Nadim Bashir – The First And Most Dangerous Sin
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The history of Islam has caused people to become jealous and evil, with the first sin committed by Allah being arrogance. It is important to be mindful of others and learn how to be thankful towards others. The root cause of hasads is the parent's desire to push themselves and push themselves, which can lead to negative emotions and negative thoughts, which can cause discrimination and harm. The importance of learning to be thankful and respecting boundaries is emphasized.AI: Transcript ©
Salallahu alayhi wasalam.
I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala that just
as he has gathered us here today on
this day of Jum'ah. May Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala gather us along with our families. And
in the companionship of Rasulullah
alaihi wa sallam and
his brothers and sisters, when we live in
a community,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to ensure
that there is peace and love within the
community,
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala has given us certain
guidelines.
But it is the nature of the human
being.
No matter how many guidelines come from Allah
it is the nature of the human being.
That when we are surrounded by others,
we're gonna be surrounded not only by others,
but we're gonna know a lot about what
goes on in the life of others.
We're gonna see, at times, the success or
the failure of people around us.
One thing that destroys us,
one thing that can destroy our community,
and can destroy
our families,
can destroy our happiness,
can destroy the peace in our life,
was the very first sin that was committed.
Especially,
in the case of Adam and
Ibelis.
When Allah told
Ibelis, and he told all the malaika,
in fact, that makes sajdah
to Adam
alaihis salam.
Ibelis was the only one who said, I
will not make sajdah. He defied the orders
of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
I don't wanna talk about the story of
Adam and Ibelis,
but I wanna talk about what caused Ibelis
to be in this situation.
What was that sin that he committed?
It was arrogance, no doubt,
but why was it arrogance? The arrogance was
a byproduct
of something else.
Which happens to also be
the root cause of the very first sin
that was committed on the face of this
earth.
And that sin, and that sickness,
and that disease of the heart that I'm
referring to, is hasad,
or envy.
Brothers and sisters,
Rasulullah
he
has told us in a hadith.
In order to ensure our happiness,
he says,
Things that can easily happen within us.
Rasulullah
is warning us from now, from that time,
he's warning us that make sure you don't
fall into these sins.
Do not harbor any grudge towards each other.
Do not be jealous of one another.
Do not cause enmity or do not create
enemies amongst yourselves.
And do not show your backs to to
each other. Especially in the times of distress,
and in the time when a person needs
our aid, and our assistance.
That is not a time that we turn
our backs to each other. And then he
says,
That be brothers towards one another.
The reason why, again in this hadith, rasulullah
sallam is talking about hasad.
Because hasad has that ability
to create that hatred
within ourselves.
Hasad, brothers and sisters. And that jealousy
is what caused shaitan to be dismissed
from the mercy of Allah
When a person has hasad, they will be
deprived from the rahmah of Allah
Hasad is what caused
Kabil to kill Habil. This was the very
first crime on the face of this earth.
But Hasad was the
issue
behind the whole story, and this is why
Qabil Khil Habil.
Hasad is what caused the brothers of Yusuf
alaihis salam to throw their young brother
in a situation where they have no heart,
no feelings, no empathy, no sympathy
for their young brother, Yusuf alaihis salam. But
Hasad led them to throw Yusuf alaihis salam
into a well, and show him no mercy.
Hasid is what caused
the yahoo at the time of the prophet
and the Quraysh to reject the message of
the prophet
Hassad is what caused Abdullah bin Ubay
to dissent, and to cause dissent within the
Muslim community.
It caused him that every moment that he
would find to try to break up the
Muslim community,
Hassad would lead him to try to find
any situation
to break up the Muslim community.
Brothers and sisters, Hasad is that one thing
that as I said earlier, it will break
a person apart.
It is considered as another hadith of the
prophet
It is considered as the diseases
of the nation. As the prophet
says, the illness of those nations before you
was two things. It was jealousy towards each
other, and it was enmity and hatred towards
each other.
Not only that, but think about this.
No matter how much Quran you and I
will recite,
the All the
the salah that you and I will perform.
Whether it's the or the or the witter.
The All the fasting that we do, All
the dhikr that we do. There is one
thing that the prophet
says, that will destroy
all the khair, all the good that we
do. And that is
When a person is jealous towards each other,
and then they act upon that jealousy. See,
one thing needs to be very clear.
There are things that are part of the
human emotion,
the human nature.
That is not what is wrong. But when
we act upon that
For example,
a person can become angry.
Yes, anger is part of who we are
as human beings.
But most people, they act upon that anger,
and they cross the limits.
Yes, we're human beings.
Yes, we want more and more. But when
we see other people and their success, and
yes jealousy
will come into our heart. But if we
act upon the jealousy,
and we become a victim of our own
jealousy,
and the jealousy
overpowers
us, it overcomes us, and it controls us,
this is where the problem is. The jealousy
in itself is not the issue, but often
when a person does become jealous,
they are crossing the limits of Allah Subhanahu
wa ta'ala. Rasulullah as I said, that there's
one thing that eats up all the good
deeds, brothers and sisters. This is a point
of concern for all of us.
No matter how much good we're doing, but
on the back end, if we're doing things,
and if I'm showing jealousy towards others, it
will wipe away all my good deeds.
Jealousy
destroys a person.
It destroys and eliminates
any happiness
that you may find in life. Why? Because
your focus is always someone else.
Wallahi, jealousy will take away any happiness in
your life. No matter how many blessings will
come from Allah, when a person is engaged
in jealousy, they will never find happiness.
Jealousy
will remove the peace of your mind. Why?
Because you're constantly thinking about someone else. And
when a person is constantly consumed,
be Because of someone else, or because of
someone else's success,
in this case,
it begins
to affect their family.
They do not wanna be around their family.
They don't find any happiness in their family.
And not only that, but because a person
becomes jealous,
and then they start to say things that
are, That are considered as wrong, that are
considered as sin, they start to say derogatory
things regarding Allah and Islam,
then in that situation that becomes ungratefulness.
So what happens is that a person, when
he falls into hasad, and he becomes a
victim of their hasad,
then not only are they losing their happiness,
they're losing their sleep over this, but at
the same time, because of their
ungratefulness, Allah begins to take away from them.
And so what happens is, a person sees
another person, and their success, and Allah begins
to take away from them, and it grows
in their hatred, and it grows even more
within them. That is why brothers and sisters,
if we are going through something like this,
yes we will always feel
that someone else has something more than us.
And this is the reality of life. There's
always gonna be someone who has more than
us. When it comes to wealth, there's gonna
be someone who has more than us. When
it comes to richness richness of this dunya,
there are gonna be people who have more
than us. When it comes to the akhira,
there gonna be people who have more than
us. When it comes to knowledge, there'll be
people who have more than us. This is
a reality of duniya.
But at the same time,
jealousy in that hasad that I'm referring to,
in this khutba is not that a person
says, I want the same thing. But it's
the fact that when a person says, I
want this person to be deprived from that
from that good, from that happiness
at all cost, whether I get it or
not. And not only that, but even if
they get the news that there is some
kind of difficulty in their life, then they
rejoice, and they are happy at that, at
that bad news. When they see that the
person who they're jealous about, there is some
kind of bad news in their family, or
bad news in their life, they rejoice internally.
This is a sign of hasad, and this
is the danger of that it eats you
inside.
You're left with no soul, no spirituality,
no happiness, and no peace in our life.
This is the dangers of hasad.
At the same time, the question is what
causes a person
to have towards others?
What are the leading factors? Of course there
are many things I can share with you,
but and just few things I wanna share
right now in with you in this khutba.
So we talked about the dangers of hasad,
and how hasal has affected people. But at
the same time, what are the causes? Number
1 is,
being unthankful to Allah
Whatever we have, wallahi, brothers and sisters.
If we just take a moment
and reflect
on what we have
There are people who have come to me
and told me about the challenges in their
life.
Right now, just recently,
because of the storms throughout this entire week,
there are many of us who probably experienced
our electricity being cut off.
You know, the electricity went out.
Some of us went through our went through
almost an entire day, and we went through
difficulty.
And yes, there will be some kind of
frustration.
You're living in the same sub division. Some
have, some don't have.
You're looking at others, others have, other You
don't have.
But in situation like that, what should a
person do?
Still, if you reflect on how much Allah
has given us,
wallahi, it is much more than what other
what millions and millions of people they have.
I've been to places on the face of
this earth, brother and sisters,
where I stayed there for 1 week and
they only had electricity for 1 hour in
the entire week. I've been to those kind
of places on the face of this earth.
And here we're complaining. Yes. There is some
frustration.
But in a situation like this, we always
remind ourselves
that there is so much more to be
thankful about to Allah
Are we going through what our brothers and
sisters in are going through?
Wallahi is even close to what our brothers
and sisters in are going through.
They have no idea whether their food is
coming or there's a bomb coming right upon
them.
We saw the pictures from rafah.
What do we have to complain about, brothers
and sisters?
Wallahi. The more we are thankful, the less
it is.
Living here in America,
we have nothing to come and complain about.
Am I saying that there are no challenges?
Yes. There are challenges.
But we
need to learn how to be thankful.
If we are thankful to Allah, Allah will
increase. But yet we think that the more
we complain,
the more we are we are, you know,
complaining about others, and their success, and what
we don't have and so forth, is gonna
perhaps bring some kind of remedy to our
life. It's not bringing any kind of solutions
to our life, but rather we are putting
ourselves in a situation that whatever good that
we have, whatever blessings we have, Allah will
take that away from us.
When we see others having blessings,
when we see others having things that we
don't have,
this causes jealousy.
In a situation like that, we need to
learn how to be thankful to Allah
You may look at a person who has
a huge mansion,
and you might be living in a 3
bedroom apartment.
But this is still better when you go
to people around the city. There are people
living on the streets, living in the tents,
don't know where their next meal is going
to come from, and yet I'm complaining because
I see another person living in a mansion.
I see another person who just bought a
brand new car. But I have a car,
and it's functional. It gets me from point
a to point b. But why not reflect
on those who don't even have a car?
There are so many 1,000.
Our Muslim brothers and sisters, who are struggling
financially,
and they don't even have a vehicle to
get them from point a to point b.
But yet here, we are showing our unfaithfulness,
and our And gratitude to Allah
Brothers and
sisters, one of the things that leads a
person
to be jealous about others is being unthankful
to Allah. Number 2. Arrogance.
Just like I shared in the case of
Adam and Iblis, Adam alaihis salam and Iblis.
That he had this arrogance.
What led him to defy the orders of
Allah
It was his arrogance.
And that arrogance was because of that envy
in that hasad that was in the heart
of shaitan.
That hasad is speaking out in the form
of takabbur.
When he says,
I am better than him.
This is arrogance, but that arrogance was a
byproduct of the hasad that he had in
his heart for Adam alaihis salam. When a
person is arrogant, because arrogance means what? As
the prophet
says, Is to suppress the truth
and feel that others are inferior to you.
The one The very first steps of
is, a person is arrogant towards others.
Number 3.
Not being content with the
of
Allah
If Allah has given someone else,
I need to learn that this is to
the Qadr of Allah
If I want the same thing
if I want the same thing, yes, I
should ask Allah
But when we show our hasad, and comes
out in many forms. Sometimes verbally, we'll express
that Sometimes physically, we will express that But
what we're doing is brothers and sisters,
we are showing
Allah
that we are not happy with the qadr
that he has created for us. And that's
a serious crime.
That is that is showing Allah subhanahu wa
ta'ala that Allah perhaps does not know what
he's doing. As a Muslim,
when I say that,
All the other, good or bad, it comes
from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
We need to learn how to be satisfied
with the decision and the qadr of Allah
Another
interesting thing Another thing that leads a person
towards hasad is
I said this very briefly before, but comparing
yourself to others. This happens often
within a community. And And I'll say this,
brothers and sisters, yes, we learn we've always
been taught, compare, compete. Compare, compete. When we
are growing up as kids, even now till
today, we're always teaching our kids to compare
your success to the success of others. Compete
with others. This is how we push ourselves.
This is how we were pushed when we
were kids, many of us here. And this
is how we are pushing our kids further
ahead.
But at the same time, when it becomes
that I'm comparing myself to others,
and it becomes and it's growing in me.
See, one is that you wanna compare yourself,
you wanna push yourself, you see someone who
is gaining, you know, some kind of success
in this dunya. You look at them and
you say, you know what? That is motivation
for me. I'm gonna push myself. That's not
hasad.
Hasad is when you compare yourself to others.
That why do I have this and why
do they have that? Why don't I have
this and why do they have that? When
we compare ourselves with others,
and especially in a situation like this dunya,
we should never compare ourselves to people who
have more than us, but rather we compare
ourselves to those who don't have anything.
And the last thing that causes hasad,
especially within families,
is when we discriminate amongst our children.
This creates
within the children, by the way.
What causes I've seen so many families
where siblings don't want to talk to each
other. Siblings don't want to look at each
other when they grow up. And you If
you look at the reason, the root reason
of why this has caused This What has
caused these children, or these adults now,
That they are acting with each other in
this way. They're siblings towards each other, but
they don't want to look at each other.
Why? Because there was some kind of hasad
that was built in their hearts when they
were kids. Why?
Because their parents were discriminating against the children.
The parents
were giving superiority to one over the other.
Now, let me make this very clear.
I'm not talking about all general cases. Yes.
Generally speaking,
we as parents, all parents should learn that
when we make rules for 1, we cannot
give, we cannot leave the other one, let
them do whatever they wanna do. This happens
often within our families. I've given many khutbas,
many lectures about this. That when we discriminate
against our children,
boys can come 3 o'clock in the morning.
Girls cannot go home, cannot leave the home
after Maghrib. This is this is wrong. You
understand?
And your kids are not Jibreel alayhislam. They're
not Imam Bukhari. Okay. They This idea that
my kids
are amazing.
Okay? I've heard this so many times, I
don't believe in it. I'm sorry to say.
Okay? Yes. You have given some kind of
terbiyah to your children,
and your children may be good, but is
always around them too. Keep that in mind.
Okay? So when people tell me that
okay?
Out. Okay. I'm not gonna listen to that,
honestly. Okay? You need to, as parents,
you need to learn how to be fair
amongst your children. Yes, there might be different
circumstances in a family. There might be some
families that have disabled children. Children who are
special needs. Children who are required. They need
a little more attention.
Physically, they might be, you know, not as
as where others are. Intellectually, they might not
be where others are. You might have to
give them a little more attention. But we're
generally speaking, we need to learn how to
create send Standard set rules for all of
our children. Otherwise, it will create discrimination, and
it will cause hasad.
The next thing is,
how do we generally invite hasad towards ourselves?
How do we generally invite hasad towards ourselves?
I'm just gonna share one thing.
This is a big problem and that's why
I'm gonna share one thing.
When we showcase
our blessings
of Allah on social media especially,
when Yaqub alaihis salam is telling Yusuf alaihis
salam, don't go and tell your brothers what
you saw in that dream, Because they will
know the meaning of that dream, and you're
putting yourselves in harm's way.
Yet everyone feels this need. I have had
people call me in my life. This is
going on. This is going on. This is
going on. This is going on. And I
asked them, what's their social media activity like?
I put everything on social media. That's your
problem.
When you showcase
your blessings
on social media,
you're not telling the world
about your kids' accomplishments,
and your accomplishments.
You're giving others the ability to be to
be a hasid, and to show hasid towards
you. And remember,
hasid does not stop at hasid. Hasid leads
to then evil eye. It leads to nafar.
From there, it leads to hatred. From there,
it leads to harming someone else. And from
there, in many cases,
it leads to black magic. There are a
lot of cases within our own Muslim community,
where people are performing black magic and
against others.
What is the root cause of all of
it? It is it is hasad. They are
hasad, and they feel like there's nothing I
can do to harm that person, but to
do shirk with Allah, and to do kufr
with Allah. And they are willing to cross
all those boundaries. Why? Because they cannot see
someone else happy. This is what hasad does
to a person.
Finally,
how can we treat hasad?
Number 1 is being thankful to Allah subhanahu
wa ta'ala.
Always focus on what we have, do not
focus on what we don't have. Number 2
is,
as talked about parents and family, we need
to learn how to be equally fair to
all of our children.
I'm not saying equally 5050%.
There There's gonna be a little here and
there. I understand.
But if there is some major changes
and major rule adjustments and we're being unfair,
trust me, you as a parent, you might
want your children to be united when they
grow up, but they will not be united
if you are doing this right now within
your family. These kids will grow up hating
each other and not wanna seeing each other.
And the last thing I will say is
there are some duas from
that we learn.
This is a du'a of Rasulullah
Also, we learn from the sunnah in the
seerah of the prophet to recite sot alfalaq
and sot al nas. Sot alfalaq talks about
external evils,
protection from external evils.
Talks about protection from internal evils.
So internal evils, external evils, these are things
that we must do every day. And not
only that, but we teach our children. See,
parents, a lot of times, they will recite
the dua and they will blow on their
children. No. You recite it, make your children
recite it separately.
These are the things that we can do
to protect our ourselves from hasad. I ask
Allah
to protect us from hasad. We ask Allah
to protect us from falling into hasad. And
may Allah subhanahu protect us and our families.
Straighten lines from the gaps. There's ample amount
of space inside the main hall. Please come
inside. Mhmm. Brothers in the back two
ample amount of space inside the main hall.
Please come inside.
Brothers in the back two rooms, please make
sure the rows are straight. Please come inside.
Sisters, please make sure the rows are straight.
Make sure there are no gaps in the
middle.
Brothers, please come inside.
And if you're standing in the back two
rooms, please
make sure that the rows are complete. Often,
the rows are incomplete.
There's multiple rows,
but we just move a little inshallah, we
can fill up the rows.
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