Naima B. Robert – Sincerity Episode 01 A Sister’s Ramadan Na’ima B. Robert

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The speakers discuss the importance of showing up and bringing oneself to worship, as it is crucial for individuals to be mindful of their actions. They stress the importance of intention and renewing it for everything, rather than just focusing on what is in control. The speakers also advise sister to not be surprised by accomplishments and to focus on their unique job and skills, while reminding them to not be comparison friendly.

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			Bismillah wa salatu salam ala
Rasulillah Salam Alaikum
		
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			Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh and
Welcome to Season Two of a sisters
		
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			Ramadan. I'm your sister Nyima be
Robert, and I'm honored that
		
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			you've joined me today. This show
is all about answering one central
		
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			question. How can we as Muslim
women use this Ramadan to grow and
		
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			heal from what has been an
unprecedented year in our
		
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			collective experience? How can we
as Muslim women renew and
		
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			replenish our Eman and our
spirits, no matter what is going
		
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			on in the world around us. The
purpose of this show is to share a
		
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			set of five skills that are
essential for personal growth and
		
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			healing and how we can best
practice them through the rituals
		
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			of Ramadan. Inshallah, this will
offer you a perspective that will
		
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			be beneficial long after the month
has passed. In today's show, we
		
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			will be looking at the power of
showing up with a pure intention.
		
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			At this stage, it's always a
moment of thanks Alhamdulillah
		
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			that we have reached another
Ramadan, and Hamdulillah. Because
		
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			there are so many who are expected
to be here and are no longer with
		
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			us. And if this life in general,
and this year has taught us
		
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			anything, it is the importance of
showing up. I've used the term
		
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			showing up. But what is showing
up? Well, showing up is to be
		
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			present and mindful in your life
as it is right now. It means
		
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			bringing your full self to
whatever role you've been asked to
		
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			play. And there can be fewer times
more important than showing up in
		
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			Ramadan. So my dear sister, what
does showing up in Ramadan look
		
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			like? Well, it's about being
intentional. It's about being
		
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			present. It's about being mindful.
And if I'm honest, it's about
		
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			truly being grateful for the fact
that we've reached this point,
		
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			that we have the ability to
worship Allah in this special way,
		
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			and making the most of that
opportunity and not letting any of
		
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			it slip through our fingers. So
one of the things that we have
		
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			been taught in our deen that we
are all well aware of, but it's
		
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			always worth reiterating, is the
importance of intention.
		
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			throughout our day in Ramadan,
those of you who are mothers, you
		
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			know what I'm talking about, we
have our own responsibilities and
		
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			our own roles that we play, as
well as the activator that we wish
		
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			to perform. And so, intention
comes in, to be able to transform
		
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			everything that you do on a daily
basis to an act of worship. The
		
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			Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam said, Verily, deeds are
		
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			only by intentions, and virtually
every person will have only what
		
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			they intended, whoever emigrated
to get something in the world or
		
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			to marry a woman, then his
emigration is for whatever he
		
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			emigrated for. And so I want to
remind you, as you go through your
		
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			day, to make your intention for
every act that you do, whether
		
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			it's a Bader in the strictest
sense, or just taking care of your
		
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			responsibilities, I want to share
with you a personal growth skill
		
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			that inshallah will help you to
show up much, much stronger than
		
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			you ever have before in this
Ramadan. And that is focusing on
		
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			what you have control over. Now,
many of us may be aware that there
		
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			is such a thing as a circle of
concern, and a circle of
		
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			influence. And I'd love to share
with you the difference between
		
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			these two. The circle of concern
is the things that you in general
		
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			are interested in you care about,
you may even be passionate about,
		
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			but you have no personal
involvement with and no power to
		
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			actually change. That's the circle
of concern. The circle of
		
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			influence, on the other hand, is a
bit tighter than that. The Circle
		
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			of Influence includes the people
who love respect and trust you
		
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			that could be three people 30 or 3
million depending on who you are.
		
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			The skill I would like to share
with you today my sister is
		
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			focusing your intention and your
energy on your circle of
		
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			influence.
		
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			At no other time in our history,
have we been reminded of Allah's
		
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			power and Allah's plan?
		
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			And if that is the case, and if it
is true, that there are things
		
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			happening around us that we
		
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			You have no control over that
there are tests that will come our
		
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			way that we cannot ward off there.
My Reminder to you is this. Focus
		
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			on the things you can control.
Focus on your circle of influence.
		
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			This Ramadan says, I want you to
show up, show up for yourself,
		
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			show up for the people around you
show up for those who you can
		
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			actually influence and bring good
to on a daily basis. And my
		
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			challenge to you is to renew your
intention daily, throughout the
		
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			day for everything. Don't let your
deed slip through your fingers.
		
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			Because I know if you're anything
like most sisters, I know, you all
		
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			showing up every day, you're here
for your family, you're here for
		
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			the people around you. You're
trying like we all are. Let that
		
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			trying be Hoja for you, let it be
approved for you. Renew your
		
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			intention, make it purely for the
sake of Allah, let it count for
		
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			your akhira
		
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			if you're able to do that in sha
Allah, you will find that your day
		
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			becomes a day of bringing in the
hair from every every corner of
		
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			your life. And that's really what
I would like for you to fix your
		
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			mind on and make your intention to
do that for the rest of Ramadan. I
		
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			hope you can do that for me.
		
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			Now, my dear sister, you may be
wondering, well, how can I renew
		
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			my intention for everything? How
can I keep showing up even when
		
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			everything is on me and I feel so
many responsibilities. And I feel
		
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			like I'm just not doing a good
enough job.
		
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			Well, you're not the only one.
Because many, many, many sisters
		
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			feel inadequate in the roles that
they play.
		
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			If I'm honest, we can be our own
worst critics. We compare
		
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			ourselves to others, we try to
measure up to an unrealistic
		
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			standard. And we end up making
ourselves feel less than worthy.
		
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			Is that something that's ever
occurred to you. And you may be
		
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			thinking, I'm not like this sister
or that sister I don't have what
		
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			she has, I don't have the
opportunities that she has, or the
		
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			skills or the capabilities. But
this is my reminder to you,
		
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			wherever you are in your life
right now. Or Lost Planet Allah
		
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			has chosen that place for you. And
he has equipped you with the
		
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			skills and the talents and
knowledge that you need to be able
		
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			to show up in that role. And this
is regardless of your
		
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			circumstances. So my advice to
you, my dear sister is do not
		
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			compare yourself to anyone else.
You have a goal, and that is to
		
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			return to Allah subhanaw taala as
the very best version of yourself
		
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			having invested in your Acura,
that's your lane, stick to your
		
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			lane. What are your
responsibilities in that lane?
		
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			What role do you play? What skills
do you bring to your unique job
		
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			description, show up for that make
intention to do whatever it is
		
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			that you've been asked by this
life to do to the very best of
		
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			your ability with a pure intention
to please Allah. There is so much
		
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			to be said for a person who is
aware of their role aware of their
		
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			destination and brings their full
self to whatever role it is that
		
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			they're playing. And I want that
to be you. So stop comparing
		
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			yourself with others. Stop
criticizing yourself and being
		
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			hard on yourself and take
		
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			take heart from the fact that if
Allah has brought me to this, he
		
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			can bring me through this and make
intention to do it in the very
		
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			best way for the sake of Allah.
Just Zack allow Hayden for joining
		
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			me for this episode. If you
benefited from anything I shared
		
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			today and hamdulillah please be
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			Subhana Allah humara Barnaby
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			illa and we're stuck through Luca
when a taboo like see you in the
		
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			next episode when we will be
discussing the power of gratitude
		
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			and reframing our perspective