Nahela Morales – New Muslims Maintaining Family Ties

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shadow another Hamad Rasulillah Salam alaykum Warahmatullahi

Wabarakatuh, my beloved brothers and sisters in Islam

and in humanity. Today I was asked to do a video on maintaining

family ties. This is something very important, especially upon

embracing Islam. And so it's gonna be brief, short and sweet. Based

on my experience, I think, when we talk from the heart is very

important, and it's relatable. Inshallah, so I want to leave you

with the three C's inshallah. So we know that Allah subhanaw taala,

he commands for us to not break family ties, and the holidays

around the corner, specifically Christmas, the time where we are

with family where we gather where we eat, where we perhaps see each

other once a year. And so this is the one opportunity that you have

to embrace your family, and have a good time. But obviously, for us

Muslims, we don't celebrate this gathering.

And so we need to make sure that we use the wisdom in Arabic is

hikma, we use wisdom when encountering with our families.

And what I mean by that is, if you know there's going to be things

that are not permissible for you, perhaps you want to schedule some

one on one time with some family members, especially if you're

traveling to make the time worth worth it, right. And so when I

talk about the three C's, I talk about our Islam, when you are

going to meet your family, this is perhaps the only Islam they will

see. So your character, your demeanor, your manners are so

important. And therefore, the first C is conviction, you need to

go with full conviction and

make making sure that your intention is a family to maintain

these ties,

to make sure that they they understand that you have not left

the family have not betrayed them, that you have just become someone

better, right. And they will see that through your manners, through

the way you carry yourself during the time you are with them. Number

two,

confidence. So conviction and confidence kind of goes hand in

hand because conviction, you are certain of what your new identity

your new faith is. Confidence is the way you're going to be

carrying yourself when you are with your family during these

holiday seasons.

And so making sure that you are confident and perhaps you you know

already, you know, a little bit about Islam, if not, you want to

prepare yourself prior. That way, if you encounter any questions,

you're able to answer them with confidence. And obviously,

anything that you do not no you, you emphasize that. So my faith

teaches me that I do not speak unless I have

unless I have proof. And so that's something that personally my

family appreciated that they knew that whatever I was going to tell

them was based on scripture or teachings of the Prophet. And it

was I was going to research it basically if I didn't have that

answer. And last but not least consistency, right to be

consistent means that even though you will only see each other

around this time of year or once a year, in some cases, that you are

consistent with your family that you build a relationship and what

does that mean? That means picking up the phone, I know nowadays is

all about texting. So you want to pick up the phone and just say

hello, I love you. I was thinking of you. That goes a long way

especially today that we are in a pandemic where many of us are

still very blessed to be at home.

And so you want to be consistent in building that trust and that

relationship if anything was broken along the way after your

conversion. And

the last thing I really want to say is that you know to hold

onto your Islam means that you hold on to your family as well.

The only time that we do not listen to perhaps our parents is

if they take us out of the fold of Islam, or they ask us to do

something impermissible. Other than that you want to emphasize

how important family is in Islam, especially your mother, how

important she is and your father. And so again, the three C's are

conviction, confidence, and consistency. I hope this was of

benefit to all of you. And Insha Allah, may Allah make your journey

easy, and may your family be guided to our wonderful faith?

Until next time, my name is Anna Halal mirallas A Salam alaykum

Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh