Naima B. Robert – Muslim Men Must Maintain a Masculine Frame IS THAT SO TMC E.7 Clip

And no man worth

his salt,

no man of of means, of of resources,

of emotional

maturity

is going to get him the program of

a woman,

period.

If he does,

I'm interested in how long that's gonna last

and who's gonna be running that relationship.

I think that it's not

I hear you about the resources

and the means,

but I don't think it's about that necessarily.

Because I think that any man

who understands

how Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala created him and

what he created him to do, which was

to lead

and protect and provide, but to lead

spiritually,

mentally, emotionally

to take care of his

family. Right?

Who is

aware of that.

I think it's the masculinity that makes him

know

it's the frame. I think that's what I

wanna say. It's the frame. That's the foundation.

Like, why why else are you going after

the means and the resources? Yeah.

Right? To be a protective provider. Right. Yeah.

Yeah. And and what I tell brothers in

terms of those that aren't married, those that

I that I do work with or just

friends that are in my circle that aren't

married.

Now it's all about provider development, period.

Mhmm. Only engage your time and attention to

things that

enhance your ability to be a protect and

a provide. Mhmm. You

should spend no time

pursuing a system,

period.

If you if you are really

about it and really focused on your faith,

your finances,

fitness

Mhmm.

Finesse.

Mhmm. You're really doing that. Women are gonna

gravitate to it. Yeah. 100%. Not rocket science.

Mhmm. 100%. You're going to come in contact

with women.

Right?

That's just gonna happen. Yeah. And then when

women are women gravitate

to a men to men that have great

programs that are going somewhere. Yeah. 100%.

Right. 100%. And so this thing isn't that

hard.

Right?

So,

again, the the foundation

is

we're we're

apologies. The giving is we're talking about men

that, you know, like, want to be providers

and protectors.

Right? That they understand that that's their role,

and they're going into relationships.

Before I got married, when I was,

excuse me,

when I was, you know,

speaking with my wife, I asked her multiple

times.

I plan to lead. Are you looking to

run this in any kind of way? And

I was I asked that question

with the understanding

that I was completely ready to walk away

from it if her answer was yes.

I have no I had no intention

of marrying a woman that wanted to run

a relationship.

Period.

I want someone who's open and and wants

to be a co a copilot, period.

You mean you were looking for a submissive

woman, brother Nasir?

With a capital s.

Oh, okay.

Oh.

Yeah. This is a trigger word, by the

way, nowadays. This is this is a triggering

word. Okay? So we may need to give

some context here.

That that's exactly what I was looking for

because I knew what I was doing to

the table. I knew that and that if

you ask my wife, she will ask. One

of the things that that she'll say

is the reason why she married me is

I had a plan, and I demonstrated how

I was working my plan. Mhmm.

She knew what I what I had been

working on, where I plan to take us

in terms of this this marriage for the

next 5, 15 years. She could clearly see

it and see the things that I've been

doing prior to meeting her

that leads to that happening.

Mhmm. That that light blew her mind. Mhmm.

Right? Yeah. And so I knew what I

was looking for. I knew the type of

player, the type of person I needed on

the team.

I wasn't willing to settle for anything

other than

that. And, you know,

my wife has a degree and is educated,

but that wasn't my interest at all. Mhmm.

Yeah. Less about that. I'm more concerned about,

you know, realness,

how she's gonna be as a mother.

Right? How is she going to support me

as I take this family in a certain

direction?

Mhmm.

Right? That's that's what I'm looking for, and

that's what I think the men that I

hear from, that's what they're

compliment,

not complicate.

No man it's like the post,

one of my UK brothers, told me, he

says no man in history has ever been

turned on and attracted and aroused by,

academic qualifications.

Just just isn't what we're looking for.

Right? And this hurts sisters. This hurts women.

This it's it's it's it hurts.

Because of this unhelpful belief.

Society has reinforced the unhelpful belief that they

pursue academic

accomplishments

Mhmm. Steadily

to qualify for,

a man or to be

held in higher esteem.

That doesn't that doesn't do it for us.

I think the the societal messaging,

if I may be so bold as to

tweak that,

societal messaging is that

pursuing academic goals

and professional goals is superior

to qualifying

for a man. And I have to say

qualify because even the idea of qualifying for

a man is anathema.

What do you mean qualify? What's a man?

What's great about a man? I have to

qualify for him. What do you mean? Can't

you see me?

You know, it's it's that kind of energy.

Right? I'm the queen.

Yeah.

Hence hence men saying,

and you'll hear it often,

men will take a 6 or a 7

with a great personality, and that's agreeable

any day over a 9 or a 10

with that type of attitude.

Hence, the barista or the waitress

in the halal shop has just enough of

a chance as the PhD from Harvard.