Naima B. Robert – The Hijab Connection

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The importance of individuals being protected from evil behavior and practicing sincerity is emphasized in the drive towards Islam. The "hameless nature" of actions is also discussed, which is part of our journey as Muslims. The "hameless nature" of behavior is also discussed, which is part of our journey as Muslims. The "arare" of man is also discussed, which is a step forward in society and should be respected and not just a way to judge people. The "hameless nature" of behavior is also discussed, which is part of our journey as Muslims.

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			Bismillah er salatu wa salam ala
Rasulillah Assalamu alaykum
		
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			Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh. It
gives me great pleasure to be here
		
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			making this video for you. For the
hijab Expo.
		
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			I'ma be Robert, an author and the
publisher of magazines for Muslim
		
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			women and children.
		
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			When I was asked by a nor
sisterhood to prepare a little
		
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			video about the hijab, just say
some words about the hijab and
		
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			about hair, I really wondered what
I could contribute to this
		
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			discussion. I mean, what can I say
about Hijab that hasn't been said
		
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			already 1000s of times before.
		
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			Those of you who've read my book,
from my sister's lips will be
		
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			familiar with my own journey
towards the hijab and towards
		
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			Islam.
		
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			The now sort of infamous words,
you know, when I first met
		
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			somebody who wore hijab, and
actually got up the courage to ask
		
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			them, why they wear hijab. And
that simple, simple answer that
		
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			changed my life, which was
		
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			because I want to be judged for
what I say and what I do, not what
		
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			I look like. That was the
beginning of my journey towards
		
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			Islam, and the beginning of my
journey towards hijab. But I'm not
		
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			here today to talk about how I
became a hijab wearer, how I
		
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			became a Muslim.
		
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			I would like to share with you a
few thoughts that I had on the
		
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			hijab, and I've entitled this talk
the hijab connection. Okay, I want
		
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			to look at three basic areas.
During my talk, I would like to
		
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			look at hijab as a better as an
act of worship, I would look at
		
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			the hijab, I'd like to look at
hijab as something
		
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			transformational. And I want to
look at the hijab as a source of
		
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			unity. Okay, so just for the sake
of clarity, I would like to make
		
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			it clear at this point that when
I'm talking about with hijab, I'm
		
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			actually not talking about wearing
a hijab or headscarf or clothing
		
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			or et cetera. I'm not talking
about wearing hijab, I will be
		
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			talking about observing hijab.
Because observing hijab, and hijab
		
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			in the context of this talk is not
just a headscarf or a piece of
		
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			clothing, it is a code. It is a
way of being that includes, but
		
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			it's not limited to covering
according to the Quran and the
		
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			Sunnah. So it encompasses modesty,
it encompasses humility, in
		
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			thought and deed, in the way that
we carry ourselves and the way we
		
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			relate to ourselves and to those
around us. Okay, this is this link
		
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			between the way we are on the
inside, and the way we are on the
		
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			outside as individuals. And the
way we then portray ourselves to
		
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			people around us and interact with
people around us, is what I'm
		
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			calling that hijab connection. So
first up, hijab as an act of
		
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			worship. All right, lots of people
all around the world wear hijab
		
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			for a multitude of different
reasons. It could be that that's
		
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			your culture, or that's your
tradition in your family, or that
		
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			you were told to do it or asked to
do it by members of your family.
		
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			It could be that you really like
the way it looks. It could be that
		
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			you're hanging out with a group of
girls who all wear hijab, and so
		
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			you decided to wear it too. It
could be you're having a bad hair
		
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			day, hey, these things happen.
Okay. So I'm not talking about
		
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			these various forms of wearing,
observing hijab. I want us to
		
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			focus on the rather revolutionary
idea of hijab as an act of a bed
		
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			as an act of worship, because we
know in our deen that in nama
		
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			Armello vignette, that very
actions are but by intention, so I
		
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			can cover as I'm covering now, but
if I'm covering in this way, which
		
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			you know, looks correct, and looks
very pious, masha Allah, if I
		
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			cover in this way, because I'm
evading the police, for example,
		
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			or because I don't want my face to
be seen on CCTV, do you see the
		
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			way that my intention completely
changes my action, and this is the
		
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			way it is with everything that we
do in our deen the way that we
		
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			differentiate for example, between
the hair salon and the officer
		
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			Salah is by the intention, they're
both for our cat, but before we
		
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			start praying, we make intention
that this is the heart or this is
		
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			ASA. So when hijab, I would like
us to look at the possibility of
		
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			observing hijab, as an act of
worship, with everything that that
		
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			requires, when we pray, when we
fast when we give sadaqa when we
		
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			smile at someone for the sake of
giving sadaqa all of these acts
		
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			are done with a particular thing.
Something very, very important.
		
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			And that thing is sincerity.
Sincerity, a whole US meaning that
		
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			we are doing this thing as an act
of worship in order to grow closer
		
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			to Allah subhanaw taala. Now flip
the script
		
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			it and think of hijab in that way.
We are observing hijab we're
		
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			covering, we're behaving in a way
that is modest and humble, as an
		
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			act of worship, in order to grow
closer to Allah subhanaw taala and
		
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			earn His pleasure.
		
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			What we need to understand here is
that this way of understanding
		
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			hijab serves as a protection, it
serves as a guide in lots of
		
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			different ways. I'm sure many of
you have heard the whole, you
		
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			know, the hijab as a protection,
it protects you from, you know, a
		
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			tension that you don't want,
etcetera, when you're out and all
		
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			of that, I'm not really going to
go into that, because I want to
		
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			dig a little bit deeper. And look
at how hijab, when done sincerely
		
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			for the sake of Allah, can protect
you and transform you and your
		
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			life. And one of the things that
I'd like to look at is how when we
		
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			practice and we observe hijab, for
the sake of our last panel
		
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			dialogue, it protects us not just
from any particular dangers
		
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			outside in the society at large,
but also from those things within
		
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			us that can cause us harm. To
observe hijab correctly, is the
		
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			protected from vanity,
		
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			do we protect protected from
obsessing about our appearance, to
		
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			be protected from self absorption,
from self doubt, ambiguity, all of
		
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			these things, we can be protected
from, if we observe hijab in the
		
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			correct way. Now, before I go into
the transformational nature of the
		
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			hijab, there's one thing I want to
make clear and inshallah I will
		
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			touch on it later on in the talk.
And that is that hijab is not the
		
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			goal. Hijab is not the
destination, hijab is a part of
		
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			our journey. Many, many sisters
have talked about how they maybe
		
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			started not wearing hijab, or when
they started practicing the
		
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			awareness, certain type of hijab,
and how the hijab changed over
		
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			time. This is part of our journey
as Muslims, and it's a journey
		
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			that we will continue to be on
until we take our last breath, but
		
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			it Nilla so when I talk about
hijab in this context is an act of
		
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			ibadah, I want you to know that I
am not calling you to everybody
		
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			puts on a scarf. No.
		
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			Our covering for the sake of our
last panel to Allah is part of our
		
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			a beta. And it's part of our
journey. It's part of our growth
		
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			as Muslims. And it's something
that we don't want ever to stop.
		
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			So hamdulillah if you're wearing
hijab, make sure that your hijab
		
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			is as correct as you can make it,
learn about it, become sincere
		
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			with it. Okay. And then once
you've got that, you got to keep
		
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			growing, you have to keep
improving. It doesn't just stop
		
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			once you're wearing the scarf or
wearing our bio wearing niqab.
		
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			That's it, you're a perfect
Muslim, you're done? No, this is
		
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			just part of the journey. So
that's something that I really
		
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			want to make clear. We're not
calling to the hijab as an end,
		
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			the hijab is a means to an end.
And what is that end? That end is
		
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			the pleasure of Allah subhanaw
taala. And at the end of the day,
		
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			at the end of the world, Paradise
and sha Allah.
		
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			Okay, so we've talked a little bit
about Hijab as our bio as a
		
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			burden, we've talked about how
hijab can protect us. Now, I would
		
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			like to look at the
transformational nature of the
		
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			hijab.
		
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			When we observe hijab for the sake
of Allah as an act of a banner, it
		
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			should transform us, it should
transform our thinking, our way of
		
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			life, it should transform the
awareness that we have of our
		
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			Lord, Allah subhanaw taala and our
purpose on this earth, it should
		
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			transform our actions, it should
transform the way that we respond
		
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			to ourselves, the way we look upon
ourselves, the way we treat
		
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			ourselves, and of course, the way
that we interact with others, the
		
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			way we treat others, and the way
that we are in society.
		
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			One of the things that is amazing
about observing ninja for the sake
		
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			of Allah, is that not only to
transform the way that we start to
		
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			see the world and the way that we
behave, it also is one of the
		
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			things that can cure some of the
ills that are plaguing our
		
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			society, in the especially in this
day and age, and particularly with
		
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			regards to young women and girls.
Okay, we're talking about things
		
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			like hyper sexualization, okay, if
you've watched or seen pop star or
		
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			music video lately, you will see
that this is a huge issue. And
		
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			people who are learning about and
involved in work with young
		
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			people, especially young girls are
noticing higher levels of
		
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			dissatisfaction with our bodies,
higher levels of of angst of you
		
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			know, of a feeling that we're not
good enough, okay? We're talking
		
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			about the idea that if you're not
beautiful or hot, you're
		
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			worthless. We're talking about the
idea that if you're that Your
		
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			looks are more important than your
thoughts or your achievements.
		
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			We're talking about being defined
by society's definition of beauty,
		
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			the hijab as
		
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			An act of a bad should cure us,
cure us completely of these ills.
		
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			Because we are taking our guidance
from the One who created us a
		
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			timeless law,
		
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			a law that came down with mercy
and will permeate our lives with
		
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			mercy. So hamdulillah what we have
here is, it's a weapon really, it
		
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			is, it's a weapon, it's like
armor. Okay, when you are wearing
		
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			hijab, and you know that
hamdulillah I'm wearing hijab,
		
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			Allah told me to do this as a
command from my Lord. This is an
		
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			honor for me, that is part of my
dignity. And this is a part of who
		
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			I am. And I am free to develop
other parts of who I am. We should
		
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			never feel that we have to compare
ourselves physically to the latest
		
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			cover of Cosmo or, or or magazine
or any of these things. We
		
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			shouldn't be looking at our bodies
and saying, Well, why don't I look
		
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			like Miley Cyrus? Or why don't I
look like Nicki Minaj these are
		
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			not our role models. And the hijab
reminds us of that in sha Allah.
		
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			So this is one of the things that
I feel really the message needs to
		
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			get out there to all those young
girls, that the hijab is
		
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			empowering.
		
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			What you see out there, the music
videos and the supermodels and the
		
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			kind of women that they choose to
put on magazine covers, etc, is
		
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			dis empowering women. It's
disempowering girls, it is
		
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			damaging our self esteem, it is
damaging our idea about ourselves.
		
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			The Hijab is armor against the
onslaught. Okay, so I want you to
		
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			take that message out there when
you go out there. Okay, people
		
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			need to free themselves from those
shackles are girls are young women
		
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			need to free themselves from
comparing themselves to an
		
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			unrealistic ideal that is being
sold right now, as the ideal
		
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			woman? Ain't nobody got time for
that. Okay. So what we're talking
		
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			about is
		
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			the hijab being transformational.
And from what I've seen, and what
		
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			I experienced, I'll give you my
own personal experience. Observing
		
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			hijab for the sake of Allah should
make you bold, it should make you
		
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			confident, it should make you
brave. It should make you
		
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			determined in all things that will
lead you to the pleasure of Allah.
		
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			Now, I don't want you to get me
wrong and think that I'm talking
		
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			about being brash, or being loud
or offensive or this type of
		
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			behavior. That type of behavior is
not befitting from any Muslim,
		
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			male or female. But what I'm
talking about here is a quiet
		
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			confidence, a self assuredness,
and it comes from knowing that
		
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			you're doing the right thing. And
that you're standing for something
		
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			that is way bigger than yourself,
way bigger than us. You're
		
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			standing for and you're upholding
something that is honorable, and
		
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			that is true. And that is a
command from the One who created
		
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			every one and everything. And that
you are standing firm in the face
		
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			of a society that is calling you
the opposite way that should make
		
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			you feel even stronger.
		
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			So what we're seeing right now is
we're saying yes, to hijab, yes to
		
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			hire, yes to modesty, no. To
flaunting our looks no to
		
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			flaunting our bodies, no to
obsessing with our looks. No to
		
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			treating our bodies like
commodities, no to dangerous
		
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			dieting, no to bulimia, no to
anorexia, no to hating the bodies
		
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			that Allah Subhana Allah gave us
take that message with you in sha
		
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			Allah.
		
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			Now, the next thing I want to
address Charla before I finish up
		
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			is the issue of hijab and unity.
Okay. I want to make it clear
		
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			right now, that wearing hijab does
not make you a better Muslim on by
		
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			default. Okay. Yes, it is a
command from Allah. Yes, it is
		
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			wajib in sha Allah. But just
because you observe hijab does not
		
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			make you better necessarily than
the sister who doesn't wear it.
		
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			And why do I say this? Because
there is more to our Ibadah than
		
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			the outer, there is more to our
worship, then just covering okay,
		
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			we know that Allah is the only one
who knows the true state of any
		
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			person. So we cannot allow
arrogance or pride or judgment to
		
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			enter our hearts. If a Lost Planet
Allah has guided us and made it
		
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			easy for us to observe hijab
because make no mistake, our
		
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			ability to wear hijab is a mercy
from Allah subhanaw taala our
		
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			strength and our confidence and
our conviction is a mercy from
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala we should
never take that for granted. And
		
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			we should never look down on and
judge people who don't have that
		
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			conviction yet, who who have Allah
has guided has not yet guided to
		
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			this particular act of worship,
okay. So that's one of the things
		
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			that we need to do is to stay
humble. Okay, stay down to earth
		
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			and respect each other. The Hijab
should not be a reason to divide.
		
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			It should not be something to
create disunity amongst our
		
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			sisters. We should never use the
hijab as a tool to judge people.
		
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			You see them from the outside and
you say good Muslim, bad Muslim
		
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			based on their hijab. No, because
while we want good for our Sisters
		
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			in Islam, we must be very careful
not to judge
		
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			each other based on appearances.
And it goes both ways. We know we
		
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			all know, those who don't observe
hijab judge the ones who do those
		
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			who do we observe a job or judging
the ones who don't. And in the
		
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			end, we don't get anywhere. We
have to develop a mutual respect
		
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			based on love of Allah and love of
Rasul, and that we're all trying,
		
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			and that this is a journey, and
that none of us is guaranteed
		
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			paradise.
		
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			Sometimes you find that
		
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			things are not as black and white
as you as you think, as you first
		
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			thought. Okay, so as we're calling
to hijab, as we're encouraging
		
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			sisters, to, you know, to take on
hijab as a lifestyle here as a
		
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			lifestyle, we must remember the
most important thing, and that is
		
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			sincerity. And if there's only one
thing that you take from this
		
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			talk, I need it to be that, that
observing hijab is an act of a
		
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			Buddha. And like any other act of
a Buddha, there are two conditions
		
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			for it to be accepted one that is
in accordance with the Quran and
		
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			the Sunnah. And to that it is done
sincerely for the sake of Allah,
		
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			Allah. I ask that Allah accepts
our hijab, whatever level it's on,
		
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			and it helps us to increase and
become closer to Him and to better
		
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			our hijab in whatever way we can.
I asked that he gives us success
		
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			in our efforts to call to this
Deen that he gives us success in
		
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			being able to actualize the beauty
of this deen and to call people to
		
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			it through our tongues through our
deeds through our interactions
		
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			with people in every way. And I
ask that he accepts your
		
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			activities this weekend as an act
of a Buddha and that many, many
		
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			people are guided through this and
all the other talks and all the
		
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			other efforts that you're making.
And my final call is I call it
		
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			Callie Heather or staford. Allah
Assalamu alaykum Warahmatullahi
		
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			Wabarakatuh