Naima B. Robert – Stop Using Your Children Against Your Spouse REAL TALK

I think we are facing a real problem in the community, in that

we have become totally self centered. And it shows up in every

area of our lives, whether it's in the husband's role, the wife's

role, the ex husband, the ex wife, in laws, everything is about

ourselves and what we want and what we want to make the other

person feel. And certainly, we've been hearing so much more about

children being used as weapons, by their parents, often by their

mothers, when two adults are no longer on the same page, when

they're no longer committed to each other, it can be very, very

difficult to put those feelings aside and focus on the well being

of the children. But that is what we must do.

Put your feelings aside, your hurt, your pain, your

disappointment, your ego, your pride, to the side, and make

intention for these children that are lost planet Allah has blessed

you with.

Well, Allah He, the fate of our kids, lies so heavily in our

hands. And as parents as the adults in the situation, we have

to come back to the reality that these children are a manner that

they are a gift on loan to us. And every decision that we make,

especially if there is something as devastating to children as a

breakup, every decision that we make will impact those children,

often for life. So the brothers and sisters who are at war right

now, using their children to hurt their ex spouse, please take a

moment to remember these children and their rights upon you. And ask

yourself, what is the lesson that I want to teach my children in

this moment, in this period this difficult time? What is the

example that I want to set for them? Because at the end of the

day, our children have to know that we love them regardless, and

that we prioritize them and their well being and they akhira

regardless of what's happened with our partner with our spouse, and

may Allah make it easy for those couples who are at war and using

their children in between this fight. May Allah make it easy for

us to remove those feelings of hurt and pain and allow us to stop

putting our children at risk by making them pay the price from

when we as adults have not managed to make our marriages work like it

does