Naima B. Robert – An Obscene Amount of Children
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The success of marriage is a factor, and money is important. Multiple children are important, and the success of marriage is also discussed. The success of marriage is also highlighted, along with the need for people to not kill their children and the importance of starting thinking about rewarding behavior. The success of marriage is also discussed, along with strategies for spreading a 10 kid program and reducing the number of children. The success of marriage is also highlighted, along with the importance of delaying rewarded activities and focusing on retirement retirement.
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Have as many kids as you possibly can.
Manufacture them like a factory.
Because
no. Because
the true happiness comes when you see the
fruits of your labor.
Okay. Think about it. If you have 1
child in the marriage or 2 children,
that's an accomplishment in of itself, and you've
done very well. But no one can tell
me that's better than having 10 and having
a whole.
You know? Dead children.
I'm not laughing. I'm laughing. Listen. Listen. Listen.
Listen. No one can challenge me on this
one. Not a single person can challenge me
on this one. If you have 10 children,
now
you're 60, 70 years old, and you look
down at Eid,
and it's literally an ummah
of 10 mans with their husband and wife,
and their 10 children each, 100 people,
you cannot tell me there is satisfaction that
you did something.
I don't care what you say. And that's
something everyone can achieve, rich or poor. That
is your contribution to the. At the very
least, you fulfilled what the messenger of Allah
subhanahu wa sallam has asked for, which is
the the largest of Ummah.
They can compete with the other Ummah
at the very least. No one could tell
me that. And at the and you can
say, even as a backup, imagine doesn't go
as to plan. At least 1 or 2
of the kids might care for you. Out
of the 10. Out of the 10. Out
of the 10. It's okay. Hey. What's that?
20%
twenty percent ratio. It's a 20% success rate.
Maybe you can grant us the very best.
You've literally distributed
your your care when you're old and you
can't move to 10 separate people. They don't
have to be there all the time. That's
true. Some could just do something. You've you've
lightened the load Yes. Off of them for
your
effort. I'm telling you I'm telling you, if
you invest
in your children,
that is the greatest investment
for a marriage. That is the best thing
you can do for marriage. Forget the money.
Money is great. Money is important. Money is
very important.
But I don't think it's more important than
children.
Hence why
Allah
said, Don't kill your children out of fear
of poverty. We'll provide for you and them.
And another another another aya, we provide for
them and you.
So
Allah is clearly saying to you,
money is not a fact when it comes
to children. If you bring it as a
factor,
your your your you're not you're missing the
point.
Allah will provide for you. Allah will bring
it forward for you. Just do your bit.
Marriage,
children,
have an obscene amount of children up until
Wow. And up until literally,
medically, you can't even do it anymore. Can
no more. And and then and then you
say, I've
done my bit. I've done some do the
negative honeymoon thing, and you can you can
relax with your husband and go holidays when
you're in your fifties and sixties and whatnot.
But before that, you have a job to
do. I know it's I know it's people
don't wanna hear that, and then there's 2
or 3 kids, but no.
No.
No.
I mean, come on. It's it's never it's
never been that way. I mean
I mean, your grandparents, how many kids did
they have? I'm sure they had, like, ups
more than 5. Everyone has grand grandparents, great
grandparents. My grandmother was one of well, was
one of
12.
Yeah.
Yeah. No. I I I hear what you're
saying. Obviously,
I'm just, I'm I'm,
yeah, it's not it's not really See, the
thing is not really worthy of the gram.
You know? It's not it's it's it's not
but it's not a flex. You know what
I mean? Listen. Everyone's always talking about talking
about let's stick to the way of the.
Oh, you pulled the card. Oh, done. 1
up
until that moment. It won't set a fee
up until it comes to number of kids.
No. B set a fee, even number of
children you have. How many kids they have?
A whole leap. As many as possible. Okay.
So okay. So how about this? How about
this?
Polygyny,
polygamy. Mhmm. Mhmm. 1 wife, 2 wives, 3
wives, 4 wives.
Spread the 10 kids amongst them. You know?
So each one's got, like, maybe 3 each,
and then now we've got, like, 12. Is
is that also an efficient strategy or no?
If if someone if someone, is interested in
polygamy and they can handle that and when
I say handle, I don't mean just financially,
even emotionally and whatnot.
Then I think a good strategy will be
maybe to have 8 to 10 each.
That's your.
That's your work done. No. No. No reason
I say that is because, like I said,
it's not again, if you'd said spread it
out,
then then that's that's looking at it as
what he
wants. How about what she wants?
I'm not saying what she wants. I don't
mean what she wants now because that if
I sit a woman if I sit a
woman, you're going to carry a child for
9 months. You're gonna go through labor.
You're gonna have you're gonna suckle that child
for up to 2 years. Change nappy. And
you're gonna do that 9 times.
I'm I'm sure no one will say, yeah.
Sign me up. Let's let's let's do this.
No. No. It's not it's not that kind
of thing. But that's the thing. That's not
how Muslims think. We don't think, oh, because
it's difficult, we don't do it.
We need to start thinking of because it's
difficult. Maybe there's a maybe there's a reason
why it's difficult. Maybe there's a great reward
in doing that. It's often that the things
that reward you the most are that which
is not difficult.
So I'm telling you, I cannot imagine, and
no one could I No one could tell
me if Omar had saber
9 times with 9 kids, that after they
have now grown up and they love her
and they respect her and they give her
all that she needs, she's gonna ever regret
that.
Never ever ever That's true. No one trying
to be that one. No. No. No. That's
true. I agree with you. I agree with
you. I would probably We come to Islam.
Islam is about delayed gratification.
You delay the gratification, the reward later on.
I mean, where's Jannah?
Jannah is about delayed gratification. We work in
our whole lives
for a reward. Not only have we haven't
even seen,
no one's seen it before. But we know
it's there. We know it's coming, which is
the way you have suffered. Same thing with
children. You struggle.
It's difficult. You gotta pay for them, education,
all that kind of stuff.
But, eventually,
it will pay off.
Yeah. And no and no one no one
will challenge me that one. No. No. No.
I I think, definitely, if you press anybody
and you look at it with that long
term view,
for sure. Like, there is there is
there is nothing else at the end of
everything, you
know? All the the work, the career, the
degrees, the social media, the friends, and all
of that.
In the end, when you're 60, 70, 80,
it's really your family that brings you joy,
isn't it? Your family seeing your children grow
up, seeing them pair up, seeing them have
their own children. That is where the joy
is. That is the retirement. People want to
want their retirement and this fund and that
fund and this company are gonna give them
retire. No. No. No.
Your retirement is your children.
If if people don't recognize that your retirement
is your children, they've missed the point. Anyone
who thinks that their retirement is their retirement
fund, not their children, they have lost the
plot. They have missed the message, and they're
gonna find out at some point.