very difficult. And I'm trying to choose the best
of the best, or I'm making it easy by choosing things that we already
know. So I'm not trying to bring things that you know, like
saffron, a lot of people have stuff on already in their
cupboards, right? It may be something that's, you know, that
we only use a little bit of because it is so expensive. But
how many people know that you can use saffron to help excite your
pleasure?
Not many people know that. They think that we can use it as a dye,
even as a cure. Or you can you know, cook your foods with it.
SubhanAllah. But a lot of people are not using it. So I thought
when I was looking at them today, and I was thinking, oh, what how
you know, which ones do I choose? I was thinking saffron, let's
choose saffron. Because again, looking at these beautiful
flowers, for those of you who don't know what saffron is, which
I'm sure that you do. But what you see in the young lady's hands are
those fine red strands from the beautiful purple flower, right.
And those fine strands are what we use as saffron. Now you can go and
buy them in your local stores. But please be careful because
obviously this is a commodity that is, you know, worth its weight
more than gold. So there were there was a lot of cheats out
there, unfortunately. So make sure that you're getting a good stuff
one. But the smell of saffron has been noted scientifically tested,
and used in the ancient world to help increase people's libidos.
How many people actually knew that. And with this course today
is this is not just about you know, talking about it, so that
you've got your work, you go out there and you get excited we put
the stuff on in your cupboard you think yes, I you know, I listened
to an ESA and now I've got stuff on in my cupboard, and it stays in
the cupboard.
The whole purpose of everything that we teach is it is is to take
action. Okay, so I want to see everybody going and getting some
saffron, but utilizing it, okay. And saffron. If you actually just
pinch it and put it between your fingers and you smell it it is it
has it has a very unique smell. But when you crush it, it is even
better. And I'll be later showing you how and where you can apply
these things. So if you've if you're a smart person, you will be
going and grabbing a pen and a pad. Okay, so that you can take
these notes and on your shopping list should be saffron. Okay. All
right, next slide.
Jasmine, and I bet everybody thought oh, okay, well, maybe the
rose should be there. I mean, I absolutely love roses, but
actually the smell of jasmine has had much more effects on
increasing the libido. It is a very delicate plant. As you can
see a flower sorry, you can see these they're really delicate if
anybody knows and has grown. Her Jasmine is really delicate. I mean
the flowers only last a little while and you have to really take
care of them. Okay, but the sun
All of Jasmine is has been studied scientifically, like I said, all
of the things that I have, that I'm going to talk about have been
studied scientifically. So they're not just in the ancient world, but
they've been bought into modern science. And this is one of the
ones that you need to be putting on your list. Okay? Now, again,
you might be thinking, I'm not going to go and wait to plot the
Jasmine seed and wait for the flower, you know, the flower to
bloom, what can I do? Well, you can actually get some essential
oils, you can get essential oils. And again, after I go through the
third one, I'll be telling you different ways that we can use
this. So the second smell that is really potent, and that will help
increase your libido and get you in the mood is Jasmine. And my
last one for today
is your Lana Lang. Now, again, when you're thinking of your
language, and you're not thinking, where's the rose, where's the
rose? This is a smell that is, you know,
people think when they think love, and they think of intimacy, they,
they will I do anyway, I always think rose. But again, Allah has
made us in such beautiful in such a beautiful, detailed way that
these plants that we see that our pleasure to our eyes,
you know, they have properties, they have properties that we can
utilize and use, and it will stimulate things for us. Okay, so
I want you to write down those three. Okay, write those three
down. And how can we have them yes, you can have them in the form
of a plant, you can have the candles, if you get candles,
please get, you know, good candles, don't get cheap candles
that just have this fake smell in there. Because, again, from the
health perspective, and I'm sorry, because I always have to go back
into that. But you want to get like a good beeswax, beeswax
that's mixed with this. And even if you just get a plain beeswax
candle, and you put some essential oil drops onto the scent, this
will have an aroma that, you know, especially if you're gonna get
married, think like this, right? Or, you know, whatever, you know,
your, your husband or your wife is coming in and you want to make
them happy. And you want to bring that connection more closer. In
sha Allah, these are three that you can get. Now smells like I
said, you can put them on the body. Okay, don't, don't go out
there and overdo it now, because you're gonna have like a cocktail
of smells, and it's gonna be like, well, too much, you've got to be
really subtle with the smells, because you want to kind of
almost, you know, tease with these smells, and let them be a
surprise. So what you can do is you can have small sprays and put
them on the sheets, okay? Just a little like when I mean a little
bit, don't doubt the bed over because the worst thing that you
want to do with smells is make them you know, overbearing, okay,
and some people are very sensitive to smells SubhanAllah. So just
bear that in mind. But again, if you're gonna go and have your
wash, you know, you have your shower, and you're getting ready,
put very small drops, okay? And then and put them in the areas
that may be you know, that your, your husband or your wife is going
to go towards but again, don't make them overwhelming, okay, so
you can put them in the air, you can put them on the sheets, these
are just some suggestions by the way, you can even if you're
running a hot bath, you know and you really just want to, you know,
tell your husband or your wife, look I'm in the mood, you know,
help them to help you to get in the mood, right and you can put a
few drops of oil in the bath. Again, these have been
scientifically proven to boost your immune system. And how many
of you knew these three? Okay, there is a world more of them.
Okay, and we've just talked about a few ways that you can utilize
them. I mean, how many people like I said, you know, do spray a
little bit on their sheets. I'll tell you Subhanallah I went to
pray at a sister's house the other day, my beautiful Marilyn Masha
Allah about a color and I was on the mat and she came behind me and
sprayed.
It was actually the good from the they spray on the Kiswa in Mecca,
masha Allah lots of McElroy and honestly that smell as I prayed, I
just transported me back there. And that's the power of smells.
They can have that kind of, you know
That memory where it can send you back somewhere. So if you're, if
you've got an intimate moment with your husband or your wife and you
want to create a lasting memory, smell is the one that you want to
use, okay? Smell is such an important, important thing that
again, so important that look at the look at the perfume industry,
it is worth billions. And by the way, we were the ones who kind of,
you know, made that industry, if you don't know a bit of our
history go and find out.
But it's such an important part, you know, that we overlook it,
because we just think, okay, ah, and look at Subhanallah in the
dean, when I lost his for the women not to go out and, you know,
perfume themselves because of the attraction that it has. Okay. And
then when you look at things like, you know, had, you know, again, no
scent, not even in the soap, you know, subhanAllah because, you
know, you're almost like cutting off that, that part that could
excite something for you, you know, but when it comes to the
intimacy side, the ancient cultures really did use this, they
utilize this so much. And there are things that you could do, you
know, I mean, a lovely gift, you know, for your husband, for your
wife, Alhamdulillah, you know, all of these things just to show your
appreciation and give a token of love. So smell for me is an
important one. And I hope that you're going to put that one on
your list and utilize it in sha Allah, but isn't there. i If we
have time later, I would be happy to take some questions and answers
hopefully, in sha Allah. So yeah, I hope you've got that on your
list. All right, so let's go on with the next slide inshallah.
Taste Okay. Bismillah. So for those of you who stick around
later, I am going to be giving you the ultimate love recipe that you
can use, and
taste again, I can talk about all day long the meals that you can
cook, you know, the way that you can excite each other with foods.
But I want to talk about taste today, because food has become
something that is literally you know, you're hungry, you eat. And
that's, that's fine for one part of it, because it is there to
fuel you, right. But food, as we know, should be also our medicine,
right? It should be our medicine. So when we're sick, Allah has
power to Allah has created such beautiful remedies in the honey in
the black seed in so many fruits and vegetables out there that we
can have not just to fuel our bodies, but to heal our bodies.
Well, how about the intimacy side? Do we look at that. So when we're
making a meal for husband, or husband, you're deciding to cook a
romantic meal for your wife, which I hope some of the brothers out
there are doing? Do you stop to think, Hmm, what foods can I
choose to cook today or put on the plate, that is actually going to
increase our connection, because that's what it's about, right?
It's about increasing this pleasure, this connection, this
sacred act between a husband and a wife. And most of us are missing
that. And I spoke to somebody today Subhanallah early and they
were like, Please Denisa share your recipe, share your recipes.
But again, like I said, we can literally talk about this all day
long. There are recipes upon recipes upon recipes that you can
utilize. But I think that we are missing that trick. So I do want
to definitely share with you my recipe, but I will definitely warn
you as well. I'm going to warn you because it is something that maybe
I remember giving this recipe to somebody who had I'm not sure
about maybe about seven to eight kids and she was like an ESA No
more. No more. Please don't share anything more because I don't want
to have any more children. So RAM Allah. But seriously, this is a
way to increase the love. And
there is a problem out there. There is very high divorce in the
community. You know, and I know this because of my work. I know
this because of the community support that I do. It's not just
me thinking oh, you know, there's a high level there is a higher
level. There is a lot of intimacy problems. There was brothers that
just literally want to get second wives because they have not been
satisfied. Subhanallah you know, I'm just literally putting it out
there. So
This is important to save communities because it isn't just
about saving that couple, you have got the children, it affects the
communities, it affects the look of the Muslims, you know,
subhanAllah, you know, everybody knows that shaved down, this is
the one that he tries to do, he tries to split up couples. And
sometimes with couples, sometimes yes, we get the financial problems
that you get, you know, you may get
many different
issues. But when you have an intimate intimacy issue, this is
something that, you know, we should be seeking to fix, and not
just fixing, with talking, okay, fixing with actually trying to
make it better. So if you know, that maybe, you know, you're not
so attracted to your husband, there are ways that you can
literally help, you know, increase your own libido, so that it
becomes a bit more pleasurable also for you, you know,
subhanAllah this is something, again, that I see. And I advise my
patients, and I say to them, Listen, you know, have you been
doing this? And I would say 19 98% of the time, they will say no, we
haven't thought about that, and we haven't tried it, or why haven't
you Subhan Allah, you know, just the same way as if you're sick,
you will go out there and seek medication. Like I said, Allah
subhanaw taala with his, you know, absolute mercy, you know,
subhanAllah has provided these things for us, so that we can
enjoy it. But it can, you know, it can kind of heal us, it can make
us better, it can keep us together. SubhanAllah. So I hope
that this is something that, you know, you're going to be putting
on your list in sha Allah, I am honestly, brother, Gabriel, I'm
trying to be as poised as possible. But this is
something like I said, for me personally, you know, I've wanted
to talk about this for so long. Because it is an issue, I am
looking at 18 year old girls who have been married four times, I am
looking at people that are just literally divorcing because of
this one thing, you know, and if we don't openly talk about it as a
community, then we can't fix it. And again, for our young
generation, who have been now exposed to a very sexualized
culture, you know, it has changed. I again, talked about this over 20
years ago, when I saw how the clothes for the children were
being shortened. You know, everything was becoming, you know,
it was it was ridiculous. I remember, my, my eldest daughter,
you know, they, they were taking away the seating arrangements in
schools, and they wanted them to see boy girl, boy girl, because
they didn't want them to group into their, you know, the sexes,
because they were literally trying to take away their furniture.
And that was 22 years ago. You know, so there isn't there is
issues out there. Like I said, we are exposed, you know, the TV, the
social media, the fact that there are, you know, a lot of people
just don't have any shame anymore. I'm sure you see it. Right. You
know, I'm mean, being in the UK. It's like, where do you put your
head? You know, as a woman, let alone the men having to lower
their gazes, you know, where did they were? And how did they walk,
you know, with these women that have no shame in exposing a bodily
you know, parts SubhanAllah. It is a it's a big issue. It's a big
fitna. And, but yet Alhamdulillah, what has allowed given us, He has
given us first and foremost, the hijab, which protects us right?
Alhamdulillah from the outside world, but he's also given us, you
know, the encouragement for beautification for our spouse and
our loved ones. SubhanAllah. Right. So it doesn't mean to say
just because you wear your hijab, right, and your job isn't your
eBay is or your third job, that that's it for you. Okay, that when
you come home, you just throw it all off and you get in your
pajamas, absolutely no way. Okay? And as much as I want to go in and
talk about that side, but if you do, join our VIP section, I will
go into details in sha Allah, okay? But this Allah has given us
the perfect package, right? We go out and we're protected from the
outside world. But when we come inside, this is our sacred space.
And for the husband and wife when they go to their quarters. That's
the even more sacred space and we need it. We need it to shoot us
away from every madness out there on the bed.
All boards on the TV screens, you know, just walking down the
streets on the public transports you name it, right? We need this.
Okay, so let's, let's create this, like I said sacred place that we
can share this intimacy in Sharla and make it the best. Don't just
make it that slap up meal of mashed potatoes. I don't even know
why I'm using mashed potatoes and peas and a bit of cod, I don't
know. But let's make it that gourmet meal. Let's take the time
because there's Baraka in it. Okay. And the beautiful Baraka
that comes from it is also the fact that, you know, it's the
procreation, it's the children Subhanallah Okay, now, are we
ready to share this?
Are we ready to share this recipe? Bismillah Let's share this last
bit of recipe at the hope that we can
share it. Okay, so here is an haces secret. Love Potion?
Bismillah. Okay, so what have we got on this list? We have
watermelon. We have pomegranate. We have red ginseng. We have maca.
And we have that beautiful saffron that we talked about there. So
look, we talked about saffron earlier, because it was part of
the smell. But here, we also have it as part of the taste Subhana
Allah, okay. And then you've got half a cup of watermelon juice.
watermelon juice on its own, by the way is just literally like a
powerhouse, let alone mixing it with all the rest. Okay, so the
watermelon juice, I mean, again, you know, for the men, I think the
watermelon juice, this is the most important. So women, if there's
any women out there, and you've got tired husbands and you want to
just slip something into his drink, don't give him a Diet Coke
or, you know,
a cup of tea or coffee, give him some watermelon juice. Okay, Mrs.
Miller, and pomegranate it is a fruit that our beloved Prophet
peace be upon him loved. And if you look at it, and you open it
up, you can see it's like jewels already. It's so beautiful, right?
Hamdulillah. So again, don't take the seeds out, utilize the seed
to, again, the pomegranate, you know, subhanAllah I could talk
about this so much, but pomegranate actually has so many
medicinal properties that we are missing. Maybe, for those of you
who want to join the VIP, I can delve into this a bit more. But I
want to talk about red ginseng, this is very powerful. Not only
something to increase the libido, but actually it relaxes you too.
So it has that kind of cool effect. Okay, so it has that so if
your husband or your wife is coming home and they're really
stressed and tense from whether it's work or the children, or just
the you know, whatever's going on in life, if you want to help, you
know, decrease the stress, read jinxing is something that we have,
I'd love to know if anybody has ever tried any of these as well
because, you know, for me, I don't see enough people, you know, going
out and, you know, taking the effort to make these things and
that can help us in Sharla, Maca is very popular, you can go into
your health shops and get that and I actually obviously put down the
amount as well because you don't want to overdo it. Okay, we don't
want to,
we want you to
you know, have your pleasure Alhamdulillah then we want you to
go to bed and get up for Fudger. Right, inshallah.
And then you've got again, like I said, Your saffron, so literally,
it is throwing all of these into a blender. If you haven't got a
blender, you can always use a pestle and mortar and crushed them
and then strain them you want to strain it, okay, and then you
drink it, okay? In sha Allah, the saffron, you could, you know, kind
of leave, you could put a bid on top, try and make it fancy, get a
nice glass, don't put it in, you know, in a mug for instance,
right? Because then you're gonna kill the mood, okay, you want to
make it look nice. You can you can slice a bit of a strawberry and
put it on the side of the glass. You know, make it look nice. Don't
just, you know, here you go. Here you go have this shot. You know, I
went on a kind of a webinar today. And then, you know, I was told
that this is going to help us Bismillah drinkin No, bring it
with love. Bring it and think the ancient worlds you know
Subhanallah they had these beautiful gauntlets you know?
Typically we think that they had wine in it but why? Why doesn't
have to
Be wine, you know they can have these beautiful juices that Allah
subhanaw taala has provided with us. And imagine bringing that to
your husband. And then imagine doing what our beloved Prophet
peace be upon him and his beloved wife, Aisha radiallahu anhu. And
did you know by kind of turning it and you know, you having a drink
first and then you turn around so that your your husband or your
wife slips? Can all of these small things, create intimacy, create
connections, and shut a lot, but in the lab? I think I have spoken
too much already. Haven't I nema. So I don't know if we have any
time for questions. Do we my lovely.
Do we have some time for questions? Yes, the reason I'm
changing the screen is not because you've gone over time or anything.
It's because I know that people want to see you. So when we have
the slides, we only see you in the corner of the screen. So I know
that people want to see you. But just one of the things that is
coming up for me, as I'm hearing you I'm listening to you is, as
you mentioned this these ancient arts, it's almost like there are
these ancient feminine arts that have been lost. Yes, definitely.
So tell us about the VIP.
And also, we want to know where the sister and Isa is going to be
doing any courses or coaching or any support for sisters to
reconnect with their feminine, you know, through the senses, but tell
us about the class inshallah. Okay, wonderful. So, I'm going to
put you on, I'm going to give the screen to you, because I think you
need to see this from
Hamdulillah. Okay, so yes, first and foremost, with the VIP, we
will be going through all five senses so that you get that whole
picture, you could already see how the saffron played its part in two
parts already. Right. So it was in the smell, and then it was in the
taste one already. Now I'm going to give you a much more broader
scope of that, so that you can actually implement because
remember what I said earlier, it's about implementation. And for the
sisters. And I know this is a topic that you know, a lot of
people are struggling with, you know, I have got some courses a
handler, I've even got an interactive one, where we will
come together and make these beautiful remedies. And these
oils, you know, imagine some beautiful massage oils that have
got specific scents in that you can utilize and use and I can show
you techniques on how you can relax your husband, etc. So it's
you know, because a lot of people they don't just learn by
listening, right? We have so many different teaching methods, but an
interactive class where you can make dishes, you can see us
chopping you do we do it together, okay. And we really get stuck in.
There's also exercises as well, this is a big one. Because, again,
a lot of us with kids, we lose it, we put on weight. This doesn't
have to be the case. I want the women especially to feel like
queens, I want them to feel like Neff Atari, and Nefertiti and
Cleopatra and even more so, you know, subhanAllah the gems are
Allah subhanaw taala has made us feel beautiful again, okay? Why?
Because you're doing it for the sake of Allah. And then you are
serving your husband in the most beautiful way. Okay, so it's going
to ensure a lot increase that love, increase that connection,
keep your families together. And this is important, you know, I
kind of see it as we are counteracting the shaytaan and his
plots, you know, to split the families up, no, let's increase
that love. Let's have those marriages that last for years and
years and years and then continue into Jannah in sha Allah. Okay.
And we can do this by preserving this sacred act in sha Allah, this
beautiful, you know, there's so much information out there. It's
like, where do you start? Okay, I've already condensed years of
it. And, you know, taking what I learned before Islam as well, and
bringing that in because I, you know, I had, I had role models and
they were cheeky role models, but they're not halal for us to watch
now, you know, so I've kind of Islamize sized it all, made it
halal for us and made it into something that I hope that I can
share with the world, getting our young, beautiful sisters ready for
marriage, okay, or maybe you've been married already. And you
know, you've kind of lost that and you want to Yeah, you know, I need
to you know, have that confidence again, okay, there's nothing
wrong. We are feminine human beings, you know,
Subhan Allah, and we should embrace that femininity, but how?
With the five senses, it is just like a scent. It's literally like
fireworks and Hamdulillah. So, yeah, I hope that I've got some
people here today that are going to join this VIP class in sha
Allah, masha Allah, we've had a great take up on the VIP class
already. So I'm expecting loads, loads more Inshallah, before the
workshop kicks off. And I just want to thank you for, you know,
being available to us, and reminding us of some of these
things that as you said, in today's modern world, we've just
lost so much, you know, when you mentioned about the beauty of
Alhambra and you know, just the ancient cultures, the end all
sorts of cultures, there was this sense of
really slowing down and taking time and enjoying so many aspects
of life that today, we just take for granted. We want to rush it we
want to microwave everything we want to get Uber Eats you know
it's a quick fix for everything. And I love how you've invited us
to slow down in this area particularly us as women to pour
into this right to be creative with this to to take our time with
it to put some thought into it like you said, you know, the
mashed potatoes and the peas
versus the gourmet meal
expecting loads of people on the on the workshop, would you say
that the workshop is more appropriate for sisters only or is
it open to everyone? What do you like us to do? Okay, so the actual
workshops itself, the VIP VIP one, yeah, we can open that up to
brothers as well, that's fine. But the interactive one, of course,
that's the sisters only in sha Allah. Fair enough, Mashallah. So
to just tell everybody where they can find you, please and your
social handles, if you have a website, tell them how they can
reach you. hamdulillah so I'm actually as you know, name I'm not
very good at this social stuff, but it's just my name and Nisa
kissoon A n is a nearly forgot how to spell my name there. I was in
this kind of lucky pleasure, God, Allah and Isa kissoon. And you can
find me on Instagram, I am on Facebook as well. I'm not really
great on the socials. But I'm gonna make an effort in sha Allah
because, like I said, to be given this opportunity to come back. And
to share this is you know, I'm super excited. It is definitely
one of the answers to my two hours Subhanallah and then yes, I do
have a website as well. So on my website is Maya, M, a y, y
a.co.uk. Okay, and there, you can find stuff about, you know, the
hijama and other things that I teach and there's a lovely free
ebook as well grab your free ebook. This is something that I've
been doing for years. This is like my 20 odd years compiled into one
book and I've made it really simple. So it's all about health
and how to keep healthy Prevention and Building your immune system,
you know, distressing, etc. Grab it, it's free while it's free.
Bismillah rubbish. It's a gift in Shalabh isn't Allah, masha Allah I
love this. And actually, we have some questions here. So people
have been listening and very attentively Hamdulillah.
One of the VIP said, I sense the speaker has a liking for organic
food. Do you recommend a supplier for the exotic fruits?
You know what, definitely, when it comes to the things that I've
mentioned today, especially on the list, please get the organics
because like I said, unfortunately,
you know, there, there's a lot of fakes out there. Okay. I've seen
it myself. It's ridiculous. And you so you wouldn't want for
instance, to be going to get something like red jinxing? And
then you finding out that it's been grown in human feces, right.
So Pamela, you need to kind of keep the organic. And actually, if
you do come on the VIP, I'll be giving some links away as well in
Sharla, so that you can get safe stuff. Because, you know, I'm
really
particular about our foods and what we're consuming the amount of
pesticides, you know, and I know that a lot of people will say,
Well, I can't afford it. Well, actually, if we cut back on
certain things, we don't need to be eating large amounts of food
anyway. And if you prioritize, especially your dairy, you know,
and you're, you know, try as much as you can, with the open fruits
of ones that are exposed like the strawberries and stuff like that.
They take a lot of,
of pesticides in and then you're just going to be then ingesting
them and it's not going to be good for you. So yes to that question.
Just try to be as organic as
possible. And remember, we're not just talking about foods with
regards to even this topic in terms of, you know,
intimacy, you really want to be careful with what you're washing
your body with SubhanAllah. And making sure that that hasn't got a
lot of chemicals in it because it will just literally seep through
and go into your bloodstream. And then you'll have to all come to me
for hijama to be the toxin clean. So well, Allah, I'm trying to save
you. Lila.
Thank you so much for that, because that's a very, very good
point. And another super observation here. One of our VIP
says he likes your conception or she or he likes your conception of
the sacred space, and inner sanctum do you recommend cutlery
and crockery that couples use specifically as a precursor for
sensual atmosphere, instead of just using your ordinary daily
stuff?
I personally go to the sauna. You know, the touch. Remember, the
touch is one, and I'm happy that you're a VIP, because I'm going to
really go into the touch. But why would you use cutlery? Hey, can
look nice if you haven't, and you can use your fingers. Like
Subhanallah use your fingers cut to the chase because that touch,
you know, a minute imagine Okay, you've got a fork right? And then
you're feeding somebody. But imagine if your, your your fingers
touch just their lips just a little bit. Well, that's going to
be you know, it's hot stuff right? So Subhanallah forget the cutlery.
I say stick with the Sunnah. Make sure you've obviously cleaned and
you've got nice trimmed fingernails and etc but utilize
utilize what Allah has given us.
I like that I don't think I was expecting that and I don't think
that that whole VIP person was expecting that either Masha Allah
like we said, Guys, this this is an art form. You know, possibly we
could say in most of our communities a lost art form. So
very, very excited to dig deeper in in the VIP lesson, I will
definitely be there in sha Allah. And for those of you who have not
upgraded for VIP, it's in every email that we send you there
should be a link for you to upgrade. And if you upgrade you
can come to the workshop for free. It's a special gift to all our VIP
so we want to see all of you there in sha Allah says this has been
really enjoyable. Somebody on YouTube said that this is so
intriguing. And I think that that's what it is. It's
intriguing. Mashallah, so Zack Hello, Hayden, I hope you enjoy
the rest of the conference inshallah. And I know that this is
not going to be the last time that we see you on this channel and on
this platform, but may Allah bless you and your family with every
fear does that color clearances, nautical or fake and does awful
luck to you as well, especially for being brave enough for open up
this cop topic so that we can, you know, comfortably talk about it
with experts, or just even like you said, just open up the mindset
because people just they don't know that fast paced society that
we talked about. doesn't give us some time to reflect, to ponder
enough. So a big desire for luck and may Allah reward you and your
children and Mignon Amin and everybody else out there please do
make dua for my family and I will take it in sha Allah does that
color okay the other color