Naima B. Robert – Gentleness Episode 04 A Sister’s Ramadan

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The speakers emphasize the importance of seeking forgiveness and finding oneself to be forgiven, as it is a part of one's daily life. They emphasize the benefits of forgiveness, including being rewarded for doing good and avoiding failure, and emphasize the importance of finding oneself to be forgiven. They also invite others to forgive themselves and to let go of their actions.

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			Welcome back to A Sister's Ramadan. It's your
		
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			sister, Naeema B. Robert, and I'm honored that
		
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			you've joined me today.
		
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			This show is all about answering one central
		
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			question,
		
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			how can we as Muslim women use this
		
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			Ramadan
		
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			to grow, and to heal, and to renew
		
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			and replenish our iman?
		
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			The purpose of this show is to share
		
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			5 skills that are essential
		
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			for personal growth and healing,
		
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			and how we can use the rituals of
		
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			Ramadan
		
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			to get us to our goal. Insha'Allah,
		
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			this show will offer you a perspective that
		
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			will be beneficial
		
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			long after this month has passed.
		
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			In today's show, we will be looking at
		
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			the power of Istighfar
		
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			and the importance of letting go.
		
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			I do not need to tell every single
		
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			one of you that the reality of this
		
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			life is that it's a journey.
		
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			No matter where we find ourselves,
		
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			we know that we are always progressing onto
		
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			a new stage.
		
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			And every one of us is always
		
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			in one of 3 states.
		
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			We have either been tested,
		
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			we are currently being tested,
		
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			or we are going to be tested.
		
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			No one can escape this no matter how
		
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			wealthy they are, no matter how happy they
		
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			are in the moment.
		
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			This is the reality for every one of
		
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			Allah's creation.
		
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			Abu Hurayrah radiAllahu anhu
		
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			reported that Allah's Messenger sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
		
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			said,
		
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			the world is a prison for a believer
		
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			and a paradise
		
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			for a non believer. SubhanAllah.
		
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			Allah SubhanAllah says,
		
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			do the people think that they will be
		
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			left alone because they say, we believe
		
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			and they will not be tested?
		
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			And we indeed tested those who were before
		
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			them.
		
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			And Allah will certainly make it known the
		
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			truth of those who are true,
		
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			and will certainly make it known the falsehood
		
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			of those who are liars. SubhanAllah,
		
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			La Deen.
		
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			Now,
		
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			if we know the reality of this life
		
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			is that we will be tested,
		
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			And even when we have grasped Iman,
		
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			even when we are practicing this deen, that
		
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			we will go through tests and trials,
		
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			Know this,
		
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			Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala created us
		
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			humans
		
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			weak,
		
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			with the ability to triumph
		
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			and the ability to fail.
		
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			And so,
		
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			if this is the case, then I want
		
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			every one of us to realize that
		
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			failing a test is not the end of
		
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			your story.
		
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			We will not pass every test.
		
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			We will not be able to tick every
		
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			single deed.
		
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			That's simply a part of how we are
		
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			made. We are not angels.
		
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			The angels do Allah's bidding. They have no
		
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			free will, they do Allah's bidding, that is
		
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			their nature.
		
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			As human beings, as you know, we have
		
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			the ability to choose.
		
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			We have
		
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			the gift of discernment which means that
		
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			we can choose to do good or we
		
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			can choose to do the wrong thing.
		
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			But why I'm bringing all of this to
		
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			your attention is that you,
		
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			yourself,
		
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			may feel like you failed certain tests.
		
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			Maybe you haven't held yourself to the standard
		
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			that you always thought you would. Maybe you
		
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			have fallen.
		
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			But my dear sister, my reminder to you
		
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			is this,
		
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			the goal
		
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			is to keep returning to Allah
		
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			no matter how many times we fall.
		
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			And that's why,
		
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			the aspect of our Ramadan
		
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			that I would like to share with you
		
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			in this episode,
		
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			is that of Istighfar,
		
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			seeking Allah Subhana Wa Ta'la's forgiveness.
		
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			I'm sure we are all aware of the
		
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			benefits of Istighfar, but I wanted to remind
		
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			us again because it so happens in our
		
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			day to day lives that things happen so
		
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			fast, we get used to things, we may
		
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			get, get into the habit of doing certain
		
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			things to the point where we don't even
		
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			feel that we need to make Istighfar anymore.
		
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			So I want to remind us all of
		
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			the benefits of seeking Allah's forgiveness regularly.
		
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			Well, the first is that it's obeying one
		
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			of Allah's commands. Allah commands us to seek
		
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			his forgiveness.
		
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			Another benefit which of course is one of
		
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			the most important benefits certainly for our akhirah,
		
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			is that when we seek Allah's forgiveness,
		
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			he forgives us. He is Ar Rahman,
		
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			Ar Raheem, and as long as we are
		
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			sincere
		
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			in our seeking of forgiveness and we do
		
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			what we need to do to make up
		
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			for that, Allah's forgiveness is something that we
		
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			can look forward to and count on.
		
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			Another beautiful
		
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			gem from the Istighfar is that Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala promises abundance and mercy
		
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			to those who ask for forgiveness.
		
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			And of course,
		
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			asking for forgiveness and being forgiven is our
		
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			entry ticket into paradise, insha'Allah.
		
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			And so, my question to you is this,
		
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			if you look at your day to day
		
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			life, if you look at your life over
		
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			the past 3 months, 6 months, even a
		
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			year,
		
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			is there anything that you need to ask
		
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			Allah's forgiveness for?
		
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			What would it mean for Allah to wipe
		
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			that deed off your record?
		
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			For you not to be held to account
		
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			for that deed.
		
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			It could be something small, it could be
		
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			something major.
		
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			Whatever it is,
		
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			the first thing I ask you to do
		
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			is acknowledge
		
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			that this is something that
		
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			needs to be forgiven. That Allah's
		
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			forgiveness on this affair, whatever it is, is
		
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			something that you want.
		
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			And then take the steps necessary
		
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			to humble yourself
		
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			and ask for Allah's forgiveness.
		
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			SubhanAllah.
		
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			We live in a world
		
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			where our desires
		
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			run the show,
		
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			and we are constantly being encouraged
		
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			to fulfill our desires, to make ourselves happy
		
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			by any means necessary.
		
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			And what happens is that we become numb.
		
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			We become
		
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			desensitized
		
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			to our sins. I'm going to call it
		
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			out.
		
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			We become used to sinning, we become desensitized
		
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			and we no longer feel
		
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			that shame or that embarrassment that we felt,
		
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			maybe at the beginning.
		
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			And so,
		
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			if this resonates with you,
		
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			you're not alone.
		
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			But my reminder to you and my plea
		
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			to you
		
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			is, dig deep,
		
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			find the humility
		
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			that is within you,
		
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			as a slave of Allah,
		
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			Someone who needs Allah's forgiveness,
		
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			who cannot survive without Allah's forgiveness, and does
		
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			not want to reach the end of her
		
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			life without Allah's forgiveness. Find her,
		
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			and then make istighfar
		
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			from a place of sincerity and humility,
		
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			and true need and recognition of Allah's power,
		
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			and use this Ramadan
		
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			to get those sins cleared off.
		
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			Now in terms of a personal skill,
		
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			this is a superpower
		
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			that you may not be aware
		
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			of, and it is simply the power of
		
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			letting go.
		
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			What do I mean by letting go? Well,
		
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			I spoke about Istighfar and about asking for
		
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			Allah's forgiveness.
		
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			And I want you to do that.
		
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			But another thing that I'm going to invite
		
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			you to do which is
		
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			almost as important for you,
		
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			is for you to forgive yourself.
		
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			Many people
		
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			will make istighfar
		
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			and will continue to hold onto the guilt
		
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			and the shame from whatever it is that
		
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			they did. So it starts to affect the
		
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			way that they move in the world, even
		
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			though they've made istighfar.
		
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			Now letting go of that baggage of shame
		
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			and blame allows you to show up for
		
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			yourself and all your relationships.
		
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			And
		
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			not only do I want you to learn
		
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			how to let go of those things that
		
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			you did once you've made your istighfar to
		
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			move beyond it,
		
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			I would like to invite you also to
		
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			let go of other people's wrongdoings.
		
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			Now I know what some of you are
		
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			thinking,
		
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			that person does not deserve my forgiveness, they
		
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			have not asked for my forgiveness, I am
		
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			not going to forgive that person.
		
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			And my reminder to you is that
		
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			the person who suffers when you hold on
		
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			to the resentment and the anger and the
		
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			frustration
		
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			or the pain
		
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			is you.
		
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			And letting go,
		
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			forgiving that person for the sake of Allah
		
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			frees you.
		
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			And we want to return to Allah
		
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			and we expect his mercy.
		
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			So I invite every one of you, even
		
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			if it sounds like a selfish purpose,
		
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			let go for the sake of Allah and
		
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			let go for your own sake.
		
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			JazaakAllah Khayran for joining me for this episode.
		
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			If you benefited from anything that I shared
		
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			then Alhamdulillah, Allah kullihal.
		
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			Please do
		
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			send us your comments, let us know what
		
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			you thought and what benefit you took from
		
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			this, and be sure to use hashtag Sisters
		
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			Ramadan, and don't forget to tag Iman channel
		
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			and myself, Naeema B. Robert.
		
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			SubhanakAllahumaraba
		
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			no bihamdik, ashhaduallallahuilahaillahaillahaandwasstaghfruka
		
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			wana2builake.
		
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			And don't forget to join me on the
		
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			next episode when we will be discussing the
		
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			importance of tadabbur
		
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			and the power of choosing your own emotional
		
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			home.