Naima B. Robert – Reflections

Guys.

I'm back,

on a live stream.

It's been a while,

and I thought I'd jump on here because

I wanted

to have a little chat

about some of the things that have been

going on.

Looking to reflect on the amazing tour, deep

in the dunya tour

that, I just came home from,

with a group of amazing sisters.

And,

you know, it was

built as a sisters only space.

And in that space,

we had a chance to address the audience,

whatever reminder we wanted to give the audience,

and then they had a chance to ask

questions.

And they were no holds barred questions. They

were

anonymous

so people could ask whatever they liked, and

they did. Okay. Trust and believe they did.

So we got a chance to kind of

take the temperature

of the sisters in the room, of the

types of issues that they are,

struggling with.

Some we expected,

and I'll be honest, some we did not

expect.

And, I'm very, very grateful to 26, the

organizers who gave us that platform to be

able to address some of the sisters' concerns,

to help them through some of the challenges.

Because,

look, at the end of the day,

if they were bringing those questions to us,

then they're not the only ones. And especially

because some questions came up in every single

city that we went to.

So if you're watching, guys, just put put

me a salaam.

If you're a person who used to watch

the livestreams when we were doing them before

last year or the year before last. Oh

my goodness.

I think the the livestream

era on this channel

was 2022,

I wanna say. Yes. So if you used

to watch the livestreams in 2022,

pop a salaam in the comments.

Let us know that you're here from back

in the day.

I'm sure some of you, your names, I

will remember them because at the time, we

used to have regular people attending the livestreams,

where we were talking about marriage and gender

and, you know, all that fluffy stuff that

everybody likes. So

do put a salam in the chat. Let

me know where you're listening from.

Like I said, I haven't done a livestream

in a very long time, but I did

think that it was worthwhile

because I just had this experience, got to

meet all these sisters from different parts of

the country,

and to hear the, you know, hear the

concerns that they had. So at the moment,

I am thinking of going a couple of

directions with my YouTube channel.

One of them is that I want to

create content,

based on some of the topics that we

used to address in the live streams.

Marriage is a continual

topic.

I don't think that things have changed that

much,

from 2022.

The pre marriage conversations are still, you know,

hot topic.

The marriage conversations are still a hot topic.

You know, how to get married, how to

stay married,

you know, expectations, etcetera. I don't know about

you guys, but they seem to have they

seem to be continuing.

I think that a few things have shifted

in the culture,

with regards to, you know, the conversations about

feminism and red pill and all of that

kind of thing. There have been some shifts

in the culture, So that's really interesting to

me.

I think that Muslims are

waking up, okay, to the value of some

things that we may have discarded at a

certain point.

But I think that we're also equally struggling

with the impact of the things that everybody

else is struggling with. Right?

The illusion of choice, for example. Right?

You know, the the types of images that

we are, you know, fed in the media

about what a good relationship looks like, etcetera.

So all of those things seem to me

to be, you know,

seem to be pretty standard.

And based on the conversations that we had,

you know, last week, there are still some

of the same challenges.

So

I'm hoping, inshallah,

that

I can bring something of value to the

table, maybe review some books, maybe have some

guests on, maybe open up the mic for

people to discuss certain things.

I'll see. I'll see. The most important thing

for me is that the channel is beneficial,

and that people

get something out of the content and that

that content is a witness for me on

your mokayama and not a witness against me.

That's the most important thing. So you guys

let me know,

in the comments

what kind of

what kind of material you'd like us to

cover on the channel.

What have you missed from the channel, if

anything?

Are there any guests that you would like

me to interview if we were going to

do another season of the marriage conversation? We

did 2 seasons,

And I'm in talks with a sponsor to

potentially do a 3rd season.

So that's another thing that's interesting.

But I just think that this stuff,

it's what it it impacts us on a

day to day basis,

in terms of relationship,

in terms of the family.

The marriage and the quality of the marriage

impacts the, you know, the the the whole

vibe of the family. Right? And that impacts

the children.

The model

that has been shown to the children

impacts them and it impacts their choices moving

forward.

So I don't think marriage is one of

those topics that we will ever be able

to talk enough about,

because it is so central to our lived

experience. Right? And it may not be one

of the most glamorous topics, and certainly people

would prefer to talk about other things. But,

essentially,

if we can get ourselves right

and through getting ourselves right can get our

relationships and our marriages right,

then we have made a huge investment

in

the next generation

and the future of the Muslim Ummah and

the world, to be honest.

We need more healthy homes.

We need more children coming from healthy homes.

We need girls coming from healthy homes. We

need boys coming from healthy homes. We need

those girls and boys

to come together and create more healthy homes.

Right? That's how we heal society.

That's basically how it works. You know, if

everybody is coming from a broken home, a

dysfunctional home, a toxic home, or just simply

an unhappy home

an a dysregulated

home, then you've got unhappy, dysregulated boys, unhappy

dysregulated

girls.

Okay? Wounded,

broken,

toxic boys and girls

who somehow find each other and then basically

we recreate their toxicity

in the next generation.

And I think that we can

change that.

I genuinely believe we can change that or

at the very least be part of that

change.

We can break that cycle. Right? We don't

have

to live out this script.

And

that's really as I said to you guys,

you know, people have asked me on the

channel, are you pro? You go for the

you know, you always decide with the brothers

or, you know, you always take the sister's

side or whatever the case may be. And

I've told you guys before, I am not

pro men, pro women, pro brothers, pro sisters.

I'm pro family.

And my my my core

my core concern

at the heart of that family is the

children

because they're innocent in all of this. Right?

They are innocent in all of this, and

whatever madness we put them through, they're gonna

have to go through because they don't have

a choice. So I advocate for the family,

and I advocate for the children and the

welfare of the children. And us as men

and women, as brothers and sisters, husbands and

wives, we just have to grow up, and

we have to do the right thing for

the sake of, you know, our future as

an, as a world. Right? So

that is me rabbiting on. Like I said,

I'm out of the out of practice with

the whole livestream thing. So if you guys

have any comments, you can put them in

the chat.

We'll be happy to to to kind of

flag them up or answer any questions that

you may have. Otherwise, thank you so much

for joining me on here. I know that

if we make this a regular thing, we're

gonna have more people on here like we

used to back in the day. But whatever

is. If it's necessary, if it's needed, if

there is an appetite and a demand for

it, then, Bismillah, we're here to serve. If

there isn't, then because YouTube has got a

lot of videos that you guys could be

watching. So I appreciate you taking the time

to join me on this live and any

other live or video that I put out

there. I definitely appreciate it. Masha'Allah.

So with that being said, and as I

I can't even talk for more than 10

minutes,

But inshallah, I hope that that's a little

taste in saying

a to everybody. I'm still alive. I'm still

here. Okay? I'm still, you know, doing my

thing. So,

I will pray istikhara. And if I do

decide to come back to YouTube,

on a more regular basis and back to

live stream, etcetera,

then you will be sure to know because

most of you are my subscribers.

So, we'll see you then. But in the

meantime, leave your comments and let me know

what you wanna hear, who you wanna hear

it from, and we'll do our best to

make it happen.